S2 EP23 | “Why are you not married yet?”
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- čas přidán 7. 05. 2022
- This episode Evz doesn’t holdback as he gets real with the guys and asks them why they are not married yet. You don’t want to miss out as you can also find out who out of the guys use to eat bread with chocolate spread and ketchup… yes that’s right ketchup !!!
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Timecodes
0:00 - intro
14:56 - going to Dubai to eat poo
26:22 - why are you not married yet?
I use to work with a very religious brother and he kept encouraging me to wear proper hijab and abayah and eventually I did. It didn't last but I was definitely influenced by his good manners and kindness. You can influence your wives to do better but I don't believe men listen as much as women, so I wouldn't recommend a woman marrying a non practicing muslim man.
Usually I hate podcasts and listening to people go on and on but surprisingly I liked this conversation. Honest, straight to the point and simple. Keep going please.
51:00 brother in the red cap is spot on. Love isn’t emotion that you have in bursts lol. Love is sacrifice, respect and loyalty towards eachother. Love is universal show the same love to family and friends but you show more love to those who show more to you and those who you are responsible for as a man.
57:00 brother respect to you we need more men like you, you have to have patience for your wife. You have to understand from the jump the woman is weaker the vessel so you have to be patient with her flaws otherwise the marriage won’t work
Another amazing episode!!
Another great episode guys keep it up brothers 💯
Great episode guys. Respect matters more than love. Agreed 👏🏽. I think that many people perceive love as what their partner does for them in actions, making it conditional love. If that person doesn’t do one thing they used to do, are you not going to love them anymore? As opposed to unconditionally loving someone for their character and their morals and values and who they are as a person. I believe that’s lasting because it’s rare for someone to change their core as a person. You only learn that after living with someone, so love after marriage 100%. Side note - the Cheryl Cole song was my first thought 🤣
Plenty of men out there beating on their wives will one million percent feel sure they "love" her and are in love with her. Respect is more important than love for sure for a healthy functioning relationship.
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Really enjoyed this episode guys keep it up 👏🏽👏🏽
Alhamdulillah I’m 24 and my mum use to do up the house, wrap presents and have the nasheeds playing🥰 we even had a count down calendar and everything! Best feeling ever☺️☺️
Banging episode 👏🏽
Loool saw the title and couldn’t relate more!
Wholesome brothers with good content and educational hard to say these days keep going.
Amazing episode 💯💯💯💯
Good episode. Subscribed!
When getting married the love needs to derive from the sake of Allah, someone who loves you for the sake of Allah will remember your rights as a slave and be hesitant in violating or at least try not to. As suppose to someone who solely loves you for being you.
I think West is trying to emphasise how important it is to tie your camel first when it comes to looking for a partner who pray their salah as a basis. It affects your imaan, your future kids and can be a gamble. I think you owe it to yourself to prioritise your salah first before getting married as it is more important anyways. Great episodeee 🤍
@@ilhanxm_8283 exactly. If you’re focusing on your Deen. Just get married it’s that simple. I think ppl are overcomplicating things. Whenever I’m thinking about money and all that..my mom always says Allah will ALWAYS provide. so it’s important to live life with that mindset.
I love ezzy’s side jokes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
38:00 just because most people have to ability to reproduce dosent mean they should. Some people simply don’t want that responsibility. Too many people are having kids just for the sake of it
okay you officially have south africa watching as i go through all your episodes one day, one week, one month at a time .....headmaster still moving like Jason Bourne
Great show. I just love how these men have come together to have a beneficial, wholesome conversation. I agree with the Arab brother that maybe you can’t close yourself off to something like muzmatch 😂 to be serious though, marriage is rizq and at the end of the day Allah will provide as He sees fit for you. Your friends might be getting married left right and centre, but Allah has the wisdom to know when it’s best for you to marry so we cannot despair. We just have to put trust in Him and work towards actions that will make finding a partner easy (even if that means joining muzmatch lol)
great episode
came here straight after watching you guys on the @after hours podcast
"Not Squid Game, Shit Game” - Evz 🤣🤣🤣
Another great episode.. love these thought-provoking conversations, feels very relatable. Keep up the great work guys 🤝🏾 Slowly catching up on the episodes (my watch later list is growing 😅)
Holland!
and I agree the Deen has to be the foundation of any marriage. If its not present it'll collapse
I know many successful men in their 40's and 50's who are in shape and very active so this idea of being too old to raise and play with kids later on in life is simply not true. You just need to look after yourself. Health, fitness & gym.
A 50 year old man will be in late 60s when his child is a teenager. You dont want a teenager during retirement age.
“How long did it last “ Izzy is dangerous 😂😂😂😂
Have anyone of you taken a Premarriage course?
When you got married how did you meet your spouse?
How long are you married? How old are your kids?
Did you recieve any support/counseling in your marriage from an Imam, an elder in family or community or from a professional Muslim marriage counselor?
How do you raise your kids to value Islam in a non Muslim country?
Do you homeschool, private school, or public school children?
How will you prepare your children for marriage living in a western country?
Let's say your daughter is a teen, what will you teach her about men and marriage?
If you have a teenage son, what will you teach him about marriage? Would you hold him to the same standard as the daughter?
For the one married 2x...what did you do to prepare for 2nd Marriage- what was done differently? Are their things you wish you knew? If yes, what are they?
Feel free to do a podcast on some of these questions. I think it will help the young audience.
These are some sensational questions thank you so much if you have other suggestions please dm us
@@dhibatoevz3534 ok
good to see the moderator back 👏🏽
We must follow Quran and sunnah
How often should someone pray to be considered worthy of marriage? What if someone prays only once a day? What if they struggle to pray all 5 prayers but commit to praying once a day with a bit more ease? I’ve been thinking about this for so long and still have yet to hear someone’s opinion. The question is for reverts and born Muslims
the goal is to keep striving, so let that prayer once a day push you to two a day, then three, then 4, then 5. Improving yourself is what the deen is all about. It's not about hearing someone's opinion, it's about asking for Allah to be pleased with you and your actions. small consistent actions is from the sunnah, but build on that to help you improve daily and be better than you were yesterday or last month. hope this makes sense. Everyone will have their own opinion, opinions come and change but it's striving for what will please Allah
you don't need anyone's opinions of who is worthy of marriage or not. Allah has not put that burden on anyone, He doesn't ask His slaves to be worthy of marriage. Be mindful of Allah and do everything to please him, small consistent actions. that is what is beloved to Allah.
Finally found a podcast i can relate to
108.56 💯
Ardruguss gotta take time out on this 1
men value respect and woman want love
35:30 Evz you’re part of problem pandering to women. The woman needs to marry young if she wants a family anything else is counter productive.
I loved the thought provoking topics yall discussing😭🫶🏾 I’m 23 and a girl and I wanted to shed light on the whole I don’t want kids aspect. Personally, it’s not that I don’t like kids. I love kids! I love kids so much and I view them as a class of individuals that go through so much and don’t have the tools to help themselves. I have so much compassion for them. Personally I just love them so much that I know I wouldn’t be a good mother. I am neurodivergent and the way I am navigating life and my relationships with my family/friends… I don’t want to be incompetent or traumatise/neglect them accidentally. I might think of fostering in the future. And my whole life I’ve been told “you’re young, that’s why you feel this way” I just no longer discuss this with people and I don’t think someone would want to be in a relationship with me as I don’t think they can handle the true extent of my neurodivergence and I don’t want to live a sanitised version of myself to make myself digestible to him. I know everything is calaf and things will happen if it’s written for me, but those are my current reasons I don’t want kids. I just wanted to shed a different perspective on that! 🫂
Ardruguss gotta take time out on this 1