Can Men & Women just be friends ? | EP37
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- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
- The boys ask the eternal question… can guys & girls and be friends?. This leads to a heated debate and breaks down into smaller topics like … what is a friend?. You do not want to miss out on this one
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“If you’re called a brother you’re dead” had me dying 😂😂💀
Guys the actual discussion starts at 14:49 😂you’re welcome
Thank you😂
It would be nice to ask this question to a female to see how would they answer, it will definitely surprise a lot of men 🙌🏽
Don't get me wrong but I always assumed once your married your husband/wife would be the only male/female friend you need. Like you wouldn't just leave your partner at home you would be chilling with them as often as you chill with your friends if not more. So what is the need to have a friend of the opposite gender if you have your partner?
Regarding single people, let's be real when you reach your mid-20s you're going to naturally be looking at every new acquaintance or "friend" you have as your potential wife or husband, even if it's unconsciously (IF you're attracted to them). Especially guys - no guy is talking to a woman for the sake of friendship.
Btw in this case I think you should keep friends you make at work separate from the conversation because unless you're meeting them outside of work are they a friend or just a colleague? Even people in your network that can link you to new jobs/work opportunities are still just people in your professional network, and aren't more than a bronze package friend, even if that.
All in all, it was a great episode but I think there just needed to be a clearer definition of what a friend is because I don't think it's the same for all 4 of you.
Love this breakdown and I think your right in regards to the workplace but I still wouldn’t refer to them as a friend just cordial
wallah I love these man I wish nothing but the best for all these brothers as a younger (16 years of age) I've learnt so much life lessons from these guys it feels like my older brother and cousins just talking to me and teaching me but on a mandem level
Don’t make a old man cry😢 thanks for lending us a ear my bro may allah bless you 💙💙💙💙💙
Tips : Next Time remove the water bottle label if they aint paying you . Promotion is not free 😂
To get a female’s perspective on certain topics, it might help if you post of socials the question prior to recording and they can send in voice notes or messages on their opinions.
Great convo once again 💪🏾
Another great episode guys, keep it up
Sorry I can't be out with female friends and have men join us and sit there comfortably! Would polite excuse myself. My friend could never suggest to take me on a link up, I would definitely have to reconsider our friendship, simples!!
Lol u boys have clearly not had female friends for time, this is like high school/uni when you behave that way with your mates. As you grow older the dynamics change, even between very close friends of the same gender and nobody has time to be in touch continuously as life gets busier. As people's lives change your boundaries and dynamics change too. I've got really good guy friends from school and uni days who I used to chill with on the daily and now Im friends with their wives and hang out with their kids, but as we're in different places now I only see them with their wives or in group settings etc. Long term platonic friendships exist, and easily, especially once you're older and you know what you want and what you like so you're not open to "catching feelings" or allowing that kinda ambiguous situation into your life.
The answer is YES. And its very easy.
There is no levels to friends. A friend is a friend and you should be willing to do anything for that person or demand the same standard from every person whether you can see them frequently or not. I have grown up with girls around me from knee high and never had any attraction to them at all but that we’ve grown up together and can talk on any level together. These people you call “sisters” are not related to you so they are also called friends. Even at this age, would Sharp not classify his women’s team members as friends who he sees on a regular basis???? People regardless of sex can have similar interests that dont require a dinner table or intimate settings and sexual conversations, i.e. football like us, and have normal convo. Do you think of touching up ur man bregin when watching football? I dont think so 😂
Someone get this nigga a cape 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@sugashaun Disagree there Shaun, I think what the mandem didn't get into is the boundaries set by our religion which doesn't condone male and female friendships or intermingling without a legitimate purpose . Also the "exception is never the rule", although YOU were able to maintain a cordial relationship with your female friends doesn't mean others can, as well as the fact that you will never know if your female friend has caught feelings or not.
SHAUNNNNNNNN
Sharp was Sharp on this one ❗️spoke factss
Married or single, the honest answer is no! The deen says so already! I was friends with a guy once whilst in a relationship and after the relationship ended that friend became my partner and now husband 🤭 rest assured haven’t had a male friend since ive married. Moral of the story… feelings will most likely always get involved.. so if it does and he/she is the one for you just make it halal and get married ❤
I agree sis , there’s no discussion for this question cuz it’s a simple no. People will try and make excuse like “I grew up with him/her” “there’s no feelings and we keep restrictions” etc At the end of the day it won’t be just a friendship cuz a friendship is someone u treat the the same way u treat your girls or mandem . The deen simply doesn’t even allow us so who are we to question it 😂
Maybe it’s just me but if it’s a man from the same country as me I don’t think we can be friends on a deeper level for sure. But any other man yes. Also if I’m with my girls and somehow mandem enter the place we at respectfully I’d spend an hour tops and then jump out of respect for my man.
Phone Beeps
Babe who's messaging you?
Oh, its just one of my friends
What does your friend want?
*She* just saying hello and how am i doing :)
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I saw ahmed last Friday,,, 😂😂😂 man cant be friend to a woman whats so ever,,,,,,,,
that intro was a complete stinker but good pod nevertheless 😂
NOT REALLY 👀🤣
I am dying😭😭 Next time use an another name then Ahmed, we need a rest 😅😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 to you and all the Ahmed's around the world we apologise 😅
Wow there's alot of insecure people around.
Personally as a female I do not think we can be friends at all. I know how males are and think ,majority of their intentions are never pure but dirty . The only male I can call a friend is a my husband if I’m being 100% honest . What do males bring to my life that a my husband won’t ? I have a sisterhood that is enough for me and a my family . The answer is simple there shouldn’t be any discussion.look at the deen before coming up with ur own opinions ur comfortable with.
Mind u is not only religious perspective they re talking abt this is general
@@fatimasuraj2404 yes understood but if we’re talking in general you still cannot be friends with opposite gender 😂 everything in our lives should be linked back to our deen weather it is right or wrong .
@@mastura_22 exactly i agree in general yh but in this context specifically is not abt religion only firstly is a general question for different people so the answer can't only be based on islam
@@fatimasuraj2404 yeah you’re right sister definitely.
they can never be friends because its haram
Who the F is Ahmed!!!
Men and Men cannot be friends because the female may end up catching feelings, and she might think there more than friends but actually they aren’t.
It’s literally scientifically proven that a man and a women can’t just be friends. I don’t see it.