Yes, I DO care too! That mic cover reappearing has ‘glitch in the matrix’ written all over it. But I remember when it vanished and I feel better with this closure.
Same. I have two favorite clothing items, actually three (one is my sons’s) that just went *poof*. Literally it’s a mystery and I’d cry with happiness if they popped up again from their black hole.
Also, congrats on the somewhat new self awareness to being neurodivergent and continuing to learn more about that part of yourself. You figured it out all on your own! 🎉 I myself am struggling with self-identifying as autistic without having "proof" - this is part of the reason that I am seeking a formal diagnosis as well. There's so many complex and complicated feelings that come with late life diagnosis - I actually counsel people to support them through this process. Just wanted to share you're not alone in those feelings! Sending lots of love. ❤
Elyse, i love how genuine you are. You remind me of a golden retriever with anxiety. That is a strange compliment but i think youre just so lovable and pure friend material.
I receive this compliment with so much pride. I’ve been called an anxious golden retriever before and it made my heart happy in an unexplainable way. Thank you for this!
I'm reading with my anxious Jack Russell staring at me.😉 I was having a conversation about my do with someone once and the conversation shifted to my friend saying, "You know, I do think there is something to that old adage that dogs resemble their owners..." I have to admit I felt slightly upset as we had just been discussing how nervous, anxious, and pesty my dog can be....
This is such a universal experience. It’s very affirming to see this happen to someone else, documented on video. I’m not the only one with a wandering trans-dimensional portal in my house!
GIRL! IT MATTERS! I’m 54. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year (yes, last year) and it was like, “My whole life finally makes sense!” It was SUCH a relief! I was vindicated! I’m not just an annoying freak! I’m neurodivergent and it’s WONDERFUL! I’ve been able to forgive myself for sooo much and to be much more gentle in my self talk. I’m so proud of you for getting tested.
Congrats! I've sometimes wondered if I'm on the spectrum -I do identify with being a Highly Sensitive Person -HSP which is similar - at any rate I can definitely relate to being neurodivergent in some respect -Now if only other people would accept me and not think I'm "annoying" or whatever!
@KLR2322 I told my psychologist about this fear. They told me that, statistically, patients who identify their neurodivergence are correct in their self-assessment.
For anyone wondering the test for adults who have went undx is called the RAADS-R test and I swear to god I had no idea 😭😭 It helped my life so much, diagnosed at 25
Aww this is awesome! ❤ My 12 yr old son’s results just came back with him being high functioning autistic among other things. Going through the process made me majorly start questioning how so many of my personality traits are right in alignment with autistic ones and I’m 42 yrs old! 😮
Well if you are as diagnosed as autistic as you think you will be, you will be my all time favorite person with autism ever. I love your content and the amazing person you are.
I'm on a waiting list to be diagnosed as autistic. They told me it'll be about a year before they can see me. I'm not sure if I'm specifically autistic but in my opinion, I'm definitely neurodivergent. I want a diagnosis because I'm constantly overwhelmed and I feel like I can't do all that everyone else can. I feel broken and I hope with a diagnosis people will understand me better and not just assume I'm lazy or crazy.
I was on the waitlist for 8 months, and then the process to be assessed is multiple months long, and multiple appointments. I’ve almost canceled every single one of them because so much time passes between them that I lose a little hope (and momentum.) but I can say with certainty that it’s worth the wait if you can get in and get on that list. I didn’t expect to matter so much but now nearing the end, I’m grateful I went through the long process!
I felt exactly the same way about getting diagnosed. My AuDHD diagnosis was completely life changing. My life makes so much more sense now, and my soul is more calm than it ever has been because I feel understood and validated. I was incredibly fortunate to be able to go through the diagnosis process, not everyone has that option. I will never take it for granted, and I'm happy you are able to have that experience too. ❤
My parents & pediatrician hid my Asperger's diagnosis (for my protection) until I was 25 and the laws/public attitudes changed. The diagnosis has been challenged by other medical professionals, b/c of old knowledge and Im still trying to get assessed as an adult. However, when my dr told me "You have Asperger's", I felt such relief. Realizing Im not just annoying or wrong, has allowed me to start figuring out who I am and love myself. I'm 15 years along and still learning about my brain, and while there is still so much trauma to work through, my default is now validation instead of gaslighting myself that I must just be acting up/misbehaving/weaponizing my needs for attention. For some people, self diagnosis isn't enough, and that is ok. That need speaks more to how we have been treated in our lives, instead of something inherently lacking in ourselves. 😂😊 Good for you for recognizing your need and pursuing the offical diagnosis 🎉
@@waitingandlearning it makes me so happy that you are figuring yourself out and loving yourself! Thanks for the support...and I am sending so much support back your way!
Labels are interesting things. On the one hand, we try not to label people, because it feels impersonal and judgemental. Yet labels can be very empowering as well. Having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder late in life (at 30 years old), I decided that I would embrace the label as a part of who I am.
Elyse, I got diagnosed with autism at 31. It’s simultaneously relieving while also being something I deeply grieve. I grieve the criticism and pain I brought upon myself for not being able to “do life” as well as everybody else. But a relief in the sense that I truly do just process things differently than other people. So I’m not too “bitchy” for preferring quiet, too selfish for preferring certain clothes or foods, too standoffish for wanting alone time. I was diagnosed in march and am still grieving and rejoicing. Enjoy the ride. ❤️
This is how i feel with my ADHD diagnosis. Grief and relief. I cried out of both. The first because life was so much harder for me, and it didn't have to be (I got diagnosed at 35). The second because at least now I have support and understanding and more coping strategies. ❤
I have never watched a Real Housewives...and now I don't NEED. TO. No notes. Mary is a stonecold B, and will sabotage your birthday party, S-A is wealthy BUT down-to-earth approachable, and Elyse is my soul sister that I want to bake a pie for.
Yes! I do another version of this: the kindle books that REALLY stole my heart I go and buy the paperback version of it secondhand. This way I can have it in my bookshelf but not spend double the money for one book 😊
Reasons I thought I might cry today did not include relating to your autism story so deeply. Thank you for sharing. Hearing that made me feel less alone, less annoying, and more normal ❤ I hope you are able to process, heal, and find grace for yourself with this diagnosis.
My husband was diagnosed with autism at 43 after our daughter was diagnosed and a light bulb went off for him. It was VERY good for him and has really helped him understand himself and why he is how he is in this world. I’m very happy for you to get this diagnosis. Sending love. ♥️
I had suspected that I was autistic since I was 16. I finally got a diagnosis in February of 2020 in my mid fifties. It’s worth all that you go through to get the diagnosis. I forgave myself for so many things. All the best to you with your diagnostic journey ❤️❤️❤️
I applaud you for getting an official assessment Elyse! 🎉 Everything you said about being diagnosed for autism, from how hard it is to actually get tested to just wanting the validation is EXACTLY what I’ve just gone through with my son. The results proved what I as a mother have always known about my 12 yr old for years but getting a professional official diagnosis was important. Now everyone we interact with, from family to teachers will know that this is something REAL that my sweet bright boy needs his community to acknowledge and that he can understand doesn’t solely define him but rather helps him (and everyone else) understand his own self. ❤
I totally see self-diagnosis as valid because of how hard it is to get into being assessed (and how difficult the assessment is!) And with that being said, I see so much of myself in my boys and I always want them to know that it mattered to me to go through the process of getting diagnosed because it helps me understand myself better and if they need to go through that process too one day, I’ll be able to tell them I did it. I never want them to feel like they don’t belong or that they’re are broken. So if I can do this for any possibility of them needing this in the future, I can encourage then with my own experience!
The "extra yarn" myth is like the old hot dog and bun issue, where they would sell you 8 hot dogs and 10 buns. PS every time you post an awesome crochet vlog, that particular Joann's runs out of those colors right after! I made my mom a pillow using the daisy square tutorial, and almost couldn't get the same colors because that's the store I shop at. Guess I'll have to start going to the one across town lol.
Omg I had no clue I affected the color options that much! I think the same thing happened with a jalapeño Mac n’ cheese I mentioned on my stories a while back. I couldn’t find it anywhere after I talked about it 😂😂
I care about the mic cover. The Joann trip made my heart happy. I think you just verbalized EVERYTHING I have felt about diagnosis. Thank you for being you.
Girl! I’m getting my autism diagnosis on Monday, aged 45 🙌 I can relate SO hard to how you’re feeling. For someone who loves logic so much I’m bemused by how emotional I’m finding the process. Thank you for being open. love your content 😊
My friend (30M tall, skinny, mustachioed mexican man) deeply loved working at Joann's. If they paid a living wage, he would have worked there the rest of his life.
@elyse_myers They don't pay any worse than any other major store like target, for example. But at least where we live in CA, you can't rent your own apartment on $20/hr. (5 years ago) I think he was making $14/hr, and I was making $12.50/hr at Target. "Store worker" is just no longer a livable, long-term career.
@@elyse_myersmy mother-in-law loved working there 20+ years ago. Even the crazy customers that are at every store weren’t that crazy there. I met her after she left there and still talks about it. It’s also still her favorite store to shop at.
I’m waiting to be assessed for autism myself and it was like you took the words out of my mouth. Getting a diagnosis as an adult can still be useful. It’s okay to get emotional about it and I do too. You’re doing great, even if it might not feel like it. Feel free to show all the projects you’re working on and talk about it, I’m quite interested and happy to hear your enthusiasm and thoughts.
Thank you, Elyse for including the bit about your diagnosis process. I have been going back and forth with wether or not I “need” it and you explaining how dismissed and invalidated you have been made to feel and how you have been made to feel “annoying” “particular” “a bad friend”, etc, made me have such an emotional reaction due to the similarities. Your videos bring such joy to me. Your journey and experiences are so valuable, unique, and important. Thank you for sharing ❤
Elyse, I paid privately for an Autism assessment last year and was diagnosed at 35. I felt very similar to you especially as a high masking person. I am AuDHD. It has been extremely validating for me and it.’s been helpful as a parent as well . My kid just got her adhd diagnosis this year.
just.... thank you so much for talking about getting assessed. I look forward to hearing more about it. I`m considering that too and... your videos and you talking about it, it just helps. thank you Elyse :)
Girl!!! I just want you to know!!! You make me so happy and you are the greatest human crafter on the planet!!! I appreciate all you do and how you work!!! Thank you for sharing your world and ABILITIES with us!!!
When you held the bear speaker close to you....I felt that in my soul. I don't like loud sounds most of the time but I LOVE feeling the sound. And I loved seeing the joy on your face when you held it close to you! 😊
Getting a diagnosis can be so important to just feel okay with yourself. The understanding and knowing you aren’t broken is incredibly important and valuable. That is one of the biggest reasons that I got a diagnosis. Plus it will help if you ever need accommodations. Also if any of your kids get assessed it can be helpful knowing you are too. Plus Joann is always the safe store for me too. 😊 💖
This! 🎉 When I got my son assessed it was the first time I was told that many of the diagnosis are inherited. I come from a family that just didn’t get psych health treatments in the past.
The diagnosis matters to childhood Elyse. Consider it a gift to child Elyse, the one who struggled to get here and now finally has answers. -someone diagnosed late teens
Omahaian here. If you ever want to get into quilting, embroidery, or just want to look at and feel fabric, The Country Sampler on 120th and Center is such a great place!
I am a late diagnosed autistic woman. Unfortunately even with an official dx many people will not believe you and all those bad broken feelings about yourself don't just disappear. You may even face increased discrimination and bullying for becoming official and coming out with your ASD. Be very careful who you share this with and prepare for grieving time after your dx. Still worth finding out for your own piece of mind. Good luck!
I very recently got a diagnosis of ADHD. I went in looking to get a diagnosis for my dyslexia and was hoping they would find autism because i was so sure i had it. When I was told I had ADHD (among other things) and not autism I was so surprised. it never crossed my mind that it could be ADHD that caused my crippling anxiety and low self esteem. I’m so glad I did it for so many reasons. It felt so nice to see how my brain worked on paper. It was very validating and worth the year long wait for my appointment.
Diagnosed ADHD at 51, and can share 2 things I've learned that help explain the low self-esteem. First, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, which makes us perceive criticism even when there is none, or amplify mild criticism in our minds. But secondly, they estimate that kids with ADHD have received 20 000 more negative comments by age 12, as compared to typically developing kids. I mean, that low self-esteem seems pretty logical then, doesn't it? (But hopefully not irreversible once you know and can work to counteract)
Future counselor here! Diagnosis is such a complex subject, and I appreciate your candor on what a diagnosis means for you. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32 years old, and having access to a new explanation for my struggles helped me set foot on the path to unwinding all the other reasons I had come up with or been told for why I was struggling. (E.g., laziness, poor work ethic, quits easily) Your reason for diagnosis rings so true for me too! Women in our society are cultured to look outward for cues about our identity, and this diagnosis sounds like it will help you starting developing some self-trust and comfort with turning inward to understand who you are. I’m so excited for your journey of unlearning and relearning and shedding and believing and confidence! Keep up the good work!!! 🎉
I am autistic and assess people. Glad you know. I hate "diagnosing" strangers in my mind but I have been like... "does she know?" Like every time I watch your content. I believe you
It's so true that the craft store is the safest place. You can find me at hobby lobby during their 30% off yarn weeks frolicking through the aisles and telling myself I don't actually need to take it home and add to my yarn stash.
I was over the moon when I saw a new video from you- coming off anxiety meds after about 5 years so having a rough couple days. Your videos have brought a lot of comfort so thank you so much! ❤❤
At her insistence, I recently had my 14 year old evaluated for what we thought was OCD but is actually Autism. It has changed everything in our family for the good and has dramatically improved my marriage with my husband who is Exactly like my daughter. Yes- it matters
I know lots of people who read on kindle and collect the pretty books anyways lol. Also the open dyslexic font option on kindle is a game changer for my audhd brain and reading!
Omg, when you panned to that microphone cover I said, 'there it is!', totally remembered you losing it. I feel you on wanting the official diagnosis. I'm pretty sure I should have been evaluated for both ADHD & Autism when I was younger. But instead I had to learn how to mask what others saw as bad habits/qualities/behaviors. I did horribly at school and I'm pretty sure that could have been rectified with an ADHD diagnosis. At least officially knowing you can confidently seek out things to help you.
After over ten years 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with POTS. I cried when I got my diagnosis just from feeling validated. The night before, I bawled because I just didn't want to feel crazy. Thank you so much for these videos I relate so much to you.❤ I always talked too much for literally everyone. Here I am doing it again 😅😅
Okay “And Then There Were None” was a little scary! I was reading it and then about halfway through I had to try with audible instead to see if it helped it be less scary for me and it might have been worse? 😂 I got into AC with Five Little Pigs and that was a lot more mild! And then this last one I found myself being a little spooked when I was alone! Hahaha Please give your best AC recommendations if you have favorites!!! I love the writing so much now that I’m in the brain space to consume her books!
I have read or listened too almost all AC’s books. Murder on the Orient Express is a classic. Murder of Roger Ackroyd is also great. A Murder is Announced is also a great one as well as death on the Nile. I also love her short stories- the Labors of Hercules, Murder in the Mews. I could go on lol.
I can definitely understand everything youre feeling about the diagnosing process, and I hope you know that the world is a better place because you are you. You help all of us be our most authentic selves, and I hope this process gives you any validation you might need. ❤️
7:09 spoke to my SOUL. The untangling of the yarn literally makes me want to quit altogether most of the time 🤣 it’s like the lost time in a project you just don’t account for ♥️😩
Especially when you really don’t have a whole lot of free time but want to get as much out of it as you can…and then you spend 80% of that free time untangling yarn hahaha it’s like NO PLEASE NO
I got diagnosed with autism (and ADHD, but that wasn't really a surprise) this year at 44 years old. It matters and it DOES change things!! It opens up this whole new world of understanding who you are and why you are and finding new ways to manage all the things. It's important. It's nothing to be embarrassed about, although I totally get it. Sending so much love. It matters. Keep going.
Thank you for showing all of the emotions that can come with seeking a later in life diagnosis. I received my autism/adhd diagnosis two years ago at the age of 40. Yes, its been validating, but it has been hard as well. There is trauma in a life lived without true understanding of why you are the way you are. Lots of positive energy to you.
Thank you so much for how you spoke about autism and persuing a diagnosis. It resonated hugely with me. Diagnosed just over a year ago age 30. Very validating xxx
Also so helpful to know if you have ASD to then also keep an eye out on your children. I know you get it. My husband was diagnosed after our daughter was. It’s been so freeing for him to understand himself.
I love listening to you. You are me 100%, just everything. You’re great. I just got an ADHD diagnosis and started meds but autism is probably closer..❤️🇨🇦
Ah, so proud of you for seeking out some clarity with diagnosis too! I hope you will find a really wonderful assessor. It can be a tough process, but can be validating and important.
My sister is autistic, and you say that realistically it doesn't matter, but it mattered an incredible amount to her. She grew up thinking she was crazy and alone but once she realized, everything changed. Now she understands why she does what she does, why she experiences the world so differently, and it allows her to give herself the grace and understanding she deserves.
The thing u said about getting a diagnosis from a professional as a sign of being finally validated in your life, i totally get that. I have been dealing with depression and anxiety and even though i am professionally diagnosed and on medication, there are still so many people everyday that try to picture me as a sad sassy and bitchy and nagging person for no reason, while there IS a reason for all these behaviors. So I guess what I try to say is that even though there will be steel people who do not validate you and your behavior as autistic it is still good and beneficial for yourself to get professionally diagnosed so that there are less times that you self invalidate yourself.❤
I'm starting the process of getting an AuDHD diagnosis. Yes, it matters, it seems like it shouldn't, but it does. It's crazy so many of us fell through the cracks.
@NZKiwi87 Exciting! Congratulations I hope everything goes well! I just turned 40, and have suspected for almost 4 years, but just started actively admiting it! I'm extremely rural, so it's an ordeal finding someone who evaluates adults.
Thanks for talking about this. I'm just now as a 40 year old looking into an ADHD diagnosis and I've been really unsure about whether to go for it or not as I wasn't sure if it would change anything at this point in my life at all. Hearing you talk about your process and reading the lovely comments here has been really reassuring that it can be really helpful, even just in understanding yourself better and maybe finding new strategies for things.
you’re not alone, everything you said about just being annoying and particular and not being wanted, and not being believed, you are so strong and so inspiring for all of us who feel exactly the same, we’re all cheering you on
My mom always carried her crochet projects with her. I have so many awesome childhood memories of her packing her tote bag full of whatever project she was working on and crocheting at the pool while she watched us swim, or sitting in so many doctors offices waiting rooms while she crocheted. She is one cool lady. ❤
The intro with the real housewives brought out the biggest bottom of the stomach laugh I've had in weeks. I'm a huge RHOA fan too. Thank you, this was the video we all needed. ❤ Wishing all the best for your adorable family 😊
I might be from the Midwest, but actually I'm from California but now I live in the Midwest because moved there after I fell in love with a man who was from the Midwest. Anyway.
Psychotherapist here, maybe it’s Inattentional blindness, which is the failure to see a stimulus, such as an object that is present in a visual field. It’s a little weird phenomenon that our brain does to us sometimes. Either that or one of your kids or your animal (i’m not sure if you have animals) found it and put it back out in the in the room from wherever it bounced to. So frustrating but really happy for you that you found it. That’s so satisfying. 🎉❤
Thank you for opening up about your ASD evaluation. I am forty six and am in the process of being evaluated and I can relate to your content so much. It took me this many years to understand that it is ok to be myself. ❤
I totally understand the disappearing pop filter. I am sometimes getting ready and about to put on an earring, it falls, and then I can't find it. It just disappears. It's wild
Elyse as so many here: i‘ve been watching your videos for a while because they provide me a whole different level of comfort and safety💗 as a fellow late diagnosed adhder who suspects autism and has suffered for a long time without having words or explanations for what is going on: i wanted to thank you from my very heart for opening up about your autism suspicion/ diagnostic process, every single world about how you feel with regards to autism could have come from the bottom of my Soul!! You put how i feel in words perfectly. It is just gold to feel validated this way, and i sincerely want to thank you for putting yourself out there and blessing us with such honest and comforting videos! I find this inspiring. Stay true to yourself, we really need more people like you💗❤️
Oh, wow, it is so crazy good, how someone can get into my head and say what I have been thinking about craft and book stores, how safe and comforting these places are, how reading and handicraft communities are prefect in accepting people and being so nice to everyone. Love it, thanks a ton for this video ❤
I absolutely understand the desire to be officially diagnosed. It may not change anything, but you'll have a name for what makes you who you are. Also, I totally care about the mic cover.
Elyse, I’ve been hyper fixating on sewing for coming up to A YEAR. It’s so fun and relaxing and the best of a million hobbies I’ve picked up! You should try sewing next!!
I'm self diagnosed and I completely understand how you feel. It took me years to realize it, years to accept it, then years to tell the people closest to me. I've only talked about it online because I'm afraid how my doctors would react to a self Dx but it took me nearly 20 years to get an RA Dx and I don't have the energy, money, or trust to go through that again. But at the same time there's so much stigma with a self Dx that I really do want an official one. It's something I battle a lot with so I feel your emotions when you're talking about it and also existing as a person with autism that didn't know for so many years. Thank you for your vulnerability. It helps to feel not so alone in this. 💙💜
Your thughts on getting evalueted really hit home for me (and other ASD people, heard this sentiment 1000 times) “why does this matter?” I had to wait months (waited almost 2 years actually) it costs so much time, effort and money, nobody saw a thing wrong with me, nobody thought I had issues. Getting the confirmation through my diagnosis gave me the most important tool to be kind with myself, gave me a short way to explain myself to my surroundings instead of explaining my issues alongside the caveat that my suspected diagnosis was just a self diagnosis. It made a million things a tiny percentage better which means it completely changed my life for the better.
I like real books, too. I love the lesbian bacon blanket!!!! edit:: 😮😮😮😮😮 that microphone cover, though. I thought stuff like that only happened to me😮😮😮😮😮
😭😭😭 it breaks my heart that you could ever think of yourself as annoying. Makes me think of that song... 🎼🎵 "How can anyone ever think that you're anything but beautiful? How can anyone ever think that you are less than whole? How can anyone fail to notice that your loving is a miracle? How deeply we're connected in our souls!" 🎶 You are completely perfect. A gigantic blessing. Sweet, loving, gorgeous, stunning, smart funny, kind. One of the best gifts that the Holiest of all the Holy Ones gave this planet! Thank you from my whole heart! ❤❤
I have never felt more validated and seen while listening to you explain the *visceral need* for a diagnosis that doesn’t but (really) does matter and make a huge difference. I cried watching you explain that because it’s what I’ve tried to put into words so many times! Thank you for sharing yourself authentically 💗💗
Elyse, you bring me so much joy. I love your authenticity, humor, quirks, stories, love, bravery. I could go on and on. I think that you’re an amazing example for all of us on how to be yourself. It’s very hard to see what is uniquely wonderful about ourselves. I know that I have trouble with that. I hope that you come to realize how incredible you truly are. ❤️ And about the mic cover, I had the exact same thing happen with my house key. It disappeared from my purse for two weeks. I dumped my purse out, looked through my car, had my daughter look through my purse and when I finally decided that I had to get a new key cut, there it was in the spot that I always keep it in in my purse. So crazy!
Ooooof... right there with you on the assessment. It's so much energy and effort to get it, so I keep putting it off, but I feel the same way - if a professional hasn't made it official, then am I just lying or making this up? It's frustrating to me that it's not enough for me to just know, even though I know it with all of my heart and soul, but yeah, I feel like if someone questions it, I'd be so stuck trying to defend myself and my own knowledge about myself, and being able to say a professional confirmed it makes that go away. Best of luck finishing the process and learning to believe yourself (with help)!
Your Real Housewives of Omaha was amazing 😆😆😆👍👍👍 And audiobooks!!! ☺️ ‘If I don’t get a diagnosis from a professional, I feel like I’m lying.’ ‘And don’t look the way some people think autism should look’ - YEP. I feel you. And may I say, I LOVE your videos. They make me so happy. I don’t care what you post - it’s just so relatable, so human and so enjoyable.
I sincerely empathize with your fears and hesitations with seeking a diagnosis… I myself have felt that for years now! I’m also in the process, so I wish us both well!! Just being even more relatable, aren’t you?
As a self-diagnosed 42 year old girlie also seeking diagnosis for many of the same reasons, I so appreciate you using your platform and being able to articulate what many of us feel. I started sobbing the moment you started sharing because life finally makes sense and why I’ve felt life hasn’t ever made sense until now. Anyway, thank you ❤
Hi Elyse! I'm 35 and just got my official autism diagnosis. I literally went through the exact same thing - I've been self - diagnosed for a few years now, and I knew in my gut that it was valid, but I still felt this weird imposter syndrome about it. Everything you said about invalidation and feeling "bad" or "selfish" is EXACTLY my background - and honestly this journey has helped me start to heal a lot of that pain that my younger self went through. Every autistic person has their own journey - you have your reason for a formal diagnosis, and many people have their reasons for a self diagnosis. It's all valid - and it's about discovering a core part of ourselves and healing that pain, and learning to love and validate yourself.
Thank you Elyse. We so appreciate your open and honest nature, you make us feel validated and understood. I’m on the waitlist to be assessed and it’s loooong. I put my name down when my son was diagnosed at 18mo and still waiting for my turn and he’s 4yo now! ❤
I actually DO care about the mic cover. I love crazy things like that! Glad it teleported back to you!
Fascinating, isn't it? 🙂
100%!!
I watched the video where it was lost recently enough to remember it. I was so happy she found it! 😂
Yes, I DO care too! That mic cover reappearing has ‘glitch in the matrix’ written all over it. But I remember when it vanished and I feel better with this closure.
Same. I have two favorite clothing items, actually three (one is my sons’s) that just went *poof*. Literally it’s a mystery and I’d cry with happiness if they popped up again from their black hole.
The real housewife of Omaha intro made me laugh so much... "there's nothing mid about me" 😂😂😂☠️
Also, congrats on the somewhat new self awareness to being neurodivergent and continuing to learn more about that part of yourself. You figured it out all on your own! 🎉
I myself am struggling with self-identifying as autistic without having "proof" - this is part of the reason that I am seeking a formal diagnosis as well. There's so many complex and complicated feelings that come with late life diagnosis - I actually counsel people to support them through this process. Just wanted to share you're not alone in those feelings! Sending lots of love. ❤
Elyse, i love how genuine you are. You remind me of a golden retriever with anxiety. That is a strange compliment but i think youre just so lovable and pure friend material.
I receive this compliment with so much pride. I’ve been called an anxious golden retriever before and it made my heart happy in an unexplainable way. Thank you for this!
reading this as my golden retriever has her head turned 180° so she can keep an eye on my every movement 😂
I'm reading with my anxious Jack Russell staring at me.😉 I was having a conversation about my do with someone once and the conversation shifted to my friend saying, "You know, I do think there is something to that old adage that dogs resemble their owners..." I have to admit I felt slightly upset as we had just been discussing how nervous, anxious, and pesty my dog can be....
And here I went full on Swiftie with the Golden Retriever comment!
I think you underestimate how much we are interested in interdimensional traveling microphone covers...
Right???
Agreed!!
This is such a universal experience. It’s very affirming to see this happen to someone else, documented on video. I’m not the only one with a wandering trans-dimensional portal in my house!
PREACH
GIRL! IT MATTERS! I’m 54. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year (yes, last year) and it was like, “My whole life finally makes sense!” It was SUCH a relief! I was vindicated! I’m not just an annoying freak! I’m neurodivergent and it’s WONDERFUL! I’ve been able to forgive myself for sooo much and to be much more gentle in my self talk. I’m so proud of you for getting tested.
Congrats! I've sometimes wondered if I'm on the spectrum -I do identify with being a Highly Sensitive Person -HSP which is similar - at any rate I can definitely relate to being neurodivergent in some respect -Now if only other people would accept me and not think I'm "annoying" or whatever!
I’m so scared to ask about being evaluated for it because I’m worried that they’ll tell me I’m just neurotypical when I def don’t feel like it
Exactly!
@KLR2322 I told my psychologist about this fear. They told me that, statistically, patients who identify their neurodivergence are correct in their self-assessment.
For anyone wondering the test for adults who have went undx is called the RAADS-R test and I swear to god I had no idea 😭😭 It helped my life so much, diagnosed at 25
As a lesbian, you are such an icon and we’re honored to be part of the “lesbian bacon blanket” 😂 ❤
CROCHETING THIS BLANKET IN YOUR HONOR 🧡🤍🩷
Jeez I dint realize there *was* a Lesbian flag. Now I know more 😊
💙🌈 ☮️
@@rwedereyet there are a ton of flags! Demisexual, ace, pan, fun to research them all!
Indeed
Thx ❤
Just knew this 😍🌈
I received my autism diagnoses at 43 and felt so much relief and validation. I could start giving myself grace for my quirks and limitations ❤❤❤
Aww this is awesome! ❤ My 12 yr old son’s results just came back with him being high functioning autistic among other things. Going through the process made me majorly start questioning how so many of my personality traits are right in alignment with autistic ones and I’m 42 yrs old! 😮
You considered yourself disable bc of your autistic diagnosis?
Well if you are as diagnosed as autistic as you think you will be, you will be my all time favorite person with autism ever. I love your content and the amazing person you are.
I'm on a waiting list to be diagnosed as autistic. They told me it'll be about a year before they can see me. I'm not sure if I'm specifically autistic but in my opinion, I'm definitely neurodivergent. I want a diagnosis because I'm constantly overwhelmed and I feel like I can't do all that everyone else can. I feel broken and I hope with a diagnosis people will understand me better and not just assume I'm lazy or crazy.
I was on the waitlist for 8 months, and then the process to be assessed is multiple months long, and multiple appointments. I’ve almost canceled every single one of them because so much time passes between them that I lose a little hope (and momentum.) but I can say with certainty that it’s worth the wait if you can get in and get on that list. I didn’t expect to matter so much but now nearing the end, I’m grateful I went through the long process!
So you think everyone around is neurotypical and that is why they can do life and you can’t? If that is true, is autistic a disability?
I felt exactly the same way about getting diagnosed. My AuDHD diagnosis was completely life changing. My life makes so much more sense now, and my soul is more calm than it ever has been because I feel understood and validated. I was incredibly fortunate to be able to go through the diagnosis process, not everyone has that option. I will never take it for granted, and I'm happy you are able to have that experience too. ❤
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Exactly this! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Got my diagnosis at 26, 6 years later and i am still figuring out who i am but i like who that is for the first time in my life!
My parents & pediatrician hid my Asperger's diagnosis (for my protection) until I was 25 and the laws/public attitudes changed. The diagnosis has been challenged by other medical professionals, b/c of old knowledge and Im still trying to get assessed as an adult. However, when my dr told me "You have Asperger's", I felt such relief. Realizing Im not just annoying or wrong, has allowed me to start figuring out who I am and love myself. I'm 15 years along and still learning about my brain, and while there is still so much trauma to work through, my default is now validation instead of gaslighting myself that I must just be acting up/misbehaving/weaponizing my needs for attention. For some people, self diagnosis isn't enough, and that is ok. That need speaks more to how we have been treated in our lives, instead of something inherently lacking in ourselves. 😂😊
Good for you for recognizing your need and pursuing the offical diagnosis 🎉
@@waitingandlearning it makes me so happy that you are figuring yourself out and loving yourself! Thanks for the support...and I am sending so much support back your way!
I totally believe that mic cover went into another dimension. No other answer for that 😂
NO OTHER ANSWER! 😂
BORROWERS
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@@ktmonnin For using as a nice warm hat like guards at the front of buckingham palace?
@@clairep7199that was a visual I didn’t know I needed, but I’m glad I scrolled and found this 😂
Future Elise being snippy about the crochet top made me spill my coffee laughing. 😄
hard relate on the reasons you give for going for the diagnosis. thanks for sharing!
Labels are interesting things. On the one hand, we try not to label people, because it feels impersonal and judgemental. Yet labels can be very empowering as well. Having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder late in life (at 30 years old), I decided that I would embrace the label as a part of who I am.
Elyse, I got diagnosed with autism at 31. It’s simultaneously relieving while also being something I deeply grieve. I grieve the criticism and pain I brought upon myself for not being able to “do life” as well as everybody else.
But a relief in the sense that I truly do just process things differently than other people. So I’m not too “bitchy” for preferring quiet, too selfish for preferring certain clothes or foods, too standoffish for wanting alone time. I was diagnosed in march and am still grieving and rejoicing. Enjoy the ride. ❤️
In which parts of life aren’t you able to do? Do you feel that an autistic diagnosis makes you part of the disable communication? True question
This is how i feel with my ADHD diagnosis. Grief and relief. I cried out of both. The first because life was so much harder for me, and it didn't have to be (I got diagnosed at 35). The second because at least now I have support and understanding and more coping strategies. ❤
I’m going through the process at 31!! Just waiting to hear back about my evaluation.
labels that important these days?
Being rude seems to be important to you. I’d worry about that instead.
I have never watched a Real Housewives...and now I don't NEED. TO. No notes. Mary is a stonecold B, and will sabotage your birthday party, S-A is wealthy BUT down-to-earth approachable, and Elyse is my soul sister that I want to bake a pie for.
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Are you SURE you’ve never watched Housewives??!!😂😂❤❤
@@angelabeatty6538 well…NOW I’m not! 😏
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The Borrowers finally acknowlwdged your suffering and brought the mic cover back. What a reason to celebrate!
Borrowers was my thought too♡ Those cheeky scamps.
That’s when you read on your Kindle and then buy the physical book as a trophy when you finish the book! Best of both worlds!! ✨
Yes! I do another version of this: the kindle books that REALLY stole my heart I go and buy the paperback version of it secondhand. This way I can have it in my bookshelf but not spend double the money for one book 😊
Reasons I thought I might cry today did not include relating to your autism story so deeply. Thank you for sharing. Hearing that made me feel less alone, less annoying, and more normal ❤ I hope you are able to process, heal, and find grace for yourself with this diagnosis.
Haha me too! 😅 We’ll be alright all together ❤😊
My husband was diagnosed with autism at 43 after our daughter was diagnosed and a light bulb went off for him. It was VERY good for him and has really helped him understand himself and why he is how he is in this world. I’m very happy for you to get this diagnosis. Sending love. ♥️
I had suspected that I was autistic since I was 16. I finally got a diagnosis in February of 2020 in my mid fifties. It’s worth all that you go through to get the diagnosis. I forgave myself for so many things. All the best to you with your diagnostic journey ❤️❤️❤️
I applaud you for getting an official assessment Elyse! 🎉 Everything you said about being diagnosed for autism, from how hard it is to actually get tested to just wanting the validation is EXACTLY what I’ve just gone through with my son. The results proved what I as a mother have always known about my 12 yr old for years but getting a professional official diagnosis was important. Now everyone we interact with, from family to teachers will know that this is something REAL that my sweet bright boy needs his community to acknowledge and that he can understand doesn’t solely define him but rather helps him (and everyone else) understand his own self. ❤
I totally see self-diagnosis as valid because of how hard it is to get into being assessed (and how difficult the assessment is!) And with that being said, I see so much of myself in my boys and I always want them to know that it mattered to me to go through the process of getting diagnosed because it helps me understand myself better and if they need to go through that process too one day, I’ll be able to tell them I did it. I never want them to feel like they don’t belong or that they’re are broken. So if I can do this for any possibility of them needing this in the future, I can encourage then with my own experience!
@@elyse_myers Beautifully put
The "extra yarn" myth is like the old hot dog and bun issue, where they would sell you 8 hot dogs and 10 buns.
PS every time you post an awesome crochet vlog, that particular Joann's runs out of those colors right after! I made my mom a pillow using the daisy square tutorial, and almost couldn't get the same colors because that's the store I shop at. Guess I'll have to start going to the one across town lol.
Omg I had no clue I affected the color options that much! I think the same thing happened with a jalapeño Mac n’ cheese I mentioned on my stories a while back. I couldn’t find it anywhere after I talked about it 😂😂
Neither CouldI"We" 😂 ❤hahaha@@elyse_myers
I care about the mic cover. The Joann trip made my heart happy. I think you just verbalized EVERYTHING I have felt about diagnosis. Thank you for being you.
Girl! I’m getting my autism diagnosis on Monday, aged 45 🙌 I can relate SO hard to how you’re feeling. For someone who loves logic so much I’m bemused by how emotional I’m finding the process. Thank you for being open. love your content 😊
My friend (30M tall, skinny, mustachioed mexican man) deeply loved working at Joann's. If they paid a living wage, he would have worked there the rest of his life.
Nooooo please don’t tell me they’re bad at paying their employees 😭💔 I need to research this so I can know where to shop!
@elyse_myers They don't pay any worse than any other major store like target, for example. But at least where we live in CA, you can't rent your own apartment on $20/hr. (5 years ago) I think he was making $14/hr, and I was making $12.50/hr at Target. "Store worker" is just no longer a livable, long-term career.
@elyse_myers They treated him well though, to be clear. Both his coworkers and the customers.
@@elyse_myersmy mother-in-law loved working there 20+ years ago. Even the crazy customers that are at every store weren’t that crazy there. I met her after she left there and still talks about it. It’s also still her favorite store to shop at.
@@elyse_myers I love how open you are to new information. ❤
I’m waiting to be assessed for autism myself and it was like you took the words out of my mouth. Getting a diagnosis as an adult can still be useful. It’s okay to get emotional about it and I do too. You’re doing great, even if it might not feel like it.
Feel free to show all the projects you’re working on and talk about it, I’m quite interested and happy to hear your enthusiasm and thoughts.
Thank you, Elyse for including the bit about your diagnosis process. I have been going back and forth with wether or not I “need” it and you explaining how dismissed and invalidated you have been made to feel and how you have been made to feel “annoying” “particular” “a bad friend”, etc, made me have such an emotional reaction due to the similarities.
Your videos bring such joy to me. Your journey and experiences are so valuable, unique, and important. Thank you for sharing ❤
Elyse, I paid privately for an Autism assessment last year and was diagnosed at 35. I felt very similar to you especially as a high masking person. I am AuDHD. It has been extremely validating for me and it.’s been helpful as a parent as well . My kid just got her adhd diagnosis this year.
just.... thank you so much for talking about getting assessed. I look forward to hearing more about it. I`m considering that too and... your videos and you talking about it, it just helps. thank you Elyse :)
Girl!!! I just want you to know!!! You make me so happy and you are the greatest human crafter on the planet!!! I appreciate all you do and how you work!!! Thank you for sharing your world and ABILITIES with us!!!
I second that!!
Praying for your courage to complete the diagnosis journey. Do it for you! Believing and accepting yourself. We believe and accept you
I saw that microphone cover fall and disappear too! You are NOT CRAZY! You are wonderful and amazing!
When you held the bear speaker close to you....I felt that in my soul. I don't like loud sounds most of the time but I LOVE feeling the sound. And I loved seeing the joy on your face when you held it close to you! 😊
I'm in the outer right now and keep thinking...where does the bear come in from the title? Your comment made me realize it was the speaker 😂
Getting a diagnosis can be so important to just feel okay with yourself. The understanding and knowing you aren’t broken is incredibly important and valuable. That is one of the biggest reasons that I got a diagnosis. Plus it will help if you ever need accommodations. Also if any of your kids get assessed it can be helpful knowing you are too. Plus Joann is always the safe store for me too. 😊 💖
This! 🎉 When I got my son assessed it was the first time I was told that many of the diagnosis are inherited. I come from a family that just didn’t get psych health treatments in the past.
Listen…you can bring embroidery to waiting rooms and go from sitting to walking in 5 seconds flat without getting tangled in your project. 💜
I was diagnosed autistic and ADHD at 32 years old and getting that evaluation was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I hope the same for you! ❤
The diagnosis matters to childhood Elyse. Consider it a gift to child Elyse, the one who struggled to get here and now finally has answers. -someone diagnosed late teens
Omahaian here. If you ever want to get into quilting, embroidery, or just want to look at and feel fabric, The Country Sampler on 120th and Center is such a great place!
I am a late diagnosed autistic woman. Unfortunately even with an official dx many people will not believe you and all those bad broken feelings about yourself don't just disappear. You may even face increased discrimination and bullying for becoming official and coming out with your ASD. Be very careful who you share this with and prepare for grieving time after your dx. Still worth finding out for your own piece of mind. Good luck!
I very recently got a diagnosis of ADHD. I went in looking to get a diagnosis for my dyslexia and was hoping they would find autism because i was so sure i had it. When I was told I had ADHD (among other things) and not autism I was so surprised. it never crossed my mind that it could be ADHD that caused my crippling anxiety and low self esteem. I’m so glad I did it for so many reasons. It felt so nice to see how my brain worked on paper. It was very validating and worth the year long wait for my appointment.
Diagnosed ADHD at 51, and can share 2 things I've learned that help explain the low self-esteem. First, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, which makes us perceive criticism even when there is none, or amplify mild criticism in our minds. But secondly, they estimate that kids with ADHD have received 20 000 more negative comments by age 12, as compared to typically developing kids. I mean, that low self-esteem seems pretty logical then, doesn't it? (But hopefully not irreversible once you know and can work to counteract)
The validation of the diagnosis is worth the trouble. I love that things return, even interdementionally. 😮
Love your vulnerability Elyse ❤ You’re an amazing human.
Future counselor here! Diagnosis is such a complex subject, and I appreciate your candor on what a diagnosis means for you. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32 years old, and having access to a new explanation for my struggles helped me set foot on the path to unwinding all the other reasons I had come up with or been told for why I was struggling. (E.g., laziness, poor work ethic, quits easily) Your reason for diagnosis rings so true for me too! Women in our society are cultured to look outward for cues about our identity, and this diagnosis sounds like it will help you starting developing some self-trust and comfort with turning inward to understand who you are. I’m so excited for your journey of unlearning and relearning and shedding and believing and confidence! Keep up the good work!!! 🎉
I am autistic and assess people. Glad you know. I hate "diagnosing" strangers in my mind but I have been like... "does she know?" Like every time I watch your content. I believe you
It's so true that the craft store is the safest place. You can find me at hobby lobby during their 30% off yarn weeks frolicking through the aisles and telling myself I don't actually need to take it home and add to my yarn stash.
I was over the moon when I saw a new video from you- coming off anxiety meds after about 5 years so having a rough couple days. Your videos have brought a lot of comfort so thank you so much! ❤❤
Also as a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I know diagnosis is SO affirming for a lot of people- the neurospicy community gets you my love!❤
Omg I’m in the same boat this week 😭😮💨
@@carriecook8600 it’s rough so rooting for you too! Just went to see Inside Out 2 as well and that was hard minus meds lmao
It's so lovely to see the joy you get from going to Jo Ann's, it's about finding the little things like that and embracing the magic it bring us 💛💛,
At her insistence, I recently had my 14 year old evaluated for what we thought was OCD but is actually Autism. It has changed everything in our family for the good and has dramatically improved my marriage with my husband who is Exactly like my daughter. Yes- it matters
There is such power in self understanding and self discovery. Understanding Autism and how it impacts your life is a really important thing. ❤
I know lots of people who read on kindle and collect the pretty books anyways lol. Also the open dyslexic font option on kindle is a game changer for my audhd brain and reading!
Omg, when you panned to that microphone cover I said, 'there it is!', totally remembered you losing it. I feel you on wanting the official diagnosis. I'm pretty sure I should have been evaluated for both ADHD & Autism when I was younger. But instead I had to learn how to mask what others saw as bad habits/qualities/behaviors. I did horribly at school and I'm pretty sure that could have been rectified with an ADHD diagnosis. At least officially knowing you can confidently seek out things to help you.
After over ten years 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with POTS. I cried when I got my diagnosis just from feeling validated. The night before, I bawled because I just didn't want to feel crazy.
Thank you so much for these videos I relate so much to you.❤ I always talked too much for literally everyone. Here I am doing it again 😅😅
I loooove Agatha Christi! My husband and I do an Agatha book clubs with each other and it’s so fun. 😊
Okay “And Then There Were None” was a little scary! I was reading it and then about halfway through I had to try with audible instead to see if it helped it be less scary for me and it might have been worse? 😂 I got into AC with Five Little Pigs and that was a lot more mild! And then this last one I found myself being a little spooked when I was alone! Hahaha
Please give your best AC recommendations if you have favorites!!! I love the writing so much now that I’m in the brain space to consume her books!
The Murder of Roger Ackroyd was AMAZING!!! I also love Death on the Nile which I think is a movie now?
Love Agatha Christie! I feel like I've primarily read one's turned into PBS specials before watching 🤓
I have read or listened too almost all AC’s books. Murder on the Orient Express is a classic. Murder of Roger Ackroyd is also great. A Murder is Announced is also a great one as well as death on the Nile. I also love her short stories- the Labors of Hercules, Murder in the Mews. I could go on lol.
Also, for audiobooks try to get the ones narrated by Hugh Fraser. He is the best
i so relate to things falling into another dimension!
I can definitely understand everything youre feeling about the diagnosing process, and I hope you know that the world is a better place because you are you. You help all of us be our most authentic selves, and I hope this process gives you any validation you might need. ❤️
7:09 spoke to my SOUL. The untangling of the yarn literally makes me want to quit altogether most of the time 🤣 it’s like the lost time in a project you just don’t account for ♥️😩
Especially when you really don’t have a whole lot of free time but want to get as much out of it as you can…and then you spend 80% of that free time untangling yarn hahaha it’s like NO PLEASE NO
I got diagnosed with autism (and ADHD, but that wasn't really a surprise) this year at 44 years old. It matters and it DOES change things!! It opens up this whole new world of understanding who you are and why you are and finding new ways to manage all the things. It's important. It's nothing to be embarrassed about, although I totally get it. Sending so much love. It matters. Keep going.
Being portable is the greatest part of knitting socks!
I made a lot of knit or crochet stuffies (animals, veggies, whatever) as gifts over the years, as those are also v portable projects!
Thank you for showing all of the emotions that can come with seeking a later in life diagnosis. I received my autism/adhd diagnosis two years ago at the age of 40. Yes, its been validating, but it has been hard as well. There is trauma in a life lived without true understanding of why you are the way you are. Lots of positive energy to you.
Thank you so much for how you spoke about autism and persuing a diagnosis. It resonated hugely with me. Diagnosed just over a year ago age 30. Very validating xxx
I am so happy for you, Elyse!
And that microphone cover 100% took a holiday to an alternate dimension.
Also so helpful to know if you have ASD to then also keep an eye out on your children. I know you get it. My husband was diagnosed after our daughter was. It’s been so freeing for him to understand himself.
I love listening to you. You are me 100%, just everything. You’re great. I just got an ADHD diagnosis and started meds but autism is probably closer..❤️🇨🇦
Ah, so proud of you for seeking out some clarity with diagnosis too! I hope you will find a really wonderful assessor. It can be a tough process, but can be validating and important.
My sister is autistic, and you say that realistically it doesn't matter, but it mattered an incredible amount to her. She grew up thinking she was crazy and alone but once she realized, everything changed. Now she understands why she does what she does, why she experiences the world so differently, and it allows her to give herself the grace and understanding she deserves.
The thing u said about getting a diagnosis from a professional as a sign of being finally validated in your life, i totally get that. I have been dealing with depression and anxiety and even though i am professionally diagnosed and on medication, there are still so many people everyday that try to picture me as a sad sassy and bitchy and nagging person for no reason, while there IS a reason for all these behaviors. So I guess what I try to say is that even though there will be steel people who do not validate you and your behavior as autistic it is still good and beneficial for yourself to get professionally diagnosed so that there are less times that you self invalidate yourself.❤
I'm starting the process of getting an AuDHD diagnosis. Yes, it matters, it seems like it shouldn't, but it does.
It's crazy so many of us fell through the cracks.
Good on you! I’ve got my first evaluation on Monday, I’m 45. So excited!
@NZKiwi87 Exciting! Congratulations I hope everything goes well!
I just turned 40, and have suspected for almost 4 years, but just started actively admiting it! I'm extremely rural, so it's an ordeal finding someone who evaluates adults.
Thanks for talking about this. I'm just now as a 40 year old looking into an ADHD diagnosis and I've been really unsure about whether to go for it or not as I wasn't sure if it would change anything at this point in my life at all. Hearing you talk about your process and reading the lovely comments here has been really reassuring that it can be really helpful, even just in understanding yourself better and maybe finding new strategies for things.
I just want to say that I’m so freaking glad for your existence on this Earth, Elyse! ❤️
I just choked on my coffee when you said “oh, it’s like a rainbow!……” lol
this blanket was born with a destiny and there is no re-routing it, no matter how many colors I swap out 😂
Glad you're getting an assessment! 🫰🏽🧡
you’re not alone, everything you said about just being annoying and particular and not being wanted, and not being believed, you are so strong and so inspiring for all of us who feel exactly the same, we’re all cheering you on
My mom always carried her crochet projects with her. I have so many awesome childhood memories of her packing her tote bag full of whatever project she was working on and crocheting at the pool while she watched us swim, or sitting in so many doctors offices waiting rooms while she crocheted. She is one cool lady. ❤
The intro with the real housewives brought out the biggest bottom of the stomach laugh I've had in weeks. I'm a huge RHOA fan too. Thank you, this was the video we all needed. ❤ Wishing all the best for your adorable family 😊
I might be from the Midwest, but actually I'm from California but now I live in the Midwest because moved there after I fell in love with a man who was from the Midwest. Anyway.
Psychotherapist here, maybe it’s Inattentional blindness, which is the failure to see a stimulus, such as an object that is present in a visual field. It’s a little weird phenomenon that our brain does to us sometimes. Either that or one of your kids or your animal (i’m not sure if you have animals) found it and put it back out in the in the room from wherever it bounced to. So frustrating but really happy for you that you found it. That’s so satisfying. 🎉❤
Thank you for opening up about your ASD evaluation. I am forty six and am in the process of being evaluated and I can relate to your content so much. It took me this many years to understand that it is ok to be myself. ❤
I totally understand the disappearing pop filter. I am sometimes getting ready and about to put on an earring, it falls, and then I can't find it. It just disappears. It's wild
11:41 Rest in Peace Microphone Cover🪦
4months later:
Oh Nevermind!
I too have things that have come back from another dimension
I sort of agree with the other dimension hypothesis. The universe picks on people with some people more than others lol.
“So tell me everything is not about me
But what if it is?”
Elyse as so many here: i‘ve been watching your videos for a while because they provide me a whole different level of comfort and safety💗 as a fellow late diagnosed adhder who suspects autism and has suffered for a long time without having words or explanations for what is going on: i wanted to thank you from my very heart for opening up about your autism suspicion/ diagnostic process, every single world about how you feel with regards to autism could have come from the bottom of my Soul!! You put how i feel in words perfectly. It is just gold to feel validated this way, and i sincerely want to thank you for putting yourself out there and blessing us with such honest and comforting videos! I find this inspiring. Stay true to yourself, we really need more people like you💗❤️
Oh, wow, it is so crazy good, how someone can get into my head and say what I have been thinking about craft and book stores, how safe and comforting these places are, how reading and handicraft communities are prefect in accepting people and being so nice to everyone. Love it, thanks a ton for this video ❤
I absolutely understand the desire to be officially diagnosed. It may not change anything, but you'll have a name for what makes you who you are.
Also, I totally care about the mic cover.
Elyse, I’ve been hyper fixating on sewing for coming up to A YEAR. It’s so fun and relaxing and the best of a million hobbies I’ve picked up! You should try sewing next!!
I'm self diagnosed and I completely understand how you feel. It took me years to realize it, years to accept it, then years to tell the people closest to me. I've only talked about it online because I'm afraid how my doctors would react to a self Dx but it took me nearly 20 years to get an RA Dx and I don't have the energy, money, or trust to go through that again. But at the same time there's so much stigma with a self Dx that I really do want an official one. It's something I battle a lot with so I feel your emotions when you're talking about it and also existing as a person with autism that didn't know for so many years. Thank you for your vulnerability. It helps to feel not so alone in this. 💙💜
Your thughts on getting evalueted really hit home for me (and other ASD people, heard this sentiment 1000 times) “why does this matter?” I had to wait months (waited almost 2 years actually) it costs so much time, effort and money, nobody saw a thing wrong with me, nobody thought I had issues.
Getting the confirmation through my diagnosis gave me the most important tool to be kind with myself, gave me a short way to explain myself to my surroundings instead of explaining my issues alongside the caveat that my suspected diagnosis was just a self diagnosis.
It made a million things a tiny percentage better which means it completely changed my life for the better.
I like real books, too.
I love the lesbian bacon blanket!!!!
edit:: 😮😮😮😮😮 that microphone cover, though. I thought stuff like that only happened to me😮😮😮😮😮
Lmao. Love it. Your mic cap was hanging out with my Tupperware lids. If you can have it send them home also I’d be most grateful. ❤
I wonder if it saw my pens in its travels...
😭😭😭 it breaks my heart that you could ever think of yourself as annoying. Makes me think of that song... 🎼🎵 "How can anyone ever think that you're anything but beautiful? How can anyone ever think that you are less than whole? How can anyone fail to notice that your loving is a miracle? How deeply we're connected in our souls!" 🎶 You are completely perfect. A gigantic blessing. Sweet, loving, gorgeous, stunning, smart funny, kind. One of the best gifts that the Holiest of all the Holy Ones gave this planet! Thank you from my whole heart! ❤❤
I have never felt more validated and seen while listening to you explain the *visceral need* for a diagnosis that doesn’t but (really) does matter and make a huge difference. I cried watching you explain that because it’s what I’ve tried to put into words so many times! Thank you for sharing yourself authentically 💗💗
I kinda *wish* I had more reservations about going into JoAnne's 😂
The intro 😂😂😂
Elyse, you bring me so much joy. I love your authenticity, humor, quirks, stories, love, bravery. I could go on and on. I think that you’re an amazing example for all of us on how to be yourself. It’s very hard to see what is uniquely wonderful about ourselves. I know that I have trouble with that. I hope that you come to realize how incredible you truly are. ❤️
And about the mic cover, I had the exact same thing happen with my house key. It disappeared from my purse for two weeks. I dumped my purse out, looked through my car, had my daughter look through my purse and when I finally decided that I had to get a new key cut, there it was in the spot that I always keep it in in my purse. So crazy!
Ooooof... right there with you on the assessment. It's so much energy and effort to get it, so I keep putting it off, but I feel the same way - if a professional hasn't made it official, then am I just lying or making this up? It's frustrating to me that it's not enough for me to just know, even though I know it with all of my heart and soul, but yeah, I feel like if someone questions it, I'd be so stuck trying to defend myself and my own knowledge about myself, and being able to say a professional confirmed it makes that go away. Best of luck finishing the process and learning to believe yourself (with help)!
You deserve validation for yourself and others. You are a very important part of my life. I’m so glad I came across your channel.
I’m so glad you’re here!!
If AuDHD was a person we are those people. The spontaneity of your actions and reactions are so authentic ❤
Your Real Housewives of Omaha was amazing 😆😆😆👍👍👍
And audiobooks!!! ☺️
‘If I don’t get a diagnosis from a professional, I feel like I’m lying.’ ‘And don’t look the way some people think autism should look’ - YEP. I feel you.
And may I say, I LOVE your videos. They make me so happy. I don’t care what you post - it’s just so relatable, so human and so enjoyable.
"Some of it I just chalked up to my personality and I was just an annoying person that, like, was very particular."
I relate to that SO DEEPLY.
I sincerely empathize with your fears and hesitations with seeking a diagnosis… I myself have felt that for years now! I’m also in the process, so I wish us both well!! Just being even more relatable, aren’t you?
As a self-diagnosed 42 year old girlie also seeking diagnosis for many of the same reasons, I so appreciate you using your platform and being able to articulate what many of us feel. I started sobbing the moment you started sharing because life finally makes sense and why I’ve felt life hasn’t ever made sense until now. Anyway, thank you ❤
Hi Elyse! I'm 35 and just got my official autism diagnosis. I literally went through the exact same thing - I've been self - diagnosed for a few years now, and I knew in my gut that it was valid, but I still felt this weird imposter syndrome about it. Everything you said about invalidation and feeling "bad" or "selfish" is EXACTLY my background - and honestly this journey has helped me start to heal a lot of that pain that my younger self went through. Every autistic person has their own journey - you have your reason for a formal diagnosis, and many people have their reasons for a self diagnosis. It's all valid - and it's about discovering a core part of ourselves and healing that pain, and learning to love and validate yourself.
Thank you Elyse. We so appreciate your open and honest nature, you make us feel validated and understood. I’m on the waitlist to be assessed and it’s loooong. I put my name down when my son was diagnosed at 18mo and still waiting for my turn and he’s 4yo now! ❤