this was supposed to be a âclean with meâ video but my ADHD had other plans
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 16. 05. 2024
- I've been needing to clean up my studio for weeks now, and today is finally the day. I have put it off for FAR too long, so would you mind being my body double? This started out as my attempt to make a "clean with me" type of video that was calm and straight-forward...but things took a hard left when I found an old pregnancy test that send the rest of the day into a bit of chaos.
This might not be the most helpful "clean with me" video you've ever watched on youtube, but it is eventful. Things got clean. Lost items were found. Urgent care was visited.
It's truly all happening here in these 18 minutes. đ
Just keep hitting singles.
Love you! â„
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I LOVE that you don't put your kids on social media! I really, really don't like how normal it is to just put your child on the internet without their consent.
This x 1000000%!!
Iâm doing the best I can as I learn! I used to post them online when my social media was simply just my friends and family who saw my content. But as my platform grew, suddenly I became aware of how wide and far content can go once itâs posted. Itâs pretty scary when you know the ins and outs of how content travels online.
Or understanding what putting themselves on the internet means
@@elyse_myers Absolutely! The internet is a scary place in general, and especially for kids. Thank you for being wonderful!
â@@elyse_myers thank you! It is scary! And I mean this with absolutely no offense, but I do not want or need to see them. You can talk about them without me seeing them. I don't watch parents who show their kid to the camera much anymore, because I'm always worried for the child.
Wow. I am literally sitting on my computer doom scrolling, wondering where the last 2 hours just went, completely paralyzed from being productive and cleaning the way I want and need to right now. And Elyse swoops in to save me and give me the motivation I need đ
CZcams KNEW YOU NEEDED THIS TODAY! Youâre doing great, youâve got this! â„ïž
NUUUUP Elyse fits into the "too entertaining" category!! can't clean *and* watch her đđ
The panic attack about the test, the speech about crocs & the spiral about the book coffee was all SO relatable I swear I have had all of these moments almost exactly đđâ€ïž
Yes, exactly what I wanted to say!
So relatable!! Me tooo
I really like the method of: go through a room with a trash bag - pick up trash; go through the room with a laundry basket - pick up clothes; go through and pick up dishes, put them in kitchen... That helps me when I'm just like ... paralyzed sos
I've been really stuck and couldn't think of a different way to approach the mess around here. You gave me a really good idea to try. Thank you!
Yes! This sounds like advice from the amazing book âHow to Keep House While Drowning,â which is incredibly compassionate and helpful. I listened to the audiobook, probably while doing my dishes đ
@@MLiesel Iâm gonna have to read that! Or listen haha
I call that the ABCs. Bed, clothes, dishes, garbage
âHow to keep house while drowningâ is great, âOrganizing at the speedâ of life saved our home, and Elyseâs method here is like the batching method from the AMAZING book âthe anti-plannerâ (if yâall have adhd this book is worth buying!)
So I was really having a bad mental health moment. On the floor crying bad. I have a tiktok list with videos that help me feel better, and one of those was yours saying that youâll believe in me even if I donât believe in myself. It meant the world to me and I came to youtube in the hopes that you would have content here and honestly, just watching you clean calmed me down so much. Thank you for everything
Virtual hug from a random internet stranger. Iâm sorry youâre going through a rough patch. Wishing you light and happiness.
Hope things get better for you soon. *Massive hugs* đ
You accomplished something new on your list in this video. You went to 2 stores looking for a pregnancy test cause you needed it, and you didn't order it off Amazon! You're still doing it! Congratulations! This was a win!
I was so panicked I actually didnât realize how big of an accomplishment that was until a few people pointed it out in the comments! Thatâs so cool! PROGRESS!!!
I folded laundry while watching this and felt like we were tackling house chores together as friends and it made me so happy! thank you for managing to consistently make simple things that bring so much joy!
I feel this deeply to my core. As a 30 yr old mom myself, I feel so overwhelmed with cleaning and time management. I got officially diagnosed with ADHD last summer after finally unmasking years of symptoms. I struggle with depression and anxiety as well. Your content has made me feel so sane and normal. I pray I get to meet you in person one day & give you the biggest hug â€
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Iâm with you momma!! 31 and a mom with all the above. Sending you love â„ïž
Sorry for going off topic, but I love your sweater, it's so cute!
SIDE QUESTS THOUGH!! Felt that to my SOUL. truly.
I have stopped following a lot of accounts where the kids are shown. I love following parenting accounts, but I can't support parents using their children the way many do. I actually learned all about it when you announced you weren't showing your kids anymore awhile back. I think people are just realizing what damage it can cause our kids to give them a large internet footprint before they can even understand and consent to it. My 11 year old daughter wants to make YT videos and it was a hard no, she just doesn't understand yet. Thanks for sharing your life with us!
Gives me more hope that there are good parents (mom & dads) out there who are protecting their kids from online footprints and inappropriate exposure to certain aspects of internet/social media. All I ever see are these terrible parents/family channels that exploit their families/children/relationship for a quick buck/cash grab.
I canât believe how many family channels I used to watch before I became a mom. Itâs truly disturbing how parents can proudly sell their children to predators online with an innocent facade. Those poor kids will never know privacy
I just came back from Japan and getting back to reality was a freaking slap to the face. The mess in my home in a week only is INSANE. I most likely have ADHD too. Letâs clean together Elyse đ
YOUâVE GOT THIS!!!
I was also in âJapan» and came home to moldy food and just mess.
Thank you for these honest and transparent videos. As someone with ADHD and OCD your video have been a source of comfort, validation and joy!
It's super cool to see someone else cleaning like I do, needing a tv show on and making "cleaning piles" in bags. I feel like it takes years before I go through them. Sometimes they go in closets. Sometimes they just become Mount Stuffalus. And consequently when I do get to them it creates even more "wow i didn't know i had that" side quests. I'm such a failure at cleaning, and it creates a lot of problems, but this video warms my heart for showing a true adhd experience and is probably my favorite one of yours.
As a Starbucks barista, I will say, you canât get cold brew as decaf. so the only way that we can make that drink decaf and as similar as possible is to make a decaf iced Americano. We would still be able to add the syrup and the foam on top! Hope this helps!
I completely blanked and realized the author meant iced americano! I was thinking they were saying salted caramel cold foam on top of a hot decaf americano which still I guess would make sense but not as much! Hahaha yours makes more sense! Thank you! My brain really just exited the building while reading that đ
Just a thought, that because the studio is a business expense because of your job....hiring a cleaning service would be covered as a business expense.đâ€
We have an amazing team that usually comes in once every two weeks to clean in terms of sanitize things, which is so helpful! But I still need to pick up and generally tidy every room every week so when they do come, the studio is ready to go for them! But also because of the tornados here in Omaha, they werenât able to come one week so it had been over a month since anyone came and so I really let things go đ
@@elyse_myers Good that you do have that service! Bad or should I say sad about the tornados. Thank you so much for replying. Know you are busy. Just know it made my nice day!đ„°
â@@elyse_myersI find that my once-per-month cleaning service keeps me accountable: I HAVE to tidy up before they come bc they don't put stuff away for me. đ
Michael Jackson starts playing đ¶you are not alone...I am here with youđ¶
CZcams is my go-to for cleaning entertainment, because it tends to be like hanging out with a friend and listening to them ramble about stuff, without being so very entertaining that you have to keep looking at it. A lot of CZcams channels could technically be podcasts.
This is my comfort person. Watching your videos just calms me down and makes my mind quiet for a little bitđđž
You said we should body double if there's things we also need to accomplish... and I am sitting at home trying to pack stuff up to move while my husband is at work... this is exactly what I needed, and I agree with the comments saying it's like sitting at home with your friend doing chores together. Thank you â€
The PREGNANCY TESTđđđđđ the amount of times I've pulled them apart and moved around in every light and taking a picture on my phone .. with and without flash .then editing it đđđ
Okay, but can we talk about how you did one of the things on your list?! 9. When you need something last minute, going and getting it without ordering it off of Amazon. Super proud of you for that, friend!! đ„°
She had to go to TWO stores!
@@Brezooka Right! Double win. đ
You're right! Life goal accomplished!
Doing something that takes longer just so youâre in forward motion is 10000000% me đđđđ
Okay Iâm glad Iâm not alone in that. đ I also married one of the most careful and steady human beings on the planet so I am often just mentally spinning watching him take the necessary time things usually take (bc I would do it faster and so much worse)
@@elyse_myers i think Jonas and my husband are very similar đđ«¶đŒ my husband is so so kind and slow to process and does things right. But just at a different schedule where Iâm over there making a bigger mess but at least Iâm in motion. If I stop, Iâll not start up again or find a new thing to fix. đ
I like to listen to audio books or upbeat music when I'm cleaning, it helps me focus my ADHD. I love how you yelled "SQUIRREL!!!" when you saw one, distracting you from cleaning by in the most figurative AND literal ADHD move lol
Have you read the Holdernessâ book âADHD is Awesomeâ? Itâs so good.
I absolutely LOVE that you havenât got your children online. Itâs a dangerous place for children, the internet is full of predators who take images or videos of children are use AI to alter the content for, well you know what for. I applaud you for stating that children canât consent. You are a wonderful Mum and woman â€
THIS â€
@@Just999Me itâs vital to protect our children, thatâs our job â€ïž
Being a mom and also being worried that you're pregnant is truly a new level of intense anxiety, I feel you.
This is how I knew we were done. Am ready had 2 kids, who I did/do adore, and was late one month. I was just late, not pregnant, and the feelings before I knew, and after, told me for sureâŠweâre done!
I am watching this video for the third time right now. I just found you about a week ago, and the past few days I have been a bad place anxiety wise. But watching your videos is so comforting. Last night I watched this video at 11pm when I was feeling sad and anxious. But I was like, why dont I clean with Elyse? Not only did it make my anxiety go away, but it also made my house a touch cleaner. Thank you so much for being who you are and making the content that you do for us all to enjoy. I truly can't thank you enough for being such a comfort.
Hoarder shows are the perfect shows to watch when cleaning. Gives me motivation and makes me feel good about my own house.
Me too!
Same!!!! đ€Ł my adhd doesnât help but hoarders ALWAYS helps keep me more on track⊠I joke all the time âif you donât clean up youâre just a few boxes away from being on this showâ itâs not that bad but I tell myself it is to purge more đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Midwest magic cleaning I always watch him
I lurve these. I dig your openness, and I dig that you explained why your kids aren't being made a part of this. You're aces, lady.
Thanks so much!
That was the best explination of shows to watch while cleaning! đ No one in my life understands why I'm SO picky with my shows but this graph is perfection!
Literally on the verge of tears with how much has been piled on me the past week, so this video is perfect timing and a literal blessing:,) Thank you for how encouraging you are, it helps more than you know †(also I legit watch your videos every time I need to feel like I can do hard things, ADHD is my biggest superpower and hindrance lol)
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That knife on the desk for breaking in anxiety is so real, so glad I'm not the only one who does that
I have to take that back to the kitchen on a weekly basis. Noises when Iâm by myself scare the crap out of me. đ
Love love love love love love what you said about whoâs consented to having an online presence. You are just awesome in every way. I relate to you SO MUCH. Thank you for sharing yourself with us â„ïž
Elyse you were made for this job. Thank you! for all the joy
I love the transition you did where youre standing in the middle of a bunch of different rooms! That was awesome!
"Think positive thoughts!" I died laughing.
3:25 âit works for me but also it really doesnâtâ is so funny and relatable đđ âI donât even use half of it I donât know why I have itâ I didnât understand why I couldnât save money as a kid until recently đ⊠I would just follow the dopamine until everything was a mess đ
It made me so happy when you said desperate housewives at the end because EVERY time i try to talk about real housewives i call it desperate housewives.
Thank you so much, I felt the EXACT way you did about the coffee line. I deeply appreciate you for always being you â€ïž
I appreciate you sharing yourself and your very human quirks with us. It really helps me to feel like I'm not alone. I talk to anything and everything, especially if it doesn't talk back. I admire that you protect your family's privacy, as much as humanly possible, especially when you are a social media icon, such as yourself. You are doing an amazing job at being so many things to so many people. But, the job you seem to take most seriously is Mom and Wife. That's the most important thing. You have a beautiful family. Thank you so much for all that you do!
I must say I agree with your Croc assessment...they are NOT FOR ME! If you ever catch me with a pair on, something is VERY WRONG! Alert the authorities!
I absolutely love your videos! They are one of the few things I watch on CZcams that can ALWAYS make me feel better, thanks Elyseđž
I recently got medicated for the first time in my life for my ADHD but I was diagnosed 22 years ago⊠whew⊠anyways your content is really soothing for me because I feel so seen and itâs so relatable. Thank you.
"Depends on how many side quests I go on" - goes to buy a pregnancy test. (Love calling them side quests, btw)
I can so relate to wanting to organize the letters in the letter box! The angst is so real!đâ€
"We have a friendship... I like him more than he likes me" haha
I look forward to your video every Thursday / Friday more than any other video during the week. Thanks for sharing with us and being so transparent and direct about your work/life boundaries. Youâre a great role model đ„č
This is so me, thank you for sharing! Itâs making me feel better about my cleaning style. You are appreciated. Sending you love and positivity!
I love how she went on a 2 minute rant about why her kids arenât in her content itâs so amazing I love her đ
The Sharpie cap spitđ€Łđđ€Łđđ€Łđ OMG love you and your honesty. â„ïž
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One of the reasons I started following you is because I love that you don't put your kids on the Internet. It's so refreshing and I love that you stand by that choice.
Love your content, it puts my brain in a happy productive zone đđ keep up the great work!
Oh my goodness! Gifts make me nervous too! As a family we give gifts to each other as they come in and say HappyâŠwhatever and on the day we donât actually have a gift to give except for Christmas
As someone who drinks almost exclusively decaf I would like to weigh in haha when the cold brew cold foam drinks first came out, I was bummed I couldn't get it (too much caffeine). But the barista suggested that the dupe for the cold foam cold brew was an iced americano with the cold foam/other add ins because the espresso can be decaf, but the cold brew cannot.
Hopefully this helps add context! I think it was just worded strangely.
Okay so subbing an iced decaf americano for a cold brew!! Okay that makes sense!!! Thank you!
Youâre literally my hero. Thank you for being you. Youâve given me the strengths and courage to keep moving forward
Amazing job Elyse!!! You should feel SOOO PROUD for cleaning that all in a day I could never do that
Hi Elyse! I so relate to you! "side quests" so funny! I just love your content! I'm actually super grateful I found your channel, I'm not alone! Love and Light to you as you challenge and conquer your "side quests"!
I appreciate this so much. I hope you weren't sick!
the decompression of snack after that was immaculate.
also relatable expierence, brains are silly!!
Thank you so so much for not blasting your sweet innocent babies all over the Internet! The "family" accounts where it is 99percent their children drive me crazy and make me so so sad for those poor babies..... They are supposed to be outside playing, not spending hours making a video for the parents to profit off of .... And there is just so much abuse out there..... I am sorry for my rant. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
I love you girl â€ïž
Crocs are the perfect gardening & camping/fishing shoes! I've only wore them in public when I've had to stop doing one of those things to get something from the store that's needed to continue the task.
Thank you for thst wonderful â€ïž explanation of your choice vs family choices and privacy . Love your realness
There were SO MANY moments that I went to like the video because it was too relatable and then Iâd realize Iâd already liked it. I need to be able to like it multiple times!! lol
1:54 thanks for showing people that kids should not grow up feeling like they canât be themselves because the world is watching them! And good for you for being a content creator and owning the fact that you are the only one in your family on camera! I love your videos by the way! â€
I love this so much. I always feel like I'm watching myself when I watch you đ€Ł
I love that so much for the both of us hahaha
@@elyse_myers right?! There's something liberating about it LOL. You're the best đ
The interesting tv bell curve is the same when knitting lace.
Also I volunteer to untangle your yarn so you donât have to cut it. Untangling yarn is my only true skill.
YOUâRE HIRED. On another day I might have had the patience to untangle it but I was so sick I couldnât be bothered. đ
@@elyse_myers I totally get it! Every time I get frustrated enough with a tangle to pick up the scissors I remember Iâm really bad at joining yarn and I hate weaving in ends, and that overrides the frustration at the tangle so I keep going.
All I can say is Iâm completely invested in all of this! đ„°
You're so great. Turned this on to clean and couldn't be more perfect
Good speech on kids on social media for people who have careers. Much respect. AlsoâŠ.you are just relaxing to watch. đ
GOOD FOR YOU!!!! On everything generally but especially on keeping your kids offline. That was a perfect synthesis of the reasons why
Your content is just so relatable and I love it. Too entertaining to watch while multitasking for sure :D
Jonas hit it out of the park, that bag is AWESOME! 100% not an every day carry kind of thing, but lugging back and forth from work stuff? Perfect!
The shots in the beginning of you in every room with you in the middle and just the background changing?? Brilliant!! So well done đđ»
me and u are so similar in the ways we process & make piles & rush around haphazardly đđ i almost died when u were analyzing the book characters coffee order, i agree it made no sense đ
u inspired me to struggle clean my bedroom, thank u bestie
"I wanna paint that" to then seeing the painting in your other video was so cool!!!
I support you and your choices! You do you and donât let other sway you! đđ»
Elyse! I just watched your agoraphobia shopping video and Iâm so happy for you! I havenât gotten an on record diagnosis because I feel like Iâm unable to talk to anyone but my old therapist rn (who talks to me off record but no longer takes my insurance) and she says I have agoraphobia! Iâve been struggling so bad with it since 2022. a lot had happened long before then, but in 2022 I had my son (which was a blessing and is the reason Iâm still here) but had an emotionally chaotic and also high risk pregnancy. barely left my house for the last 2 years, and I truly view everytime I do leave my house as a victory. A lot of people donât understand us or why itâs so hard but I get it and Iâm so proud of all the things youâre doing rn!â€ïžđ„ș (also I freak out about being pregnant all the time and I havenât even been âactiveâ in months
This was so relatable. Thank you for always being genuine.
Thank you for respecting your kids and allowing them independence and autonomy!
your editing and bloopers are so top tier đâ€
I feel seen! Elyse I enjoy your vision sooooo much â€
I definitely used this as motivation to start cleaning and got loads done. Thank you!!
Can I just say this might be my favorite video you have ever done?
YES! I love that you are giving your children the privacy they deserve. Good for you! They can make a choice when they are able if they want to be in the public eye.
Re: the letter beads - tiny little organizing tasks are the _most_ fun - but you spend all day doing it, and at the end it looks like nothing has been done lmao
Moving taks like Cleaning the house gets a podcast/music. Stationary tasks like folding laundry or dishes i get to watch shows. Thats the only way i can get things done lol
That EXACT moment in Just for the Summer got me stuck too! đ
Your content is so fun and feel good. Thank you so much đ„°
The loading bar when you did the classic ADHD running in all directions because you didn't know what you wanted to do next. đAlso, I would've 100% succumbed to watching the show or organizing beads. PS: That crochet bag is really cute, you should finish it.
Yes. We do. We do need to clean. Thank you for this ADHD body double, perfectly timed. Chefs kiss.
I can interpret the coffee order because I think it is the same thing I do! It is a decaf americano because no one makes decaf cold brews, but they got the exact same flavors and toppings as the original cold brew drink.
Ohhhhh like a decaf iced americano instead of a cold brew?? Okay that makes sense!!!
Exactly!
not me just putting on Elyse while I have my laptop screen tiled so I can track time bookkeeping and find myself taking twice as long because I did not consult the Cleaning Entertainment ROI chart PRIOR. She's too interesting.
Hahahahha IâM HONORED THOUGH
This system is so incredible. I LOVE the graph
You are so creative and funny. I could literally watch you stare at a blank wall and Iâm sure it would still be entertaining lol. Thank you for being you and sharing your creativity with us.
Thank you for making me feel less unhinged for doing the same pregnancy test side quest in the middle of my workday a few months ago đ
I loved this video. And thank you for not using the pregnancy test anxiety outing as clickbait. I hope you feel better!
Yeah, I feel that. But when I'm cleaning I have to listen to music or something without images because the need to watch is too strong in me. Even if it's something I've watched before, I have to know everything that's going on. I might catch something, I didn't the first two playthroughs. Watching this makes me feel like I really need to go check myself for adhd.
Hey Elyse , fellow ADHDâer here⊠I giggled watching you clean only because I can fully relate.
I donât know if youâll see this, but I wanted to tell you keep doing what youâre doing. I also have Anxiety & OCD, and watching your videos makes me feel not soâŠ. Alone. Or weird. Your videos are like comfort food when I need to not feel so out of place. Thank you đđŒ
Just a shout out to say hellođ and see how you're doing. Know you haven't felt well. Also, find comfort in knowing that if you are not feeling like you, that's par for the course as an Empathic Sensitive such as yourself. The planet as a whole is unwell right now while we are shifting out of the dense sludge of the old world as we fully step into the new one. You are not alone, beautiful soul! â€
I CANNOT clean without my headphones with my favorite music playing! Dancing while cleaning is motivating.đ
Wow, I relate to this so much, especially the piles but not the pregnancy scare! đ€Ł also I missed seeing you on TikTok but so happy to see you here. đ„°
So Beautiful! I love that you stopped to take a picture of the wall. You helped me cook!
I always feel like I need to strap myself in for a wild ride with your videos. I laugh, I cry, I relate to many of your feeeeeeelings. I legitimately have a big list of things to do that I've slowly crossed off. What's left? 4 items that have to do with cleaning. I don't have ADHD, and find it a struggle, so I feel ya, honey- the struggle is REAL. Procrastination has haunted me from birth- I was born late. LOL I'm so happy I caught this video before I decided to tackle my cleaning mission. Fingers crossed that I am able to tackle at least one of the four items to completion without getting too distracted. Thanks for always being so real. (Now back to your video! ) EDIT: Finished the video- you land in the too entertaining in the ROI for me đand I hope you don't have strep throat, and if you do, I hope you are feeling much better now! xo
This worked in reverse for me: I was supposed to be getting ready to go out (dressing, hair, makeup, etc) but watching you clean had me tidying my bathroom and putting things away. Luckily, traffic wasn't too bad so I was only 3 minutes late to where I needed to be. Thank you!