THREE TIPS to deal with GOSSIP: how to survive the rumor mill
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- Being the target of malicious gossip can be difficult. I've learned this the hard way. If it happens to you, it's important to not make things more difficult for yourself than they already are. In this episode, I'll discuss three tips to navigate this situation more effectively. They're not easy pills to swallow, but they can help you find some measure of peace in a difficult circumstance.
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Being the target of malicious gossip can be difficult. I've learned this the hard way. If it happens to you, it's important to not make things more difficult for yourself than they already are. In this episode, I'll discuss three tips to navigate this situation more effectively. They're not easy pills to swallow, but they can help you find some measure of peace in a difficult circumstance.
Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
Podcast available of Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and others.
See the "About" tab for more information on donations and consultations.
Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com
To your friends, no explanation is needed. To your enemies, no explanation is possible.-Roman Proverb.
I think when people are gossiping about you, they are usually jealous and envious. My Grandma used to say “it’s when people stop talking about you, you have to worry.”
Not true. Most people gossip because they have a toxic personality and this is how those personality traits manifest. Sometimes it does have to do with jealousy but majority of the time it's because they are toxic people at the current time in their life
You forgot that a female mind is sensitive to attention and lack there of
To a woman (on an instinctual level) "when people stop talikg about you" is "when people don't care of you/your children starve to death"
It's perspective and naught but
@@v.s.4166 That's true, but a lot of men exhibit female behaviors. I think is because of hormone imbalances caused by poor diet, plastic food containers, lack of exercise, and obesity. Females don't benefit from too much estrogen either.
@@gordongray9166 I agree with them being toxic. If someone is gossiping to you, they will gossip about you. You need to be extremely careful about sharing information with anyone who can't keep their mouth shut. In fact, even when if you don't give them any information, they will make shit up just to stir up drama. They're attempting to manipulate through triangulation, and by creating flying monkeys. I'd steer clear.
Or they just want to "fit in" with gossipery
As the former victim of a rumor campaign, I completely agree that nobody cares about the truth, even if you've got evidence.
Totally agree! Nobody wants to hear the truth. Even when they talk bad about you because you are allegedly a bad person. They wouldn't even want you to be a good person. Actually hate you more for being a good person
"People don't care about the truth".
Explains a lot about what happened 3 years ago..
I have had a lifetime of gossips telling lies about me. People either love or don't. But what I've found when I look a little deeper... The people who like me are happy, secure, confident... The people who don't are none of those things.
Excellent points. People usually don't change their opinions about someone barring something shocking or drastic, and also people in general would rather hear negative stuff about a person than positive if coming from a neutral position. People enjoy feeling superior and gossip momentarily allows that. My attitude ( and it's not easy to develop because we all can be hurt or angered by people's opinions) unless you're paying me, or sleeping with me your opinion of me is irrelevant. It's not easy to develop this because we want to operate cohesively within society, but sometimes we have to ignore emotions and apply logic. Always ask yourself " does this persons negative opinion of me have repercussions beyond hurt pride and bruised ego or reputation?" If the answer is no, and usually it is, then just say who cares. 50 years, or most likely less, we'll all be dead so other people's gossip is a blip on eternity.
Summary：
1. People don't really care about the truth.
2. Your reputation is not under the domain of your control.
3. Others already moved on.
Move on with your true friends.
Haha! I've said this before, I work in a very toxic work environment and I'm currently in school. I've been the target of gossip from not only my co-workers, the owner, my direct boss and even the HR human resources coordinator. The gossip has been anything from why does she dress in black sometimes is she a goth? To how come she does not want children or marriage, to all she cares or talks about is money. Yeah, considering that I'm working in sales I would think that was the point. haha! To even people saying that I was crazy because I'm not in the it group. On Thursday I had a meeting with my boss in which he told me I'm a unique individual who does not make an effort to be part of the group. Well guess what my professors are all in the medical field or scientist and I'm at the top of my class. Yes, little old me is at the top of her class, I plan to graduate with honors. So, at this point I don't really care what a bunch of messed up drug taking, low self-esteem people who feel miserable about their life think about me. I'm going places in life and very happy with my progress.
Why don't you want children or marriage?
@Shaun Hunter IT I just never had the urge or want for the responsibility that comes with raising children. Marriage don't like to engage in contracts.
@Shaun Hunter IT Kinda off! I've been extremely intuitive. Like beyond what's normal.
@Shaun Hunter IT What you're describing are called premonitions. Yes, I've had them as well and even more intense things.
Exactly the right attitude. You go be your best self and achieve. Im dealing with toxic people right now in food/bev and I just have to keep my eye on my future.
My advice, not advisable in every circumstance, but if you can take what people say about you and you magnify it, it shows them you don't care, and lessens the weight of whatever negative impression they had of you. If you defend yourself, you look bad. If you magnify the claim, it makes you look confident while making the original claim look silly.
This is similar to Epictetus's advice. Say: "If they really knew me, they could say much worse."
So true. People only want to hear what they like to hear. Truth is out the window.
I agreed with the "bullies" and fueled the rumors 😂 - I didn't care what other people thought of me. As long as I knew the truth 😊
Once again, very correct, sir! Like most things, it's not about trying to "win people over" or "get them to understand", it's about being indifferent, because you cannot control what people think or do in the first place; if someone has decided they have an opinion of you, then that's that. Move on.
I agree with you however I think there is a time when you need to take legal defamation action. Some gossip is so very damaging to people's careers and in extreme cases people can cause extreme harm e.g. false gossip that someone is a sex offender etc.
This was one of the most useful advice I've ever had. And I'm 57, so... damn.
Key rule for someone who starts gossip is to make the gossip what others want to believe
So true! Someone convinced against their will is of the same opinion still.
Very true. I am a target of much malicious gossips from ill-meaning colleagues who are trying to get rid of me, and a very devious manager who is very insecure and keeps trapping me into no-win conversations and subject me to constant abuse every day. I keep hearing things that aren't accurate about me, but what can I do? I learnt the hard way that no matter what I say, it does not change anything, because if people have ill intentions, they... have ill intentions. This working environment is simply toxic after I have some sort of seniority in the workplace. One thing I realise is, in my country at least, seniority at the workplace must come with support from your bosses. Most people who are doing well in their career because they join their mentors wherever they go. Otherwise, without a boss that backs you no matter what, they will succumb to the gossips and sabotage and you're likely to be on the lookout within a matter of months.
It's a sick truth: "If people aren't talking about you, you're not doing anything important." Gossip is pure poison, but many people find solace in their unhappy lives by gossiping about others. It stings and can cause psychological damage if one internalizes what is being said about them. Don't internalize, no matter how much the gossip stings.
Thank you Dr Orion. I'm always inspired by your videos. Gossip mongers want attention. Sometimes the best way to handle gossip is to cut it dead. Gossips are sometimes trying to cause us distress, so if we get upset we're giving them exactly what they want. Discretion is often the wisest course of action.
Great tips. Once it happened to me in university, that everybody thought, that I have punched three women. There was nothing I was able to do about it and my closest friends took this opportunity to make themselves more popular and make more rumors. I did not invest the time to look out for others, to see who my real friends were as my little friend group turned against me and I couldn't know possibly, who was on my side, so I just moved universities.
This one hits close to home, I went through a very difficult brakeup and we had mutual friends. They didn’t want to pick sides which ultimately made things very difficult when we all (the ex included) hung out. They got very tired of me being upset and a few said I was just as bad and brought it on myself. I find that hard to take in when I was cheated on in a very messed up way, which perhaps naively I chose to ‘forgive’ and work on. That did not end well as it turns out. A lot more there. So some time went by and the friends effectively ghosted me, even after I knew something was up and we’d spent less and less time together. I tried so hard to say I was really struggling with my emotions and acting in ways that weren’t really me. One friend reached out to wish me a happy new year and I replied the same but no conversation followed. I didn’t feel like it was on me to keep chasing these people I once thought were close friends. I wonder if anymore will reach out or if I should, I often see a few of the ‘nicer’ ones watching my social media but never reaching out. It’s left me feeling very confused with all the mixed messages. Would love some advice as it still feels quite fresh and has left a pretty big void in me.
My two cents. Just give people time and space, as well as that for yourself. When you try to get answers to why people are suddenly ghosting or acting weird, you'd rarely get the truth even if they responded. Relationships with people are fleeting and though nobody wants to feel alienated, if you give enough time and space between the current feelings you'll eventually find resolve. And if these people never return to your life or in the same capacity, realize its just a chapter that ended. Remember some kids in the 3rd grade that might've upset you at the time? Their memory is a distance mirage, you forged ahead and can do so with this situation. 20 years from now you might only vaguely remember the people that you fret over now. Always look forward in life
I'm in the very similar situation. 10 years relationship, she cheated the last 3 years with a very close friend of us. While we tried for a baby. When she fell pregnant, she did not know who the father was. So... regarding the messed up side of things... I feel you. He had a partner as well, who is a very close friend to me, if not the closest. Our common circle of friends is roughly 10 people. All in commited relationships btw. Unpacking this stuff, led to learning a lot about cheating and the motivation of cheaters. :)
So with my most of my "friends" it turned out, that they wanted to act like Swizerland - all neutral, no picking sides. I was kind of expecting it, because I got good advise in from an outside friend who lived through this situation before. You can force them to pick sides, but you have to prepared to lose them over it. Also, *by not picking sides, they kind of picked sides already.* And it's not your side unfortunately - that's what you are sensing right now. Imho, that way it's just a softer blow that leads to a longer death struggle... let them go. You may leave a door open, but don't count on them coming back.
A few things helped me to process this situation:
1. "Accept, then act."
Simple as that. *ACCEPT* what happened. You can't change it. You can't bargain. It's done. Understanding this might take a lot of weight from your shoulders. You didn't break the porcelain. You won't pick it up. It's not your pile of shards. You'll walk away and let them deal with it.
*ACT* accordingly to what you are seeing. Not to what people say, but to what you see them DO. Don't be afraid to come over as unthankful, cold or hostile. Straighten your back. You have every right to be upset about the behaviour of your (former) friends. You shouldn't get emotional when you speak with them and this issue comes up. But be clear and firm. You can (and should) speak out hard and unpleasant truths in a polite and calm manner. Outline your standpoint, your limits and the consequences of their behaviour. For example: I said to one of my friends, that he won't get specific life updates about me anymore for so long as he and his wife keep talking to my ex. Because I cut contact with her and I don't want her to be part of my life by hearsay. So he understood that his "not picking sides" comes with a price tag.
2. "As you make your bed, you must lie on it."
You are right with your assessment: it's not your job to chase after your "friends". What puzzled me the most (when everything was still fresh) was that so many of my friends would choose two blatant liars and cheaters to stay in their inner cirlce. See, they did not only betray their partners. Since we were all close friends, they also betrayed their friends. For everybody to see. The whole circle shattered to pieces because of them. We know each other for 20 years and used to go on vacation together every year. All gone now, not for a few holiday seasons, but FOREVER. It is beyond me, how someone would choose a person as a confidant who already proved to the world that he/she is not trustworthy and willing to backstab friends on a whim. They must think that they are kind of immune because it did not hit them this time. They don't understand, that it was by pure chance and not because their friendhip to the cheaters is something special. What people often don't understand about liars is, that there is no in-group, no inner circle. Liars lie to everybody. So if they stick to the liars, they'll have it coming, sooner or later. And that's why I feel no sympathy for those people. Which in turn, *makes it a lot easier to leave them behind.*
3. External validation
At some point I thought it was me who is wrong. That I would be the sour loser, talking bad about the cheating asshats. What pulled me out of this mindset were the (very few) friends who took my side w/o hesitation. Who reassured me, that what the cheaters did is a capital sin among friends and that they gambled away all the credit and trust to their name. So they cut contact without batting an eye. To be fair though, not every bond is the same and the ones who stuck with me, were closer to me than to anyone else to begin with. It still counts. I got to keep the good friends and the cheaters got to keep the spineless.
TL;DR:
If there is a good take away message for you, let it be this. Be glad that your ex took all the other "bad apples" out of your life along with her. It's not a set back, it's a bonus.
Sorry for the wall of text. I hope I helps in some way or the other. Take care.
@@modickens1272 Hey Mo, it’s been around 9-10 months since everyone stopped talking to me and since it’s coming up to almost a year (and the aforementioned friend wishing me a happy new year) it brought everything up again. I’ve definitely used the time for myself, to put time into other friendships but I will admit I find it hard to let go. I think I understand why they decided to give up on me, however I did my best to explain I was depressed, acting out etc. It seems in their eyes the acting out was too egregious even after telling me things were actually ok and it wasn’t that big a deal. Sometimes I wish I’d told more people in the group how heartbroken I was and it made me act like an idiot, maybe that way they’d be more understanding. You make a good point, as I’ve gotten older I understand that logic more and more however it’s still very difficult to be left in such a way. Especially after getting out of a toxic relationship, after how close I thought we were. For them to just let it end with a whimper doesn’t sit well with me. So for now I’ll do what I’ve done, essentially following your advice. If they are willing to talk I’d be willing to listen and give my perspective but I don’t foresee that happening. I think everyone has already moved on, strange that a few still watch me from afar though.
@@PussInBoot414 I understand. Ive lost many a friendship over nothing. People tend to only remember the flaws of a person versus the good. Even friendships that didn't end badly just to seem to fade away. In my experience I learned I was expecting a validation from them that I meant something or had value despite the flaws. And I learned that was pointless. Never allow someone to dictate your value based on their warped perceptions. Sure, you'll hurt and even after a year a grudge might still exist, or even longer. Hurting and being angry is normal just continue to do it in silence. People want to justify their perceptions so if you reached out and explained your feelings most likely it'd make them feel superior and that they are still in the judgment seat. I read a lot of biographies and Johnny Carson when someone shunned him or angered him cut them off, never speaking again. Bette Davis never spoke to her daughter again after the tell all book she wrote. It doesn't mean they didn't hurt it just meant they had a set of principles and stuck with them, not allowing emotions to get the best of them. When someone acts like they don't want your company see to it they don't get it unless they come with an apology. In regards to cheating, there's a saying " when a man steals your wife the greatest revenge is letting him keep her"
@@rainerminusunfug Hey Mori, that’s assuredly a heavy burden to bare. I’m sorry you had to go through all this. It’s hard enough when a relationship falls through but when friends are involved it’s even more complicated. The longer death struggle analogy seems to be apt, for a time me and the group actually grew closer. We went out a lot and partied together. However I couldn’t help but relate my sadness, frustration, confusion about my breakup and they, for the most part, weren’t bothered. They felt that since I had made some mistakes it was fair game. Also why pick when they could have the best of both. Some were more thoughtful than others but in the end it doesn’t seemed to have mattered. Two friends who were boyfriend and girlfriend broke up with fragment he group further still and another couple in the group never like me much as I believe there was some jealousy from the guy towards me in. What made it even harder whilst we all still hung out was that my ex would just show up out of the blue. That really felt like my feelings were not being heard by anyone. The fact that I had to sit all friendly and act like my ex hadn’t cheated on me, hadn’t been incredibly toxic and controlling for the remainder of our relationship. It really drove me quite insane.
Slowly but surely I decided to take steps backwards, I just couldn’t do it anymore. It was incredibly awkward when I bumped into three of the guys and they seemingly didn’t realise it was me. I messaged one of them (who had been more understanding) and he just denied it. After that I was at a loss. What confuses me now is that one of them wished me a merry Christmas and a happy new year after months and months of nothing. I half expected some kind of back and forth when I wished the same but nothing. Very perplexing, why even bother?
So I would say that your advice is incredibly succinct and I greatly appreciate it. It’s such a shame that this is such a common occurrence. After my breakup and losing the vast majority of my close friends it’s been a real up hill climb, especially after COVID and many other shitty things that happened, back to back. Yet we hadn’t been together anywhere near as long as you, your ex and your friends. I can’t imagine what it was like for you. From my perspective those that lie, cheat and connive are incredibly charismatic and/or intelligent. They are incredibly well trained at getting what they want. My ex clearly had narcissist traits, of course I can never know but it’s uncanny looking back. She was very good at playing the cute introvert but behind closed doors had mental issues, drug addiction, dark thoughts about herself and others juxtaposed with a extremely high self esteem. I tried not to air all my dirty laundry so I think I gave her more space to spin her own side of the story into the main narrative. When I stupidly let my depressed state get the better of me it probably aligned with her telling of how things went and what I was truly like. Due to this I also felt I was in the wrong, before and after the break. It was maddening. Looking back I tried so hard to fix everything. Sometimes with the other persons help it’s just going to end. I think what made it harder was my friends ditched me quite some time after everything, without any fan fair, after saying things were ok. It just confused the hell out of me. Especially when some watch my social media, why watch when I’m so bad?
I’ve tried to use the whole thing to grow but it’s tough, as I’m sure you know. I’d say I’ve got a pretty good grasp on everything but it’s good to talk to others and get perspective. I’m glad you could be so forthright and say what had to be said. Your friends and ex truly missed out if this is how you acted. Again thanks for the words and absolutely no need to apologise. It’s stuff like this that makes me realise we all go through very similar things and we can offer advice or at least listen to others. Same to you.
I rejected a girl for being untrustworthy. She destroyed my reputation in university.
Now I’m viewed as a sexual predator.
I still have friends but I don’t like to hang out with them because they also spend time with girls that see me as that guy. I’m having the hardest time concentrating because the rumors are still spreading and I would have to drop so much information to justify my behavior.
I guess I should just ignore it. Watch it unfold like a movie. But I have such a great need to explain myself whenever I’m in university. It’s so crazy unfair, it‘s comical.
Thanks for this video.. im dealing with this at my job now.
I'm in the middle of a gossip campaign as well, 5 rumors in the first 3+ months at this new job of mine at a forklift repair company, I am the service advisor and do lots of estimates for customers).
Gossip examples:
That i'm dating a guy there (we are actually former colleagues at a fidd work place) and sometimes he drops me home. He heard the gossip too. hat I don't want to say hi to this or that one, though I have work to do and cannot keep company to everyone when they want me to, etc etc etc.
I laugh about it because it sounds so stupid and far fetched. But I did notice something: they never ask me questions about my life, or if something is true or not about me. Never any questions. So yes, I concur, "they don't care about the truth". Otherwise, they would have asked questions so far. They've had many, many chances, and not 1 question asked. So, if they are indifferent, so am I.
But what I wanted to say is: Just imagine the attention these guys give to someone else (myself, in this case). Negative or positive, it is still attention. It's insane.
Also, my simple way of thinking is: i find it funny, I giggle a lot of times but say nothing because it will simply be denied; it reveals the true nature of some people, and it's such a waste of time for them - that time they waste gossiping, will never ever come back, it's forever lost.
No, I am not the only one they gossip about, they actually gossip about each other when one of them is missing a day of work, etc. Oh boy.
They are very indirect as a culture (though I asked them from the very beginning to try and be direct with me..........I guess they didn;t appreciate it or confuse being direct with being rude - very typical thinking in the North American culture I;ve been living in for the past 13 years), they are afraid to ask questions... anyway, they are weird Canadians, that's all there is to it.
Piece of advise: Do come home and take precise notes, with time and date that it happened and who said it; you never know when you have to save your own skin. Be smart and private about it.
Thank you very much for posting this. It's very helpful and true!
thank you sooo much for sharing this, so helpful, so liberating !!! 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing and sorry to hear this happened to you. Much love xo
All parties apart from yourself are hankering for a juice story to pass around. And that’s all it is a juicy story to entertain their drab boring lives.
As always, on point, J. I thank the universe for your existence.
Much love Dr Orion
This was such great advice and was exactly what I needed to hear and ponder on at this moment. Thank You from a dedicated follower who hopes you continue releasing such great content.
You enhanced my life! Thank you soooo much! I needed to hear that tremondiusly. Thanks again.
Sage wisdom.... going to apply this from now on 🙂
last tip was the best ty sir
Currently going through this. I work for a family owned laundry company. We had a new hire I thought she was very nice and trustworthy in the first few weeks of knowing her. I confided in her about some things that had transpired over my time here small things about the job and operations that bothered me a bit. Nothing serious. Once she became close and cushy with the company owners she started treating me differently and I noticed a change in her tone and attitude towards me. We’ve since hired more ppl and she has gossiped about me to all of them and now I feel so ostracized as they all give me the cold shoulder but laugh and get along with each other very well. I often them catch them whispering when I’m close by etc
It hurts especially because I’m not even given a fair chance to build relationships with new hires as she befriends them and the next thing I know they are acting distant toward me without me even having much interaction with them. It’s draining. 😒
You was target if a narc
@@juliechurch1799 ive gone through the same shit
Thanks for the content!
I don't care about rumours, I move on every time I find out.
Thank you gentlemen
One of your best..
The idea that one should turn the other cheek and accept that people are allowed to drag your name over the garbage dump is not an opption for me personally. They must be exposed and dealt with accordingly. Some gossip affects peoples lives forever and perhaps ruins their carreers and damages family life forever. Having said that... I once read a statistic that said 75% of the time people believe the 1st thing they hear about you. This is alarming . What I do now is upon meeting a group of peers or party goers, I tell them immediatley who I am . I usually say it with good humour and a smile but I get the point across.
My name is William, I am pleased to meet you , I work for so and so, I have a wife and 2 children, I've never cheated on my wife and haver never committed or have been convicted of a crime . You don't have to like me but I'm hoping you do. Please do not spread malicious lies and gossip about me but I will not accept such behaviour.
Usually with a smile and a chuckle we get along fine.
gossips is like cancer
thanks alot for ur wise words very much needed
You are soooooo right thank you 🙏
how to deal with bullies? please do a video
THANK YOU!!
Thank you.
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No doubt.
Fascinating
Thank you
Good people are gossiped about cos their got boring lives !
Thanks!
Respect.
There are 4 people in my AA group who will not talk to me, one accused me of stealing AA money, one accused me of stealing $800.00 from him, and the other guy was my sponsor who listened to this girl who hates me, she's been. She is the Queen Bee of the group and wanted to have a threeway sex thing with her boyfriend and I, I said no. Ever since then, several months possibly a year or more, every girl I talk to is turned against me. After I'm done talking with the a girl this Queen Bee will approach her and next thing I know is the new girl will not talk to me again. I guess I deal with it, but it is highly irritating because guys hear the bullshit and often stop talking to me.
All publicity is good publicity. Let the plebs pleb.
Maybe people care about truth but confirmation bias (based on what their pre-exising perception about you) decides what they think the truth is. In the presense of irrefutable evidence, everybody will agree on the truth.
It's hard, i want to be perceived as I am, I want to untangle misconceptions. I don't want to be entangled with the energy of people who interfere with my energy. Perhaps the better option is to own all the gossip as true, if not yet, soon.. then when EVERYONE is quantum entangled and you've exhausted your drive for everything, or existing in everything, then sever ALL those attachments, or ignite ALL those attachments
You are right, what you did won't work. You are not correct in concluding that since what you did didn't work that there isn't a way to deal with that situation. The way you deal with gossip in a manner that works is the exact opposite of what you did. Proceed as though the other party is acting in good faith. There are only two possible outcomes: 1. You didn't do the thing and earnestly addressing the issue while assuming you are somehow in the wrong will inherently cause other people to notice the reductio ad absurdum themselves if you stay on the topic long enough, and you can stay on a topic long enough by not challenging the other person's notions. 2. You actually did do the thing or the person isn't bright enough to see the reductio ad absurdum, at which point the other person either has to forgive you on the basis that you are trying to grow as a person or an explicit failure to forgive solves your problem because they just radically shrunk their social circle because nobody smart wants to align themselves with someone who won't show mercy, and their circle will shrink even more the next time they make a mistake and the group holds them to their own standards. It also addressing the item without an associated mission to "clear your name" allows it to be fully addressed and therefore "old news" without clearing your name. It is like resting with no defense at the social trial knowing that once you've side stepped the issue of guilt that if the jury has to re-contextualize the issue in terms of what the correct penalty is they will either give you a slap on the wrist or realize you are actually not guilty because no penalty that is available makes any sense and therefore the prior conclusion has to be in error.
If you care about an outcome then always play dumb. You either were dumb and now you see how you were dumb and are now right on the new topic the examination of the old topic, or you were not and other people will make the argument for you and be vested in that argument.
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Gangstalkers tell rumors about us TI's to get others to participate in our harassment.
Just block these people from your life & go on about your daily routine- remember gossip says more about the one spreading it than the victim of it-😊
not helpful.
I am a member of a fellowship ( AA ) only, where I live it is run as a clique and envy/gossip rules the entire region.
I stopped going. Which could result in harm to the alcoholics I could have helped. Also, isolation is not healthy for anyone.
I'll be ok and will move after I retire and resume meetings. It does really suck tho.
I know you probably won’t answer this but I can’t help but ask what the hell did they accuse you of? That sounded serious…
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I didn't hear any tips...
I just heared what is happening. But ok cool
Are you a psychologist? I'd like to talk to you? Because of this video.
I have to work on that. People don't care about the truth. And also that my name is something I can't control. Thank you for this.
I wonder what the rumors where about. Money, sex ,food, children, animals or drugs? The world, may never know.
Thats so irrelevant
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Learn to receive ALL affirmations, confirmations & convictions from the indwelling Holy Spirit in total allegiance unto Christ Jesus (wholeheartedly without compromise).
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Hebrews 5:7-9
Amplified Bible, Classic Edition
7 In the days of His flesh [Jesus] offered up definite, special petitions [for that which He not only wanted [a]but needed] and supplications with strong crying and tears to Him Who was [always] able to save Him [out] from death, and He was heard because of His reverence toward God [His godly fear, His piety, [b] in that He shrank from the horrors of separation from the bright presence of the Father].
8 Although He was a Son, He learned [active, special] obedience through what He suffered
9 And, [His completed experience] making Him perfectly [equipped], He became the Author and Source of eternal salvation to all those who give heed and obey Him,
Walk Above the City
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Bright lights and tired streets
We could get away
No time to even speak
Nothing to say
No rain or storms above
That could make us stay
Let's walk above the city
You and I
Flowers underneath us now
Towers underneath us now
We walk above the city
You and I
And we're breathing more
Than we ever have before
And it goes ooh, ooh-ooh
Cars are underneath us now
The stars are underneath us now
We walk above the city
You and I
Flowers underneath us now
The towers underneath us now
We walk above the city
You and I
And we're breathing more
Than we ever have before
And it goes ooh, ooh-ooh
Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Samuel Bentley
Walk Above the City lyrics © Wonderlick Pty Limited
Can you prove that God exists?
Your mythology isn't even on topic.
@@aA-ez1yy "For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:" ~ Romans 1:20
@@shaunhunterit342 you mean Zeus,or which God?so many of them
Crush the source of the gossip.