UM NO HE GOT microphones and a whole section for them to be on fucking CZcams This is exposing them in this video People are absolutely sick in the head How are you interviewing you children on CZcams about them not wanting and consenting to be on youtube sick ass ppl This absolutely wierd he is completely caught up in CZcams and still fucking doing exactly what he is talking about
Love your family but I am in ❤ with Uzi 🥰 Since the first video I saw of him getting upset because his siblings were leaving for school and he slapped himself 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@lovefitstudio The same conversation he had that resulted in him taking down 300 videos, and the conversation he had before uploading this video? Let’s think for a second
The pressure from the financial discussion might be a bit heavy for them. Kids don’t fully understand the nuances of finance so saying “this is how WE make money” might come off as “we’re going to be broke if I can’t film” and establish a lot of guilt. Just a thought.
I agree. It's been previously said, their family is beautiful but the older children are over it. It's our jobs as parents to provide. We can't guilt our children into helping us, they need to enjoy childhood and not feel bad about it
@@Kimberly-vc4loyea, I understand why he wanted to find this discussion, but the optics are probably a little different than intended. For instance, sharing that 300 videos were made private because they didn’t like them and having a conversation about how they are directly tied to paying their mortgage could make them feel guilty for making the decision and feel pressure to reverse the decision
I’m so happy you said this I noticed it in the previous one. It’s not fair on the children. This conversation is problematic, I can sense his frustration with the children, but I appreciate he is respecting their choices
Absolutely, the man's human. We're all figuring it out and it takes a village for a reason. No one of us has all the answers. Huge respects for sure. @@krissib3394
At their age, I would have told my parents to keep the cameras rolling, and i would have acted a ham in front of it. Then i would have hit my teen years and been MORTIFIED that my parents thought i was able to make that decision.
and then you’d be an adult and realize your parents had to grab a camera before every moment and you grew up constantly having a consciousness of a camera on you that affected your development and sense of yourself bc always seeing itself from the outside.
"How will you make money when we leave the house?" That's such an embarrassing and real question every child of a CZcamsr should be asking their parents. It's certainly something that that will be considered in courts in years to come.
This is not a fair conversation due to the relationship dynamics, you are father they are children (they love and respect you and as such could choose to suffer silently to help you, help them make money)… Let them speak to someone outside of you and mom then you may really hear their heart. I understand what dad is trying to accomplish but it’s not a black and white situation. Thank you for loving them❤
The irony of talking to the kids about filming with a film crew and people watching them on CZcams live is crazy to me. On top of that asking if anyone makes them uncomfortable while in mixed company on CZcams live was out of bounds. This conversation should happen one on one in private. I don’t think the kids want to be on camera esp the older two. Theo clearly does not and was looking to his younger brother and referencing some conversations they may have had. I think Theo is more reserved and over it and Uriah does not like being embarrassed. The kids want to be kids.
If you watch the last video he did of just himself, you will know that they did have these conversations off camera and that resulted in him taking down 300 videos. Then they were sitting around viewing old videos, and the kids were asking him why he doesn't make them mlany more. So he decided to put this on camera as part of the channel addressing parents and children and their relationships, as well as to keep people from claiming that he forces them to do things.
This conversation is toxic! Uriah already has well grasped understanding how significant their participation in these videos are. He wants out. Fair play Sharing financials with a child, is of no benefit to the child at all, in fact in this situation it’s manipulative. I felt said for the kids tbh, as this forced labour situation potentially can create a weird dynamic between those who film and those who don’t. There was so much about this that I found uncomfortable. I think the best way to have this conversation is with a trained therapist. As I child I can’t imagine how it must feel to be at home and filming all the time, similar to one of the kids said. Talking to children like adults is it, they don’t have the emotional capacity to understand and respond in an adult like way. As they are children. Create your own content or here’s another perspective is glens self worth dependent on his childrens ability to perform as it generates revenue. All the best with books, but does everything or a lot of what the children create have to be turned into a business venture. Tbh, I’m becoming less and less amused by performative parenting.
@@amandarecoveryjones8216 I wanted to say this but didn't know how to. To even post this conversation between him and the children knowing full well they want privacy. It's just so when they are 16 and pissed he can show them and others this to say they consented. Fully manipulative if you ask me.
sorry but y’all sound stupid. this is a genuine conversation between him & the kids. he knows his kids & do you really think he doesn’t value or respect his kids wishes? he deleted 300+ videos solely based on the wants of his kids. if his kids are expressing that they want to begin making videos again then ofc he’s gonna go with that & as he explained to them at any point they can change their minds. y’all are too old to sit here trying to dissect & find negativity. just go watch another channel, save your negativity
This dad has built up his family’s income and lifestyle whilst working with his family. There are real life consequences to these kids not doing these videos he’s giving them the real consequences.
Imma keep it a buck with you bro…I was on the fence about hearing how this channel might change/whether the usual videos should continue, but after seeing this and your earlier explanation video without the kids I have to say: please just let your children enjoy their family without it being a financial/business obligation. Home is the one place we should all feel comfortable enough to be our truest selves, without exposure to the world. And the unfortunate truth is that whenever you film your children and post it you are exposing their private feelings, experiences, and memories to the world. That is a stressful reality for anyone to grapple with! We see ADULT creators breakdown and take breaks and walk away all the time because the pressure or lack of privacy they get when they choose to make social media their livelihoods. Imaging that pressure on a growing kid, a preteen, who is already going through the emotional instability/self-consciousness that we alllll know too well comes with puberty and growing up overall; and they didn’t even make the choice ti begin with. I think your intention with this channel was always well-meaning; but take it seriously when it starts to affect your loved one’s feelings (even if your intentions are good!). Other comments have explained it much better than me but yeah I just beg of you to put your family’s feelings first and accept your responsibility as the parent to provide for them, not at their expense (and that includes emotional expense). I really do think moving away from the screens and taking your family to counseling is much better than hashing this out with the very problem (the internet) anyway. Hope you are well.
Beautifully articulated my friend. I'm not going to tell this man how to live, nor am I going to tell him how to parent his lovely children, but I must stress that every choice basically has a price. . . Children and adults alike make decisions somewhat based off their preconceived understandings of potential ramifications found in said choices. . . Unfortunately sometimes we are simply wrong with those understandings and pay dearly. Much love from DownUnder ❤️
Hey, as much as I have enjoyed your content over the years and appreciated you showing the lessons you have learnt, I have to keep it real. There’s a reason why there is an age of consent. Children are not able to have persepective or stable consciousness to give any consent. There could be so many reasons why they changed their mind. It could be that sensed disappointment surrounding the decision made, it could be that they were worried about the money troubles (overheard a conversation, the mere mention of money and lack making them scared, they want and need to be accepted by you and there for do what they know you want to do). Of course, you would not initially think that a family vlogging is wrong, because you are attached to it, there are amazing memories and its how you make your bread and butter. There seems to be so much connecting you to vlogging that it can obscure your view. Even though you say you have shielded them from the ‘money stress’, Uriah still asked how money will be made maybe showing how that he thinks about financial security in the form of having a home, wanting to keep having nice things. They may feel pressure to make the vlogs good since you mentioned that when you cut all their bits out, the vlogs are boring. I think if they have voiced they don’t want to be on camera publicly or feel uncomfortable, that is what should go. The 2 youngest are in no position to make that decision for themselves. I think protecting the family means taking them off social media for the simple fact that they have communicated that. The financial pressure is caused by you choosing to commodify your family so now as a byproduct of this, family interest and financial interest will be in conflict sometimes. This may not be expressed explicitly by you but it can 100% be felt in communication under currents. You would be surprised how much kids pick up and how they connect the dots better than us sometimes, how much truth they see. They can feel how much stress that you may not even vocalise and this can affect the decision-making in which you could feel is fully informed. You seem to be conflating two issues that can be separated and therefore you are misrepresenting this argument to your children, you can make videos and keep them private for the children and your income doesn’t not have to be dependent on the publication of these videos. As a parent and an adult you have the responsibility to act in the best interest of your kids. Hope you guys here me, can’t imagine how difficult this is.
Exactly 💯 . It came off low key manipulative to me since he mentioned the money. I don’t feel that should be a topic the kids should have even knew about. That alone can put pressure on the kids to change their mind out of guilt.
It is definitely clear that, even though father says, otherwise, he is eager to make the videos. Simply put, these children have no ability to consent as their minds and brains are too young and under developed to be able to fully grasp the possible ramifications of such exposure to their peers.
@@deborahcavenaugh8478 I can’t imagine how much it would catch me off guard and leave me feeling exposed if I was recognised from the internet as a kid.
Dude is a horrible person he just fuckin interviewed his kids about asking for permission to to be on you tube FOR CZcams TO SEE This video is up there with child grooming in my opinion why Tf would you interview your kids for fucking thousands of ppl to see acting as if you care about their consent while still monetary gaining without their full consent because THEY ARE CHILDREN He is actually caught up in a way deeper then what he understands himself.... Addiction its turns you selfish and completely ignorant ... He developed a disease and cant even see it These kids told him they not with whats ben happening in their life's and stated well articulate reasons...This man went straight to CZcams and told exactly what the kids told him as a private conversation and made it public the fucking interviewed them as if they were adults THEY JUST TOLD YOU IT WASNT KOOL AND YOU STL DID IT...what if when they are recognized again and get made fun of for basically messing with the families income or being scared to be in camera or anything else This is ass backward and he totally treats them like a business and not a family HE INTERVIEWED HIS DAMN KIDS IN A CORNER WITH A BACK DROP, MICROPHONES, AND CHAIRS SICK MOTHER BLEEP
This is a complex topic and @raerae you did a good job summarizing the same concerns that I myself had. However, the kids could turn into adults who appreciate everything that their parents did including the videos. I’m just going to trust that the parents are making the best decision for their family and their children. I’m sure we would all agree that they love their children enough to have the conversation. I absolutely wish them the best no matter the decision they make!
Maybe the kids just like to watch their videos in a "home video" sort of way. Your kids are clearly so brilliant, bright, and smart. But it may not be fair to tell them that their involvement in the videos has such an effect on your family's income, as well as employee's income, and their entire future in general. I can picture myself feeling obligated to make videos if someone told me so many things were riding on that. I wish you guys happiness and good luck.
It's called being transparent with them. If their mom decided to go back to teaching or if she needed to that would impact them, by her absence. Their lives may change as their platform changes. All the kids need to consider what that may look like.
But he did say he had other streams of income lined up, when the kids asked, and he made it clear that they could change their minds at anytime. IMO if this was a different family i would share your concern, but based on what I've seen from this family, I can tell the kids have a say, on and off camera.
He also explained involvement doesn't always have to be in front of the camera. It's no different than chores. Everyone has to contribute to the running of the household.
@@josmith8233i don’t agree with this i feel that a decision so big shouldn’t be placed on the shoulders of 6, 7 8 year olds. when your that young and u think most children no matter the age have it ingrained in them that they have to please their parents, even if this means doing something you don’t want to do. i feel like either the knowledge that they’re so much riding on these videos they may now feel forced into making them, despite them not truly wanting to. i understand he’s trying to be transparent but i don’t think in his instance transparency with garner a true reaction
This was CRINGE! I love ya'll but what it looked like, was you trying to still convince them to continue to film, that's why they asked how would YOU make money if they quit. Telling them about how all the people working there would lose their jobs and how the business makes money is putting pressure on them , even if they are not telling you right now. Theo looked defeated and like he was saying whatever you wanted to hear, just end the conversation. It seemed like the kids like being recorded because if they don't participate they can't be in the room, and no one wants to be excluded from family activities. Theo tried to remind Uriah about what he obviously told him off camera, but Uriah wants to please Dad. When he said consent is saying yes even if you're embarrassed , that broke my heart. It tells me that he has felt embarrassed by some of the videos but is saying yes anyway. If you want to record them for your families consumption only, that's one thing, but it seemed very obvious that they older boys are not liking it but feel pressured to go along with it. Theo literally flipped from a no to yes in this video. Kids will often tell parents what they want to hear if you ask them enough times and it seems like this has been a conversation that they know they cannot fully win. If it's truly your intention to not force them or for them to have resentment later, then you should really think about accelerating your other projects and save the recording for family time only. As I said before, I love your family and have enjoyed watching them for years, but this video was just sad. It really looked like you pressuring them and trying to make them feel responsible for adults losing their jobs. Not good , not good at all.
Wow all I can say is u truly wrote everything that my heart was feeling. ♥️🙌🏼🙏🏼😢 After watching the whole video twice I prayed about it. I think the parents are great parents overall, but something just wasn’t sitting right in my spirit and you my friend hit the nail on the head. God bless you for truly sharing from your heart what needed to be said. ❤🙏🏼 Pack up the video camera, find a different way to make money be present 155% with your kids and go live in the present moment, not in front of a camera for the world to watch and comment.
@@celvil1848 Thank you for this. I felt bad at first about writing it and was upset so I got off the computer for a few minutes and was talking to God. I do that when I am upset. When I got back online a video of Uriah was on my feed. He was sitting in the living room minding his own business, just singing to himself, when he turned around and saw a camera had recorded him in that moment. He laughed sheepishly and then the camera was on Glen saying he was disappointed in his son being a Swifty. Even though he was joking, I found the post upsetting. It was confirmation for me that I should not remove my comment. Uriah did not consent to being filmed. Someone had sneaked up on him in a moment where he was at peace just singing to himself, innocent and free. That moment was stolen and he became the butt of his fathers emasculating joke. Was Glen joking, yes, but Uriah is a child and could easily take that comment wrong and something that he could be teased about by other boys, was still up on the internet. This video had over 10,000 views. I think the pressure of the "family business" is possibly blinding Glen to the fact that this stuff is deeper than likes and money and I hope he will take to heart and look deeper than the bills and the business.
The oldest kid.... Don't wanna be on camera. But he don't want to be excluded from the family fun momens either..... He just wants to enjoy his family and be free to be silly with family and Not have a camera in his face for the world to see and scrutinize. And then dad brings up the money issue... Indirectly puts pressure on these kids. Even though dad said I can find another way to make money. The money issue should not even enter the conversation... As a matter of fact, this whole conversation should be amongst them and not us the viewers.
100% agree! In the last video where their father talked about this, he said that if they don't want to be in videos, they will have to work behind the cameras. The fact of the matter is, that sends a message that they can either work behind the cameras or in front of the cameras but this family's quality time together is now mostly work? Does not seem fair to them. Their parents are talented, interesting people who can SURELY make a good income doing other things rather than posting their children online.
I'm wondering what happened. In both this video and the one after it, he was really emphasizing the, "I want to renew our invitation to follow us" and near pleading for us to like the video. He low-key came off frustrated when he took a look at how many likes they had was visibly bothered by the number. Then he seemed like he was defending his parenting, which, if you know you're not any of the things people seemingly said about you, there's nothing to defend. Especially since the vast majority of us seem to admire him as a father. But the other red flags no one seems to be mentioning, he used an anecdote of Theo telling him he's spending too much time working and he needed to spend time with his family, another of Yvette asking, "Do we have a family business or is our business the family?" add that to his admission of abandonment issues and it speaks volumes about where the energy and focus was and could be again if left unexamined.
I dont think talking about the finances in that detail was wise. It feels like the kids understand that the lifestyle they live relies on them being on camera and the get the implications and gravity of pulling out of that, impacting their ability to make an authentic choice. I’m not sure their true feelings can be honoured now that they know that context, that the money is for them and their future, and that their home relies on it. Those are big things for those babies to hold! I love this channel, I think it’s really beautiful that you show such honest, heathy, parenthood and a family dynamic, and perspective of black fatherhood I think it’s beautiful, and I like how the video started with this openness, but idk about this right here, something isn’t sitting right with me.
Mentioning how they wanted to remove the funny parts out which makes the content boring and discussing the impact of losing income can make them feel guilty. They might feel like they need to please you and give you an answer you’d like to hear for fear of disappointment. Do they understand that strangers including their friends at school are seeing this content? Do they know videos can be deleted but a digital footprint is forever? Do they know that they are loved unconditionally regardless of their choices? It’s not an easy conversation but you’re headed in the right direction.
You need to watch the other video he posted explaining the reason why he deleted over 300 videos. He is doing the best he can to respect the kids understanding exactly this point. He is having this open conversation and also sharing it with us which he didn’t have to. 300 are hours of memories, footage that took hours and money to make when he didn’t know there will be issues. The kids just don’t want to be bullied or be recognized for a video or moment that embarrass them by friends in school. I don’t know one parent with a family vlog that have done this and openly. He deserves our support, respect not more judgment.
I feel like the son on the right might be saying he doesn’t mind being in a funny video if it’s not embarrassing him. He likes to be funny, but he doesn’t want to be laughed AT. It would be a fine line and as they grow they’ll probably change their mind several times. You’re doing great starting this conversation with them. 😊
That’s not what he said though. He said he just wants the video to be funny. He seems to have understood that his and Theo’s input (asking for parts to be deleted) hindered the end product from being funny. There *are* people, comedians and actors for example, who would do whatever’s necessary to get the laugh. This is a trait that can pop up/develop in childhood. I believe this is what Riah was expressing. He knows to some degree, that he can and will get over the brief moment of embarrassment. Theo, however, is the one who seems hesitant and not fully on board with filming again. He also seems more wary of potential embarrassment. He’s older and generally the one that experiences new things without guidance or witnessing someone else do it first-to have an idea of how to avoid embarrassment. (As a first child, I can relate to that. I also know other first or only-children that are the same).
The eldest son‘s body language tells me otherwise…… I feel the other kids are really happy go lucky they don’t mind, but my eyes keep going back to the eldest son he keeps looking down. His body language is withdrawn he’s just playing with the toy in his hand. There’s something going on for him, and I truly pray that he’s able to express his feelings openly and freely. ❤❤ You are all a beautiful family unit God bless navigating this next chapter. 🙏🏼
ehhh idk. Theo has always seemed very thoughtful and introspective. I feel like he said just how he felt. But yet and still, maybe he was thinking about the entirety of the conversation. Maybe he was thinking about himself getting older and if his feelings would change about the whole thing. Maybe he was just taking it all in because he seems to take things seriously. Idk! It's all very nuanced...as was the whole conversation. It's just all nuanced.
Idk…. but I do that a lot when I’m having conversations with people and seem withdrawn and don’t look at people at all and it doesn’t mean I’m paying attention but it’s how I pay attention.. and that’s because I do have adhd but I’m not saying he is because he is still young and can be other things but I wouldn’t assume. Im sure his dad asked his kids before posting or even making the videos.
Not sure why anyone would think that comment was funny. It's actually really sad. It shows the children recognize that their the main reason these videos make money so if they don't make videos, the family will suffer financially. That's putting an insane amount of pressure on these kids making them think they're responsible for the family's financial wellbeing. He may have said he can find other ways to make money but that doesn't mean these kids wont worry about it. They're more likely to continue making videos when they actually don't want to just because they're afraid that the family will suffer financially if they stop. Money isn't something children should have to worry about. Its the parents job to provide so this shouldn't even be something that was talked about with the children in my opinion. Its more likely to cause them to participate out of guilt or fear of what could happen. These are adult issues that kids can't mentally handle. The conversation should have centered solely around consent and Dad should have kept it super simple. They either want to participate or they don't and either option is completely fine and won't make mom and dad upset or think of them any less. I greatly appreciate that he is having a conversation with them about this and giving them a choice. Unfortunately, most family channels aren't like this. It's obvious he loves and cares about his kids, I just worry about him discussing the financial aspect with the them.
@@Xessa82 girl hush... I don't think anyone is laughing at the question more than the delivery. At least I wasn't. It was a great question from a child who's clearly paying attention.
This is a tough conversation because kids often subdue their internal feelings to comply with the adults around them. They have no power because they rely on their parents for everything. Kids are born (most often) with the disease to please their parents/guardians. They often equate this action with love. If I don’t do what my parents want will they still love me? I like the fact that the kids were asked and taught about consent. However, the monetary reasons for the video was also relayed in regards to their participation; so kids will interpret that as Dad needs us to be in these videos so we have food, clothes and shelter. Glen says “I’m very talented, so I can do anything.” However, I’m not sure that the kids in this case will remember that. The best example was Uriah’s question “What will you do when all the kids leave the house?” Very tricky situation.
I thought about this as well and my 8-10 year old self showed up big time. From watching their content over the years it seems that the kids are consistently given a choice. It also seems to be that their home (where ever they are with their parents) is a safe space for them. My hope is that this family is continuously blessed and that they continue to, at all turns, trust in and lean on God to guide them.
Yes! It was a little uncomfortable to watch because to me it seemed like he's still hoping that Theo and Uriah will change their minds. I hope he's careful that the younger children don't consent from a place of internalizing what you explain. We love you Glen and Yvette and hope for the best outcome for your family.
Uriah asked his question directly after Glen mentioned they "make a lot of money from the videos" and listed off everything that they do with that money. It felt like a lil pressure was applied though I don't believe it was intentional
I love how he's talking to his children. Thorough explanations; he's talking to them like adults but in a way they understand! It's so heartwarming to see this love, protection, and respect from parents for their children.
Please also consider having these filming for social media conversations with each child separately in private. They have different personalities and different levels of understanding how widespread and permanent the internet is. Some of them seem to understand certain parts of what you’re saying more than others and they shouldn’t be influenced by their siblings or the cameras currently on them, no matter how well intentioned. I work in social media professionally in marketing (not an influencer) and daily see how original creators lose control online of their original content. Wishing you and your family the best. ❤
You made an excellent point. Theo seems to be more private and as the oldest child how he feels may influence the others. He may need to speak to each of the older children separately. Another consideration would be to tap into what is some of the feedback they are receiving in the enrichment programs.
I love seeing all this positive comments for this beautiful family. I agree with you and with other people’s comments so far. I also wish this family the best! ✌🏼❤️
@@PrincessSharifa434 yea. The explanation in the conversation sounds like dad always has the ability to take the all videos down from the internet whenever he wants. Which isn’t exactly the case with internet footprint. The first videos I saw on social media about this family were not directly from his channel. They were reposed by a different user on Instagram with no credit to the original account. Also, in a different video he mentioned that they went to an in-person event where his kids were meeting new kids and his daughter did not like that the new kid she was meeting already knew who she was from the online videos. That made me think that the kids may not completely understand how many people all over the world are watching their videos, including strangers they might meet in real life.
I have to say, you have done a spectacular job with this channel. Although it seems that the children are the main focus of this channel, this channel is REALLY about you, navigating your way through fatherhood. You have integrated a lot of your commentary within the family videos by way of narration and it leaves the viewer with you as the focal point. You mainly begin and end your videos with the commentary/lesson to be learned. SOO although we LOVEEEEE seeing the children, if they decide they do not want to partake in videos anymore, I believe that you have built a solid fan base by yourself by heavily involving yourself in the videos and creating an atmosphere where your opinions/commentary have become a valued piece of the videos. So people will still enjoy this aspect of this channel even in the kids’ absence. I hope this made sense!
I was thinking the same thing, simply providing story times about different things that take place in their lives, would be enough. The commentary is so relatable, well put together that's all most of need tbh.
I think it’s good that your having this conversation but I feel like there is a little pressure on them when you say we pay rent etc with the money we make. How can they say no if they feel like my parents can’t pay rent if I dint be in the video. Even though it’s the truth.
Yeah I'm not appreciative of this approach either. He also keeps mentioning that he'll film the videos anyways and cut what the kids ask to cut, but then, "all the funniest parts of the videos are gone" and the he was quiet as if to give the kids the moment to change their mind and agree to be in the videos again. Manipulative.
Come on people. Think about it for a min. How would you have felt if your parents were filming you and you didn’t like it. His two oldest boys r getting to be teens soon and they want privacy. I remember one time the second oldest was told to do something and he called his dad boy, and Glen got mad and was telling him about it. The child started crying . Now this is going to be on social media for a long time. You don’t know if it’s brought up at school or church or any outings they do as a family, I know I wouldn’t like it, I am so glad Glen and yvette r listening and taking their kids feelings and opinions into considerations. It has run its course so Glen has to now close it down for the kids part. He is a very smart man and he will come up with something else. I wish this family all the best. The very best for these wonderful kids I love them all and hope they have the best lives in their future. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
But this is when adults need to actually grow up and make adult decisions and realize that filming their children since they were babies isn't the smartest decision because otherwise things like this happen..
@@MeeperBeeper743 To some extent, I agree. At the same time, though, children are evolutionary beings like adults. Just like their younger children don't currently take issue with being filmed, they may have different feelings as they grow. Children have the right to change their minds. We are born into certain environments that are largely out of our control. We might be from a certain state, our parents might have certain holidays that they celebrate (or don't), and we adopt those traditions from birth. Our parents dress us a certain way, name us a certain name, and choose our hairstyle for us before we can cognitively determine and then verbalize that we dislike this or that. It's about listening when children come to realize that they take issue with certain things. That's where a lot of parents go wrong, in my opinion. Glen and Yvette are doing the right thing.
@@MeeperBeeper743he recorded his kids because family vlogging was a thing when he was rising on youtube. He was a stay at home black father, and wanted to show other fathers what happens. That’s why he filmed his kids. No one thought family vlogging was bad until this new wave of “OMG YOURE EXPLOITING YOUR KIDS” when all channels shouldn’t be demonized because of another
It is really good that more and more family channels are reflecting on these questions. But in how far do kids really know what they are consenting to (if they give their consent)? Because everything that is put on the internet stays there forever. And everyone has access to it. Also, consent is an ongoing conversation: are they allowed to withdraw their consent at any point during the production process? Even an hour after publication of the video etc? Do the (youngest) kids feel obliged to consent because they know it's their family income (especially when the older kids no longer wish to participate and they are the only kids left for the channel)? What percentage of the cut do they get? Etc. Important conversations!
Interesting points worth thinking about especially as these are all at different ages and points in their understanding of how public and permanent the internet can be.
I think, the way he is doing it is the best. If they give consent then, it's fine. If they take back the consent, he takes the videos down. Children can articulate their wants and needs in the moment.
Honestly I love the videos but I think he should look and lean in diversifying his income. The portion where he says pays our mortgage etc felt s little pressure even though im sure its unintentional. But having more diverse income will help relieve the stress and pressure and i know je said he is working on it.
@@lindasamba4816 Yes, you are right, they did say they would remove a video later down the line. The reason why I mentioned "an hour after publication of the video" is because at that point the financial ramifications are felt more strongly (as the video at that point would not have had the chance to attract a high view count to earn back the time investment) than when a video is removed "later down the line" (and has generated profit). I'm not claiming they would not take it down immediately after uploading it if one of the kids withdrew their consent at that point, but I am saying that there are just so many nuances that come into having a genuinely candid discussion about this topic.
You can tell the kids know the income of the household went down. That’s all we need to know in order to read between the lines. That’s a lot of pressure and guilt for a kid. Kids that want to impress their parents act this way because they love you. The issues don’t show up with all this stuff until they are adults. A child shouldn’t know. The fact that they do will be all they need to resent you in their 20’s.
He said he didn't talk to them about his finances. He even mentioned that there are several other ways he can and is making money. Please don't join the long line of people who try to see negatives in every positive.
This conversation would never have come up if the children did not say they wanted to film again. The videos were taken down without them knowing the negative impact on their finances. Listen to the video again.
@@momentswithmarlo he doesn’t have to directly mention finances for them to understand that’s how they make their money there’s no way they dont pick up on that and how it supports them. they’re smart kids they know.
@@momentswithmarlo. but also they were little kids and they still are little kids. this was their normal. they didn't know any better. obviously they're going to ask to watch their old videos, this was their life. I'm sure the older kids are able to make the connection between money and videos. I teach third grade and those kids know that CZcams = money. even when it doesn't exactly lmao
I would revisit this conversation every year with each child separately. Consent is tricky when you dont truly know every aspect to what you are consenting too. I would have each child review the product and make editing notes. I would also continue to highlight educating them about each aspect of the content creation amd social media prescence process and responsibilities. And i would keep in mind that even with this conversation being jad amd these precautions taken as they age they may still hold resentments and want to contest the content created when they were minors because they are going to only gather full understanding as they age.
Glen, this video was more about "can we move forward with shooting even though you've expressed serious concerns" vs. reaffirming your commitment to their privacy and protecting their childhood with them off the camera. When one of them asked, "Dad how are you gonna make money when we're gone [meaning grown up]?", it did me in. THEY KNOW YOU MAKE YOUR MONEY OFF OF THEM. IT WILL NOT END WELL. I pray you heed the comments Glen and go out and get a different job. You are to provide for them, not them provide for you. This is not it. The two youngest have no idea and are so innocent. The girl once she is old enough and realizes will not be as passive as the two older boys are being.
This conversion should be ongoing. As the kids grow older and wiser, the topic of consent should continue to be reevaluated. And these conversations should be initiated by the parents. The kids will forget so it’s important to continue to remind them that they always have a choice and educate them fully on the effects of the choices they make. I don’t think its a great idea to tell them that the videos are needed in order to provide for the family financially because them knowing that could pressure them into consenting when they don’t want to. You’re doing a great job Glen. Keep up the good work!
I pray that it never gets hard for the kids, because you really create a safe place for them. You aren’t a company executive that only thinks of profits. You are a father and they are having freedom to be themselves, their truest selves, in it. I love it!!!
I’m a fan of “How Married Are You” and I believe you and Yvette have an interesting ministry for the times and culture we live in. However, this video made me cringe … on its very concept. If (some of) your children don’t want to be filmed for the internet, why do they have to make a video (the very thing they’re expressing they don’t want) to explain their position … in front of the world? It feels emotionally manipulative (at best) and abusive (at worst) which I HAVE to believe is not your intention Glen. However, it may be your impact in the long run. They’re children who love and obviously want to please their father, so they will comply, but they seem (especially Theo from his disposition) to not want this and have already expressed that to their protectors (offscreen). Why wasn’t their first “no” a complete sentence? Why do they have to then explain themselves to your viewers and make yet another example of their lives for the benefit of your business model? Also - where was Yvette? I’m curious to know what/how she feels about all this. Money, a platform, and a business ain’t everything, my friend. Your family, and its emotional health, always comes first. Don’t kill your kids, and God’s hope for a United family, with a smile and a mic. Signed, A (critical) Fan
I didn’t even think of it like that, but I can totally see it now. Kid asks to take a certain part out because they are embarrassed by it, dad says “(but) that’s the best part”. What kind of message does that send? Possibly that their embarrassment is required for others entertainment and is something that should be profited off of. Hopefully they haven’t thought that, but I can see how one could internalize this if they really are told that when asking to remove certain parts.
I think that it is time to make an executive decision to hold off on anymore family videos. The children seem to have conflicting views and understanding about being filmed. It's better to proceed with caution. If they want to, maybe they can pick back up as teenagers when they have the emotional vocabulary to express themselves about when and where they are consenting to be filmed.
I completely appreciate the conversation you had with your children, how hard it is, and how new this territory is to tread. However, the mention of money and figuring out how to make money etc, while well-meaning, can come across as a passive guilt trip. This may not be the case at all. However, it’s something I winced at at a few moments through the video. You did an amazing job having a candid conversation with your children, and I’m sure you’ve had these convos many times off camera to ensure their comfortability, meaning my perception could be completely superficial and I also accept that.
Yep. It came off as very manipulative, whether he meant it to be or not. It almost seems like they like having theirs live recorded but not placed in front of other people. Same thing with describing how the videos can help other people. Children internalize things and start feeling responsible for things they really aren’t responsible for. Hope that’s not the case with this beautiful family 🤗
I felt the same way but I believe if the money flow is different from his new tactic, they probably already noticed the difference already on some level. I was fully conscious at 3. Comprehending, understanding, and wondering how to make my mom's life easier. It's so hard to navigate these situations. I feel like it is best to approach it according to the household since a healthy household will be able to have some comprehension of how to converse with their kids about different situations. I think the best thing is to keep an open door, always make them feel that they can stop at any point. We go through phases in life. Sometimes they may not want to show it, other times they will.
I completely agree. As an educator, children SHOULD NOT have to carry the burden of financial responsibilities. PARENTS take care of the CHILDREN as it was the parents who HAD the children. This consent conversation is too complex for children their age. I am so happy social media was not around when I was a child. Children should be outside riding their bikes, playing hide-and-seek, being CAREFREE, not shoved in front of a camera during intimate moments because it makes "good," content. Let kids be kids! Kids are unpredictable, saying yes today, could mean no tomorrow. They are not going to remember this conversation 2 weeks from now. People in the comments saying this conversation should happen quarterly sound ridiculous. Can you imagine having to deal with that as a child?
I dont normally comment but these boys dont want to do it. Its hard to be real about it without sounding harsh. They arent old enough to understand and maybe there should be something in writting about their wages... so they dont turn 16 and realize you weren't paying them fair wages. If they are providers in your home they should be paid such. Love your content, but you can do other things, try other ventures. Would love to hear their stories from a parent's perspective, love they way you navigate the world with them. Would also enjoy animated series about them❤❤❤ its all love, i will continue to support your platform.
What is making you say the don't? Literally every time he asks, or brings up how they didn't like something, they start talking about everything they like about it and how they want to do more. Also he was about as clear about money as he needed to be here. He may also be having more specific discussions off camera when it comes to actual numbers. A lot of people don't post about finances.
Low key, Glenn used some coercive phrasing/tactics with them. “This is how our family makes money…” “These videos can help other people…” “I don’t want you to turn 16 and hate me..” It doesn’t seem like he was purposefully trying to manipulate them, but he could just be used to asserting his will in this way.
@@elleelle7200right! Those are heaven burdens that he has given his children to bare. He actually sounded like he almost resenting the kids for ever saying they didn’t want to record.
I agree. They are being filmed about not wanting to be filmed? They shouldn’t even have to have this conversation on camera. This is a pressuring tactic because they know people are watching their reaction. The dad is also doing a lot of applauding of himself for taking the videos down. The whole situation feels wrong. I love the ideas of writing books and even the animated series.
Theo doesn’t want to make videos anymore and you can tell by his body language that he’s detached from the conversation. He’s being guilt tripped for not wanting to film and you can feel the weight of that burden through the screen.
I never unsubscribe. I love the way your family evolved. It's not easy, Mom and Dad, but you are doing it. Thanks for making the video and making us proud.
So I admit I've been told I'm a bit of a broken record with family and friends with stuff like this but a good faith idea/recommendation: individual/family counseling might be an option? The situation doesn't have to be violent or abusive to benefit from a third party with experience in child/family psychology. And theirs is a unique experience that may be difficult for them to articulate, and the nuances may be difficult for them to process, even considering how intelligent they are.
My family is just the opposite. My kids force me to record and post. I need to talk to them about MY consent. 🥴 Okay, they don’t force me, but they are constantly telling me, “Mom, we need to post. Mom we need to record.”
It's great that they want to be a part at least and you don't force them, buuut how can you know that they will not change their mind about it later? They are still so young and in development - how they feel about private moments being shared with the world might change as they get older. Do they even understand the concept and significance - what's on the internet once might stay there forever....
@@annale91 I have an almost 15, 13 and 8 year old. I was thinking the same as you. They are very involved in what we post. They come up with most ideas. We oversee to make sure it’s appropriate. However, if they ever change their minds I have no problem stopping or shifting into a new direction. We mainly do our videos for fun. It’s good to watch Beleaf in Fatherhood to get a different perspective and how others manage their channel. You are so right, as a parent it makes me very cautious with everything. I definitely, have the second guessing and hoping we are doing the right thing for our girls. Only time will tell.
This was hard to watch. I don’t think the older kids want to film, but are conflicted because they know this makes their family money. They’re too young to have to decide between their comfort and their family’s financial stability. They’re in a really tough situation
I don’t think it’s explicitly clear to the kids within this conversation that being on camera means that millions of people around the world will be watching their videos when you put it back up. Also that some people can screen record the videos and repost it on platforms where you as a dad don’t always have control over taking it down anymore once someone saves/reshares it. (Possible you talked about this off camera before?) That would be informed consent, which they should also be able to revoke at any time as their young minds and understanding develops. Appreciate you talking about “renegotiation of terms.” Thank you for sharing this vulnerable conversation.
I can’t help but to see this as a potential conversation 10 years from now: “why didn’t you tell me you didn’t want to do this anymore?” “I did, but then…”
Thanks for this. Quick q - Do they always have to work behind the scenes ? Having worked in a family business as a child of a parent w/ a business, I would only propose that you give them the autonomy to completely disconnect without fear of your rejection/disappointment /anger etc. Your voice carries weight in them, especially as they are still very much in the process of finding their own; so they may not have the confidence to say a complete ‘no’. Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏
This is so complicated and I truly empathize with everyone. Glen you seem stressed and it's seeping out. I'm sure the kids can feel it which may lead them to agree to film when they truly don't want to. They love you, want to please you and want to be included. You say "we're filming and if you don't want to film then don't come in here" but what if the entire family is there? What if they don't want to be alone but you're on a filming time crunch? It's challenging and difficult but maybe you can transition to animated versions of the kids with stories they create. Maybe you can create an animated chocolate baby universe. Sidebar: Are you a Taurus? Taurus people don't take no for an answer on the slick lol smh. They'll keep asking in covert ways just in case "you change your mind." When really people just get tired of being asked. The kids already said no, Glen. Let that be their no.
The Most Genuine Family Channel To Grace CZcams. Soo many parents are blinded by the money they generate by invading the privacy of their children and don’t even consider their feelings or how it will affect them in the future. Beleaf you are soo real 💯
Man. I know it’s so hard for him to have this convo and be open about stopping the videos. You can see how hard he’s trying to hold back the stress and urgency from his voice and body language.
Just stop filming the kids! It was probably hard for them to tell you in the first place ! This is pressure within itself and these kids don’t understand the gravity of being so public.
Maybe have this convo off screen & you’ll get more authentic responses. It seems at points they feel pressured to say the “right” thing because they know people will be watching.
Based on my common sense...children can't really give consent. If they are uncomfortable, just pause the videos for now until they can articulate better and want to be in videos 100%. Let them do other things. They love you and they like the family time you share together making videos for your own private use and enjoyment, so do that. You will figure something out. They dont have to be your job/ anchor of your family's income. That's a lot of pressure for a child, and shouldn't be their responsibility or decision to make at all.
I appreciate what you guys do because it helps me to navigate the mind of my 10 year old granddaughter. Understanding that she's just beginning to figure this world out and to give her the space she needs to be free thinking. Your transparency is awesome, thank you.
Such beautiful faces! You have an amazing family. Congratulations 🎉💯🎉 your team is wonderful. Thanks for letting us watch you all grow and develop such a blueprint for a great family. ❣️❣️❣️❣️🎊🎊
Theo really doesn't want to film at all, his body language & lack of response conveyed that. Uriah wants home videos for personal viewing but not for the public.
Glen, you're an absolutely amazing father!! Watching you talk to them this way is something I've never experienced as a child & it's so refreshing to see.
I think this is really freakin cool Glen! Way to show the world that there’s an appropriate way to go about creating content that still allows you to include your family. I LOVE that you spoke to the fact that the children have bank accounts set up where you’re putting money away for them. I’ve actually never, NOT once, heard anyone talk about this. I think many folks out there just assume that Mom and Dad (not saying you guys btw) are just pocketing all of the revenue that’s generated. Lets be honest, I’m sure there are people out there that don’t share the wealth with their ENTIRE family unit but that’s NOT YOU guys and we’re here for it! Not that it’s anyone’s business what you do or don’t do with your money, but I appreciate you putting this out there and for sharing this insight as I think it’s incredibly helpful for people to hear. The more transparency that exists the less it leaves room for nonsense. Keep being awesome! You’ve got a fan for the long haul over here! ❤️❤️❤️
❤Thank you so much and thank you to the whole family. I’ve watched the children grow. I’ve watched Uzi, frustrated when his siblings went to school. I feel like I’m part of your family. I have mental and alcohol issues that I’m dealing with. Your videos help me realize that I’m not alone. The best to you and the whole family. I love all of you. I am Hispanic. Love for God and family is first. The rest comes after. ❤❤❤❤
man I absolutely adore everything that you and your wife pour into your kids and your family as a whole. Thank you for sharing and pouring into my life as well
I've always admired how you communicate with your kids about filming and respect their wishes when they don't want to. What a valuable example and lesson this is!
Frank Puppet should definitely make a huge comeback.... You have been consistently one of the most thoughtful, creative dads on CZcams. I enjoy your content.
Glenn I think it’s was an intentional conversation with your kids and you did it in the best way you knew how. It was great to hear you continue to remind them that they can always change their mind while also being transparent about various aspects. Excited to see how the kids transition with this information and the community grow with continued support of your family.
This is so GOOD! It’s a huge concern for us as a family channel! We don’t ever want to pressure our children to do anything! We always communicate that it’s their choice, even though they’re young! Thank you for sharing this! And congrats on your new endeavors!😊
As much I love seeing your children its time to stop filming them. You put them under a lot of pressure when you mentioned the financial aspects, which wasn't fair and very manipulative. The two youngest will say they are comfortable because they arent fully self aware yet. As an adult you have to diversify and change direction and concentrate on your books and whatever else merchandise. Please be the adult in this situation and abide by their original request. Remember when one door closes God opens another one.
This conversation, it's just so relatable, where you think you finally understand exact what the kid is talking about, and then when you try to clarify, they go and say basically the opposite thing. 😂 Communication is hard.
I really appreciate your channel and the videos you’ve shared. It’s great that you have these conversations with your children and thank you for showing that despite any of the negative or condemning comments. It’s honestly inspiring to watch especially being from Rhode Island where you don’t see a lot of good examples of Black families. I enjoy watching and showing my daughter another beautiful black family so thank you 🙏🏽
I love this and I feel like it is so great! I read the comments when you asked the community what they think about family CZcams channels and a lot of people were talking about you doing it the right way - showing beautiful moments and a good parenting style and not forcing situations. And even though I agree with this - I believe it is a bit besides the point that kids just can't know how they will feel about being a public figure and having private moments shared with the world (for ever on the internet) until they are older. I really questioned also my involvement in this - as I do like to watch some family channels like yours. But looking at the bigger picture - I believe it just doesn't seem right.
I love your family! My kids are all grown. But I still love to watch.I think your all special. Thanks for sharing. I love all your children's different personalities. Mom and dad you're doing a wonderful job.
I think it’s important to note this isn’t the first conversation he’s had with them. This is a conversation he’s had before and responded based on their feelings at that time. Their feelings have evolved as they have grown and he is responding accordingly. He’s noted why a bunch of videos have gone dark and them re- appearing would be whiplash. He’s showing us how he is actively having these convos with his kids. I do think including the money aspect is a sticky situation but he is treating like his kids as full humans with an evolving opinions on their lives who get some autonomy their situations. That is good parenting.
This and the previous video were simply amazing. It is so awesome to witness the growth of you and your entire family, over the years. Thank you so much for sharing this topic and interaction with the children, as it is a much needed discussion in the content creator space. Teaching children they have a voice, albeit in the most respectful way possible, is extremely important. Keep going and growing! God Bless you and your family, in Jesus name!
Glen I really love you, and your entire family… but I have to say that this all sounds extremely coercive. It sounds like you’re taking your children on a guilt trip. “I mean… you’re allowed to say no…. But these videos are how we make money” “guys I took down 300 whole videos… because I don’t want you to hate me when you’re 16”. It’s a lot of pressure, and you’re making it extremely hard for them to say no, and stand firm in that. Hence why Uriah keeps wavering, and Theo hasn’t given a hard no when it seems he wants to. They don’t want to displease dad, or be the reason why 300 videos got taken down, or be the reason why the family isn’t making money. That’s hard. And I know this is hard for you, because you’re trying to do the right thing and take care of your family emotionally and financially.. but I just worry that you’re still grappling with the decision to stop recording them, and the kids can feel that… which is why Uriah’s funny self said… well dad how are you going to make money when we leave??? It’s not their responsibility to proved for the family , and in this case.. their likeness provides for the family, that might be too much weight.
This might be unpopular, but I’m still really lost on the “my kids don’t want to be on CZcams, so today they’re going live on CZcams to talk about why they don’t want to be on CZcams.” I don’t understand how you acknowledge that your oldest two felt uncomfortable being recognized by absolute strangers (as any child would be) and yet you decide to delete the earlier videos where they may be less recognized and keep the recent videos where they would be more easily recognizable (as opposed to just deleting all the videos). You have a very beautiful family, but this is the issue with treating children as content. You eloquently acknowledged all of issues with using children as content just to promote more of your children as content. Also, this is the second time that you’ve acknowledged Theo’s discomfort with being on camera and then immediately put him back on camera.
It seems like an ongoing discussion where things are changing as the kids grown and their opinions change. I hear ya tho. It seems weird, but if you consider how much kids change their thoughts and opinions it seems less weird.
He explained everything already so maybe rewatch the previous video before this one. Theo asked why they do not make videos anymore after he said he didn't want to be in the videos. The children change their minds a lot from what I can see and what was discussed in this video. They agreed to film this conversation. The oldest wanted certain videos deleted and said others were fine. Then said he doesnt mind anymore. What's hard to understand here? This is fantastic parenting ‼️ clearly the children are still learning because they don't have all of the communication skills down pact yet. They are growing up. This is a good conversation.
Because it's nuanced. Just because the kids have sometimes not wanted to be doesn't mean they never want anything to do with it. In the video here- even when he specifically tries to bring up that they're allowed to be done whenever, or asks them a question specifically about what parts they don't want, they unprompted kept talking about parts they DO want. And it kinda seems like he specifically asked if they didn't want to talk about it on the channel before even doing this.
I have always loved your channel & you sharing your family. This is another showcase of why, respecting your kids, so beautiful to witness in real-time too. Thank you.
Blessings to you Henry family! Glenn and Yvette you all are wonderful parents. This was super classy to bring this discussion to light with your kids. Much love and blessings to you all.
I loved filming videos as a kid with my siblings. Watching them back was a huge joy. My dad filmed us almost every chance he got. The huge gigantic massive difference though is that my dad didn’t upload our fun family moments to the internet for people, creeps, stalkers, and racists alike to watch and judge and one-sidedly know us. Maybe Theo enjoys making videos but not the sharing them part. That’s how we millennials used to experience this situation as kids. I feel like creating an environment where your kids learn that fun family time = internet content is VERY unhealthy and unnatural. I used to love this channel as I did the ShayTards’ channel so many years ago now, but the love for such channels only lasts while I’m forcing myself not to contend with the reality that I’m watching a massive invasion of a child’s privacy. Posting videos featuring them occasionally (like once every few months) is one thing, but weekly videos of entire childhoods feels morally wrong. People can get so mean and inappropriate as viewers, even when it’s kids.
At some point *every* content creator has to make a pivot to stay relevant and growth with and beyond their audience. This may be your time. You have such an amazing body of work that you can turn this into a mentorship opportunity, maybe even a fatherhood type of angle empowering men to be present and more hands-on fathers as they navigate this world while raising their babies into upstanding adults. It allows you to take the camera off the kids for a while, put you guys as parents front center, and grow/reach an entire new audience while still maintaining what you have. Y'all are creative so you can probably figure it out even better. The kiddos want their privacy and it should absolutely be considered and respected.
I know you said that you will listen to them if they give content or not, but please also think ahead for them like: is this a video they will be happy about in 10 or 20 years? How will their first partner react to seeing them from 0 to 20 years old? When they are older, they can maybe get bullied with a toddler meltdown video of them.. And how will it feel for them going to college, and everyone has seen them as a toddler? What if one of them wants to change? Like from rebellious to A student, but the new teacher don't believe them because they have seen all of the videos. Or maybe on of your kids want to change image and how other kids perceive them, but is now harder because there so much out there about them.. You cant count on the ability to delete video's. And if you wants something down, trolls gonna repost forever...
This is a conversation that leads to informed, intelligent, fair and comfortable consent. These beautiful young people and their parents are a gift to the world. Thank you.🥰
Hey Beleaf, well done! The one thing I can tell is that you’re prioritizing the experience of the kids. You didn’t delete those videos because anyone but the kids asked you to, and you’re starting again because the kids asked you to. You’re also very in touch with the emotional needs of your kids all that matters is that you’re focused on this balance. I’ve been on this fatherhood journey with you since the Theo’s Gift album dropped (and your personal journey before that through other records) so I see CLEARLY the journey, the mistakes, the corrections and growth as best an involved third party can. Don’t let the negative comments take your focus away from raising your family and modeling, I’ve grown into man hood learning from even your mistakes. And you are hella talented (favorite rapper’s favorite rapper and all) so if people assume your life depends on this for money it’s more of a joke. God bless you and continue to guide you with wisdom for every step. Keep going!
i commend you for having this conversation with your children. Its important regarding this issue and will serve them well in life as they grow up. Blessings.
I appreciate the transparency of figuring out things in real time. It's super easy when we're watching others to think that they have all the answers and that they ought to get everything right on the first try but that's just not how life, relationships, and communication work. It's a constant process of growth, learning, and tweaking. That's just how it is. Sometimes it's messy and uncomfortable. Often we look back with the clarity of time and think, "Ahhh, I could said this, done that better". That's also part of the process but there's no getting to that awareness of we don't go through the process. So thank you for letting us in on this part of that process!
You allow ur children to be their authentic selves. No fear , no walking on eggshells. Absolutely invaluable for creating well adjusted fully functional and present future adults.
Huge thanks to the boys for taking this press conference after announcing their retirement.
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Love this
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Facts tho had me worried
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Can we just appreciate the fact that he’s not forcing them to film like some family channels.. But he’s actually listening to what they have to say. ❤
Totally agree. And the vulnerability to show this to us when it’s a hard and sensitive situation for his family. The transparency is wonderful!
You are one of the best Father figures I have found on CZcams ❤
UM NO HE GOT microphones and a whole section for them to be on fucking CZcams
This is exposing them in this video
People are absolutely sick in the head
How are you interviewing you children on CZcams about them not wanting and consenting to be on youtube sick ass ppl
This absolutely wierd he is completely caught up in CZcams and still fucking doing exactly what he is talking about
Love your family but I am in ❤ with Uzi 🥰 Since the first video I saw of him getting upset because his siblings were leaving for school and he slapped himself 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Beautiful fam!!!!
I think these conversations will need to happen quarterly…. Or monthly…. Individually….. off camera….
Off camera...key.
@@lovefitstudiokey word: conversation, which lead to this video.
I wouldn’t assume he didn’t talk to them separately off camera
@lovefitstudio The same conversation he had that resulted in him taking down 300 videos, and the conversation he had before uploading this video? Let’s think for a second
@@zanarrea7402no that’s too hard.
The pressure from the financial discussion might be a bit heavy for them. Kids don’t fully understand the nuances of finance so saying “this is how WE make money” might come off as “we’re going to be broke if I can’t film” and establish a lot of guilt. Just a thought.
I agree. It's been previously said, their family is beautiful but the older children are over it. It's our jobs as parents to provide. We can't guilt our children into helping us, they need to enjoy childhood and not feel bad about it
@@Kimberly-vc4loyea, I understand why he wanted to find this discussion, but the optics are probably a little different than intended.
For instance, sharing that 300 videos were made private because they didn’t like them and having a conversation about how they are directly tied to paying their mortgage could make them feel guilty for making the decision and feel pressure to reverse the decision
I’m so happy you said this I noticed it in the previous one. It’s not fair on the children. This conversation is problematic, I can sense his frustration with the children, but I appreciate he is respecting their choices
I agree it felt like a guilt trip. No kid wants the parents to be broke.
Absolutely, the man's human. We're all figuring it out and it takes a village for a reason. No one of us has all the answers. Huge respects for sure. @@krissib3394
At their age, I would have told my parents to keep the cameras rolling, and i would have acted a ham in front of it.
Then i would have hit my teen years and been MORTIFIED that my parents thought i was able to make that decision.
Facts.
Exactly! The fact that he keeps putting them on camera until theyre old enough to say no is wild.
and then you’d be an adult and realize your parents had to grab a camera before every moment and you grew up constantly having a consciousness of a camera on you that affected your development and sense of yourself bc always seeing itself from the outside.
"How will you make money when we leave the house?" That's such an embarrassing and real question every child of a CZcamsr should be asking their parents. It's certainly something that that will be considered in courts in years to come.
This is not a fair conversation due to the relationship dynamics, you are father they are children (they love and respect you and as such could choose to suffer silently to help you, help them make money)… Let them speak to someone outside of you and mom then you may really hear their heart. I understand what dad is trying to accomplish but it’s not a black and white situation. Thank you for loving them❤
The irony of talking to the kids about filming with a film crew and people watching them on CZcams live is crazy to me. On top of that asking if anyone makes them uncomfortable while in mixed company on CZcams live was out of bounds. This conversation should happen one on one in private. I don’t think the kids want to be on camera esp the older two. Theo clearly does not and was looking to his younger brother and referencing some conversations they may have had. I think Theo is more reserved and over it and Uriah does not like being embarrassed. The kids want to be kids.
If you watch the last video he did of just himself, you will know that they did have these conversations off camera and that resulted in him taking down 300 videos. Then they were sitting around viewing old videos, and the kids were asking him why he doesn't make them mlany more. So he decided to put this on camera as part of the channel addressing parents and children and their relationships, as well as to keep people from claiming that he forces them to do things.
Yep. I hear you.
fwiw he asked the kids if they could record this conversation and they said yes
Here, here. It’s very meta. But not in a good way.
You obviously just joined the whole conversation, which started a few videos back.
This conversation is toxic!
Uriah already has well grasped understanding how significant their participation in these videos are. He wants out. Fair play
Sharing financials with a child, is of no benefit to the child at all, in fact in this situation it’s manipulative.
I felt said for the kids tbh, as this forced labour situation potentially can create a weird dynamic between those who film and those who don’t.
There was so much about this that I found uncomfortable.
I think the best way to have this conversation is with a trained therapist.
As I child I can’t imagine how it must feel to be at home and filming all the time, similar to one of the kids said. Talking to children like adults is it, they don’t have the emotional capacity to understand and respond in an adult like way. As they are children.
Create your own content or here’s another perspective is glens self worth dependent on his childrens ability to perform as it generates revenue.
All the best with books, but does everything or a lot of what the children create have to be turned into a business venture.
Tbh, I’m becoming less and less amused by performative parenting.
Everything you said...
That's a good phrase, performative parenting. This really seems like Dad has hidden narcissism
@@amandarecoveryjones8216 I wanted to say this but didn't know how to. To even post this conversation between him and the children knowing full well they want privacy. It's just so when they are 16 and pissed he can show them and others this to say they consented. Fully manipulative if you ask me.
sorry but y’all sound stupid. this is a genuine conversation between him & the kids. he knows his kids & do you really think he doesn’t value or respect his kids wishes? he deleted 300+ videos solely based on the wants of his kids. if his kids are expressing that they want to begin making videos again then ofc he’s gonna go with that & as he explained to them at any point they can change their minds. y’all are too old to sit here trying to dissect & find negativity. just go watch another channel, save your negativity
This dad has built up his family’s income and lifestyle whilst working with his family. There are real life consequences to these kids not doing these videos he’s giving them the real consequences.
Imma keep it a buck with you bro…I was on the fence about hearing how this channel might change/whether the usual videos should continue, but after seeing this and your earlier explanation video without the kids I have to say: please just let your children enjoy their family without it being a financial/business obligation. Home is the one place we should all feel comfortable enough to be our truest selves, without exposure to the world. And the unfortunate truth is that whenever you film your children and post it you are exposing their private feelings, experiences, and memories to the world. That is a stressful reality for anyone to grapple with! We see ADULT creators breakdown and take breaks and walk away all the time because the pressure or lack of privacy they get when they choose to make social media their livelihoods. Imaging that pressure on a growing kid, a preteen, who is already going through the emotional instability/self-consciousness that we alllll know too well comes with puberty and growing up overall; and they didn’t even make the choice ti begin with.
I think your intention with this channel was always well-meaning; but take it seriously when it starts to affect your loved one’s feelings (even if your intentions are good!). Other comments have explained it much better than me but yeah I just beg of you to put your family’s feelings first and accept your responsibility as the parent to provide for them, not at their expense (and that includes emotional expense). I really do think moving away from the screens and taking your family to counseling is much better than hashing this out with the very problem (the internet) anyway. Hope you are well.
Well said 👏🏾
Well said fam
Very well put!
Beautifully articulated my friend.
I'm not going to tell this man how to live, nor am I going to tell him how to parent his lovely children, but I must stress that every choice basically has a price. . .
Children and adults alike make decisions somewhat based off their preconceived understandings of potential ramifications found in said choices. . . Unfortunately sometimes we are simply wrong with those understandings and pay dearly.
Much love from DownUnder ❤️
Y did u type so much
Hey, as much as I have enjoyed your content over the years and appreciated you showing the lessons you have learnt, I have to keep it real. There’s a reason why there is an age of consent. Children are not able to have persepective or stable consciousness to give any consent. There could be so many reasons why they changed their mind. It could be that sensed disappointment surrounding the decision made, it could be that they were worried about the money troubles (overheard a conversation, the mere mention of money and lack making them scared, they want and need to be accepted by you and there for do what they know you want to do). Of course, you would not initially think that a family vlogging is wrong, because you are attached to it, there are amazing memories and its how you make your bread and butter.
There seems to be so much connecting you to vlogging that it can obscure your view. Even though you say you have shielded them from the ‘money stress’, Uriah still asked how money will be made maybe showing how that he thinks about financial security in the form of having a home, wanting to keep having nice things. They may feel pressure to make the vlogs good since you mentioned that when you cut all their bits out, the vlogs are boring. I think if they have voiced they don’t want to be on camera publicly or feel uncomfortable, that is what should go. The 2 youngest are in no position to make that decision for themselves. I think protecting the family means taking them off social media for the simple fact that they have communicated that.
The financial pressure is caused by you choosing to commodify your family so now as a byproduct of this, family interest and financial interest will be in conflict sometimes. This may not be expressed explicitly by you but it can 100% be felt in communication under currents. You would be surprised how much kids pick up and how they connect the dots better than us sometimes, how much truth they see. They can feel how much stress that you may not even vocalise and this can affect the decision-making in which you could feel is fully informed.
You seem to be conflating two issues that can be separated and therefore you are misrepresenting this argument to your children, you can make videos and keep them private for the children and your income doesn’t not have to be dependent on the publication of these videos. As a parent and an adult you have the responsibility to act in the best interest of your kids.
Hope you guys here me, can’t imagine how difficult this is.
Exactly 💯 . It came off low key manipulative to me since he mentioned the money. I don’t feel that should be a topic the kids should have even knew about. That alone can put pressure on the kids to change their mind out of guilt.
It is definitely clear that, even though father says, otherwise, he is eager to make the videos. Simply put, these children have no ability to consent as their minds and brains are too young and under developed to be able to fully grasp the possible ramifications of such exposure to their peers.
@@deborahcavenaugh8478 I can’t imagine how much it would catch me off guard and leave me feeling exposed if I was recognised from the internet as a kid.
Dude is a horrible person he just fuckin interviewed his kids about asking for permission to to be on you tube FOR CZcams TO SEE
This video is up there with child grooming in my opinion why Tf would you interview your kids for fucking thousands of ppl to see acting as if you care about their consent while still monetary gaining without their full consent because THEY ARE CHILDREN
He is actually caught up in a way deeper then what he understands himself....
Addiction
its turns you selfish and completely ignorant ...
He developed a disease and cant even see it
These kids told him they not with whats ben happening in their life's and stated well articulate reasons...This man went straight to CZcams and told exactly what the kids told him as a private conversation and made it public the fucking interviewed them as if they were adults
THEY JUST TOLD YOU IT WASNT KOOL AND YOU STL DID IT...what if when they are recognized again and get made fun of for basically messing with the families income or being scared to be in camera or anything else
This is ass backward and he totally treats them like a business and not a family
HE INTERVIEWED HIS DAMN KIDS IN A CORNER WITH A BACK DROP, MICROPHONES, AND CHAIRS
SICK MOTHER BLEEP
This is a complex topic and @raerae you did a good job summarizing the same concerns that I myself had. However, the kids could turn into adults who appreciate everything that their parents did including the videos. I’m just going to trust that the parents are making the best decision for their family and their children. I’m sure we would all agree that they love their children enough to have the conversation. I absolutely wish them the best no matter the decision they make!
Maybe the kids just like to watch their videos in a "home video" sort of way. Your kids are clearly so brilliant, bright, and smart. But it may not be fair to tell them that their involvement in the videos has such an effect on your family's income, as well as employee's income, and their entire future in general. I can picture myself feeling obligated to make videos if someone told me so many things were riding on that. I wish you guys happiness and good luck.
It's called being transparent with them. If their mom decided to go back to teaching or if she needed to that would impact them, by her absence. Their lives may change as their platform changes. All the kids need to consider what that may look like.
But he did say he had other streams of income lined up, when the kids asked, and he made it clear that they could change their minds at anytime. IMO if this was a different family i would share your concern, but based on what I've seen from this family, I can tell the kids have a say, on and off camera.
He also explained involvement doesn't always have to be in front of the camera. It's no different than chores. Everyone has to contribute to the running of the household.
I think he was just trying to honest
@@josmith8233i don’t agree with this i feel that a decision so big shouldn’t be placed on the shoulders of 6, 7 8 year olds. when your that young and u think most children no matter the age have it ingrained in them that they have to please their parents, even if this means doing something you don’t want to do. i feel like either the knowledge that they’re so much riding on these videos they may now feel forced into making them, despite them not truly wanting to. i understand he’s trying to be transparent but i don’t think in his instance transparency with garner a true reaction
This was CRINGE! I love ya'll but what it looked like, was you trying to still convince them to continue to film, that's why they asked how would YOU make money if they quit. Telling them about how all the people working there would lose their jobs and how the business makes money is putting pressure on them , even if they are not telling you right now. Theo looked defeated and like he was saying whatever you wanted to hear, just end the conversation. It seemed like the kids like being recorded because if they don't participate they can't be in the room, and no one wants to be excluded from family activities. Theo tried to remind Uriah about what he obviously told him off camera, but Uriah wants to please Dad. When he said consent is saying yes even if you're embarrassed , that broke my heart. It tells me that he has felt embarrassed by some of the videos but is saying yes anyway. If you want to record them for your families consumption only, that's one thing, but it seemed very obvious that they older boys are not liking it but feel pressured to go along with it. Theo literally flipped from a no to yes in this video. Kids will often tell parents what they want to hear if you ask them enough times and it seems like this has been a conversation that they know they cannot fully win. If it's truly your intention to not force them or for them to have resentment later, then you should really think about accelerating your other projects and save the recording for family time only. As I said before, I love your family and have enjoyed watching them for years, but this video was just sad. It really looked like you pressuring them and trying to make them feel responsible for adults losing their jobs. Not good , not good at all.
Wow all I can say is u truly wrote everything that my heart was feeling. ♥️🙌🏼🙏🏼😢 After watching the whole video twice I prayed about it. I think the parents are great parents overall, but something just wasn’t sitting right in my spirit and you my friend hit the nail on the head. God bless you for truly sharing from your heart what needed to be said.
❤🙏🏼 Pack up the video camera, find a different way to make money be present 155% with your kids and go live in the present moment, not in front of a camera for the world to watch and comment.
exactly, their kids not employees
@@celvil1848 Thank you for this. I felt bad at first about writing it and was upset so I got off the computer for a few minutes and was talking to God. I do that when I am upset. When I got back online a video of Uriah was on my feed. He was sitting in the living room minding his own business, just singing to himself, when he turned around and saw a camera had recorded him in that moment. He laughed sheepishly and then the camera was on Glen saying he was disappointed in his son being a Swifty. Even though he was joking, I found the post upsetting. It was confirmation for me that I should not remove my comment. Uriah did not consent to being filmed. Someone had sneaked up on him in a moment where he was at peace just singing to himself, innocent and free. That moment was stolen and he became the butt of his fathers emasculating joke. Was Glen joking, yes, but Uriah is a child and could easily take that comment wrong and something that he could be teased about by other boys, was still up on the internet. This video had over 10,000 views. I think the pressure of the "family business" is possibly blinding Glen to the fact that this stuff is deeper than likes and money and I hope he will take to heart and look deeper than the bills and the business.
@@chandahopkins🙌🏼💯♥️🙏🏼 I pray that Glenn and Yvette really sit down together and allow these comments to speak to their hearts .
@@celvil1848 I do too. 🙏
The oldest kid.... Don't wanna be on camera. But he don't want to be excluded from the family fun momens either..... He just wants to enjoy his family and be free to be silly with family and Not have a camera in his face for the world to see and scrutinize.
And then dad brings up the money issue... Indirectly puts pressure on these kids. Even though dad said I can find another way to make money. The money issue should not even enter the conversation...
As a matter of fact, this whole conversation should be amongst them and not us the viewers.
100% agree! In the last video where their father talked about this, he said that if they don't want to be in videos, they will have to work behind the cameras. The fact of the matter is, that sends a message that they can either work behind the cameras or in front of the cameras but this family's quality time together is now mostly work? Does not seem fair to them. Their parents are talented, interesting people who can SURELY make a good income doing other things rather than posting their children online.
I'm wondering what happened. In both this video and the one after it, he was really emphasizing the, "I want to renew our invitation to follow us" and near pleading for us to like the video. He low-key came off frustrated when he took a look at how many likes they had was visibly bothered by the number. Then he seemed like he was defending his parenting, which, if you know you're not any of the things people seemingly said about you, there's nothing to defend. Especially since the vast majority of us seem to admire him as a father. But the other red flags no one seems to be mentioning, he used an anecdote of Theo telling him he's spending too much time working and he needed to spend time with his family, another of Yvette asking, "Do we have a family business or is our business the family?" add that to his admission of abandonment issues and it speaks volumes about where the energy and focus was and could be again if left unexamined.
I dont think talking about the finances in that detail was wise. It feels like the kids understand that the lifestyle they live relies on them being on camera and the get the implications and gravity of pulling out of that, impacting their ability to make an authentic choice.
I’m not sure their true feelings can be honoured now that they know that context, that the money is for them and their future, and that their home relies on it. Those are big things for those babies to hold!
I love this channel, I think it’s really beautiful that you show such honest, heathy, parenthood and a family dynamic, and perspective of black fatherhood I think it’s beautiful, and I like how the video started with this openness, but idk about this right here, something isn’t sitting right with me.
Mentioning how they wanted to remove the funny parts out which makes the content boring and discussing the impact of losing income can make them feel guilty. They might feel like they need to please you and give you an answer you’d like to hear for fear of disappointment. Do they understand that strangers including their friends at school are seeing this content? Do they know videos can be deleted but a digital footprint is forever? Do they know that they are loved unconditionally regardless of their choices? It’s not an easy conversation but you’re headed in the right direction.
Well said. I had the same thoughts.
Thiiiiis. When the question was ‘how will you make money when we leave the house?’ made me go eeeks. Deffo keep having this convo ❤❤
You need to watch the other video he posted explaining the reason why he deleted over 300 videos. He is doing the best he can to respect the kids understanding exactly this point. He is having this open conversation and also sharing it with us which he didn’t have to. 300 are hours of memories, footage that took hours and money to make when he didn’t know there will be issues. The kids just don’t want to be bullied or be recognized for a video or moment that embarrass them by friends in school. I don’t know one parent with a family vlog that have done this and openly. He deserves our support, respect not more judgment.
@@beccf.s.8012he said in the last video he knew there would be issues eventually
Stop giving the dad the benefit of the doubt. He knows what he’s doing. He WANTS to make them feel guilty.
I feel like the son on the right might be saying he doesn’t mind being in a funny video if it’s not embarrassing him. He likes to be funny, but he doesn’t want to be laughed AT. It would be a fine line and as they grow they’ll probably change their mind several times. You’re doing great starting this conversation with them. 😊
Yes , I think so too
That’s not what he said though. He said he just wants the video to be funny. He seems to have understood that his and Theo’s input (asking for parts to be deleted) hindered the end product from being funny.
There *are* people, comedians and actors for example, who would do whatever’s necessary to get the laugh. This is a trait that can pop up/develop in childhood. I believe this is what Riah was expressing. He knows to some degree, that he can and will get over the brief moment of embarrassment.
Theo, however, is the one who seems hesitant and not fully on board with filming again. He also seems more wary of potential embarrassment. He’s older and generally the one that experiences new things without guidance or witnessing someone else do it first-to have an idea of how to avoid embarrassment. (As a first child, I can relate to that. I also know other first or only-children that are the same).
The eldest son‘s body language tells me otherwise…… I feel the other kids are really happy go lucky they don’t mind, but my eyes keep going back to the eldest son he keeps looking down.
His body language is withdrawn he’s just playing with the toy in his hand. There’s something going on for him, and I truly pray that he’s able to express his feelings openly and freely. ❤❤ You are all a beautiful family unit God bless navigating this next chapter. 🙏🏼
I think that is who he is. He seems like he like that off camera.
I agree. He's got a lot of thoughts and he's not saying them. Could be cause of the camer or cause of the pressure.
ehhh idk. Theo has always seemed very thoughtful and introspective. I feel like he said just how he felt. But yet and still, maybe he was thinking about the entirety of the conversation. Maybe he was thinking about himself getting older and if his feelings would change about the whole thing. Maybe he was just taking it all in because he seems to take things seriously. Idk! It's all very nuanced...as was the whole conversation. It's just all nuanced.
This is also the son that hasn't waivered in his decision to be off camera.
Idk…. but I do that a lot when I’m having conversations with people and seem withdrawn and don’t look at people at all and it doesn’t mean I’m paying attention but it’s how I pay attention.. and that’s because I do have adhd but I’m not saying he is because he is still young and can be other things but I wouldn’t assume. Im sure his dad asked his kids before posting or even making the videos.
“Dad? How will you make money when we leave the house?” 😂😂😂
Precious 😊
😂😂😂😂
Sad
Not sure why anyone would think that comment was funny. It's actually really sad. It shows the children recognize that their the main reason these videos make money so if they don't make videos, the family will suffer financially. That's putting an insane amount of pressure on these kids making them think they're responsible for the family's financial wellbeing. He may have said he can find other ways to make money but that doesn't mean these kids wont worry about it. They're more likely to continue making videos when they actually don't want to just because they're afraid that the family will suffer financially if they stop. Money isn't something children should have to worry about. Its the parents job to provide so this shouldn't even be something that was talked about with the children in my opinion. Its more likely to cause them to participate out of guilt or fear of what could happen. These are adult issues that kids can't mentally handle. The conversation should have centered solely around consent and Dad should have kept it super simple. They either want to participate or they don't and either option is completely fine and won't make mom and dad upset or think of them any less. I greatly appreciate that he is having a conversation with them about this and giving them a choice. Unfortunately, most family channels aren't like this. It's obvious he loves and cares about his kids, I just worry about him discussing the financial aspect with the them.
@@Xessa82 girl hush... I don't think anyone is laughing at the question more than the delivery. At least I wasn't. It was a great question from a child who's clearly paying attention.
This is a tough conversation because kids often subdue their internal feelings to comply with the adults around them. They have no power because they rely on their parents for everything. Kids are born (most often) with the disease to please their parents/guardians. They often equate this action with love. If I don’t do what my parents want will they still love me? I like the fact that the kids were asked and taught about consent. However, the monetary reasons for the video was also relayed in regards to their participation; so kids will interpret that as Dad needs us to be in these videos so we have food, clothes and shelter. Glen says “I’m very talented, so I can do anything.” However, I’m not sure that the kids in this case will remember that. The best example was Uriah’s question “What will you do when all the kids leave the house?” Very tricky situation.
I thought about this as well and my 8-10 year old self showed up big time. From watching their content over the years it seems that the kids are consistently given a choice. It also seems to be that their home (where ever they are with their parents) is a safe space for them. My hope is that this family is continuously blessed and that they continue to, at all turns, trust in and lean on God to guide them.
I complied as a child when it wasn’t what I wanted but it was the pressure of my family.
Yes! It was a little uncomfortable to watch because to me it seemed like he's still hoping that Theo and Uriah will change their minds. I hope he's careful that the younger children don't consent from a place of internalizing what you explain.
We love you Glen and Yvette and hope for the best outcome for your family.
Uriah asked his question directly after Glen mentioned they "make a lot of money from the videos" and listed off everything that they do with that money. It felt like a lil pressure was applied though I don't believe it was intentional
He did also say if they don't want to be in videos that is fine, he can make money other ways.
I love how he's talking to his children. Thorough explanations; he's talking to them like adults but in a way they understand! It's so heartwarming to see this love, protection, and respect from parents for their children.
Talking to his children on CZcams huh
Please also consider having these filming for social media conversations with each child separately in private. They have different personalities and different levels of understanding how widespread and permanent the internet is. Some of them seem to understand certain parts of what you’re saying more than others and they shouldn’t be influenced by their siblings or the cameras currently on them, no matter how well intentioned. I work in social media professionally in marketing (not an influencer) and daily see how original creators lose control online of their original content. Wishing you and your family the best. ❤
You made an excellent point. Theo seems to be more private and as the oldest child how he feels may influence the others. He may need to speak to each of the older children separately. Another consideration would be to tap into what is some of the feedback they are receiving in the enrichment programs.
I love seeing all this positive comments for this beautiful family. I agree with you and with other people’s comments so far.
I also wish this family the best! ✌🏼❤️
This is exactly what I was thinking. At least here, they are not being told the nuances, permanence, and implications of their participation.
@@PrincessSharifa434 yea. The explanation in the conversation sounds like dad always has the ability to take the all videos down from the internet whenever he wants. Which isn’t exactly the case with internet footprint. The first videos I saw on social media about this family were not directly from his channel. They were reposed by a different user on Instagram with no credit to the original account.
Also, in a different video he mentioned that they went to an in-person event where his kids were meeting new kids and his daughter did not like that the new kid she was meeting already knew who she was from the online videos. That made me think that the kids may not completely understand how many people all over the world are watching their videos, including strangers they might meet in real life.
I have to say, you have done a spectacular job with this channel. Although it seems that the children are the main focus of this channel, this channel is REALLY about you, navigating your way through fatherhood. You have integrated a lot of your commentary within the family videos by way of narration and it leaves the viewer with you as the focal point. You mainly begin and end your videos with the commentary/lesson to be learned. SOO although we LOVEEEEE seeing the children, if they decide they do not want to partake in videos anymore, I believe that you have built a solid fan base by yourself by heavily involving yourself in the videos and creating an atmosphere where your opinions/commentary have become a valued piece of the videos. So people will still enjoy this aspect of this channel even in the kids’ absence. I hope this made sense!
I was thinking the same thing, simply providing story times about different things that take place in their lives, would be enough. The commentary is so relatable, well put together that's all most of need tbh.
I think it’s good that your having this conversation but I feel like there is a little pressure on them when you say we pay rent etc with the money we make. How can they say no if they feel like my parents can’t pay rent if I dint be in the video. Even though it’s the truth.
Yeah I'm not appreciative of this approach either. He also keeps mentioning that he'll film the videos anyways and cut what the kids ask to cut, but then, "all the funniest parts of the videos are gone" and the he was quiet as if to give the kids the moment to change their mind and agree to be in the videos again. Manipulative.
@@sarranwrap2True. It's straight manipulation.
It's straight transparency.@@doll.ov.poetrii4682
Come on people. Think about it for a min. How would you have felt if your parents were filming you and you didn’t like it. His two oldest boys r getting to be teens soon and they want privacy. I remember one time the second oldest was told to do something and he called his dad boy, and Glen got mad and was telling him about it. The child started crying . Now this is going to be on social media for a long time. You don’t know if it’s brought up at school or church or any outings they do as a family, I know I wouldn’t like it,
I am so glad Glen and yvette r listening and taking their kids feelings and opinions into considerations.
It has run its course so Glen has to now close it down for the kids part. He is a very smart man and he will come up with something else. I wish this family all the best. The very best for these wonderful kids I love them all and hope they have the best lives in their future. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
But this is when adults need to actually grow up and make adult decisions and realize that filming their children since they were babies isn't the smartest decision because otherwise things like this happen..
@@MeeperBeeper743 💯🎯
@@MeeperBeeper743 To some extent, I agree. At the same time, though, children are evolutionary beings like adults. Just like their younger children don't currently take issue with being filmed, they may have different feelings as they grow. Children have the right to change their minds. We are born into certain environments that are largely out of our control. We might be from a certain state, our parents might have certain holidays that they celebrate (or don't), and we adopt those traditions from birth. Our parents dress us a certain way, name us a certain name, and choose our hairstyle for us before we can cognitively determine and then verbalize that we dislike this or that. It's about listening when children come to realize that they take issue with certain things. That's where a lot of parents go wrong, in my opinion. Glen and Yvette are doing the right thing.
@@alc6370but why record your kids at all? Knowing they are so young they may not be able to voice how they feel?
@@MeeperBeeper743he recorded his kids because family vlogging was a thing when he was rising on youtube. He was a stay at home black father, and wanted to show other fathers what happens. That’s why he filmed his kids. No one thought family vlogging was bad until this new wave of “OMG YOURE EXPLOITING YOUR KIDS” when all channels shouldn’t be demonized because of another
It is really good that more and more family channels are reflecting on these questions. But in how far do kids really know what they are consenting to (if they give their consent)? Because everything that is put on the internet stays there forever. And everyone has access to it. Also, consent is an ongoing conversation: are they allowed to withdraw their consent at any point during the production process? Even an hour after publication of the video etc? Do the (youngest) kids feel obliged to consent because they know it's their family income (especially when the older kids no longer wish to participate and they are the only kids left for the channel)? What percentage of the cut do they get? Etc. Important conversations!
Interesting points worth thinking about especially as these are all at different ages and points in their understanding of how public and permanent the internet can be.
I think, the way he is doing it is the best.
If they give consent then, it's fine. If they take back the consent, he takes the videos down. Children can articulate their wants and needs in the moment.
Honestly I love the videos but I think he should look and lean in diversifying his income.
The portion where he says pays our mortgage etc felt s little pressure even though im sure its unintentional. But having more diverse income will help relieve the stress and pressure and i know je said he is working on it.
He already said if they later down the line want to withdraw their consent they can do so
@@lindasamba4816 Yes, you are right, they did say they would remove a video later down the line. The reason why I mentioned "an hour after publication of the video" is because at that point the financial ramifications are felt more strongly (as the video at that point would not have had the chance to attract a high view count to earn back the time investment) than when a video is removed "later down the line" (and has generated profit). I'm not claiming they would not take it down immediately after uploading it if one of the kids withdrew their consent at that point, but I am saying that there are just so many nuances that come into having a genuinely candid discussion about this topic.
You can tell the kids know the income of the household went down. That’s all we need to know in order to read between the lines. That’s a lot of pressure and guilt for a kid. Kids that want to impress their parents act this way because they love you. The issues don’t show up with all this stuff until they are adults. A child shouldn’t know. The fact that they do will be all they need to resent you in their 20’s.
He said he didn't talk to them about his finances. He even mentioned that there are several other ways he can and is making money. Please don't join the long line of people who try to see negatives in every positive.
This conversation would never have come up if the children did not say they wanted to film again. The videos were taken down without them knowing the negative impact on their finances. Listen to the video again.
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he doesn’t have to directly mention finances for them to understand that’s how they make their money there’s no way they dont pick up on that and how it supports them. they’re smart kids they know.
@@momentswithmarlo. but also they were little kids and they still are little kids. this was their normal. they didn't know any better. obviously they're going to ask to watch their old videos, this was their life. I'm sure the older kids are able to make the connection between money and videos. I teach third grade and those kids know that CZcams = money. even when it doesn't exactly lmao
I would revisit this conversation every year with each child separately. Consent is tricky when you dont truly know every aspect to what you are consenting too. I would have each child review the product and make editing notes. I would also continue to highlight educating them about each aspect of the content creation amd social media prescence process and responsibilities. And i would keep in mind that even with this conversation being jad amd these precautions taken as they age they may still hold resentments and want to contest the content created when they were minors because they are going to only gather full understanding as they age.
That money pressure shouldn't ever be a conversation for kids, that's for Dad and Mom....
To me Is complete manipulatin GASLIGHTING
Absolutely disgusting to put the financial burden on these kids.
So manipulative
Glen, this video was more about "can we move forward with shooting even though you've expressed serious concerns" vs. reaffirming your commitment to their privacy and protecting their childhood with them off the camera. When one of them asked, "Dad how are you gonna make money when we're gone [meaning grown up]?", it did me in. THEY KNOW YOU MAKE YOUR MONEY OFF OF THEM. IT WILL NOT END WELL. I pray you heed the comments Glen and go out and get a different job. You are to provide for them, not them provide for you. This is not it. The two youngest have no idea and are so innocent. The girl once she is old enough and realizes will not be as passive as the two older boys are being.
This conversion should be ongoing. As the kids grow older and wiser, the topic of consent should continue to be reevaluated. And these conversations should be initiated by the parents. The kids will forget so it’s important to continue to remind them that they always have a choice and educate them fully on the effects of the choices they make. I don’t think its a great idea to tell them that the videos are needed in order to provide for the family financially because them knowing that could pressure them into consenting when they don’t want to. You’re doing a great job Glen. Keep up the good work!
This is just an amazing entrepreneurial pivot and still honoring your family wishes!
I pray that it never gets hard for the kids, because you really create a safe place for them. You aren’t a company executive that only thinks of profits. You are a father and they are having freedom to be themselves, their truest selves, in it. I love it!!!
but...really tho ...its not about what you love.what the parents love ......its about what the children want. the children have to love it....seee.
your very nice tho.
I’m a fan of “How Married Are You” and I believe you and Yvette have an interesting ministry for the times and culture we live in. However, this video made me cringe … on its very concept. If (some of) your children don’t want to be filmed for the internet, why do they have to make a video (the very thing they’re expressing they don’t want) to explain their position … in front of the world? It feels emotionally manipulative (at best) and abusive (at worst) which I HAVE to believe is not your intention Glen. However, it may be your impact in the long run. They’re children who love and obviously want to please their father, so they will comply, but they seem (especially Theo from his disposition) to not want this and have already expressed that to their protectors (offscreen). Why wasn’t their first “no” a complete sentence? Why do they have to then explain themselves to your viewers and make yet another example of their lives for the benefit of your business model?
Also - where was Yvette? I’m curious to know what/how she feels about all this.
Money, a platform, and a business ain’t everything, my friend. Your family, and its emotional health, always comes first. Don’t kill your kids, and God’s hope for a United family, with a smile and a mic.
Signed,
A (critical) Fan
Yes to all of this. Very weird to put this CZcams it should be private
Couldn't have said it better myself! Thank you for commenting this!
♥️🙏🏼💯 God bless you for sharing from ur heart that was deep & needed to be said!!
Yes and yes to all of this,
I didn't like that you said they "take the best part of the video out"...that felt slightly manipulative. According to who is it the best part?
I didn’t even think of it like that, but I can totally see it now. Kid asks to take a certain part out because they are embarrassed by it, dad says “(but) that’s the best part”.
What kind of message does that send? Possibly that their embarrassment is required for others entertainment and is something that should be profited off of.
Hopefully they haven’t thought that, but I can see how one could internalize this if they really are told that when asking to remove certain parts.
I think that it is time to make an executive decision to hold off on anymore family videos. The children seem to have conflicting views and understanding about being filmed. It's better to proceed with caution. If they want to, maybe they can pick back up as teenagers when they have the emotional vocabulary to express themselves about when and where they are consenting to be filmed.
I completely appreciate the conversation you had with your children, how hard it is, and how new this territory is to tread. However, the mention of money and figuring out how to make money etc, while well-meaning, can come across as a passive guilt trip. This may not be the case at all. However, it’s something I winced at at a few moments through the video. You did an amazing job having a candid conversation with your children, and I’m sure you’ve had these convos many times off camera to ensure their comfortability, meaning my perception could be completely superficial and I also accept that.
Yep. It came off as very manipulative, whether he meant it to be or not. It almost seems like they like having theirs live recorded but not placed in front of other people. Same thing with describing how the videos can help other people. Children internalize things and start feeling responsible for things they really aren’t responsible for. Hope that’s not the case with this beautiful family 🤗
I felt the same way but I believe if the money flow is different from his new tactic, they probably already noticed the difference already on some level. I was fully conscious at 3. Comprehending, understanding, and wondering how to make my mom's life easier. It's so hard to navigate these situations. I feel like it is best to approach it according to the household since a healthy household will be able to have some comprehension of how to converse with their kids about different situations. I think the best thing is to keep an open door, always make them feel that they can stop at any point. We go through phases in life. Sometimes they may not want to show it, other times they will.
I completely agree. As an educator, children SHOULD NOT have to carry the burden of financial responsibilities. PARENTS take care of the CHILDREN as it was the parents who HAD the children. This consent conversation is too complex for children their age. I am so happy social media was not around when I was a child. Children should be outside riding their bikes, playing hide-and-seek, being CAREFREE, not shoved in front of a camera during intimate moments because it makes "good," content. Let kids be kids! Kids are unpredictable, saying yes today, could mean no tomorrow. They are not going to remember this conversation 2 weeks from now. People in the comments saying this conversation should happen quarterly sound ridiculous. Can you imagine having to deal with that as a child?
I dont normally comment but these boys dont want to do it. Its hard to be real about it without sounding harsh. They arent old enough to understand and maybe there should be something in writting about their wages... so they dont turn 16 and realize you weren't paying them fair wages. If they are providers in your home they should be paid such. Love your content, but you can do other things, try other ventures. Would love to hear their stories from a parent's perspective, love they way you navigate the world with them. Would also enjoy animated series about them❤❤❤ its all love, i will continue to support your platform.
What is making you say the don't? Literally every time he asks, or brings up how they didn't like something, they start talking about everything they like about it and how they want to do more.
Also he was about as clear about money as he needed to be here. He may also be having more specific discussions off camera when it comes to actual numbers. A lot of people don't post about finances.
Low key, Glenn used some coercive phrasing/tactics with them. “This is how our family makes money…” “These videos can help other people…” “I don’t want you to turn 16 and hate me..” It doesn’t seem like he was purposefully trying to manipulate them, but he could just be used to asserting his will in this way.
@@elleelle7200right! Those are heaven burdens that he has given his children to bare. He actually sounded like he almost resenting the kids for ever saying they didn’t want to record.
I agree. They are being filmed about not wanting to be filmed? They shouldn’t even have to have this conversation on camera. This is a pressuring tactic because they know people are watching their reaction. The dad is also doing a lot of applauding of himself for taking the videos down. The whole situation feels wrong. I love the ideas of writing books and even the animated series.
@@elleelle7200 agreed!! I caught onto that too! A very adult convo for these children.
Theo doesn’t want to make videos anymore and you can tell by his body language that he’s detached from the conversation. He’s being guilt tripped for not wanting to film and you can feel the weight of that burden through the screen.
I never unsubscribe. I love the way your family evolved. It's not easy, Mom and Dad, but you are doing it. Thanks for making the video and making us proud.
i get this all but what i don't get is the topic of money really shouldn't be the topic of convo with them, would this not lead them to feel guilty
So I admit I've been told I'm a bit of a broken record with family and friends with stuff like this but a good faith idea/recommendation: individual/family counseling might be an option?
The situation doesn't have to be violent or abusive to benefit from a third party with experience in child/family psychology. And theirs is a unique experience that may be difficult for them to articulate, and the nuances may be difficult for them to process, even considering how intelligent they are.
My family is just the opposite. My kids force me to record and post. I need to talk to them about MY consent. 🥴 Okay, they don’t force me, but they are constantly telling me, “Mom, we need to post. Mom we need to record.”
It's great that they want to be a part at least and you don't force them, buuut how can you know that they will not change their mind about it later? They are still so young and in development - how they feel about private moments being shared with the world might change as they get older. Do they even understand the concept and significance - what's on the internet once might stay there forever....
@@annale91 I have an almost 15, 13 and 8 year old. I was thinking the same as you. They are very involved in what we post. They come up with most ideas. We oversee to make sure it’s appropriate. However, if they ever change their minds I have no problem stopping or shifting into a new direction. We mainly do our videos for fun. It’s good to watch Beleaf in Fatherhood to get a different perspective and how others manage their channel. You are so right, as a parent it makes me very cautious with everything. I definitely, have the second guessing and hoping we are doing the right thing for our girls. Only time will tell.
This was hard to watch. I don’t think the older kids want to film, but are conflicted because they know this makes their family money. They’re too young to have to decide between their comfort and their family’s financial stability. They’re in a really tough situation
Thank you family for taking this seriously. 💖
I don’t think it’s explicitly clear to the kids within this conversation that being on camera means that millions of people around the world will be watching their videos when you put it back up. Also that some people can screen record the videos and repost it on platforms where you as a dad don’t always have control over taking it down anymore once someone saves/reshares it. (Possible you talked about this off camera before?)
That would be informed consent, which they should also be able to revoke at any time as their young minds and understanding develops. Appreciate you talking about “renegotiation of terms.” Thank you for sharing this vulnerable conversation.
He made it pretty clear they can change their mind whenever they want, they didn't really seem super interested though.
@@annataymond9529you missed the nuance of what I said in the first part. I already agreed that he made it clear that they can change the terms.
I can’t help but to see this as a potential conversation 10 years from now:
“why didn’t you tell me you didn’t want to do this anymore?”
“I did, but then…”
Thanks for this. Quick q - Do they always have to work behind the scenes ?
Having worked in a family business as a child of a parent w/ a business, I would only propose that you give them the autonomy to completely disconnect without fear of your rejection/disappointment /anger etc.
Your voice carries weight in them, especially as they are still very much in the process of finding their own; so they may not have the confidence to say a complete ‘no’.
Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏
This is so complicated and I truly empathize with everyone. Glen you seem stressed and it's seeping out. I'm sure the kids can feel it which may lead them to agree to film when they truly don't want to. They love you, want to please you and want to be included. You say "we're filming and if you don't want to film then don't come in here" but what if the entire family is there? What if they don't want to be alone but you're on a filming time crunch? It's challenging and difficult but maybe you can transition to animated versions of the kids with stories they create. Maybe you can create an animated chocolate baby universe.
Sidebar: Are you a Taurus? Taurus people don't take no for an answer on the slick lol smh. They'll keep asking in covert ways just in case "you change your mind." When really people just get tired of being asked.
The kids already said no, Glen. Let that be their no.
The Most Genuine Family Channel To Grace CZcams. Soo many parents are blinded by the money they generate by invading the privacy of their children and don’t even consider their feelings or how it will affect them in the future. Beleaf you are soo real 💯
This is so amazing. Only love and kudos to you for not leaving your family behind like you said. They’re so blessed. ❤ Love from Germany
Man. I know it’s so hard for him to have this convo and be open about stopping the videos. You can see how hard he’s trying to hold back the stress and urgency from his voice and body language.
You don’t hear what these kids saying? They want to make HOME VIDEOS. Not videos for the public . Listen to them!
Just stop filming the kids! It was probably hard for them to tell you in the first place ! This is pressure within itself and these kids don’t understand the gravity of being so public.
Okay but why are the kids still on camera being filmed for this convo if the kids said they don’t want to do this anymore? Did I miss something?
!!!!!! Exactly
No, you didn't
Maybe have this convo off screen & you’ll get more authentic responses. It seems at points they feel pressured to say the “right” thing because they know people will be watching.
Stay strong Henry's!
All Praises to The Most High Yah. He's the glue that's held y'all together and will always cover you. ❤
Based on my common sense...children can't really give consent. If they are uncomfortable, just pause the videos for now until they can articulate better and want to be in videos 100%. Let them do other things. They love you and they like the family time you share together making videos for your own private use and enjoyment, so do that. You will figure something out. They dont have to be your job/ anchor of your family's income. That's a lot of pressure for a child, and shouldn't be their responsibility or decision to make at all.
Well said
They don’t want to film….they’ve already told you. THE END!
So incredibly important
I appreciate what you guys do because it helps me to navigate the mind of my 10 year old granddaughter.
Understanding that she's just beginning to figure this world out and to give her the space she needs to be free thinking. Your transparency is awesome, thank you.
Such beautiful faces! You have an amazing family. Congratulations 🎉💯🎉 your team is wonderful. Thanks for letting us watch you all grow and develop such a blueprint for a great family. ❣️❣️❣️❣️🎊🎊
They might not fully realize what is actually happening but giving them the space to "renegotiate" is a plus!
Theo really doesn't want to film at all, his body language & lack of response conveyed that. Uriah wants home videos for personal viewing but not for the public.
Glen, you're an absolutely amazing father!! Watching you talk to them this way is something I've never experienced as a child & it's so refreshing to see.
I think this is really freakin cool Glen! Way to show the world that there’s an appropriate way to go about creating content that still allows you to include your family. I LOVE that you spoke to the fact that the children have bank accounts set up where you’re putting money away for them. I’ve actually never, NOT once, heard anyone talk about this. I think many folks out there just assume that Mom and Dad (not saying you guys btw) are just pocketing all of the revenue that’s generated. Lets be honest, I’m sure there are people out there that don’t share the wealth with their ENTIRE family unit but that’s NOT YOU guys and we’re here for it! Not that it’s anyone’s business what you do or don’t do with your money, but I appreciate you putting this out there and for sharing this insight as I think it’s incredibly helpful for people to hear. The more transparency that exists the less it leaves room for nonsense. Keep being awesome! You’ve got a fan for the long haul over here! ❤️❤️❤️
❤Thank you so much and thank you to the whole family. I’ve watched the children grow. I’ve watched Uzi, frustrated when his siblings went to school.
I feel like I’m part of your family. I have mental and alcohol issues that I’m dealing with. Your videos help me realize that I’m not alone. The best to you and the whole family. I love all of you. I am Hispanic. Love for God and family is first.
The rest comes after. ❤❤❤❤
man I absolutely adore everything that you and your wife pour into your kids and your family as a whole. Thank you for sharing and pouring into my life as well
I've always admired how you communicate with your kids about filming and respect their wishes when they don't want to.
What a valuable example and lesson this is!
I so love that you guys treat your children as little humans with thoughts, feelings and rights...as they are. ❤
Frank Puppet should definitely make a huge comeback.... You have been consistently one of the most thoughtful, creative dads on CZcams. I enjoy your content.
This is such a special family. I love how much you respect your children and value their desires and autonomy!
Glenn I think it’s was an intentional conversation with your kids and you did it in the best way you knew how. It was great to hear you continue to remind them that they can always change their mind while also being transparent about various aspects. Excited to see how the kids transition with this information and the community grow with continued support of your family.
This is so GOOD! It’s a huge concern for us as a family channel! We don’t ever want to pressure our children to do anything! We always communicate that it’s their choice, even though they’re young!
Thank you for sharing this! And congrats on your new endeavors!😊
As much I love seeing your children its time to stop filming them. You put them under a lot of pressure when you mentioned the financial aspects, which wasn't fair and very manipulative. The two youngest will say they are comfortable because they arent fully self aware yet. As an adult you have to diversify and change direction and concentrate on your books and whatever else merchandise. Please be the adult in this situation and abide by their original request. Remember when one door closes God opens another one.
This conversation, it's just so relatable, where you think you finally understand exact what the kid is talking about, and then when you try to clarify, they go and say basically the opposite thing. 😂
Communication is hard.
Right back on film lol. Leave these kids alone they said. Don’t guilt trip them about money
I really appreciate your channel and the videos you’ve shared. It’s great that you have these conversations with your children and thank you for showing that despite any of the negative or condemning comments. It’s honestly inspiring to watch especially being from Rhode Island where you don’t see a lot of good examples of Black families. I enjoy watching and showing my daughter another beautiful black family so thank you 🙏🏽
I love this and I feel like it is so great! I read the comments when you asked the community what they think about family CZcams channels and a lot of people were talking about you doing it the right way - showing beautiful moments and a good parenting style and not forcing situations. And even though I agree with this - I believe it is a bit besides the point that kids just can't know how they will feel about being a public figure and having private moments shared with the world (for ever on the internet) until they are older. I really questioned also my involvement in this - as I do like to watch some family channels like yours. But looking at the bigger picture - I believe it just doesn't seem right.
I love your family! My kids are all grown. But I still love to watch.I think your all special. Thanks for sharing. I love all your children's different personalities. Mom and dad you're doing a wonderful job.
Another reason why this will forever be my favorite family channel ❤. Let’s normalize open communication with kids. It’ll go a long way.
I think it’s important to note this isn’t the first conversation he’s had with them. This is a conversation he’s had before and responded based on their feelings at that time. Their feelings have evolved as they have grown and he is responding accordingly. He’s noted why a bunch of videos have gone dark and them re- appearing would be whiplash. He’s showing us how he is actively having these convos with his kids. I do think including the money aspect is a sticky situation but he is treating like his kids as full humans with an evolving opinions on their lives who get some autonomy their situations. That is good parenting.
This and the previous video were simply amazing. It is so awesome to witness the growth of you and your entire family, over the years. Thank you so much for sharing this topic and interaction with the children, as it is a much needed discussion in the content creator space.
Teaching children they have a voice, albeit in the most respectful way possible, is extremely important.
Keep going and growing!
God Bless you and your family, in Jesus name!
Glen I really love you, and your entire family… but I have to say that this all sounds extremely coercive. It sounds like you’re taking your children on a guilt trip. “I mean… you’re allowed to say no…. But these videos are how we make money” “guys I took down 300 whole videos… because I don’t want you to hate me when you’re 16”. It’s a lot of pressure, and you’re making it extremely hard for them to say no, and stand firm in that. Hence why Uriah keeps wavering, and Theo hasn’t given a hard no when it seems he wants to. They don’t want to displease dad, or be the reason why 300 videos got taken down, or be the reason why the family isn’t making money. That’s hard. And I know this is hard for you, because you’re trying to do the right thing and take care of your family emotionally and financially.. but I just worry that you’re still grappling with the decision to stop recording them, and the kids can feel that… which is why Uriah’s funny self said… well dad how are you going to make money when we leave??? It’s not their responsibility to proved for the family , and in this case.. their likeness provides for the family, that might be too much weight.
This might be unpopular, but I’m still really lost on the “my kids don’t want to be on CZcams, so today they’re going live on CZcams to talk about why they don’t want to be on CZcams.” I don’t understand how you acknowledge that your oldest two felt uncomfortable being recognized by absolute strangers (as any child would be) and yet you decide to delete the earlier videos where they may be less recognized and keep the recent videos where they would be more easily recognizable (as opposed to just deleting all the videos). You have a very beautiful family, but this is the issue with treating children as content. You eloquently acknowledged all of issues with using children as content just to promote more of your children as content. Also, this is the second time that you’ve acknowledged Theo’s discomfort with being on camera and then immediately put him back on camera.
It seems like an ongoing discussion where things are changing as the kids grown and their opinions change. I hear ya tho. It seems weird, but if you consider how much kids change their thoughts and opinions it seems less weird.
He explained everything already so maybe rewatch the previous video before this one. Theo asked why they do not make videos anymore after he said he didn't want to be in the videos. The children change their minds a lot from what I can see and what was discussed in this video. They agreed to film this conversation. The oldest wanted certain videos deleted and said others were fine. Then said he doesnt mind anymore. What's hard to understand here? This is fantastic parenting ‼️ clearly the children are still learning because they don't have all of the communication skills down pact yet. They are growing up. This is a good conversation.
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Because it's nuanced. Just because the kids have sometimes not wanted to be doesn't mean they never want anything to do with it. In the video here- even when he specifically tries to bring up that they're allowed to be done whenever, or asks them a question specifically about what parts they don't want, they unprompted kept talking about parts they DO want. And it kinda seems like he specifically asked if they didn't want to talk about it on the channel before even doing this.
Watch the previous video
I have always loved your channel & you sharing your family. This is another showcase of why, respecting your kids, so beautiful to witness in real-time too. Thank you.
Blessings to you Henry family! Glenn and Yvette you all are wonderful parents. This was super classy to bring this discussion to light with your kids. Much love and blessings to you all.
I loved filming videos as a kid with my siblings. Watching them back was a huge joy. My dad filmed us almost every chance he got. The huge gigantic massive difference though is that my dad didn’t upload our fun family moments to the internet for people, creeps, stalkers, and racists alike to watch and judge and one-sidedly know us. Maybe Theo enjoys making videos but not the sharing them part. That’s how we millennials used to experience this situation as kids. I feel like creating an environment where your kids learn that fun family time = internet content is VERY unhealthy and unnatural. I used to love this channel as I did the ShayTards’ channel so many years ago now, but the love for such channels only lasts while I’m forcing myself not to contend with the reality that I’m watching a massive invasion of a child’s privacy. Posting videos featuring them occasionally (like once every few months) is one thing, but weekly videos of entire childhoods feels morally wrong. People can get so mean and inappropriate as viewers, even when it’s kids.
At some point *every* content creator has to make a pivot to stay relevant and growth with and beyond their audience. This may be your time.
You have such an amazing body of work that you can turn this into a mentorship opportunity, maybe even a fatherhood type of angle empowering men to be present and more hands-on fathers as they navigate this world while raising their babies into upstanding adults.
It allows you to take the camera off the kids for a while, put you guys as parents front center, and grow/reach an entire new audience while still maintaining what you have.
Y'all are creative so you can probably figure it out even better.
The kiddos want their privacy and it should absolutely be considered and respected.
👏🏾👏🏾 to all of it. Super creative, intelligent, and skilled. They will figure it out.
I know you said that you will listen to them if they give content or not, but please also think ahead for them like: is this a video they will be happy about in 10 or 20 years?
How will their first partner react to seeing them from 0 to 20 years old?
When they are older, they can maybe get bullied with a toddler meltdown video of them..
And how will it feel for them going to college, and everyone has seen them as a toddler?
What if one of them wants to change? Like from rebellious to A student, but the new teacher don't believe them because they have seen all of the videos.
Or maybe on of your kids want to change image and how other kids perceive them, but is now harder because there so much out there about them..
You cant count on the ability to delete video's. And if you wants something down, trolls gonna repost forever...
Bless you all for embracing the changing tides of not just filming, but parenting human beings!
This is a conversation that leads to informed, intelligent, fair and comfortable consent. These beautiful young people and their parents are a gift to the world. Thank you.🥰
I respect that you value the feelings and well-being of your children more than social media clicks and views. ❤
I LOVE these conversations with ur precious children. Love seeing children RESPECTED thus truly loved appropriately. May God bless you immensely.
Hey Beleaf, well done!
The one thing I can tell is that you’re prioritizing the experience of the kids.
You didn’t delete those videos because anyone but the kids asked you to, and you’re starting again because the kids asked you to. You’re also very in touch with the emotional needs of your kids all that matters is that you’re focused on this balance.
I’ve been on this fatherhood journey with you since the Theo’s Gift album dropped (and your personal journey before that through other records) so I see CLEARLY the journey, the mistakes, the corrections and growth as best an involved third party can.
Don’t let the negative comments take your focus away from raising your family and modeling, I’ve grown into man hood learning from even your mistakes. And you are hella talented (favorite rapper’s favorite rapper and all) so if people assume your life depends on this for money it’s more of a joke.
God bless you and continue to guide you with wisdom for every step. Keep going!
i commend you for having this conversation with your children. Its important regarding this issue and will serve them well in life as they grow up. Blessings.
This is really nice to witness, healthy and necessary conversations with the kids!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Not sure the children being manipulated into continuing doing what they don't want to do in order to make money for their dad is healthy.
I appreciate the transparency of figuring out things in real time. It's super easy when we're watching others to think that they have all the answers and that they ought to get everything right on the first try but that's just not how life, relationships, and communication work. It's a constant process of growth, learning, and tweaking. That's just how it is. Sometimes it's messy and uncomfortable. Often we look back with the clarity of time and think, "Ahhh, I could said this, done that better". That's also part of the process but there's no getting to that awareness of we don't go through the process. So thank you for letting us in on this part of that process!
You allow ur children to be their authentic selves. No fear , no walking on eggshells. Absolutely invaluable for creating well adjusted fully functional and present future adults.