7 Habits For Self Actualization (Daily Routine To Defeat Your Demons) - Inner Work Library [121/500]
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- čas přidán 4. 07. 2024
- What's my daily inner work routine? In this episode of Inner Work Library Q&A we explore the self healing habits and self actualisation habits for health and success. We'll be talking about self development habits in both practical and more esoteric ways, and the overall psychology of self healing and trauma healing towards your own self actualization.
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⏱️ TIMESTAMPS ⏱️
00:00 1. Be Unavailable
01:55 2. Witness Your Wounds
04:04 3. Meet Your Inner Teachers
06:24 4. Take Off Your Shoes
08:57 5. Delete Your Digital Persona
12:34 6. Get On Your Knees
15:20 7. The Most Important Habit
19:45 8. Bonus Round
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Topics explored: carl jung shadow self; shadow work; shadow psychology; daily habits; daily habits to improve life; daily habits to improve mental health; healthy daily habits; self actualisation; self actualization psychology; self actualization; trauma healing; healing trauma; trauma healing habits; self actualisation habits; healing habits; self healing habits; parts work; active imagination; self development habits; self development; self improvement habits; self improvement practices; inner work; inner work habits; inner work routine; inner work development;
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"be unavailable" is so important, i honestly gave too much of myself all my life and it set me back more than i'd like. even if people aren't necessarily bad, they will take you for granted if you're always there. always put yourself first, no matter what. that was one of my big life lessons.
It's a hard lesson to learn, and one of the most painful sometimes. Thanks for being honest here, and good luck in 2024.
I have done the same,
I also find that people use their smartphones as a way to disengage from themselves and avoid difficult, though rewarding, introspection.
That's a common one, for sure. Good catch.
My parents and brother have a really great method of staying 'unplugged' from social media. They simply keep their phones as phones and keep all their social and video apps on their tablets. That way social media time is really seen as healthy leisure time
That's a fantastic strategy, good call.
Being unavailable is something really simple that has been life changing for me. I used to give my energy away too easily
Highly resonant conversation. I’ve been stacking the first 6 for years and witnessed their consistency transform #7. I went from corporate burnout to self-employed over a 4 year period. During the transition I worked jobs that allowed me to diversify my skills and chose to view my employers as investors in my business. It was a mindset that kept me motivated and helped prevent the fragmenting that you speak of.
Nicole, your consistency shows in your mental robustness and overall holistic philosophy. It's a fun video to put together, and likewise know that the number seven work question really is the big decider for most people in terms of self actualisation.
The QUEEN is the feminine archetype you were missing ;-)
A very, Joyful, Prosperous & Happy New Year to you and everyone on this channel!!!!!!
You got it! Saw it in the edit!
Just found your videos and i am wowed. You speak from direct knowledge, i immediately recognize that. Not many do that nowadays, my compliments. Not gonna binge but gonna follow you and pick out some gems. Thank you 💎
I hope your first week with this channel has been continued to be rewarding - thank you for being here, and make sure to do everything you can to pickup the books and dive deep.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm working on #7. I'm currently in a "survival job" to make ends meet but I'll reflect and do #1-#6 to eventually figure out a career aligned with what is meaningful for me.
Excellent news - you're on the path, stay steady.
Gosh you are so well spoken and engaging! Love the last point about meaningful work and serving something bigger than yourself. Thanks always!
That last habit is the most important, truly. Thanks for your kind words too, Molly!
your voice is smooth, therapeutic ❤ thank you for endless info
One day it will end, but not for many years. Wishing you well.
This year i started going deep jnto the "online persona deletion" and taking long breaks from social media. This has been such a powerful method of self actualization that I now use regularly. I realized similarly that I get lost in it and breaking out of it more often helps me a lot
I'm upgrading my boundaries for this year too - it's one of the critical missing aspects in many people's lives, happy you've been finding benefit from the deletion too. Keep at it brother.
Preaching to the quoir again here but, beautifully well rounded set of practices for anyone still seeking human wholeness to integrate into their lives.
Basically just talking for the algorithm here because we are largely on the same wavelength.
Happy to say that the career piece has finally fallen into place for me at 26, and you're right, the others are worthless without it.
Great advice again!
The career piece is truly unavoidable, and so rewarding. Thanks for taking the time to share here brother - keep at it in 2024!
That's wonderful! I love this type of videos. This helps me to appreciate my hard work and progress, helps me to assess where I'm currently at and where I'd like to put my effort and energy next.
I appreciate you, thank you so much.
Yes, happy to make this and put it together for you! Wishing you well with the final habit especially.
Thank you Jordan!! I'm 17years old.. Jus discovered your channel.. Been binge watching ur videos.. Its kinda hard.. But tryin my best to structure the knowledge gained from it.. Can u do a video on essentials for a teenager to be on the right track emotionally, spiritually, academically, athletically and in relationships.. And if I miss something very important, that you think is the foundation.. That too.. Thank you❤️
Welcome, brother! Appreciate you putting in the work at 17, likewise began my self development journey around your age - I won't be able to make a specific teenager video because my audience here is typically 25-45 years old, but I recommend you checking out my latest shadow work playlist for my best new work. Some great books and practical exercises to start you off!
Definitely will check the playlist..
OMG!! Point number 7 hit me hard. I have known this for so long. This video has been the push I’ve needed to make the change somehow… Thank you so much.
Happy to be here in the right timing - make that shift, and find the steady balance in the new direction this year. You got this.
I would add: have a laugh. ;) At least smile wildly once a day.
So grateful the CZcams algorithm worked well for a change. Thank you 🙏
Cheers brother - sweet channel. Grounding and aesthetic taste with your videos and interests - happy to help and wishing you the best for 2024.
Thank you for that last impromptu point. I've only recently discovered your channel, and I've been sleeping on my own inner work. I keep trying to tell myself that the shadow aspects that bother me so much don't need to have form, but the conflict that they create by stirring up my emotions make it hard to let them dissipate. Today in particular, I was dealing with an internal conflict caused by a dream that triggered a part of my shadow. I've spent a lot of the day telling myself to just disconnect and try to observe the thoughts, but it kept coming back with "you're just avoiding and repressing me and that will cause you harm." But hearing that last point, it's like a tether had just been cut.
all the best to you, may you do what you feel is right!
Yes, these moments are often confronting, and I appreciate you being here for the uncomfortable confrontations. Keep at it this year, and welcome too.
Not the place perhaps but wanted to say thanks for the book recommendation in a previous video, John Rowan healing the male psyche much needed book, thanks.
Thank you - I picked this up recently, it will be going in my next course for 2024. Essential Reading for introspective men.
For the past few years a nice organic cleansing of people from my life was taking place. And not because I did it on purpose. I burnt myself through my life always putting other people needs before my own. I was in depression mostly staying in bed for many years as the energy level was close to zero. Now I am free from all kinds of obligations and demands others were inserting into my life’s schedule since I am not capable of meeting any demands due to my poor physical shape. Lately I began enjoying my life little by little again and gradually taking care of myself more and more. And since I am left with a very limited number of people in my life now it’s became so much easier and more joyful to live a quiet, simple, slow pace life. I feel I did my contribution to a society at my best and I now deserve living for myself and by myself. I appreciate your quiet calming manner of speaking and your ideas about how we should be. Subscription with gratitude.
Welcome, and thanks for taking the time to share so openly here. I enjoyed reading your comment and will do my best to keep supporting you this year - cheers!
Love your voice!
Cheers, happy to use it for good!
Well done Jordan!
Explaining about digital age☺️
Useful information. Thank you so much, Jordan.
Always happy to help.
I keep coming back for your videos. Thank you. 🤙
Thanks for being here, more on the way for 2024!
Goddamn what a voice
Wishing you the best this year.
Thank you so much! Watched your video about projecting scenarios onto our potential love interests and it really struck a chord. Looking forward to what I will learn from your other videos :) Thank you so much for your work!@@jordanthornton
I truly love your videos and they have helped me so much along the way. Thank you!
You are so welcome! More to come in 2024!
What a good video, Jordan. Saw it for the second time, after I saw it for the first time yesterday. Grateful to have come across your channel. Thank you 🙏🏼
Welcome, and happy to have you here!
Thank you so much for such great insights that you share with us. Your work always makes me view life from a very deep and different perspective. I have ordered few of the books you have recommended in another video. I will be looking out for more of your work for more such guidance. Thank you!
This comment means a lot to me, thanks for being here this year - I'll do my best to keep providing as much as I can for free here. Keep at it.
Awesome video glad I found you on CZcams 👏
Welcome, great time to find me and wishing you the best for 2024 brother!
Amazing
Work and love ❤️
For sure.
Just wanted to say I bought Complex PTSD because of your last video and its amazing so far. Thank you
Encyclopaedic resource, thanks for making the effort to keep going.
The Queen
That's the one!
Yes 👏🏻
Wishing you the best in your routine for the year ahead!
Any recommendations on books about digital persona's?
Unfortunately not, it's too new!
I think i need this as a podcast to walk and listen to
CZcams premium is excellent for listening to videos while you're phone is on locked - if you haven't got this already. Ad free too! (I'm not affiliated, it's just one of the only subscriptions I likewise pay for)
Seeing lots of comments around the idea of giving too much of one's energy away, as though it is lost and there was no energetic exchange. Seems to me that people may not be placing value or appreciating the actions of being kind or present to other people, or even doing nice things for friends or even people you don't know. I am curious what this concept means to people. Perhaps if we all only tend to looking out for ourselves, and not others, we can get ahead--is that it? Thats not the way, imho. Hoping that people know that giving your energy to others is not the issue, and that being with other people can be energising in the right contexts. I dont understand the struggle, would someone give examples of how they gave their energy away? I see time wasters like social media or video games at play in not spending time on activities that productively enhance your life. I suppose going out to the bars with others regularly might be an example of wasting ones energy, but many would say that laughing and sharing stories, dancing, etc was good for them if not done to excess. I wonder if it is more a matter of doing everything in moderation...
Some of the most common 'giving energy away' patterns tend to be from people who either a) struggle to say no and therefore waste time with people they dislike; b) struggle to choose where to invest time and get caught in 'junk food relationships' where they never reach actual deep connection. Just two examples.
What microphone do you use?
Rode NTG plugged into Tascam DR05x with boom arm and post-production noise reduction in davinciresolve - hope this helps!
@@jordanthornton thank you
The sage...iS the femenino archetype You couldn't remember
It was the queen!
+1
Cheers, hope 2024 is flowing well so far.
I love what you bring to the table. Always look forward to seeing your videos. A heart felt thank you for all you give out 🩵 You're great
Happy to be here, and hope these habits support your 2024 expansions.