💑 WEDDING NIGHT ADVICE - 5 MINUTE PEP TALK ------------------------------------------------ Asalamualaikum everyone! In today's video I will be talking about advice for the wedding night. It's the night you get married, and once the festivities are over, a lot of us feel anxiety about the physical aspect of our marriage. As someone that never really got "the talk", I feel like it's an important topic to discuss. For those of you who are married, please leave your advice in the comments section so other girls can benefit from your knowledge. Thank you for watching my video on wedding night advice. I hope it makes you feel better about the amazing journey of marriage. It's half of our deen, and although it can be hard at times, it's definitely worth it!
Today is my nikkah. Hope every thing goes well...... so nervous right now. I hope you people pray for me.... (EDIT: Thanks for your prayers and well wishes. We are expecting a baby boy in Dec,2020 😊 Plz pray for him too) Breaking news: our little man is here today on friday 1st,Jan 2021 ALHAMDULILLAH. We named him AHAD.❤
The first night me and my husband laid in bed talking and laughing untill past 1 am, nothing more happened than that, yet I’ll always remember how much we enjoyed that night just getting to know everything about eachother. Your right, there’s definitely no rush to do anything on your first night, there’s plenty of time for baby making later on! Lol! Just enjoy getting to know your new spouse 😊
My first night was getting to know my wife. We both took time and finally on our honeymoon we made out. It's always best to take consent from your partner and make her comfortable
I watched this the first time the week before I got married and watching it now I just laugh so much. I remember how worried I was lol. But Alhamdulillah this video helped soooo much. Thank you 😊
I think it helps to remember that your spouse is supposed to be your best friend and that everyone goes through this phase in their lifetime so nobody should get freaked out about their first night. Also, when us men educate ourselves about a woman's psychology, that helps to understand that the first thing a woman wants and needs is a good emotional connection and to feel loved and appreciated by her husband, both through words and actions. Therefore, it's unlikely that a woman will be ready for intercourse on the first night, and so the first night should just be about relaxation and chit-chat to break the ice so the couple become more confident and familiar with each other. When it comes to sex eventually, there should be foreplay first, and communication is key. Husband and wife should be open to each other about what their needs are, as especially he needs to find out where and how his wife likes to be touched and kissed so that there is full satisfaction on her part. This is key to building a very distinguished type of love, connection and fulfillment that you will not find with any other person in your life. If your bedroom moment thrives, then the other moments of your marriage and life will thrive too.
Thank you for sharing this with us all! As a woman who has been married for 20 years now, I would absolutely want my children to feel at ease on their wedding night. Somtimes we are under the impression that we have to consummate the marriage right away. I also find it absolutely Haram having to prove your virginity to anyone. Being Afghan, I remember being very confused as to why I had to show proof. For those of you wondering what Haram Afghan tradition I'm referring to....well let's just say that a white cloth is provided and we were required to show a blood stain on it. This requirement must be stopped and it starts with us not following this tradition! This starts with us Mothers not allowing anyone to demand such a thing. I am going to make sure that my daughters and daughter in laws feel safe and comfortable with out having to worry about such things. We should be caring and give the married couple as much time as they need Insha'Allah ❤
Zoe 101 Tradition is something different from Islam. In which part of Islam ask you to proof your virginity in white clothe for strangers that you were virgin or not. Every part of the world have different customs and cultures it’s not required to explain it in details.
@@dm7628 This is when we must question our traditions and not make it our Religious beliefs. I wonder just how much harm this custom/ tradition has caused. What happens when you cannot prove your virginity with blood? I have heard stories of girls committing suicide and marriages ending on that night. I brought this taboo subject up, so that we may think and question. May Allah guide us all that we may make it easy for the youth and not cause them or anyone harm or difficulty!
I agree that custom can cause a lot of harm. It is very possible for a girl to not bleed during their first time as other things can cause that to happen beforehand such as riding a bike or something that could put pressure down there... then there will be no “proof” that she was a virgin when she actually was and the consequences of that would not be good for her!
Zoe 101 بسیار خوشحال هستم که کمینت یا تبصره قبلی تان را که هیچ ربط به دین مقدس اسلام نداشت تصحیح نمودید امیدوارم در آینده در رابطه به دین مقدس اسلام معلومات وسیع داشته باشید بعدا انتقاد کنید چون دین کامل است مگر ما انسان ها کامل نیستیم هر مشکلات اجتماعی و فرهنگی را که هیچ ربط به دین ما ندارد ارتباط نتیم چون از خود اضافه کردن در دین گناه بسیار بزرگی است
Thanks so much for the video i actually sent it to my daughter who just got married yesterday because I didn't know how to "give her The Talk" because I was never given "The Talk" Jazakallah khair
Thank you for talking about this. I think it's somewhat common for parents to not talk about this to their kids (in Islam and conservative families) so it's important to have videos like these online to guide us. Don't feel awkward about it; what you're talking about is a part of life :D
In Islam you’re meant to educate your kids on Islamic matters including this but unfortunately our parents feel shy when there is no shyness in the truth
The strong bond between the husband and wife is the most important thing. Today's weddings are ALL about people pleasing and in my experiences. BOTH the wife and husband and especially the husband's wishes goes out the window. When the entire day (or year) was supposed to be about them!
I'm getting married in a week. I'm so scared. Hair removal is my issue. I always shave. Nobody in my family including my mum speaks to me about this. I never thought about this stuff until now. 😥
al slam alikum first of all, I am a guy( and a doctor )so I am just giving you advice from a guy and a doctor ) point of view: 1- communication is a really important thing if he doesn't know what you like and what you don't like it ain't gonna go well not just in the sex part but in any other form of intimacy like hugging and kissing, SO make sure to discuss with your husband ( I am assuming that you are a girl ) what to do. 2- make sure to shave the hair in the pubic area and under the armpit before the wedding night ( and weekly every Friday would be recommended cuz some times having hair may ruin the mood and the same goes for your husband if he doesn't shave tell him without any hesitation to shave cuz again it is important to communicate and tell each other what in your mind so that will make your marriage life much better and to avoid any conflicts ) 3- be clean in general like take a shower before and after the sexual interaction to avoid discomfort and bad smell and infection. 4- if you didn't feel satisfied with action teel your husband honestly about it at the end of the day sex is not just about the man felling good it is about both the man and the women enjoying the experience together, and you should explore and try different things. 5- you don't have to do the penetration part right of the first time if his genital part didn't fit in, you can always try next time cuz sex is not just about penetration you can just use your hand to satisfy each other and focus in kissing and touching each other especially in the genital area. AND lastly, congratulation, and I ask Allah to bless you and your husband and I hope that you live a happy marriage.
Congratulations girl, I am truly happy for you. Just remember you don’t have to do anything your ready/ confortable to do. Inshallah you will have a happy marriage
Am i the only one really scared about the first night because what if your husband expects something yk and you are not ready for it. I mean what if he starts but you are too shy or scared to say no. I hope my husband won't expect anything for the first night. I would love to maybe watch a movie and cuddle or if I'm tired just sleep and maybe the day after watch a movie. I really want to get married but for that S E X part it's going to be scary. Hope I'm not the only person who feels that way😬🥴🤣
@@mswho3568 after u prfm those physical acts u'll come close to ur partner ..sex is part of life gifted by god to enjoy by both husband and wife there's nothing to be scared of try to become sexually matured
Actually, it’s natural if you or him will get expectations, but at the end of the day, you two will just do it blindly, you will be focusing on him, and he’ll focus on you, and BOOM done
I'm literally like j-hope ... Super funny and awkward. I can't hold back my laughter and I don't know whats gonna happen ... Whenever I try to do something .... I end up being and make a *MESS* ..
I want to be Irene, Rosé, jennie ,, SO rude and just no talking with guys although he will be husband but I just hate to talk with others,, I wish I could.. Reality: very talkative, sometimes my cousin( when she comes from Mexico )sleep with me ,, and she says u are the talkative person I ever saw , my family , relatives all of them .. definitely who talk to me I am nice to him or her ... people think I am so rude but no ..no..no if u talk to me u makes the worst decision ever cause I am too friendly to u .. that's why I have no friends al tough I hate FREINDS... I am 13 .. if my mum see it I am done baby ...
I wish I had thought to say what you said when someone I know was hinting about this before her wedding. I didn't know what to say. At least I'll know if there's ever a next time.
I married when i was 12. When my period started... my husband was 30 btw, that was not my choice, he was my dads friend and in my country it’s normal... I really think what will be if I could just fall in love and marry men who I loved... now i am 21 with 3 kids... my husband is cheating on me for like 5 years now but i am not allowed to divorce... they say I should get along with this because I am girl and he is man... I wish I was born in America...
I’m sorry hopefully inshallah things get married if you are Muslim you are allowed to leave please do and find someone who loves and respects you I wish you good luck and intentions
Sunnah: ✨ say Allaahu Akbar - going up the stairs ✨ say Subhan’Allaah - going down the stairs Allaah says in the Quran: “say (Muhammad pbuh) if you truly love Allaah then follow me and Allaah will love you and forgive you your sins. Allaah is the most forgiving, very merciful” - 3:31 Share it so you can get the reward of everyone who follows
I am married and everything worked out perfectly alhamdulillah, but I do feel a lot of women particularly Muslim women feel an incredible amount of pressure to do everything on the first night, and nerves end up getting in the way of being happy and having a nice first night of marriage. Ramadan Kareem Muska! May you and everyone else watching this video have a blessed Ramadan.
One advice to all who are married. Always try to have the best sex. Imagine it’s your last time having sex. That’s how it’s supposed to be. Sex is a really huge deal in having a good and long lasting relationship. It’s something that god has given us to enjoy and therefore ladies as well as guys you need to be crazy in bed to really make that bond between each other. And ladies don’t be shy to tell your guy what he needs to do. Have sex multiple times thought the week ... really this helps sooooo much to go through life
There shouldn’t be pressure on the first night, people put pressure because it is Sunnah to consummate the marriage on the first night, it’s not compulsory and that is what I believe people have a misconception about
Thankyou for this! Good for future reference 🤗😏 can you discuss birth control methods? Some girls (like me) are uncomfortable with pills, injections or any sort of insertion down there lol.. but what are your thoughts?
I also don't like the idea of messing with my natural hormones and have opted for condoms. If you or your husband are uncomfortable buying them at a physical store you can buy in bulk on Amazon. Thank you for watching! 💓
Honestly I should not be as nervous as I am. But I am so scared. What if I am ugly to him? What if I dont have skills? What if I get too nervous and get sick? This is my second marriage. I cant afford to make a mistake or not be good enough. No amount of dieting will make my body look good enough. Yikes. What if he doesnt have skills or does have skills? Hopefully we both dont know enough to know we are not skilled enough. How am I going prep talk my daughter one day? I cant even help myself.
I'm going to give you the best advice Insha'Allah. Please make dua to Allah the you are confident and beautiful to your husband. Make dua that you can fulfill all his desires and that he may fulfill yours as well in a halal way. When we ask Allah about even the most intimate needs, Insha'Allah it pleases Allah and he will never let us down. I do this dua just before I go to bed after prayer. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you❤Ameen
Hey sister please know that you are enough and that you are beautiful the way you are. You don't have to change anything about you but be confident about yourself and your inner confidence and peace will surely show to your husbund 💓
Ur meant to marry someone for their Deen, not their beauty or wealth, etc...there's a hadeeth on this...so marry someone for the right reasons for anyone that sees this and u will be fine
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
i’m really curious and also scared for the sex part in particular when it comes to it, a lot of girls say it hurts really bad for the first time but for non muslims they can put other things up there before to get used to it but we can’t put anything up there before marriage. i guess i just want to hear about muslim girls first times and get some advice bc i can’t find any first time story times from muslim girls😭
Aww Sara I wouldn't worry about it too much. The pain is only temporary and it's important that you and your husband take your time and get comfortable. Your body is designed to naturally prepare itself and it's one of those experiences that will bring the two of you closer together.
Absolutely people have their own brain they know what to do no one really jumps to sex on wedding night it’s very rare. they have their whole life for that and the first wedding night be’s very tiring as it is
@@samikhan4218 very bad Sami, she is a girl, its natural she needs to have this information, we men get it all the time from our married friends or ulma but girls doesn't have that access, she tried here but men like you even come here to discourage, live and let live
Being Islamic I tried to be nice, soft and friendly with my wife on the first night. .. Result.. She thought I was a baby or sort of immature... Conclusion... Deal with humans as they are.. Majority women nowadays aren't that docile.. So be prepared
Can you make a video about the first time our husband touches us and sees us without a hijab, i am really interested in this topic, but i couldnt find any videos about this. Thank you, and may Allah bless you.🌷
Women over think everything about omg I'm not right size or I have hair on my back or stomach etc!!! Girls dont worry just do your best to maintain yourself bearing in mind that you will have to keep your maintenance up in your married life. So either invest in laser treatments beforehand or choose options that are easy to do like shave or wax. It's normal for women to have hair, we are not plastic dolls!!! As long as u are breathing u will have hair and men don't really bother that much about it, and the dark at night hides a lot lol.
@@hamnafaheem7015 Thank you for replying, is it also true that muslim women or girls also get henna tatoos during eid? And is it true madam for a Muslim women means she is married? Sorry to ask so much but my my exgf was muslim and im curious.
Yeah its quite popular among muslim communities bcz its considered as pure thing in islam but actually in some countries its like a traditional thing, whether its hindu or muslim or any religion.... for example people of India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc enjoy applying henna on special occasions like eid, marriage or any function or you can apply it anytime or you can also not apply if u dont want to, its not necessary hehe its up to them .... Also you can apply henna (mehendi) if you want to.... Just enjoy thats the thing :> (Hope you find it helpful, you can also google it that will be more informative )
2: 164. *Indeed, in the creation of heavens and earth, and the alternation of night and day, and the ships sailing along the sea with benefits for mankind, and in the water Lord Allah sent down from the sky, then with it revives the earth after its death, and in the scattering of every beast on it, in the rhythm of winds, and the clouds which are driven between the sky and earth, indeed in that are Signs for the people who utilize their intelligence.* The wise men who are utilizing their intelligence have enough lessons in the creation of heavens and earth, and the alternation of night and day. They will find the One and Only Creator behind the creations. They always remember the Lord and glorify Him. They will always meditate and reflect with soul: “Oh our Lord! You didn’t create all these aimlessly, and you keep away us from the punishment of Fire with the Safeguard Adhikr” as told in verses 3: 190-191. They will not bow down before any of His creations like sun, moon, stars, beasts, etc. as told in verses 22: 18 and 41: 37. They will focus on the ‘Qibla’ wherever they are. It is told in verse 45: 22: “Lord created the universe with the Truth to reward every soul with whatever it earned”. Lord taught mankind about the ship floating and sailing through the sea. Even though the iron sinks in the water, the ships made of iron will not sink. It is told in verses 31: 29-31: “Didn’t you see indeed Lord dissolves the night in the day, and the day dissolves in the night and subjected the sun and the moon, everything moves into the fixed destiny, and indeed Lord is Well-Acquainted of whatever you are doing. That is because indeed Allah, He is the Truth, and indeed whatever you are invoking besides Him are false. And indeed Lord, He is the Supreme Greatest. Didn’t you see indeed the ship sailing along the sea with the favor of the Lord to show you from His signs; indeed, there are signs in it for the one who is patient and grateful”. When the rain is showered into the dried dead land, it stimulates and swells, seeds and weeds will germinate, and thereby living beings like beetles, honey bees, ants and ant-eaters take birth. This phenomenon reminds the wise men that the Wise Lord will resurrect the dead on one Day as told in verse 41: 39. It is told in verse 30: 19 “Lord brings out the living from the dead and brings out the dead from the living, and He gives life to the earth after its death, just like that you all will be brought out”. And it is told in verse 30: 24: “Among Lord’s signs are that He is sending down water from the sky, and then He gives life to the earth with it after its death; indeed in it, there are signs for those who are utilizing their intelligence”. It is told in verses 50: 9-11: “Lord is sending down blessing water from the sky and is producing with it gardens and harvesting grains, and date palms with bunches of dates as the sustenance for the servants; with it, He gives life to the dead land, just like that is your resurrection”. It is told in verse 29: 63: “If you ask them Who sent down water from the sky, then gives with it life to the earth after its death, certainly they will say: ‘Lord Allah’; then you declare: ‘Glory is to the Lord’, but most of them are not utilizing their intelligence”. Our knowledge about living beings even in a room of a house is very limited. As taught by Lord through His Messenger Muhammad being the explanation of verse 6: 38, out of thousand communities of creatures in the world, four hundred communities including mankind are in the land while six hundred communities are in the water. Lord has taught for every creature the mode of prayer, praising, and glorification of Him as told in verses 17: 44 and 24: 41. Each creature is prostrating the Lord as told in verses 16: 49 and 22: 18. There are several kinds of winds. The breeze before the arrival of rain, the storm that causes disaster, whirlwinds, sandstorm, dry fire wind, cold wind, etc. Pollination takes place through the wind as told in verse 15: 22. The wind is used to produce electricity with which mankind has several benefits. Lord has sent down Adam and Eve from Heaven to earth by the rhythmic balance of the wind. Lord has risen Messenger Jesus and Prophet Idris to Heaven using a whirlwind. Having caused Uzair to die for a hundred years, Lord resurrected him to show how the dead will be resurrected. Lord resurrected and gave life to his donkey which was used as his vehicle by a rhythmic wind as explained in verse 2: 269. ‘A’ad’, the people of Prophet Hood, were destroyed by a dry and barren wind as told in verses 41: 15-16 and 69: 6-8. If there is no air circulation, life is impossible. There are mountains among the clouds just like that of on earth as told in verse 24: 43. The clouds are scattered into different directions by winds which cause the rain to fall. By condensing the clouds to huge masses of ice, Lord can punish whom He Wishes by throwing it upon them. It is asked in verse 67: 17: “Do you feel secure that Lord will not send a violent wind from the sky?” All the punishments are happening when mankind becomes wrongdoers by forgetting Adhikr and repudiating about the Lord as told in verses 29: 47-49. See explanation 2: 33, 44, 147-148, and 152. *From Adhikr-the Best Interpretation of Lord's Book* www.straightpathonline.com
💑 WEDDING NIGHT ADVICE - 5 MINUTE PEP TALK
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Asalamualaikum everyone! In today's video I will be talking about advice for the wedding night. It's the night you get married, and once the festivities are over, a lot of us feel anxiety about the physical aspect of our marriage. As someone that never really got "the talk", I feel like it's an important topic to discuss. For those of you who are married, please leave your advice in the comments section so other girls can benefit from your knowledge.
Thank you for watching my video on wedding night advice. I hope it makes you feel better about the amazing journey of marriage. It's half of our deen, and although it can be hard at times, it's definitely worth it!
You are awesome Muska :)
Are u married ok
I am afghani too
Thank u so much ❤️ its so important to talk on these things can u make more videos on it before dec😬🥺
Are you Asian ?
Today is my nikkah. Hope every thing goes well...... so nervous right now. I hope you people pray for me.... (EDIT: Thanks for your prayers and well wishes. We are expecting a baby boy in Dec,2020 😊 Plz pray for him too) Breaking news: our little man is here today on friday 1st,Jan 2021 ALHAMDULILLAH. We named him AHAD.❤
kesa raha wedding
@@anamkhan9767 ALHAMDULILLAH it was GREAT... So lucky to have her....
mere be shadi hony wala hai plz dua kary
@@anamkhan9767 Allah aap samait tamam behno aur baitiyon ki kismat achi kare...
May allah help you
The first night me and my husband laid in bed talking and laughing untill past 1 am, nothing more happened than that, yet I’ll always remember how much we enjoyed that night just getting to know everything about eachother. Your right, there’s definitely no rush to do anything on your first night, there’s plenty of time for baby making later on! Lol! Just enjoy getting to know your new spouse 😊
Good Adviced.
Us man we will prefer earlier
@@abdoweisa119 U souldn't pressure woman for that.
What did you talk about, I need tips 😰
For people that waits till mariage, I don’t even know how they can do something the first night.. aren’t they tired as fuck after the wedding all day?
I'm not married but inshaAllah one day Allah bless me. Thank you for advice Allah blessings you 😊🌹
InshaAllah you will find a loving and caring husband. Ameen!
@@faraqkul InshaAllah😊
What race would you like to marry ?
I'm single Wath do you want
Pakistan live
My first night was getting to know my wife. We both took time and finally on our honeymoon we made out. It's always best to take consent from your partner and make her comfortable
I watched this the first time the week before I got married and watching it now I just laugh so much. I remember how worried I was lol. But Alhamdulillah this video helped soooo much. Thank you 😊
Did it hurt for u??
This was so cute
Best advice.
❤️ For those of you who are married, please leave your advice in the comments section so other girls can benefit from your knowledge.
I think it helps to remember that your spouse is supposed to be your best friend and that everyone goes through this phase in their lifetime so nobody should get freaked out about their first night. Also, when us men educate ourselves about a woman's psychology, that helps to understand that the first thing a woman wants and needs is a good emotional connection and to feel loved and appreciated by her husband, both through words and actions. Therefore, it's unlikely that a woman will be ready for intercourse on the first night, and so the first night should just be about relaxation and chit-chat to break the ice so the couple become more confident and familiar with each other. When it comes to sex eventually, there should be foreplay first, and communication is key. Husband and wife should be open to each other about what their needs are, as especially he needs to find out where and how his wife likes to be touched and kissed so that there is full satisfaction on her part. This is key to building a very distinguished type of love, connection and fulfillment that you will not find with any other person in your life. If your bedroom moment thrives, then the other moments of your marriage and life will thrive too.
Thank you for sharing this with us all! As a woman who has been married for 20 years now, I would absolutely want my children to feel at ease on their wedding night. Somtimes we are under the impression that we have to consummate the marriage right away. I also find it absolutely Haram having to prove your virginity to anyone. Being Afghan, I remember being very confused as to why I had to show proof. For those of you wondering what Haram Afghan tradition I'm referring to....well let's just say that a white cloth is provided and we were required to show a blood stain on it. This requirement must be stopped and it starts with us not following this tradition!
This starts with us Mothers not allowing anyone to demand such a thing. I am going to make sure that my daughters and daughter in laws feel safe and comfortable with out having to worry about such things. We should be caring and give the married couple as much time as they need Insha'Allah ❤
Zoe 101
Tradition is something different from Islam. In which part of Islam ask you to proof your virginity in white clothe for strangers that you were virgin or not. Every part of the world have different customs and cultures it’s not required to explain it in details.
@@dm7628
This is when we must question our traditions and not make it our Religious beliefs. I wonder just how much harm this custom/ tradition has caused. What happens when you cannot prove your virginity with blood? I have heard stories of girls committing suicide and marriages ending on that night. I brought this taboo subject up, so that we may think and question. May Allah guide us all that we may make it easy for the youth and not cause them or anyone harm or difficulty!
I agree that custom can cause a lot of harm. It is very possible for a girl to not bleed during their first time as other things can cause that to happen beforehand such as riding a bike or something that could put pressure down there... then there will be no “proof” that she was a virgin when she actually was and the consequences of that would not be good for her!
This is such a wonderful discussion. It's so unfortunate that people have used culture to stray away from Islam.
Zoe 101
بسیار خوشحال هستم که کمینت یا تبصره قبلی تان را که هیچ ربط به دین مقدس اسلام نداشت تصحیح نمودید امیدوارم در آینده در رابطه به دین مقدس اسلام معلومات وسیع داشته باشید بعدا انتقاد کنید چون دین کامل است مگر ما انسان ها کامل نیستیم هر مشکلات اجتماعی و فرهنگی را که هیچ ربط به دین ما ندارد ارتباط نتیم چون از خود اضافه کردن در دین گناه بسیار بزرگی است
Thanks so much for the video i actually sent it to my daughter who just got married yesterday because I didn't know how to "give her The Talk" because I was never given "The Talk"
Jazakallah khair
Glad I could help!
I'm going to marry within a few months inshaallah.. jajhakallah..
Ok Mashallah.. Then learn the topics of marriage...nd understand it carefully...👍👍
Thank you for talking about this. I think it's somewhat common for parents to not talk about this to their kids (in Islam and conservative families) so it's important to have videos like these online to guide us. Don't feel awkward about it; what you're talking about is a part of life :D
In Islam you’re meant to educate your kids on Islamic matters including this but unfortunately our parents feel shy when there is no shyness in the truth
@@joon_choco ur so RIGHTTT!! It is the culture
You look a like prajakta Kohli from mostly sane .....CZcamsr from india....not just look like her but the way of talking too.......thank you 👍
Damn those eyebrows though, it's so pretty
omg, your so cute Masha'Allah. great video by the way. Good for new people getting married to watch this i believe.
The strong bond between the husband and wife is the most important thing. Today's weddings are ALL about people pleasing and in my experiences. BOTH the wife and husband and especially the husband's wishes goes out the window. When the entire day (or year) was supposed to be about them!
Thank you for sharing. I am not getting married anytime soon. But for the future this is good. Alsalamu Alakuim. Ramadan Mubarak day 14 vlog !
♡♡♡ Inshallah praying for your happiness and a wonderful marriage in the future
@@MuskaJahan Ameen and thank you soo much !!
Thank you, that was very reassuring!🙈❤ love how you approached this topic. May Allah reward you.
I'm getting married in a week. I'm so scared. Hair removal is my issue. I always shave. Nobody in my family including my mum speaks to me about this. I never thought about this stuff until now. 😥
al slam alikum
first of all, I am a guy( and a doctor )so I am just giving you advice from a guy and a doctor ) point of view:
1- communication is a really important thing if he doesn't know what you like and what you don't like it ain't gonna go well not just in the sex part but in any other form of intimacy like hugging and kissing, SO make sure to discuss with your husband ( I am assuming that you are a girl ) what to do.
2- make sure to shave the hair in the pubic area and under the armpit before the wedding night ( and weekly every Friday would be recommended cuz some times having hair may ruin the mood and the same goes for your husband if he doesn't shave tell him without any hesitation to shave cuz again it is important to communicate and tell each other what in your mind so that will make your marriage life much better and to avoid any conflicts )
3- be clean in general like take a shower before and after the sexual interaction to avoid discomfort and bad smell and infection.
4- if you didn't feel satisfied with action teel your husband honestly about it at the end of the day sex is not just about the man felling good it is about both the man and the women enjoying the experience together, and you should explore and try different things.
5- you don't have to do the penetration part right of the first time if his genital part didn't fit in, you can always try next time cuz sex is not just about penetration you can just use your hand to satisfy each other and focus in kissing and touching each other especially in the genital area.
AND lastly, congratulation, and I ask Allah to bless you and your husband and I hope that you live a happy marriage.
Congratulations girl, I am truly happy for you. Just remember you don’t have to do anything your ready/ confortable to do. Inshallah you will have a happy marriage
hair is my issue too! how did it go for you??
you are enough sunnah is to shave down there ✨
you are enough it’s sunnah to shave the private parts and sunnah to wax the armpits
Tf is wrong with me why is this in my recommendations !! I’m only 15 !!!
Sabrina Suzanne i’m 13 lol
Me too I'm 15
same
tf is wrong with me!! I’m 15 and I searched it up because I wanted to know lol
I’m 14 and searched for it
Inshallah I’ll come watch this video again before I get married
Very nice. Thank you for getting past the shyness you expressed feeling to present the subject with the wholesome and clean intent it deserves. 🌸 👍
these information was very helpful. will get married in another year. love you from India.
No communication just shut off the lights and take a thick blanket and sleep 😴
It’s so scary !
lol bro.. you need to "man up"
Bro dont ignore your wife, maybe she need that night 🥱
@@cathrina1786 I don’t have any
Same bruh, marriage is scary :'(
Will u do it in your whole married life ?
Am i the only one really scared about the first night because what if your husband expects something yk and you are not ready for it. I mean what if he starts but you are too shy or scared to say no. I hope my husband won't expect anything for the first night. I would love to maybe watch a movie and cuddle or if I'm tired just sleep and maybe the day after watch a movie. I really want to get married but for that S E X part it's going to be scary. Hope I'm not the only person who feels that way😬🥴🤣
Ooh and then again once you start those physical acts, how do you face your partner after🥴🤣
@@mswho3568 after u prfm those physical acts u'll come close to ur partner ..sex is part of life gifted by god to enjoy by both husband and wife there's nothing to be scared of try to become sexually matured
Whatever you decide to do,He should respect your choice
I feel the same 😂
Actually, it’s natural if you or him will get expectations, but at the end of the day, you two will just do it blindly, you will be focusing on him, and he’ll focus on you, and BOOM done
We got intimate after 3days.. travelling a lot to distant places..
I'm literally like j-hope ...
Super funny and awkward. I can't hold back my laughter and I don't know whats gonna happen ...
Whenever I try to do something .... I end up being and make a *MESS* ..
Try to be more like rap monster! XD
@@cherrybao6611 I have to be a dance MONSTER
kpop people
@@loveyloveydovey yeah *proud*
I want to be Irene, Rosé, jennie ,, SO rude and just no talking with guys although he will be husband but I just hate to talk with others,, I wish I could..
Reality: very talkative, sometimes my cousin( when she comes from Mexico )sleep with me ,, and she says u are the talkative person I ever saw , my family , relatives all of them .. definitely who talk to me I am nice to him or her ... people think I am so rude but no ..no..no if u talk to me u makes the worst decision ever cause I am too friendly to u .. that's why I have no friends al tough I hate FREINDS...
I am 13 .. if my mum see it I am done baby ...
Thank you so much ! This is very helpfull . Didn't know you are married . Btw Ramadan Mubarak 😄💕
❤️ Ramadan Mubarak Flaka! 😍 Alhamdulilah two years strong! Glad I could be of help.
I want to marry you
I needed to hear this! Thanks so much!
I wish I had thought to say what you said when someone I know was hinting about this before her wedding. I didn't know what to say. At least I'll know if there's ever a next time.
Are you afghan?!😅 cuz i am haha. Its soo nice to see a fellow afghan on youtube🥰
I married when i was 12. When my period started... my husband was 30 btw, that was not my choice, he was my dads friend and in my country it’s normal... I really think what will be if I could just fall in love and marry men who I loved... now i am 21 with 3 kids... my husband is cheating on me for like 5 years now but i am not allowed to divorce... they say I should get along with this because I am girl and he is man... I wish I was born in America...
That is stupid leave him!!!
Omg im so sorry i really hope things get better
I’m sorry hopefully inshallah things get married if you are Muslim you are allowed to leave please do and find someone who loves and respects you I wish you good luck and intentions
Now I’m grateful for being born in the uk😶
I am so sorry
I'm waiting for this day 😌 for very long time ⌛️
MashAllah " Ramadan mobrak
Ramadan Mubarak Anes 💖
Sunnah:
✨ say Allaahu Akbar - going up the stairs
✨ say Subhan’Allaah - going down the stairs
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This is spot on!
💖😍 Thanks Kait! I hope lots of us can benefit from this discussion.
I am married and everything worked out perfectly alhamdulillah, but I do feel a lot of women particularly Muslim women feel an incredible amount of pressure to do everything on the first night, and nerves end up getting in the way of being happy and having a nice first night of marriage. Ramadan Kareem Muska! May you and everyone else watching this video have a blessed Ramadan.
@@KaitMalorie JAZAKILLAH sister MAY ALLAH (S.W.T)SHOWER HIS BLESSING UPON YOU ❤
another sis
I want to marry you
@@PublicTVChannel bruh
Wow I love your eyebrows 🥰🥰 their so cute
Love your Red hijab ❤❤😍😍
Thanks! ♡♡♡
@@MuskaJahan Welcome !!
One advice to all who are married. Always try to have the best sex. Imagine it’s your last time having sex. That’s how it’s supposed to be. Sex is a really huge deal in having a good and long lasting relationship. It’s something that god has given us to enjoy and therefore ladies as well as guys you need to be crazy in bed to really make that bond between each other. And ladies don’t be shy to tell your guy what he needs to do. Have sex multiple times thought the week ... really this helps sooooo much to go through life
I am very anxious.
I like it thanks so much.
👍👍👍👍👍
There shouldn’t be pressure on the first night, people put pressure because it is Sunnah to consummate the marriage on the first night, it’s not compulsory and that is what I believe people have a misconception about
@Jenna ortega same
No it's not sunnah
Where did you get that it's sunnah to do it on the first night?
MashaAllah dear nice video😍😍
Thank you Mantsha :)
@@MuskaJahan
Thanks dear for your reply
Whether you are shy or scared of your partner YOU WILL FACE THEM ONCE AND FOR ALL😁😎💙
😂 😂
Thankyou for this! Good for future reference 🤗😏 can you discuss birth control methods? Some girls (like me) are uncomfortable with pills, injections or any sort of insertion down there lol.. but what are your thoughts?
I also don't like the idea of messing with my natural hormones and have opted for condoms. If you or your husband are uncomfortable buying them at a physical store you can buy in bulk on Amazon. Thank you for watching! 💓
Count your days that's the best option the safest
@@samihhadid Lol no
@@MuskaJahan all your partner can just pull out that's a skill
MUSKA JAHAN Totally agree! Very effective method too 😁 Thank 4 doing this video 🙌🏼 It’s good advice 💗
OH MY GOSH YOU’RE AFGHAN 🥰🥰🥰
Yeah, how come you didn't know before? Lol The gorgeous eyebrows say it all.
Honestly I should not be as nervous as I am. But I am so scared. What if I am ugly to him? What if I dont have skills? What if I get too nervous and get sick? This is my second marriage. I cant afford to make a mistake or not be good enough. No amount of dieting will make my body look good enough. Yikes. What if he doesnt have skills or does have skills? Hopefully we both dont know enough to know we are not skilled enough. How am I going prep talk my daughter one day? I cant even help myself.
I'm going to give you the best advice Insha'Allah. Please make dua to Allah the you are confident and beautiful to your husband. Make dua that you can fulfill all his desires and that he may fulfill yours as well in a halal way.
When we ask Allah about even the most intimate needs, Insha'Allah it pleases Allah and he will never let us down. I do this dua just before I go to bed after prayer. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you❤Ameen
@@Zoe-sj7of thank you
Hey sister please know that you are enough and that you are beautiful the way you are. You don't have to change anything about you but be confident about yourself and your inner confidence and peace will surely show to your husbund 💓
Ur meant to marry someone for their Deen, not their beauty or wealth, etc...there's a hadeeth on this...so marry someone for the right reasons for anyone that sees this and u will be fine
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Good Job Sister. 💯/💯👍
I'm scared to this part 😁😁 huhu
Why and all are saying it is a beautiful one.
@@mirnaseer3425 they say its painful🥺🥺
@@missdimple3745
Not at all and it is simple and enjoyable, everyone has to go in this phase.
@@missdimple3745 it isn't that much but kind of blunder is created by us among us to frighten us 😉. Well are u from india ?
@@BhawaniSingh-qw1qn in shaa allah in a right time and right man, im just waiting for my Qadr😁
im from philippines,
Im getting married this Nov. 6 so i really need advice.
So how did it go
i’m really curious and also scared for the sex part in particular when it comes to it, a lot of girls say it hurts really bad for the first time but for non muslims they can put other things up there before to get used to it but we can’t put anything up there before marriage. i guess i just want to hear about muslim girls first times and get some advice bc i can’t find any first time story times from muslim girls😭
Aww Sara I wouldn't worry about it too much. The pain is only temporary and it's important that you and your husband take your time and get comfortable. Your body is designed to naturally prepare itself and it's one of those experiences that will bring the two of you closer together.
MUSKA JAHAN yeah true, thank you so much for the advice i appreciate it, ramadan mubarak!! ❤️❤️
Awww
Thanks changed my mind 😂
You give me the vibe of mostlysane girl.
Why I'm watching this when I have decided not to marry soon😝🙈🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂
Me too 🤣 🤣 curiousty led me here hhhhhhhh
Thanks 👌
Ur more like mostly sane😂
Yesss... prajakta 🤣🤣
As salaam Al'alikmu Wahmatulliahi Wabaraktu my dear sister marriage is for the believing m
Its un- believable that people need to be told what to do!
Absolutely people have their own brain they know what to do no one really jumps to sex on wedding night it’s very rare. they have their whole life for that and the first wedding night be’s very tiring as it is
You would think so lol..but most here seem VERY young, I hope noone is forced into marriages or into doing things they dont feel comfortable doing..
I’m 24 still miss first night😭
U married?
Dose we need sex to get pregnant yes or not and how to get pregnant
Is there a prayer we have to do as a couple?!
Yup you should pray 2 rakat nafal after marriage.
@@zeeshanpervaz1360 Some prefer to do Both at once
My name is too muska and i am too from afganistan
Then who is queen ?
Then who is queen ?
Pakhton🥰🥰🥰
How tf a person suppose to have a bond when marriage is the first time yall meeting xD jkjk
I had a feeling you were Afghan but now it’s confirmed. I love you even more. What’s your Socials?!??
Yay! Welcome to my channel and Ramadan Mubarak 💖💖💖 instagram.com/muskajahan/
masha allah what is your marital status
Why do I always feel like the girl won’t want to do anything girls always seem shy to get intimate
Make a video of things you going to need first night or in first intamacy
Shame
@@samikhan4218 very bad Sami, she is a girl, its natural she needs to have this information, we men get it all the time from our married friends or ulma but girls doesn't have that access, she tried here but men like you even come here to discourage, live and let live
@@syedahmadshah218 right
Afghan in america.. no more Afghan but living the American dream.
I literally can have a full blown panic attack when I think about the first night 😩
Am nervous and shy am abt to get married 😊🙈
How it happened 😁
ARE YOU EGYPTIAN ?
Being Islamic I tried to be nice, soft and friendly with my wife on the first night. .. Result.. She thought I was a baby or sort of immature... Conclusion... Deal with humans as they are.. Majority women nowadays aren't that docile.. So be prepared
So u still married?
@@IbrahimIbrahim-dm3tw yes it has been 12 yrs till date
@@Mike-mt5yb so wouldn’t that mean it worked then imagine you were rough with her the first night might not have lasted for 12 years
@@IbrahimIbrahim-dm3tw I mean it ended in 12 yrs
@@Mike-mt5yb dude you gonna speak about women like that they'll leave you lol.
Can you make a video about the first time our husband touches us and sees us without a hijab, i am really interested in this topic, but i couldnt find any videos about this.
Thank you, and may Allah bless you.🌷
Selma Selma honestly this would be so helpful and informative
Women over think everything about omg I'm not right size or I have hair on my back or stomach etc!!!
Girls dont worry just do your best to maintain yourself bearing in mind that you will have to keep your maintenance up in your married life. So either invest in laser treatments beforehand or choose options that are easy to do like shave or wax.
It's normal for women to have hair, we are not plastic dolls!!!
As long as u are breathing u will have hair and men don't really bother that much about it, and the dark at night hides a lot lol.
Your eyes beautiful
Wa alaykum salam
Va alaykum assalom
Most important thing:
Finish your party by 10pm so you have enough time for "real thing" and you're also not tired.
Hey are you from Afghanistan 🇦🇫 ?????
I'm getting married in 5 days and I need some advice on the first night of the wedding. someone please give me some advice please
How did it go??
Who is from Afghanistan iam from. ..............👆
Where are you from….. ? Let me guess AFG 🤔
You are funny.😂
😰I'm scared 😭
Don’t be
Are there any men actually here cause I am scrolling through the comments there are no men
Disclaimer: This video isn't for SingleRS😂
(Joke)
I don't know what I am doing here then 😂😂😂
Is it true that musim women in preparation for marriage get henna tattoos on the top of their hands? I am curious and cannot find the answer.
Yup
@@hamnafaheem7015 Thank you for replying, is it also true that muslim women or girls also get henna tatoos during eid? And is it true madam for a Muslim women means she is married? Sorry to ask so much but my my exgf was muslim and im curious.
Apotheosis Divine yes we get when ever we have special days
@@twizy14twice48 thank you, I appreciate you answering.
Yeah its quite popular among muslim communities bcz its considered as pure thing in islam but actually in some countries its like a traditional thing, whether its hindu or muslim or any religion.... for example people of India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc enjoy applying henna on special occasions like eid, marriage or any function or you can apply it anytime or you can also not apply if u dont want to, its not necessary hehe its up to them .... Also you can apply henna (mehendi) if you want to.... Just enjoy thats the thing :>
(Hope you find it helpful, you can also google it that will be more informative )
0:01 - 0:03
WAtch this meme
I will do something on first night for sure
2: 164. *Indeed, in the creation of heavens and earth, and the alternation of night and day, and the ships sailing along the sea with benefits for mankind, and in the water Lord Allah sent down from the sky, then with it revives the earth after its death, and in the scattering of every beast on it, in the rhythm of winds, and the clouds which are driven between the sky and earth, indeed in that are Signs for the people who utilize their intelligence.*
The wise men who are utilizing their intelligence have enough lessons in the creation of heavens and earth, and the alternation of night and day. They will find the One and Only Creator behind the creations. They always remember the Lord and glorify Him. They will always meditate and reflect with soul: “Oh our Lord! You didn’t create all these aimlessly, and you keep away us from the punishment of Fire with the Safeguard Adhikr” as told in verses 3: 190-191. They will not bow down before any of His creations like sun, moon, stars, beasts, etc. as told in verses 22: 18 and 41: 37. They will focus on the ‘Qibla’ wherever they are. It is told in verse 45: 22: “Lord created the universe with the Truth to reward every soul with whatever it earned”.
Lord taught mankind about the ship floating and sailing through the sea. Even though the iron sinks in the water, the ships made of iron will not sink. It is told in verses 31: 29-31: “Didn’t you see indeed Lord dissolves the night in the day, and the day dissolves in the night and subjected the sun and the moon, everything moves into the fixed destiny, and indeed Lord is Well-Acquainted of whatever you are doing. That is because indeed Allah, He is the Truth, and indeed whatever you are invoking besides Him are false. And indeed Lord, He is the Supreme Greatest. Didn’t you see indeed the ship sailing along the sea with the favor of the Lord to show you from His signs; indeed, there are signs in it for the one who is patient and grateful”.
When the rain is showered into the dried dead land, it stimulates and swells, seeds and weeds will germinate, and thereby living beings like beetles, honey bees, ants and ant-eaters take birth. This phenomenon reminds the wise men that the Wise Lord will resurrect the dead on one Day as told in verse 41: 39. It is told in verse 30: 19 “Lord brings out the living from the dead and brings out the dead from the living, and He gives life to the earth after its death, just like that you all will be brought out”. And it is told in verse 30: 24: “Among Lord’s signs are that He is sending down water from the sky, and then He gives life to the earth with it after its death; indeed in it, there are signs for those who are utilizing their intelligence”. It is told in verses 50: 9-11: “Lord is sending down blessing water from the sky and is producing with it gardens and harvesting grains, and date palms with bunches of dates as the sustenance for the servants; with it, He gives life to the dead land, just like that is your resurrection”. It is told in verse 29: 63: “If you ask them Who sent down water from the sky, then gives with it life to the earth after its death, certainly they will say: ‘Lord Allah’; then you declare: ‘Glory is to the Lord’, but most of them are not utilizing their intelligence”.
Our knowledge about living beings even in a room of a house is very limited. As taught by Lord through His Messenger Muhammad being the explanation of verse 6: 38, out of thousand communities of creatures in the world, four hundred communities including mankind are in the land while six hundred communities are in the water. Lord has taught for every creature the mode of prayer, praising, and glorification of Him as told in verses 17: 44 and 24: 41. Each creature is prostrating the Lord as told in verses 16: 49 and 22: 18.
There are several kinds of winds. The breeze before the arrival of rain, the storm that causes disaster, whirlwinds, sandstorm, dry fire wind, cold wind, etc. Pollination takes place through the wind as told in verse 15: 22. The wind is used to produce electricity with which mankind has several benefits. Lord has sent down Adam and Eve from Heaven to earth by the rhythmic balance of the wind. Lord has risen Messenger Jesus and Prophet Idris to Heaven using a whirlwind.
Having caused Uzair to die for a hundred years, Lord resurrected him to show how the dead will be resurrected. Lord resurrected and gave life to his donkey which was used as his vehicle by a rhythmic wind as explained in verse 2: 269. ‘A’ad’, the people of Prophet Hood, were destroyed by a dry and barren wind as told in verses 41: 15-16 and 69: 6-8. If there is no air circulation, life is impossible.
There are mountains among the clouds just like that of on earth as told in verse 24: 43. The clouds are scattered into different directions by winds which cause the rain to fall. By condensing the clouds to huge masses of ice, Lord can punish whom He Wishes by throwing it upon them. It is asked in verse 67: 17: “Do you feel secure that Lord will not send a violent wind from the sky?” All the punishments are happening when mankind becomes wrongdoers by forgetting Adhikr and repudiating about the Lord as told in verses 29: 47-49. See explanation 2: 33, 44, 147-148, and 152.
*From Adhikr-the Best Interpretation of Lord's Book*
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Hi
Barbaric?
Orel sex is permission or not permission in islam
Lol how ironic ... she is not even married
Can a jobless guy get a wife to Marry?
No
@@nizarwrld4484 im dying gggg lollll
Nope😁😁will u let ur daughter marry a jobless guy?
I m single please help sister
Can an indian marry a Afghan girl????
Aree bhaiya kon mil gyi yha indian hi nhi mil rhi or tum afgani ki bat kr rhe ho😂😂😂
Is love marriage a sin?
Omg ofcourse not! As long as it’s halal!
Haha