i dated a transphobic frat boy... but i'm transgender... *storytime* (w/ SCREENSHOTS)

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  • I DATED A TRANSPHOBIC FRAT BOY... but I'm transgender
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    Are we really surprised at this point?? It's really common for transgender people to have to deal with transphobic outbursts from people they've dated/are dating. Usually, these outbursts are consequences of toxic masculinity (which pressures men to reclaim their toughness in situations where they feel it's been threatened or questioned). This is why trans women are murdered by men who've cat-called or flirted with them before realizing their trans identity, or by past lovers who feel guilty for being intimate with a transperson. I'm not saying that's what happened here, but I definitely think his reaction is due to toxic masculinity in some aspect, at least.
    ALSO SIDE NOTE- I’ve escaped frat boys and am now in a happy, healthy, loving relationship ❤️
    stay safe loves,
    xoxo Samantha

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  • @naoexistimos777
    @naoexistimos777 Před 3 lety +2983

    The first red flag of that story was that it began at a frat house.

    • @oonac7960
      @oonac7960 Před 3 lety +13

      Lmaokaiskk

    • @naoexistimos777
      @naoexistimos777 Před 3 lety +65

      @@oonac7960 don't know why anyone would go "oh a dude who looks and acts like anyone who would bully me and people like me in highschool, I'm gonna date him".
      We need to learn self love asap

    • @oonac7960
      @oonac7960 Před 3 lety +37

      @@naoexistimos777 lol she was just being a lil clueless, it’s ok we all have our moments

    • @oonac7960
      @oonac7960 Před 3 lety +13

      @@naoexistimos777 but yeah still self love❤️❤️

    • @naoexistimos777
      @naoexistimos777 Před 3 lety +44

      @@oonac7960 I know, I'm not judging HER, it's just a fucked up pattern I see a lot of girls following. We need to get over this conditioning.

  • @xmillmox2962
    @xmillmox2962 Před 5 lety +4049

    Is it just me who was distracted by that blend on her eyes ooohhhh

    • @DannyLindsey938
      @DannyLindsey938 Před 3 lety +97

      No your not she always looks so amazing

    • @titliroy4713
      @titliroy4713 Před 3 lety +8

      Me tooo

    • @skimmilk8096
      @skimmilk8096 Před 3 lety +16

      honestly i didn’t even notice i was distracted by it until i saw this comment-
      her eyes do look good tho

    • @dicentra985
      @dicentra985 Před 3 lety +7

      Omg i thought it was just me

    • @lycaptain
      @lycaptain Před 3 lety +6

      Now I’m distracted by it

  • @keyboard1980
    @keyboard1980 Před 3 lety +2218

    bro i can’t focus on the video because of how s o f t her hair looks

    • @keyboard1980
      @keyboard1980 Před 3 lety +31

      i’m sorry lol, that probably didn’t make any sense

    • @laurynr4143
      @laurynr4143 Před 3 lety +45

      WAIT OMG IT DOES DROP THE HAIR ROUTINE SAMANTHA

    • @bluntnolighter
      @bluntnolighter Před 3 lety +10

      Her HAIR I- 🥺🥺

    • @ravenishOW
      @ravenishOW Před 3 lety +18

      I was distracted by her makeup and hair. Both look amazing.

    • @perola7955
      @perola7955 Před 3 lety +1

      omg not ur pfp- now i'm bawling while listening to mr. loverman

  • @Dariusissocool
    @Dariusissocool Před 5 lety +1364

    I thought this said fat boy, then I was like “what does his fatness have to do with anything”. Then I realized i just cant read

  • @niyaneykova4523
    @niyaneykova4523 Před 5 lety +2412

    I’m curious why men say that they don’t mind when a girl is trans but as soon as she rejects them they go off and start using it as an insult. Wtf

    • @ravynme8975
      @ravynme8975 Před 5 lety +112

      Lol yeah. Entitlement brings out your ugly side.

    • @ac9409
      @ac9409 Před 5 lety +141

      Some are trans curious they want to know what its like but once they get turned down their pride gets hurt because their entitlement makes them think you owe them your body because they paid you attention (life of a female).
      Some genuinely dont care, like I think in this situation. But once their pride or feelings get hurt they attack, they use whatever they think you might be self concious about. So if you're trans they throw being trans in your face. If you once told them you were insecure about your nose, they throw that in your face, if they think you're insecure about your looks suddently you'll be ugly. Its just a way of hurting the person because they cant handle rejection. I dont think this is a transwoman situation because it sounds like what most chicks go through. Especially when dealing with the classic college frat boy personality type. But yeah ita just a way to hurt the person or make them self concious or feel bad.

    • @nataliagonzalez8730
      @nataliagonzalez8730 Před 5 lety +127

      I would say men are like this with pretty much everything lol. I am a bigger, curvier girl and guys will say that like that until I reject them and then suddenly i’m unattractive and fat lol. Obviously a girl who is trans and mine are a very different but it’s just a huge level of immaturity in men.

    • @glitteroniron
      @glitteroniron Před 5 lety +44

      Natalia Gonzalez I was just going to type this^ they (douchebags) will say whatever to get what they want and when they get shut down they lash out with anything they can use as an insult :/

    • @natachavalente7126
      @natachavalente7126 Před 5 lety +32

      N I Y A A A basically cuz they’re insecure little sh*ts lol rejection really hurts their egos

  • @ericagotswag
    @ericagotswag Před 5 lety +5577

    How to date a frat boy: Don't.

  • @NorthernKitty
    @NorthernKitty Před 3 lety +903

    I was sitting with a transgender friend at a coffee shop and there was a guy hitting on her really hard. She's trying to be polite with conversation, but he's asking her all sorts of personal questions, "where do you work, where are you from, what things do you like to do, do you hang at any clubs?" clearly wanting to hook-up. She learned long ago that it was best to casually drop something about being transgender into the conversation for the least amount of grief, so when he asked something about physical fitness ("do you do yoga" or something similar), she responded, "well, when I was living as a boy, I used to like baseball, but I've kind of outgrown that. Well, outgrown both baseball AND being a boy" with a small laugh. He stared blankly at her for about 20 or 30 seconds as his mind processed what she said before suddenly fumbling in his pocket for change. He looked at us like "I'll be right back", proceeded to buy a cup of coffee at the counter and then headed straight out the door. We never laughed so hard, his reaction was absolutely priceless!!

    • @thatgirlreacts5465
      @thatgirlreacts5465 Před 3 lety +56

      Lol good for your friend! Honest with a good attitude! 👍

    • @kalyanigollamudi759
      @kalyanigollamudi759 Před 3 lety +89

      How to Spot a Transphobe 101!

    • @damelux3798
      @damelux3798 Před 3 lety +53

      Basically the best way to do it. Upfront and without ambiguity. If one can afford that ofc.
      But in my experience, so long as it doesn't makes you unsafe, doing that keep the toxicity away. You don't want to be with a transphobe anyways ... And investing in a relationship just so you can discover that one would be transphobe is painful and sometimes heartbreaking sooo...

    • @absanchez777
      @absanchez777 Před 3 lety +22

      @@kalyanigollamudi759 how does not wanting to get with a transgender transphobic

    • @Spookatz.
      @Spookatz. Před 3 lety +31

      @@absanchez777 we understand issues people might have with pre-op trans people, but not wanting to date anyone in the entire group is alienating us and treating us like we're "not real girls"
      Pretty much, it's because not dating trans people ENTIRELY just means you're treating us worse.

  • @amber2616
    @amber2616 Před 5 lety +1254

    Sis you're so gorgeous, my gay is jumping out

  • @han2299
    @han2299 Před 5 lety +324

    I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. He’s a frat boy and I hate how the fraternity influences and who he is with them. Love him, hate the fraternity.

    • @xinsanedefeatx
      @xinsanedefeatx Před 3 lety +74

      Don’t fool yourself, “who he is with them” is still him. His actions aren’t excused just because he actively decides not to remove negative influences from his life.
      I don’t mean to be condescending, I just hope that you’re valuing yourself and your feelings the way that you should ❤️

    • @molinj.7174
      @molinj.7174 Před 3 lety +24

      Yeah like Brandon said his fraternity self is probably more authentic than how he is with you, I’ve been in male locker rooms, they get rough.

    • @brendanlaven1697
      @brendanlaven1697 Před rokem

      @@xinsanedefeatx hello brother

  • @gemmajohnson9721
    @gemmajohnson9721 Před 5 lety +2544

    I thought it said "I dated a transphobic fat guy"

  • @alphawolf0522
    @alphawolf0522 Před 3 lety +2058

    My ex (we were together for 5 years) at first said he was okie with the fact that i am non binary and pansexual, but then we were fighting 3 months ago and he told me to "go to therapy to fix myself" meaning he doesn't like that im non binary. You are amazing and you inspire me to be myself and I love you for that. You will find someone who will accept you.

    • @CoRLex-jh5vx
      @CoRLex-jh5vx Před 3 lety +111

      Same happened with me but with being polyamorous. I'm perfectly capable of being monogamous but I wanted it to be a sort of open conversation I could have with my then-partner, and he said he was comfortable with it but clearly wasn't. Figured out I was non binary a couple months after so it was probably a blessing to have got the breakup out of the way by then

    • @iaminconstantpain9524
      @iaminconstantpain9524 Před 3 lety +25

      What does non binary mean? I'm sorry I'm dumb

    • @alphawolf0522
      @alphawolf0522 Před 3 lety +76

      @@iaminconstantpain9524 being non binary means that i don't identify as one gender. I use any pronouns. Whether it be male pronouns, female pronouns, or they/them pronouns.

    • @CoRLex-jh5vx
      @CoRLex-jh5vx Před 3 lety +65

      @@iaminconstantpain9524 non binary; outside of the binary, I.e, male or female. So people who are agender or just any gender that is outside of the "normal", physical possibilities. It varies a lot from person to person

    • @iaminconstantpain9524
      @iaminconstantpain9524 Před 3 lety +43

      Ah, thanks for the clarification everyone ❤️

  • @quilaweela
    @quilaweela Před 5 lety +1358

    “Guess what I said?........”
    Me: Girl what’d you say?!
    Samantha:”........”
    Me: you said okay didn’t you
    Samantha: “...... I said okay”
    💀💀

  • @000snow000
    @000snow000 Před 3 lety +479

    I find it's interesting that you keep saying you're dumb for literally just taking this guy at his word. You are not dumb, that guy is dumb.

    • @thatgirlreacts5465
      @thatgirlreacts5465 Před 3 lety +3

      No, she was being dumb.

    • @RikXtreme4
      @RikXtreme4 Před 3 lety +11

      Let her take accountability for her actions. Takes a real person to acknowledge their dumb mistakes. Builds character

    • @000snow000
      @000snow000 Před 3 lety +27

      @@RikXtreme4 actually, you want her to take accountability for his actions.

    • @RikXtreme4
      @RikXtreme4 Před 3 lety +1

      @@000snow000 I really don't know what you're getting at here, I just admired that she can acknowledge the mistakes she's made in the past. It takes two to tangle. Its not like she had a gun to her head. That's all. Why are you trying to turn this into something?

    • @000snow000
      @000snow000 Před 3 lety +28

      @@RikXtreme4 she's accountable for her own actions, not his. He is the one who took questionable actions, all she did was believe the words he said and I don't think there is any fault in that. Too often women are held responsible for what guys do.

  • @Twelveatyourhouse
    @Twelveatyourhouse Před 4 lety +3555

    OMG
    THIS
    GIRL
    IS
    SO
    BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @Hi-ot9yt
      @Hi-ot9yt Před 3 lety +95

      ik She's super pretty

    • @joseamore6121
      @joseamore6121 Před 3 lety +81

      Ikr i wish I looked like her

    • @jenaniya3492
      @jenaniya3492 Před 3 lety +41

      Oof, and then I look at myself in the mirror ;-;

    • @lycaptain
      @lycaptain Před 3 lety +31

      Ikr!!! 😩✨💖💕✨💘💙✨

    • @Elle-cy3eu
      @Elle-cy3eu Před 3 lety +17

      I knowwwww

  • @kaycee-rosecampbell2001
    @kaycee-rosecampbell2001 Před 3 lety +417

    They all want me to be cis, but I only know how to be sis 😉

  • @beeperscreepers4263
    @beeperscreepers4263 Před 3 lety +2097

    "Oh that's fine, I'm also uh, Bicurious"
    Translated: That's cool, but I don't *really* think you're a girl lol, but I'll humor you.
    HonEy, how did you not hear this and immediately run-

    • @SoSoMikaela
      @SoSoMikaela Před 3 lety +95

      Right?! The only sensible answer to something like that is "Okay, byyyye!"

    • @ymarascough1765
      @ymarascough1765 Před 3 lety +7

      @Shay Patel Nope that's fact, most guys feel that way. It's just how it is for now, but things are slowly changing.

    • @ymarascough1765
      @ymarascough1765 Před 3 lety +3

      @Shay Patel welp, I wish I lived where you do then. I can never catch a break. Maybe SoCal isn't as progressive as a i thought 😔

    • @SaphiiTaffy97
      @SaphiiTaffy97 Před 3 lety +8

      @Shay Patel im Canadian, its a lot better here than in the US 100% in my opinion ngl, idk what its like there but, its alooot easier here from the sounds of it. idk where socal is in the US though

    • @comicbooknerdisme
      @comicbooknerdisme Před 3 lety +5

      @@SaphiiTaffy97 socal= southern california, around LA from what it sounds like but having grown up there mtself, theres some pretty bad, conservative areas because catholicism is prominent

  • @LifeBeingAsh
    @LifeBeingAsh Před 5 lety +3845

    A MAKEUP LOOK FOR THIS PLEASE

  • @indiabenjamin403
    @indiabenjamin403 Před 5 lety +760

    Using trans as an insult is transphobic as it’s associating trans as something a bad, he could have said so many other things to upset her

    • @krissullivan593
      @krissullivan593 Před 5 lety +6

      India Benjamin disagreeing doesn’t mean phobic!!

    • @indiabenjamin403
      @indiabenjamin403 Před 5 lety +73

      Kris Sullivan why would some one need to disagree? There’s nothing wrong with being trans, and he’s openly insulting her for being trans so yes it is transphobic

    • @user-kf3fl9dq6q
      @user-kf3fl9dq6q Před 5 lety

      India Benjamin i kill The Haters 77-5-9-13 I ain’t got no patience

    • @krissullivan593
      @krissullivan593 Před 5 lety +1

      [Yung _WЯAI7H who you killin?

    • @paigenicole7270
      @paigenicole7270 Před 5 lety +6

      Kris Sullivan she*

  • @CuteDeadGirl666
    @CuteDeadGirl666 Před 3 lety +930

    Hey you’ll probably never see this but I’m a trans woman who’s just starting her transition and your videos make me happy. Please keep being you! 🌟✨🌟
    Update 2 weeks later: I’ve come out to much of my family and have started therapy to get on HRT. Everyone’s messages have helped a lot and I didn’t expect anyone to read this or even care thank you so much. You are all valid and amazing creatures and deserve the most love in the world.

    • @anyachanmala6168
      @anyachanmala6168 Před 3 lety +29

      hey! good luck with ur transition bb!!!

    • @BalatroSpades
      @BalatroSpades Před 3 lety +19

      Good luck hun!! I may not know you, but you have my full support!

    • @CuteDeadGirl666
      @CuteDeadGirl666 Před 3 lety +10

      Lavendr_Tea well thank you you just made me cry I appreciate you

    • @CuteDeadGirl666
      @CuteDeadGirl666 Před 3 lety +10

      Balatro The Clown making me tear up holy shit thank you!! Xoxo

    • @CuteDeadGirl666
      @CuteDeadGirl666 Před 3 lety +7

      Catalina C. Thank you!!! I appreciate you! Xo

  • @reee3057
    @reee3057 Před 5 lety +461

    Im a simple girl, I see the word transphobic frat boy storytime, i click

    • @pastelpepe
      @pastelpepe Před 5 lety +7

      Supernaturally American You’re here too, so wouldn’t you be sad too?

    • @konstantinoskalatzis8095
      @konstantinoskalatzis8095 Před 4 lety +4

      That’s a phrase but go off 😂(no shade btw)

    • @pimgeon_
      @pimgeon_ Před 3 lety +4

      IKR! I love to prove Transphobes wrong.

    • @ghostii716
      @ghostii716 Před 3 lety +1

      Konstantinos Kalatzis ?????

  • @maryvalentine7473
    @maryvalentine7473 Před 5 lety +4898

    i was so distracted this whole video bc you are actually soo gorgeous wtf
    (please do not respond to this with transphobic comments, it’s not cute)

  • @emilyelizabeth6103
    @emilyelizabeth6103 Před 5 lety +362

    “...so I grabbed my little purse” 😂icon

  • @zaniahrojas8256
    @zaniahrojas8256 Před 3 lety +398

    If my son comes out as trans I’m not supporting him.
    I’m supporting her 🏳️‍⚧️

    • @officialbanana7914
      @officialbanana7914 Před 3 lety +22

      🏳️‍⚧️

    • @zaniahrojas8256
      @zaniahrojas8256 Před 3 lety +44

      @I O no i mean if I have a son and he says he’s a girl I’m supporting her I’m sorry

    • @zaniahrojas8256
      @zaniahrojas8256 Před 3 lety +24

      OR THEM

    • @MariaGiles
      @MariaGiles Před 3 lety +13

      @@zaniahrojas8256 I read it in the context that they wanted to be a "she", if they wanted to be somewhere in the non-binary spectrum, it would be said.

    • @PandaMMOs
      @PandaMMOs Před 3 lety

      🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

  • @sillyotter9047
    @sillyotter9047 Před 3 lety +47

    You have mad big sister vibes. This is like slumber party level gossip and I am so here for it. One of the best story tellers.

  • @njhorseluver3895
    @njhorseluver3895 Před 5 lety +864

    "side note, I'm a frat gu- ha wait no" WEAK
    love u boo

  • @thenewpyt4331
    @thenewpyt4331 Před 5 lety +1288

    you’re in my recommended and omg SIS YOURE STUNNING

  • @6_635
    @6_635 Před 3 lety +108

    Can we talk about how gorgeous her eyes are. The colour and shape.😍

  • @respectfully1924
    @respectfully1924 Před 3 lety +102

    okay but HER HAIR IS SO SHINY

    • @izzieb.2926
      @izzieb.2926 Před 3 lety +11

      It looks so soft and silky am I the only one who wished they could reach through the screen and touch it aaaannnndddd I'm just realizing how weird that sounds🤣

  • @christinas8000
    @christinas8000 Před 5 lety +748

    Heels in a frat house god bless you sis

  • @frogwart70
    @frogwart70 Před 5 lety +343

    I had this video open in a tab next to the Monster Hunter World wiki and my brain combined them into "I Hunted a Transphobic Monster" and was really intrigued but then it wasn't that. Still liked your video though. I dig your style and subbed :) also, his loss.

  • @Skipsjack
    @Skipsjack Před 3 lety +51

    The people in the comments saying “I keep getting distracted by [insert thing] she’s so pretty” is just the sweetest thing

  • @Sophia-vk5bq
    @Sophia-vk5bq Před 3 lety +53

    Samantha Lux "I'm trans."
    Frat Guy "I'm bi, bi ,bi!"

  • @khoinex3
    @khoinex3 Před 5 lety +1263

    Okay youtube, I'll watch it. Safisfied?

  • @rebeccamccall6134
    @rebeccamccall6134 Před 5 lety +333

    I’ve never subscribed to somebody while watching a story time. But GIRL you pulled me in so fast and now I love you 🥰

    • @IsaulDoesntExist
      @IsaulDoesntExist Před 5 lety +1

      Rebecca McCall it’s a boy

    • @anonymouse7500
      @anonymouse7500 Před 5 lety

      Lmao

    • @whorrid5148
      @whorrid5148 Před 4 lety +5

      @@IsaulDoesntExist no she's not

    • @anotherbeautifulwondergirl7051
      @anotherbeautifulwondergirl7051 Před 4 lety +4

      You really didn't expect a frat leader to be anything but an immature boy, did you?
      I'll stand up for Samantha. She's a fine woman. When people with trans exclusionary policies/philosophies seek out trans channels to write trashy comments they're trolling

    • @rebeccamccall6134
      @rebeccamccall6134 Před 4 lety

      ^^^

  • @marisanewland9509
    @marisanewland9509 Před 5 lety +140

    Samantha: 1000
    Frat dude: 0
    😂
    Unrelated but your eyeshadow is gorgeous! 💖

  • @dewilew2137
    @dewilew2137 Před 3 lety +174

    The story that he told you about what his friends were saying and him “defending” you? 93% chance that didn’t happen. Sorry xx.

  • @NaturaIsDreaming
    @NaturaIsDreaming Před 5 lety +339

    If that guys sees this video I’m 100% sure he will unblock you & go off again lmao

  • @LivingtheMash
    @LivingtheMash Před 5 lety +279

    Wanna talk about universality of trans experiences, girl you were trying to get with frat boys while I WAS a frat boy two years ago. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @shell9918
      @shell9918 Před 5 lety +12

      lol that's hilarious

    • @LivingtheMash
      @LivingtheMash Před 5 lety +30

      @real niggaz Nah honey, I had a fucking POSITION I was the elected the Social chair responsible for hosting those toxic parties with sororities? Luckily I had my break down a week before that semester started so I never had to do anything bad. I guess the pressure of performance got to me.

    • @pendingdeletionduetocopyri4634
      @pendingdeletionduetocopyri4634 Před 5 lety +13

      ok tea, wig. WE NEED A STORY MAPLES.

    • @whoamilol1061
      @whoamilol1061 Před 5 lety +3

      What’s a frat boy ?

    • @ingridlopez8546
      @ingridlopez8546 Před 5 lety +1

      MAKE A VIDEO

  • @EmpressOfCatsup
    @EmpressOfCatsup Před 3 lety +52

    I've never set foot in a frat house, and I was completely unaware/in denial in undergrad. Frat houses are like dens of toxic masculinity and predatory male behavior, and nothing could ever compel me to enter one even before I started transitioning, but especially now.

  • @theodorezachariah289
    @theodorezachariah289 Před 3 lety +208

    This just makes me so sad, this shouldn't be something any trans person should have to be thinking about or dealing with. boil it down we are all just people who should be treated with respect. girls are girls boys are boys nonbinary people are non binary it isn't that complicated lol

    • @ywan4159
      @ywan4159 Před 3 lety +4

      👏🏼

    • @sarahsoelter840
      @sarahsoelter840 Před 3 lety +3

      What about the other 80 genders?!

    • @meganc8714
      @meganc8714 Před 3 lety +10

      @@sarahsoelter840 the term non-binary is an umbrella term for all people outside of the gender binary, which would be all of the genders you’re referencing

    • @Spookatz.
      @Spookatz. Před 3 lety

      @@sarahsoelter840 don't turn it into something against trans people. BOO

    • @carmenq7339
      @carmenq7339 Před 3 lety +4

      @Sarah Soelter they don't exist

  • @vampire49105
    @vampire49105 Před 5 lety +794

    his loss;) we're doing better 2019 ladies

    • @iamdavid5705
      @iamdavid5705 Před 5 lety +25

      But shes a guy so

    • @TuAmorChorizo
      @TuAmorChorizo Před 5 lety +24

      flame bot198 but she’s a girl soooo 💁🏻‍♀️

    • @haleighschmid6749
      @haleighschmid6749 Před 5 lety +19

      @@iamdavid5705 she is a beautiful girl leave her be frl

    • @simonmoore5978
      @simonmoore5978 Před 5 lety +4

      *tisk* BS girls are not doing better in 2019 when it comes to picking the right guy. Y'all go for the sketchy, hot guys who give you some words of affirmation but get involved in the common bad vices, i.e smoking, drinking, partying all the time. I am not saying you cannot find a good guy who does that, but too commonly are those activities linked to a guy that is just looking to have fun, not date. So no DUH this frat boy was like this! Keyword: frat. I'm in college and I hear and see too often my girl friends getting screwed by these hot guys and they're in LOVE but then they're surprised when they get screwed over by them. Girl what did you exPECT? Smh nice guys do finish last, until women are in their 30s and learned to look for the calm, put together guy who's got his shite together ughhh

    • @auryiin
      @auryiin Před 5 lety +2

      Charice Martin not a girl💀

  • @icemeoutlikeelsa
    @icemeoutlikeelsa Před 5 lety +465

    Too many red flags, I would have cut him off as soon as he cancelled plans and saved my dignity. And ESPECIALLY after he said you're the only one who treats him nice. That's probably for a reason, bc every other girl sees through his sketchy behavior

    • @christenm3200
      @christenm3200 Před 5 lety +15

      Yep! I went on a few dates with a guy about 2 months ago and he had the "you're the only one who respects me or treats me nicely" line. While said for sympathy and attention, you need to ask yourself WHY. If everyone treats you like shit, there is a reason and it's you. Not everyone else.

    • @icemeoutlikeelsa
      @icemeoutlikeelsa Před 5 lety +14

      @@christenm3200 Yeah and it's high key an insult, basically putting you on a lower level than the girls he usually goes after. Like "alright I'll settle for her bc she's the only one who's nice to me".

    • @christenm3200
      @christenm3200 Před 5 lety

      @@icemeoutlikeelsa Exactly!

    • @elbarto66
      @elbarto66 Před 5 lety +3

      "I would have cut him off as soon as he cancelled plans"
      ...wtf try curbing that ego a little lmaoo

    • @icemeoutlikeelsa
      @icemeoutlikeelsa Před 5 lety +12

      ​@@elbarto66 You obviously didn't watch the video. They had made solid plans to meet up before that day came and he made a lame excuse when she brought up going out somewhere besides his frat. It shows he was ashamed for people to see him out with her. And then to invite her over that same day late night. More signs he wants to keep this a secret/ is embarrassed about her

  • @jennaorlowski9228
    @jennaorlowski9228 Před 5 lety +72

    " like I'm a girl okay moving on " that's the moment I hit the like button💖
    You go girl💖

  • @foreverdead1248
    @foreverdead1248 Před 5 lety +35

    Girls like you remind me why I'm bi. You're SO PRETTY. And that hair. Gorg.

  • @benjib0yyy
    @benjib0yyy Před 5 lety +596

    New fan here. You popped in my recommended and I’m so happy about it!

  • @kasseyz4355
    @kasseyz4355 Před 5 lety +262

    *long pause* I said okay💀

  • @MattyQueenBee
    @MattyQueenBee Před 5 lety +82

    You're literally so gorgeous , i hate the ignorance of the world , who you want to be and who you are as a person isn't defined by gender. It's defined by what kind of person you are. Your personality shines and that makes you a great person , snatch me all day everyday sis ❤️

  • @joeebiden_
    @joeebiden_ Před 5 lety +54

    "did you say bad things about me"
    "👁👄👁"
    "yeAh"

  • @fayeinscream7561
    @fayeinscream7561 Před 5 lety +320

    this is the only story time that i actually sat through and didn't skip... thank you.

  • @jessicamarie3105
    @jessicamarie3105 Před 5 lety +150

    why are you so pretty? and your mannerisms are just precious.

  • @nyxicide
    @nyxicide Před 3 lety +27

    Completely unrelated to the story and a year late but her makeup is so adorable my gosh

  • @ashemarlow6471
    @ashemarlow6471 Před 3 lety +20

    "did you say bad things about me?"
    "...yeah"
    Girl same

  • @daniebock7806
    @daniebock7806 Před 5 lety +146

    I know people are saying like “he didn’t say anything about it until you initiated it” but even my boyfriend (ftm) who treated me like shit, I still don’t say anything about his gender or invalidate him. That would be actually transphobic. So this was a bit transphobic but not much

    • @august8807
      @august8807 Před 5 lety +4

      Yeah I'm ftm. It's clear when someone you date disses you it's always from a place of butthurt. Still bringing gender into it is low. They just don't want to look weak I guess. Like bitch I was good enough to date haha.

    • @vexu7366
      @vexu7366 Před 5 lety +4

      In my opinion it is very common when ppl are hurt to lash out and say whatever they can think of to hurt the person who hurt them. Obviously if someone is transgender then that would be a point of attack to hurt them. Does that make it right? No. However I don't necessarily think that for certain makes him transphobic. Chances are he probably doesn't even mean the things he said about her but had said them in the heat of the moment. I think we also need to take the level of maturity here into consideration and the fact that they were drunk and high majority of the time in this story.

    • @august8807
      @august8807 Před 5 lety +1

      @@vexu7366 obviously he didn't. This BOY was interested in her and found it an exciting factor she was trans. But unfortunately when emotional intelligence is low that's when insults fly out. It's to appease their feeling of weakness.

    • @vexu7366
      @vexu7366 Před 5 lety +2

      @@august8807 I disagree. She decided to be a petty bitch simply because a friends with benefits relationship that only took place during bouts of intoxication at a few parties didn't end up becoming serious. He stuck up for her and was nice to her and never said a bad word about her even when his friends gave him a hard time. As soon as she sees him talking to another girl A YEAR LATER when she's "over it" she gets jealous and talks shit on him and ruins any form of developing relationship between him and this girl. Literally for no reason at all other than to hurt him. She also seems to be quite proud of this. She then continues to harass him via Snapchat and acts like a bitch to him via text when he civilly tries to discuss it with her. She then acts shocked that he retaliated. Of course he's going to lash out at her. This is just common sense. They're both immature and it shows. This has nothing to do with "weakness", assertion of dominance or anything to do with transphobia. This is just how immature teenagers deal with their problems because they have yet to developed the maturity and control over their emotions required to think rationally in these situations. Obviously being intoxicated doesn't help this. This guy just said whatever he could think of in the heat of the moment to hurt her after she clearly went out of her way to hurt him for no reason.

    • @chunky7800
      @chunky7800 Před 5 lety

      I know I'm going to sound old... but what's ftm.

  • @emilycheshire
    @emilycheshire Před 5 lety +161

    Omg, you are more gorgeus than you were!
    When I last checked, maybe 1 year ago, you were gorgeus too, but you are rocking your hair!
    I am so happy about you.

    • @MissAlexisBlack
      @MissAlexisBlack Před 5 lety +1

      Emily Cheshire lowkey backhanded but sweet nonetheless

  • @anniekurdelak6937
    @anniekurdelak6937 Před 3 lety +32

    For some reason I read the title as "I dated a transgender frat boy" and I am now realizing it is about transphobia...

  • @joscheel1896
    @joscheel1896 Před 3 lety +8

    Some people are so ready to hurt someone in a racist, homophobic, transphobic and overall ignorant way when they cannot have it their way for once. Omg

  • @Diana-ov9vp
    @Diana-ov9vp Před 5 lety +386

    I am so happy for once with my CZcams recommendations and girl you so pretty he missed his chance
    P.S I love your eyes and makeup

    • @mellomellon96
      @mellomellon96 Před 5 lety +3

      @wild one 3:53

    • @Diana-ov9vp
      @Diana-ov9vp Před 5 lety +17

      wild one umm no she is a woman and a pretty one also stop being transphobic

    • @reedc7817
      @reedc7817 Před 5 lety +7

      how did he miss his chance😂 maybe the dude doesn't want to date a guy dressed up as a woman tf

    • @Diana-ov9vp
      @Diana-ov9vp Před 5 lety +3

      Greasy Fried Chicken umm bruh listen she is a woman and bc of people like you that trans people don’t feel comfortable being their own true self

    • @user-kf3fl9dq6q
      @user-kf3fl9dq6q Před 5 lety

      wild one bruh “it” she isn’t a It she’s a She a girl get over it

  • @Splitleaf
    @Splitleaf Před 5 lety +290

    "pack a bowl" girl im SUBBED

  • @beethany3020
    @beethany3020 Před 3 lety +14

    Absolutely dying at his text: “...now your blocked b****” 😂😂😂

  • @sydneymorris9877
    @sydneymorris9877 Před 3 lety +5

    Samantha Lux is the best friend we all need in our lives. I literally feel peace and happiness when I watch her videos💗

  • @drvetsaveyourpet4622
    @drvetsaveyourpet4622 Před 5 lety +229

    One time (about 6 years ago) I went to a frat party with my friend bc she didn’t want to go alone for safety reasons. I had a bf (who is now my husband, he didn’t care that I went) and this dude asked me to come up to his room and he’d give me a bottle of grey goose. I went, and talked. He handed me the bottle, I dipped and got a free ass bottle of booze 😂

    • @miagonzales4056
      @miagonzales4056 Před 5 lety +10

      DrVetSaveYourPet it’s a rule to never go up stairs in a frat house I’m not sure why that’s what my grand big and some of my sisters told me at my first fraternity party

    • @drvetsaveyourpet4622
      @drvetsaveyourpet4622 Před 5 lety +6

      mia gonzales well I did. And it was the one frat party I ever went to. I wasn’t impressed. Even if I had known the rules, I wasn’t in a sorority so I didn’t care about breaking them 😂

    • @plastictree7635
      @plastictree7635 Před 5 lety +12

      DrVetSaveYourPet I feel like she means for safety purposes 😬

    • @miagonzales4056
      @miagonzales4056 Před 5 lety +4

      Plastic Tree yeah that’s what I mean I probably should have said that lol my bad yall

    • @drvetsaveyourpet4622
      @drvetsaveyourpet4622 Před 5 lety +1

      mia gonzales he was a guy I kinda knew, through mutual friends. Enough that I knew he wouldn’t have tried anything forcefully. And he knew I wouldn’t falsely accuse him. Like an awkward acquaintance😂 he was also around 5’8, maybe 120 pounds. I’m 6’2 and was a solid 200. 😂

  • @danedrennan
    @danedrennan Před 5 lety +198

    take a shot every time she says "blah blah blah" ;)

    • @deityrawku
      @deityrawku Před 5 lety +8

      Dane Drennan ......i now need a liver transplant

    • @laurenwells5541
      @laurenwells5541 Před 5 lety +5

      Or "like"

    • @nellijaskorikova261
      @nellijaskorikova261 Před 5 lety +2

      Harder challenge: Take a shot every time she says "like".

    • @mompitbull7917
      @mompitbull7917 Před 5 lety

      Dane Drennan lol. Take a shot every time there’s a stupid comment.

    • @danedrennan
      @danedrennan Před 5 lety +1

      Mom Pitbull can’t tell if you’re bashing my comment or making fun of other comments. Either way, no need for negativity :)

  • @Indiegirl007
    @Indiegirl007 Před 5 lety +3

    This is why you stay away from guys in frats, in baseball hats, and shirts with no sleeves.

  • @lunarlove-mha1150
    @lunarlove-mha1150 Před 3 lety +99

    Samantha - im over this kid
    Hamilton - this kid is out!

  • @xocakepop
    @xocakepop Před 5 lety +297

    YOU WERE JUST IN MY REC VIDS.. SIS YOU'RE SO STUNNING YES GIRL WORK

    • @jimpalmer4638
      @jimpalmer4638 Před 5 lety +2

      Mariah it’s not a sis it’s a bro

    • @memequeen561
      @memequeen561 Před 5 lety +6

      Jim Palmer
      1. Never call a living being “it”, if you don’t know their gender, refer to them as they or their name.
      2. It is clear that she is female.
      3. Keep your comments to yourself

    • @jimpalmer4638
      @jimpalmer4638 Před 5 lety +2

      Meme Queen why r u assuming it’s gender?

    • @idekanymore2491
      @idekanymore2491 Před 5 lety +1

      Jim Palmer why even watch HER video if you’re gonna say some stupid shit like this ? get out of here if you’re gonna be negative -_-

    • @raggedydoll3231
      @raggedydoll3231 Před 5 lety +1

      +Jim Palmer she's a girl

  • @eileenzrubek7126
    @eileenzrubek7126 Před 5 lety +687

    hmmm what’s his @ sweetie?? asking for a friend

    • @boisthap9763
      @boisthap9763 Před 5 lety +82

      i am the friend shes asking for sis

    • @jackhughes3513
      @jackhughes3513 Před 5 lety +5

      omg ur the insta girl that her dog thinks she’s igly

  • @EnderHasEntered
    @EnderHasEntered Před 3 lety +21

    The first thought that popped into my brain when I clicked this video was
    "Oh my gord, she's so pretttyyyyy!!!"

  • @sarahibby3315
    @sarahibby3315 Před 5 lety +39

    YOU SAID PACK A BOWL WHILE I WAS LITERALLY PACKING ONE.
    SHOOK I REPLAYED THAT 5 TIMES AHAHAHA ( to make sure I heard you right)

  • @l_valetica
    @l_valetica Před 5 lety +8

    SO 👏 MUCH 👏 GOOD 👏 ADVICE 👏.
    Especially about when a guy ditches you and makes other plans but then tries to make plans with you again... LET HIM DO HIS OWN THING.
    Truer words have never been said.

  • @thavoron
    @thavoron Před 5 lety +10

    OMG so true about literally one person being able to change the perspective of a whole group, I think thats why its so important for people to be vocal on social matters that affect not only themselves but other people!
    so sorry you had to go through this babe but at least you found out sooner rather than later

  • @thealmightybucket5930
    @thealmightybucket5930 Před 3 lety +35

    "hey Samantha you look good tonight"
    *angry Samantha noises*

  • @Kata_Rin
    @Kata_Rin Před 3 lety +1

    you’re such a good storyteller. i love this kind of girl talk gossip stuff, i experienced a lot more of it in freshman year

  • @ashlynnmiley7747
    @ashlynnmiley7747 Před 5 lety +232

    But on another note, you are STUNNING sis 😍😍

    • @dr1n_
      @dr1n_ Před 5 lety +2

      bro*

    • @dudebromide8346
      @dudebromide8346 Před 5 lety +3

      @@dr1n_ Stop, she's not a bro, ok?

    • @Jack.Xin.
      @Jack.Xin. Před 5 lety

      Radical Homosexual ಠ_ಠ Oh so youre just assuming shes not a bro, (bros are people too)

    • @dudebromide8346
      @dudebromide8346 Před 5 lety +3

      @@Jack.Xin. Don't act so ignorant, when someone calls a transwoman "sis" and you correct them with bro, one can assume that's fucking transphobic.

    • @idekanymore2491
      @idekanymore2491 Před 5 lety

      D Slim Productions shut up, it’s SIS. not bro, get out of here with that.

  • @Vampire_-fp9dc
    @Vampire_-fp9dc Před 5 lety +338

    Antonio Garza kind of looks like you, but you have thinner eyebrows lolz. You two are so pretty😻! Also, Can you all stop arguing in the comments? I was simply stating an opinion.

    • @awes0mem058
      @awes0mem058 Před 5 lety +12

      Bc they're both females that originated as males

    • @awes0mem058
      @awes0mem058 Před 5 lety +1

      @@fen_vt I was joking

    • @mothastrud
      @mothastrud Před 5 lety +16

      Awes0mem0 Antonio hasn’t said they were trans, I try to be respectful by not assuming because they could be a cis male who likes to dress up or a trans female.

    • @Jessicurrrrrrrrr
      @Jessicurrrrrrrrr Před 5 lety +6

      she looks a little more feminism than antonio

    • @beomkyu9869
      @beomkyu9869 Před 5 lety +5

      Aimee Mena, Antonio has said she prefers she/ her pronouns

  • @coalvarner1813
    @coalvarner1813 Před 3 lety +55

    Me: *lighting my water pipe*
    Her: "pack a bowl"
    Me: 👁👄👁

  • @tuesday7407
    @tuesday7407 Před 3 lety +11

    Can we take a moment to appreciate how beautiful this girl is?

  • @itismerce
    @itismerce Před 5 lety +96

    I'm so happy youtube recommended me this, I mean, I bet you never though people in South America would watch your videos but here I am and I'm enjoying it

  • @allyf8608
    @allyf8608 Před 5 lety +162

    Girl your makeup is fire!👏🏻👏🏻🔥

    • @jimpalmer4638
      @jimpalmer4638 Před 5 lety

      Allyson F I think ur phone autocorrected u meant to say boy

    • @bruh-mb1rd
      @bruh-mb1rd Před 5 lety +2

      @@jimpalmer4638 oh honey your obnoxious is showing

    • @memequeen561
      @memequeen561 Před 5 lety

      Jim Palmer, no she’s a girl

  • @staticcoatings2377
    @staticcoatings2377 Před 3 lety +5

    I just wanna point out when she is wearing makeup witch she usually is her eyeshadow is always on point 👏👏👏

  • @mr.avoided7873
    @mr.avoided7873 Před 5 lety +13

    GIRL YOUR MAKEUP IS ON FLEEK 💅👌😩

  • @wearethest4rs
    @wearethest4rs Před 5 lety +21

    Aaaahhhhhh girl yes! Get a snack, pack a bowl? You had me! You should do more makeup tutorials, I looooved your look in this one!!

  • @Annaliviaaaa
    @Annaliviaaaa Před 5 lety +37

    You were in my recommend and your eye make up is hypnotic. You have some serious make up skill and you’re so stunning. I’m so glad I clicked, sorry about the fuq boi.

  • @watchdogsplaythroughs9852

    Whenever a girl says "that dress" you know it's gotta be good... and it be good! Thank you!

  • @charlesduvo269
    @charlesduvo269 Před 3 lety +8

    You’re literally the nicest person! Like I don’t think you understand how much we all appreciate you! 💕💕

  • @haevongerr
    @haevongerr Před 5 lety +36

    *“Thank u, next”*

  • @emilyanne9717
    @emilyanne9717 Před 5 lety +92

    Sis you're so gorgeousss! First video of yours I'm seeing and I already love you, subscribed

  • @PellGirlz
    @PellGirlz Před 5 lety +6

    please do a video on the products your use in your hair/how to help with frizz/ etc, your hair is stunning!

  • @abigfishinabarrenswamp
    @abigfishinabarrenswamp Před 2 lety +2

    “Grab a snack, pack a bowl” oh my god shes so cute

  • @marianavm2355
    @marianavm2355 Před 5 lety +103

    I've never seen you before, i'm only 5 seconds into the video but wow, you are gorgeous!

  • @abibird1098
    @abibird1098 Před 5 lety +23

    You came up on my suggested and I subscribed 30 seconds into this video ✌🏼 you’re genuinely stunning and such a strong person ❤️

  • @juliaskagfjord6207
    @juliaskagfjord6207 Před 3 lety +3

    You have such a beautiful personality. Really no one needs a person who isnt quality in their life. We each must place a higher value on ourselves and know that our deepest heart desires is available for us, not settle for chumps

  • @herdustisverypretty
    @herdustisverypretty Před 4 lety +4

    /slow dramatic zoom/ "I said okay" aaaaaand I subbed lmao

  • @gurkensalat8833
    @gurkensalat8833 Před 5 lety +14

    When you said 'grab a snack' I was literally opening a back of chips that second I never felt so caught before.

  • @akiraillustrates9853
    @akiraillustrates9853 Před 5 lety +50

    I love you SO much Samantha! I'm a trans person, female to male! I just wanted to say that I support you and your decisions and that you're my Idol! THANK YOU so much. You've helped me get through so much, and I am proud of you ^^

  • @MyFaithfulSword
    @MyFaithfulSword Před 3 lety +4

    Damn girl. You really hit some nerves. Love your videos. Hands down my favorite trans CZcamsr. Hella raw and relatable. I feel like most trans girls pretend like life isn’t that hard and they just got here and everything’s fine. You really make me feel like I’m not crazy girl. Thanks.

  • @stephflgirl2091
    @stephflgirl2091 Před 3 lety +5

    Girl you should definitely do vlogs 💕 your life seems interesting lol , I also wanna see what party’s are like lol, I’ve never experience that whole scene

  • @BigBrotherGnE
    @BigBrotherGnE Před 5 lety +3

    You did the right thing getting away from that deplorable individual. It's really a damned shame that you had to endure such a thing, and you've grown stronger out of it, which is always valiant and proper. You're a beautiful woman who deserves better, and keep that in mind.

    • @BigBrotherGnE
      @BigBrotherGnE Před 5 lety +1

      @@john-si9yc - I'm amused by your insecurities, my friend. :) No need to hide it if you fancy her.

  • @Diebulfrog79
    @Diebulfrog79 Před 5 lety +287

    Happy new year, kid. Stop dating frat boys and date real men. Thank for the share.

  • @damageddoughnut
    @damageddoughnut Před 3 lety +1

    Lol my fav part was the picture u texted 😂😂 “waiting for the paragraph” oh SUCH a frat boy