What is the Inner Child?

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Komentáře • 116

  • @tianaallen586
    @tianaallen586 Před 4 lety +100

    This is changing my life! Thank you so much!! I am now 23 years old and am just realizing my subconscious habits from childhood trauma. Thanks again for posting this information to make the world a better place and to stop these cycles of abuse. :)

    • @mariocarreno95
      @mariocarreno95 Před 3 lety

      I feel you.

    • @chris-nd7pi
      @chris-nd7pi Před rokem

      Same 24

    • @annier1873
      @annier1873 Před 5 měsíci

      I’m curious as to how much your life has changed since you’ve done inner child work.

  • @mingceline1217
    @mingceline1217 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Recently I realized that I uncontrollably broke down as I felt seen and heard. And the crying is uncontrollable. Even I am shocked about it. I discovered it is actually my inner child crying out. As I ponder about how I felt. I felt that it was because when I was still a child I was a very sensitive child. And because I was sensitive I cried a lot and my parents and siblings reaction to my crying was annoyed. I tend to think I shouldn't cry but the emotions just kept coming. I think my inner child wants to feel seen and heard of my crying. She wants to feel loved even though she always cry and hopes that no one can judge her. Talking to my inner child, accepting her without any judgements have made me feel so renewed and at peace.

  • @ethanhaltom1830
    @ethanhaltom1830 Před 5 lety +44

    Wow this really resonated with me and helped me see where a lot of my current problems are coming from

  • @Tiffany-tx7tq
    @Tiffany-tx7tq Před 5 lety +19

    Im showing this to my therapist

  • @elhadjdiallo633
    @elhadjdiallo633 Před 3 lety +5

    Childhood trauma has affected so many folks in this universe!!!!! Stay away from narcissist y'all gotta run for y'all lives before its too late ......

  • @Amandahugginkizz
    @Amandahugginkizz Před 4 lety +48

    "Egocentric" that's why most kids think their parents divorce was their fault :( so sad

  • @nanucat29
    @nanucat29 Před rokem +3

    Inner child to me made me motivated it's like when you were a child you just want to go experience stuff. My inner child grew up to early my parents expected me to grow up too early. It slowly died because I had to act the bigger person. I got unmotivated and quickly hop to new things, I can't focus to finish on one thing, I quickly jump to a new thing. But it got reawakened now that I'm 36 I found my motivation again to be playful and motivated.

  • @Juwon5Jimvon
    @Juwon5Jimvon Před 5 lety +85

    Hi Nicole. I think inner child work is hugely significant. I've started using the meditation you sent, together with another inner child meditation that I found on Spotify. It seems to be making a difference. Thanks again for this clip.

    • @TheHolisticPsychologist
      @TheHolisticPsychologist  Před 5 lety +13

      Hey Juwon- I think it's significant too. I'm glad you've been using the meditation. It's brought me a lot of healing. There are some great guided meditations on spotify. Eventually I'll make a playlist. Thanks for watching!

    • @DailyDumbStuff
      @DailyDumbStuff Před 5 lety +1

      Hey Juwon! True! Working on our inner child is life changing. Could you share the Spotify link to the meditation you found? Many thanks!

    • @Juwon5Jimvon
      @Juwon5Jimvon Před 5 lety +4

      @@DailyDumbStuff Hi Sofia. I've been using the "Inner Child Healing For Men" meditation by Liberty Forrest. There's another one posted there for women. Hope this is helpful.

    • @reg8297
      @reg8297 Před 3 lety

      @@TheHolisticPsychologist how can u heal abuse that came from your mother then abuse from father of your kids and he brainwashing your fanily to do the same and see u as the wrong parent instead of him how exactly do u heal this horror pain

    • @brrelund4419
      @brrelund4419 Před rokem

      ​@@TheHolisticPsychologistcan i ask if I also can have the inner child meditation? Thank for your guidance😊

  • @endertptm
    @endertptm Před 5 lety +7

    I really relate to feeling ignored and unimportant when people don't respond to messages.

    • @shawnawallace4582
      @shawnawallace4582 Před 4 lety +1

      Me too

    • @yunamchill9169
      @yunamchill9169 Před 3 lety

      Me 3. I always check my messages and feel disappointed when there's no new ones, I need attention. I also react badly when other people shut down my talks about my favourite shows or movies or news I find interesting, they always say 'don't you have other things to talk about?' or 'how do you have time to look up something like this?'. Like, that hurts my inner child so much.

  • @barbied2736
    @barbied2736 Před 5 lety +31

    This is explained so well...your work inspires me!!! Thank you!!

  • @spadance61
    @spadance61 Před 5 lety +15

    Thank you so much for this...You are so right!!!! Awareness is the key as well as the inner child is only a part of us...he/she is not who we really are. We need to embrace this part of us and take really good care of her/him. Thank you again!

  • @fipatto2
    @fipatto2 Před rokem +1

    OMG finally someone explains WHAT the IC is.
    43 years including many years of inner work and therapy and no one had ever explained it!!!! Thank you ❤

  • @janicebeare8127
    @janicebeare8127 Před 3 lety

    So well explained. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain these concepts. They truly are life changing!

  • @Marykguise
    @Marykguise Před 2 lety

    Love these short, easy to digest videos. Thank you!!

  • @rushalirohira2329
    @rushalirohira2329 Před 3 lety +1

    Just hearing this made me cry. Thank you!

  • @vanessamclennan1
    @vanessamclennan1 Před 4 lety +1

    Loved your explanation and can see how the story is a filter that stays until we see it and heal it

  • @rachelm9368
    @rachelm9368 Před 4 lety +2

    what a great channel!!! i was looking for inner child reference to better explain it to a friend and found you. Blown away by your video titles and can't wait to get into the rest of them!

  • @AFFTFOMSICHTS
    @AFFTFOMSICHTS Před 4 lety +2

    There is something so unique and amazing about your videos

  • @noahboots7272
    @noahboots7272 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you very much for all of your videos. I first got into you while watching your video on the Dark Knight and ended up here. Wow! I moved in with my emotionally abusive and neglective step-dad when I was about 6 and now I know I have to heal my inner child. Thank you, you're a beautiful soul!

  • @CherylMuir
    @CherylMuir Před 3 lety

    So incredibly healing. Thank you ❤️

  • @Sandyficslick
    @Sandyficslick Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this video. You explained it so well that it was very easy for me to understand. As someone who is trying to heal one's inner child, this is a great place to start by identifying it.

  • @gloria7415
    @gloria7415 Před rokem +1

    Thank you, you give great explanations to bring conscious awareness to repetitive patterns. This is very helpful, thank you so much.

  • @mariellensullivan1130
    @mariellensullivan1130 Před 5 lety +4

    LOVE the inner child work! Thank u so much for all u share ♥️♥️ everything for me leads back to my inner child and this is beyond helpful

    • @TheHolisticPsychologist
      @TheHolisticPsychologist  Před 5 lety

      Hi Mariellen! I'm glad this is helpful. I will be recording a meditation for my email subscribers that you might also find helpful.

  • @lifeafterendo1300
    @lifeafterendo1300 Před 3 lety +1

    Ah yes.. humbly I just put twenty years of endometriosis into remission.. It was half plant-based diet , supplements, plant based progesterone,cutting out all xenoestrogens. Half healing my inner child. What came out since the pain has gone, it's a lot of fun,funky colorful, & artsy creations.
    I am going to start a podcast . So those who resonate, can see it is possible with this disease.. I can only imagine the benefits to a non endo woman as well... not a highly sensitive immune sytem.
    It isn't that easy. But it's worth every moment changing the rewiring of your subconscious. I never thought I would be saying that sentence💖
    Appreciate your videos and making videos like this. Be well💛💜
    It's so calming to the nervous system💖

  • @GoldenMushroom64
    @GoldenMushroom64 Před 3 lety +3

    The problem is I don’t have any traumatic hurts or issues that I can remember that could resurfacing today.

  • @ccm3916
    @ccm3916 Před 4 lety +3

    wow thanks a lot! It's very well explained!! Keep it up!

  • @joelsmind6930
    @joelsmind6930 Před 2 lety

    Love the work you do Dr. Lepera! I'm going to include this video link in my podcast episode discussing your book "how to do the work" about the inner child!

  • @collectomaniac8
    @collectomaniac8 Před 5 lety +4

    such a clear explanation of the reactions of the wounded self. Thank you so much

  • @MapleJune
    @MapleJune Před 5 lety +10

    I found you through IG! Glad to be one of the firsts subs to your CZcams channel - I think you will make it big here. Everyone will find this helpful.

    • @TheHolisticPsychologist
      @TheHolisticPsychologist  Před 5 lety

      Hey Maple! I can't tell you how much I appreciate you supporting both platforms. Much love to you

  • @XX-lg6my
    @XX-lg6my Před 4 lety +1

    Amazing. You rule!

  • @Dreamweaver777
    @Dreamweaver777 Před 4 lety +2

    This was really good. Eckhart Tolle decribes "pain body" which is the culmination of childhood pain. A Course In Miracles calls it "ego scripts." The magic is in being able to see it and then not identify it as one's self but to rather catch it before it takes over thinking and BE STILL in order to transmute the energy field. I LOVE the idea of soothing my inner child and I have been, I have been listening to her fears and talking to her about the truth she never knew as a child. I look forward to checking out your other videos. Lee

  • @eezee5744
    @eezee5744 Před 4 lety

    Thanks. I find your explanations of things simple and insightful.

  • @davidbe2936
    @davidbe2936 Před 3 lety +2

    We gon' change

  • @kiriglinz7822
    @kiriglinz7822 Před 5 lety +4

    This is very powerful. Thank you so much.

  • @bupechama4084
    @bupechama4084 Před 4 lety

    Thank you so much! This was very helpful 💕

  • @coffeebreakwithtamer
    @coffeebreakwithtamer Před 4 lety +2

    big thanks from Egypt

  • @emmart9061
    @emmart9061 Před 4 lety +1

    .Thank you so much you really do make a change🧚🏼‍♀️

  • @mrstoner2udude799
    @mrstoner2udude799 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you!

  • @mcos6
    @mcos6 Před 5 lety +2

    Wow, I was thinking about this a lot recently, your video comes at a very appropriate time for me. Spending time at home with my parents now that my third year of college has come to a close has forced me to grapple with some family dynamics that at times feel uncomfortable, and this video has helped illuminate possible reasons why. I think growing up involves learning the hard lesson that life is not always about fun and doing whatever you want, and our inner child takes that very personally, depending on how that lesson is taught to us by our parents and by the rest of society. With age and experience (and to a greater extent with a background in psychology) we learn to look back and realize that it was never only about us, and that the things that happen to us are not necessarily because of something that we did that made us deserve it. Thanks for another great video, I love your channel (and instagram account!).

    • @TheHolisticPsychologist
      @TheHolisticPsychologist  Před 5 lety +1

      Hey Marcos! I'm glad this served you at the right time and I agree with what you wrote here. Much love!

    • @palvi5639
      @palvi5639 Před 5 lety +1

      I like your honest share. Thank you. 🙏

  • @whatever_it_take.s
    @whatever_it_take.s Před 3 lety +1

    Really well put!!
    Appreciate your efforts in educating adults to be adults
    The one thing that is way too overlooked!!

  • @imsoso12
    @imsoso12 Před 4 lety +1

    thank u for the knowleg u give us

  • @EricaEmpowers
    @EricaEmpowers Před 5 lety +1

    So good!!

  • @lauuunll
    @lauuunll Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you very much Dr Nicole 🙏

  • @ernestoparisii
    @ernestoparisii Před 5 lety +2

    Thank you my Dear, this is practical explanation. Practise and keep going is the most important thing. Never give up.

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 Před rokem

    Inner child, is the ego. Parent the ego through shadow work. Allowing me to truly challenge, my toxic codependency karmic cycle in the best way🥰 Being free, feels so good. Choosing to doiny things differently is artistically amazing. Reinventing my own world with my higher self, who she aspires to be as she heals. Her little sadistic ass loves when we Discipline her, because she feels visible and attended to. Lil bad girl lol. Being an inner child parent, is so fulfilling and enriching. Age 7 are programming years. My mother and father, grandparents made me feel protected and seen. So I took those skills and incorporated them by keeping myself active and in creative mode like they did. And I feel so uplifted. I love parenting myself

  • @yakshkumar2003
    @yakshkumar2003 Před 3 lety +4

    Came here after listening to INNER CHILD by BTS.
    Thank You for the Video.

  • @FitWithGrace
    @FitWithGrace Před 3 lety

    So good!

  • @daliaelbeih8181
    @daliaelbeih8181 Před 3 lety

    Perfect descroption

  • @nathalieassir7909
    @nathalieassir7909 Před 4 lety +2

    Another great video Dr. Nicole... I have a question, how about low self esteem and insecurities ? where do these come from and how to we let them and create more awareness to negate them completely? Thanks again for all your efforts in helping heal so many of us. Nathalie

  • @therealsongmeioneal
    @therealsongmeioneal Před 3 lety +1

    Great video

  • @brettneuberger6466
    @brettneuberger6466 Před 4 lety +3

    I just have let you know how good you are at condensing and I explaining these concepts in an easy and digestible way. Thanks.

  • @margaret-annemacarthur6744

    Hi, so helpful, thank you.

  • @bethanypultz5858
    @bethanypultz5858 Před 5 lety +28

    As parents, how can we best prevent our children from having wounded parts? Is it really just working on ourselves? What if the children are older, how do you repair those early wounds?

    • @TheHolisticPsychologist
      @TheHolisticPsychologist  Před 5 lety +28

      Hi Bethany, it really is about working on ourselves. What we do not heal, we pass along.

    • @Amandahugginkizz
      @Amandahugginkizz Před 4 lety +1

      I've been wondering this too.i feel like I ruined my kids and it's to late :( my son is 13,12,7 and 3.

    • @NiaPgn
      @NiaPgn Před 4 lety

      Same. My twins are 18

    • @beam8250
      @beam8250 Před 4 lety

      Great question!

    • @reenasingh-id9zh
      @reenasingh-id9zh Před 4 lety +1

      I am searching for same . I need to heal myself and my son too

  • @Jasminejupiterjuice
    @Jasminejupiterjuice Před 11 měsíci

    Cool.v Helpful!!!!

  • @divyatab7523
    @divyatab7523 Před 4 lety +2

    Me singing inner child

  • @radhasurya9403
    @radhasurya9403 Před rokem

    tnku mam🙏🙏😭😭

  • @virginiaboccardi7829
    @virginiaboccardi7829 Před 5 lety +6

    Very interesting! Would you explain the difference between ego and inner child please?

  • @Hypertaztic
    @Hypertaztic Před 2 lety +1

    I don’t understand much of my Inner child. All I know is i hardly had time to see any of my parents, I’d sleep and wake up without them everyday. And when I’d ask my siblings where are they I’d start crying because I never got to say anything. It happened for years. Including the past abusive years I’ve seen myself hiding a lot and staying quiet trying to not cry in any situation I’m in. Continuously, i am passive.
    (Sorry for the nonsense I just want to understand more of this inner child topic)

    • @cinnabeld8284
      @cinnabeld8284 Před 2 lety

      I hope you heal from this, that sounds hurtful. But we can heal from anything 💞

  • @Ladyblue7620
    @Ladyblue7620 Před 4 lety +2

    My inner child is telling me to go eat spaghetti

  • @Lazarsebaolar
    @Lazarsebaolar Před 5 lety +8

    Amazing video, Dr Nicole! Might I suggest a lavalier microphone like RodeLink Filmmaker Kit or Audio-Technica ATR3350iS? They are very popular among CZcams content creators and they greatly increase the feeling of connection with the person who is sharing the information. As you know, the voice and the sound are a very powerful medium- a more intimate sound will create a far more personal and powerful experience for the listener/ receiver of information. Thank you!

  • @journaling.aw.vlog.37

    Ordered the Book, How to meet yourself, just so you know some reason I am waiting an extremely long amount of time I ordered the book from an unfamiliar seller.. who knows how long I will wait but it is on the way from some place..

  • @Dhullgarima
    @Dhullgarima Před 5 lety

    I already liked the video already because I know you're fucking awesome

  • @lenasima7310
    @lenasima7310 Před 4 lety +1

    does the inner child has its voice? or does it express itself through the ego?

  • @davidwhitcher1972
    @davidwhitcher1972 Před 3 lety +1

    I shouldn't be but i am distracted by her sweater.

  • @ankushsingla1939
    @ankushsingla1939 Před 2 lety

    so its similar to CBT? replacing the nagative thought patterns with positive.

  • @RealTalk-mq2ug
    @RealTalk-mq2ug Před rokem +2

    I am debilitated and paralyzed with panic attacks.
    HOW THE FUCK COULD HE DO THIS TO ME?
    HOW HOW HOW HOW HOW?????
    I'm all alone in the world.
    Desperately painfully ridiculously: ALONE.
    I'm in hell: with no escape.
    I don't see a way out.
    I'm drowning, suffocating.
    I'm in so much pain.
    Submerged in darkness and blackness.
    Flooded with terror.
    No light at the end of the tunnel.
    My only prayer is to die.
    This pain is killing me.
    Trauma and emotional turmoil.
    I am miserable and devastated.
    I hyperventilate with panic attacks.
    I CANNOT, DO NOT: BREATHE.
    I am abandoned and betrayed;
    discarded like last week's garbage!!!
    I just want to die!
    I can no longer bear this hell that I'm in.
    I just don't breathe. The pain is too unbearable.
    Panic and terror and trauma
    flood every cell of my being.
    I'm so desperately all alone.
    My world, my life: was changed,
    completely, in an instant.
    My heart is shattered.
    My soul is raped.
    I have severe PTSD.
    SEVERE SEVERE SEVERE.
    I am left devastated and despaired.
    I am anguished and tormented.
    I am haunted and I am in agony.
    I am terrified and I am traumatized.
    I AM DESPERATE FOR PRAYER.
    THIS EMOTIONAL TURMOIL IS TORTURE.
    DROWNING.
    SUFFOCATING.
    I am traumatized.
    every cell of my being is submerged in PTSD.
    he raped me.
    my so-called best friend; he raped me.
    maliciously intentionally
    viciously brutally intensely: raped my soul.
    discarded me like garbage.
    CONSTANT PANIC.
    having the devil inside him, is a legit explanation for what he's done to me...
    how will I get through this?
    how will I heal from this?
    he purged all his dysfunctions onto me...
    because he's unhealed and because he's fucked,
    I ended up being the collateral damage
    to his un-wellness!!
    HOW WILL I EVER HEAL?
    I HAVE SEVERE PTSD.
    SEVERE SEVERE SEVERE.
    he's given me severe PTSD.
    SEVERE SEVERE SEVERE.
    some of the most toxic and sick people
    come disguised as people that love you...
    he came disguised as my best friend...
    I AM DYING OF EMOTIONAL PAIN.
    THE GRIEF AND TERROR ARE ALL-CONSUMING.
    the darkness. the despair. the rage. THE PANIC.
    OH. MY. GOD. THE. PANIC!!!
    the person whom I thought was my best friend
    discarded me like garbage.
    replaced me with another.
    I desperately want to escape the pain that I'm in:
    debilitating paralyzing all-consuming hyperventilating
    panic and grief...
    he violently brutally viciously maliciously raped my soul.
    abandoned and betrayed me.
    and now I don't breathe. CAN'T BREATHE.
    I'm desperately trying to remember this. please, God, help me remember:
    ✨💖✨
    I was created from all light, for I am light,
    I fear no darkness. for being light, I can see beyond darkness!!! 💫
    "Don't look for healing at the same feet of those who broke you."
    - Rupi Kaur
    Feelings are just feelings.
    They are not facts!
    They are not me!
    And I can let them go!
    ♥♥♥
    God is using my feelings to train and heal my heart and my soul,
    for a new healthy true-love relationship: with my twin-flame...
    - The highest most love that I deserve,
    I must give that to myself, first!
    - In a state of loving myself,
    I will attract, and be attracted to:
    the same kind of person.
    - I must STOP emptying my own cup
    for someone that is not pouring into mine.
    - Love finds me!
    * "Stop acting so small.
    You are the universe in ecstatic motion." *
    - Rumi
    (The antidote to chaos, isn’t order! It’s harmony!)

  • @nathalieassir7909
    @nathalieassir7909 Před 4 lety +2

    and where did we learn self sabotage and how can we stop it? Its been my number driver, driving all my partners away from me. How can I stop that destructive behavior?

    • @voodoochild3859
      @voodoochild3859 Před 4 lety

      Nathalie Assir have some magic mushrooms 🍄
      Edit: I’m joking mate, seek help through a therapist. Then once you think you’ve improved, maybe try mushrooms haha.

  • @Vania.12
    @Vania.12 Před 5 lety +7

    Thank you for the explanation..it's really clear and useful.. I wanted to ask though, what if it was still the same person who we saw from childhood? You mentioned that for example it was our dad who was grumpy from work, and now we saw our spouse being grumpy and we have to try to control this emotion. But what if it was still the same person (my mom). She's always mad after coming home from work. She would yell at father and us. I used to be always scared of her attitude. And now I still live with my family and I am still always triggered and had this mixed emotion whenever she came home from work. I grew up to be an emotional person, I am always mad around the house, no matter what happens, good or bad. But whenever I am outside with friends, I feel different, it's hard to describe, but I feel happier.. Can the "healing inner child" meditation help me? Because i still live in the same house as in my childhood and with the same people. Ive actually tried listening to the meditation and I cried a lot. But I didnt feel any better after that.. Thank you in advance 🙂

    • @anastasiakroft
      @anastasiakroft Před 3 lety

      I know you wrote this comment a year ago but it just resonated so much with me. I'm in a very similar situation only for me it was both of my parents and they abused me physically, mentally, emotionally. I can definitely relate to feeling "mad" when at home. I even notice that I feel insecure, angry, annoyed, irritated, unsafe. But every time I'm home alone for a few days or weeks, I'm in a better mood, I'm more productive, I start working out on a regular basis, I eat better food etc. Even my inner dialog get better (still shit but not as bad). I think we just have to move out and start healing ourselves. I don't see how it's possible to do better when you're in a toxic enviroment. How are you doing now? Would love to hear an update

  • @nizam8558
    @nizam8558 Před 4 lety

    Podcasts?

  • @sundance8623
    @sundance8623 Před 4 lety

    Inner core beliefs

    • @sundance8623
      @sundance8623 Před 4 lety

      *this is key to fixing/healing the inner most ennessence

  • @reg8297
    @reg8297 Před 3 lety

    Like what exactly and the way we feel might not reflect reality maybe some causes but for me ive been broken down sobbing to my sóúl for years for something that was reality ripple effects of abuse

  • @christianguitierrez3753

    Would it be ok to subscribe to Disney+, if my inner child want's to ??

  • @margaretek5350
    @margaretek5350 Před 3 lety +1

    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗

  • @k0olagotzbandz342
    @k0olagotzbandz342 Před 4 lety +1

    What if I’m still a child but in my case you could say I’m a well educated child

  • @shinegrace7235
    @shinegrace7235 Před rokem

    So I was wondering..if my inner child is really triggered..ofcourse..all of me is triggered..I feel agitated or whatever in the moment..and then in those critical moments..I don't see how to pacify my inner child..because i don't obviously feel like the wise parent.. So what do I do in those moments..this is kinda confusing..any help?

  • @christopherwalsh3101
    @christopherwalsh3101 Před 3 lety

    im not sure if I have an inner child, or Im just a 30 year old child!

  • @danquarterman
    @danquarterman Před 4 lety

    Can I buy you a decent microphone? :D hehe

  • @teamginate3400
    @teamginate3400 Před 4 lety

    Isn't it " this is your sub conscious" ?

  • @jameshanson9498
    @jameshanson9498 Před 4 lety

    echo, echo, echo...