How To Cope With Depression

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  • čas přidán 2. 07. 2019
  • Depression doesn't have to ruin our lives. The most urgent thing we need to do is understand the ways in which depression is unlike sadness - and why self-understanding is the primary route to a cure.
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    “Almost half of us will suffer from depression at some point in our lives, but the condition remains badly misunderstood and therefore often poorly treated. At the heart of our collective difficulty with depression is a confusion about what it actually is - and in particular, how it can be distinguished from a state all of us know very well and with which it is has a distracting number of similarities, namely sadness. It’s because we unwittingly tend to apply to cases of depression a number of assumptions drawn from, and better suited to, an understanding of sadness that we end up suffering far more than we should…”
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Komentáře • 8K

  • @Nani-ui8mx
    @Nani-ui8mx Před 3 lety +14373

    you are here because u dont wanna feel depressed anymore, that’s a good step to take, good job

  • @Churlz
    @Churlz Před 4 lety +5225

    The worst thing about Depression is that you remember the days you didn't have it

    • @SuperOfficialicon
      @SuperOfficialicon Před 3 lety +157

      True that hurts so much

    • @lehien9818
      @lehien9818 Před 3 lety +321

      I can't even remember those days

    • @seanaltman1400
      @seanaltman1400 Před 3 lety +71

      That’s all I think about...

    • @evylavu_0672
      @evylavu_0672 Před 3 lety +116

      i was so happy back then :( i was so bubbly and healthy

    • @dicjd107
      @dicjd107 Před 3 lety +41

      I have been getting nightmares i will turn into a bad person due to depression and therapy will make me turn to someone who i am not.

  • @Spooy008
    @Spooy008 Před 2 lety +1861

    I don't think my family knows how hard a depression can be. They are expecting so much from me. I hope this video helps them understand a bit more.

    • @domawsumness5991
      @domawsumness5991 Před 2 lety +27

      I know how you feel sadly 😭 we just have to push through and pray 🙏

    • @mohammadabbas118
      @mohammadabbas118 Před 2 lety +17

      @@domawsumness5991 same here, my parents just think i am egsagerating and i am rlly haveing a rlly hard time.t

    • @jmd_returns7605
      @jmd_returns7605 Před 2 lety +13

      My parents think I’m a regret and they hate me and can’t stand seeing me because I keep getting in trouble for stuff I didn’t do and that’s hard on my

    • @mic_plays8313
      @mic_plays8313 Před 2 lety +4

      Same here we got this

    • @SUperDEvil137
      @SUperDEvil137 Před 2 lety +4

      I mean thete are so many people in same situation as me.

  • @ottymatir7143
    @ottymatir7143 Před 2 lety +824

    I got out of depression some months ago. The thing is, it never goes away completely. The anxiety, the loneliness, the overthinking, they’re always there, they’re just much more subtle. Sometimes i can ignore, even forget about them, sometimes they overwhelm me and i start the whole thing again. Depression doesn’t really have a “trigger”, i spent all day with my friend, we had fun, everything was going great. The moment I’m alone in my house i lay on my bed and i just don’t feel the motivation to get up. I feel tired, drained, lonely, anxious for no reason.
    I’m writing this for everyone who may be in a similar situation, it’s okay, it’s gonna get better, we all have ups and downs. I know it just seems like there’s no way out but trust me, there is. You just have to realize it.

    • @ralucacreivean7393
      @ralucacreivean7393 Před rokem +35

      It actually does have a trigger, an old one if there is no clue at hand for us, and it's been hidden by our mind in order to protect us from feeling to much. Trauma can be very old and if it happens in the first years of our life, we most likely would have it hidden so well that we consider it normality.. For us to get hurt, abandoned even abused.. etc..

    • @Internationallyestonian
      @Internationallyestonian Před rokem +7

      Story of my life.

    • @oso909coltonie
      @oso909coltonie Před rokem +9

      The best comment I've read

    • @editstar1612
      @editstar1612 Před rokem +2

      Thank you so much u really helped me♡!

    • @manjitkaur1482
      @manjitkaur1482 Před rokem +1

      Same situation from last year getting worse day by day 😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞

  • @lolmama4507
    @lolmama4507 Před 4 lety +4542

    I want my old self back,
    Where im happy
    Where im enjoying life.

    • @shosho4927
      @shosho4927 Před 4 lety +83

      Where I see myself getting married not ending my journey in life
      life is like a test it’s either u fail and feel disappointment or pass and find light
      Sadly some of us don’t just fail but push ourselves down and bring out happiness either then the bad thoughts why do we do it cause we just feel sadness for anything
      we don’t even know y we r sad
      We end up threatening ourselves to deathly thoughts and vibes
      U end up thinking “should I just jump”
      But u get that flash of future
      U want ur dad to walk u down the isle ur mother to be the best by grandma u and ur loved one to have lovely children and not make them suffer like how u did
      So u keep pushing ur life in a hole and cramp urself in there
      But u dont realize how u can just burst out talk to someone
      And maybe it would take time
      But after a hot minute u will dig ur life and ur self out of that dark hole and cover it up so no one finds it and move on
      YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS ON THAT ROAD
      AND YOU WILL LET GO OF THE DARKNESS U HELD ON
      AND I PRAY THAT ALL OF YOUR LIVES WILL BE ONE OF THE BEST LIVES ANYONE COULD HAVE WITH THE BEST FAMILY BEST FRIENDS AND LOTS LOTS MORE
      I PRAY AND WE ALL STAY
      WE ALL PRAY AND WE ALL NEVER LAY
      NEVER LAY DOWN AND GIVE HOPE UP BUT WE ALL STAND AND STAY
      💕💕✊🏽🤲🏽🙏🏽💋
      The light is on ur path u just have to dig up not down to find it 💛

    • @mamellombongo1705
      @mamellombongo1705 Před 4 lety +84

      I don’t even remember the old me

    • @s4yorii586
      @s4yorii586 Před 3 lety +15

      Same

    • @loetvis3394
      @loetvis3394 Před 3 lety +9

      Me 2😔

    • @loetvis3394
      @loetvis3394 Před 3 lety +6

      ActiivRiskMA you can do it man stay strong and search for help

  • @warioerect
    @warioerect Před 3 lety +9504

    The hardest thing about depression is that it is addictive. It begins to feel uncomfortable not to be depressed. You feel guilty for feeling happy.

    • @paytoncathl1233
      @paytoncathl1233 Před 3 lety +377

      This is literally so true wtf, I ejected thought of it like that

    • @paytoncathl1233
      @paytoncathl1233 Před 3 lety +65

      *never

    • @esil8617
      @esil8617 Před 3 lety +64

      If you have sucidal thoughts please call the national suicide prevention hotline

    • @eorghergsgrosehg
      @eorghergsgrosehg Před 3 lety +303

      Every time I’m happy I feel dumb

    • @maddiepinkgirl
      @maddiepinkgirl Před 3 lety +317

      It's harder to be happy sometimes, my brain is so wired to be sad and unmotivated. It makes me hate myself so much that I think I don't deserve happiness

  • @Yeshuaseekinggirl
    @Yeshuaseekinggirl Před 2 lety +753

    Everything seems meaningless. No motivation to do anything. Nothing excites me anymore. Joy seems like a long lost relative. I feel angry. Frustrated. Sometimes I feel nothing at all. It feels like a million thoughts at once and a blank mind all at the same time. It feels like this utter need to punch something and the inability to move or do anything at all, Simultaneously. My body feels like a prison. My soul trapped under a heavy cloud of weight and darkness. I’m irritable. Life feels like a chore. Too many problems to solve. Lack of support, resources, drive and will. The feeling of longing to feel content again, to feel and have hope. The strength to mask it all running out. A deep void in my soul yearning to be dealt with, but feeling like it will never happen and couldn’t. No one to understand. No desire to make them. Just waiting for everything to end.

    • @Chill-Pill
      @Chill-Pill Před 2 lety +56

      Perfectly explained.

    • @Jp-gw3tu
      @Jp-gw3tu Před rokem +50

      I feel the exact same way, as if the time I have left is too long. So hard to care about anything, even what were once my closest friends, they now feel a lifetime away. We are in this together, please don’t give up.

    • @gusbees2052
      @gusbees2052 Před rokem +23

      I've had a very similar train of thought like you for years and the way I look at it is ending your life or hoping for that, who's the say the grass is greener on the other side we could have an afterlife could not no one really knows . And im pretty sure were all here for a reason I found a weird solution that worked for me it took a while to work and took a lot of effort and it was very exhausting but it has eventually started to pay off I'm not perfect but a lot better ,like I said I look at life similar to what you said in your text but to be more specific I find relationships with people basic conversations with people boring including basic activities that people do boring and senseless , and it became overwhelming so I turned alcohol personally and was an alcoholic for years and I had to be pretty drunk to hang out at any family event hang out with close friends and do anything outside of work including at work at times which just made it worse and I hit rock bottom and had to come up with a solution so I started realizing the way I look at life is similar to say for instance if you're at a job and you have a new employee that comes in and you instantly have a negative feeling towards the person and you don't even attempt to get along with a person and it just makes your work environment 10 times more miserable , versus blocking your subconscious Judgment of the person ignoring it and putting in effort to look around the problems you have with them and come to find out you really enjoy working with a person and you would have never seen it coming and I feel like that's how I was looking at life and I feel like it was kind of an ego problem to I attempted to stop judging life so hard and people and made myself completely open to looking at life in a different perspective and trying my hardest to look around and find positive in it instead of constantly blocking it out and most importantly paying attention to how I think about things and how I react subconsciously compared to other people and why I do that, to sum up my train of thought there was two alternatives in my reality I had 900 IQ and was way more intelligent than people and incapable of enjoying basic life or I was missing something. Hopefully this helps someone I know it's a pretty vague solution but depression is especially severe depression in my opinion is one of the worst things a person can experience and it just gets way worse over time so don't just give up it's ridiculous to say seriously that there's no hope for a change.

    • @nabeel685
      @nabeel685 Před rokem +6

      How r u now?

    • @chasityfelix5054
      @chasityfelix5054 Před rokem +7

      Very same here. I just can't put my finger on it myself. Like it's a vicious cycle.

  • @Jerry-fy1iu
    @Jerry-fy1iu Před 7 měsíci +58

    It's such a weird feeling to be suicidal but not want to literally die.

    • @ashokkumari9126
      @ashokkumari9126 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Its okay, i relate

    • @jadefranke317
      @jadefranke317 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Passive suicidal ideation is thinking about suicide without making direct plans.

  • @ImNotCocogoat
    @ImNotCocogoat Před 4 lety +7708

    We all know why we're here.
    If you need a virtual hug i'm here for any of you.

  • @buttchinbill2815
    @buttchinbill2815 Před 3 lety +2432

    The sad thing is we all clicked on this video for the same reason

    • @lillie8180
      @lillie8180 Před 3 lety +44

      bc I don’t know why i feel like this and I don’t want to anymore. Youu?

    • @dino4812
      @dino4812 Před 3 lety +8

      i clicked on this video because it was recommended to me, so i guess we didn't

    • @hairyspiders407
      @hairyspiders407 Před 3 lety +22

      @@lillie8180 I don't want the rest of my childhood to be me just feeling like this. I think the last time I was really happy was when I was 5 or 6. Maybe I was happy for a year when I was 8. Idk.

    • @beautifulbmentalhealthawar8046
      @beautifulbmentalhealthawar8046 Před 3 lety

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    • @francisfantasy7408
      @francisfantasy7408 Před 3 lety +3

      😭

  • @evangreenspan3101
    @evangreenspan3101 Před 2 lety +151

    Depression for me is like always wanting to cry, but always coming up short. I don’t feel anything when I’m depressed, the only thing I can feel is unbearable pain and anxiety.

    • @DarkDinoRecords
      @DarkDinoRecords Před 2 lety

      hang in there czcams.com/video/E_EPP6HQ0dM/video.html

    • @royalpurple222
      @royalpurple222 Před rokem +3

      this is exactly how i feel

    • @loganjohnson7186
      @loganjohnson7186 Před 9 měsíci +1

      that’s exactly how i’ve been for the past year. It been getting so much worse and idk what to do anymore

    • @demonslayer9979
      @demonslayer9979 Před 7 měsíci +1

      this, i wish i could cry. i would feel better instantly

  • @bootsncatsndawgs
    @bootsncatsndawgs Před 2 lety +134

    I love comment sections under ‘why am o depressed’ videos because everyone is so open about their struggles, worries and insecurities and it makes you feel seen with the knowledge that you’re not the only one feeling like this

    • @surya7930
      @surya7930 Před 2 lety +3

      +1

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před rokem

      I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved! He wants a personal relationship with you if you will let Him into your heart. He knows exactly what you are going through and can help you, but the most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way. Please let me share with you how you can know you have a home in heaven.
      The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
      Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
      Your sin separates you from God.
      Romans 3:23 For all have sinned (yes, you too) and come short of the glory of God;
      A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
      Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
      In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
      John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
      Jesus loved you so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in your place so that you could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
      There is no greater love than that!
      John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever (that means you) believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
      The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
      Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
      6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
      Friend, Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
      You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to you if you will simply receive it by faith.
      Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
      Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
      9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
      God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him.
      Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
      10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
      13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
      None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you friend, that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
      John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
      Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
      Please don't wait! Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! I would love to meet you in heaven someday. Get your name written down in the Lambs Book of Life. God bless you!
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    • @zawadahmed5943
      @zawadahmed5943 Před 22 dny

      Me too

    • @agenericboringhomosapien8108
      @agenericboringhomosapien8108 Před 14 dny

      same w me

  • @fairy2083
    @fairy2083 Před 3 lety +3412

    I just want to be happy like I was when I was younger.

    • @nightshade9977
      @nightshade9977 Před 3 lety +248

      As we get older, we find out that life is not what we thought it was. Just full of evil and hate.

    • @suprisebuttsecksspy5958
      @suprisebuttsecksspy5958 Před 3 lety +181

      @@nightshade9977 i want my old days back, before masturbation addiction, before tiktok, before covid 19, before i had family issue, when i was happy then, when my classmate still on my side, when i was happy and not worrying anything.
      Live is suffering and pain and sadness

    • @hiddencateye6878
      @hiddencateye6878 Před 3 lety +51

      Weird thing but 2020 was probably my happiest year I fucking hate 2021 when I started school I just started to be depressed I hate it
      I will fucking sell half of my video games just to be happy again

    • @cjeziefulessr7554
      @cjeziefulessr7554 Před 3 lety +18

      @@suprisebuttsecksspy5958 Bro that's exactly what it is. Now im going through everything you just said bro.

    • @kashdior1257
      @kashdior1257 Před 3 lety +14

      I’m young and depressed

  • @celeste7397
    @celeste7397 Před 4 lety +3005

    The people who look this up are trying to cope with depression and want to live.

    • @alanehernandez234
      @alanehernandez234 Před 4 lety +196

      Yes I looked it up because I keep having suicidal thoughts

    • @onanana5800
      @onanana5800 Před 4 lety +39

      Alan Hernandez same bro

    • @onanana5800
      @onanana5800 Před 4 lety +54

      Alan Hernandez sometimes I just wanna run away

    • @jaloganaz2054
      @jaloganaz2054 Před 4 lety +14

      Alan Hernandez same

    • @bsbse1314
      @bsbse1314 Před 4 lety +22

      I dont think ill make it today I’m rly lonelyy😓

  • @3225Angela
    @3225Angela Před rokem +67

    This video gave me the best definition of depression I ever heard: “Depression is sadness that has forgotten its true causes.” It made me think of things that I thought I had let go but in reality I never dealt with.

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Yeah, those emotions get stored in your subconscious.
      And causes depression.
      You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus. And if you can gather some friends to do meditation with you, it's better as group meditation helps very nicely.

    • @3225Angela
      @3225Angela Před 3 měsíci

      @@tulipbubbly3748 why did u assume I am a beginner 😂? I know anuloma viloma quite well. But thank you for recommending it

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci

      @@3225Angela I had written this comment elsewhere too and instead of typing it again, I just copied it.😃
      But yeah, if we do it regularly , we will be very happy in to time. My personal experience😊

    • @agenericboringhomosapien8108
      @agenericboringhomosapien8108 Před 14 dny

      yes me too..this channel is a lifesaver

  • @chuppzluv8279
    @chuppzluv8279 Před 2 lety +182

    Come on guys, we can go through this together. Everything will be alright. I am depressed at a young age, if there is anybody like me, please comment. People are like "You won't be depressed and all at such a young age, just go do your work and blabla" but it isn't like that. It just depends on what you are going through, how you are feeling, and not how old you are. I need someone who understands me, please

    • @Lynnisgek
      @Lynnisgek Před 2 lety +13

      I'm also young, 15 years old. Not too sure If I can even call it depressions, but it certainly feels likes it. I hope you're doing better now. Just remember that you are loved and people actually care about you, even if you don't think so. We shall hope there is an end to all this.

    • @chuppzluv8279
      @chuppzluv8279 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Lynnisgek Aaw thankyou so much 😭 I really hope u will be better too, sending virtual hugs❤

    • @yvria3006
      @yvria3006 Před rokem +4

      I'm 15, and i've been suffering since i was 13 theses past few years had been the worst for me, no friends toxic family just me and the void alone surviving i have long forgotten how it was to live again, maybe in a year or two we will heal but for now it's the worst.

    • @gordanadraganic5862
      @gordanadraganic5862 Před rokem +2

      i deeply understand you love. contemplating my life at the moment and not sure if ill make it till the days im old, but rather be dead by the time im 17. i dont really wanna die but i don't really wanna live either. makes me feel so confused. emotions have been minimized. joy and happiness are really rare and when they do show up its so minimal..

    • @MbokoMana
      @MbokoMana Před rokem

      @@gordanadraganic5862 same here 😔😔

  • @AbhilashNoxBaruahnx1ee7
    @AbhilashNoxBaruahnx1ee7 Před 5 lety +6914

    “The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”
    ― F. Scott Fitzgerald

    • @skywatchersdreams
      @skywatchersdreams Před 4 lety +101

      So true...that sounds like disassociation

    • @JackLikesTrackhouse
      @JackLikesTrackhouse Před 4 lety +19

      Sounds like me watching my favourite online games get hate and my favourite motorsport getting hate

    • @serhataydin2650
      @serhataydin2650 Před 4 lety +4

      👍👍👍

    • @jennaher
      @jennaher Před 4 lety +33

      The moment when you learn someone you love betrayed you

    • @ll-sz9fl
      @ll-sz9fl Před 4 lety +7

      Yeah that's me failing final exams, dou

  • @AhnastasiaRose
    @AhnastasiaRose Před 3 lety +4443

    The worst thing is not knowing how to get better, so you start getting worse and worse. You start isolating yourself, not leaving the house, cutting people off, messing up your eating and exercise habits, etc, which just makes you more depressed without knowing why because you're not able to address the root problem. It's such a vicious cycle ...

    • @senandunglangit
      @senandunglangit Před 3 lety +86

      how do i get out of this cycle? what can i do? what should i do?

    • @berk3760
      @berk3760 Před 3 lety +106

      @@senandunglangit i always ask this question constantly to myself, i'm trying things, stick to the habits, hobbies but i'm failing all the time without a little progression, and i have no one to talk to. I tried a lot to get out from depression but i realized, life itself is a pain and depression is a form of suffer. We always trying to escape that suffer but it's not working because this type of behavior itself is a suffer. Best thing to do is to accept that suffer, keep that suffer, stay in the dark. When you suffer enough, maybe you can find something, maybe you can find meaning.. as Nietzsche says
      To live is suffering, to survive finding meaning in that pain.

    • @leviackerman864
      @leviackerman864 Před 3 lety +21

      @stupid people no, I have never tried to hurt anyone mentally but some people who also have depression might do it. Simply bc they try to find a way to make life seem less useless. They may try to find a way to entertain themselves by hurtig others even if they don’t realise it bc they have lost interest in any activities they might have enjoyed before.

    • @jm7859
      @jm7859 Před 3 lety +21

      @stupid people same. In the past years I keep on thinking of becoming a hired killer. To kill people who trespass and annoys me. Kill for money. I'm having this prolonged sadness for a decade now. I think my sadness has turned to anger. I lashed out to people around me for the first time with no remorse. It feels so satisfying to know that they've felt the pain the way I intended to.

    • @ankita904
      @ankita904 Před 3 lety +10

      @@jm7859 Same is happening with me.

  • @samah62270
    @samah62270 Před 11 měsíci +81

    I am currently suffering from depression. yesterday i have visited a psychiatrist and have been diagnosed with major depression, anxiety disorder, Dissociative Disorder and depersonalization Disorder. This is the third big episode in my life. I have started taking antidepressant and anti-anxiety medications, and my doctor advised me to wait for some time to see some improvement before starting therapy sessions with a psychologist. Depression is difficult and painful. It feels like life is meaningless and there is no motivation to do anything. There is no will to live, and I constantly have self-blame, hatred towards the world, myself, and life. Suicidal thoughts are present, and everything becomes dull. Even getting out of bed becomes difficult. There are also physical pains accompanying these organic symptoms. It's like a black fog. Today, I started taking SSRI medication. I hope to recover and overcome this nightmare. My life has come to a complete halt. I haven't left the house in 10 months, and I don't have any friends. I communicate with my girlfriend only through phone calls and messages. Despite having my family around and their support, as well as my girlfriend's support, I often feel loneliness, emptiness, and mood swings. I constantly blame myself and feel like a burden to them, worthless, and a shame to everyone. Depression is truly difficult, very difficult. I hope to heal and for everyone suffering from depression to heal as well. Wishing you all recovery.

    • @aluvsyou1
      @aluvsyou1 Před 9 měsíci +2

      heyy how is your recovery going?

    • @nancy4don
      @nancy4don Před 8 měsíci +4

      I’m moved by your story. About 40 years ago, after failing to grieve for my father’s early death from cancer for 3 years, I crashed and burned big time. It was a Major Depressive Episode, almost clinically so. For about a year, I got off the merry go round and did nothing but therapy and fun things with friends. (I did work about 20 hours a week at a part-time job I really enjoyed.) I started on meds at the same time, and also individual therapy plus group therapy. I highly recommend group therapy; it was probably the most effective thing I did, though they were all effective. Today I can look back on 2 Master’s degrees, a long and good career, and an even longer and excellent marriage. You too will get past this time, and you will be a better, more empathetic person for it. Not to mention happier! So take heart!

    • @WeebsArePathetic
      @WeebsArePathetic Před 8 měsíci +1

      I always wonder how in the fuck people who are depressed and withdrawn get a relationship. If you're depressed, you don't even go out to meet people. So how tf you find someone?

    • @samah62270
      @samah62270 Před 8 měsíci +5

      @@aluvsyou1
      thank you for asking , im doing better. i still suffer from some depression from time to time, but less than the first. the medication helped me and now i can go out of the house and do some activities such as reading. i also started psychotherapy sessions. i am still in my third session

    • @samah62270
      @samah62270 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@nancy4don
      thank you for your motivating words. im happy for you .. iwish you good health always

  • @robbwillz
    @robbwillz Před 2 lety +133

    I feel like I've been to hell and back again. Around this time 3 years ago I almost took my own life in my worst depressive state in life. I pray for anyone out there who is suffering like me, we've made it this far and that should count for something. Stay strong!

    • @emmabella1412
      @emmabella1412 Před 2 lety

      I'm so sorry to hear this ..life it's not easy who told you that it will be easy ??
      I really can feel you and I will pray for you
      For me I've passed depression social anxiety and even more and last year I was with my brother who had burn accident it was really hard that I really forget what has passed before such as social anxiety it appear like it was nothing !!!
      Believe me with hope and patience and Praying to God my brother has survive from that ...although doctors told us he is in the hands of God we can do nothing
      I can't forget this miracle and it really makes me stronger Alhamdulillah
      So what doesn't kill you makes you stronger 💪
      Life is a test for all human being and everyone have his own challenges, you maybe you see yourself you the only one suffering but no !! If you search about how people who are having cancer or burn survive still have hope you'll forget what are you going through and thanks God
      I talked too much sorry but I'm really trying to help because I know it's not easy
      Watch this
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      And this
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      and this is Quran will make your soul in peace Insha-Allah
      czcams.com/video/GkjNROBu6l0/video.html

    • @davesunderland1026
      @davesunderland1026 Před 10 měsíci +2

      I struggle to find a reason to live everyday but somehow I make it another 24 hrs just to do it all over again, in reality, I wont take my own life as im too much a coward but if my life was to end today it would be good for me as I hate living like this and its never going to get better

  • @kserial8491
    @kserial8491 Před 3 lety +2906

    Feel like i want to just sleep all the time, cause i believe this will help me to stay away from my problem.

    • @deathanoide3041
      @deathanoide3041 Před 3 lety +41

      Same

    • @chxseskye
      @chxseskye Před 3 lety +30

      YES

    • @lightyagami2509
      @lightyagami2509 Před 3 lety +11

      Counsellors laugh at me when I say dat✌🏽

    • @kserial8491
      @kserial8491 Před 3 lety +52

      @@lightyagami2509 cause they don't know our pain. Now am pretty good, and i want to tell you that problem is created to end. No matter what you are going through know that its just for a minute, trust god, there is a reason those things is happening to you, god never make a mistake. It get better believe me. Keep going i love you, you are an unstoppable winner to me who will always win in every single battle.

    • @lightyagami2509
      @lightyagami2509 Před 3 lety +11

      @@kserial8491 thank u but I see a different end😴

  • @arrietty1619
    @arrietty1619 Před 4 lety +1587

    I’m 18, lost and depressed. I’m considering moving to a peaceful place like Switzerland or New Zealand. I imagine myself living in a farmhouse and spending the rest of my life just reading books and dreaming. I’m so tired of this world. So tired of everything. I don’t even have a reason to be tired. I live a comfortable life and yet everything’s missing. I don’t know anymore

    • @carerforever2118
      @carerforever2118 Před 4 lety +74

      I feel like running way from home cuz at times l hate my life l'm always depressed, but it's what l always say, l keeping telling myself l'm gonna runaway and live else where, been saying it for 25 years and l never do. I'm 43 yo and I haven't worked in years, l've been staying at home as a full-time Carer, looking after 2 people, my 72yo Schziophrenic mother, whom has Arthritis in her arms and legs and can't walk at times, and my 53yo brother whom is also ill and has back pain, because he hurt his back at work years ago. l'm on the Carer Pension and Carer Allowance from Centrelink ( Social security) , so l can't go outside much, l just exercise in my front yard and write in my diary why l'm happy and what l'm grateful for and write down my goals, like l really want to have a place of my own someday, so l'm saving up to buy an apartment or house someday. And l write down my other goals too.
      Right now, I'm so angry for being woken up early at 4.30am, and scared because my brother yelled at me angerly for getting angry at them for waking me up at 4.30am and 6.30pm the morning before.
      Anyway, l went to see a psychologist and psychiatrist years ago about my depression , they told be to just leave home, l want too but l can't get myself to do it. I'm too scared too. On the other hand my doctor whom has known me all my life since l was a baby, told me not to leave home, because my depression will get worse and think it's best l just stay living at home a continue to look after my after my mother and brother. My sister said the same as the psychologist and psychiatrist that l should leave home and have a life of my own, but my brother says since l'm depressed l won't stay long in any job just like l've done many times before. And he says because l have a low immune l get sick too easily and employers won't don't like that . So he feel if l get a place of my own , and can't work , l'll will just end up back home again.

    • @wuqinghui8199
      @wuqinghui8199 Před 4 lety +18

      Carer Forever I think you can leave home, (though I don’t know you well so just take it as some random words) cause when I was extremely sad seeing the world outside really helped me regulate feelings better but you need to take care of a few things. 1:
      don’t go on your own, get a friend and a partner in your journey, go on Omegle, chatting app, or whatever you want. Or someone whom you can share your journey with.
      2: take care of your family, hire someone else or do whatever it takes to make sure they can live well themselves. Because if all else fails outside, you still have a place to go back to and you still have people who you can talk to.
      3. Believe in yourself, so what if you can’t stay in a single job Long? Travel the region, go from place to place looking for jobs and learning about the world. Talk to people in bars and meet new people. You might feel scared,(I did when I went out having social withdrawal problems) but you need to go out. You will face a lot of challenges by all means of course, like what your brother said, you will get sick, you will lose your job, and he is right. However everyone face all sorts of problems, some people are disabled, some are uneducated, some have debts building up in their family and they have to do something to help. Some do not have any experience dealing with others and get exploited. But they still try, and only through failures and disappointments can they learn and improve. And eventually they solve their problems, they prove their values to their employers so even if they are sickly or weak their employers value them highly.
      Anyways I just hope that you make the best choice for yourself, by pursuing what you want. And I think even if you fail, at least you know you tried your very, very, very best. And I think that is enough a reason to go out.

    • @ethancbaker2002
      @ethancbaker2002 Před 3 lety +7

      Hello There Nice speech!!

    • @stoofypoof7998
      @stoofypoof7998 Před 3 lety +3

      Hang in there. I wrote this song about my depression. I hope it can help someone.
      czcams.com/video/Xr-r855IXoY/video.html

    • @bebsdepaz9867
      @bebsdepaz9867 Před 3 lety +1

      I really feel you😭😭😭😭😭

  • @proudcheerdad5220
    @proudcheerdad5220 Před rokem +45

    My mom is a therapist she suggested I talk to one. I can now confirm if talking about things made things better then noone would ever stop talking. I'm almost happy it doesn't.

    • @brittania1974
      @brittania1974 Před rokem

      Lol that's funny 🤣 your mom is a cunt, SHE should offer to talk to you as a MOTHER instead of pushing you off onto a shrink, what a lazy uncaring bitch she is not trying to help you.

  • @MummyDiaries024
    @MummyDiaries024 Před rokem +16

    This documentary is absolutely excellent. And it's absolutely so intelligent how you say that people that are depressed don't know what they're depressed about. It's very true, that is a true distinction between depression and sadness.

  • @divine3990
    @divine3990 Před 3 lety +708

    It hurts especially when you convince yourself to be happy and the next day your all positive but then something that causes your depression comes up and here you are back to your midnight crying sessions...

    • @Cyrax4d
      @Cyrax4d Před 3 lety +4

      😞😞

    • @denisehutchins4499
      @denisehutchins4499 Před 3 lety +5

      I know that feeling 😢

    • @quathegod101
      @quathegod101 Před 3 lety +8

      yup the worst feeling but everyone in the comment section keep your head up we’ll all overcome our depression ❤️

    • @samihassan2445
      @samihassan2445 Před 3 lety +5

      Idk how to explain this has happening to me every other day and it’s tough especially when your parents don’t care enough about it

    • @user-ti3eb7pl3l
      @user-ti3eb7pl3l Před 3 lety +1

      @@samihassan2445 always active.. if you can run , just go for running exercise.. you'll be recovered very easily.. I know you're disturbing internally.. don't bother thoughts.. exercise, eat so much flax seed or mackerel fish.. always active and excersice..

  • @shamika8055
    @shamika8055 Před 5 lety +821

    When your depression takes over, you feel so drained and you don't know what you're doing and feel lost.

    • @theghost3061
      @theghost3061 Před 5 lety +4

      😂😂😂 keep playing victim and letting you mind control you.... damn you idiot control your mind !!!! Don’t let it control you! Meditate

    • @Like236
      @Like236 Před 5 lety +60

      @@theghost3061 you're a fucking idiot

    • @bingbong6106
      @bingbong6106 Před 4 lety +22

      @@theghost3061 are u normal!!?! JERK

    • @KevAlberta
      @KevAlberta Před 4 lety +8

      Merchant what the hell is your problem

    • @luisterrust
      @luisterrust Před 4 lety +4

      Try to create a vision for your future and to become happy in the now, by a gratitude journal. It helps really well! Lots of love from Holland :)

  • @mochiwaffles
    @mochiwaffles Před 2 lety +31

    I think accepting sadness and allowing ourselves to feel it's okay to be sad makes a lot of difference. Sometimes we're depressed because we're unconsciously self-sabotaging ourselves and that makes us feel angry, helpless, and disconnected. What we need is self-compassion and trust in ourselves and our ability to create the life we want. Although we can't control people and things that happen to us, we're in control of our thoughts and reactions. Reach out, talk to a friend, a family member, hug your dog, see a therapist, if you don't have close friends or a pet or can't afford therapy, go find those people, keep going and you'll eventually find your own tribe, don't give up. Just start by enjoying your own company and all the things you can do! Believe in yourself, you deserve to love and be loved.

  • @wyattgunter
    @wyattgunter Před 2 lety +20

    Please if you came to this video, thank yourself. You are strong and you can make it through what ever you are facing ❤️

  • @maikalnait8604
    @maikalnait8604 Před 5 lety +2486

    *"one becomes self-hating as a defense against the risks of hating someone else"*

    • @maikalnait8604
      @maikalnait8604 Před 5 lety +18

      @Weird Chicken yeah, it's logical too

    • @teenoush7489
      @teenoush7489 Před 5 lety +31

      @@mattisalli1331 I experience the same feeling.
      Sometimes I feel out of control inside of my mind and perhaps I feel the urge to "hurt her" for tolerating her hurtful behaviour, yet I choose to take her whole, baseless blame upon myself so that I don't stain our relationship.

    • @mattisalli1331
      @mattisalli1331 Před 5 lety +35

      @@teenoush7489 Almost everytime I'm with my mother, I get depressed. I'm thinking of writing a letter for her, and explaining in it why i need to take distance from her. Though even now we rarely see. But i believe it would be good to get this stuff out in the open. This idea scares the hell out of me, so I guess it's the right thing to do.

    • @teenoush7489
      @teenoush7489 Před 5 lety +39

      @@mattisalli1331 I believe my mum is a narcissist. So she will never accept that her behaviour is the cause of my frustration...
      She will very easily throw the blame on me being an ungrateful child and not aware of her sacrifices.
      While it is true that she does a lot for me, the way that she has been treating me has scarred me on an emotional level.

    • @Icanseeyouliterally
      @Icanseeyouliterally Před 5 lety +10

      @@teenoush7489 Please do some exhaustive research on covert narcissistic personality disorder and if you conclude that this is the case then your next plan of action will be to do what you need to do to become independent in order to go "no contact" or limited contact as there is no cure for narcissism. The narcissist can receive behavioral treatment but they will return to their true self and tactics of damaging you and your self esteem in order to recieve "narc supply". Its important that you do this a.s.a.p. to end the damaging of yourself as this and the resulting state of co dependency affects EVERY aspect of your life. (begood4000 here on CZcams is a good resource due to his experience w/covert narc Mom) God bless you.

  • @jamesgarnerr1
    @jamesgarnerr1 Před 3 lety +2165

    i’ve never cried this hard in my life. i don’t know how much longer i can go on like this. i’m really trying i just don’t want to deal w this anymore

    • @KT-mp2jf
      @KT-mp2jf Před 3 lety +153

      For me? What really helped was remembering that before i knew anything, i was happy.. Like, the default state is happiness, and it is all the nonsense we pick up as we get older that causes depression. It is just about letting go and returning back to that default state.

    • @Happylluk
      @Happylluk Před 3 lety +100

      Gotta remember that the bad times do pass. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety for over 25 years. You're stronger than you know. Push through this and make small achievable daily goals. And don't feed into the negative thoughts. You can do this.

    • @Happylluk
      @Happylluk Před 3 lety +26

      @Madison Lambert I've recently been trying a medication, it's an S.S.R.I. , used to combat depression and anxiety. It's changing my life. Dont lose hope. Ask your doctor. We've all been there, you're not alone.

    • @Happylluk
      @Happylluk Před 3 lety +34

      You're 11 years old? Well you should speak with your parents and doctor. You may feel alone and think you're the only one, but one in 5 people suffer from depression. You're not alone. And I know what that feels like. To completely feel hopeless. But things will get better. These feelings will subside. You have to put in a little work though. Make one or two small daily goals that u know you can achieve. Start small. And when you do something good for yourself or someone else, give yourself a fucking pat on the back. You deserve to feel good about yourself if you're putting in effort. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are worthy of a good life and happiness. Get angry at those negative feelings, don't listen to them! And I know it's scary going outside but if you could slow start to, it's really helps. I was depressed for years and I hit rock bottom then started jogging and it turned my life around. Start slow, maybe just with short walks with music to keep your mind busy or even audio books, those are great! You'll find if you start jogging or running you'll get an endorphin rush and you'll start to feel better. Trust me! But don't try to do this alone. You have people who care about you, who want the best for you. You have to want the best for yourself. And I know it's scary, but remember ---- little , daily goals. And be good to yourself. One day at a time. You can do this.

    • @Crackie
      @Crackie Před 3 lety +4

      @@Happylluk What 25 years u b@stard? I don't want to live trying to fight this BS. I want my old brain back. Without all these disgusting thoughts. What 25.. I want these thoughts be a past. If it can never be a past... What...

  • @rinkysworld9867
    @rinkysworld9867 Před rokem +69

    I overcame depression 5 years ago and one thing that helped me out was hope and looking forward not to the good but just look ahead because you must. I forced myself to go out, to talk to new people, do things that made me excited like before(watch anime, kdrama) even while watching my favourite shows I used to feel like it's all meaningless but I didn't stop. I kept on moving ahead because that's the only thing I knew and soon I was able to get better.
    There were days were I went back to that phase but I promised myself to get out no matter how many times I went through it

    • @fleefleer2326
      @fleefleer2326 Před rokem

      Did that really help?

    • @grigorijiks2303
      @grigorijiks2303 Před rokem

      it can may help but with mild depression. With hard it isnt possible

    • @Hope.flor3
      @Hope.flor3 Před rokem

      @@grigorijiks2303 I agree because severe depression even when your out with friends or doing things your still not happy. Severe depression is like your dead around ppl

    • @grigorijiks2303
      @grigorijiks2303 Před rokem

      @@Hope.flor3 yes exacly Risky world also said about people who had depression days from time to time. It isnt the worst . The worst is when you have this state all time or almost all days in month

    • @Hope.flor3
      @Hope.flor3 Před rokem

      @@grigorijiks2303 yes it’s like living in hell and as much as the world is light yours is dark

  • @ttomtittering
    @ttomtittering Před 5 měsíci +6

    It's so painful to read all of you but at the same time it gives me hope. We are not alone in this, we are all together battling against this merciless devil affecting our lives. This too shall pass. Be strong.

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci

      You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR Před 5 lety +2530

    *“That's the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it's impossible to ever see the end.” ― Elizabeth Wurtzel. If you're reading this and feel depressed I hope better days will come soon. It must be tough now but keep moving forward till your out of the darkness

    • @nishantrai5680
      @nishantrai5680 Před 5 lety +2

      Love your and captain sinbad content. Keep up the good work.

    • @Doonie310
      @Doonie310 Před 5 lety +9

      Ben Rushani travel the world he says.. how so when in hardship ? Poverty brings depression

    • @Doonie310
      @Doonie310 Před 5 lety +8

      Ben Rushani so your suggesting people who do not know where their next meal is coming from, should travel the world.. Ok Ben.

    • @Doonie310
      @Doonie310 Před 5 lety +2

      Yet, money does not bring happiness.

    • @Doonie310
      @Doonie310 Před 5 lety +1

      Ben Rushani No,I’m not dumb Ben. Neither will I give you anymore attention, doing so would be dumb.

  • @kookiecat2803
    @kookiecat2803 Před 5 lety +905

    I'm glad to know it's normal for a depressed person to not know why they're sad. I always felt so guilty for being depressed without reason and it was awkward talking to a therapist and they'd ask me what's wrong or why I'm crying and I wouldn't have a reason.

    • @user-xq7wb7jv5e
      @user-xq7wb7jv5e Před 5 lety +10

      Layla Tov Read the book "Let Go" by David Hawkins. It is very important to understand negative emotions and get rid of them. I wish you well 🌹

    • @RafireRocksNRules
      @RafireRocksNRules Před 5 lety +12

      I recommend you a ted talk by Dr. Steven Hayes called: Psychological Flexibility. In wich he explains how he suffered intense panic attacks during his life, but he didn't know why. Then, in one of them he remembered a momment in his childhood, that he hadn't thought of since it happened, when his father was threating his mother. He found that that episode was the principal cause of his anxiety and that he was forcing himself into not remember it.

    • @theghost3061
      @theghost3061 Před 5 lety +1

      Lol, you feel sad because you always think in your mind and never catch your breath... learn how to breathe before you say you are “depressed”

    • @christianlibertarian5488
      @christianlibertarian5488 Před 5 lety +39

      @@theghost3061 Ignorant response. You are blaming the victim.

    • @Serena-or7sl
      @Serena-or7sl Před 5 lety +8

      @@christianlibertarian5488 Don't feed the troll, it obviously answers in an "ironic" way ;)

  • @AnthonyVLopez-zc3su
    @AnthonyVLopez-zc3su Před 2 lety +16

    hey, im 27 years old, got diagnosed when i was 21. been in and out of depression for 6 years, i live a comfortable life, yet everyday i have thoughts of taking my own life. i try my best to fight it, but it gets worse and worse. just putting this message for some encouragement, cause right now, ive never felt more alone. reading the comments, knowing im not the only one going through this is helping me fight, hopefully one day I learn how to cope with this and move on with my life. hopefully i find a sense of purpose. thanks!

  • @foysalahmed3216
    @foysalahmed3216 Před 2 lety +4

    This has helped me. I’ve taken some time off work. And this is something I needed to hear. I woke up with a headache and my body feeling weak. I over slept and haven’t yet eaten. However I truly listened and I somewhat have a better understanding now. Thank you for this

  • @pradiptahafid
    @pradiptahafid Před 5 lety +1870

    I was on top of my life when I realized I was depressed. I graduated with a master degree abroad and accepted at a really decent job. My family was really proud of me. Yet at that time, I was not looking forward to stay alive and did't know why I should open my eyes. I ate because I had to, not because I want to. I wanted to fall asleep for indefinite time. I still go outside and hang out with friends. Not because I wanted to but because I didn't want they to be suspicious of my condition.
    A lot happen since my biggest breakdown but fast forward after 2 years of psychological therapy, I figured out that I don't have any skills to manage my emotion. No one taught me how to be alive. All that I know is to keep pursuing materialistic success. I feel much better now. I don't achieve much but I enjoy small things. I don't choose to be depressed but I choose to stay alive.

    • @Swegaming92
      @Swegaming92 Před 5 lety +9

      what was your breakdown like if you wanna tell

    • @alixvapp1281
      @alixvapp1281 Před 5 lety +34

      Wow... It feels like I read my own story.

    • @BlueGrenadeTom
      @BlueGrenadeTom Před 5 lety +6

      Adi Vid - Good for you, and more power to your elbow :)

    • @user-xq7wb7jv5e
      @user-xq7wb7jv5e Před 5 lety +12

      Read the book "Let Go" by David Hawkins. It is very important to understand negative emotions and get rid of them. I wish you well ❤️🌹

    • @maryferproductions
      @maryferproductions Před 5 lety +6

      Adi, I get you I hope that you keep living and when you found a good reason to feel alive stick to that until next depression comes around. Be safe :) from your self !

  • @vexshark3754
    @vexshark3754 Před 3 lety +734

    i dont wanna kill myself but i cant find a reason to stay alive
    I just want help man,i need a hug

  • @aschroed
    @aschroed Před měsícem +2

    Im four months into the worst anxiety/depression of my life. I'm 26 and while I had anxiety on and off throughout my life I was only recently diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. From 2015 to 2019 during my undergraduate in engineering i was contantly anxious every day and felt so alone. Fear of failure was everywhere. After 2019 i statted getitng better and I thought I would outgrow it. But in January it came back and it felt like i had all this unprocessed trauma from years of being anxious in the past. I was scared to have to deal with anxiety again when I thought I was done with it and have had some pretty dark thoughts. Ive started CBT and I hope that helps me finally address this. For those reading this, you are loved and somehow we will get through this together ❤

  • @dreamer9375
    @dreamer9375 Před 2 lety +4

    I was absolutely fine this morning. It was my birthday and I was full of confidence on having a great day(which I did have with the people I love) yet I'm here, purposely searching for such videos and crying my eyes out.
    I just got diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I have no idea where to go from here on. It's like I'm stuck in this endless loop of negative thoughts.

  • @existentialcrisis6236
    @existentialcrisis6236 Před 3 lety +531

    everytime i get a moment of happiness it feels so fake that i start feeling bad for pretending to be happy and then i feel comfortable being depressed

    • @geraldle9223
      @geraldle9223 Před 3 lety +7

      This is a differnet topic but I've just realised I've been depressed for many years now , there's a girl Ive liked but ik I'm not worth it , contributing to my thoughts of wondering y I was born. Knowing my existence is worthless. I feel like everyone would be better without me. Thinking that makes me happy knowing my friends and family would be better off without I

    • @reyanaganguly7650
      @reyanaganguly7650 Před 3 lety

      Me too

    • @FlashBangBANGz
      @FlashBangBANGz Před 2 lety

      @Existential Crisis
      Yeah same here.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Před 2 lety +1

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). God wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
      czcams.com/video/sCWA3WrEBx8/video.html

    • @JoshLifts05
      @JoshLifts05 Před 2 lety +4

      i just fake being happy around everyone but allways feel horrible inside it's gotten so bad i don't know what do to about it or how to tel someone

  • @blackfire1471
    @blackfire1471 Před 3 lety +1918

    This is my social life in a nutshell: *all alone.*

    • @Comedyhub0505
      @Comedyhub0505 Před 3 lety +40

      if you ever need someone to talk to im here my instagram is @2k_smastro05 u dont got to follow me just DM me❤️

    • @Comedyhub0505
      @Comedyhub0505 Před 3 lety +10

      Dark fire if u want u can text me on my number does that work for u?

    • @blackfire1471
      @blackfire1471 Před 3 lety +6

      @@Comedyhub0505 ok
      what is it?

    • @mervekilicer1847
      @mervekilicer1847 Před 3 lety +7

      same here @killlmurphy dm me if u wanna talk :)

    • @michaelchristian9121
      @michaelchristian9121 Před 3 lety +6

      Add Covid-19 ugh!

  • @katiee8466
    @katiee8466 Před rokem +3

    This was genuinely constructive instead of telling me to just get up and exercise. Thank you so much for the advice and giving me a perspective that isn’t just me being a lazy person

  • @rodneybraid4266
    @rodneybraid4266 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I've never seen a more accurate description of my depression. I don't want to feel like this anymore. Thank you for putting it into perspective for me.

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci

      You won't feel this way anymore if you do some healing on yourself. You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus. And if you can gather some friends to do meditation with you, it's better as group meditation helps very nicely.

  • @heinrichvonhagen2226
    @heinrichvonhagen2226 Před 3 lety +626

    The worst thing is I literally can’t remember how it is to be happy I can’t even imagine it that’s so crazy and weird ...

    • @lexg4056
      @lexg4056 Před 3 lety +4

      Same

    • @tanibabi2488
      @tanibabi2488 Před 3 lety +4

      I was like that for a while and still kind of am. there is a lot of sad truth in a lot that we go through, but if you work on it you will remember. its not erased from you nor will that feeling ever leave you at any point in your life. I know you can do it because I have.

    • @madinachingarieva4830
      @madinachingarieva4830 Před 3 lety +11

      Same here. I also look at happy people around me, and can not understand what keeps them going and why aren't they as miserable as I am. Cause, like, it's the only reasonable state of mind to have, considering our condition (the ever looming prospect of death, loss and pain). And then the depressive episode passes and I cannot understand why I felt so bad, all those convictions the depression had placed into my head, and why they seemed like the only truth. Most importantly, the perception of time changes drastically. The final destination doesn't seem so important anymore. The will to live here and now becomes possible, even pressing. The "friendly feeling ", the conspiracy with oneself, comes back too, and suddenly treating yourself to smth enjoyable doesn't evoke that much guilt. Having some ambition doesn't seem such a vain thing. These moments of respite from melancholia, I guess they were actually quite many in my life. Only thing is, they re difficult to recall, with all that serotonine gone from your brain. It's like when you get blind. Eventually your brain forgets the notions of colour, perspective, visuality in the whole. After all, there's no objective truth about the world. Only what your bipolarity makes you believe.

    • @hambonefakenamington69
      @hambonefakenamington69 Před 3 lety

      yeah honestly when I look back at my life I feel like I was always a sad kid, if not depressed. and it was easy for that sadness to grow. back then the sadness was too small and maybe not so hard to ignore, but I never realised when it kept growing to the point of getting me where I am today: hopelessly paralysed with depression, questioning even my own feelings as false pretenses and excuses

    • @RaviTeja-ci5nm
      @RaviTeja-ci5nm Před 3 lety

      @@hambonefakenamington69 how do you know for sure you are in depression now?

  • @guidoguido2245
    @guidoguido2245 Před 3 lety +808

    Sadness is completely different from Depression! Sadness is great. Sadness is active. You go through it, you learn something, you come out happier than before. Depression is like a thick blanket that smothers you to death. Sadness is like strong snowfall while you’re on a walk. Depression is like when you’re just covered in snow after an avalanche.

    • @saramaria7709
      @saramaria7709 Před 3 lety +23

      I rather sadness then depression. Depression is suffocating where sadness is easily overcomed

    • @clumsyme179
      @clumsyme179 Před 2 lety +3

      @@saramaria7709 yeah

    • @kinyacat5919
      @kinyacat5919 Před 2 lety +2

      Ok that explaind

    • @erickquintana1554
      @erickquintana1554 Před 2 lety +1

      At least for me, that's bullshit. I'm not happier, I'm angier. The more I live, the more disappointed I'm with everything. Or maybe I'm depressed and not sad; but how could I know, what I don't know "why"?

    • @CJ-ft9yo
      @CJ-ft9yo Před 2 lety +5

      I agree, depression is a non event if anything, being sucked into a dead vacuum where nothing can thrive or change, sadness has a poetic sweetness about it, and it’s alive but I think I get his point though.

  • @zb4115
    @zb4115 Před 2 lety +5

    I have no motivations, no energy, I’m constantly dissecting any negativity out of any situation or scenario, I constantly think in my head of how I hate myself and who I have become. I am currently 32 years old and the idea that life is going to continue like this is haunting. On paper and from the outside it would appear that I should be happy and proud of my accomplishments. I’m not suicidal, mainly because I do have a loving wife family and beautiful son. I look at other people that are in good moods, happy, goal oriented, motivated and I wish I just could taste what that’s like. I am truly envious.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 Před rokem

      Jesus knows exactly what you are going through and He loves you more than you could ever know. I am sharing my best friend's story with you in hopes that you too will find comfort for your weary heart. God bless.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
      facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/

  • @nicholasgrijalva5842
    @nicholasgrijalva5842 Před 2 lety +8

    I loved this! I feel like my depression episodes were less a feeling of "emptiness" but more so numbness as described in the video. Good luck to everyone.

    • @emmabella1412
      @emmabella1412 Před 2 lety

      this lecture talk about emptiness
      czcams.com/video/AFm25454dsY/video.html
      This will have a beautiful effect in your soul "peace"
      czcams.com/video/GkjNROBu6l0/video.html

  • @tineyjesickahful
    @tineyjesickahful Před 4 lety +294

    Depression is so awful, I don’t wish it on my worst enemy.

    • @abirhasan5173
      @abirhasan5173 Před 3 lety +1

      she is enjoying her life happily, im dying here in depression. my parents think I'm just getting crazy

    • @nightshade9977
      @nightshade9977 Před 3 lety

      @@abirhasan5173 She?

    • @sun_daes
      @sun_daes Před 3 lety

      dang they probably have it too, cheers

    • @CommissarChaotic
      @CommissarChaotic Před 3 lety

      I want my worst enemy to be a friend.

    • @legendindamakin5007
      @legendindamakin5007 Před 3 lety

      @@nightshade9977 don't say nun bruh did u not read the crazy part?

  • @iAmTheSquidThing
    @iAmTheSquidThing Před 5 lety +1574

    I find depression is a bit like a sports injury. You have to gradually work yourself out of it through a series of difficult exercises with frustratingly slow and inconsistent progress. If you push too hard it can cause more harm. But if you don't push enough you don't heal.

    • @seanbaugh3239
      @seanbaugh3239 Před 5 lety +16

      @@citrus4419
      😮

    • @BlueGrenadeTom
      @BlueGrenadeTom Před 5 lety +40

      Andy Brice - I like your attitude, and this would no doubt help a mildly depressed person, but what if you’re so depressed that you simply can’t push at all?

    • @hgfjhfgify
      @hgfjhfgify Před 5 lety +25

      @@BlueGrenadeTom That is the difference i was going to point out.
      When you are depressed you have no desire of heal yourself, on the contrary you want to escape.
      The solution may be simple and takes years because you never work trough it out.

    • @someguy-ty1fg
      @someguy-ty1fg Před 5 lety +7

      Fukn great analogy

    • @BlueGrenadeTom
      @BlueGrenadeTom Před 5 lety

      Stunny Karkastuken - too true!

  • @BBoy-xp2dq
    @BBoy-xp2dq Před 8 měsíci +4

    Man I hope I can overcome this, this depression is kicking my butt

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci +1

      You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.

  • @spiceynye813
    @spiceynye813 Před rokem +8

    My theory on depression is it begins it always begins with that feeling of weakness and utter fatigue. When rest or sleep doesn't resolve this and this fatigue doesn't go away after weeks, months and into years this is where sadness comes into play. Then the sadness turns to frustration, anger hopelessness emptiness low self esteem and without some guidance it can cause suicide. One of the the tools I learned to cope with this disorder is to surrender to it and allow it to be with me without judgement. I don't set goals that I don't have energy to match. This is the worst thing you can do is set goals that you're used to obtaining because your energy isn't going to allow you to be successful and you will feel like a failure. Set very small goals. Be kind to yourself and most of all be patient with your self. It's okay to feel this way. There is nothing wrong with you other than the world and environment we live in creates these illnesses because of stress and anxiety. You must feel to heal.

  • @miraggg
    @miraggg Před 3 lety +854

    "almost half of us will suffer from depression at some point in our lives" ..wait so 50% of people will have never experienced depression before? I can't even imagine what it must be like to not ever have felt depressed. It must be really great.

    • @Angel-sd5nc
      @Angel-sd5nc Před 2 lety +42

      Which basically means: 50% of people had good parents🙁✊🏿

    • @misstigerbubbles
      @misstigerbubbles Před 2 lety +102

      @@Angel-sd5nc not neccesarily

    • @rhettwilkerson1828
      @rhettwilkerson1828 Před 2 lety +15

      I think everyone has had some sort of depression in their life

    • @soothingbreakdown9878
      @soothingbreakdown9878 Před 2 lety +17

      @@Angel-sd5nc sadly doesn't apple allways. Great parents but depression keeps kicking me down

    • @dawsoncarpenter2244
      @dawsoncarpenter2244 Před 2 lety +8

      Idk what’s wrong with me. When I got up I heard really loud ringing and then saw weird stuff then fell to the floor shaking. I looked in the mirror yesterday and one of my pupils was dialated and huge. I feel tired and confused and everything looks stretched out. Nothing feels real and i keep getting this embarrassed guilty feeling I can’t explain almost like deja vu. I convinced myself I was in a horror movie and started having a panic attack. Something is so wrong with me because I’m not myself rn

  • @5Heliotrope
    @5Heliotrope Před 4 lety +566

    You can be depressed and yet still remember the true sad cause/root of it all. Depression isn’t always a lack of insight - in some cases it is a result of: deepest sadness + resignation + the unwillingness to go on + self-hatred + not seeing a way out

    • @zaboomafooba
      @zaboomafooba Před 4 lety +38

      true. for me personally, I know that my depression comes from abuse. (low self esteem, not seeing a way out, resignation.) Sometimes I feels like I “don’t know why” it’s hitting me so hard, or why I’m crying so much over these small things... but... I know what I feel hopeless about. And in terms of the big picture? I know the abuse helped create this problem.
      It’s like... you can feel sad all the time “for no reason” and still..have some awareness or recognition of the reason behind you feeling that way.

    • @starstuff5324
      @starstuff5324 Před 4 lety +18

      so true, especially when it comes to trauma. confronting trauma without having the tools to process it renders insight fairly useless and can amplify despair.

    • @lr3521
      @lr3521 Před 4 lety +7

      fragabellissima true, my depression comes from decades of alcohol abuse to cope with gender dysphoria. Oh and a terrible childhood

    • @RGMda
      @RGMda Před 4 lety +9

      Normally love these videos, but this one felt a bit tin-foily with the bits about "big pharma." It is incredibly well-documented and understood that people can have very wonky brain chemistry, and that no amount of understanding one's own trauma can reliably stymie depression.

    • @johnlovesyoko
      @johnlovesyoko Před 4 lety +2

      True

  • @FuzzyBrunty
    @FuzzyBrunty Před 2 lety +10

    My problem is I don't remember what it was like before depression, so I can't tell what is depression and what isn't anymore. I am just generally sad, and not sure how to feel genuinely happy anymore.

  • @snakemouth69
    @snakemouth69 Před 2 lety +10

    It was a personal revelation for me when I realized beyond a shadow of a doubt that most people, for sure myself, have psychological issues that primarily originate from unprocessed traumas. Like this video suggests, these traumas are blocked from waking consciousness as part of some sort of self protective process. Finding the root, then allowing that unprocessed trauma to move seems to be the key.

  • @minervaloves
    @minervaloves Před 5 lety +738

    Part of self hating comes from other people as well: parents making you feel guilty, partners failing to take responsibility for their actions and so forth.

    • @ghostid544
      @ghostid544 Před 5 lety +15

      That's what they said in the video didn't they? Anger/resentment misdirected more or less.

    • @theghost3061
      @theghost3061 Před 5 lety +2

      Strongly agree

    • @gianttigerfilms
      @gianttigerfilms Před 5 lety +25

      Can’t study the organism without studying the environment

    • @Otokage007
      @Otokage007 Před 5 lety +4

      @@LordofRacoons lmao

    • @Otokage007
      @Otokage007 Před 5 lety +11

      @@theghost3061 Part of working on yourself is knowing that some of your distress is a response to other's actions. It doesn't mean you are waiting for them to fix what they've done, it means you now know WHY are you distressed and so you can start working on healing.

  • @henrygobblesag1815
    @henrygobblesag1815 Před 5 lety +2268

    Half of us? Imagine never having depression. Jesus Christ.

    • @MunkiZee
      @MunkiZee Před 5 lety +18

      Can't be done

    • @mariorossi1425
      @mariorossi1425 Před 4 lety +38

      You don't seem to understand what depression is

    • @mariorossi1425
      @mariorossi1425 Před 4 lety +11

      @@caelinx08 Ok you still don't need to bring your personal feelings as an example cause 1. You're not special 2. That's very cringy

    • @kakexun
      @kakexun Před 4 lety +152

      @@mariorossi1425 way to be fucking rude dick. theyre probably just a young teen trying to reach out, know that your words affect others more than you think.

    • @kakexun
      @kakexun Před 4 lety +100

      @@caelinx08 Im sorry for your loss :( And also sorry about the person who replied to you, theyre very rude and shouldve kept their mouth shut

  • @patrickholloway9002
    @patrickholloway9002 Před 2 lety +4

    It’s really sucks being poor and having no insurance so I’ve been so fucked up mentally and have health problems for my whole life and can’t do anything about it . Or having anyone you can even talk too about it without being judged and I know no one will ever truly understand me

    • @checkmate6355
      @checkmate6355 Před 2 lety

      May lord give you what ever makes you happy and health and also bless me ...

  • @ifrsmasterclass
    @ifrsmasterclass Před rokem +1

    I didn't expect this video to be this insightful. You really clarified the difference and it makes sense. Thanks

  • @spongebobislyfe5906
    @spongebobislyfe5906 Před 4 lety +1033

    Depression has more symptoms than this.
    The inability to feel pleasure. The "joys" of life become meaningless. Your hobbies, your relationships, your goals and dreams. They become bland and gray. What's the point in living if nothing makes you happy?
    Low energy. Everything feels like too much work. You are too tired to work, too tired to relax, too tired to eat, too tired to take care of your hygiene, too tired to sleep, too tired to work on bettering yourself. It's too much effort to live
    And finally mental fatigue. It becomes too difficult to think in your own head. Learning things becomes worse, memory goes to shit. It's like a thick oil poured into your brain. It takes so much effort just to think clearly.
    This video is trying to explain a "cure" and a "cause" but theres so much more to depression. I suggest actually talking to professionals. The real "cure?" Talk to a therapist and find the right dose of medication.

    • @Abba-dabba-doo
      @Abba-dabba-doo Před 4 lety +22

      They also mentioned all of these symptoms, though they may not have gone into the same amount of detail. Luckily the video wasn't called "Symptoms of depression"

    • @accuratealloys
      @accuratealloys Před 4 lety +45

      Medication is not the answer for a lot of us.

    • @qaikodiateo8449
      @qaikodiateo8449 Před 4 lety +23

      I agree with you for the most part BUT and this really needs to be seen by you BUUTTT medication is not the answer- I have tried different medications, they not only don't help but actually make things worse. I became suicidal on medication, angry and a lot of the time even more depressed- the "'good"' parts of the medication was when I was a walking zombie I couldn't feel anything- virtually no emotions- just emptiness.
      now you talk about depression and video not covering it right and you are 100% right- but then you mention medication and brush it over just the same way the video does with depression. you know what else? I have not even mentioned the ALL the side effects the medication has, because I am male it wreaks your sex drive, you can't ejaculate but that becomes a nightmare, you can't sleep well, your eating habits get weird- you don't eat much. even when you go to the toilet it feels strange. oh and guess what? when you get off medication you a permanently affected. you get you to ejaculate again but you have virtually no drive to do it. medication puts you through a bizarre trauma where saying on it makes you dead to the world and getting off it changes the person you were. DO NOT EVER FUCKING TAKE MEDICATION.

    • @qaikodiateo8449
      @qaikodiateo8449 Před 4 lety +10

      @@accuratealloys it's not the answer for anyone, it screws with the way your brain operates and permanently affects you. even if you get off medication you'll never be the person you were before you took it.

    • @spongebobislyfe5906
      @spongebobislyfe5906 Před 4 lety +10

      @@qaikodiateo8449 Every medicine combination is different. It's a game of chance until you find the right one. It took me 4 years to find the right combo for me, and tbh it was worth it

  • @hamstersdailylife4938
    @hamstersdailylife4938 Před 3 lety +1008

    After getting depression over a decade ago, what I realized was that people who are depressed are just more aware of reality than those without it. Reality itself is very depressing, and people who don’t get depression just has a way of ignoring it and pretending life is something better that it actually is.

    • @SanKissJuice
      @SanKissJuice Před 3 lety +46

      I totally agree

    • @born2270
      @born2270 Před 3 lety +8

      vouch

    • @archerwarden2274
      @archerwarden2274 Před 3 lety +90

      You're right. I'm a curious person. I learned fast about the reality of this world. I wish I could go back when I didn't know what reality of life really is.

    • @andybrown3016
      @andybrown3016 Před 3 lety +92

      This has already been documented and is called depressive reality. Human beings are usually overly optimistic and find meaning and joy in little things whereas the depressed person sees the truth behind our insignificant meaningless lives. And yes I’m depressed and it sucks

    • @AverageJoe1006
      @AverageJoe1006 Před 2 lety +10

      exactly they all pretend life is a walk in a pony park

  • @cavemanoncrack5556
    @cavemanoncrack5556 Před rokem +1

    I'm just learning about depression so I can better understand in others but when he talked about manic depression it really caught my attention (I lost a best friend to himself and my girlfriend just left) because I've been extra happy for no good reason and I've been really productive.

  • @santosetchart4580
    @santosetchart4580 Před rokem +5

    The worst part is that some people don’t know they are not alone. I remember feeling so alone that I tried to off myself twice. Some people don’t get that second chance, and I always think about them. I’m gonna live for everyone that was feeling alone and couldn’t take it anymore. If you are seeing this, and u feel like this, I LOVE YOU ❤️

  • @m.d.2198
    @m.d.2198 Před 4 lety +297

    Being too depressed to even watch the whole video...

    • @Awesomeness1345
      @Awesomeness1345 Před 3 lety +19

      I couldn’t get through it, it was too real. I came to the comments so I wouldn’t give the video my full attention 🙂

    • @briarrose4747
      @briarrose4747 Před 3 lety +1

      You didn't miss out on much i didn't find it helpful but that's just me though.

    • @mannymoctopusREAL
      @mannymoctopusREAL Před 3 lety +2

      i cried lol

    • @GreenGc8
      @GreenGc8 Před 3 lety

      And do not kill ˹each other or˺ yourselves. Surely Allah is ever Merciful to you. -Quran
      Whoevers feeling depressed please read this and share it, perhaps it could save a life. “IF ANYONE SAVED A LIFE IT WOULD BE AS IF HE SAVED THE LIFE OF THE WHOLE HUMANITY.” QURAN- 5:32
      “So, surely with hardship comes ease” (Quran 94:5):
      Have a listen to this recitation of Quran and feel the tranquilty descend upon your heart czcams.com/video/EBec54KMu58/video.html

    • @mannymoctopusREAL
      @mannymoctopusREAL Před 3 lety

      @@pisstakecentral Look up the definition for "stigma"
      While you're at it, look up the one for "asshole" too.
      Hope this helped!

  • @hedgehogyt1094
    @hedgehogyt1094 Před 4 lety +299

    my friend just killed himself, he suffered from depression. He took alot of drugs and decided he didnt want to live anymore.
    RIP John, i will miss you my brother...

    • @yatrickyaa4534
      @yatrickyaa4534 Před 4 lety +26

      May his soul rest in peace💔💕

    • @rubencabello9377
      @rubencabello9377 Před 4 lety +15

      Sorry for your loss, I hope he rests in peace

    • @itsgucci7972
      @itsgucci7972 Před 4 lety +7

      Sorry for your loss ❤

    • @dxislast328
      @dxislast328 Před 3 lety +5

      It's sad..😔😢🙏

    • @stoofypoof7998
      @stoofypoof7998 Před 3 lety +5

      I wrote this song about my depression. I hope it can help someone.
      czcams.com/video/Xr-r855IXoY/video.html

  • @PnutBigVTEC
    @PnutBigVTEC Před 2 lety +1

    this hasn't answered any of my questions but it has given me a better understanding of what is happening.

  • @nataliafan14
    @nataliafan14 Před rokem +1

    This was very enlightening and motivating for me. I love these videos. I will remind myself of the things in this video to keep me going. Depression is not a character deficit.

  • @dana1614
    @dana1614 Před 5 lety +812

    Started my treatment today. It will get better, folks. We can do it!

    • @Tanaconasaperson
      @Tanaconasaperson Před 5 lety +19

      You 100% can do it ❤ theirs no such things as the lucky ones who make it out, everyone's a lucky one sooner or later, especially yourself xx

    • @dana1614
      @dana1614 Před 5 lety +13

      Thank you, wonderful people! ❤ You are the best, have a lovely evening! A big hug from over the Atlantic!

    • @ChaosWolfNinja
      @ChaosWolfNinja Před 5 lety +9

      You can do it!!! 💪

    • @nimishanarayan7048
      @nimishanarayan7048 Před 5 lety +8

      I wish you all the very best. Keep fighting!! You can do it! 💕

    • @ChaosWolfNinja
      @ChaosWolfNinja Před 5 lety +3

      @@nimishanarayan7048 Thank you and same to you!

  • @isaacanaya2359
    @isaacanaya2359 Před 5 lety +691

    I've been denying having depression for the longest time. After yesterday I've decided to get better & improve myself to better deal with it. This video couldnt have come to my notifications at a better time. Thank you.

    • @nimishanarayan7048
      @nimishanarayan7048 Před 5 lety +13

      Glad you've decided to acknowledge it move towards improving yourself. I, myself have denied having depression for years and when I finally accepted it and started working on myself, it got so much better. Hope you can too, cheers!

    • @EnnTomi1
      @EnnTomi1 Před 5 lety +4

      Isaac Anaya talk to someone, anyone, it helps. I kept this burden on myself for so long , until everything collapsed

    • @Enrico_Fusai_Counselor
      @Enrico_Fusai_Counselor Před 5 lety +9

      Isaac... You're a star. That's one of the best decisions one could possibly make.
      You're super young so I have absolute faith that you'll succeed, and so much quicker than you might think.
      I was drawn by your comment because I'm a professional in this field and have overcome depression myself earlier in my life. That's to say that, if you want some help, I am available for you.
      In any case, I'm sending you all my best wishes. You got it. Just keep swimming. XO

    • @mitchell9060
      @mitchell9060 Před 5 lety +1

      You can do it !

    • @wackey2k10
      @wackey2k10 Před 5 lety +3

      I've sat there and felt really really dark and gloomy. even watching your favourite movie or song can depress you, cus you don't enjoy it and you thus feel like an impostor. i would deny it and hope it went away, but it comes and goes as it pleases but lately it'll getting worse day by day.

  • @keith3144
    @keith3144 Před 2 lety +5

    I got a dog she helps me so much, dont think i will ever get better but my dog gives me good times

  • @SingularityEngine
    @SingularityEngine Před 2 lety +4

    Really good video. A while ago I went to a trial session to a psychologist, but didn't really know how to explain my problem. At the end of it, he had managed to point out a certain trait I have that might be connected to the root of my depression. I do think I need to seek more help, untangling this mess could potentially be liberating for me.

  • @tianadavis8805
    @tianadavis8805 Před 2 lety +698

    I’m proud of everybody that clicked on this video we all taking steps ❤️we got this 🥺

  • @CherieDeDieu
    @CherieDeDieu Před 3 lety +646

    I am recovering from severe depression. For everyone suffering mental illness, please know you are not alone and you can beat this. Keep hope alive. **Hugs** 😊😘

    • @shivanigupta6219
      @shivanigupta6219 Před 3 lety +8

      Thanks for the hugs
      Please tell me how are you recovering..?

    • @diannetagacanao5849
      @diannetagacanao5849 Před 3 lety +3

      How you recover from severe depression? Pls share so u can help😥

    • @RaviTeja-ci5nm
      @RaviTeja-ci5nm Před 3 lety +25

      If I say... You would think Me crazy.. But the truth is to overcome the depression one must realize there is nothing in reality as depression... Reality is what it is and it's always peaceful.. It's only our judgement and ideas about it what makes it painful.. Realize this... What is depression otherthan thoughts?... Thoughts are never true.. Not even one.. I bet u!!.. So when you are lost in thoughts you are away from the reality.. Illusion is always suffering!!.. Reality is peaceful. .just don't accept it or reject it.. Experience it for yourself.. Watch yourself closely when you are sad or feeling unworthy.. You will surely be lost in thoughts.. Stop believing your voice in the head saying all those Shit stories about you and your life situations.. They aren't true.. The present moment is alone true... Realize this deeply ..if a thought makes you suffer.. Don't go in search for other thought to make u happy.. Soon even that gonna make you unhappy... Try being thoughtless.. Mind is the enemy!!! 😊

    • @RaviTeja-ci5nm
      @RaviTeja-ci5nm Před 3 lety

      @@diannetagacanao5849 think this will help you

    • @RaviTeja-ci5nm
      @RaviTeja-ci5nm Před 3 lety

      @@shivanigupta6219 for u too 👆

  • @misterdoctor6776
    @misterdoctor6776 Před rokem +2

    You are not alone!!!!!!!!!
    Do not give up!!!!!
    We got this

  • @Rimuru-ray
    @Rimuru-ray Před rokem +5

    I like sleeping as it's the only time I don't feel any of it.

  • @sa.9845
    @sa.9845 Před 2 lety +341

    it took 4 years from me, very tough years, an experience that i was fighting to survive through it everyday but my faith of "the best is yet to come" kept me carrying on, i'm here to tell everyone road is arduous but victory is certain.

    • @sadafkhan4771
      @sadafkhan4771 Před 2 lety +3

      N wt abt when u r hopeless that there will ever be anything best in ur life ever.

    • @sa.9845
      @sa.9845 Před 2 lety +20

      @@sadafkhan4771 the best advice I can give you is to distinguish between your real thoughts that shapes who you're and thoughts of depression which tell you're useless, weak, victim or worthless, all of these ideas aren't you, it's just your mind under depression effect manipulating your thoughts.
      Best is yet to come, once you believe, you can do it

    • @sadafkhan4771
      @sadafkhan4771 Před 2 lety +3

      Thank you for nice piece of advice....

    • @Placebogrl_
      @Placebogrl_ Před 2 lety

      How did you get better? Did you use therapy

    • @grigorijiks2303
      @grigorijiks2303 Před rokem

      you dont tell true. without meds you cant ignore your thoughts

  • @YAYASAN55
    @YAYASAN55 Před 3 lety +138

    "For depressives, realizing what they're upset about is too devastating, so they choose to remain dead to everything, rather than very sad about something. Depression is sadness that has forgotten its true causes. Forgetting because remembering might generate overwhelming pain and lost"
    This right here.

  • @dadsfriendlyrobotcompany

    One message has been giving me hope through my battle with depression. On my phone lock screen, I put the message "you are in control of your happiness", so I see it everytime I unlock my phone. I hope this helps others as it does for me.

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci +1

      You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus. And if you can gather some friends to do meditation with you, it's better as group meditation helps very nicely.

  • @khatijanoureen1996
    @khatijanoureen1996 Před rokem +6

    It feels like my future holds nothing. No matter how hard I try I feel like this life is never ending and I'll never be able to escape it

  • @sabeehaahmad9635
    @sabeehaahmad9635 Před 3 lety +327

    2020 took everything away from me. I lost everything. I feel like ending my life everyday. If only I can turn back time...😢😢

    • @stoofypoof7998
      @stoofypoof7998 Před 3 lety +12

      Hang in there! I wrote this song about my depression. I hope it can help someone.
      czcams.com/video/Xr-r855IXoY/video.html

    • @cole3145
      @cole3145 Před 3 lety +17

      Believe me, 2020 has been a had year for most of us, especially us more vulnerable and already suffering from depression. I am not the greatest person and giving advice tbh, but take things day by day, try and do something small to release the so-called "happy hormones" look it up it really helped me :)
      Anyways hang in there i promise their will be good moments in the future and u will gain new things. Loss is hard to cope with... but it will heal

    • @speedyxvrs
      @speedyxvrs Před 3 lety +10

      tbh this year has been sadness the only goal for this year is to survive

    • @bongelwanjikazi7860
      @bongelwanjikazi7860 Před 3 lety +8

      ...to the good old days

    • @sophieghaffari9006
      @sophieghaffari9006 Před 3 lety +15

      I know what you mean. I went from being great to being terrible when 2020 began. It feels like everything hit me at once. I’m having family issues and 2020 isn’t helping.

  • @earlgrey2130
    @earlgrey2130 Před 5 lety +657

    As someone with over three decades of experience with depression, let me correct you on a few points:
    1) It's wrong to assume that both sad and depressed people cry a lot. A lot of patients with depression are utterly unable to cry. The heavier the depression the less crying there usually is.
    2) It's wrong to assume that depressed people don't know what they are sad about. First of all, they aren't sad. They are depressed. The two are not the same and don't feel the same. Just like being in love and being happy aren't the same. They are related, but different. Second of all, depressed people know very well what they are feeling and thinking that makes them depressed. They just don't understand where these feelings and thoughts come from and they can't differentiate anymore if they are real or not because their brains start to see everything through a depressed lens.
    3) You make the point that it's not a solution to take anti-depressant drugs but psychotherapy is a more sensible approach. True, but nobody diagnosed with clinical depression gets drugs without therapy. Treatment of depression is always a combination of drugs, psychotherapy and adapting the patients lifestyle and habits. Drugs can support the treatement, but it's no solution on it's own and no professional claims that they are.
    4) You assert that Depression is a lack of insight. That might be true for some patients. But what about those who HAVE arrived at their insight through years of therapy. They have more insight than any "healthy" person out there. And yet their depression is as crippling and soulrending as ever. Those patients are proof that your hypothesis is at best a part of the explanation but not the whole truth about depression. It's not as simple as just finding out what makes you "sad" (again.. depression isn't sadness) and then talk about it and you're fine. It's not that easy and quite frankly a bit insulting to people suffering from depression. They aren't dumb or lazy. If all it took was talking about trauma and then be cool, they would've done it years ago.
    Apart from that.. great video :) Really like what you've done here and i appreciate that you talk about depression. Just be a bit more careful when making a hypothesis about a very important illness sound like it's an established theory.

  • @kaybear3061
    @kaybear3061 Před 2 lety +2

    Most times when u think are improving it only get worse....but it's great wen u have the right crowd around u

  • @caderitchie2699
    @caderitchie2699 Před 2 lety +1

    I hope everyone watching this video knows it’s going to get better. Idk how or why because I’m not there yet either but no matter how low you might feel, life is truly beautiful and you deserve to realize it’s beauty one day. We all do.

  • @wks6034
    @wks6034 Před 3 lety +216

    University is hard, i have no money, im lonely. I dont have ppl i can meet. My parents are not there for me, nor are my brothers. I wish there would be a person who cares and spends time with me. My family has some deep issues.

    • @sepgh8322
      @sepgh8322 Před 2 lety +5

      I can talk to you

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Před 2 lety +4

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). God wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
      czcams.com/video/sCWA3WrEBx8/video.html

    • @OkIPullUp2915
      @OkIPullUp2915 Před 2 lety +3

      Damn man.

    • @Hello-nw4ou
      @Hello-nw4ou Před 2 lety

      I care about you ❤

    • @jwill5892
      @jwill5892 Před 2 lety +2

      This I relate to so fuckin much. I hang out with my family a lot, but they don't want to hang out with me. They are either antisocial, have anger issues, or just find me annoying and want me to leave. Recently, it got so bad that I became very depressed. Besides my family, I have my best friend who went on vacation for a week, yet I feel so fuckin alone even though he will be back tomorrow. I also have my mom who I love, but I get pissed off when she is not around me 24/7. I should build up my circle of friends.

  • @AuthenticMentalHealth
    @AuthenticMentalHealth Před 5 lety +242

    If you’re reading this you are loved, you are not alone, your feelings are valid and you are stronger than you think❤️❤️❤️❤️✅✅✅

    • @drefloresca95
      @drefloresca95 Před 3 lety +6

      god i hate it when people say that, "yOu ArE LoVeD" man shut up you dont know that. saying things when u dont really KNOW just shows how empty people's words are.

    • @allyy5678
      @allyy5678 Před 3 lety +1

      happycamper dude shut up, it cheers some people up so why are you trying to ruin it

    • @leafybird95___95
      @leafybird95___95 Před 3 lety

      I was gonna be happy but then I saw the comments and I’m sad now😞

    • @Totallyfine29_
      @Totallyfine29_ Před 3 lety

      leafybird95___we all together suffering the same feelings by different way ,you have to fight for yourself 💘

    • @WookJnr
      @WookJnr Před 3 lety +3

      @@drefloresca95 Shut the fuck up.

  • @jillianeilert2910
    @jillianeilert2910 Před rokem +5

    if you’re reading this…
    your skin isn’t paper… don’t cut it
    your face isn’t a mask… don’t hide it
    your heart isn’t a door… don’t lock it
    your life isn’t a movie… don’t end it
    your size isn’t a book…
    don’t judge it
    your neck isn’t a sign… don’t hang it
    you are amazing and lovable and enough!!! stay strong❤️❤️

  • @emixprvs
    @emixprvs Před 7 měsíci +3

    a lot of my depression stems from guilt, worthlessness, unsatisfaction with myself, and the thought of “what is the point”
    Working on art, a tool that helps me cope, has helped me a lot. I do have episodes often but drawing and being easy on myself makes it easier. If you are reading this, you’ve got this, keep going ❤

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 Před 3 měsíci

      You can cure youself of any emotional disorder. Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains within just 6 weeks.
      There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.

  • @macho10101
    @macho10101 Před 3 lety +325

    I have reached the point where i just dont feel like waking up anymore.. even sleeping is just hard..
    My world feels so small for the last few years and it also just gives me this lonely feeling and i just feel so worthless.
    Im 23 yr old guy and it just feels like im kinda reaching the end of my life..

    • @janobara6337
      @janobara6337 Před 3 lety +36

      Hey man, hope you're still with us; I'll never know how hard it is for you exactly, I do know, however, that I have felt very similar for the last six years. With help, I managed to scrape together the courage to come out of addictions and (partly) depression. And I am not half the man you are. Take the days on one at a time, stay focused on the goal of getting to through the present moment. Please, SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP. I am not joking here, medication does work wonders and so does therapy. Dude, I wish I could help you more, one more thing I can say is if you're going through hell, keep going. Maybe not at the end of this week or the next month, but there is a faint glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. That glimmer is different for everyone but you'll know when you will have found it.

    • @97898
      @97898 Před 2 lety +4

      I feel that

    • @fromnothing5818
      @fromnothing5818 Před 2 lety +6

      You’re getting a glimpse of what many old people experience towards the end of their lives, which is the dissolution of everything they have known and of who they are, yet you still have your whole life ahead of you. It may seem impossible to accept now, but depression is a gift, because it’s life’s way of asking you to look under the hood at this whole thing called existence. Accept the invitation, look more closely.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Před 2 lety +1

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). God wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
      czcams.com/video/sCWA3WrEBx8/video.html

    • @JoshLifts05
      @JoshLifts05 Před 2 lety +4

      same but i'm 16

  • @kj9219
    @kj9219 Před 3 lety +215

    My parents would tell me I'm moody. I get so sad it's depressing. After reading all these comments it just makes me want to hold all of you and tell you you are loved.

    • @cheeznockers2755
      @cheeznockers2755 Před 2 lety +1

      You don't know. Just tell them and if they think that way then don't tell them again. Or, if you have someone else you trust, you can tell them. I told my mom because she doesn't get serious, but the bad thing is that she says she's gonna do something, but doesn't actually do it. So she's probably not gonna get me tested. So it's best to talk to someone who can actually get you help 🤗

    • @kurodatadayoshi9012
      @kurodatadayoshi9012 Před 2 lety +1

      The hardest thing for me is just smiling at them and telling them you're alright just to not have them worry

    • @lardjass4146
      @lardjass4146 Před 2 lety

      @@kurodatadayoshi9012 I’ve never related to anything more

    • @ZoomGears
      @ZoomGears Před 2 lety

      I feel the same about wanting to hug everyone here and tell them it’s okay. I feel like such shit and coming here just puts it into perspective that we’re all in the same boat. It feels like my world is so small and constrictive.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Před 2 lety

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). God wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
      czcams.com/video/sCWA3WrEBx8/video.html

  • @janiceureta192
    @janiceureta192 Před 2 lety

    Thank You, this helps me how to identify what depression really is. Insight, learned to identify what upset me and needed to face it. This video really helps a lot

  • @nickh.44
    @nickh.44 Před rokem

    One of the best videos on depression I've seen. Thank you for this video

  • @TheElusiveReality
    @TheElusiveReality Před 5 lety +242

    this video really did not focus on how to cope with depression or provide much help, it's mostly defining and describing depression and should probably be titled as such

    • @emmanaa9146
      @emmanaa9146 Před 3 lety +3

      they all talk about it and no one helps.. if i want help i have to pay for it and that make it worse

    • @reniahhaulcy3874
      @reniahhaulcy3874 Před 3 lety

      Emma joon exactly

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 Před 3 lety

      @@emmanaa9146 God has given us life to be happy. . Meditation heals anxiety -depression as it reprogrammes the mind. Watch alternate nostril breathing meditation videos on Google and do it for 5 to 10 minutes if possible twice a day. You can sit on a chair and do it. Inhale and exhale slowly and feel your body relaxing. . Observe your breath. Read the benefits of this meditation on G oogle search. Make meditation a daily habit. Shyaaam Sir, Mentor.

  • @elyaqui5324
    @elyaqui5324 Před 4 lety +104

    Damn I wanna be happy again.
    Last these years have been the worst years of my life.
    I'm 29 and I'm completely alone in my life.
    I definitely suffer from
    manic depression.
    Some days I'm smiling and laughing and talking nonsense.
    But it's a careless laugh and smile. Where I'll even talk about suicide and jumping in front of traffic and not giving a fuck..
    I want my life back I dont wanna grow old and waste my life away not like this.

    • @___Sarah___
      @___Sarah___ Před 4 lety +7

      Same...I'm 27 and sometimes i feel like time is passing by while i haven't lived my life to the fullest, never have been truly happy and peaceful.

    • @dergaamolka9374
      @dergaamolka9374 Před 4 lety

      That's bipolar disorder and you should get treatment for it ..I was suffering from Depression for 5 years but Im finally feeling better with therapy

    • @shaniakh2205
      @shaniakh2205 Před 3 lety

      I get you. But don't give up my friend. You are strong💪

  • @jayaaboguincarbajosa9942
    @jayaaboguincarbajosa9942 Před 2 lety +4

    While watching this video i cant help but cry, im trying to understand what this is that im feeling and now i know why i cant explain the emptiness, its because its not sadness, its depression and i know im not the only one whos inside the loop, i hope we all get through this.

  • @savage_playz-9784
    @savage_playz-9784 Před rokem

    Thanks for the help to diagnose sadness and depression and educate me on the matter of the slight differences

  • @neferneter
    @neferneter Před 4 lety +178

    Unfortunately, those who would probably benefit most from therapy are the least able to access it. $$

  • @sara_enoe_
    @sara_enoe_ Před 2 lety +464

    This is the most accurate description of how I feel, that I have ever seen. This video made me cry because I realized how horrible I actually feel on a daily basis. But thank you so much for making this video. It made me feel like my feelings are valid, because I was beginning to believe that I was faking it

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 Před 2 lety +21

      Sara, If possible keep your mind active. Avoid watching negative tv shows. Reduce negative thoughts. Take a journey inwards. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @Mutuli
      @Mutuli Před 2 lety +2

      @@shyaaammeneen63 thanks for this

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Mutuli During these tough times develop your mental muscles. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.

    • @jainamhandleisntavavailable
      @jainamhandleisntavavailable Před 2 lety

      take cold showers

    • @sara_enoe_
      @sara_enoe_ Před 2 lety +2

      @@shyaaammeneen63 I did not see your comment earlier than now, but I have gotten better. Getting some light exercise (walks and kpop dances), sleeping enough and eating enough as a good base. But what's more important is that I made an effort to notice the little things to enjoy and try new things to see if it would bring me joy. I also did see a psychologist and found that the cause of my depression and social anciety might be asd. Still gotta get checked for that though.

  • @MMMM-qg7ln
    @MMMM-qg7ln Před 10 měsíci +3

    I think I understand where my depression stems from. It comes from my father who was a narcissist and a bad provider, he committed a fraud and went in jail and didnt attend any of my graduation ceremonies, even when he had the chance. Because of him, I feel doubt that there is true love, even a parent cannot give me true love, is there a stranger who can love me for who I am.

    • @nudapac
      @nudapac Před 10 měsíci

      😂

    • @mariacatt4060
      @mariacatt4060 Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@nudapacthink you must be on the wrong chat. Otherwise v strange response!

    • @mariacatt4060
      @mariacatt4060 Před 6 měsíci

      I hear you!💚🌈💚

  • @alemiipe3877
    @alemiipe3877 Před 3 měsíci +3

    im so hopeless im watchjing this video right now. i dont know how to put my hurting into words anymore.

    • @GuerillaTunes
      @GuerillaTunes Před 3 měsíci

      You did. Sounds f’ked up

    • @alemiipe3877
      @alemiipe3877 Před 3 měsíci

      @Michelleck29ive never had any kind of mental or spiritual wellness after doing shrooms/acid personally, thank you though