If Your Relationship Is Rocky, Do THIS To Save It | Mel Robbins

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    It’s really easy to take your frustrations out on your relationship right now. Whether you’re the one who’s nagging or it’s your partner who is nagging you, this video is a relationship saver.
    Resentment is poison and once you start to go down the road of blaming your partner, bickering, or judging them, you’re only adding to the stress that your partner already feels. If you’re the one who’s being made wrong, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you’re struggling to communicate, there’s only one thing that will turn this around and get you back on track. You need to triple down on the encouragement.
    It’s easy to bitch about the things you don’t like, try spending the next 24 hours calling out all the things you see that they’re doing right and that you appreciate and you’ll be shocked at how quickly it changes your relationship for the better. Even if you’re the one who’s getting picked on, being more encouraging will show your partner what YOU need.
    Everyone feels beaten down right now, so the last thing you need is more negativity. Share this video with your partner and sit down and talk through how you can both be more supportive of one another ❀
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Komentáƙe • 98

  • @unstoppable4999
    @unstoppable4999 Pƙed 4 lety +397

    When someone makes you the happiest person and the saddest person at the same time, that's when it's real. That's when it's worth something.

    • @vrushalijadhav834
      @vrushalijadhav834 Pƙed rokem +9

      Thank you for this comment......I needed this

    • @vuhuy1258
      @vuhuy1258 Pƙed rokem +3

      thank u alot sir...

    • @derrelledixon1947
      @derrelledixon1947 Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci +1

      I needed this

    • @jmad2328
      @jmad2328 Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci +1

      I couldn't agree more

    • @user-co1pq2pl3k
      @user-co1pq2pl3k Pƙed 11 dny +1

      I think that's when you need to leave. That sounds like you're living in a situation of constant abuse. If your partner makes you both the saddest and the happiest.
      You need to get out of there.
      Save your psyche.
      Nothing is worth losing your mental health.

  • @guillermosanchez6284
    @guillermosanchez6284 Pƙed rokem +20

    This def hits home. Feels good to be validated when trying to make changes within yourself for the betterment of a failing relationship

  • @eduardoramirezjr4403
    @eduardoramirezjr4403 Pƙed 4 lety +109

    As male, I want to thank you ‘cause you hit the nail on the head.🔹

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      What sA p p👆

    • @danielgenego542
      @danielgenego542 Pƙed 2 lety +3

      That Melissa woman is a scam. Don’t try contacting him or her.

    • @kanomohamed4637
      @kanomohamed4637 Pƙed 2 lety

      @@melissahunter824 ⁷⁷⁷f

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

  • @josephmedrano4743
    @josephmedrano4743 Pƙed rokem +8

    This is so true for me. I have tried my hardest to make the best decisions. I feel so defeated now that I’m left with nothing and the person who I believed would have loved me through everything no matter what is gone as well. I’ve got so many pieces left to pick up and no closure.

  • @brianhartley8951
    @brianhartley8951 Pƙed 2 lety +14

    Wow, that was great advice. Good men would move mountains with that kind of support in times like those.

  • @chynahutchinson7628
    @chynahutchinson7628 Pƙed 3 lety +33

    I keep finding you at the times I really need to and I just wanna say thank you for being here for so many people who need your advice and motivational words ❀

  • @katia.luna213
    @katia.luna213 Pƙed 2 lety +6

    Thanks for being here when I need it đŸŽ‰â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž

  • @Hannah-lf4nf
    @Hannah-lf4nf Pƙed 3 lety +6

    This is exactly what I needed

  • @stewiegriffin88
    @stewiegriffin88 Pƙed rokem +15

    Damn you literally just narrated what I'm going thru myself now. Fell into a depression bc of finances, closed myself off to everything bc I was beyond embarrassed and pissed off at myself and now my and my gf are literally at rock bottom and she's thinking of leaving. We decided to try to save our relationship and are going thru that now. It's been super stressful up til abt a week ago and now seems to be going better thanks to people like this. Thank you you're one of the few that are actually helpful with sensitive situations like this.

    • @josephercastor8026
      @josephercastor8026 Pƙed rokem

      Is it improving?

    • @stewiegriffin88
      @stewiegriffin88 Pƙed rokem +2

      @@josephercastor8026 Yea it's actually gotten a lot better. Made a world of difference

    • @madalinamit4694
      @madalinamit4694 Pƙed 28 dny

      How is it going now? Any tips for someone in your situation?

    • @stewiegriffin88
      @stewiegriffin88 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      @madalinamit4694 Broke up 2 months after that post 😅. I'd say just make yourself happy. Nobody can do it for you. If you're only happy bc your significant other makes you happy, then your not truly happy and it WILL come crashing down at some point.

  • @nicolemadsen9189
    @nicolemadsen9189 Pƙed rokem +7

    This was so good to hear.

  • @IamKrystalHardwick
    @IamKrystalHardwick Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci +2

    This was really helpful

  • @rogeriorodriguez1212
    @rogeriorodriguez1212 Pƙed 4 lety +15

    You are spot on the nail very intelligent very true to life very observant thank you for sharing your knowledge with us along our journey 👍 my friend

    • @rogeriorodriguez1212
      @rogeriorodriguez1212 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @Joyce mary I wish you all the best on your journey. Life is full of Peaks and valleys, some days were up and some days were down but no matter what the journey is worth the adventure because what you put into it is what you get back so the more you give the more you get in the long run.đŸ€—đŸ’“đŸ’•đŸ’–đŸ’žâ€â˜•đŸ‡șđŸ‡žđŸ€”đŸ‘đŸ‘đŸ‘đŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒčđŸŒč

  • @djeddiecue4660
    @djeddiecue4660 Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci +1

    I know that this is an old video, but the message is never late. I can relate to this.

  • @tiy10vely
    @tiy10vely Pƙed rokem +1

    Incredible insight!

  • @tcantrell5301
    @tcantrell5301 Pƙed rokem +2

    The fact that you feel like this is the same😅

  • @alexandriasartin2466
    @alexandriasartin2466 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    Love the jacket Mel!

    • @mariatatarli4416
      @mariatatarli4416 Pƙed rokem

      Just that? Sorry, don't mean to be mean. She is extraordinary in every way. I love her hair, jacket, glasses... She looks amazing and the subject she dealt in with the lady is so true in every way.
      Thanks Mel.

  • @gabourizk1
    @gabourizk1 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +2

    The first mistake is when she said does he deserves it. Men need to start seeing this and wake up

  • @KayyDeanne
    @KayyDeanne Pƙed 4 lety +4

    Just what I needed

    • @williamjoy2925
      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      What sA p p👆

  • @miracunini6078
    @miracunini6078 Pƙed 2 lety +10

    This is the type of stuff I'm already stressed about as teen cuz I ultimately broke communication by not being able to properly answer his questions as he is someone very meaningful to me

    • @jesusjess7222
      @jesusjess7222 Pƙed rokem

      Take it easy on yourself and the person you are dealing with. Understand that you guys are both young and ultimately are growing. We are all sinners and without God’s mercy and grace we wouldn’t even have a chance at life in the after world. So the same grace God extends to you, try extend to the next person. operative word being TRY!
      God bless and I hope your relationship ends in marriage ❀

  • @user-gc7mv3tn4e
    @user-gc7mv3tn4e Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci

    i am trying to fix my relationship and I'm going to take this advice

  • @hazelperri460
    @hazelperri460 Pƙed 4 lety +22

    Wonderful idea. I think encouragement and validation also work for adult children living at home...

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • @melissahunter824
      @melissahunter824 Pƙed 2 lety

      What sA p p👆

  • @KishaCole1232
    @KishaCole1232 Pƙed 3 lety +8

    Omg. I totally have bread winner resentment. Whoa. Not sure if that's like a real thing but fuck. That's 💯 how I feel. He's so down and depressed and low and lost. And I'm going through a spiritual awakening and mindset transformation. And he's 1000 steps behind me.

  • @JamesSmith-pi5kv
    @JamesSmith-pi5kv Pƙed 3 lety

    His spell really work fast

  • @evempozende2286
    @evempozende2286 Pƙed rokem +5

    Actually my husband is getting really annoying and he doesn’t sit down with me and talk so I’m really stressed out 😱😱

    • @abby_renee2395
      @abby_renee2395 Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci +2

      Same here. Im at my breaking point, but there’s only so much I can do when I take on everything else already and he’s refusing to open up. I can’t keep breaking my back when I can’t see a reason to anymore đŸ„Č

  • @trainingsingh5216
    @trainingsingh5216 Pƙed 4 lety +7

    Mel is so worth listening to but some1 please fix the mike and sound system.

    • @williamjoy2925
      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @jenniferfrazierlpc7171
    @jenniferfrazierlpc7171 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +3

    What if it's not a good idea? Do we just lie and still say it's an amazing idea and watch them fail?

  • @paulamain9559
    @paulamain9559 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    You are my LIFELINE. â€đŸ‡šđŸ‡ŠđŸ’š

  • @sharoncherryontop1275
    @sharoncherryontop1275 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    💯

  • @cburri4842
    @cburri4842 Pƙed 4 lety +21

    I've tried encouragement and validation. It doesn't seem to work. My husband has zero ambition. Not interested in working on himself and resents that I do. How do you motivate a negative, arrogant man who believes all self help is bullshit?

    • @MM-om4or
      @MM-om4or Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @DodgedABullet exactly..

    • @bertsbases
      @bertsbases Pƙed 4 lety +5

      There is an old country song by Hank Williams Jr called Attitude Adjustment. He might need one.

    • @williamjoy2925
      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @danialanees
    @danialanees Pƙed 4 lety +1

    đŸ™đŸŒ

  • @debasmitapaul9853
    @debasmitapaul9853 Pƙed 3 lety

    Nice videos

  • @suejacobs8531
    @suejacobs8531 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    I'm going to try this because if I don't I'm going to walk away from this marriage 😂😂😭

    • @williamjoy2925
      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @jenniferastol6653
    @jenniferastol6653 Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci

    What book is this

  • @steelcityguy2598
    @steelcityguy2598 Pƙed rokem +2

    Hi there, my fiancee of 18 years is breaking up with me and leaving in about a month to go to her hometown. We have furbabies and a house. I have drank a lot over the years but i have stopped now. I love her so much and so do the furbabies. Is there anything in my power i can do to possibly get her to change her mind to stay with us and try to work this out? She misses her hometown and her family there. Thanks for your time!

    • @niyetta6021
      @niyetta6021 Pƙed rokem

      Why can’t you go with her?

    • @steelcityguy2598
      @steelcityguy2598 Pƙed rokem

      @@niyetta6021 she doesn't have feelings for me anymore she said, but she hasn't left yet...

    • @customhookah7489
      @customhookah7489 Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci

      ​@steelcityguy2598 what happened in the end?

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    @narges8438 Pƙed 4 lety

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      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @umbhacanga
    @umbhacanga Pƙed 4 lety +3

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  • @heavensLuv
    @heavensLuv Pƙed 4 lety +11

    There will always be a gap in your heart that God put there, so that He can only fill it and you gotta go seek out after it and when you do you will have your fullness of joy!? You will feel complete/found!? It gives you purpose and it lets you know that no human other than Jesus Christ can do it?!?! Let me know when you find it I will celebrate with you!!! đŸŒˆâ˜ïžđŸŽș✝đŸŽșâ˜ïžđŸŒˆ

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      @williamjoy2925 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @user-co1pq2pl3k
    @user-co1pq2pl3k Pƙed 11 dny

    I'm a woman and I NEED THIS FROM MY MAN!! Will he learn after friggin ten years that I need hom to keep saying "That's a great idea. Yeah, you could do that.Ok, let's try and do this. Do you want me to do something that brings you closer to this goal of yours?" (Whatever the goal of the moment s)
    Ten yeyand he keeps saying out loud only the things that could go wrong.
    I yold him, Shut the heck up, woman! (In those words, I thought only women did this) Those are your THOUGHTS. Train yourself to not say your negative thoughts out loud, for chrissake. Think them, but don't ever say them out loud. Because it doesn't achieve anything good, it achieves no progress. Use only words that do achieve progress. And those are words of encouragement. Words of positivity.
    He refuses to re-train his brain.
    He grew up in an abusive family where his mom and her third husband yelled insults at each other all the time.
    And he's a very intelligent man.
    What a shame.

  • @mccoutlinesomkidkrob5676
    @mccoutlinesomkidkrob5676 Pƙed 4 lety

    Hello

  • @Larry21924
    @Larry21924 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci

    I'm moved by the authenticity of this content. A book with parallel ideas transformed my life significantly. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @Kreepinsgirl
    @Kreepinsgirl Pƙed rokem

    My boyfriend been sexting other women and he told me he stopped but i found out its not true,i love him and still want to be with him despite this,even want to get married but i am having hard time getting images of those women and texting out of my head,he also send them alot of money,i wish i can do something to make him be happy with me,what can i do?i tried everything

    • @velvetstorm4563
      @velvetstorm4563 Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +4

      You need to leave the relationship, he has no respect for you if he's doing that. That's not someone worth loving.

  • @ajplatzdoodlemom1966
    @ajplatzdoodlemom1966 Pƙed 9 měsĂ­ci +2

    As a married lesbian, I see a lot of the male aspect of things in my wife. As I just took over bread winner status, among other things, I see what I can change. ❀