If You Are Dealing With HEARTBREAK, Watch This! | Mel Robbins
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If I get a notification of 'like' in this comment, I will get reminded that, I am not alone... People are with me...
We are with you
you are not alone
It feels like shit
I'm with you, you are not alone🫂
I just broke up with the one man i truly loved , he started to act weird and mean to me out of the blue .. im in so much pain, I haven’t slept for days my eyes are all red and swollen 😔.. but i feel better after watching this.. please pray for me to get over him and be better
You’re not alone. I’m going through the same thing. Once I noticed he was being mean, I left. I do love him though
How are you doing now? I totally understand you as the same thing just happened to me this pas t week
I am praying for you & for me. Going through heartache and it’s so hard. Especially the feeling of emptiness, depression, no desire for anything.
@@kingdombeauty8575 me too, l still love him but I would never take him back ..I will never forget how worthless he made me feel
@@efrenjf7685 just when I started to get better he texted me.. asking for a second chance.. i said no but ; now im going through it all over again it hurts the same as a month ago
I loved him with all my heart. I chose to grieve in peace than to stay and hope in anxiety.
I feel the same way. I like the way you phrased this
@@gmul1401 Thank you. I'm much happier each day
Nicely put. I will keep telling myself that.
❤❤❤ omg this should be a quote x beautiful it’s just how I feel x
I’m going through a painful breakup. There were red flags early on in the relationship and I chose to ignore them. There was a voice inside my head saying this is not right, but I still kept going. Now it hurts. I feel empty, confused, angry, heartbroken. We didn’t even talk things through thoroughly. It ended in chaos and anger, even though there were parts of this love that were very deep and beautiful. I will get better. It’s just very tough right now. Time heals all wounds. May we rise again.
I am so sorry for this. I heard someone say, anyone who says time heals all wounds never had a tooth ache.
I thot I’d bounce back right away but It’s seemed like forever.
I Finally had to get professional help for myself and it’s the best decision I ever made.
I have been able to connect the dot between that relationship and the dysfunctional relationships with my parents.
It’s been super empowering to recognize that I can create a support system for myself outside of my family!
And that my true super power is the love I have for myself and to encourage, support and celebrate myself is a big piece of the puzzle I was missing before he ever came into the picture.
I also had to find ways to create joy in my life.
I started doing hobbies I ignored in my childhood and that’s been a huge game changer.
You will get through this!
Keep going and loving and creating, cheers !
My breakup is the very same way yours went. We did not talk things through. We also ended in total chaos and deep anger from my side. I said things I now regret but the damage was done. I cannot sleep or eat. And yet I know I cannot go back. His last voice message to me was "You will always be on my mind and I love you to Bits and pieces but I need to take a step back." The pain is as if he died and I cannot reach out to him. I hope you are doing well.
Literally me now! How are you holding now?
I'm in exactly the same situation 😢should have heeded those red flags in the beginning. Now I'm just a former shell of myself. Break up was very traumatic yesterday 😢
@@beaker7353 I am sorry to hear this and let me tell you it's going to get worse till finally the sky clears and you will feel so much better. Best of luck and try and watch as many videos on how to get over heart ache.
He broke up with me because he’s an avoidant. The past 3 weeks since the breakup, I picked up F45, learned my 6th language, started buying myself flowers again, and have read 6 books and traveled to 3 new countries. And yes im freezing my eggs at 39! I’m no longer the person he broke up with.
I just broke up with my BF of over a year. he is a good person and has a good heart, but there were red flags. Ive always ignored red flags. I did the right thing even though it was so beyond hard. Its not that I didn't love him.....i ended it because it was not right for me and ultimately for him as well. I am very proud of myself. Thank you Mel for always being there for me/us
@@rebeccastacy9540 scammer
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How you’re doing now?
Same here .. Exactly the same
@@kaoutaeaea649 I am proud of you! I know it was not easy.
Broke it off. Avoidant crazy. I was done. I miss him his heart was good but i deserve real love and someone who deals with trauma just like i did.
Same here, I felt like he was giving me breadcrumbs. Avoidant too, and I'm anxious attachment, so it was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. How are you feeling now?
@@furahayamoyo9193 still missing the fake him but i went on. Dated an ex last few months who was also a diagnosed avoidant. He was changed he claimed after four years.
Turned out he was not.
😂😂😂
They lie so much and i blocked him directly when he started to deactivate and starting the blabla bs.
Not falling for this trap no more.
So i have learned a great lesson from the one i really missed.
I dated also another man.
My instincts were right.
Dont ever take them back.
They are the same. .No worse!
We deserve better, wish you much love and happiness
Same here. It was making me crazy. I feel so much more sane now that i broke up with him. Hopefully one day i meet someone who take healing their traumas as serious as i do. It’s not fair for one person to put in all the work
@@furahayamoyo9193
I am ok!
Secure again. ☺️
Started dating again and you never guess what happened. An ex came back after four years, diagnosed avoidant and we were dating. He said he was changed.
He wasnt..
He left after dating for two months. Having a wonderfull time.
Out of the blue he ran.
But i didn t care anymore.
To old and solid for these sad stupid games.
Never going to let someone trow me out of balance anymore.
And i will never ever trust an avoidant again.
They don t change.
They only become weirder as they age.
Never going to suffer anymore and think what went wrong?
I will never understand them and that is a good thing.
I have learned a lot.
☺️
For about a week? With all due respect, my last breakup brought me into a deep depression full of suicidal ideations for nearly half a year.
Me too. And I think that is more the norm. In a week I was still in shock.
That caught me too...more like 3-6 months :(
Really, I thought a week? If u get over someone in a week u didn't love that person.
Yeah a week was very exaggerated of saying a shorter amount of time. Sometimes, you’ll even miss someone your whole life. I had the same experience with deep depression. Still dealing with the breakup. Sending love ♥️♥️♥️
@@sarahskicks I'm sorry to hear that... I resonate with your experience.
I am currently in the midst of a break up that is completely 1 sided, im feeling as low as imaginable, what makes things even harder is she seems to be absolutely fine while I am falling apart. We have been together for 13 years, have 2 beautiful children and share a family home..it just feels my entire world has ended, over the past 2 weeks I have slept maybe 1-2 hours per night. I really hope this can get better.
💞
Stay strong!!! I am
Sorry but do
Not give up
On yourself when everyone else does
Stay strong bro I'm same I was only married one year and a few months it's the shock that causes us pain and also the detoxification of someone being there , get plenty of fresh air and accept the situation the more you , accept it the less painful it will become , we become addicted to the whole process of being with someone and when they've gone we go through detox I know I'm going through it now it is difficult , if you feel you can't work it out then you have to let go of the relationship , truth hurts and you will constantly think of it everyday all day , keep yourself occupied it complicated when offspring are involved , through marriage, you'll feel upset 😢 try to be amicable avoid confrontation
Hi friend,
I am going through the same. 14 years and 1 child. I'm 9 months alone now. It's very hard. I wish you the best.
I'm going through it too, trying to keep going but failing 💔
I'm so sorry for everyone here all going through the same experience I did too I'm getting there but god it's hard when you believe you love them, I ignored red flags too I knew it wasn't right there were many problems along the way it became toxic, the break up was dreadful what happened and the confusion I feel at this moment and the pain just doesn't go away I'm with everyone here take care all
I did a month ago. It broke me at first. However it was crucial. I was painting to many red flags, white. Reflecting on things I found myself being in love with the illusion of what I thought we were going to be. In reality it was tumultuous, toxic is the best way to describe it.
Don't worry. They will realize your worth when they can't find someone like you.
I am hurting and have noone to talk to. People always confide in me yet I have no one to talk to. It’s so painful. The worse part is having no energy, no desire, no spark for anything. I hope it gets better soon.
I just have to find the strength not to go into the same old cycle of he comes back. It hurts so much more every time.
You are not alone. I am experiencing the same thing and feel the same way you do. I hope that you're feeling better since you posted it 5 days ago. You are strong. You got this.
@@Jasonm1771 thank you 🙏 That’s very very kind. I do feel better. I also have being doing some guided meditations on YT on letting go, heartbreak meditations etc and it’s very helpful. It’s still hard, but I guess it’s part of the process of healing.
Hope you are feeling better too :)
Btw he came back but it’s still all the same and somehow I am slowly loosing my respect for him. So the feelings are easing up. I hope 🤞
I will keep doing my meditations. I have no intentions of seeing him and even don’t have the need to talk to him like I had before. Still that feeling of nostalgia is there and it’s hard to let go of good memories. But it’s happening slowly :)
You know the funny thing is, when he started realising things and trying to mend things between us, I have started to let him go and not want it all anymore.
I feel after repeated intense pain and heartbreak , at some point indifference sets in. And I am grateful for that. I want to be totally indifferent.
@@trinityp8575 I am so happy to hear that for you. Ive been taking the same route and came across Mel Robbins. She speaks my language and has been really helpful in allowing me to reflect on the reality of the situation.
Thank you for the kind words.
You should feel incredibly proud that you’re choosing the path that’s best for you! If you’re ever feeling that way again, shoot a reply. It’s always nice to know you’re not going it alone.
Sorry to hear, tough to do anything alone, please try to find someone to talk to, here’s a hug, hang in there😊
@@trinityp8575 Hey! Wanted to check in and see how you are doing.
This is the best advice I have seen or heard ! This is so me right now. I knew the 5 year relationship I was in was not someone I was gonna grow old with. Yes I stayed with her cause I loved her and I didn’t want to be alone. In the end she broke up with me for the same reason, she said we grew apart and it was beyond repair. Yes it hurt and I will be fine because I know it was over at least a year ago. The only thing I deal with is anger because less than a week after we broke up I saw her on a date. I had a gut feeling there was someone else and that confirmed it. Thing is you gotta let go and move on and even wish them the best. I’m working on me now and looking in the mirror.
Wish you much happiness
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm working on myself but I'm still on that grieving stage so it still hurts. But at least I'm making the attempt to make sense and make peace with my break up, and to move on.
I just broke up with my boyfriend that I’ve dated for a year. The attraction between us is so great and I really love him, but I ignored so many red flags and there were many times I had doubts about him. Decided to finally rip up that bandaid. Whole body is aching now. The pain is just so strong but I know it will get better
Hey, I totally understand you... I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years, I considered her the woman of my life. I also felt from her side that she loves me, you just feel it, but for the last 2 months of the relationship, she was quite thoughtful and withdrawn somehow... 3.11.23 she left me and blocked me everywhere... Fighting with myself every day and the pain is unbearable... I hope the pain will leave one day, fingers crossed..
Same thing happened to me. I dated a guy about 8 months. We broke up 2 months ago. I still feel so much pain and hurt and loneliness...
Same thing happened to me. I dated a guy about 8 months. We broke up 2 months ago. I still feel so much pain and hurt and loneliness...
Going through the same right now
Did you at least have a talk with him first? Maybe resolve things? Or did you just go ahead and make the decision
I’m dealing with heartbreak still after a rejection. We never dated or anything, but I will always remember him as a kind soul. This man really impacted me in ways I don’t even think about. He led me to some powerful speakers and I will always carry that with me. We weren’t meant to be, but I thank him for that.
It takes more than WEEKS to get over a separation due to all of the practicalities. It also effects so many other relationships.
So much of our attractions are based on our parents. Not only do we need to learn and heal from this relationship, we also need to find the wound from our parents that’s having us be attracted to the same type of person for a partner. We keep trying to heal that parent wound by finding someone who will create the same wound so we can heal it this time.
Trauma bonding is a real thing.
Truth. My father taught me what to accept from a partner. That was very little.
Im on day 3. I had a big meltdown yesterday after I stupidly decided to try to drink my pain away.
After 7 years together he got under his coffee chick in the first week after I moved out. I'm on day 3 because I found out 3 days ago, and it destroyed me.
Thank you for your videos. You are helping me a lot in this hard time.
Some fairly clinical and correct advice and also some very dismissive advice that minimises a lot of people's issues. Saying you'll feel a million times better in a week (post break up) is utterly ludicrous. It's also insanity to completely disregard a relationship's history, family dynamic, other roles the SO plays, sickness, motivational ruts, depression, ambivalence caused by external components such as pressures from family, friends, financial distress etc. The list goes on. Relationships are very intricate interwoven and THE most important social dynamic seen in humans, and we need to approach considering losing somebody exceptional from our lives with greater care and consideration than A+B =C.
Yes, I totally agree.
One week is ridiculous.
The first week I could barely eat or sleep. I was having anxiety attacks.
I was only with him for 5 months.
He broke up with me one month ago and I’m still crying every day. I really loved him and this pain is so intense. It is like grief, except that he’s still alive, he just doesn’t want me anymore.
This woman is massively in her masculine so naturally a lot of her advice isn't suited coming from a woman
Lost my girlfriend after 4 years because I wasn’t up to par with her expectations. I come from a bigger struggle than her and the last 6 months have been really hard on me. I wasn’t motivated and I lacked drive. I felt like I wasn’t what people wanted and I ended up being exactly that to her. I manifested my own downfall. I loved her with all my heart, I’d talk with her everyday, see each other weekly and take her out to nice places. I’d always praise her and I guess I put too much emotional dependency on her and it became overwhelming for her. I wished we communicated better and were able to resolve these issues. Most were fixable but she did not want to give us a chance to work through it. She claims to have fallen out of love with me. I gave her time, love and attention. It wasn’t enough and I’m feeling at all time low.
Put that energy back into you, find that love your searching for within 💕
Related too much to this exactly my thought
It sounds like you grew from this and are a changed person. I think you are growing into the person she was looking for, maybe. I pray she realizes this or you find peace, happiness and love again.
I have been with my girlfriend for 7.5 years and she dumped me via text message a week ago. This is not my first heartbreak but it’s excruciating nonetheless. Now, I’m seeing a therapist and trying to speak to friends as much as possible without being overbearing. I wake up in the night, crying, but I made a promise to myself and my family that I will do my best…
As a person who doesn't have parents and currently going through a terrible breakup, it's a blessing to stumble upon this video. Listening to Mel Robbins is like taking advice from a tough, yet loving mother. Thank you.
I just got out of a trauma bond. I am in my mid 30s never been married. My parents have a wonderful relationship and have been married for 30 plus years. Looking at this rationally now I think I fell in love so fast because I was codependent and wanting love not rejection like my past. Throughout this ordeal I have decided that no one can love me the way I want to be loved and that I have to love myself. Unfortunately my last relationship ghosted me after 8 months for someone else. I think what hurts the most is that I was vulnerable with someone havent done that in a long time. I realize the more vulnerable I am the more I am acceptable to hurt. However the pain of a BPD relationship is far more extreme than anything I have ever been in. I will perserve through it however I have learned that I do NOT need to fix everyone and need to stay in my lane focusing on myself.
Wow, word for word I could have written. Ended it a few days ago and just trying to manage basic day to day tasks. Best of luck to both of us!
Broke up with someone in May and so mad at myself I am not over it. Have felt the pain so acutely this Christmas. It has shrouded my day and now I am crying
Don't be mad at yourself, I still cry about my first love. It is what it is.
Find someone else by becoming whole and complete yourself
You ended the relationship and now you are sad ? You created your own pain, lay in the bed you made.
@@danbaker7640 thanks, Dan. Helpful!
@@danbaker7640This comment is ignorant and insensitive. Sometimes you have to break it off with someone you still care about. Maybe they hurt and betrayed you. Or maybe you’re growing apart.
Breaking up with a narcissist is whole different dynamic. Pls make a video on the same. Thank you 🙏🙏
I was married for 17 years. If ghosted me and left me for someone else. It’s been 2 years. Still feeling heartbroken. I tried moving on just a few weeks ago . I felt so guilty. The hurt is unreal, I’ve been cheated on times before but this one was rough. I wish this would go away . The pain. The tears . I think it’s the rejection, not sure but I know he’s not worthy of all this energy.
I feel you. I have been doing EMDR therapy and it's helped me so much to move through my 10 year relationship betrayal breakup. Sending light and love
@@lizettev emdr?
How are you doing now? Does it get better? I am going through a 25 yr marriage breakup. He left me 3 months ago, no warning. I’m devastated.
@latonyaupchurch
@@latonyaupchurch it is a type of therapy used to help people get over trauma. Effective in treating veterans with post trumatic stress syndome. Requires therapist to have special training. I did it, was painful, but it worked. EMDR stand for "Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing".
It's been over 3 years and it still hurts. I no longer desire to have the person back who broke my heart. But it still hurts. I'm tired.
I want to appreciate Dr Yusuf for the restoration of my marriage after 1years of separation with my husband, with the help of , my husband return home and now we are happily together for good, once again thanks Dr Yusuf
My boyfriend and I just broke up recently. We only dated 6 months, but he was the best and healthiest guy I've ever been with. We both knew it was not going to work out long term because we are currently on different paths in life, but what kept us going was our attraction, strong connection and care for each other. He initiated the breakup even though it was mutual, but I wasn't brave enough to ever do it. This video helped me see that he truly did love and care for me by being honest with me in this conversation and being strong enough to walk away, when he could have easily kept me around for himself and his own needs. This will help me move forward and heal knowing I was with a truly good person who genuinely cares about my well-being. Thank you Mel.
And I hate when ppl discredit it and say oh that's not that long but it's still painful especially when you had hopes of longevity
But why exactly did you break up? Were your paths in life and plans for the future so different?
Same problem here she broke up with me because she wanted to focus more on herself and career she didn't have time for me.
We have been separated and not talking for a few months and I still cry everyday and a few times a day, it just hurt so bad and when I try not to cry it makes me feel so heavy inside.
How long were u together. I’m so sorry you feel soo sad
I’m on the same boat. We’ve been together for two years and just broke up over a month ago.. I still cry everyday. I feel like something inside me is brokenhearted..
I think you need to stop crying and start living and seeing what the relationship was really about and not what you wanted the relationship to be..
Yes yes and yes!!! And remember emotions are hormones, chemicals in the body...drugs we can easily get addicted to. You have to learn to recognize the emotional addictions first before you can even hope to break these patterns.
The best training that changed my life was learning how to cultivate the feelings of what I desire in my life before the actual event...and I mean really feel it as if it was real and guess what..according to modern studies the brain doesn't know the difference...it just equates emotions with events and survival and will work behind the scenes so to speak to manifest in your reality those desires you are able to make real in your emotions and thoughts on a daily basis.
Yes! Thank you for this comment 🙏
I actually realized I was not moving toward being together but avoiding him and creating time apart…we were both miserable - trying to get back to the high of the early stage. It hurt us not helped evolve. ❤ THANK YOU MEL. I needed this.
Landed on this at the right time. Two weeks into the breakup now and everything around me just irritates me now.
Today is the 3rd day of our breakup. My mind is all over the place. We were together for 3.5 years. We tried very hard to hold on to each other to save the relationship but nothing worked. We weren't toxic but due to some situations we had grown distant. We turned against each other. We had ugly fights and lots of arguments, every other day. And 2 days ago we just broke up. I shared it with my friend who is there for me. I am afraid no one is there for my partner, or ex, hah. It kills me inside. But i know going back would only cause more harm than any good. I still feel lost. And worry about him constantly. I hope he will be okay and he'll finally be able to be happy!
"When one door closes, another opens; but
we often look so long and so regretfully
upon the closed door that we do not see
the one which has opened for us."
@@Ladybirdtaj so true! Thank you so much 💓
How are you 1 month later?
Six years after our break up, I'm finally in peace with it.
6 years 😢…I’m not going to make it!!!
@@vshort02 What do you mean? :o How long has it been for you?
@@evagabrysova8871Well it’s Day 5 after 26 years off/on
@@evagabrysova8871 2 weeks but it’s been a 25+ year relationship
Needed this today. Told Hubby I want to separate and it’s SO hard but I know it’s right.
I just want the pain to stop
I'm suffering too. I'm so sorry i really am i hope the both of us feel well soon 🫂
Thanks Mel.
I've been plagued by this for quite a awhile.
I'm currently working on myself slowly to get me back.
It took a while to get here.
And I'm determined to do me right for the rest of my life.
Your amazing. I'm your age and your messages matter to me. Mel to Mel 😊❤
Hardest part of getting over my break up is that she cheated on me and left me for that person. The idea of her starting a new relationship while we were still living together hurts so much. She couldn’t even own up to what she was doing when I confronted her about the cheating. I moved out because I couldn’t handle the stress anymore and she didn’t even hesitate to move the person in 2 days afterwards.
I know how you're feeling. Take your time to grief but make sure you don't reach out to her. Some says you'll feel all the rage and anger, you'll have a lot of questions but know that everything is a process. You'll feel better eventually.
@@Aluma-6290 couldn’t reach out to her even if i wanted to. She has me blocked and last thing she told me was to leave her alone. I know i wasn’t the best boyfriend but i tried my best. I have come to realize that even with all my flaws i still didn’t deserve to be thrown away like i was.
Omfg I have a mini version regarding that!! I am so sorry my dear🙏🙏
Sorry for that, here’s a hug for all of y’all 😊
She will 100% cheat on this other person as well. This is clearly a pattern of behavior for this narcissist.
Nice going, Mrs. Robbins. You knocked this one out of the park. I like this video length too. Takes a brief time to watch, but not short on content. Thx!
Mel I'm going through a rough patch in a lot of areas in my life. All of your videos are so helpful and I feel like I have support from you on the other end while watching these videos. Thank you for the podcasts they do wonders. So great full for you!
Thank you Mel! I ended it very peacefully & yes I will now apply all that love to myself! Have a great day!❤️ you have helped me many times over the years🥰
Thank you Mel!!! Intuition is so key and this is what i beed to know and never wanrt to repeat it again!
Mel, You are amazing. You are able to help us to face facts and acknowledge our pain at the same time. Thank You so much for your compassion!
I am hurting more than I ever have !
I've only watched short clips of you in the past...I really enjoyed and needed this video.
I am going through this situation and the universe popped up with his video..thanks ma’am …🙏🏼😕
my and my bf of almost 4 years just broke up… i wanted us to break up and it is being so difficult not knowing what he is doing, not having his hug to look for… and waiting for his message… yes, he had a lot of red flags, but i loved (and still do) so much
I want to appreciate Dr Yusuf for the restoration of my marriage after 1years of separation with my husband, with the help of , my husband return home and now we are happily together for good, once again thanks Dr Yusuf
Impeccable timing. Thank you, Mel. Working my way through the heartache.
This is Bomb Ass advice…. I love it and thank you. This is week two for me and what you’re saying is Excellent advice. Feeling motivated already. Thanks Again!!!
Thank you ❤️ I needed this
Incredibly helpful, thank you for helping me reflect and extract the good parts
It's so hard for me to listen to advice like this, because I've never felt more myself than when I was with my ex. I felt safe. I felt loved. And now I'm supposed to do "the things I could never do" because of him -- but there's nothing. I was even so secure in the relationship that I was finally able to study abroad for some time. The relationship gave me hope and so much power. Videos like these seldomly talk about losing a great relationship. One that was really fulfilling.
I feel exactly how u feel. I thought everything was perfect (well we had arguments but we always talked them out). Last weekend we had the best time we could it was like a scene out of a movie and i thought we were in a good place. Until he invited me to sleepover this weekend. I was so happy that im gonna see him and have fun and all this bs and then he dumped me and I literally crashed down while he was just cold like i was talking to the wall. I even BEGGED him to not leave... I knew it was pathetic but i also knew id regret not trying everything i could (even if its begging..) I felt the same with him as u and it was mutual for a long time but then he fell out of love, at least thats what he said. So now im really grieving this man that i was in love with, still am in love with. The person that left me doesnt even feel like the same guy.
I feel same as you. I was happy and felt loved, even with all troubles we had. After 13 years I left because of infidelity on his side. It hurts like hell, there is nobody around who would understand the pain, I had to take some leave from work bt now I have to go back and have no idea how to cope, my brain is not functioning, I cant smile. I feel for you and others here.
Thank you soooo much! Very helpful material, I’m going to use many of these points. Thank you so much. 💕🌺
I love you. I almost couldnt see the video with tears in my eyes. Thank you. It calm myself down. Love from 🇧🇷
Your videos have really helped me to get over this painful situation I'm in🥺😔😔 thank you very much Mel ❤
Yes Mel. Definitely needed to hear this right now. Yes ignored my intuition about this new person and came to bite me in my behind won’t do that again!❤
Thank you Mel.
3:23 that intuition has been there in every relationship I’ve ever been in. So listening to it means I’ll never be with anyone
You are so amazing, Mel. Thanks for all the hints.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
This is perfect timing for my daughter 💕
This helped so much! I may need to watch it over and over to remind myself! After almost 20 years with someone I’m feeling lost and my heart hurts. It’s broken even though I know it’s for the better. This is a trauma bond, but I just need to cling to better days coming! Thank you for your words again always so uplifting and positive and gives me some hope for better days to come.💔
such good advice Mel.
Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤
Mel, you always hit it right at the spot, YOU ARE SIMPLY BRILLIANT , tq for saving us as always ❤❤❤
Thank you Mel robbins for all your videos and especially this one I can’t describe how much it’s been helpful for me and I keep watching it every time I need because every time I watch it it’s help me a lot …. Thank you again
Great advice!!! Thanks!
Thank you ❤️
This helped me so much.
Thank you so much.. I really needed to hear this
boy did I need to hear that.....bless you and thank you
Thank you for this.
Thank you, Mel.
Amen Mel! You know it’s not right and keep going why??? And second - yep I learned it’s me I am co-dependent made these errors before. Started therapy…. 2024 new start on all levels! Thank you 😊
Wow that was right on time I needed that so much thank you thank you thank you.
Thank you 🙏
I have to revisit this video everyday. 19 days! Still crying 😢
I am so sad I can’t stop crying. My ex and I got back together and he said he can’t have a serious relationship with me, coz of stuff I’ve done ? And so we spent over 3 months together as if we were normal and I hoped we would get back together but no he said he can’t and he would wait til he finds someone or meets someone he could be with properly then end it with me and said same goes for me I don’t think that level of rejection is good for either of us so we agreed to end it and now I’m so heartbroken 💔 I can’t sleep or anything I can’t stop thinking about him 😢
Thank you!
going through this now. he needs serious therapy and I can't help him. and you are on point except that I'm not scared to be alone..I'm more afraid of him hurting himself
What a timing ❤
Just what I needed to hear today! Thank you so much!!
Right! Thank you from South of France
Awesome video..Thank you very Much..
thank you💔😭
Thank you :)
Thanks Mel😊I needed that.Im breaking up with my partner she told me before Xmas 2023 that she needs her space,leaving in 2 weeks, my head is still spinning Harry thankyou❤
Thank you ❤🎉
Thank you so much ❤❤
Agree with you ❤️
We was togheter for 14 years and now divorcing
Me too, sorry to hear that. Here’s a hug😊
I’ve been separated from my narc ex husband for seven months now and I’m still hurting terribly. We were together for 37 years, I feel so lost, alone, no enthusiasm to do anything other than just sit in the house, the thing is, I know he won’t be feeling the same, being a narcissist, he doesn’t care, he won’t be thinking about me at all, I just wish I could switch off and get him out of my thoughts… I know we’ll never be able to make things work for us as we tried for 37 years but, living with a narc is extremely difficult, they blame you for everything that goes wrong, they have to have everything their way, punish you if things don’t. The life you live with a narcissist is their life, you lose yours.
❤thank you for message 🙏
This is everything.
Amen ty ❤
thank you
GO MEL GO!!
I hope i get through it.❤
Thanks a lot.
HELPFUL
Love you♡♡
Best break up advice-!
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Thancks ❤❤