Masayoshi Talks Binge Eating & Gaming

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  • čas přidán 28. 07. 2024
  • Check out Dr. K's Guide! bit.ly/3jHRYLh
    In today's interview we bring in a guest in the streaming world. Masayoshi and Dr. K go in to depths about his childhood, his experience with gaming through his life, and they even go over binge eating.
    ▼ Timestamps ▼
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    00:00:00 - Intro
    00:01:49 - Particular topic interests
    00:07:34 - Binge Eating Disorder
    00:11:50 - In-game rage
    00:27:55 - Addictive personality
    00:40:39 - "What choice do I have?"
    00:47:28 - Childhood & Upbringing
    00:52:05 - School
    00:59:48 - Parents & Gaming
    01:08:35 - Current happiness
    01:08:58 - Unsatisfied with sleep & diet
    01:20:47 - The challenge now
    01:21:10 - Going off the rails & learning from that
    01:29:16 - Expectations of oneself
    01:42:44 - In order to tell your SO something, you have to accept it first
    01:49:31 - Meditation
    ────────────
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Komentáře • 247

  • @eddyhypnotizer2481
    @eddyhypnotizer2481 Před 2 lety +1174

    "Everything has stats" is an interesting view point in terms of food. Never thought about it that way before, just the calories kinda.

    • @boartank
      @boartank Před 2 lety +54

      As a poor college boi, I remember buying food with min max calories and nutrients. I still do.

    • @atanas-nikolov
      @atanas-nikolov Před 2 lety +31

      Seeing food as stats helped me lose 150+ lbs. Still the only way I eat to date, because I enjoy it. Not as rigorous with it, but I pretty much know the stats of most foods and subconsciously track them.

    • @steveloge8119
      @steveloge8119 Před 2 lety +6

      For real. I've never really given him much watch, but John seems very articulate and puts conceptual things very simply.

    • @AqueousHexia
      @AqueousHexia Před 2 lety +8

      I always look at all the stats except calories. I mainly look at the sodium, sugar, and protein. It is interesting how much people focus on calories. It is important thought, don't get me wrong, but the other stats are also very important.

    • @atanas-nikolov
      @atanas-nikolov Před 2 lety

      @@AqueousHexia I use Cronometer to track pretty much everything. Vitamins, minerals, protein, fiber, etc. I am not religious about it, but I do want to catch any bad trends when I'm changing my eating patterns (let's say seasonally).

  • @steveloge8119
    @steveloge8119 Před 2 lety +1291

    Working within the recent additions, Dr. K seeks to complete the OTV Infinity Gauntlet Expansion Pack

  • @masaichi453
    @masaichi453 Před 2 lety +127

    I love that Dr. K is matching John with game-ifying everything from food labels to addiction awareness.

  • @KasiresHK47
    @KasiresHK47 Před 2 lety +433

    Thank you so much for doing this. As a young male who's struggled with the whole concept of healthy relationship with food and BED, having also been in therapy for a year, just seeing this conversation out there gives a tad bit of hope seeing you're not completely alone in the world.

    • @Ouzzel
      @Ouzzel Před 2 lety +20

      Honestly this is the true power of this channel. Knowing it’s not just you does a lot more than just assuming so.

    • @FaalKoriim
      @FaalKoriim Před 9 měsíci

      Please never forget that you are worth so much more than your body. 💖

  • @user-xu3cz7vp2j
    @user-xu3cz7vp2j Před 2 lety +178

    I would absolutely love to see this side of John more often. I feel like there is so much more to him and if he is comfortable sharing more of himself with the world I think it would be awesome.

    • @manja1714
      @manja1714 Před 2 lety +31

      i think the probelm with that is that his chat is very troll and I don't think he is comfortable with sharing smth that personal and have his chat make stupid troll comments at him. if that makes sense

  • @xavierguitar21
    @xavierguitar21 Před 2 lety +128

    I love Dr. K for expressing Masayoshi can stop talking about things when he needs to. I think he always does but it still means a lot.

  • @mashzapotato
    @mashzapotato Před 2 lety +296

    I really cannot thank yall enough for doing an interview on this topic. I'm the biggest I've ever been at 435 and considering baryatric surgery to get a handle on this. But the mindfulness practices you talked about here in regards to decoupling my physical sensations from my psychological compulsions have been really helping me since the live. Thank you.

    • @LaNoireDetruit
      @LaNoireDetruit Před 2 lety +6

      That sounds amazing, I wish you all the best for your journey.

    • @kakefisk
      @kakefisk Před 2 lety +12

      Going through with surgery will help you with the weight, but it will most likely not help you with the reasons for the weight. So if you can get help with looking into those before you go ahead with the surgery, it will most likely benefit you a lot in the long run.
      Best of luck to you my dude, you got this! :)

    • @yayyaycats
      @yayyaycats Před 2 lety

      Thats great! I'm wondering which videos you're referring to for decoupling physical and psychological? I've been struggling with the same thing.

    • @mashzapotato
      @mashzapotato Před 2 lety +1

      @@yayyaycats its this one. They talk about it later on in the interview. Back third I think?

    • @ThingsILove2266
      @ThingsILove2266 Před rokem +3

      Joseph if you’re still on here, how’s it going?

  • @mistymoose4424
    @mistymoose4424 Před 2 lety +109

    Thank you so much for this. As someone who's been silently suffering from bulimia and binge eating for over 10 years now, i cannot express how grateful i am that these topics are being brought to light into such an accepting and supportive community.

  • @devakibhagwat6146
    @devakibhagwat6146 Před 2 lety +31

    As always, John equating everything to gaming terminology is so beautiful and relevant, especially within the topic of discussion. I appreciate him sharing his experience so much.

  • @fentons_
    @fentons_ Před 2 lety +31

    As someone with IBS I completely relate to how John feels like he constantly be checking himself and internal stress about it. Dr K was so great to listen to talking about this, thank you both

  • @jovanpetrovich9359
    @jovanpetrovich9359 Před 2 lety +132

    That gnawing hunger wasn't something I thought other people experienced. Where you're full but the crave to consume still lingers. Like bound Fenrir and his drive to eat the sun

  • @confusedturtle183
    @confusedturtle183 Před 2 lety +44

    WE NEED MORE INTERVIEWS! I'm not demanding them, I just really like them and wanna see more. However I enjoy all content on this channel, so just keep going how you guys see it best!

  • @JigenLune
    @JigenLune Před 2 lety +11

    John talking in gaming terms is like normal for me after watching him for a while now but I only realized after this video how it makes some concepts easier to understand

  • @kenbhesng9749
    @kenbhesng9749 Před 2 lety +205

    I haven't finished watching the video yet, but I'm surprised John isn't mentioning the fact that he has ADHD. The problems he is describing is incredibly similar to mine, and for me these problems are strongly correlated to my ADHD and how I cope with the world.
    edit: it did get mentioned

    • @ogheros5541
      @ogheros5541 Před 2 lety +10

      I have BED and ADHD too I had no idea they were correlated though..

    • @suides4810
      @suides4810 Před 2 lety +21

      @@ogheros5541 impulsivity and getting dopamine while eating foods

    • @kutjegodverdomme
      @kutjegodverdomme Před 2 lety +21

      Yesss ADHD is related to soo many eating disorders and just disordered eating in general. Whether it's too little (e.g. you forget or don't feel like it) or too much (e.g. you can't stop yourself because of impulsivity, release of dopamine that you're sensitive towards, lack of ability to see long term consequences (or care) and seeking of short term rewards, or any other executive function that we struggle with). I feel like this is overlooked very often and not many therapists are fluent in both aspects. Usually they are specialized in either EDs or ADHD, or they tunnel vision onto either one. I've almost finished my Bsc Psychology after 3.5 years and still have not heard much about these correlations in official uni study materials

    • @froggofrance
      @froggofrance Před 2 lety +5

      i like how dr. k was able to point it out and ask john about adhd first towards the end (1:37:20)

  • @meowo1274
    @meowo1274 Před 2 lety +16

    This interview helped me wrap my head around my own issues and I'm super grateful for both Dr.K & Masayoshi for being able to talk openly about this!

  • @ryn_young
    @ryn_young Před 2 lety +5

    I cannot express how grateful I am for this conversation and especially the meditation and awareness technique at the end. So much of my life I've struggled with BED and learned this technique more simply but the way Dr.K explains it is so wonderful.

  • @alvaberg3283
    @alvaberg3283 Před 2 lety +7

    This might be the best interview I've seen with Dr.K so far. I learned a lot about my own behaviors through this video and it helped me in so many ways. Thanks for this awesome video and a big applaud to Masayoshi for being so honest and brave enough to talk about this subject.

  • @nandithamurali9811
    @nandithamurali9811 Před 2 lety +6

    I'm so proud of John for opening up, dealing with all of this, and helping other with similar experiences deal with this too. I wish the best for him and everyone else going through similar experiences. More power to you all.

  • @olevam1
    @olevam1 Před 2 lety +28

    I loved this interview, although it felt very intense to get through cause it hits on some of my problems. It clarified something I had a hunch on for a long time -- restricted access to a specific addiction is not nearly as effective as working through the root cause of it, and can indeed just shift the problem somewhere else

  • @meghanelizabeth4776
    @meghanelizabeth4776 Před 2 lety +5

    I related so much to this, thank you John this was so helpful to not feel alone

  • @gooseph
    @gooseph Před 2 lety +4

    great video, great topics of discussion, great guest. Good work Dr. K

  • @KellboRose
    @KellboRose Před 2 lety +1

    It's really interesting and helpful to see different ppl with different issues and how they deal with them. I really appreciate when Dr k interviews ppl.

  • @ChiddyChiddy01
    @ChiddyChiddy01 Před 2 lety +20

    I've had binge eating disorder for 5+ years and would recommend the nutritarian diet (basically eating foods that are high nutrient per calorie) to anyone who's struggling with this - really helped me recover
    It's not just about restricting calories, it's about eating nutrient dense foods. Eating junk food just leaves you malnourished because you're not actually getting any nutrients, and keeps you in that cycle of binge eating.

    • @Zelanias
      @Zelanias Před 2 lety

      thank you :D

    • @L0wSkiller
      @L0wSkiller Před 10 měsíci

      What are your go-to easy-peasy meals that are nutrient dense? I struggle with this, a huge life change + issues with sleep leave me with very little willpower to actually better my diet, but I know for a fact it's a contributing factor. Any suggestion would be appreciated 😎

    • @captenmurica8843
      @captenmurica8843 Před 5 měsíci

      @@L0wSkiller protein smoothies. They were the gateway drug to recovery for me. Fruit+ muscle milk protein powder. You get at least 50% of everything of your daily needs, like carbs, protein, and essential vitamins into one drink. Keeps you full and takes 2 minutes to make AND eat.

  • @Jabbydaplug
    @Jabbydaplug Před 2 lety +1

    What a great Interview! This helps me out in a lot of ways!

  • @mariajosegonzalez6055
    @mariajosegonzalez6055 Před 2 lety +2

    One of my favorite talks so far

  • @EnDegenerate
    @EnDegenerate Před 2 lety

    As much as I love the Lecture style content, sometimes there are some really good interviews!
    Thanks, as always!

  • @rggiii5089
    @rggiii5089 Před 2 lety

    Me suffering from eating disorder and this being posted in my Birthday is the best gift this year. 🤗
    Thank you Dr. K and John Cable ❤️

  • @alopradocai
    @alopradocai Před 2 lety

    Holy shit 10 minutes in I already feel exactly like John. It`s insane how similar some stories and problems can feel. Thanks for the work Dr. K!

  • @maxrussell5318
    @maxrussell5318 Před 2 lety +5

    it’s nice to see how dr k uses gaming analogies to help john understand real issues and things he’s struggling with

  • @gmd_pyromaniac
    @gmd_pyromaniac Před 2 lety +5

    I legit just finished watching a clip of John, so this is a pleasant surprise

  • @jettstorm2253
    @jettstorm2253 Před 2 lety

    HELL YES NEW INTERVIEW. I missed these

  • @nikkiiwithani
    @nikkiiwithani Před 2 lety +22

    first john in otv and now john on dr k
    very pog

  • @coolcarly25
    @coolcarly25 Před 2 lety +7

    As always I appreciate what you do Dr. K, and I watched it and hit the like button, but I struggle to get excited about interviews with successful streamers anymore.

  • @tiffsullivan9426
    @tiffsullivan9426 Před 2 lety +2

    that's my strimmer

  • @missinglegs
    @missinglegs Před 2 lety +151

    "Did you feel guilty about having understanding parents"
    Look at that, a concept explored by Re:Zero brought up by an actual therapist

    • @knightowl2407
      @knightowl2407 Před 2 lety +22

      I feel that the interesting thing is not that a therapist talked about what an anime explored, but that a topic rarely discussed is being brought into light in multiple places.
      The comment of "anime explored [concept] and [insert professional] brought that concept up" just doesn't sit with me right. It brings up the same feelings that saying "anime did it first" brings up. You make it sound like the concept originated from anime, downplaying it almost, and elevate the anime by saying a therapist explored a re:zero concept.
      This comment just didn't sit right with me and I wanted to say something. I don't know if you were trying to elevate re:zero or were just pointing something, but I dislike how it sounded. It feels like a downplay by comparing it to art rather than comparing art to it.

    • @missinglegs
      @missinglegs Před 2 lety +31

      @@knightowl2407 oh, that was not my intention... Re:Zero focuses a lot on character growth and stuff like that, I like it a lot for that, so I was only appreciating that a concept it explores is actually something a trained professional in mental health might talk about... Like I was looking at it the other way around from what I think you perceived, I put the medical concept first and was happy that Re:Zero uses it, NOT Re:Zero first and happy that medicine uses it, although I see how you might get that from the frasing of the comment

    • @knightowl2407
      @knightowl2407 Před 2 lety +14

      @@missinglegs Thanks for the clarification. I'm glad its not the way I perceived it.
      It is actually really cool to see a show explore something like this, and I hope more shows expand their horizons to nuanced situations relating to mental health. I don't like Re:Zero much, but I do like how they handled main character's parents and his past. The stuff relating to his betterment of self is pretty good.

    • @neila6340
      @neila6340 Před 2 lety

      hes not a therapist hes a doctor

    • @missinglegs
      @missinglegs Před 2 lety +3

      @@neila6340 ... A doctor is someone who has gone to medical school and been authorized to practice medicine/ someone with a ph.d
      A therapist is someone who engages in therapy with their clients, that being, talking with them, helping them understand themselves without prescribing medication
      Those two terms are not mutually exclusive and as far as I can tell, both describe Dr. K

  • @MiaRose02
    @MiaRose02 Před 2 lety +15

    This video and interview really stuck out to me. I've always struggled with guilt, like John, for a multiple of reasons. This felt enlightening to watch, yet also very triggering for sure. Hopefully I can see more guests, or even just talks addressing that feeling of guilt more.

  • @wisdomandy9361
    @wisdomandy9361 Před 2 lety +2

    You motivated me to quit smoking in another video and since I know I'll be compelled to eat more I came here to be more prepared in not binge eating either. Hopefully you have some goodies for me. Thanks!

  • @bryannov9068
    @bryannov9068 Před 2 lety +1

    so glad John decided to come on. i’m also a 24 year old male that struggles with similar eating habits but i had no insight on what it could be.

  • @hollo0o583
    @hollo0o583 Před 2 lety +18

    28:00 I feel this at a spiritual level. My father was an alcoholic so I was always aware of addiction and it's less obvious forms. (He wasn't your archetypical alcoholic who drinks every day and hits his wife. He used it as a coping mechanism when things or emotions got to much or to difficult.) Addictive personality is mainly genetic (but don't quote me on that) and from a jung age I was pretty sure that we both have it. (One of the reasons I over identify with him even tho I my parents broke up when I was four and he ended it when I was 15.) The first major thing I couldn't cope with was having to show bad grades to my mom (even though they weren't even that bad) and having to bring notes home that I was late for school (sometimes every single day... you weren't supposed to get more that three per semester or a certain cross in the school report slowly moved from excellent, to good, to expectable, to insufficient and then to intolerable.) I did my best to hide the things I had to get sign ( oh, yeah, there was an other cross that followed the same spiel just with the number of days signing something got delayed...)
    My first "proper" addiction was reading. Then it was audiobooks, pretending to be sick (in boring school no one checked if it was true), then CZcams and most recently K-pop. These all seam like normal things. What makes them different is that I'm 24/7 doing them, neglect all my responsibilities and at some point don't even enjoy it anymore.
    As for alcohol, the legal age for beer is 16 and from the age of 18 (had my b-day last summer) you are allowed to drink anything, still I have never swallowed a whole gulp of any alcoholic drink. (Sure it tastes like shit and I passionately hate pralines even if they only contain aroma but it's also partially because I'm afraid of addiction. Let's say I understand the temptation of drugs very well and even phantasise about getting drunk of high sometimes... acctually constantly if I'm in a bad headspace.)

    • @vegetableoil4391
      @vegetableoil4391 Před 2 lety +4

      I synpathize with not drinking alcohol or drugs because of the risk of addiction. Though of course the addiction shifts to something else like youtube or video games, but at least those aren't too harmful compared to alcohol or drugs especially on your wallet

    • @user-xx6qn9ns7m
      @user-xx6qn9ns7m Před rokem +1

      Hollo0o, I can relate to you very much, also a daughter of a dad with alcohol-coping mechanism, so I didn't want to and was basically afraid to drink alcohol, and I felt like I am prone to addictions - repeatedly changing hobbies and finding excitement in new things and themes, and then changing them completely, it was knitting, and yoga, and kpop and kdrama, also as a coping mechanism, not dealing with the outside things that hold me back..

    • @user-xx6qn9ns7m
      @user-xx6qn9ns7m Před rokem +1

      Dr k videos have been really helpful

  • @proger1960
    @proger1960 Před 2 lety +3

    Great to see John here

  • @jordiwa8051
    @jordiwa8051 Před 2 lety +2

    All this talk about food I had to get a snack to eat while I watch. 30 minutes in this has been great so far

  • @Naex__
    @Naex__ Před 2 lety +14

    John's just an awesome dude man

  • @kiraa_
    @kiraa_ Před 2 lety

    im 2 min into the video and already super excited for the content

  • @tsubasangel
    @tsubasangel Před 5 měsíci

    I didn't expect to get emotional 40 mins in. I think the ones I personally related to I felt more enlightened but this one surprised me. The vulnerability and the topic. I liked it very much.

  • @ddorianisme
    @ddorianisme Před 2 lety +5

    I've seen a ton of Dr.K's streams but goddamn this one cuts deep for me

  • @seraphwithatank6535
    @seraphwithatank6535 Před 2 lety +49

    Before watching: This is going to be interesting.
    During: This is the most gamer conversation I have ever heard in my entire life.
    Dr.K smiles: 26:54 He thinks he's got it.

  • @kvstar100
    @kvstar100 Před 2 lety

    This was so useful

  • @Lyrabela
    @Lyrabela Před 2 lety +30

    I kinda get what the guest was saying where he said he didn' think it was sad. My mom's side were heavy alcoholics/smokers, my dad's heavy eaters. Unfortunately I have my own addiction issues that I battle--I will probably never be able to step inside a casino and gatcha games don't have access to my money. Ive never touched anything with nicotine in it. I also keep alcohol in my house for the purpose of gaging internally my relationship with it.
    When you witness people struggling or you struggled yourself, your coping mechanisms that are even semi-functional are less exhausting then continually struggling to get out of an addiction.

    • @charlesm.2604
      @charlesm.2604 Před 2 lety +5

      But they take a shit ton of efforts and will power though.
      Look my family is big on nicotine (French, gotta keep entertaining the stereotypes amiright) and they've always kept in denial or legitimized their addiction by saying shit like "everything is unhealthy, you go outside and inhale pollution", "food can be as dangerous", "everybody will die some day, nicotine or not", etc... and although I ended up addicted myself, I've always kept it real.
      I know it's bad, I know I'm gonna die from it in my 50s and I know I HAVE to stop for my own and my entourage's sakes but I just can't. It's too hard. Props to you for fighting AND letting yourself tempted on top of it.

  • @Konzuug
    @Konzuug Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Dr. K could you maybe make a video on tips on how to deal with winter blues?

  • @ajhandsome01
    @ajhandsome01 Před 2 lety +15

    Streamer eating disorder is the best way to describe it, especially if your a small streamer i gets to a point where everytime ur not at the computer you’re wasting time

  • @alexianlh369
    @alexianlh369 Před 2 lety +1

    oh my god every time i struggle with something, you always post a video with the same topic????!!!

  • @AvidUser32
    @AvidUser32 Před 2 lety +6

    I love how Dr.K started speaking in gamer terms so John could understand him better

  • @butteredtoast1995
    @butteredtoast1995 Před 2 lety +3

    Big fan of you Dr. K, but I do have to correct one thing you said about starvation at 1:32:27. Its true that we deplete our glucose stores after a while (if exercising it can happen within a couple hours and at rest up to 12ish hours). But once we reach "starvation mode" our bodies start to take energy from the fat reserves first, NOT from muscle. I'd like to also mention that I am not a nutritional expert, nor do I have qualifications in nutrition, but it's something I've been learning about for the last few years. My understanding is that in a fasted state, the body first it goes for fat, and then only when all fat reserves are depleted it starts breaking down muscle. After that it breaks down organs, and that's when you starve to death. It also doesn't make sense from an evolutionary perspective to break down muscle before fat. That would make it more difficult to go hunt or forage for food.
    It's a small detail, but it really stood out to me when you said it. Any nutritionists please correct me if I am wrong, or add a more detailed explanation of how the biology work if possible. Thanks :)

  • @clairejohnson5674
    @clairejohnson5674 Před 8 měsíci

    Wow. I am in school to be a therapist (MSW).
    I am not a gamer but my boyfriend is and he introduced me to this channel.
    Absolutely amazing. Thank you for doing this work!

  • @kfulton1
    @kfulton1 Před rokem +1

    I'm watching this a year later than it was posted, am probably 25 years older than this streamer, and have never played games beyond Super Nintendo in the 90s.
    But I can relate so strongly to this. I struggled with eating disorders and a need to control my body and emotions through food for most of my life. I'm at a stage of life where talking about this feels no different than talking about having a hangnail. It just is. Culturally, however, it still seems so taboo. Normalizing eating disorders is so important and this is a great way of doing it.

  • @joelando9485
    @joelando9485 Před 2 lety +2

    Danm i feel so much identified with this... if isnt for my wife i ll never have dinner. and every time i feel stress or have an issue i have this compulsive behabior like eating or drinking or smoking etc.

  • @backspace12399
    @backspace12399 Před 2 lety +2

    It would be so cool to be on his stream

  • @najrenchelf2751
    @najrenchelf2751 Před rokem

    Dr K is so freaking good at this... holy sh!t

  • @anidonticgaming7047
    @anidonticgaming7047 Před měsícem

    It’s funny that k thought of adhd cause when bro was talking about hyper focusing on any picked up hobby or interest, it reminded me of the exact words of a friend of mine with adhd

  • @josha.2496
    @josha.2496 Před 2 lety

    I feel a lot of this applies to me, I hated going out because of shame too

  • @NovaNinjaHD
    @NovaNinjaHD Před 2 lety +2

    "Gamer Eating Disorder" 1:31:49
    timestamping this for myself cus i def needed this info

  • @112lucario
    @112lucario Před 2 lety

    The part about addictiv personality realy hit.

  • @dogsfromthecity
    @dogsfromthecity Před 2 lety +6

    I used to stress-eat a lot.
    Sudenly after any activity, I wouldn't be able to settle until I didn't snack on something. Even if I had no hunger at all or had a good meal one hour before.
    Even when I did come to the realization that I DIDN'T have to eat... I was still heading to the groceries to buy me whatever snack I could find....
    Things would get worse when I was tired at night. And even when I felt like going to sleep, I was thinking about ordering a snack. And I would only gice when I realized it would take about an hour to arrive and I would be too tired to stay awake and not miss the delivery call. It was THAT BAD. My self-control system was completly busted....
    And sometimes I can still catch myself heading outside to buy a snack and I really have to control myself to stop and do something else better.
    Meditation is something that has been helping more. I notice that I needed to eat to calm myself down and 'shut down' my thoughts. And thinking about something else for a whole helped a lot.

  • @jletsgoo
    @jletsgoo Před 2 lety +1

    34:00
    57:50
    1:22:30
    1:23:30
    1:25:40 >
    1:27:40 1:28:00 guilt
    1:29:00
    1:30:30
    1:31:50 gamer
    1:35:50
    1:37:20 adhd dopamine swing
    1:38:50 beat around the bush
    1:40:00 familt communication, resilient
    1:42:00
    1:43:00 letting her know little by little, accepting little by little
    1:44:00 physiological
    1:47:40 to count on other ppl
    1:53:00
    1:55:00
    1:57:50 when u eat, u must have awareness of which urges are being satisfied:
    physical? mental?
    1:58:50 concentrating
    sit w hunger vs urge

  • @fredrik4362
    @fredrik4362 Před 2 lety +8

    This gave me chills. Feel like this is a representation of many young men today.

  • @4our31
    @4our31 Před 2 lety

    I liked this one

  • @kittysgomeoww
    @kittysgomeoww Před 2 lety +7

    i loved this interview, i just almost feel like nothing was said for like an hour at a point. around the middle of it all.

  • @Spaceman5pff
    @Spaceman5pff Před 2 lety

    Hey if you haven't already considered, Sp4zie is a former League youtuber who now variety streams. He talks a fair bit about his mental health and life balance and a big part of his move to variety was to do with just not enjoying League anymore.
    Maybe worth talking with him about feeling "stuck" with a game since I'm sure that's a problem facing a big part of this community

  • @celine9230
    @celine9230 Před 2 lety

    I LOVE JOHN! hes the goat
    best raze player in valorant

  • @modestalchemist
    @modestalchemist Před 2 lety +31

    "i have binge eating disorder"
    "no, actually you are just really hungry"

    • @JohnSmith-ox3gy
      @JohnSmith-ox3gy Před 2 lety +6

      12 hour stream ends.
      Gonna grab sum grub
      Brain: "Oh my god, I ate three packets of instant ramen!"

    • @modestalchemist
      @modestalchemist Před 2 lety +8

      yeah 3 packets of ramen is like 900 calories. even if you did that twice a day, that's still within normal calorie range. not that that's particularly healthy, but it's hardly binge eating.

    • @suides4810
      @suides4810 Před 2 lety +5

      @@modestalchemist its disordered eating but not an eating disorder

    • @hihihi518
      @hihihi518 Před 2 lety +7

      @@modestalchemist I’d argue that’s a lower estimate and it could range from 900-1650. He could be also eating it with sides or adding toppings which inflates it. With his extremely sedentary lifestyle + his old overweight photos, I feel like he might not be telling the full picture here which is def possible for ppl w/ or who had eating disorders. Just my two cents

    • @modestalchemist
      @modestalchemist Před 2 lety

      @@hihihi518 yeah there's also that to consider. but it seems like, just from what he has shared, that he is more shocked about the amount he eats all at once after essentially fasting for 12 or so hours. And it's been a few days since i watched this now, but it doesn't sound like he has an emotional component to the eating.
      it's by no means a balanced diet, or a healthy habit, but it doesn't sound like binge eating disorder.
      but i'm also not a doctor, and i don't know this guy.

  • @mehdi2081
    @mehdi2081 Před 2 lety

    I didn't know john was such an extreme gamer

  • @nanas7399
    @nanas7399 Před 2 lety

    I have never heard my problems so explicitly laid out.

  • @starius1154
    @starius1154 Před 2 lety +10

    I've learned that I burn all my executive function away playing too much of a competitive game, which makes it impossible for me to resist food later in the day.

    • @Kyrmana
      @Kyrmana Před 2 lety

      For me that is work, ugh

  • @nikolaykomissarenko7822
    @nikolaykomissarenko7822 Před 2 lety +3

    "A king cant feel bad about recruiting an army in a time of war" -Me

  • @SuperLotus
    @SuperLotus Před 2 lety +1

    That was interesting at the end where Dr. K got emotional talking about how he misses interviews....so do I 😥

  • @gorrino4479
    @gorrino4479 Před 2 lety +1

    Hey Dr.K! I watch many of your videos, you have talked a lot about normative parents and their usual flaws and relationships of that sort. I just have a pretty specific problem that you might find helpful to talk about, that is shitty step parents, people that arrived into my life without really being invested in it. So Ive gone through 2 step parents, when my parents divorced each went their own way (in a very confusing manner that left me so dishoriented) and I went with my mom to another city when I was 7.
    First, my dad met this other woman (waaay younger, she is 18 years older than me but my dad is also 18 years older than her xd) that basically didnt accept me, as I was living far away the time that I would go and visit (because they would never visit) she wouldnt talk to me at all or act as if she was part of my family whatsoever. That went on for very long, ending in a family dispute because I told other people what she was doing to me (my dad didnt know how to handle this). My dad had 2 other kids (my sisters that I love so much) that their mother tryes to keep as far away from me as possible. My dad told me last year (Im 22 now) that she did that because I reminded her of my dads past relationship, which is very cruel.
    Now the story repeats itself, my mom was with this guy, my stepdad for 10 years, that is since I was like 9 untill I was 20 and we had a "good" relationship,l it just wasnt very deep, in the end I would also see how he doesnt regard me as part of his true family ( seems like these poeple only count blood families). This is due to the divorce last year, he decided to kick me and my mom out the house in less than a month barely giving us time to look for another place ( he was keeping the house). Since all this he has never taked to me or seems not to value our past relationship which really hurts me right now, why are step parents like this? How should i think about this issue?

  • @rsanghi24
    @rsanghi24 Před 2 lety +5

    Hey, dr. K. I have a question. I have been using dating sites for 2 years now. And I feel it's seriously affecting my self esteem. Getting rejected daily by two three matches is not fun. It doesn't matter what I say, I get 1 match after swiping on like 100-150 profiles, maybe more. I try to come up with best pick up lines, I might get one reply back then there is none. Half of the time the matches I get never reply back, me concluding I am not good enough for them. What I want to ask is, should I stop using these dating apps, are there any actual research behind depression for men and these dating sites?

    • @traddcooper
      @traddcooper Před 2 lety +2

      I’m no Dr.K but I do have some things to say about this if you don’t mind. 1. I know exactly what you mean, I go through the same thing, but honestly you get more matches than me lol. 2. I watch a lot of videos about this kind of thing and it seems like the healthiest option is to get off dating apps. I keep hearing that unless you are the most attractive and interesting sounding person (not that you aren’t attractive or interesting but most girls only go for the “9 or 10” guys) on a site that you aren’t going to see significant success. Girls just have WAY too many options in those spaces so they don’t give guys like us the time of day. 3. You ARE good enough. Whatever you do DON’T tie your own self worth or sense of personality to your success, or lack thereof, on dating sites. I don’t know about you but I suck at talking to women in person, I always have, so I tried my hand at dating apps so I don’t have to muster the courage to talk the them in person. It doesn’t work man. There may be a science to making dating apps work and if you’re anything like me you’ve spent a long time trying to learn it and haven’t succeeded as of yet. Can you learn to make it work? Sure. Is it worth your time? Absolutely not. 4. What guys like you and me have to do is all the things we already love to do. We should invest in our passions and see where it leads us and who we meet along the way. If you want to go out and meet someone then go to events, concerts, competitions etc. and just try to start conversations with people and see where they go. Again I can only speak for myself but I have always had a deep fear of failure and rejection but you (and I) have to know that without ever failing we can’t succeed. We can’t let fear of failure stop us from getting the things we want, and if we do that is the only way we will really fail at the end of the day.
      Sorry for the rant but I hope this helps a little. My advice is just drop the apps and dating sites man. It’s just not where guys like us thrive. Best of luck bro

  • @andrevarian3744
    @andrevarian3744 Před 2 lety

    i always wonder what was the "thing" that trigger this type of insight on a shrink? 1:15:00

  • @linlinpooh7677
    @linlinpooh7677 Před 2 lety +1

    Whoa I was just thinking about how bad my binge eating has become and I saw this video on my recommended 👁👄👁

  • @CopernicusLee
    @CopernicusLee Před 2 lety +11

    masayoshi talks bing chilling

    • @elektrotehnik94
      @elektrotehnik94 Před 2 lety +2

      It's amazing that I actually understand what that meme means in Chinese

  • @eureka2694
    @eureka2694 Před rokem

    I hope I can fix that someday. I do not binge. However, when I have strong negative emotions, I feel the urge to southe it with food.
    Not to the point of binge eating, but I still over eat. which is annoying since I want to loose weight

  • @najrenchelf2751
    @najrenchelf2751 Před rokem

    3:14 - that is so... noble? for John to do - I don't know what the right word is for this. Idk, it's a wholesome gesture, quite simply!

  • @Sannandreo
    @Sannandreo Před 2 lety +28

    Is there a time when Dr.K has not said 'Can I think for a second ?' 😂

    • @Law-of-EnTropy
      @Law-of-EnTropy Před 2 lety +3

      It's his ultimate skill

    • @cloak5857
      @cloak5857 Před 2 lety +26

      It's a welcome change for Twitch streamers when typically they're struggling to fill every second of dead air.

  • @xPorsum
    @xPorsum Před 2 lety +1

    Kinda weird I stumbled upon this video on the day I realized this is the heaviest I've ever been in my life and want to lose weight to get back down to a healthy weight again but can't really come up with a reason to stop eating aside from that.

  • @RoxieParadox
    @RoxieParadox Před 2 lety

    Cheese rice is the shit though for real. Ghetto mac and cheese was also a winner when I was in high school (Literally just macaroni and half a bag of shredded cheese and salt/pepper lol) (cheese rice was the same but with rice lol)

  • @aya-qo9wg
    @aya-qo9wg Před 2 lety +4

    sometimes it's like i have this hole in my chest and i need to binge to try and fill it but it only makes me feel more gross and it's stays empty it's so weird

    • @Popopatop
      @Popopatop Před rokem +1

      Same or it works while I’m eating but as soon as I’m done the hole is back on top of feeling guilty and gross for bingeing

  • @BlueCollarPhilosoper
    @BlueCollarPhilosoper Před 3 měsíci

    Since copes do help you deal, even if just temporarily, there any downside to substituting addictions? Overeating is bad for your waistline, smoking for your lungs, alcohol for your liver. But what if you drank sugar-free drinks throughout the day instead, or spent hours at the gym? Would these be bad, too?

  • @MrBuzzsaw118911
    @MrBuzzsaw118911 Před 2 lety

    Wow what? I had no idea John struggled with this

  • @quantummight2972
    @quantummight2972 Před 2 lety

    So someone with the same problems should search for a therapist that specializes in addiction issues? Is there such a thing out there? (To provide some context, I too want to escape my high dopamine routine and are currently in search for a therapist that works for me).

    • @LevXsg
      @LevXsg Před 2 lety +1

      There are therapists with specialization in Addiction, and treat specific addictions. They tend to charge more due to the specialization. Regular general therapists are able to help too and provide initial diagnosis. All the best! Take the first step :)

  • @traddcooper
    @traddcooper Před 2 lety +3

    Can we get a Dr. K reaction to Arcane?

  • @stevenmcqueen7433
    @stevenmcqueen7433 Před 2 lety +8

    I see otv getting their newest member psych eval'd lol

  • @4pfdattu605
    @4pfdattu605 Před 2 lety +1

    i watched this while eating while playing valorant

  • @janfkarel92
    @janfkarel92 Před 2 lety

    Rice and cheese is relatable, it’s kinda delicious for some odd reason

  • @xxstarrymistxx
    @xxstarrymistxx Před rokem +1

    i haven’t watched the vid yet but i’ve been struggling with BED for 6+ years and it fucking sucks. i lost the years that should have been the best to it. i lost potential friendships, relationships and opportunities because i was too busy struggling with food, weight, exercise, feeling depressed and hating myself and closing myself off from others because i was so unhappy and hated my body. my ed has consumed so much of my life and i still can’t get out. the longest i’ve gone without binging in these 6 years was a month but that only happened once. i binged every day for a while and usually it’s been 1-3 times a week. my bmi went from underweight to almost overweight, then 19, then just overweight, and i’m sitting at around 23 right now and feel so fucking fat and disgusting. just a constant battle with trying to lose weight, hating my body, bingeing, cutting, feeling depressed

    • @emilycarrots1990
      @emilycarrots1990 Před rokem

      I'm the same
      It's so hard
      I didn't know it's took so much of my life, I knew I had a prob but I thought going to the gym was gonna help take the anxiety away and I would eventually eat right
      But I was wrong
      It's been 3 months and I didn't lose any weight I just skipped gym classes and cried
      I was too hard on myslef for 3weeks then gave in and started again and gave in again
      Seriously it's soo exhausting,
      My mother told me I won't get in a relationship if i stay over weight, I feel so weird, and so ugly and gross
      I think of death sometimes
      I just get tired of trying, what do I do if I get older, get a job and maybe stay dingle all my life, boring
      I get a job and get married and have kids, bring as well cause I'm afraid I will be a bad mother and teach BED on accident
      I wish my parent caught up on me when uts was on first stages
      I wish I didn't binge in 2019 2020 2021
      Sigh
      I'm venting sorry...

    • @xxstarrymistxx
      @xxstarrymistxx Před rokem +1

      @@emilycarrots1990 i'm so sorry to hear. thankfully the gym does help me a lot and i'm sorry it didn't help you :( have u ever tried therapy or medication? it sounds like you might be struggling with depression and maybe anxiety as well. it is possible to get better even if it may not look like it right now

  • @najrenchelf2751
    @najrenchelf2751 Před rokem

    you play whack-a-mole with your addictions....
    that's a great sentence! XD

  • @Aaron31056
    @Aaron31056 Před 2 lety +1

    John reminds me so much of BoxBox

    • @Peapod901
      @Peapod901 Před 2 lety +1

      Boxbox was the one who invited him to streamer camp. Something along the lines of Jon watching him and playing with him at some point or smth and Box Box seeing his potential and John blew up after streamer camp

  • @JesusistheWaytheTruth288
    @JesusistheWaytheTruth288 Před 2 lety +7

    43:08 reminds me of the bible verse Luke 6:45 "The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks."

    • @aerduun1338
      @aerduun1338 Před 2 lety

      So what are the reverse of those outcomes? What would a good person out of the evil treasure of his heart produce? What does the evil person out of his good treasure produce?

    • @beratoren7627
      @beratoren7627 Před 2 lety

      @@aerduun1338 Outcome is God is not real.

  • @ohnotagain851
    @ohnotagain851 Před 2 lety +17

    For Masayoshi, check out Teal Swan's vid on bulimia, if you want...more answers. Never has another person topped that vid on this subject for me, also that on anxiety.

  • @raphaelrodriguez9564
    @raphaelrodriguez9564 Před 2 lety

    Nice