Control the controllables | Dr. Arman Taghizadeh | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity
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- čas přidán 26. 07. 2024
- We often get anxious/overwhelmed and stuck on things that are largely out of our control, which reinforces the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, discouragement and potentially depression. By choosing to direct our attention to those things within our control, we can better navigate the anxiety/fears/doubts that get in our way while improving our chances for success. Three things we can always control are effort, attitude and gratitude. Growing up as a child, Dr. T always wanted to become a teacher and a coach. After competing at the NCAA Division 1 level in wrestling, Dr. T ultimately chose to attend medical school and later did residency and fellowship in adult, child and adolescent psychiatry. Currently as a practicing board certified psychiatrist and sports psychiatrist, Dr. T has combined his knowledge and experience as a competitive athlete, medical doctor and mental health provider to come back to his “Square One.” He is privileged to provide mental health education, support and mindset training to patients, athletes, coaches, parents and competitive businesses. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
His honesty about his own struggles with failure and anxiety is refreshing. It's a good reminder that even successful people face challenges and doubts.
I love how he gives props to the role of family and community in shaping our values and goals. We don't achieve success in a vacuum!
It’s so true that focusing on winning can take the joy out of the process. We need to appreciate the journey more.
His insights on effort being largely mental are eye-opening and I agree a growth mindset and resilience are key. He's made some great points.
Interesting how he mentioned the impact of stress on students and athletes. Mental health is so crucial!
I really liked the part about focusing on 'effort, attitude, and gratitude.' It's such a simple attitude for approaching life and I think that can be way more helpful than all the over-complicated advice that's out there
the best and most succinct advice on finding your way in life to happiness and success. thank you for the reminder that failures are not only ok, but necessary in order to achieve your best self.
Love how the speaker connects his sports background with psychiatry, shows how diverse experiences shape us into whole and complex people
We are often training to do something else when we don't even realize it.
his point about embracing failure and using it as a learning opportunity is so important. We need to normalize failure as a necessary part of growth and success.
The concept of focusing on what we can control rather than what's out of our hands is a game-changer.
We have the power to simplify and take control of our effort, attitude and gratitude!
I like the way he breaks it down, in terms of what we can achieve in a day and how it all adds up.
I wish I had heard this talk when I was a student athlete. The pressure to succeed can be so overwhelming, and it's easy to lose sight of what really matters.
As someone who has faced my own mental health challenges, I love how he normalizes seeking support and prioritizing mental well-being. I don't think it's spoken about enough but maybe if it was there would be less stigma around people who struggle with their mental health
My one thing for today is finding this talk! Great advice delivered with that perfect combination of humility and confidence he was talking about!
Really appreciate that! Always find that ONE thing!
Great talk! Feel like I learn something new every time I listen to Dr T.
I think this is a really great reminder that success isn't just about luck - it's about taking control of our own destiny.
I am asking what is the problem with Khartoom Bank is so crowdy every day with customers ?
Focus on the things that you can control! Love that!
So important to Control the Controllables!
I love the idea of setting three areas of focus each day. It's a simple but effective way to stay organized and avoid getting overwhelmed.
It will really compound over time, 21/week, 90/month...
I've always struggled with the idea of failure, but reframing it as a "First Attempt In Learning" as he suggested makes so much sense. It’s all about how we view our challenges.
It truly is about a mindset. More failures will lead to more successes if you choose to reframe the concept of FAIL.
One of the smartest people I know. Thank you Dr. T
the wrestling analogy to life's struggles is so apt.
I think it's really cool how we can look back at our lives and pinpoint what each of our experiences has taught us, and I love hearing other people do it too, sounds like this guy got the perfect mix of qualities from each of his endeavours.
Thank you. It took a while but I realized that all my previous experiences were training me to be a doctor all along!
From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!
It's really special when you choose to closely link your passion to your profession.
smart talk - after today at work, needed to see this. Thank you Arman
Pretty glad to have seen this, I have a lot of anxiety and the whole idea of just focusing on what is on my control was good to hear.
Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !
Thank you! More failures will lead to more successes!
This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.
Awesome insights Dr. T, I really loved hearing about the translation of the attitude of an athlete into a professional setting. Very inspiring!
I love how he emphasizes the importance of focusing on the things we can control, like effort, attitude, and gratitude. It's a powerful mindset shift.
I really like this message. No point worrying or spending up all our time and energy obsessing over things we can't do anything about
We can choose to focus on what we CAN control each day: Effort, Attitude, Gratitude
"effort, attitude and gratitude, every single day." this is perfect advice.
So empowering! Thank you for sharing all of your wisdom Dr. T!
Thank you!
Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.
Mindset. Is. Everything!
I admire this man! I really enjoy the F.A.I.L, and watching him sing to us!!
We all remember that song right?!!! All about chunking in 3-5 pieces of info.
It's refreshing to hear a professional talk about the mental aspect of effort. I always thought of effort as just physical, but it's so much more. This video is a great reminder of that.
“First Attempt In Learning” - that's a keeper. Changes everything!
F.A.I.L. more failures means more successes!
This talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's uncontrollables. His personal anecdotes make the advice so relatable and actionable.
Aww I love that he and his wife have a nightly gratitude ritual and has to laugh when he said the athlete in him means he want his to be better lol that's a true competitive spirit
Amazing message, his advice and practices have had indelible effect on my life! Someone everyone can learn from!!
Love this TED talk and super important message. Thanks Dr T!
Thank YOU.
I thought the way he acknowledges the challenges of meeting expectations, managing pressure, and prioritizing mental health was particularly well thought out. It's a reminder that we're all human and it's okay to struggle sometimes.
The growth is in the struggle. More losses leads to more wins!
Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.
The reframe applies to so much more than just sports!
This really helped shift my focus to such a more positive light!
How and what you focus is a choice!
The world needs more people like Dr. T! What a fantastic job!
Thank you. We can all make the choice to control our controllables and we would all be happier and more successful.
So cool that he could take his experience from wrestling and apply them to medicine, talk about transferable skills!
Great presentation. Thank you Dr. T
Excellent talk. I sometimes forget how important mindset it in your daily life. Great tips and reminder! Good job Dr. T!
Mindset is Everything!
Amazing learning and great story! Its like you were put on this earth to be a fighter and a thinker of the best kind. An independent mind finding the best way to contribute to humanity.
Really appreciate this
Great words Dr. T!
F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.
Thank you. So much value in failure.
Mindset, mindset, mindset! Thanks for the reminder. I'm off to buy the t-shirt.
Mindset is one of the most powerful choices we have!
This guy helped me so much!! ❤ Thank you Dr. T :)
This talk really puts into perspective how to navigate anxiety and improve our chances for success.
We define anxiety as a feeling but it often stems from our thought process. If we choose to reframe our thoughts, we can change our feelings.
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity! Yes! More of this please!
Always remember: First/Further Attempts In Learning!
WISDOM! Success is as much about mindset as it is about skill.
Thank you. I would even say mindset>skill
This is POWERFUL !! Sharing 🙌🏼
Thank you! Please do.
Loved this! I will definitely take these lessons forward as I train for my next Triathalon - mindset is everything!
It sure is....and most importantly in any endurance race, remember to control the controllables!
Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.
Gratitude is the hardest one but the most important one!
this is awesome! the overall point of this is very important to me because I try to only focus on what I can control and not what I can't control!
I think it's really cool that he took the discipline from wrestling and applied it to his medical career. There are all kinds of transferable skills and strengths that we might not know about until we make the swap.
My life trajectory changed when I heard, "the world needs more wrestlers, the field of medicine needs more wrestlers!"
Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it
Appreciate you. Hoping others can be inspired to turn their passions into a profession.
Gratitude exercise sounds like something I should start doing
Intentional gratitude is highly correlated with sustained success! and its fun.
This is very inspiring! The fear of failure is a huge driving force of anxiety. Reframing failure itself is a great idea.
Thank you. We get to choose what we control and how we think of our circumstances.
From wrestler to medical school, that's quite a journey. Good talk Arman
ha, you beat me here. Love that we always find these TED gems...
Thank you! The journey is all about learning.
Love this! Can apply this to so many parts of my life.
You really can!
His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.
Thank you. When we simplify and focus on the process, we are more likely to improve outcomes.
This is an excellent video! Thank you for your insight Dr. T.
Thank you!
Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!
I wish I had these tools when I competed as well!
It's easy to get caught up in the academic grind and lose sight of why we chose this path in the first place.
It definitely can be. Simplifying to intentional areas of focus can really help.
This was a great watch. Learned a lot from it. Thanks for always inspiring Dr. T!
Thank you!
Chunking information for better memory seems like a great trick, definitely going to give it a go
3-5 pics of info or steps!
Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away
Really important to focus on the process to make it more enjoyable
I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!
"Maybe I was training to be a doctor all along so let me at least apply..."
The part where he talks about working out four times a day as an athlete was crazy. I can barely get to the gym more than once a week lol I wish I had some of that dedication
As someone who struggles with perfectionism, his message about letting go of control and focusing on effort is really helpful. Might be a bit tricky for me to put into practice though!
Good talk, needed to see this...
love this!!💚
Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!
Thank you. As athletes, professional and parents, the "controllables" always remain the same!
teamwork and mindset is something I try to instill in myself every day.
So important and so valuable.
Love this so much!! Thank you so much for the information and inspiring messages Dr. T!!
Great speech and I really enjoyed the way it emphasizes the importance of effort, attitude, and gratitude. It highlights the significance of embracing failures as opportunities for learning and growth. Overall, this video encapsulates the key elements I value in leadership and serves as a reminder to stay grounded and grateful while pursuing success.
When we simplify and reframe our experiences, we are more likely to be successful.
Great video. It takes a lot of discipline to be a D1 wrestler and eventually a doctor. You can tell he is passionate about his work.
Thank you! The values that wrestling instilled continue to hold for life beyond.
his point about focusing on the process rather than just the outcome is so important. It's easy to get so caught up in chasing success that we forget to enjoy the process and then when we do achieve the thing it's like... why do I do this?
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity is an attitude everyone should learn when growing up. Definitely a "controllable" in your toolkit.
Reframing is so important, so valuable and so controllable!
Not sure I buy into the idea that controlling our attitude is that easy but I guess it's worth a try
Great video, reframing failure is so powerful.
Reframing can make a major difference as the way we think directly influences emotions and actions.
What an amazing journey he has had following his passions and also being able to live up to his parents' expectations.
Once I simplified my areas of focus and controlled what I could control, my passions lined up with their dreams!
Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.
There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!
Appreciate the feedback and personal parallels
This is excellent
I'm all about this. No point putting your time and energy towards something that's ultimately not up to you to
When you control what you can control, you dedicate your time and energy to things that matter
I struggle with knowing what I actually do control, and thats where it all starts for me and the spiral down gets faster.
Focus on EFFORT, ATTITUDE, and GRATITUDE!
Balancing familial expectations with personal aspirations can be tough stuff.
Its a struggle but also a privilege
It's not often you hear about the lessons learned from sports translating into success in other fields like medicine. Pretty cool stuff
The parallels are powerful.
Remembering to have the right mindset for the task at hand can sometimes be the missing X factor to success.
Mindset is Everything!
Pretty cool to hear a dude who was a wrestler talk about the brain being the most important muscle.
First. Attempt. In. Learning. It's only a failure if we let it be!
and the FAIL can also help you grow if you let it!
Being taught from an early age to reframe failure as a lesson would benefit us all. Not sure how that'd align with certain parents expectations though 😅😅
I don't think enough sporting coaches realize in full the impact they can make in someones life, on or off the field.
It was interesting around the 7:35 mark. Anytime I hear a question like that my mind just goes blank, no instant answers. I guess I need to sit down and get to know myself better or something
Damn the bit about negative thoughts being psychologically stronger than positive ones blew me away wtf is up with that ???