Why do people talk shit behind your back and how to handle it?

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  • I am a big believer of "intention"
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Komentáře • 276

  • @jhimp2457
    @jhimp2457 Před 3 lety +367

    People talk behind’s someone back when they haven’t done anything to you is out of jealousy

    • @Hugs4drugs08
      @Hugs4drugs08 Před 3 lety +9

      I’ve been discriminated behind my back by let’s say 50 people at school, of my facial hairs and what so ever. I don’t think it’s jealousy.

    • @captainhotbunz659
      @captainhotbunz659 Před 2 lety +25

      @@Hugs4drugs08 Sometimes it is and sometimes people are just mean and they don't understand out of ignorance.
      So it depends on the situation. Either way mean people suck, but don't ever let those negative mined people have free rent in your head, mostly the people that will treat you bad hate their own soul....it's the truth and looks don't mean crap....being a good genuine person is rewarding and in time will bring you what you need, trust the process and don't worry what others say about you because at the end of the day do they matter? No they don't, but you do, remember that and take care! Wish you the best dude!

    • @Hugs4drugs08
      @Hugs4drugs08 Před 2 lety +4

      @@captainhotbunz659 sorry for the late reply, thanks for the feedback. I’m just trying not to take things personal. ;)

    • @alexmunoz6682
      @alexmunoz6682 Před 2 lety +16

      Usually it’s because they see you as inferior. Only people I’ve ever dealt with that, shitted on me behind my back. Were usually more well off then me. Zero respect

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney Před 2 lety +4

      Yessss I’ve been lied on and drug through the mud constantly

  • @youtubeaccount1978
    @youtubeaccount1978 Před 4 lety +293

    Thank you man, this helped me realize that if people wanna talk smack then that’s their problem not mine

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +30

      100% remember, misery loves company.

    • @seba187
      @seba187 Před 3 lety +4

      Na someone talked on my back imma crack them no cap

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před 3 lety +1

      For real.

    • @talesfromthestreet4448
      @talesfromthestreet4448 Před 3 lety +7

      @@seba187 I feel it..💯 but some times fighting fire with fire isn't the answer....when it's smarter to jus use water.. doing something violent can put u in a situation where u can end up taking away from your self down the road and that could have been their main agenda to make you lose in the long run....chess not checkers jus saying ....bruh there's levels to this shiid..play the game to win!!!

    • @takemeasahydrationreminder662
      @takemeasahydrationreminder662 Před 2 lety

      @@seba187 what if that person is the same age as your father ?

  • @murphheard4036
    @murphheard4036 Před 3 lety +160

    I needed this because I was gonna get violent but I can’t lower myself to who they are because I’m meant to be above them

  • @pkj7116
    @pkj7116 Před 3 lety +91

    i just found out my only "real friend" was a ctually talking behind my back/making fun of me

    • @matthewpanggabean5415
      @matthewpanggabean5415 Před 3 lety +4

      u‘ll get through it bro

    • @rosicass4481
      @rosicass4481 Před 3 lety +3

      Me too

    • @MrRashef
      @MrRashef Před 2 lety +5

      Same story, we must stay strong

    • @chuugumis
      @chuugumis Před 2 lety +1

      Me too, we can get through this

    • @user-ih5bp5sf6k
      @user-ih5bp5sf6k Před 2 lety +9

      Same with me. And worse he pretended that things between us are ok for a year. We must stay strong and keep going

  • @ColorMeRado
    @ColorMeRado Před 3 lety +63

    What people feel/say about you is none of your business. That being said it's hard when it's family.

    • @KDeds21
      @KDeds21 Před 2 lety +22

      Nasty people slandering you and damaging your reputation behind your back is"none of your buisiness"?
      You sure about that?

    • @imperialyoshi8624
      @imperialyoshi8624 Před 8 měsíci

      Especiallilly when your messed up finnacillay and they aredragging you back and your forced to deal with there anger I know but hey we all have problems I can see because my parents have the same problem but the only difference I know my enemies wants me to fall but I won’t give it tontheme thanks may you rise up .

    • @vvvvel
      @vvvvel Před 20 dny

      It is definitely my business if you're starting a smear campaign...

  • @Geno20916
    @Geno20916 Před 3 lety +46

    I deleted Facebook and Instagram. My life is so much better.

    • @wolfmaster8191
      @wolfmaster8191 Před 3 lety

      You're great

    • @captainhotbunz659
      @captainhotbunz659 Před 2 lety +1

      Did it really? I've been thinking for a while now that I should do the same..... for my own health benefits.

  • @nygel8455
    @nygel8455 Před 4 lety +82

    Thankyou man. Your son is blessed to have you. most of those people he’s worried about won’t matter in 5 years anyway.

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +5

      Thank you! That's right!... We get so caught up in the moment and stop to realize that one day... none of it will matter at all. \

  • @lol-op1cb
    @lol-op1cb Před 3 lety +57

    I live in a small town and everyones talking about my back this is going to be hard to try and ignore them it's annoying because they dont know me well enough to try and talk behind my back so this helped me a lot

    • @mrban1419
      @mrban1419 Před 3 lety +9

      Small towns are lame they do it out of boredom plus you’re probably quiet and reserved like I am so they don’t know what to make of you that makes people uncomfortable try being a little more open with people in a positive way they’ll say positive things about you

    • @ZestySoul
      @ZestySoul Před 3 lety +8

      Got a similar situation happening where I currently reside mate! Except no-one likes the people in my town anyway. Lol Just brush it off, people who flock together against someone particularly a person they don’t even know are weak as piss.. nothing more than scumbags! They’re lives are obviously very mundane and they’ve got nothing better to be doing. Think about how pathetic that is and pity them, be the better man and ignore it.

  • @Amelia-qg9po
    @Amelia-qg9po Před 3 lety +28

    I think humans have an instinct to talk behind someone’s back, like it’s in their nature and they’ve done it lots of times throughout the man history, so now it’s like a normal way of life to talk behind someone’s back. But this kind of behavior manly happens on social media, and in schools, workplaces etc. As many people don’t even know they are being back chatted about, but some people can sense people talking behind their back throughout their instincts. As body language can tell people a lot, you may seem very short with the person you’re talking behind as you know they might find out what you’ve said, or even know what you’ve said. But Chinese whispers go on a lot in my school, that’s why I just stay out of everyone’s business and be very wise with picking my friends

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 3 lety +2

      Yes, it feels as if its natural... I believe it's just a way for people that are stuck in some way and they can't get themselves to rise above without putting someone else down.

  • @Bm27him
    @Bm27him Před 2 lety +9

    Short answer: Ignore them because they are cowards that's why they don't say it to ur face.

  • @bushballistics329
    @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci +2

    My son is very sympathetic, and kind hearted also.
    My favorite advice for him all the time is ...
    1- only you define who you are and nobody else does. Think about your intentions and if they're always good, that's what matters. Don't let anybody tell you who you are. I also tell him it's good to analyze yourself in your behaviors and your triggers.
    2- you only responsible for the words you intended to say or actions you intended to do and you are not responsible for how others interpret it. They are twisting your words and turning your intentions into negative Simply tell him that's unacceptable you're not gonna do that.
    3-it's OK to confront people no matter what position they hold. People in high positions are not always right, and they definitely are no better than anybody else. If you confront them in the proper manner, you have every right to do that.

  • @Clarrissaharrison
    @Clarrissaharrison Před 7 měsíci +3

    I be hearing people talk crap behind my back I be hearing them in the next room like duh I can hear you they very bold about it

  • @doctorz3518
    @doctorz3518 Před 3 lety +26

    When I was in Highschool my classmates always talk shit about me for being different, cus Im a transferee. I realized that they are bringing me down to make themselves feel good and look good in front of their mates. But boy I learned to be wiser

    • @stannwjnstxt
      @stannwjnstxt Před rokem

      hey i'm facing the same thing rn..can ik what you did for that? i'm trying to ignore as many ppl said but they'll never stop talking shit abt me..it already reached my patience limit, i can't stand it anymore

    • @leavemealone7108
      @leavemealone7108 Před rokem

      @@stannwjnstxt show you not afraid of them and fight one of em because that shit shouldn't be continuing.

  • @iloveyouso4747
    @iloveyouso4747 Před 2 lety +17

    A person in my gym class was talking about me and said I was really weird and that they didn’t like me. My friend told cause she overheard. I literally talked to this person once. It really hurts. I don’t want people to about me badly, and I didn’t want any drama with anyone. I care so much about what people think about me it actually sucks.

    • @clint1285
      @clint1285 Před 2 lety

      that person really sucks

    • @bushballistics329
      @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci

      I understand the feeling about caring how others think. When I was young, I would walk into a store and if somebody looked at me, I always thought it was negative. It's not and maybe they think you're beautiful.
      There's always gonna be a mean person around the corner. I love everything about yourself even if you got goofy stuff and let it shine. It was given to you to shine.
      I always say nowadays that if people want to talk about me, I hope it's a juicy story . Let them do their thing because others will figure it out eventually. And if they don't then, no sweat off my butt crack. 😂 he won't like everybody and not everybody's gonna like us and that's OK.

  • @mrhorsepower1526
    @mrhorsepower1526 Před 3 lety +8

    My only true friend..is myself. I always share the positive freely with all..and refuse to let anyone or anything take it away

  • @lookingforfreewifi
    @lookingforfreewifi Před 3 lety +45

    This was such good advice. I'm similar like your son in regards to empathy. Nobody told me as a kid though, so I am still struggling with abusive people taking advantage of me to this very day.

    • @jerrenewest1983
      @jerrenewest1983 Před 2 lety +6

      Me too it's so daunting. I've been told to keep working on boundaries, so many people take advantage of easy going people. I know how it feels I struggle with the same.

    • @leavemealone7108
      @leavemealone7108 Před rokem +1

      I hope you get rid of them 🙏💙

    • @murgegaming4483
      @murgegaming4483 Před rokem +2

      Hope you find the real ones in life 🙂

    • @bushballistics329
      @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci +1

      I am 49 years old, and I was always intimidated as a young kid, and grew up with none of this advice. I figured it out the hard way. Yes it's tough but we can do it. Just changing our way thinking a little bit to feel healthy❤

  • @jamarmitchell8861
    @jamarmitchell8861 Před 2 lety +3

    People who talk about someone behind thier back and not to thier face are cowards

  • @l0ver526
    @l0ver526 Před 3 lety +56

    people talk bad about me for no reason in school behind my back :((( and i dont even talk to them

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před 3 lety +17

      And this hurts you why? When they add no value to your life?

    • @captainhotbunz659
      @captainhotbunz659 Před 2 lety +9

      They are haters and when 'teens' or kids do this most hate their own soul and have crappy home life's, however that doesn't make it right....but you just keep being you and don't even worry about those kids, because at the end of the day they don't matter at all only your friends and family do! Take care dude!

    • @manufacturedpie4118
      @manufacturedpie4118 Před 2 lety

      Yeah this also happens to me....... and one or two of them are my 2nd cousins........... I’m stuck in the mud and I don’t know what to do

    • @Teencat
      @Teencat Před měsícem

      ​@mstwelvedeadlycyns I know this is an old comment but I will answer it. It destroys their reputation. Before you know it, no one wants to be your lab partner, sit with you at lunch, and you feel isolated. Isolation IS psychologically harmful in the short and long term. Humans are wired to be social. We end up not learning social norms, and picking up bad habits, when our peers isolate us. Furthermore, lonely people have shorter life-spans.

  • @Cubanqueenx
    @Cubanqueenx Před 3 měsíci +1

    It is a simple as this: ones who talk behind your back , you make them feel some type of way about themselves. You see, they KNOW that you know, without a doubt or question, who you are and they will say anything to make you question yourself. They'll talk bad about you to someone else just to have them question it as well.
    It should give you great pride that they talk about you, do not feel bad that they do, carry yourself with extreme light- because you are the light. They are trying to dim.

  • @hillerm
    @hillerm Před 2 lety +6

    In my experience, you should always be weary of people who constantly complain and talk trash about other people. You may think you’re cool with those people, but they’re likely talking about you as well.

    • @jman7287
      @jman7287 Před rokem +4

      I’ve always thought this. If you talking about this person to me, what the hell are you saying about?
      Mind of matter, don’t mind them because they don’t matter.

  • @purposedriven1329
    @purposedriven1329 Před 3 lety +22

    Listening to this makes me feel to cry... because this is exactly what happened to me. However, ignoring them has to go with practice.... especially when “emotions are involved “. But thanks man appreciate. Love from Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹

    • @nolifezay4636
      @nolifezay4636 Před 2 lety

      How tf do u ignore bruh

    • @nolifezay4636
      @nolifezay4636 Před 2 lety

      U feel like a bitch if ur silent

    • @purposedriven1329
      @purposedriven1329 Před 2 lety

      @@nolifezay4636 that is an EXTREMELY difficult thing to do especially if you had genuinely loved the person(talking from experience). What I did I prayed and develop love for other things and became preoccupied by them… I also removed Everything that reminded me of that person… I looked at videos (such as this one) to help me get over, the major ones… because there are some where you wouldn’t be able to change… you have to strengthen your mind with the understanding that “those things “ would not change. Stay strong… it WILL GET BETTER. And look at it this way, try and make yourself become better rather than bitter. You’ll be fine🙏🏾

  • @MoonMahmood
    @MoonMahmood Před 3 lety +32

    Great video and kind words! Absolutely agree with your message! Some people just have nothing better to do besides talk about others in a negative way because it makes themselves feel important. Stay at it! 👊😀

  • @a..88
    @a..88 Před 2 lety +10

    It's because they're too scared to say it to my face.

  • @jonjonhyper8324
    @jonjonhyper8324 Před 3 lety +2

    I just really want to thank you with all my heart, thank you sir God bless you! Because what you said is absolutely true to the max
    When Haters, naysayers say you or try to tell others to "hate" u. They seem that they are trying to be the good guy/Samaritan to educate others on how bad of a person you are in the hope to be seen as an angel. And is easy for me to get affected. Just like yr son, I'm an empath so I take things like this super super fast! And in a bad way, it can cause emotional distress. But what u said abt really understanding "what's their agenda". Are they truly bothered or they just want you to feel bad to be able to gain something! And when you put things into perspective and see the larger picture, you will realize that hey that hater isn't like intentionally trying to be the good guy educate others to don't like u because he "cares" for others. He just wanted others to look at him like the good guy to gain favors! It's always easy to react because we are humans. We react to distress but its always at best to cool it, look at it from a wider angle. Analyze and truly realize that, when u figure out someone's agenda. You are able to better plan yr tactics when fighting it!
    And for that, I would like to thank you sir for awakening that in me because I'm going thru a hard time now. And this, made me realize things I thought I couldn't! Thank you sir, God bless you!

  • @humairasheikh9203
    @humairasheikh9203 Před 3 lety +14

    Thank you for this great advice. You have said exactly the truth,intentions matter at the end of the day always and we have to figure them out. Know our intention and the other person's intention.

  • @m-3192
    @m-3192 Před 3 lety +14

    This really help me today and it keeps me from hurting my self I'm so sick of everyone picking on me or talking about me so bad like nobody understands me I'm not a bad person:"""( they just love to put me down idk why

    • @placitasdelsalon395
      @placitasdelsalon395 Před 2 lety +1

      You are a great person don’t forget that, what you think of is the most important! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @Hozanaa
    @Hozanaa Před 4 lety +14

    Thanks buddy, this was a huge peace maker for me. There are people who go around spoiling my relationship behind my back and I just don't understand it because I don't even know these people at a personal level. They over hear somethings and assume. They lie to reflect their own insecurities. And I just feel like confronting them. There was a time when I was extremely focused on my studies that any guy who wanted to date me, I simply ignored them. I really didn't feel any emotional connection with them in order for me to go ahead. I had no time to date and flirt around. I just wanted to study. These very men went out telling everyone that I have a lot of attitude and I have been doing things that's none of their business. People gossip and it turns ugly and the next moment you find out that you're a laughing stock. I try ignoring it but then when my parents over hear those gossips about me, that really starts affecting my personal health and emotional well being. At that moment I just feeling like getting a hold of that source and asking as if you are a perfect human being and ask if they are God that they got that right to judge someone whom you don't even know.

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +3

      Yes, its human nature for some people to talk bad about others to make themselves feel better. Ignoring them takes away that power. Best of luck. Dont forget to smile through it all.

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před 3 lety

      @@realfranciscolopez Exactly they are not gods!

  • @medinamdn903
    @medinamdn903 Před 4 lety +11

    Thank you to share this. I’m literally facing my depression now because of my personal life problem and to those people who I used to call them MY FRIENDS turned out they played me. Planned to destroy me and talking bad stuff behind my back. All these cause me really big bad time in my life which I never get through it yet.
    But your video makes me understand why they’ve done all that. It’s not an accident it’s not a white lies stuff it’s nothing but hated.
    I can’t do anything but leave them and walked away.
    Hope they have a great life continue living with their jealousy mental illness.

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +1

      It's unfortunate how many people that we consider friends can hurt us so bad.... It's only because we give them the power to do so because we trust them blindly. This doesn't mean we stop trusting or stop loving.. Just know that it can happen again... and again... and again.... Until one day, it doesn't happen anymore and your truly found that one true, super loyal friend. Always make sure to be a true loyal friend yourself.

  • @fellahz07
    @fellahz07 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for this. I really needed this today because of my fear of someone twisting my words/actions even if I don't have any intention of hurting or offending someone. I've had that trauma that I feel like I'm the "bad" person because of how people judge me resulting to a negative feedback from others. But because of this, I was enlightened and decided to stop doubting myself. Thank you!

  • @dianewilkins4418
    @dianewilkins4418 Před 4 lety +19

    Thank you for your insights, brother 🙏🏾

  • @UnknownUnknown-zj3pz
    @UnknownUnknown-zj3pz Před 4 lety +9

    You make a great point. Technically, intention is important. Hope your son well

  • @DROPSHIPCAPTAIN
    @DROPSHIPCAPTAIN Před 2 lety +5

    10:19 that is relatable to me right now I needed to hear this and understand this thank you for helping me get the hell out of this negative mindset I had an hour ago over some dramatic crybaby…

  • @bushballistics329
    @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci

    I think what you're doing is great. Glad to know there's somebody else out here spreading those words to the young ones or anybody that needs to hear it. Some of the elders haven't learned it yet, so it's good for them too.

  • @karenraymond2302
    @karenraymond2302 Před 4 lety +8

    Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @MS-ns4ki
    @MS-ns4ki Před rokem +2

    No idea what the benefit of nit picking me all day long , but the world is watching it . Help.

  • @ruthel8900
    @ruthel8900 Před rokem

    Thank you. This is the most on point message yet this perspective is so unique.

  • @therealchrisshaddy1982
    @therealchrisshaddy1982 Před 4 lety +5

    Thank you man like really thank you your video put me in a different mind set I recently lost a good job paying me $21.90 a hour due to chasing my ex girlfriend that worked there and didn’t want shit to do with me told my personal business on what I’ve been dealing with as far as getting help but the thing is I tried so hard to get her to understand I loved her it was always bumps in the road she didn’t want her family knowing about me cause I’m black & she’s salvadorian and I stopped loving myself to please her and always wanted to make her happy and I lost myself in the process as well as my job behind all this while she still works there and it’s been hard to deal with but I needed this I really did thanks man.

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +1

      It's so easy to lose ourselves by trying to make others love us. Just remember to always love yourself more than anyone else. Be true to yourself and work on becoming the best version of yourself. You will become a magnet to the perfect person for you and everything will be in alignment.

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před 3 lety

      Yes get another girlfriend after learning to love yourself!

  • @controloz3310
    @controloz3310 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Thanks for that. It’s still a shitty feeling when you realise something like this has been happening to you yet no one will be up front and tell you. I have trouble letting go of those feelings. My anxiety is my worst enemy.

  • @jimungalosirliftalot4395
    @jimungalosirliftalot4395 Před 3 lety +5

    Mate thankyou so much!!! This advice was so helpful. Seriously man, changed my whole approach to a certain situation!

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 3 lety

      Happy to hear it... Hope things are much better now, Happy new year!

  • @BrinChan
    @BrinChan Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much!! this video really helped me

  • @frankjdm4636
    @frankjdm4636 Před 3 lety +2

    My Mom Hangs out with people in her family who are really poor in Tijuana Mexico Border and their houses are made out of thin wood, pallets and cardboard you can tell that they talk shit about us because we are well off everytime we go visit we dont show off or try and act like were better than them but some of them really think that we are trying to be better than them for some reason when we are not my Mom taught us better than that and we are all humble. Every time I say "Hi" my cousins they kind of act like they dont care and Ive finally came to find out they been talking smack about us my mom helps them out financially alot and they still have the audacity to pretend to be her good friends when all they care about is 💰 they are Lazy and dont want to work hard but yet they talk smack because they see us well off and assume that we think we are higher than them when that had never even crossed my mind, im ready to cut off their toxic relationship.

  • @aliciaayala6650
    @aliciaayala6650 Před 4 lety +8

    Never thought about that the intention is behind it...having issues at work.

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +1

      Yes.. By figuring out the intention, it's easier for us to understand the meaning.

  • @JB-zx2py
    @JB-zx2py Před 3 lety +4

    Stumbled across this. Pretty good. I subscribed

  • @purple_gipsy4825
    @purple_gipsy4825 Před 3 lety +4

    Gracias! Necesitaba escuchar esto!!! Muchas gracias!!!!

  • @sheelamehta7594
    @sheelamehta7594 Před 7 měsíci

    This is so true,, I am working j the same place for about 9 years now and 4 years ago I came to know that the person who I was talking most of the time she was a coward. She talk behind back of every single person she talks to, when I came to know I started ignoring her and doesn't consider what she says about anyone. She always have a judgment to make on every single person and it's really brain washing anyone's mind. I feel so better after reducing all the conversations we use to have and NM ow I don't even care what she says.

  • @ladolceafeqa
    @ladolceafeqa Před 2 lety +1

    I listen to this, this morning. Really helpful 😊

  • @neverendingchores
    @neverendingchores Před 3 lety +2

    Love it!

  • @enriquessupporter
    @enriquessupporter Před 21 dnem

    I heard my boss badmouth about me to another employee. The things I heard from him shattered me to the soul. I wish I can get over it someday. It was Hard to believe that someone would have so much hatred for me. 😞

  • @SpidermanTibor
    @SpidermanTibor Před 3 lety +1

    great, i love it!

  • @MagicOfAM
    @MagicOfAM Před 2 lety +8

    My closest people from relatives talk behind my back without me doing anything to them, they're trying so hard to make me look bad and I don't know why... I'm so frustrated

    • @Joe-ix6sw
      @Joe-ix6sw Před rokem

      Fuck them

    • @Yo-ic2go
      @Yo-ic2go Před rokem

      I have the same issue with a random person I barely know, like it's creeping me out and I'm starting to think he has an obsession with me as this has been going on since high-school.
      I just want you to know I'm 21 years old 😂

  • @ritchiebarbier7716
    @ritchiebarbier7716 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you, man.

  • @101reading
    @101reading Před 2 lety +1

    This helped me from what i heard right next to my ears. Thankyou very much.

  • @riffatparveen3607
    @riffatparveen3607 Před 3 lety +12

    Everyone in my school chats behind my back and say I act to hard and that before I used to act like a crybaby so why am I acting hard now

    • @gmbappe2077
      @gmbappe2077 Před 3 lety

      Yeah everyone talks about me in school they laugh at me for being dumb in maths they laugh at me for getting the wrong answer.

    • @gmbappe2077
      @gmbappe2077 Před 3 lety

      I'm tired of people talking about me

  • @johnsantos2.044
    @johnsantos2.044 Před rokem +2

    I appreciate this at work it's difficult I had someone spreading negativity and talking about me and everyone else. I say let them talk I know my worth and I'm learning to let things go I'm very empathetic I'm trying to learn to do better

  • @genasoriano559
    @genasoriano559 Před rokem +1

    I love your approached thank you for sharing this nice message.👍 I learned something from it. And I agree when you said that as long as you don't owe anybody or you if you didn't do anything wrong you can sleep good at night that's the "conscience". Nice message👍

  • @bushballistics329
    @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci +1

    What an awesome dad, you are. I didn't have one like you, but I'm definitely being a mom like you. Heck yeah break those chains. Woo woo.

  • @williamstafford8324
    @williamstafford8324 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for helping me out 😍👍

  • @anivad15
    @anivad15 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you for this video, I necessarily needed this

  • @gurnoorsingh4732
    @gurnoorsingh4732 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks! for this great lesson this lesson gives me the perfect mindset for my holelife in this situation 😊👍

  • @tyreesebrown5483
    @tyreesebrown5483 Před 2 lety +3

    When people talk behind my back I don’t pay them no mind they are just jealous of me I just move on and ignore them I don’t need negative people in my life

  • @jpeg4tw
    @jpeg4tw Před 4 lety +11

    i've been backstabbed and feel like my friends are talking behind my back :/

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +2

      That's going to happen ALWAYS unfortunately. It's ok. It's out of our control. Just keep being you, smile and wave. 😁

    • @jpeg4tw
      @jpeg4tw Před 4 lety +2

      @@realfranciscolopez yeah, i'll just keep living the bestest life i can. thanks for the great video though! 😀😁

  • @leoarocha4552
    @leoarocha4552 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for the advice this problem bothering me for a long time

  • @bushballistics329
    @bushballistics329 Před 5 měsíci

    Wow, I love it because you went right into intentions after I did my last comment. We are definitely on the same page.❤

  • @kaylinhsieh
    @kaylinhsieh Před 4 lety +23

    thanks for making this video, this refreshed my mindset on life and communications with people around me :)

  • @mvrkaba5133
    @mvrkaba5133 Před 2 lety +2

    I'm always worried about what people think about me and I also think everyone hates me and talks about me behind my back. I always want to know why they say the things they do. What did I do to provoke their behavior, but I guess that's it. It's THEIR behavior. So it's like I stick to myself and don't bother anyone yet they hate me for it. It's so hard to ignore it. Sometimes I want to ask them why. Sometimes I hope bad things happen to them. Sometimes I pray for them to self heal, but I can't ever just not give it my attention. I'm struggling on how to regulate my emotions every day and when these situations happen I don't know what to do. It's tough. I'm also scared they want to hurt me as well. So do I hurt them before they hurt me? Do I just ignore it as best as I can until they first get physical with me and then have to protect myself. I'm like an emotional roller coaster.

  • @donatotaa3713
    @donatotaa3713 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you sir your video I learn some thing to you god bless to all!!!!

  • @aprilausthetic443
    @aprilausthetic443 Před rokem

    I really needed this this girl was talking smack about me because I was freinds with people she didn’t like and then she just started progressing into more hurtful things but you know what I’m her loss she’s not mine

  • @VictorMartinez-by4nj
    @VictorMartinez-by4nj Před 4 lety +5

    Thank you!

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 4 lety +1

      👍🏼😁👍🏼

    • @VictorMartinez-by4nj
      @VictorMartinez-by4nj Před 4 lety +1

      The Greatest Salesman in the World I needed to hear this from someone outside my direct circle. To keep it brief, I’m back in an industry I used work in over 1.6 yrs ago. I reached out as a friend/professional to a few old contacts to check in and say hello. Never with intention to “steal” or not once did I even bad-mouth former employee. I made it a point to even tell my former employer this. Well, long story short, that former employer is still messaging contacts tell them “everything unprofessional” and how I lost my integrity and told me I should be ashamed. I’ve talked it out with my friends and family, but your video spoke to me. I do have a clear conscience. I do sleep well. I know it my heart that the few contacts I reached out were pure good intention and after all this, I know I should pay attention to Me and how I know I did nothing wrong. Thank you!

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 3 lety

      @@VictorMartinez-by4nj SUPER HAPPY to read this. I hope things are great now!

  • @jerrenewest1983
    @jerrenewest1983 Před 2 lety +1

    Very good imput to think about. I don't always think of how people benefit from criticism but in their manipulate minds they sure can.

  • @marcobazalar762
    @marcobazalar762 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Great show this kind of happened to me but I forget sometimes

  • @18maxx87
    @18maxx87 Před 3 lety +2

    😌Thanks man I got the answers

  • @pac5290
    @pac5290 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you man I had a fight 3 years ago and I lost and loads of people in a different school are complaining about it and still talking about it behind my back Francisco's what should I do

  • @huntermyers9607
    @huntermyers9607 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for making this video

  • @lifewithladyT
    @lifewithladyT Před 2 lety

    thank you for this

  • @connordennis1881
    @connordennis1881 Před 3 lety +2

    Had this bully at college who got banned from college today my friend told me that he was calling me a pussy on the phone behind my back I think it’s just stupid of people to do it behind your back but can’t say it to your face rip bullies

  • @LongliveHe
    @LongliveHe Před 3 lety +2

    I’ve noticed over the past few months my friend for over 5 years has been talking bs behind my back and this hasn’t been the first time. My friend use to be friends names “jack” (made up name) they always bullied me but I never thought it was a lot. Then he got close to another friend and talked bs behind my back again but now they dont say it infront of me cause I can stand up to some of the bullying that happens. I’m trying to separate from them but fact of the matter is I have no friends.

  • @ponyo2011
    @ponyo2011 Před 5 lety +5

    Great video and great saying in Spanish carnal.
    I think that this is a really important and valuable message my man,
    Specially for our young ones,and it is all about intention. Good luck to panchito jr. And congrats on your social media success.
    Que dios me los bendiga,
    Your friend,
    Chris.

  • @MiniKodjo
    @MiniKodjo Před 3 měsíci

    Ignoring isnt not always an option. I basically been outcasted because my supposed best friend was jealous of me and where talking shit in my back. I let it go and lost valuable friendships

  • @melanniemisola6478
    @melanniemisola6478 Před rokem

    wow!! this is so great!~~ Thanks so much

  • @porksoda2342
    @porksoda2342 Před 4 lety +4

    thank you

  • @fazrielrayyan1574
    @fazrielrayyan1574 Před 2 lety +2

    Ive been dealing with this for almost 3 years now.also i have a toxic family so it isnt easy for me

  • @megatronusprime4824
    @megatronusprime4824 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @prabhvirk9314
    @prabhvirk9314 Před 3 lety +4

    Should I finish this relationship?

  • @robertv7199
    @robertv7199 Před 3 lety +3

    Great video bro

  • @kush7138
    @kush7138 Před 3 lety +2

    Man I've dealt with this noise plenty of times with my cousins.
    My family always supported them emotionally and financially yet we get treated like outsiders and they talk shit about us.
    Its funny because one of them lost their job because he thought I was supposed to be his forever ride since we used to work the same job.

  • @NEENABORDEAUX
    @NEENABORDEAUX Před 2 lety +1

    This was so amazing 🥲

  • @donatotaa3713
    @donatotaa3713 Před 3 lety +2

    I like your show sir I learn something to share to my son god bless you sir

  • @fatimabaali661
    @fatimabaali661 Před 3 lety +5

    I m moroccan and sometimes i have an accent in my talking, so today my "best friend" for 5yrs and a friend i know this yr start making fun of it next to, u know when thdy make fun of u in front of u with whispering and laughing, whenever i talk they start this. What hurt me is that best fds don't do that to each other, normaly they got each other s back

    • @TSGC16
      @TSGC16 Před 3 lety

      Stay strong okhti🇲🇦

    • @worthytv7718
      @worthytv7718 Před 2 lety

      Tell them that what they do hurts you, warm them 2 times, if they continue cut them off, and u can never know their intention, it could be not to hurt you, I and my friends tease and insult each other, but not everyone likes that

  • @3sarahfrank
    @3sarahfrank Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you so much for this! It really helped me! True ..”El que nada debe, nada teme!”

  • @terrencemilton5088
    @terrencemilton5088 Před 3 lety +4

    Theyll talk weather everything is going good theyll talk when everything is going bad. Pay them no attention.

  • @sisyize
    @sisyize Před 9 měsíci

    You know what is the worse that you trusted someone and at the moments you are not there they twisted and make their own version of it.

  • @Lord_Heron
    @Lord_Heron Před rokem +2

    I disagree that if you hurt someone despite having 'good' intentions that 'it is on them'. Remember the saying that ' The road to Hell is paved with good intentions'? Many unspeakable acts have been carried out with 'Good' intentions. For me it is better to take ownership of ALL of your intentions both 'good' and 'bad' and if you don't like the things you are doing, then work on eliminating those actions from your life.

    • @sisyize
      @sisyize Před 9 měsíci

      Sometimes you do not know that you hurt someone rather they took it wrong way and here they are suffering or worse planning revenge when the easiest will be said you hurt me and give you the opportunity to apologized.

  • @musaic452
    @musaic452 Před 25 dny

    changed from one of the best schools in my country to be in a public school with my friends long story short they arent my friends anymore and now are trying to bully me (5v1) i stick up for myself best i can but man im so tired idk what to do

  • @sophemia420
    @sophemia420 Před 10 měsíci

    thank you. I'm trying not to have an anxiety attack bc I just saw one girl that reopened wounds for me...
    Story: I knew girl A who struggled with mental health, and sometimes I'd ask her how shes doing, and comfort her, bc I thought thats what good friends do. And I even told her she can tell me if I do smt she doesn't like, so that I know not to do that anymore.
    Well... Instead of telling me she didn't want me to ask how she's doing, she told everyone else. I found out bc I overheard her talking shit abt me behind my back.
    She also made me have an anxiety attack in a school bathroom, bc she got mad at me over a misunderstanding, and thus decided to guilt trip me by telling me that I trigger her. And ofc, back then I still wanted to be a good friend to her, so I asked what I did that triggered her, and guess what? She goes like "oh I don't want to make you upset by telling you 🙃" 1. I was already upset bc I thought I was a horrible person and a horrible friend. 2. The misunderstanding got cleared up, and she acted so casual like nothing happened, but for months afterwards I felt like I was constantly walking on extra fragile eggshells around her BC I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT BEHAVIOUR "triggered" her. 3. She definitely did it on purpose bc she was mad at me.
    So, she definitely shit talked me to girl B, and twisted the narrative abt me to make me look like a bad person. Well, a few weeks ago I moved, and today guess who I saw; girl B. I just want to cry and disappear. I want my mom to come comfort me. I feel like girl B could be shit talking abt me right now... I don't want to see girl A or B. Girl A shattered my self-esteem and girl B believes what girl A says.
    I just wish I could tell girl B the truth abt what really happened, but I'm too afraid to even look at her.

  • @therryandpaol3430
    @therryandpaol3430 Před 3 lety +4

    I believe so I’m on day 43 and one of my friends are starting to pick on me because of the way I dress out of no where don’t know why.💫💫💫💯💯💯💯

  • @kristelbaculi5048
    @kristelbaculi5048 Před rokem

    What if the one talking behind your back are your ‘friends’? How do you deal with it? Do you confront them or just cut them off?

  • @titorobless5893
    @titorobless5893 Před 3 lety

    I've been called out multiple times by ny own best friend behind my back and in front of me. He tries to make me jealous whenever he can, says I can't talk to girls but he can. Basically better than me in every way. Do I have a toxic Friend?

  • @Luuxs
    @Luuxs Před 2 lety

    thank you for this video because i was about to beat up someone that is always bad talking about me to people in the gym. i have agorafobia and i train in the gym to help myself mentally and physically.

  • @chuzzahfromtongah
    @chuzzahfromtongah Před 3 lety +5

    What if when they talk behind you're back but you think that it's true?

    • @realfranciscolopez
      @realfranciscolopez  Před 3 lety +1

      You mean that there might be some truth to what they are saying?

    • @btsarmy-yx7wg
      @btsarmy-yx7wg Před 3 lety +1

      @@realfranciscolopez yes what if they are talking behind me is true what should i do?and it making me stress and having anxiety

  • @garryleach8517
    @garryleach8517 Před 2 lety +5

    So in essence you're just projecting youre out dated believes onto youre own kids.