This is why half of black women think all black men are trash because they never want to date the good they rather have the baller,rapper ,thug or bad boy because of poor dating picking choices..
women they care about how you make them feel....women do not practice self improvement and they do not trie to have a good relanshiosp with God and herself. If a man and a woman do not put God first and love themselves, do not expect a good relationship with anyone.
For me, back then, it was about appearance, his possessions and if the honeymoon period was strong I would fall hard (give my all, in a short period of time to MAKE it work). Chasing pipe dreams and waterfalls. Ignored red flags like the plague, just to name a few.
@@chosen2serve1 hey we’ve all been there a time or two. Glad you’re were able to pinpoint where you needed change and was able to have a success story in the end 😊
I think before any woman tries this advice, she needs to be healed and mature. Trying this when you dont have the "type" out of your system is dangerous for all involved.
See you can’t do different if you don’t know different. MOST people change for 3 reasons. 1. Awakening of self 2. No choice 3. God. And if you really think about it. All of the reasons are the same. BUT FIRST YOU GOTTA KNOW AND BELIEVE THERES BETTER IF YOU BECOME BETTER.
I disagree with this. Don't waste a good guys time if you're not attracted to him. If you're finding that your "type" are not good guys, then first look inward and work on changing your type. Don't stay with him because of how he treats you if you don't find him appealing.
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Some of us aren't as cute or homely as we think. For the most part, we tend to attract people about the same level in the looks department. If your heart is in the right place, you can appreciate someone approaching with good intentions. And seriously, shouldn't a good man be our type (first & foremost)?🧐💛
Yea yall dont move like that. What should be and what is are 2 different things, what you say you want and what you put your energy into is also another 2 different things
@jewelsafire6844 don't misunderstand... I may have my doubts, but thar doesn't mean i dislike your growth lol. It's my way of tempering my expectations. If you succeed I am proud if you fail then I'm not disappointed. Be well sis
I think there is a difference between "not your type" and "it doesn't feel right". Because a person can be "good" and not be the right fit for you. I've met plenty of decent guys, but it didn't workout because it didn't feel right, and I couldn't get comfortable with them. If I can't be myself then it doesn't matter what he is. It had nothing to do with wanting the thrill of a bad boy. Also, attraction is important, doesn't mean they have to be 6ft, but you do have want to look at them and be with them sexually. That said, if you are skipping on a guy because he's too nice or doesn't make you crazy (full of drama), because he doesn't wear designer clothes, because he shows respect and actually gets back to you in a timely manner. Then yeah, that's a pattern you need to get out of. No one should be shamed for not feeling like someone isn't a match even though, they are a nice person, if it simply doesn't feel right. I've tried to make something work with someone, I wasn't feelin', but they were nice, I never caught up to them in feelings and I hurt them. After that, I told myself I wouldn't date someone that clearly liked me more than I like them, no matter how nice they are. *Note, someone did ask, I am in a relationship, we are going on 5-years, he's 5'6 and awkward as hell. I like tall like most chicks, but I'm highly attracted to my partner and he is my type I have always been had a things "dorky and awkward". Not all types is the "bad boy" or the "rich guy", some of us like the dorky and funny guy.
exactly. Not sure why she immediately jumped to the idea that the girls "type" was a drug dealer or a bad guy. A type can be nurturing, it can be artistic, it can be funny, it can be highly intelligent, etc. We really need to stop trying so hard to push people into relationships with people they just dont like...
I almost missed out on an opportunity to experience an amazing relationship with someone, with the same mindset. Absolutely nothing was there.....Out with a friend one evening had too many drinks!!! He took me to his home. I was so very vulnerable. Never made it home that night. Just petrified, ended up going to sleep and woke up in the morning!!! He never touched me or tried anything. He woke me up to breakfast in bed. Then he started looking very different to me , the respect, boundaries he never crossed. The kindness. Naturally doing things with effort or forcing. I Changed my whole mind about him. We started dating for two yrs. Best relationship I have been in.
My girl was 100% correct! This all goes back to maturity. The things that you are looking for at 15 are not necessarily the same thing you are looking for when you are 25! And surely when you are 35, the qualities that were listed from 1 to 5 have surely have changed or have dropped out your top 5 entirely! Case in point. If you are 45 and still looking, you are looking for a person that is now loyal, healthy and financially stable! You weren't looking for that at 15! Those things weren't probably in your top 5. As you get older, your mind changes. What was very important at 20 isn't so important at 30. Choose wisely for the long haul!🤔
It's because his viewerbase is women and he's pandering to them. They wont stop supporting because they're attracted to him. He's using his Halo Effect to get paid.
I’ve said this before Derrick is their perfect man he’s their fantasy the kind of man they want and I fear they’ll never Not listen to him and follow him but let them do what they will we won’t worry about them
This is exactly why I can’t stand him. He’s playing on the same team and calling out his teammates for their ain’t ish behavior while he’s just like them. Ol hypocrite ass ninja
No, please don't date him and waste his time, energy, and opportunity to find someone whose "type" is a good man. You attract reflections of you, keep working on you and eventually you will desire your best good. Don't try to make anyone fit, that isn't fair to them or you.
Speak to em Kittie 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Oftentimes, people create a "type" based on other people's "perception or expectations" of who they should be with. At the end of the day, your family and friends aren't going to have to deal with that "type" behind closed doors. Choose your mate based on intentional chemistry and not characteristics, and you could live happier!
I agree with what she said. HOWEVER, a lot of times men and women ignore their "type" and go for the "good" man/woman, only to end up cheating on said good person with a man/woman that's actually their type! Yes, 💯 physical looks shouldn't be your ONLY consideration, but the truth is that it matters in the long run. Because some years or months into your marriage, when your type struts infront of you and you don't have the integrity to not fall for them, you'll find yourself destroying whatever you've built and fucking over a good person. And a lot of times, the person cheating is so comfortable doing it because they know just how "good" their partner is, as in probably kind and forgiving or trusting... they take advantage of their partners' goodness to engage in affairs with people who are actually their type. I mean, if you can admit that sexual compatibility is a thing, you must also admit that so is physical attraction/compatibility. Downplaying those aspects is how you end up unsatisfied and your eyes start to stray, and soon your body follows as well. Look at how good someone is, yes, but also try as much as you can to find someone with those qualities, who also looks and vibes with you the way you want.
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Yeah there has to be a balance between attraction, and compatibility, of course being 100% compatible isn't realistic, but there should be reasonable understanding and common ground.
I agree , I feel like people are more focused on attraction than seeing are they really compatible with each other because some time they're not able to get both the looks and someone with moral/value.i see people online post or say don't approach them if they're ugly...
You make a very valid point! In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives. Thank you for sharing your insightful thoughts!
Yea a lot of us created a type unknowingly that our type can sometimes block our blessings. That’s why I need to pray or outweigh the person. Great topic
He can have all the good characteristic ...but ain't my type ? How am I going to be sexually attracted to him ? Or vice versa? He gone cheat or I ll be sexually frustrated 🤷🏾. Type and attraction IS important. In my opinion.
She said "learn to love." Human beings are not animals. We like what we _decide_ to like. There is a whole multi-billion dollar advertising industry that convinces us to like something different every few months. We love whom we _decide_ to love.
@@rdkirk3834 I disagree, we don t decide what we like or love. Attraction and desire are feeling you can't dictate their direction. Learn to love is one thing ... How many are with a man because it s convenience not because of attraction or deep sense of love ? Will and Jada. You love what you love ... YES it can last a lifetime to find the right person but I don t truly believe in settling in the name of " learning" to love or build an attraction that was not there from the get go 🤷🏾 If we want to have this conversation we have to be totally 💯...and honest And when I say attraction I am not talking about physicality only ..
@@d_vyneblackkrown1201 Back in the 60s, we as a generation of young black people made a conscious _decision_ that black is beautiful. We consciously _decided_ that natural is beautiful. We literally changed our minds on what "beautiful" is. My own wife was not, when I first saw her 41 years ago, my idea of "beautiful." She was all right. But I loved talking to her from the first few minutes. I loved her kindness, I loved her intelligence. I loved that she liked the esoteric things I liked (that I'd never found a black woman liking before). And then this thing happened: I began to like her appearance more and more. She began to appeal to me more and more. I look at her now, after 41 years, and I honestly think she's aged to be far and away more beautiful than any of the women I knew back then has aged.
@@misguidedpearls7456 FACT this question has so many under lawyers to unfold... And not enough precision and specific on what she defines by ..." Attraction"
As a man, THE biggest read flag I hear is “I don't normally date men like you”. Nothing screams trauma and Stockholm syndrome like that. RUN my guy! And RUN FAST. You are not Iyanla. You can't fix her😂
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
I just love her. She brought reality to that statement " he's a good guy but not my type" she didn't mean jump on a gifted horse because you can. She's just saying sometimes you could explore the opportunity to know for sure.This doesn't mean getting sexually involved with the person. Just take a little more time to getting to know a person.
I get the whole type thing but There's just some things im not willing to compromise on! Especially sexually! I don't care how fine you are or how well you communicate or what you have financially, I will not compromise what I like sexually! I've tried and was miserable! No thank you!
I dated 2 men in life Not my type Turned out to b crazy n evil .. Soooooo This conversation needed more questions Its not black n white... Everybody got 1 box answers But ask no questions to gain insight
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
I tell men all the time find out what a woman’s type is before you consider long term relationship with her. Because if you not her type you’ll have to do extra work to keep her and a lot of times that ends in divorce because she never liked you like that
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Shes speaking from maturity and experience. Speaking from experience, most women who didnt find me attractive and treated me like i didnt exist and/or crap wanted to give me a "chance" years later. Mine you, the guys they found attractive and gave their esources and time to ended up not being worth nothing in the end. Also, when most women looks or resources begin to fade, they start focusing on a mans character moreso than their appearance. Men for the most get what we can get and might talk about or tease someone on their appearance, but we dont completely exclude them. Women on the other hand will exclude and pretend a man doesnt exist if she doesnt find him attractive.
Some younger women I came.across think they can cheat the system and take from men they don't find attractive and build the man they do.find attractive up so they have to rely or deal with an unattractive man for resources. But in the end they always get burnt because that man who they invested in took their resources and gave it to.another woman.
Sometimes you just want to drive the Porsche, you now you cant keep it but you don't want to die having never driven the porsche, there will be plenty of time to drive a minivan and even a time where that might be more suitable but why not drive the porsche while you can?
@@r.walker7986At the end of the day we are not inanimate objects, we are people. Life is more complex. Some women I've been around can sense and tell the character of a guy just by looking at him. Some women admitted to me that I had the qualities of what they wanted in a guy, but they didn't give me a chance or a second look because they werent attracted to me. Sometimes young women will try to build up a man she's attracted to over a guy she's not attracted too so she wouldn't have to rely on the guy se doesn't want. More than often, bad boys or the drug dealer have a certain appearance women are attracted to. This is only my opinion tho
@@antoniomassey9499Yes.. they call it a “H03 phase” now.. and they expect YOU to wait them out while they get D’d down but Thugnificent, Thuglicious, and Thugtastic.. pop out three of his abandoned children and take care of them in their 40’s & 50’s (after her pot has been beat to hell). Find someone who appreciates you and that may/may not be within your race. 👍🏾
This is exactly right. I love my wife, think she is beautiful, and we are very happy 12 years in. And neither of us were each other's "type" heading into it. Character, values, and connection have been what has mattered the most.
Y’all are literally the only group of women on the PLANET that think like this. 🤦🏾♂️. Literally every other woman wants a good man that’s going to take care of them. Y’all act like animals frfr
Sometimes with women, her personality, her intelligence, her character comes across as such an attraction it either enhances her beauty, or makes up for the lack of it. Also with women, a lot of the physically and sexually attractive women have absolutely nothing to offer a man except just that...sex. That's why so many females get played over and over again. Physical attraction should be a bonus, not necessarily the foundation. There are plenty of physically attractive women who are butt ugly on the inside. And there are physically attractive men who are nothing more than gift wrapped packages of destruction.
@@bigde131😂😂 Why are you lying to yourself? You really think Asians, Latinas, and white women want to be with men they ARENT attracted to???? Would YOU be with a woman you ARENT attracted to?
How is your team treating you, paying bills and his duties as a father? She's still learning & will soon realize that " TYPE " doesn't always match characteristics .
People are attracted to who and what they are attracted to for a reason. Some things just look better to you than other things and that ok. Preferences are ok. But you have to assess all of this there is nothing wrong with having a type as long as your type is not something that's going to harm you or bring difficulty into your life. Like she brought up dope-boy types, of course you need to evolve beyond that but if your type is artistic becasue that's how you are wired then its not a bad criteria to prioritise. Opposites do not attract.
There's a woman I'm dating I've been loyal loving and supportive in every way. She's been cheated on lied to etc. But she doesn't appreciate and see the value in me because I'm not her type.
It's likely she dates strictly by her ego & biases, meaning if you don't meet all of them, she'll label you as not your type. After cheating on me for months, then dumping me while bedridden (pneumonia) & unlawfully terminated, my ex is 2 years into her efforts to crawl back. After she was dumped a month later, she realized she sabotaged everything, because she decided I wasn't her type, no matter what. Each day I was gone, she realized I met her biases & more as she kept failing. I keep her at a healthy distance now and hope she finds someone else as she continues to humble herself. You'll likely leave a major void after leaving, and that's great
I think the real question is how come a "good man" is never the "type"??? The answer is too many people convince us that Russell Wilson is a "dork" And FUTURE is "DOPE". Without thinking about what a drastic difference in day to day existhence these two men will have on your life. Far too many women focus on getting with FUTURE, without thinking about their futures.
So true. I can see some wedding bells in some near future with my actual girl, and the decision is not based on looks. It's based on character, on how we handle conflict, support each other in hard times, how we are with each other, and with each other's respective circle. Everything else comes secondary. In my younger age, I had some types, but that would constantly change and couldn't get me too far. Lots of wisdom in what that lady is saying
I've been noticing lately, that Lots of people mention a Woman "Finding" a Man; when that Is Not Our Job To Do! Maybe thats the Biggest issue. There is Biblical direction in Proverbs 18:22, that is clear on this process. When We as Women/People; focus on God 1st, then ourselves, life goals & purpose; Everything else will come together. Matthew 6:33. Who knows the creature better than the Creator? God Himself preordained All of this prior to our arrival. Starting right there will Always ensure Success. The Most Trustworthy source Ever has given us the playbook with All the rules to Win. You can bet your Life on these facts; Literally. Be Well & God Bless.🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
This discussion of "type" seems to revolve around physical appearance. Is that what young women today mean when they say "he's not my type?" Is their sexual attraction bases _solely_ on physical appearance? I'm asking this honestly, because my youngest child is nearly 40, so I don't know how young women think these days. Thankfully, when I was single women were willing to get to know a man's personality and habits before counting them out solely on appearance.
Praise god Someone with a brain... When i say type Its more than looks alone.... Like these are surface level assumptions... Not everybody is like that... Type has at least 3 levels only one is physical
I think everybody has a type, but some of us recognize at some point , that that same type may not be beneficial to our lives. In this country, image still seems to trump substance.
I don't have a type. Always thought it was silly. Mostly only superficial folks have a type. And like she said it's rarely a type and more so patterns and conditions.
@@cjohnson_Nah! It’s a PHYSICAL type and that’s what the woman was referring to! Kitty can’t assume what that womans pattern and conditions are based on one question and as a therapist she should know that! It takes multiple sessions to get to the root of some people’s issues
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Damn this hit home. I been with my guy for 2yrs and still not inlove. He's not the typical guy I would go for but he is someone that I need and I'm trying so hard to like/love him like he does me. I need the full show on this on!
So you meet somebody who is not your type… you hit it off what happens when it’s time to be intimate and you’re not attracted to that person to be intimate. But everything else is cool ….but the attraction and the intimacy it’s just not there….Statistics still show the largest reason for divorce is finances sex sex sex sex and more sex (sad but true) what do you do? So the woman is not dating her type? and she’s not attracted on an intimate level to this man … THEN WHAT? Do men date outside of their TYPE??? NO! is it a situation where women find themselves settling again :( ❤this channel
Why you worry about men when it’s about you having love …she gave you game and you made it about men this why yall stay single. You missed her point completely your type is an issue from conditioning not cause it’s actually your type. It’s your experience. Change your type to match your life and what you want not who you were from being in the wrong places or having the wrong mentality. Don’t worry about our type worry about if you’re a wife !
@IlkanAli I totally agree. It goes both ways man or woman. If it was a man that asked the question he would've got the same answer. Now she need to make it make sense. It comes a time in our life where we need to reach a maturity level to throw all that "type" mess out the door. It's all about how he/she treat you etc. etc
Which he said is so true.My psychology professor said when you start to get to a certain age, you're not even concerned about looks anymore.You're concerned about what this person can do to help you better your life
Nah this ain’t it. If I’m not your type, stay away from me. I will never pursue a woman that’s gonna do the bare minimum or feels like she has to force herself into liking me. One thing I’m learning that I’m not compatible to be with every woman out here just because I’m a good man. Preference is preference and woman like what they like. I refuse to marry any woman that I’ve wasted my best years on and sacrificed a lot to keep her, just for her to file for the divorce saying that she settled for me
Mrs. Kittie, didn’t say anything that the whole world doesn’t already know about! We all know the story of Derrick Jaxn! Love you Mrs. Kittie! Keep bringing it!❤️
She’s absolutely right. I was going for the over 6ft, brown skin, dread head with tattoos..after 3 failed relationships I gave it all up and said, “God send me who you have for me.” Met my now husband who is 5’9, light skinned, curly hair with no tattoos or even piercings and I’ve never been happier 😂❤
Does anyone think you can force your attraction to someone and be happy , you have to want to kiss and touch your partner and that comes from physical attraction but that doesn’t mean your neglecting your essentials that person needs to have for happy and sustainable relationship. I’ve met my soulmate and I knew from the jump it was her and I’m insanely attracted to her and I’m just saying that , that attraction has to be there and it can’t be learned or forced if you wanna be happy
You have to first find that man attractive before dating him also how he treats you also your kids if he's not your type don't waste your time it will always end bad I know this for a fact have a sweet day.
Nobody tells men to look at another type of woman. . . We will always and forever be the ones that are told to go for what we need and yet men just continue to go for what they want. It needs to align both ways. And just because a man is good, doesn’t mean he is sexually attractive. But again, nobody tells men to change their type. It’s always the women who have to readjust. I’ve never been a woman who approached men. That’s not how I was raised. And men eliminate themselves by being inconsistent. But I don’t believe that every woman has a pattern as much as men have a pattern when it comes to how they approach and deal with women.
This right here!!!!!!!!!!! If our women would apply this you would see a change overnight in the quality of relationships they are able to forge. Don’t get me wrong, you need to be attracted to your partner but that should be like 5th on your list if you’re serious about finding a life partner.
Ladies physical attraction cannot be negotiated. The problem is when you are physically attracted to him and then you said you don't like him because he's good to you and consistent. That is just when you have to accept that you desire trash.
A lot of people don’t want to admit they are getting everything they want out of life. Cause when you aren’t doing what you’re supposed to in order to achieve your goals.
This is not necessarily true because physical attraction is also key.. that is the reason most people step out and cheat because they were not physically attracted to the person that they got with from the jump so if there's no physical chemistry that can play a big role
First we have to know where our type come from, sometimes we saw a movie, an actor a singer or by conversations with many people our type came. That’s why we must have a relationship with the one who created us and sacrificed himself for us, He is the one who knows the real us and our real type So I understand the girl who speaks but the person with whom we are supposed to spend our whole lives must necessarily please us.
She can speak this truth until she is out of breath, however, women will continue to ignore and deny the truth. In one ear out the other...then, turn around/comeback and ask the same question over and over again.
Sometimes, your "type" is where you're going wrong 🤷🏾♀️
This is why half of black women think all black men are trash because they never want to date the good they rather have the baller,rapper ,thug or bad boy because of poor dating picking choices..
Say it louder for those in the back
women they care about how you make them feel....women do not practice self improvement and they do not trie to have a good relanshiosp with God and herself.
If a man and a woman do not put God first and love themselves, do not expect a good relationship with anyone.
My question would be..."How's your type working out for ya?"
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Bloop! This. That's why a lot are single cuz of wanting "their type".
The statement “Try it, you might like it” can be applied to many different things. 😊😏
THIS‼️ I’m currently not dating my type anymore. I had to ask myself this. It has never worked out for me. 🥴😮💨💯
THIS!!
It's not your type, it's your pattern.
Date someone you normally wouldn't.
You could find your prince.
Practically the fantasized (disney) premise of the beauty and the beast.
Or another frog. As long as you learn something.
Prince? You mean king lol
or your queen 😉
I truly agree
Stepped outside “my pattern” and married my prince now king and December 2024 (God willing), we’ll be 30 years married!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏽
Aww congratulations!!!🎉 If you don’t mind me asking, what was your “pattern” before you were married?
For me, back then, it was about appearance, his possessions and if the honeymoon period was strong I would fall hard (give my all, in a short period of time to MAKE it work). Chasing pipe dreams and waterfalls. Ignored red flags like the plague, just to name a few.
@@chosen2serve1 hey we’ve all been there a time or two. Glad you’re were able to pinpoint where you needed change and was able to have a success story in the end 😊
I think before any woman tries this advice, she needs to be healed and mature. Trying this when you dont have the "type" out of your system is dangerous for all involved.
See you can’t do different if you don’t know different. MOST people change for 3 reasons.
1. Awakening of self
2. No choice
3. God.
And if you really think about it. All of the reasons are the same.
BUT FIRST YOU GOTTA KNOW AND BELIEVE THERES BETTER IF YOU BECOME BETTER.
These women just settling for whoever will actually take care of them while dealing with their bs
I disagree with this. Don't waste a good guys time if you're not attracted to him. If you're finding that your "type" are not good guys, then first look inward and work on changing your type. Don't stay with him because of how he treats you if you don't find him appealing.
Speaking from experience I think
💯 you don't deserve a good man if you need to learn how to love him. do your healing work first before you approach him!
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
I definitely agree…
That's Not what the message is
Some of us aren't as cute or homely as we think. For the most part, we tend to attract people about the same level in the looks department. If your heart is in the right place, you can appreciate someone approaching with good intentions. And seriously, shouldn't a good man be our type (first & foremost)?🧐💛
Yea yall dont move like that.
What should be and what is are 2 different things, what you say you want and what you put your energy into is also another 2 different things
@@bgrego88 Duly noted. Sounds like you've made up your mind. Hopefully, others will allow room for my experiences & growth.🙏🏽
@jewelsafire6844 don't misunderstand... I may have my doubts, but thar doesn't mean i dislike your growth lol. It's my way of tempering my expectations. If you succeed I am proud if you fail then I'm not disappointed. Be well sis
@@bgrego88 Nicely stated with a chillness. See, not all of us are insufferable.🤭🖖🏽
Approaching with good intentions is the key! That’s what I’m waiting on…
That’s what I did. I let go of my “type”. Then God actually sent me a man with all the stuff I never knew I needed.
That part!!!!
It wasn't god that sent him. You let go of the type you were looking for before.
Amen Kevin Samuels used to say what you need looks opposite of what u want.
God has nothing to do with your relationships
You better testify!!!
I think there is a difference between "not your type" and "it doesn't feel right". Because a person can be "good" and not be the right fit for you. I've met plenty of decent guys, but it didn't workout because it didn't feel right, and I couldn't get comfortable with them. If I can't be myself then it doesn't matter what he is. It had nothing to do with wanting the thrill of a bad boy. Also, attraction is important, doesn't mean they have to be 6ft, but you do have want to look at them and be with them sexually.
That said, if you are skipping on a guy because he's too nice or doesn't make you crazy (full of drama), because he doesn't wear designer clothes, because he shows respect and actually gets back to you in a timely manner. Then yeah, that's a pattern you need to get out of.
No one should be shamed for not feeling like someone isn't a match even though, they are a nice person, if it simply doesn't feel right. I've tried to make something work with someone, I wasn't feelin', but they were nice, I never caught up to them in feelings and I hurt them. After that, I told myself I wouldn't date someone that clearly liked me more than I like them, no matter how nice they are.
*Note, someone did ask, I am in a relationship, we are going on 5-years, he's 5'6 and awkward as hell. I like tall like most chicks, but I'm highly attracted to my partner and he is my type I have always been had a things "dorky and awkward". Not all types is the "bad boy" or the "rich guy", some of us like the dorky and funny guy.
exactly. Not sure why she immediately jumped to the idea that the girls "type" was a drug dealer or a bad guy. A type can be nurturing, it can be artistic, it can be funny, it can be highly intelligent, etc. We really need to stop trying so hard to push people into relationships with people they just dont like...
One hundred percent. 💯💯💯💯
@r.walker7986 So true! And this is the reason why a lot of relationships don’t last. Especially with men. A lot end up cheating with their "type".
THIS is the comment!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Needs to be pinned!
Thank you.
Yup! She’s right! As soon as women change their type they always find their person
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Most of the time it be too late, because most end up as a single mothers and some had too many partners
@@jmar385 i see it differently…thanks for your input tho
@@meicealways5842its the truth whether you like it or not
@@meicealways5842change your type before your “type” change you to the point that your not anyone else’s type.
I almost missed out on an opportunity to experience an amazing relationship with someone, with the same mindset. Absolutely nothing was there.....Out with a friend one evening had too many drinks!!! He took me to his home. I was so very vulnerable. Never made it home that night. Just petrified, ended up going to sleep and woke up in the morning!!! He never touched me or tried anything. He woke me up to breakfast in bed. Then he started looking very different to me , the respect, boundaries he never crossed. The kindness. Naturally doing things with effort or forcing. I Changed my whole mind about him. We started dating for two yrs. Best relationship I have been in.
Once again, Kittie hit the bullseye! 🎯
My girl was 100% correct! This all goes back to maturity.
The things that you are looking for at 15 are not necessarily the same thing you are looking for when you are 25! And surely when you are 35, the qualities that were listed from 1 to 5 have surely have changed or have dropped out your top 5 entirely!
Case in point. If you are 45 and still looking, you are looking for a person that is now loyal, healthy and financially stable! You weren't looking for that at 15! Those things weren't probably in your top 5.
As you get older, your mind changes. What was very important at 20 isn't so important at 30.
Choose wisely for the long haul!🤔
Yet Derrick Jaxon is still giving relationship advice, and people are still paying attention to him. Why? The blind leading the blind.
It's because his viewerbase is women and he's pandering to them. They wont stop supporting because they're attracted to him. He's using his Halo Effect to get paid.
Facts 🧑🦯👩🦯👨🏾🦯😂😂😂
I dont see the hype face wise he is average, i cant believe some black women are still showing support to him and they wonder why they single
I’ve said this before Derrick is their perfect man he’s their fantasy the kind of man they want and I fear they’ll never Not listen to him and follow him but let them do what they will we won’t worry about them
This is exactly why I can’t stand him. He’s playing on the same team and calling out his teammates for their ain’t ish behavior while he’s just like them. Ol hypocrite ass ninja
No, please don't date him and waste his time, energy, and opportunity to find someone whose "type" is a good man. You attract reflections of you, keep working on you and eventually you will desire your best good. Don't try to make anyone fit, that isn't fair to them or you.
Speak to em Kittie 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾
Oftentimes, people create a "type" based on other people's "perception or expectations" of who they should be with. At the end of the day, your family and friends aren't going to have to deal with that "type" behind closed doors. Choose your mate based on intentional chemistry and not characteristics, and you could live happier!
I agree with what she said. HOWEVER, a lot of times men and women ignore their "type" and go for the "good" man/woman, only to end up cheating on said good person with a man/woman that's actually their type!
Yes, 💯 physical looks shouldn't be your ONLY consideration, but the truth is that it matters in the long run. Because some years or months into your marriage, when your type struts infront of you and you don't have the integrity to not fall for them, you'll find yourself destroying whatever you've built and fucking over a good person.
And a lot of times, the person cheating is so comfortable doing it because they know just how "good" their partner is, as in probably kind and forgiving or trusting... they take advantage of their partners' goodness to engage in affairs with people who are actually their type.
I mean, if you can admit that sexual compatibility is a thing, you must also admit that so is physical attraction/compatibility. Downplaying those aspects is how you end up unsatisfied and your eyes start to stray, and soon your body follows as well.
Look at how good someone is, yes, but also try as much as you can to find someone with those qualities, who also looks and vibes with you the way you want.
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Hell nah😂if i ain yo type let me know, so i can leave you alone!
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That part!
Yeah there has to be a balance between attraction, and compatibility, of course being 100% compatible isn't realistic, but there should be reasonable understanding and common ground.
I agree , I feel like people are more focused on attraction than seeing are they really compatible with each other because some time they're not able to get both the looks and someone with moral/value.i see people online post or say don't approach them if they're ugly...
You make a very valid point! In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives. Thank you for sharing your insightful thoughts!
she did jackson dirty but she spitting facts though
He did his self like that
@jmar385 facts you gonna talk about how men need to step up and you the first person to cheat and you did it twice what a joker
He did himself dirty.
Yea a lot of us created a type unknowingly that our type can sometimes block our blessings. That’s why I need to pray or outweigh the person. Great topic
the way she looked in the camera lmao
He can have all the good characteristic ...but ain't my type ? How am I going to be sexually attracted to him ?
Or vice versa?
He gone cheat or I ll be sexually frustrated 🤷🏾.
Type and attraction IS important. In my opinion.
She said "learn to love." Human beings are not animals. We like what we _decide_ to like. There is a whole multi-billion dollar advertising industry that convinces us to like something different every few months. We love whom we _decide_ to love.
@@rdkirk3834 I disagree, we don t decide what we like or love.
Attraction and desire are feeling you can't dictate their direction.
Learn to love is one thing ... How many are with a man because it s convenience not because of attraction or deep sense of love ?
Will and Jada.
You love what you love ... YES it can last a lifetime to find the right person but I don t truly believe in settling in the name of " learning" to love or build an attraction that was not there from the get go 🤷🏾
If we want to have this conversation we have to be totally 💯...and honest
And when I say attraction I am not talking about physicality only ..
It has a place to a degree yes
This discussion she didn't ask any questions to find out
What the girl meant
@@d_vyneblackkrown1201 Back in the 60s, we as a generation of young black people made a conscious _decision_ that black is beautiful. We consciously _decided_ that natural is beautiful. We literally changed our minds on what "beautiful" is. My own wife was not, when I first saw her 41 years ago, my idea of "beautiful." She was all right. But I loved talking to her from the first few minutes. I loved her kindness, I loved her intelligence. I loved that she liked the esoteric things I liked (that I'd never found a black woman liking before). And then this thing happened: I began to like her appearance more and more. She began to appeal to me more and more. I look at her now, after 41 years, and I honestly think she's aged to be far and away more beautiful than any of the women I knew back then has aged.
@@misguidedpearls7456 FACT this question has so many under lawyers to unfold... And not enough precision and specific on what she defines by ..." Attraction"
I love this woman ⛪️👸🏿
As a man, THE biggest read flag I hear is “I don't normally date men like you”. Nothing screams trauma and Stockholm syndrome like that. RUN my guy! And RUN FAST. You are not Iyanla. You can't fix her😂
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
I heard that recently from a girl and she turned out to be crazy. It took me a minute, but I got out from under her.
Felt like Ether should have played when she leaned back! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I just love her. She brought reality to that statement " he's a good guy but not my type" she didn't mean jump on a gifted horse because you can. She's just saying sometimes you could explore the opportunity to know for sure.This doesn't mean getting sexually involved with the person. Just take a little more time to getting to know a person.
Kittie you as well as Tripp give a dose of reality every time you speak. I love this ability that you both have
I get the whole type thing but There's just some things im not willing to compromise on! Especially sexually! I don't care how fine you are or how well you communicate or what you have financially, I will not compromise what I like sexually! I've tried and was miserable! No thank you!
I dated 2 men in life
Not my type
Turned out to b crazy n evil ..
Soooooo
This conversation needed more questions
Its not black n white...
Everybody got 1 box answers
But ask no questions to gain insight
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
She always speaks with class and facts.
I tell men all the time find out what a woman’s type is before you consider long term relationship with her. Because if you not her type you’ll have to do extra work to keep her and a lot of times that ends in divorce because she never liked you like that
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
If I’m not her type I’m not going to waste my time with her.
@@WhatIfWe615 you’re smart
Shes speaking from maturity and experience. Speaking from experience, most women who didnt find me attractive and treated me like i didnt exist and/or crap wanted to give me a "chance" years later. Mine you, the guys they found attractive and gave their esources and time to ended up not being worth nothing in the end. Also, when most women looks or resources begin to fade, they start focusing on a mans character moreso than their appearance.
Men for the most get what we can get and might talk about or tease someone on their appearance, but we dont completely exclude them. Women on the other hand will exclude and pretend a man doesnt exist if she doesnt find him attractive.
Some younger women I came.across think they can cheat the system and take from men they don't find attractive and build the man they do.find attractive up so they have to rely or deal with an unattractive man for resources. But in the end they always get burnt because that man who they invested in took their resources and gave it to.another woman.
Sometimes you just want to drive the Porsche, you now you cant keep it but you don't want to die having never driven the porsche, there will be plenty of time to drive a minivan and even a time where that might be more suitable but why not drive the porsche while you can?
@@r.walker7986 Are you implying a person wanting to have that satisfying experience with an attractive person even a little while?
@@r.walker7986At the end of the day we are not inanimate objects, we are people. Life is more complex. Some women I've been around can sense and tell the character of a guy just by looking at him. Some women admitted to me that I had the qualities of what they wanted in a guy, but they didn't give me a chance or a second look because they werent attracted to me. Sometimes young women will try to build up a man she's attracted to over a guy she's not attracted too so she wouldn't have to rely on the guy se doesn't want.
More than often, bad boys or the drug dealer have a certain appearance women are attracted to.
This is only my opinion tho
@@antoniomassey9499Yes.. they call it a “H03 phase” now.. and they expect YOU to wait them out while they get D’d down but Thugnificent, Thuglicious, and Thugtastic.. pop out three of his abandoned children and take care of them in their 40’s & 50’s (after her pot has been beat to hell). Find someone who appreciates you and that may/may not be within your race. 👍🏾
This is exactly right. I love my wife, think she is beautiful, and we are very happy 12 years in. And neither of us were each other's "type" heading into it. Character, values, and connection have been what has mattered the most.
Straight like that ‼️👊🏾
Nothing but a WORD
Ace Metaphor = Derrick Jaxn 2.0😂😂😂😂
What if he's a good man but has one eye? Or looks like ET. Sometimes looks matter..you gotta be attracted to the person.
Y’all are literally the only group of women on the PLANET that think like this. 🤦🏾♂️. Literally every other woman wants a good man that’s going to take care of them. Y’all act like animals frfr
Sometimes with women, her personality, her intelligence, her character comes across as such an attraction it either enhances her beauty, or makes up for the lack of it.
Also with women, a lot of the physically and sexually attractive women have absolutely nothing to offer a man except just that...sex. That's why so many females get played over and over again.
Physical attraction should be a bonus, not necessarily the foundation. There are plenty of physically attractive women who are butt ugly on the inside. And there are physically attractive men who are nothing more than gift wrapped packages of destruction.
Ya resort to using extreme examples instead of being realistic.
Y’all the only group of women that think like this. SMH. Gone learn the hard way
@@bigde131😂😂 Why are you lying to yourself? You really think Asians, Latinas, and white women want to be with men they ARENT attracted to???? Would YOU be with a woman you ARENT attracted to?
How is your team treating you, paying bills and his duties as a father? She's still learning & will soon realize that " TYPE " doesn't always match characteristics .
Love her and tripp they bring so much wisdom at such young ages to the group
How do you stop worrying or being insecure that she'll always revert or compare you to her orginal type?
People are attracted to who and what they are attracted to for a reason. Some things just look better to you than other things and that ok. Preferences are ok. But you have to assess all of this there is nothing wrong with having a type as long as your type is not something that's going to harm you or bring difficulty into your life. Like she brought up dope-boy types, of course you need to evolve beyond that but if your type is artistic becasue that's how you are wired then its not a bad criteria to prioritise. Opposites do not attract.
Maybe she was referring specifically to physical attributes.
I love this melanin Queen's intelligence and man that deep, clear voice does things to me.
There's a woman I'm dating I've been loyal loving and supportive in every way. She's been cheated on lied to etc. But she doesn't appreciate and see the value in me because I'm not her type.
It's likely she dates strictly by her ego & biases, meaning if you don't meet all of them, she'll label you as not your type.
After cheating on me for months, then dumping me while bedridden (pneumonia) & unlawfully terminated, my ex is 2 years into her efforts to crawl back.
After she was dumped a month later, she realized she sabotaged everything, because she decided I wasn't her type, no matter what. Each day I was gone, she realized I met her biases & more as she kept failing.
I keep her at a healthy distance now and hope she finds someone else as she continues to humble herself. You'll likely leave a major void after leaving, and that's great
Speak it, mama. Speak it. I've been there did that. Everything you saying is facts
Perhaps she means she is not attracted to him. Because you can't fake that
The one she's attracted to is BROKE & can't pay bills. Good luck chasing cute , muscles and good looks .
Date someone who’s not your type bc he’s a good man, he’ll probably treat you better than everyone else and make you happy ❤
#KITTY GIVING KNOWLEDGE 🎯💯🔥🖤
I think the real question is how come a "good man" is never the "type"???
The answer is too many people convince us that Russell Wilson is a "dork" And FUTURE is "DOPE". Without thinking about what a drastic difference in day to day existhence these two men will have on your life. Far too many women focus on getting with FUTURE, without thinking about their futures.
Love you girl 💁🏽♀️. That’s my type 🥰🥰
So true. I can see some wedding bells in some near future with my actual girl, and the decision is not based on looks. It's based on character, on how we handle conflict, support each other in hard times, how we are with each other, and with each other's respective circle. Everything else comes secondary. In my younger age, I had some types, but that would constantly change and couldn't get me too far. Lots of wisdom in what that lady is saying
Damn kitty you savage for name dropping like that but you were so right about what you were saying so it doesn't matter😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I've been noticing lately, that Lots of people mention a Woman "Finding" a Man; when that Is Not Our Job To Do! Maybe thats the Biggest issue. There is Biblical direction in Proverbs 18:22, that is clear on this process. When We as Women/People; focus on God 1st, then ourselves, life goals & purpose; Everything else will come together. Matthew 6:33. Who knows the creature better than the Creator? God Himself preordained All of this prior to our arrival. Starting right there will Always ensure Success. The Most Trustworthy source Ever has given us the playbook with All the rules to Win. You can bet your Life on these facts; Literally. Be Well & God Bless.🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
PEOPLE KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING 🎯 💯 🔥
You're right 💯💯 and keep it moving forward I💯💯💯🔥🔥⭐🙏⭐🌹🙏🙏 you are right 💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥 keep it real 💯 💯 💯
This discussion of "type" seems to revolve around physical appearance. Is that what young women today mean when they say "he's not my type?" Is their sexual attraction bases _solely_ on physical appearance? I'm asking this honestly, because my youngest child is nearly 40, so I don't know how young women think these days. Thankfully, when I was single women were willing to get to know a man's personality and habits before counting them out solely on appearance.
Praise god
Someone with a brain...
When i say type
Its more than looks alone....
Like these are surface level assumptions...
Not everybody is like that...
Type has at least 3 levels only one is physical
I think everybody has a type, but some of us recognize at some point , that that same type may not be beneficial to our lives. In this country, image still seems to trump substance.
I don't have a type. Always thought it was silly. Mostly only superficial folks have a type. And like she said it's rarely a type and more so patterns and conditions.
@@cjohnson_Nah! It’s a PHYSICAL type and that’s what the woman was referring to! Kitty can’t assume what that womans pattern and conditions are based on one question and as a therapist she should know that! It takes multiple sessions to get to the root of some people’s issues
In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.
Massive truth. Bulleye fam. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Damn this hit home. I been with my guy for 2yrs and still not inlove. He's not the typical guy I would go for but he is someone that I need and I'm trying so hard to like/love him like he does me. I need the full show on this on!
If I feel a genuine connection with a man, he’s my type 😂😂😂 and I mean a deep, spiritual connection.
So you meet somebody who is not your type… you hit it off what happens when it’s time to be intimate and you’re not attracted to that person to be intimate. But everything else is cool ….but the attraction and the intimacy it’s just not there….Statistics still show the largest reason for divorce is finances sex sex sex sex and more sex (sad but true) what do you do? So the woman is not dating her type? and she’s not attracted on an intimate level to this man … THEN WHAT? Do men date outside of their TYPE??? NO! is it a situation where women find themselves settling again :( ❤this channel
You tell Women to disregard type, yet Men don't disregard type. Make it make sense.
Why you worry about men when it’s about you having love …she gave you game and you made it about men this why yall stay single. You missed her point completely your type is an issue from conditioning not cause it’s actually your type. It’s your experience. Change your type to match your life and what you want not who you were from being in the wrong places or having the wrong mentality. Don’t worry about our type worry about if you’re a wife !
@IlkanAli I totally agree. It goes both ways man or woman. If it was a man that asked the question he would've got the same answer. Now she need to make it make sense. It comes a time in our life where we need to reach a maturity level to throw all that "type" mess out the door. It's all about how he/she treat you etc. etc
@@IlkanAlithey never listen, missed everything the woman told her.
@@IlkanAli I'm about fairness. If you want grace, give grace.
@@domicascott7596 No he would not have. He would have advised "There has to be attraction first."
SAY IT KITTIE!!
Yes, absolutely, your type can change when you finally meet a good real masculine man that treats you right..
Which he said is so true.My psychology professor said when you start to get to a certain age, you're not even concerned about looks anymore.You're concerned about what this person can do to help you better your life
Nah this ain’t it. If I’m not your type, stay away from me. I will never pursue a woman that’s gonna do the bare minimum or feels like she has to force herself into liking me. One thing I’m learning that I’m not compatible to be with every woman out here just because I’m a good man. Preference is preference and woman like what they like. I refuse to marry any woman that I’ve wasted my best years on and sacrificed a lot to keep her, just for her to file for the divorce saying that she settled for me
😂😂😂 bombs were dropped
"Now you are a single mom" 🎶🎵🎸🎧
Great point
Derrick was actually providing relationship advice 🤪☠️🤪☠️🤪
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Not really lol. He was too one sided for that.
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That is why I love her.
Dating the same people over and over and be like i wonder why i haven't found anyone. Lol
Mrs. Kittie, didn’t say anything that the whole world doesn’t already know about! We all know the story of Derrick Jaxn! Love you Mrs. Kittie! Keep bringing it!❤️
She’s absolutely right. I was going for the over 6ft, brown skin, dread head with tattoos..after 3 failed relationships I gave it all up and said, “God send me who you have for me.” Met my now husband who is 5’9, light skinned, curly hair with no tattoos or even piercings and I’ve never been happier 😂❤
Get! EM!!❤
Im glad she broke it down
She was kookin 💥
Does anyone think you can force your attraction to someone and be happy , you have to want to kiss and touch your partner and that comes from physical attraction but that doesn’t mean your neglecting your essentials that person needs to have for happy and sustainable relationship. I’ve met my soulmate and I knew from the jump it was her and I’m insanely attracted to her and I’m just saying that , that attraction has to be there and it can’t be learned or forced if you wanna be happy
I disagree , i tell ladies all the time, date your type dont settle for the good guy you never wanted or dont know how to be with.
You have to first find that man attractive before dating him also how he treats you also your kids if he's not your type don't waste your time it will always end bad I know this for a fact have a sweet day.
Nobody tells men to look at another type of woman. . .
We will always and forever be the ones that are told to go for what we need and yet men just continue to go for what they want.
It needs to align both ways.
And just because a man is good, doesn’t mean he is sexually attractive. But again, nobody tells men to change their type. It’s always the women who have to readjust.
I’ve never been a woman who approached men. That’s not how I was raised. And men eliminate themselves by being inconsistent. But I don’t believe that every woman has a pattern as much as men have a pattern when it comes to how they approach and deal with women.
Because men don’t marr for money in general. Women can choose a man only because hes rich
She always give good advice
Why don't we say this to men???!!! It's always the women who has to settle.
Men will date anyone. Women have all these fantasies about who they can and can’t like
Preach sista🙋🏿♂️
Ooh she was SPITTIN' SPITTIN'!! 🔥😶🌫️
Yep!!❤💯💯👀
I realized as I got older that the person we want, rarely looks like the person we need. She nailed it
This right here!!!!!!!!!!! If our women would apply this you would see a change overnight in the quality of relationships they are able to forge. Don’t get me wrong, you need to be attracted to your partner but that should be like 5th on your list if you’re serious about finding a life partner.
Ladies physical attraction cannot be negotiated. The problem is when you are physically attracted to him and then you said you don't like him because he's good to you and consistent. That is just when you have to accept that you desire trash.
Wow!!!! She spoke truth and wisdom at the same time. Those women got confused 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. That was meant for grown women and for babies.
If he's a good man but not you're type leave him alone. Let that good man be with a good woman who wants that type.
A lot of people don’t want to admit they are getting everything they want out of life. Cause when you aren’t doing what you’re supposed to in order to achieve your goals.
Yet again the taxes taken out of my check to support single mothers because she had a type.
This is not necessarily true because physical attraction is also key.. that is the reason most people step out and cheat because they were not physically attracted to the person that they got with from the jump so if there's no physical chemistry that can play a big role
First we have to know where our type come from, sometimes we saw a movie, an actor a singer or by conversations with many people our type came. That’s why we must have a relationship with the one who created us and sacrificed himself for us, He is the one who knows the real us and our real type
So I understand the girl who speaks but the person with whom we are supposed to spend our whole lives must necessarily please us.
Not Derrick Thee Jackson ♋️😆😆
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That's the Only Woman on the panel that talks sense into women on stage, but why she dropping quarters on camera tho 😒
Where can you watch full episodes
She can speak this truth until she is out of breath, however, women will continue to ignore and deny the truth.
In one ear out the other...then, turn around/comeback and ask the same question over and over again.