MODERN MUSLIM WOMEN [IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO YOU ALL]
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Explain this, then:
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I wish I didn’t have to work 2 jobs . I would love to study Arabic, and memorize the Quran. But I’m a older widow with a minor child. InshaAllah I can send him to Quran classes and Arabic classes. Allah knows best.
May Allah make it easy for you sister. Keep up your Dua.
Ameen ukhti.
Also, I wanted to say that this does not mean you do not want to accept this role. Or that mean and women are different. We are very different. This role of accepting what life your were handed by Allah and saying alhumdulilah. But this does not mean you are less religious. You are striving and Allah knows our intentions.
Hey aumy hakima :) you forgot that the prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم said that the "Actions are (judged) by motives (niyyah) , so if you are sincere with your intention May Allah سبحانه وتعالى give you the time to do it and if you really want to do it but you can't,, you know Actions are judged by intentions :) so have good think of Allah and that he سبحانه وتعالي will reward you for your good intentions even if you cannot memorize Qur'an :)
@@seifalamiri1640 ma shaa Allah ❤
But you need to address MEN to follow the example of the prophet Mohammad PBUH IN TREATING women as a wife, mother, sister , etc...
Women need examples of the pious women at the time of the prophet Muhammad (saw’. Like they need to learn about modesty
When women rarely get an advice and generalize by muslim men, this is what happen, their hearts are hardened to listen, so they start using this words to make it seems like it's the men who will always need to be adviced, to be blamed as "bad".
the end is near, pray your sunnah prayers and do as many good deeds as you can and hope for the best
everyone please hit the like button inshallah this video gets 1 million views
JazakAllah khair I love you for the sake of Allah
"And covet not the thing in which Allah hath made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (Envy not one another) but ask Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things."
qurano.com/en/4-an-nisa/verse-32/
Thanks I feel the same way inshallah we see each other in jannah
@Sifaw Shammakhi were you dropped?
Thank you Sajid, very well put and spoken Mashallah. Unfortunately muslim husbands take the Obey element too far. They violate their rights over wives to the point where they become abusive and extremely controlling which is damaging. This may have played a part in driving young muslim women to prioritise/seek a career path becus their mothers push this idea on to them havin experienced hardship themselves. As a muslim husband, i find that wives are naturally obedient and selfless if u are loving, kind and caring to them. Lets change our approach to attain the same thing but in a healthier and better way.
Usually, the ones who scream "abuse" the most are the feminists who think telling her to do proper Hijab is "abuse".
@@absolutelynobody3837
So you're an incel, huh?
@@absolutelynobody3837 Yes, those women should certainly be chastised, but that doesn't mean you should be rough and unkind with them. The Prophet SAW said that the best of our Ummah are those who are best to their women. I am inclined to believe this, as the Prophet SAW does not lie, especially on matters relating to our religion. I'm sure if you're kind to such a wife, surely Allah will reward you and help her see the light. And Allah knows best.
Men of all ethnicities, nationalities, and religions are delivering this message to the world. It is no coincidence. Change is needed, and change is coming.
Thank you very much for this video brother.
Brothers and sisters convey the message of Islam to France 🇫🇷 Pakistan 🇵🇰 Afghanistan 🇦🇫 Indonesia 🇮🇩 USA 🇺🇸 India 🇮🇳 Brazil 🇧🇷 Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 and whole world 🌎 it’s your duty and my duty and all of us duty to convey the message of Islam to them may Allah guide you and me all of us ameen make duwa for you and me all of us everyday because all of us creations of Allah so we all of us belong to him and we all should return to him ☝️☝️ May Allah make you and me and all of us Ambassador of Islam . ☝️please brothers and sisters be aware of this France 🇫🇷 or China 🇨🇳 or Israel 🇮🇱 any other countries are not our enemies at all. our biggest enemy is shaytan so please be aware of shaytan always . May Allah increase more knowledge and iman for you and me all of us ameen.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️Quran 49:13 O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims including Christians, Jewish , Hindus, Buddhist , footballers, cricketers, rugby, mma, movie stars ,singers , politicians,rich ,poor, good person , bad person , enemy , family and friends. yes it’s your duty to convey the message of Islam to them. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said “Convey from me, even if it is one verse.” (Sahih Al Bukhari 3461).🌎 🇦🇫🇦🇽🇦🇱🇩🇿🇦🇸🇦🇩🇦🇴🇦🇮🇦🇶🇦🇬🇦🇷🇦🇲🇦🇼🇦🇺🇦🇹🇦🇿🇧🇸🇧🇭🇧🇩🇧🇧🇧🇾🇧🇪🇧🇿🇧🇯🇧🇲🇧🇹🇧🇴🇧🇦🇧🇼🇧🇷🇮🇴🇻🇬🇧🇳🇧🇬🇧🇫🇧🇮🇰🇭🇨🇲🇨🇦🇮🇨🇨🇻🇧🇶🇰🇾🇨🇫🇹🇩🇨🇱🇨🇳🇨🇽🇨🇨🇨🇴🇰🇲🇨🇬🇨🇩🇨🇰🇨🇷🇨🇮🇭🇷🇨🇺🇨🇼🇨🇾🇨🇿🇩🇰🇩🇯🇩🇲🇩🇴🇪🇨🇪🇬🇸🇻🇬🇶🇪🇷🇪🇪🇪🇹🇪🇺🇫🇰🇫🇴🇫🇯🇫🇮🇫🇷🇬🇫🇵🇫🇹🇫🇬🇦🇬🇲🇬🇪🇩🇪🇬🇭🇬🇮🇬🇷🇬🇱🇬🇩🇬🇵🇬🇺🇬🇹🇬🇬🇬🇳🇬🇼🇬🇾🇭🇹🇭🇳🇭🇰🇭🇺🇮🇸🇮🇳🇮🇩🇮🇷🇮🇶🇮🇪🇮🇲🇮🇱🇮🇹🇯🇲🇯🇵🎌🇯🇪🇯🇴🇰🇿🇰🇪🇰🇮🇽🇰🇰🇼🇰🇬🇱🇦🇱🇻🇱🇧🇱🇸🇱🇷🇱🇾🇱🇮🇱🇹🇱🇺🇲🇴🇲🇰🇲🇬🇲🇼🇲🇾🇲🇻🇲🇱🇲🇹🇲🇭🇲🇶🇲🇷🇲🇺🇾🇹🇲🇽🇫🇲🇲🇩🇲🇨🇲🇳🇲🇪🇲🇸🇲🇦🇲🇿🇲🇲🇳🇦🇳🇷🇳🇵🇳🇱🇳🇨🇳🇿🇳🇮🇳🇪🇳🇬🇳🇺🇳🇫🇰🇵🇲🇵🇳🇴🇴🇲🇵🇰🇵🇼🇵🇸🇵🇦🇵🇬🇵🇾🇵🇪🇵🇭🇵🇳🇵🇱🇵🇹🇵🇷🇶🇦🇷🇪🇷🇴🇷🇺🇷🇼🇼🇸🇸🇲🇸🇹🇸🇦🇸🇳🇷🇸🇸🇨🇸🇱🇸🇬🇸🇽🇸🇰🇸🇮🇬🇸🇸🇧🇸🇴🇿🇦🇰🇷🇸🇸🇪🇸🇱🇰🇧🇱🇸🇭🇰🇳🇱🇨🇵🇲🇻🇨🇸🇩🇸🇷🇸🇿🇸🇪🇨🇭🇸🇾🇹🇼🇹🇯🇹🇿🇹🇭🇹🇱🇹🇬🇹🇰🇹🇴🇹🇹🇹🇳🇹🇷🇹🇲🇹🇨🇹🇻🇻🇮🇺🇬🇺🇦🇦🇪🇬🇧🏴🏴🏴🇺🇸🇺🇾🇺🇿🇻🇺🇻🇦🇻🇪🇻🇳🇼🇫🇪🇭🇾🇪🇿🇲🇿🇼🌎🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲May Allah Make you one of the best ambassador of Islam to convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims around the world ameen 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲brothers and sisters iman can go up and down so be careful always about shaytan.🤲
@@coolboy969 may Allah bless u ... ameen
@@coolboy969 cool, but did you just recognize a certain occupation in your post as a regular country?
And the world doesn’t care, welcome to reality.
@@alicianicas2861 the reality is far far unimaginable, unfathomable u name it...this is just a fraction of it...
And why did u even bother commenting if u didn't even care lol 😂
With all due respect, I think you are generalizing. I know many practicing sisters who did not fall for these 'ism'/social constructs and actually tried getting married. Marriage and staying married is a form of risq that Allah gives to whom He wills. Some get married young, and some get married older. Also, there is a marriage crisis in the Muslim community in the West. It is easy to assume all unmarried sisters are just "modern Muslim women" who are obsessed with their careers/education. This issue is nuance. Allah is aware of how many sisters struggle to get married to a practicing brother who can provide and be a great husband. On the flip side, I know sisters who got married young early 20s and are now divorce single mothers and struggle to support themselves. Allah tests us differently, and all we can do is be patient, take action (through prayer and supplication), and bettering ourselves. Some of us may never be parents or get married/remarried, and that is okay. Be content with Allah's decree, and may He reward all sisters who struggled getting married due to ageism, colourism, racism, or being a divorcee/widow/single mom. These are issues that brothers/dawah channels hardly ever address or try to fix. Although the Prophet's (peace be upon him) sunnah was to marry the widows, older women, single mothers, etc.
Yes you are right, I am generalizing, perhaps I should’ve made that clearer. There are exceptions to the rule of course & I hope anyone who is an exception to these general trends doesn’t take offense, inshaAllah. I just wanted to get this message out for people who may have never been exposed to such information, may Allah guide us all, ameen.
Very true, thats why as a female I think its important to have an education because many sisters that get divorced will not have a way to support themselves. Plus u can still work and be a great mom, my mom worked only 3 days a week and ahe was there for us and we had plenty of family time. Its not black and white, it depends on the job, hours, and the woman herself. If she knows her deen, she wont mind cutting back hours at work for some years for family life and going back in later
@@SaajidLipham Title should be Modern MARRIED Muslim Women.
the fact that they are getting divorced even though they married at a very early age is mainly due to the effect of feminism and the idolization of single mother hood by this ideology, they corrupt the woman into believing that they can take on the role of both father and mother, in the end they cause much damage to society
@@adhiliqbal500 actually..that’s not true. Most women don’t want to be single mothers. People get divorced for various reasons. Marriage requires a lot and some don’t have what it takes to make the marriage last.
What is scary is Wallahi I look around and see so many boys not caring about their career and have no motivation to succeed in school. Then you look at the girls and they’re the top of the classes. These boys need to step up
Which country are you from?
@@sihamkaddour5673 I live in the UK
This is actually disastrous for women.
@@NA-bb3bq that's what's being encouraged. but girls may do better in grade school but gradually return to their natural inclinations as grow older. they just don't have the biological makeup or impetus to create the kind of technological, engineering and sociopolitical wonders that traditional society created. meanwhile, girls' hormones are changing and they are becoming more manly as they take on challenges that were the forte of men.
It’s not wrong for women to be at the top of their class. Women can be educated and still take care of her household when she is ready for marriage.
In this super confusing world, i'm extremely grateful to be a muslim woman who takes Allaah and His Messenger (sallAllaahu alaihi wa sallam) as her guide on what's right and wrong and not people! I would have been so lost if it weren't the case. Alhamdulillaah
Great video brother
JazaakAllaah khair
"And covet not the thing in which Allah hath made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (Envy not one another) but ask Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things."
qurano.com/en/4-an-nisa/verse-32/
Most of us dont , its only from the mercy from Allah.
I feel like this needs to be said for the ladies and gentlemen in our ummah. A wife's obligation is to obey her husband but some men do take advantage of this and misuse this rule. I would gladly obey a good, pure intentioned, kind man who doesn't try to cut me short. But I won't obey a man with a sick agenda to use, abuse (mentally, physically, sexually) or a manipulator. Ladies please watch out for toxic behaviour, and men please have pure intentions, check your intentions so that there is no trauma or misuse of power (in the context of wife obeying husband). And most importantly, seek help through patience and prayer to Allah. May Allah grant us all kind hearted, pure intentioned, spouses whom we can depend on forever and rejoin in Jannah al-Firdaus. Ameen ya Rabb. EDIT: There ARE evil women too y'all. May Allah protect the men and us all from evil people and spouses. Ameen.
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H where in Quran is it written a wife must obey her husband only when she reaches the conclusion there is nothing toxic about him (firstly you're not even supposed to be married to a toxic un-Islamic man). when you're not obeying him and suspecting him, looking for the most minuscule of defects (in your eyes) that itself qualifies as toxic behavior that could lead to actual toxic behavior from him.
H the meaning of what you wrote is abusive men are the norm and good men are exceptions
@@Pagalchhagal I’m saying that there are men who change their behaviour and demeanour after getting married and are very toxic. I’m telling my fellow sisters to watch out for that
@@frisbeecouriers you should tell them to look out for their own toxic behavior, which is harder to see but within their control to fix. if there is toxic behavior in someone else, it's obvious but you cannot change them. also tell them to look out for toxic behavior from femenist women giving them toxic advice
I don't think either gender should 100% focus on their career. Men will forget what its like to love someone emotionally rather than physically then. Women can't use much of their career skills to better the marriage then anyway. Priorities need to be set right for both.
True agreed completely. There should boundaries for all our priorities regardless of gender.
We need some female professionals. I wouldn’t want to go to a male OBGYN, in fact, when I delivered my first child I had male doctors enter the room 😳 it was so embarrassing. Also, it would be so wonderful to have more female psychologists and counselors, family doctors, teachers/professors, attorneys....
Brother Saajid never said females cannot be a professional. Anyhow, I hope you and your family are all well, barakallahu fiikum.
Well that’s just you being insecure, who cares if the doctor is male? Also no, we need more females working at home. Did you not pay attention to the video?
@@sieg6635 It's not her being insecure, they literally feel up on the woman's *ahem* to know how far along the birth is. Would you like that?
Even in Islamic sources, medical help should be with the same gender unless there is no other choice or worry that it would be an emergency.
@@sieg6635 I'm all in for what brother Saajid said. Just to be more in the middle, I have an amazing aunt who is an amazing doctor, is a neurologist, always cooks for the family, takes care off all of her 3 children and they are all amazing pious good mannered cousins of mine, has a good working husband as well. I am certain this is one example of the good team work that brother Saajid was talking about. So yes, women can be professionals if they understand that their family is the no.1 to prioritize. I'm sure good female doctors are a blessing for female patients. Lets just be kind to each other, even when argumenting. Barakallahu fiikum
@@nauras.9209 Alhamdulillah I was by my wife's side when she was in labour, i saw all what they had to do. And no, unless it was a dire emergency, I of course want all obgyn medical staff to be all women.
Fathers and mothers should step up and learn how to parent to protect their kids
Should learn principles of the religion
Arab culture is not a religion... the lives of the sahabas is not religion it is the ways how they live in their own period...
@@zatoichiable Listen to this :
Video Title : Satanic Plot Against Salafiyyah || Daily Da'wah #57
( video from the Naseeha Sessions’ channel )
@@zatoichiable 🤨
@@Urbro_meast Learn learn learn... dont be a sheep... use your Aql, your intellect is your guide to understand the quran... do not imitate the shahabas lives, they have different time and environment than ours...salafiyas has no meaning... we are designed by Allah to evolve forward socially intellectually morally.... lets move forward not backward to the 8th century...
@@zatoichiable you don't understand what it mean to follow sahabah so stay silent if you see your self as Muslim I will even say it more or as much don't speak about religion when it is not really your field, of qualification God Allah mentioned in Quran who take other way than was of belivers it refered to sahabah also Prophet Mohammed mentioned about sunnah of the rightly guided khulafa'a (the first Muslims leaders abu var Omar, Uthman and Ali) may Allah be pleased with them All.
Asalamu alaikum, I agree with some of your points. No, I don’t disagree with anything in the Quran. Quran doesn’t say that I can’t work. Keep in mind that we are more than just mothers and wives. Being a mother, wife, and a professional are all my titles. I love being a mother and I enjoy that title, I take it very serious just like I take my deen serious.
Speaking on the issues of women’s rights according to the Quran is not feminism nor is it propaganda. Just a note, most Muslim men don’t want to admit that they have allowed their cultural beliefs of finances, abuse (physical and verbal) to over shadow the Islamic rights of the wife. Muslim men can try to blame Muslim women for everything, but Allah knows.
My husband knows his role and responsibilities, and I know mine, and he doesn’t mind me working as long as it doesn’t interfere with the kids time. There is nothing wrong with being able to support myself, and my kids with or without my husband. Too many woman are divorced, or widowed and left with nothing. My husband has no problem teaching things like changing a tire, minor plumbing, etc. He has the mental security of knowing that I can hold my own to a point. Women are put into a box of this is all you are, don’t speak, don’t think, don’t have an opinion or a personality.
I also love the idea that a women have an expiration date like a carton of milk, and that men are only looking for women to look like Barbies. We have eyes, we too want a spouse that is outwardly appealing. Men also have an expiration date, but we will leave that alone.
While everyone keeps overlooking issues of forced marriages, and physical abuse we will continue to have these conversations that men have deemed issues of feminist propaganda. A Muslim woman knowing her rights, being educated, and having a career is not feminism.
What are you saying to the Muslim woman who is unable to bear children...Is she worthless? What about the a Muslim woman who is disfigured...is she worthless? What about a Muslim woman who wants a career serving the needy, and children...is she worthless? Stop letting the stories of some Muslim women who regret their decisions be the stories for us all.
My husband once told me that keeping me in the house is like caging a bird. He knows that I am adventurous, I want to learn many skills, and go many places. Allhumdulillah that I have him in my life. I am not equal to my husband, but I am more than just a mother, and a wife. He understands that.
May Allah guide us all, forgive us, and have mercy on us, for there is no better judge than Him because he knows what is in our hearts.
He specifically used the term 'modern muslim women' which involves delaying marriage and pursuing haram relationships, this concept comes from feminism it's as simple as that
Do you pay 50% of the bills? You don't have to answer this question but if the answer is Yes then your husband's motivation for supporting your career aspirations is questionable. Working is fine and not the issue, but prioritizing a career over family time and hands on parenting is a major issue. I hope that you get to keep the money that you make and not be forced to use it to pay for your husband's responsibilities.
Thank you!!
Thank you for stating your thoughts so perfectly.
MashaAllah sister.
I am so happy that there are women that think like you. What you said just lightened my heart after listening to this somewhat distressing talk. This man is talking from his own opinions and views and it has little to do with Islam and more to do with western traditionalist views by the looks of it. He clearly is unaware of what women go through all around the world. We need more women to speak like you bc I don't agree with feminism but I believe that Islam gave us rights and we should be proud of them and not listen to these men who haven't even talked to women about their views and struggles and think they have room to talk. My brother would never say things like this because we've discussed these things before. He knows what my sister and I have to face. He has actually sat down and listened to our problems (just like the companions of the prophet used to listen to the women's complaints). He isn't perfect but he is very considerate and he takes ownership of his mistakes rather than blaming women all the time and that is the kind of young man a Muslim family should be putting forth.
The best work women can do and enjoy at the same time is raising her kids and taking care of her family!
I'm a sister, and I know a lot of sisters who do not work WAllahi they are happier than those who work and had to spend at least 12+ hours away from their kids!
Do you know that in the West, the majority of women who work and have kids wish they could stay at home and take care of their family only ?
@@ilhamh4359 I don't know about the west! But I think most of them would not like to work +12 hours a day ! But they are forced to do it, either they really need the money to survive, or just following the crowd, because being a housewife in the western world is not normal for the young generation!
@@ilhamh4359 stop spreading lies! Itaqillah!
@@arabiyyah7965
That's what I said, and yes, homemaker or stay-at-home mum as they call it is often looked down upon, but more and more women are making people aware that it's a job in itself and an UNPAID one too !
@@ummamanaah5064
I'm not lying. That's what they say themselves.
Brother, just a sincere suggestion I think we should be talking about "Responsibilities" exclusively than "Rights".
When we use "Rights" it automatically assumes a tug-of-war scenario, where we are always fighting against the opposite gender.
This felt strange. Until i remembered “give glad tidings to the strangers”
Wow
Brother Saajid, most families that I know, the man does little or next to nothing to provide for the family and because of this women are forced to take the role of both her role as a mother and as a provider. They then encourage their daughter to become independent so they don't struggle as they did. Not all men but a lot of men these days are truly not dependable so women are forced to become independent.
That is exactly what happened to my mother, which is why she always encourages me to study hard and get a degree. I think nowadays due to the high divorce rate, getting a degree can be considered a good back up plan especially if the marriage fails. I think a problem arises when work is prioritised over the family. In my opinion the best job to work in whilst being a mother and a wife would be as a primary school teacher as your working hours are in line with your children's school time and you also have weekends and the same holidays as your children. However, Its a shame that society has messed things up so bad that a woman can't even trust in her marriage 100% anymore.
This the sad reality sis men actually need to men up i have seen my frnds hang around the hookah bars while there wifes are out working hard and they feel no shame about it on of the sister used to study with me in school she contacted me and asked me if i could hire her husband i agreed the guy stopped showing up after a week
@@trpmuslim4614 but Saudia hires a lot of women in medical and education fields. If you had enough workforce then you should not hire people especially women from other countries to do that work. Then you are sending out wrong image to your own citizens. Like saying you women can do this but not this, but women and also mind you there are Muslim women from other countries who will be allowed or hired to do all this. I think that is why Saudi women now want to study and work and support families.
@@trpmuslim4614 its sad that this sort of disease has reached the Muslim lands i did not know about it but what i was pointing out is what i saw in the west in Canada where I grew up it not the majority of the men but there is a trend, where men will sit at home or go hang out with friends, do nothing and the wife has to go out and earn many of my own school friends are doing this and no one wants to intervene cuz its a matter between husband and wife but what your saying is also true I am just so lucky in this regard that i was able to find the right woman 3 years married and happy what I learned is marriage is bit of give and take you have to work as team and let your spouse know that you appreciate their efforts and forgive each other you cant old grudges against each other
@@trpmuslim4614 yes, that’s exactly what Br Gabriel, Saajid, Daniel are saying that liberalism is heavily lobbying and threatening people and nations with sanctions if they don’t oblige by their rule. And scholars like Dr Yasir Qadi, Mufti Menk or Omar Suleiman are not fighting it. But if a country like Saudi is not able to stand the pressure by the “liberal” authorities then how are Dr YQ, Omar Suleiman or Mufti Menk going to fight it. The men are being occupied by addictions like video games, Netflix, Wall Street Tradings etc to keep them engaged and separated from families and women are left with no choice but to pick up the pieces and run with it. We are at really challenging times. We have not even touched the haram addictions. We have a lot of work to do. I see Khabib is a very good example of how a Muslim man should be and someone that I will encourage by son to look upto. But then again is MMA halal. Which one is better if two evils.
This is a much needed wakeup call for both men and women
Why do only talk of men having right to intimacy, this is not about feminism. Both spouses have this right!
Women deny it a lot more than men. Also in stupid culture they believe it is not allowed to have sex except having kids. Which is the reason why they eventually divorce
@@ramonapirvulescu4773 if he is providing for her which is clothes and food and giving her money for her own interests the least she can do is make food for him. But me myself as a man that will inshallah get married i will make my own food when going or coming to work. I don’t really aspect my wife to do that stuff. The western society has made like the man and the women both have to compete each other in work which is false Allah swt has made the man better at working so he can provide for the family. Usually a lot of women ik when they do work they act up and they don’t be a mom to their kids.
@@ramonapirvulescu4773 Also the reason why he does not feel desire is most likely she has kids and gained weight it is a sad thing.🙁🙁🙁
@@ramonapirvulescu4773 the sad thing is he loses interest of her because she gained weight. That is a bad thing because u got her pregnant and now u don’t like her because she gained weight.
@@ramonapirvulescu4773 They are men who marry women 2nd wife that are widows but the women will say no and threaten him for divorce. In these situations it is the women’s fault. So many women in this ummah think that my husband will be mine alone and stuff like that which is not a right way to think. More women suffer and more women are not married and so being that Allah swt aloud the man to marry 4 wives if he has the ability to do so.
What about the men sleeping around, partying and then wanna get married to a virgin and obedient wife? It's not always the women to be blamed. Fed up with it.
reject those men, you lot acting like someone putting a gun to your hand to marry them, those men are a very small percentage whereas with the women it's probably 80%
Hypocrites
if that's the case, it shows how important chastity and obedience are for young women to have, that even (former) playboy men desire in women to marry.
@@Pagalchhagal yes nothing compared to the man i am sorry that is the truth. So many men kill them selves of depression to porn
@@umar9174 "yes nothing compared to the man.." i don't understand
Brother, I'm no modern day feminist but you're putting way too much blame on women you need to also put blame on men as well I know many women who got married young and tried to stay at home with their children and be a good house wife but then their husband cheated on them or walked out on them or were unable to fully financially support them, etc. Lost so much respect for you. And please don't say they can get remarried bc a divorced woman with children trying to get remarried in the Muslim community is not easy
Exactly. Thank you for pointing that out. Not everyone has the privilege of getting married. Many women choose to not get married because of these issues,. It harms them physically mentally and emotionally.
I agree with you, but still he didn't say anything wrong so why have less respect to him? He is not responsible for weak males who can't be responsible, However it will be a different subject with lots of reasons, one of them is to choose right
Yes, I have heard of many Muslim men here in the Middle-East who are violent and harsh with their wives, and many women are being affected by this in such ways that young girls don't want to marry. Many men here, and keep in mind I live in a Muslim-majority country, do not provide for their wives. Neither do they treat her fairly and with compassion, rather some of them will see her as a burden.
So lost....
On a ship, there's only one captain. The husband is the captain, the wife is the chief officer and the kids are the crew.
Femenists be like: he's not competant to be captain, I'll be the captain!!
I say ; then u didnt marry a man muhahahaha
So true! How can a country hv two prime ministers? 😕
A feminist would tell you why can't both be captains? I mean she is just as qualified as he is.
Lol
@@ZakuZuko then who will HV the last say 🤔
@@sophiesumleen7872 the mother. Cuz the mom will take the kids and jump ship. Then the man is there by himself. A captain of an empty ship. If he behaves like a good boy mommy might let him see the kids once a month.
This video should be shared with all of our family members. BarakAllaah feek for the timely reminder.
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@Mehamed kaddih are you Muslim ?
The analogy of the military is brilliant! Really drives home the point. Jazakallah for always speaking the truth regardless of how "unpopular" a topic it may be
@@jesan733 I hear what you are saying but disagree. Men and women are built differently and for specific purposes. That is why women are the ones that bare children, and men are the hunter/gatherers. This has always been the case up until this new wave of feminism.
Put Islam aside for a moment. Even here in the west, this has been the case up until the last 40-50 years or so. No one hear is saying Islam is against women seeking education, or pursuing a career. What we are saying is if that pursuit of education and career is prioritized over getting married, and having children, then we as a civilization are lost. Men are not suited for housework, and women really are not suited to be the providers. Are there women that can provide better than men? Of course there are.....LOTS of them. that is not the point being made here. How is humanity going to last if all the women refuse to get married and have kids because they want to climb the corporate ladder?
This is not an argument and I am really not looking at anyone agreeing or disagreeing. Islam is based on laws set forth by our creator Allah and a devout Muslim puts these laws ahead of any man made ones. You don't have to agree, and Islam is not dependent on your agreement. We were all given free will to lead our lives as we choose.
@@jesan733 We are both coming at this topic from different paradigms. Yours is from modernistic, capatalistic, democratic one, and me from an Islamic one. The two could not be more diametrically apposed.
Can a man learn to do housework, yes definitely. Can a woman learn to be the leader of the house, yes definitely. Can modern science now even change hormones in the human body so a man turns into a woman and visa versa, well we see that already.
I don't have to point out to anyone with senses how catastrophic this has been. You may see it as advancements in science, morality, etc, but from an Islamic perspective, this is cause of the many calamities the world is facing today.
Like I said earlier, you don't have to agree, and to be honest, if you are coming from your paradigm you will never agree. That's okay. But if you are a Muslim, you cannot have these ideologies.
To your last point that Islam is based on a 7th century sect leader. If you define close to 3 billion Muslims around the world as a sect, then so be it I am proud to be in that "sect". Where we disagree is that Allah's commandments are timeless and are as relevant back in the 7th century as they are today.
Its also important for us as a community to acknowledge that many men have let down there wifes by being lazy and not willing to work and being involved gambling and drink alcohol this the reason sisters are (not all) forced to work to support there children and there husband
Those sisters preferred good looks over religious commitments when they married that lazy men when I ask for Muslim sisters hand in marriage they tell my mother I need to shave my beard off nobody asks my mother if I pray five times a day or not🤦♂️😂
That could be true but still usally moms will try and find the most pious wife for the unpious sons in general getting married has become so hard if ylu a good pious man its hard to find pious wife and if your good pious woman than is hard to find good man may allah SWT help us
@@monisahmedrizvi1697 ameen brother all we can do is practice patience.
@@monisahmedrizvi1697 this must be a cultural thing, where moms look for wifes for the son?
Yup mostly desi (india/pak) i dont how things work in middle eastern families even in west mostly moms or some family friends will find suitable spouse for you or suggest you some one and then you and your family go and meet them if both the girl and the boy says yes then its match this how it happened for me at least my mom told bunch of my aunties and neighbors that she was looking for spouse for me and they would send her photos and details it can be slightly different for some people many of my frnds foubd skme in unis that they liked and they went and told there families
It’s ironic how women who have a problem obeying their husbands are perfectly fine with obeying their bosses.
Boss control is extremely limited. Husbands usually control all aspects of life. Also changing husband is hundreds of times more difficult than changing the boss.
To them Money is more important than Allah's rule.
Soo true
@Ryoshikari The society you would like, I should add. But that's evolution. People get bored with the lives the previous generations have lived and try new ways of life. Also interestingly, for whatever reason, this "boredom" is also not uniform. Different people feel differently and they interpret the scripture that way. Also society keeps adjusting. At one point drugs were in fashion and when people realized how bad it was they applied strict laws. Coffee is also somewhat bad, smoking is bad but not bad enough to ban. So society adjusts by limiting consumption etc.
You can have a female boss too men have to obey them if they want to keep their job.
May Allah reward you for highest level paradise . 🌸
When will men leave us alone? 😑 I’m so sick and tired
Don't worry when you reach 31yrs. No man will look at your ass . Then you will have 48yrs to be alone , Since women live longer .
@@dontsimpbro7039 who says I want to be married at 31? What a oddly specific number lol don’t assume u sexist creep
@@dontsimpbro7039 Don't argue brother. Let them reach those ages. Allah Tallah will show expose the truth. JazakAllah
It's not what men say, it's the perfect religion Islam 😇
Cmon you know why? We've left the Quran and Sunnah, we stray away from the guidance of Allah and there is consequences for both men and women.
While your points are valid, brother, it is important to still be compassionate towards these woman and try to understand them. Many scholars see no problem with a woman having her own income so long as the husband is approving and the work environment is halal. And Allah knows best.
Saajid with due respect to you, I'd like to comment on the thing you said about women being taught to not depend on a man are weak. There is a reason why women are taught that. Men have shunned from their roles and have been very lousy providers. They expect women to pay for themselves. Isn't it unfair to expect women to have nothing to support themselves. Education is necessary because what is a woman supposed to do when her husband leaves her? Or when she needs her own money. I understand that the family should be the main priority of a woman but to completely throw their careers away is a stupid move
@@Fini111 women can work while being married as well........ Understandably not making it a larger priority
"And covet not the thing in which Allah hath made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (Envy not one another) but ask Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things."
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I think its okay for women to have a career because there are many benefits, like if you need more money because you're husband has a low income and can't fully provide without help or if the women just wants a hobby and is interested in education and has goals to atcheive them, also sometimes the wife is forced to provide because their husband can't work due to health issues or the wife is a widow or divorced.
“The first wife of the prophet Mohammed; Khadija was a successful business women in her own right who controlled one of the most important caravan trade routes in the region. She was the first Muslim and believed in Mohammed before he believed in himself.
When a man does something great, it's because behind every strong man there's a strong woman, and when he does something wrong, it's because of toxic masculinity.
When a woman does something great, it's because she's a strong and independent woman, and when she does something wrong it's because men influenced and drove her to do it.
When a Sunnah involves something that benefits women, you'll see posts calling upon men to do it and rebuking those who don't (without stipulating that they have to do every Sunnah), but when it comes to something that might hurt a womans feelings, you'll see posts that say things like "some brothers are lazy with Sunan such as fasting mondays and thursdays but on the other hand they want to do Sunnah and marry a second wife!"
These statements are so engraved into people's minds that even so-called Muslim preachers are repeating them as if they were established Islamic principles and both brothers and sisters like and share it as a form of 'dawah'. A bitter example of how feminist indoctrination has caused the belittling of men - or even straightout men-bashing - and singing the praises of women to become equal to being a "just and enlightened Muslim" in the eyes of many.
Wallaahul-musta'aan.
I agree with this also, many people use the Prophet SAW's name in vain Astaghfirullah, and may Allah guide them, but you can not neglect that part of the Sunnah only because you don't think it fits you. It was reported by Aisha RA that the Prophet SAW would often help with the housework, and in his final Khutbah SAW he called Muslim men to be good to their women. I agree that some people who say this are hypocrites, but you shouldn't neglect this part of the Sunnah just because of these women. And Allah knows best.
SubhannAllah my view of my future life in shaa Allah is sooooo different when I watched the video! Barakallahu feek! May Allah forgive me and my sisters in Islam!
Allāhumma Barik. Well balanced, plenty of food for thought on both ends. Plenty of discussion can be made on various points that have been raised. Has definitely encouraged me, as a Male, to pull up my socks. Alhumdulillah.
Asalamu alaikum brother please do a video for the brothers on mahrams and there responsibility. So many sisters especially reverts have the imam or some random guy be a mahram who has no connection or real care for the sisters well being. These fast food nikahs then get worse when the mahram never sees the family again because he was just brought in to make it "halal". The sister often times is then abused or quickly divorced and since she was a revert has no way to get he rights or find protection.
Good point but I don't think the brother is concerned about abuse women go through based on how his videos turn out. Muslim women should have their own voice.
Good point but I don't think the brother is concerned about abuse women go through based on how his videos turn out. Muslim women should have their own voice.
Brother I appreciate your message. I wish to clarify something about what motivates women to want to be financially independent. We are motivated to he financially independent so that we do not get abused. Power abuse, physical abuse and emotional abuse are all side effects of being vulnerable to men. Submitting to men is not safe. Collectively men have to prove how safe and worthy they are of being the leader of the household. Women did not create feminism. Men who abused their power and were not safe to submit to have created it. We dream of comfort and love and luxury when we are at work. Men are not being source of comfort and love and luxury. They are a source of anxiety and fear. When we are independent financially we are saying to men "I do not need to depend on you so step up your game! Behave well! Don't abuse me, don't leave me at home waiting for you to come back. Don't give me this scary feeling... don't frighten me, don't play mind games, Dont be lazy, don't he addicted to football when I am there. Don't drive me mad, don't shape how my own family view me when you want to control me.... I can look after myself, let's see how good you are, show me what you've got and if I marry you and you abuse me, I can leave... I don't need you". I will also add "do not tell me I cannot do maths and give advice on architecture because I am female or that I cannot steer a business or that I should just be in the kitchen.. I am brainy too, these passions for electronics and technology and property management are in me too, I don't see why I must change my name to JK Rowling because I am female?" .... regardless of rights given Islam, we still have to wait to judgment day to get justice and we cannot wait that long, we are scared right now!
This was brilliant! May Allah reward you and rectify the affairs of the Ummah. Ameen
Thanks for your deep and very challenging thoughts.
An introspection is needed by us, indeed.
My first marriage I choose a man who did not have a relationship with allaha. I thought the freedom that I was given was what I wanted. Most of the time we were selfish and fought a lot I was always a long while he went too drink and smoke with friends. Now I am divorced and have 2 children. He did not leave me any money even though I took care of his brother who had cancer. Women please if your desire is a family home then marry a man who loves and puts Allaha 1st because this will guide him to be fair and kind. He will not leave you in the street for Allaha will put kidness in his heart.
sajid. A woman being independent is a truly wonderful thing - not just for herself emotionally and financially, rather it’s something many religious and noble brothers admire and find attractive. A self sufficient woman know both the world and her responsibilities within Islam, she appreciates her husband if married, and can stand on her own two feet if she chooses a life of not being married, divorced or widowed.
I wish more brothers would come on these platforms promoting this rather than this rhetoric of “feminism got you sisters” the second any of them want to do normal thing like get a job,career,speak out of the real injustices of their male counterparts/husbands.
Men often gaslight women telling them what they they should be thinking and doing and this is a disgusting thing which I’ve seen happening more and more. Men seem threatened and insecure which is rather pathetic, and instead of being a strong man and standing by his wife or womenfolk he clutches at straws quoting “feminism”. No. No and no.
There seems to be a growing number of brothers, I’m not sure if you are one and I won’t judge you just based on this, that use the word “feminism” far too much and in places it doesn’t deserve.
There's no such thing as independent woman. We all are dependent on someone/something else in order to function efficiently as society.
Civilian depends on military/police for security. Pupil depends on teachers for education. Guy on street depends on ulama for knowledge & rulings.
Just admit the fact of what Allah swt has prescribed to us & we'll be able to live happily, InsyaAllah.
hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Sarah McArdle why do you feel the need to defend such unclean ideologies like feminism? do you seriously think the blame it gets is too much? how exactly is feminism benefiting yourself? like it's some kind of golden treasure you must defend. it's destroying social fabric, changing the very biology of men and women
this guy and the people that follow him are no different than ben shapiro and his followers. just like christiannity is wrapped in the right wing in america, this guy is wrapping islam in the right wing ideology. debating right wingers is like trying to convince a serial killer not to kill. Good luck with that, it's better to run away with your life.
MashaAllah, may Allah bless you in your efforts brother Saajid. Ameen.
I would only want to say that the woman also has a right to having her desires satisfied as well, so that both man and woman can guard their chastity. It is important for men to understand that woman have needs, as Allah has created us Alhamdulillah, and that woman have that right to have those needs satisfied. Allah knows best, may Allah keep us all steadfast in fulfilling our responsibilities. Ameen
Alhamdulillah
This is also a very important sentiment. It is of the Prophet SAW's Sunnah to be good to your wife. And Allah knows best.
Well put, beautifully put, and perfectly put❤️❤️❤️
Jazakalah Khair for this crucial subject.
Equal and 'the same' in this particular context isn't the same thing. Equality doesn't suggest that women and men are exactly the same, equality suggests fairness. For example, if we are two people performing the same work, with the same level of skill, let's be paid the same.
Yes I agree
Yes, I agree. There is nothing in Hadith or Quran (at least to my knowledge) suggesting that a woman who works is engaging in sin. Many scholars are of the opinion that a woman can work so long as her husband agrees, and so long as the work is not in a mixed environment and in a safe place, and ofc if the work is halal. Men should not be paid more for doing the same work as a woman does, verily we are equal in the eyes of Allah. And Allah knows best.
If Women wants a career over a family, its her choice. Everybody is responsible for the choices they make. If a women prefers to live with 10 pet cats and die alone, so be it.
Your sarcasm is improper.
Man and women have their own specific rights but they have different among themselves
Brothers and sisters convey the message of Islam to France 🇫🇷 Pakistan 🇵🇰 Afghanistan 🇦🇫 Indonesia 🇮🇩 USA 🇺🇸 India 🇮🇳 Brazil 🇧🇷 Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 and whole world 🌎 it’s your duty and my duty and all of us duty to convey the message of Islam to them may Allah guide you and me all of us ameen make duwa for you and me all of us everyday because all of us creations of Allah so we all of us belong to him and we all should return to him ☝️☝️ May Allah make you and me and all of us Ambassador of Islam . ☝️please brothers and sisters be aware of this France 🇫🇷 or China 🇨🇳 or Israel 🇮🇱 any other countries are not our enemies at all. our biggest enemy is shaytan so please be aware of shaytan always . May Allah increase more knowledge and iman for you and me all of us ameen.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️Quran 49:13 O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims including Christians, Jewish , Hindus, Buddhist , footballers, cricketers, rugby, mma, movie stars ,singers , politicians,rich ,poor, good person , bad person , enemy , family and friends. yes it’s your duty to convey the message of Islam to them. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said “Convey from me, even if it is one verse.” (Sahih Al Bukhari 3461).🌎 🇦🇫🇦🇽🇦🇱🇩🇿🇦🇸🇦🇩🇦🇴🇦🇮🇦🇶🇦🇬🇦🇷🇦🇲🇦🇼🇦🇺🇦🇹🇦🇿🇧🇸🇧🇭🇧🇩🇧🇧🇧🇾🇧🇪🇧🇿🇧🇯🇧🇲🇧🇹🇧🇴🇧🇦🇧🇼🇧🇷🇮🇴🇻🇬🇧🇳🇧🇬🇧🇫🇧🇮🇰🇭🇨🇲🇨🇦🇮🇨🇨🇻🇧🇶🇰🇾🇨🇫🇹🇩🇨🇱🇨🇳🇨🇽🇨🇨🇨🇴🇰🇲🇨🇬🇨🇩🇨🇰🇨🇷🇨🇮🇭🇷🇨🇺🇨🇼🇨🇾🇨🇿🇩🇰🇩🇯🇩🇲🇩🇴🇪🇨🇪🇬🇸🇻🇬🇶🇪🇷🇪🇪🇪🇹🇪🇺🇫🇰🇫🇴🇫🇯🇫🇮🇫🇷🇬🇫🇵🇫🇹🇫🇬🇦🇬🇲🇬🇪🇩🇪🇬🇭🇬🇮🇬🇷🇬🇱🇬🇩🇬🇵🇬🇺🇬🇹🇬🇬🇬🇳🇬🇼🇬🇾🇭🇹🇭🇳🇭🇰🇭🇺🇮🇸🇮🇳🇮🇩🇮🇷🇮🇶🇮🇪🇮🇲🇮🇱🇮🇹🇯🇲🇯🇵🎌🇯🇪🇯🇴🇰🇿🇰🇪🇰🇮🇽🇰🇰🇼🇰🇬🇱🇦🇱🇻🇱🇧🇱🇸🇱🇷🇱🇾🇱🇮🇱🇹🇱🇺🇲🇴🇲🇰🇲🇬🇲🇼🇲🇾🇲🇻🇲🇱🇲🇹🇲🇭🇲🇶🇲🇷🇲🇺🇾🇹🇲🇽🇫🇲🇲🇩🇲🇨🇲🇳🇲🇪🇲🇸🇲🇦🇲🇿🇲🇲🇳🇦🇳🇷🇳🇵🇳🇱🇳🇨🇳🇿🇳🇮🇳🇪🇳🇬🇳🇺🇳🇫🇰🇵🇲🇵🇳🇴🇴🇲🇵🇰🇵🇼🇵🇸🇵🇦🇵🇬🇵🇾🇵🇪🇵🇭🇵🇳🇵🇱🇵🇹🇵🇷🇶🇦🇷🇪🇷🇴🇷🇺🇷🇼🇼🇸🇸🇲🇸🇹🇸🇦🇸🇳🇷🇸🇸🇨🇸🇱🇸🇬🇸🇽🇸🇰🇸🇮🇬🇸🇸🇧🇸🇴🇿🇦🇰🇷🇸🇸🇪🇸🇱🇰🇧🇱🇸🇭🇰🇳🇱🇨🇵🇲🇻🇨🇸🇩🇸🇷🇸🇿🇸🇪🇨🇭🇸🇾🇹🇼🇹🇯🇹🇿🇹🇭🇹🇱🇹🇬🇹🇰🇹🇴🇹🇹🇹🇳🇹🇷🇹🇲🇹🇨🇹🇻🇻🇮🇺🇬🇺🇦🇦🇪🇬🇧🏴🏴🏴🇺🇸🇺🇾🇺🇿🇻🇺🇻🇦🇻🇪🇻🇳🇼🇫🇪🇭🇾🇪🇿🇲🇿🇼🌎🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲May Allah Make you one of the best ambassador of Islam to convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims around the world ameen 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲brothers and sisters iman can go up and down so be careful always about shaytan.🤲
What?
I’m sorry brother but you are generalizing. I am a woman of 35 years old with four children and I’m in the midst of divorcing after a marriage of 14 years. I married my husband when I was 21 years old. It didn’t work out unfortunately. I started practicing Islam at the age of 19 years old. I never was this ‘modern’ girl who wanted a carrier and so called ‘freedom’.
So what you’re saying is that someone like me can’t marry easily again due to my age or because I’m not as attractive as a 20-year-old. Only Allah gets to decide whether I get married again or not. No I’m not attractive as I used to be, but I have my Deen alhamdoelilah. I’m a practicing Muslima alhamdoelilah and I ask Allah to help me find a spouse, that doesn’t judge me for my looks only but rather looks at the complete picture. I get what you’re saying and agree with most of the things you’re saying. I just don’t agree when you say, that older woman have limited changes of getting married again because of their looks or age. Nowadays you see a lot of young woman that can’t get married and that’s not because they are feminists.
Our prophet Mohammed alayhie salam married khadija who was 40 years old. A lot of men don’t look beyond looks and age unfortunately!
JazakaAllahu Khairan akhee.
So when are you going to address the modern Muslim men?
Most of us men get tongue tied trying to get even a little close to explaining the things u mentioned.Alhamdulillah u have a way with words brother.Really gives us men the help of right choice of words and matters with our women.Also very much gives the believing women beautiful direction in life as well as strength to hold their heads up in these messed up times.
Loved how respectful and easy to follow this video was mashallah
Very clearly said. May Allah preserve you. Aameen
Its so sad that even muslim parents push so much for their daughter to schools overboard and didnt teach them enough about islam and dont care about their daughter religion. Sometimes its difficult for the daughter themself to fullfill what their husband's rights because of the parents. Meanwhile the muslimah knowledge about the religion is crucial for the next generation.
I am a girl and my parents have taught me a lot about my religion and i am striving to learn more about it. But that didn’t stop me from getting into scientific fields that I am passionate about, or lose my position from being at the top of my class. Religion is crucial thats why I believe that education is crucial
Why keep saying that the man marries a women for her physic when the prophet (swc) says to marries a women for her akhlaq and deen?
Wait
Prophet told marry the one who is religious, what this means is:
First we should check if she is religious, then check if she is beautiful
There are numerous hadith which says to go and look at women before marriage so that ATTRACTION AN LOVE increases
Even the prophet Muhammad when a woman presented herself to marriage, he looked at her carefully and CHECKED HER
So beauty is important
May Allah bless you brother Saajid.
The issue is for practising sisters (in the west) is finding a man who prays his 5 daily prayers! Unfortunately this is very rare today and why a lot of sisters are finding it difficult to get married etc.
As for education / career, I personally work remotely as I want to homeschool my children (in the future when I have them إن شاء الله ) but I don’t think it’s wrong for women (especially today) to want to have an education or career (so as long as it doesn’t compromise on their Islamic obligations I.e. working remotely, starting their own business etc) especially when men are leaving their wives left, right and centre (today) for the next available woman!
I agree with the feminism aspect- it’s completely unislamic and unfortunately a lot of sisters fall into this category!
I hope you understand this from a sisters perspective and I hope I didn’t offend you in anyway brother!
جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا for your beneficial reminders. May ﷲ reward you for your efforts.
Jazak Allah Khayr
Absolutely pertinent...Jazakallah khair
There's nothing to add how you put it and explained. JazakAllah khairan. May Allah guide us all.
Sadly, we'll be labelled as backwards for saying this.
Who cares about their opinion on us.
if being called backward gonna take me to jannah, they can call me a caveman for all i care lol
Now I'm crying. With laughter. 🤣🤣🤣
So?
@@jesan733 that’s my boi where you’re wrong
Very good point, masha Allah brother keep doing what you doing.
Needed this reminder, jazakallah khayran!
As a single muslimah who is striving in way of the straight path, I am honestly afraid of getting married. I know of a man who doesn't even pay zakatul fitrah for his wife. I know of another who refused to give his wife nafkah such that she had to go to her parents for money. He wouldn't even wake her up when she overslept and missed fajr. When she questioned why didn't he wake her up, he said everyone has to take care of their islamic duties individually. Here we were thinking marriage is for the man and woman to remind each other in having taqwa. And I can give more examples.
These men are the same ones who grow beards, pray 5x a day, give dawah and regularly go to the masjid.
Why is this is the case that seemingly pious men who talk of Quran and Sunnah behave this way towards their women? You will find many shaikh and ustadh preaching that wives need to obey their husbands, but don't speak on what is owed to the wife.
Even in the islamic marriage preparatory course that my sister attended, the brother giving the lecture said that women should not be angry with their husbands when they ogle other women because "that's just what men do". But weren't both the believing men and women told to lower their gaze? What is a woman to do when the leaders of islamic education have become almost biased in what they teach?
Excuse me sister first you go and study what’s zakathul fitr and what are the wujoob of its.without knowledge please don’t speak may allah bless you
Men and women might be equal but, we will NEVER be the same!
when some one chose to join army they have to follow the law of army no choice. when you accept Islam or born Muslim
you have to follow the law of Allah SWT. it Helps us build good moral society some time free will take us to destruction
Take heed .Day of judgement.
"And covet not the thing in which Allah hath made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (Envy not one another) but ask Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things."
qurano.com/en/4-an-nisa/verse-32/
@Mehamed kaddih Allah SWT says in Qu"ran they are worst than animal.
Seems like you are sufi. you need deep knowledge to understand Islam.
@Mehamed kaddih Allah SWT SAYS IN THE QURAN
WE SENT OUR STRONG MEN TO JEWS
ROMAN ARMY. READ CAREFULLY
MashaAllah!! Very well said brother Saajid! Thank you so much!
So eloquently put. Barakallah feekum.
Ma Shaa Allah.... Beautiful Explaination.
The Satan wants to give us very sweet looking terms to confuse us and keep us convinced we are doing fine, we are progressing...,
We are WE, It's just foolishness to complicate and not do the right thing!
OUR LOSS!
We should wake up and do right.
Mr Saajid good on you!
At minute 15:30 you proposed a question- if men and women are equal/the same, why wouldn’t older women who are prosperous, marry younger men that they find attractive? You stated this just doesn’t happen. It seems that you have forgotten Khadija who was 40 years old when she met The Prophet PBUH who was 25 years old. According to you, she was past her “prime” and men would not be interested in her physical attributes. To further align with the scenario you provided, Khadija was known for being prosperous and wealthy.
Uallahi I love this brother! Really great analogy!
Wow bro, so much benefits from this video, may Allah bless you bro, stay on the right path bro, we need people like you.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Listen to your husband as long as he does as
Allah and massage
Brothers and sisters convey the message of Islam to France 🇫🇷 Pakistan 🇵🇰 Afghanistan 🇦🇫 Indonesia 🇮🇩 USA 🇺🇸 India 🇮🇳 Brazil 🇧🇷 Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 and whole world 🌎 it’s your duty and my duty and all of us duty to convey the message of Islam to them may Allah guide you and me all of us ameen make duwa for you and me all of us everyday because all of us creations of Allah so we all of us belong to him and we all should return to him ☝️☝️ May Allah make you and me and all of us Ambassador of Islam . ☝️please brothers and sisters be aware of this France 🇫🇷 or China 🇨🇳 or Israel 🇮🇱 any other countries are not our enemies at all. our biggest enemy is shaytan so please be aware of shaytan always . May Allah increase more knowledge and iman for you and me all of us ameen.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️Quran 49:13 O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims including Christians, Jewish , Hindus, Buddhist , footballers, cricketers, rugby, mma, movie stars ,singers , politicians,rich ,poor, good person , bad person , enemy , family and friends. yes it’s your duty to convey the message of Islam to them. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said “Convey from me, even if it is one verse.” (Sahih Al Bukhari 3461).🌎 🇦🇫🇦🇽🇦🇱🇩🇿🇦🇸🇦🇩🇦🇴🇦🇮🇦🇶🇦🇬🇦🇷🇦🇲🇦🇼🇦🇺🇦🇹🇦🇿🇧🇸🇧🇭🇧🇩🇧🇧🇧🇾🇧🇪🇧🇿🇧🇯🇧🇲🇧🇹🇧🇴🇧🇦🇧🇼🇧🇷🇮🇴🇻🇬🇧🇳🇧🇬🇧🇫🇧🇮🇰🇭🇨🇲🇨🇦🇮🇨🇨🇻🇧🇶🇰🇾🇨🇫🇹🇩🇨🇱🇨🇳🇨🇽🇨🇨🇨🇴🇰🇲🇨🇬🇨🇩🇨🇰🇨🇷🇨🇮🇭🇷🇨🇺🇨🇼🇨🇾🇨🇿🇩🇰🇩🇯🇩🇲🇩🇴🇪🇨🇪🇬🇸🇻🇬🇶🇪🇷🇪🇪🇪🇹🇪🇺🇫🇰🇫🇴🇫🇯🇫🇮🇫🇷🇬🇫🇵🇫🇹🇫🇬🇦🇬🇲🇬🇪🇩🇪🇬🇭🇬🇮🇬🇷🇬🇱🇬🇩🇬🇵🇬🇺🇬🇹🇬🇬🇬🇳🇬🇼🇬🇾🇭🇹🇭🇳🇭🇰🇭🇺🇮🇸🇮🇳🇮🇩🇮🇷🇮🇶🇮🇪🇮🇲🇮🇱🇮🇹🇯🇲🇯🇵🎌🇯🇪🇯🇴🇰🇿🇰🇪🇰🇮🇽🇰🇰🇼🇰🇬🇱🇦🇱🇻🇱🇧🇱🇸🇱🇷🇱🇾🇱🇮🇱🇹🇱🇺🇲🇴🇲🇰🇲🇬🇲🇼🇲🇾🇲🇻🇲🇱🇲🇹🇲🇭🇲🇶🇲🇷🇲🇺🇾🇹🇲🇽🇫🇲🇲🇩🇲🇨🇲🇳🇲🇪🇲🇸🇲🇦🇲🇿🇲🇲🇳🇦🇳🇷🇳🇵🇳🇱🇳🇨🇳🇿🇳🇮🇳🇪🇳🇬🇳🇺🇳🇫🇰🇵🇲🇵🇳🇴🇴🇲🇵🇰🇵🇼🇵🇸🇵🇦🇵🇬🇵🇾🇵🇪🇵🇭🇵🇳🇵🇱🇵🇹🇵🇷🇶🇦🇷🇪🇷🇴🇷🇺🇷🇼🇼🇸🇸🇲🇸🇹🇸🇦🇸🇳🇷🇸🇸🇨🇸🇱🇸🇬🇸🇽🇸🇰🇸🇮🇬🇸🇸🇧🇸🇴🇿🇦🇰🇷🇸🇸🇪🇸🇱🇰🇧🇱🇸🇭🇰🇳🇱🇨🇵🇲🇻🇨🇸🇩🇸🇷🇸🇿🇸🇪🇨🇭🇸🇾🇹🇼🇹🇯🇹🇿🇹🇭🇹🇱🇹🇬🇹🇰🇹🇴🇹🇹🇹🇳🇹🇷🇹🇲🇹🇨🇹🇻🇻🇮🇺🇬🇺🇦🇦🇪🇬🇧🏴🏴🏴🇺🇸🇺🇾🇺🇿🇻🇺🇻🇦🇻🇪🇻🇳🇼🇫🇪🇭🇾🇪🇿🇲🇿🇼🌎🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲May Allah Make you one of the best ambassador of Islam to convey the message of Islam to Muslims and non Muslims around the world ameen 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲brothers and sisters iman can go up and down so be careful always about shaytan.🤲
My dear brother Saajid, it takes courage and a genuine fear of Allah to make such a video. We will surely be called backwards and primitive. I myself have seen the effects of muslim women pursuing a career in my own country-Free mixing, being in a secluded position with the opposite gender and haram relationships. No matter how much we say that we won't fall into these things, we will always fall into these things naturally as we are with each other constantly and our own desire to fit in and be considered socially acceptable will prevail over everything.
Second thing that I have experienced is working or studying constantly with females is difficult as our desires take over and accidental haram glances and touch always happens. God only knows how many sins we are stacking up daily as it is almost unavoidable in todays universities and workforce.
Brother You are doing good. We need more people like you....
May Allah bless you for delivering the truth unfiltered and doing so in a dignified manner.
*_Modernity in marriage could turn out to be disastrous._*
I think those rights and responsbilities need to be expanded on...on a local level that is
To the point. This is haqq. Jazaakallah khairan. May Allah increase you in wisdom.
JazakAllah Khair
There is a great deal more that could be said about this topic. How would a practice that dramatically improves a man's health when applied to a woman destroys the body the psyche the mind? The scientific Community studied males and assumed we were the same and are finding out but don't know why we are dramatically different. Let's honor and respect the way Allah made us!
This is a very important message indeed
Salaam , you give a good analogy of the different roles in the military and role of the different genders in the family unit and society. I can use it in my arguments / discussion with my non muslim friends.
Mahallah these are we're very good points brother may Allah bless you & your family.
Love u for Allah brother
Brother Saajid, I think the crux of the matter lies in the most important role of the woman, which is not mentioned here: raising the kids.
In this time, this is of utmost importance, especially with all the fitnas around our kids. Moreover, it is the thing that will get most compromised if the woman goes out to work.
There also women who prioritize their careers over having children (let alone raising them), whereas one of the maqasid in our religion is to have many children and raise them well.
Hasidic Jews have on average 6.7 children, they follow their religion and Book however they have build entire communities for themselves such as in New York there are areas and neighborhoods dominated by hasidic Jews, meaning that they have such a strong supportive system that 10 to 15 children for them is normal...it is different with our communities...do you know of any such strongly build community of Muslims where raising many children becomes possible?
I really apreciate this video. Also I like to add to this that in this day and age women are looked down upon if she is a stay at home mom and not working ( she is not as "ambitious") I live in Finland and my dream has always been to be a stay at home mom and to take care of my kids and family but this society we live in today even the muslims we live with make us feel as if the mom should also work and take care of the family. I am not saying that it is bad to work and sometimes life is hard so you have to go work to help support the family financially but I am talking about the choice if it is possible to stay home people still make you feel guilty for staying home and not work (and raising children is also work that people often seem to forget) May Allah guide us all and keep us in the straight path.
Jazaakomollah khair brother.
Well explained.
Since i started learning more about femininity and away from modern feminism learned that it is actually very straining on women, and a little unfair. It makes women expect far less from men financially, and encourages working *and* taking care of kids, or it forces us to make a choice.
I know a woman who has 2 babies and 2 jobs + she was taking care of her unemployed man. That is basically 5 jobs in total. Some people are okay with that, but I am not.
Allah said men are the maintainers and protectors of women. It is their job to clothe, feed, and provide for us, no matter how much we make. We are supposed to be treated honorable, kindly and taken care of. I feel that modern feminism benefits men just as much as it supposedly benefits women.
Like men are supposed to pay for dates, or food in general, but now I have seen that in western society it is discourteous for a woman to want a man to pay for things. 50/50 is not necessarily Islamic, and it benefits the man more. We should not have to pay for anything, unless we want to. Or nowadays women are with men who can barely provide for themselves, which makes the woman forced to provide for him when in Islam a man is supposed to wait until he can afford marriage.
A man should take care of the woman and the children, while the woman obeys and takes care of the home or his money. That creates respect and harmony. If woman should have been told to do anything related to money it should have been business. I see that as far less oppressive. We are heavily pressured almost even more than men to get education and good jobs so we can be "strong independent women". I love learning and knowledge alhamdulilah, but I do not want to work for any random person or be apart of the system. I like to read books and study by myself. I prefer that over regular school. It feels very comfortable and tranquil. I would rather have my own online business, that would actually make me feel more free.
Its often nowadays that women work for very long periods of their life, until they reach their 40s they delay marriage or, their looks begin to diminish, and if they have children it makes the chances of genetic disorders are higher, or they could possibly be barren and are just working for the rest of their lives. And if both spouses work, the children are just left by themselves or taken care of and raised by the school system and other random strangers around them. I just find that life sort of sad in a way somehow. It just feels like you are part of a system that takes advantage of you, because the more people work, the more money the government makes from taxes, and your children are just being fed nonsense and brainwashed while you can do nothing about it. Society just likes to use and benefit off of women, while telling us they are helping us and "freeing" us.
I agree with you brother 100% , I hope Muslim sisters and brothers start to learn about their roles more instead of only focusing on rights. We need balance. I pray for all of us inshallahi to become the light this ummah needs. Amazing video 💕👍
Masha Allah. The point you are putting is quite simple but yet difficult for today's generation to understand. Thanks for putting this as simply as it should be.
MashaAllah. We love your great logic and of cures every thing else.
assalaamu alaikum, is the third one not also a right that the wife has over the husband?
Yes it is
Haqq!!
Totally agree 👍🏻
Thank you... it was like a wake up call
I dislike the obey husband rhetoric. Who draws the line where is he abusing his power? We should celebrate men as maintainers and protectors of women, not you pay for her so control her as you like. You can't establish such a hierarchy when there's a unfair power dynamic physically and financially. What power does a women have over her husband when his demands are unfair or even forbidden? Our roles are different but we are still both capable adults to have a say in family matters.
Preach!
A society that loses family dinner loses everything.
Iam so glad you tackled this issue its out of hand.I don't know whether people are aware or are just ignorant.What hurts me more is they have mislead the new revert sisters.
Brilliant work.