I hear you on that! I broked up with my ex girlfriend 4 months ago. There were times she texted me saying that she wished to talk and that she wanted to tell me something kinda important. I never responded I just blocked the number and went about my day!
Never stay friends if there’s no kids involved. Best put energy and time into meeting new people. This is how I moved into a relationship that I could move forwards with and forget about my ex who really had no good intentions with me long term. Cut and forget the ex
Those that want to be friends are trying to keep the door open, or you as an option in case the other side isn't that green. Another reason friendship works for the other person is they can get validation and all the accessibility to you without no commitment or real emotional availability. It's just convenient for them but it only hurts you in the end. Walk away and simply move on, preach on!
Going through this right now. My ex and I had a mutual breakup- we actually were planning on breaking up on the same day haha. It went smoothly, albeit with tears and such. I never liked staying friends with exes, but I decided to give it a shot with this girl. Honestly, it was weird. She acted like we were still dating, and I found myself enjoying it. This was a huge red flag for me, because I liked it but knew it was wrong. So I ended it. It was hard, and recent, but I'm staying strong.
@@San_Deep2501 yes please update because I'm in a weird situation he thinks I broke up with him first but I really wanted space so now he's parading around saying while I said he was free to move on but we had a mutual break up even though I missed some it's been like 20 days now but he still has my pictures up on Facebook and he likes my Facebook post he said he's no longer part of my future but then he said "dare I say it? I will be honored to be your friend he just threw it in there like that and I said okay so what does all this mean anybody know?
@@WeavToldMeMy ex girlfriend who I was friends since highschool we started dating later on in life after highschool. I found out she is a narricisit and highly manipulative! She verbally abused me and humiliated in public! I broked up with her then I got a text saying I need to unblock her and talk to her cause she wants to apologize! I'm like really?! I didn't responded I blocked the number. Then again I got a text from her on another number saying she wished to talk to me and she wants to tell me something kinda important. I'm like kinda doesn't tell me anything! I blocked that number and went about my day! I honestly don't wanna talk to her for a while about anything I just want to recover!
Here's what happened with me, my ex broke up with me, it was a long serious relationship and I never saw it coming that he would break up with me because we were like so in love. But after breaking up he said I'm gonna be there for you as a friend. I really didn't know what to say because I was in state of major heartbreak and shock so i didn't cut him off because i wasn't ready to accept it. Though he said he'll stay by my side as a friend, he kept saying things like "i love you so much", "you are the love of my life", "I love you but i can't be in relationship with you" and this kept going on for 6 fucking months until i decided to cut off all the strings. This hurts like hell but at least I don't feel tortured.
I know someone who tried to pull this on me and I said I didn’t come into this offering friendship. And, it’s like they’re trying to keep contact for personal gain
What would be the personal gain, in your opinion? I’m just curious to hear your (or anyone that reads this) perception . ~ Set your spirit free and see the many possibilities 🦋 Maria ❤️
@@DivineQueen75they want your help, financially. They want you to take them to the airport at 1 am. They want you to treat them like you used to when you were dating, but without the commitment.
Commitment is 2 sided … anything else is not commitment - unbalanced, un equally yolked, out of order, so on and so forth. Trust your spirit above all else. 🌹 Blessings 🦋
Again another 💎! He tried that with as if I didn't know what was going on behind my back. Friends for what dude! So you can still have access to my emotions and body or better yet so you can triangulate me with your new supply. I'll take the clean no contact break for 500 Alex!
Kind of sounds like me imaged she may have a new supply also. I am like family to her one daughter and her granddaughter and I are very close she calls me grand pa and two beautiful children do as well
And here I was trying to be ok with going on the first New Year’s Eve with my gf her ex and his gf, hell no… gents delete these people from your life and move on and save years of misery
I want nothing else to do with my ex. If a man can just cut things off and go on like he never knew you for months it's definitely no coming back rather he's with someone new or not people will stay with you so did you can make them better for someone.
And when a woman sunny, tells a man, she dont know what she wants right now, that she don't want to date, but focus on her "mental health". Let's be real that woman is tryna play a man for a fool(me) I wised up, knew she had a man on the side to monkey branch too, and I jokingly accepted the"let's be friends" offer. My keister was nothing less than faithful and I would of lived for her too, but shit changes. She is currently in the rebound RN as I speak. So it's not always Men, women 80% of the time breakup with their man just to get into another relationship (monkey branching) and if they are in college that statistic jumps to 90%. That's legitimate proven fact. Just do what I am doing, walk out the door onto a better road, grow from the bs, and evolve yourself into a better you.
I don't believe in staying friends with any of my ex's. When it's over, it's over. The host is absolutely right when he states that if you share kids, you do need to be amicable and cordial but after your kids grow up and they're old enough that they can keep in touch with their dad that you don't need to be in the middle, then it's ok to cut ties.
Spot on man... Going through this right now... Blocked and she still got through..how ? Beats me... Anyway, checked myself and realized that I needed to leave the narcissists behind... wasn't easy, but got stronger by the day. Now, narcissist sees that I've disengaged and wants to be friends...🙃🤪😁🤣💯
He knew and literally stated I know you will never have anything to ever do with me again after our divorce and I told him you are right on spot buddy you are done. That’s one thing he got right.As far as I’m concerned I am a widow.
Feels like you're talking about the story of my life. When I was with them, they stated right into my face that their ex is their BFF. I cry a bit then laugh hard when you said "good luck with that shit" Thanks Weav. I still feel like shit but I'll wait for the next person who will treat me as number 1 in their heart, not triangulate me with an old flame.
My ex said this to me a few weeks ago. It was a fight. I remained in contact to see what his actions were. I found out he went off being all stupid and flirting with someone and took her number. He keeps denying it but he’s always uptight and denying everything. I made the mistake of staying with him a weekend. He was all lovable and come to find out. He fought with the other one….that’s why the weekend thing happened! I guess they made up so he’s gone the weekend again. No more! I blocked him. I’m moving on for sure. I feel so much regret for last weekend. I need to make better choices and just be done and I am done.
Nope!!! Even if we have children! I will be RESPECTFUL for the sake of our children, and never make you look badly or speak against you, however “friendship”??? That’s NOT going to happen!
FR i dont get why she still so obsessed with me that she has to be friends and spam me everyday but also wants the "benefits" of being single and getting to drink and party every weekend doing drugs. im just saying nah i dont want a gf like that and i dont want a friend like that 😂
Broke up with my ex, he was sweet and all but it was the bare minimum for me, felt one sided. I became bored, wasn't proud to be with him to be honest. I felt bad but i wanted to make it work but even since i bring up something that bothers me he saying "i be bringing up stuff" so i broke it off and sent him a long paragraph but didn't say "why i though we can nake this work out" but nothing he was like "i understand, but I'll always care for you, we can be friends if you want" but i didn't replied after. I wish my ex nothing but the best, if it's meant to be it'll be later on.
There's only 1 guy who I've ever stayed friends with and he is still single and genuinely loved me, but we ended because I moved to China and then became a digital nomad and never returned to the usa. He will be a great partner for any woman one day ❤️ I'm still single as well but we wanted different things in life. I wanted to travel the world and he didn't and I wanted children and he never has. Absolutely one of the best relationships I've ever been in.
My ex wanted to be "sex friends". I declined with ive got self respect no thank you. Found out later that night shes seeing a new guy after we split a month ago. I would never be a backup plan or allow someone i thought loved me to use me.
I'm convinced my ex wanted to be friends to soothe his conscience. He knows he did me dirty & I didn't deserve it & figures if I was his friend it somehow absolved him from what he did. NAH, SON! We'll never be friends.
Let them go, it will become a vicious cycle. My husband is in care, long story he is narcissistic. I have contact to see he is being looked after . He has new supply in home.
@@jenniferyates8100 that's so sad : ( , the people who guilt trip and never Apologise for what they did , moreover are self centred are NPD narcissist?
He told me to be friends with him , i also accepted because I thought it was the right thing to do since I couldn't live without talking to him but after watching your videos 2 months ago I blocked him everywhere, just moved on and I don't need him anymore
Weav I love how you just tell it like it is! That's why I like watching your videos. I can't do other videos- they go on and on and on and I lose sight of the message. You rock😎
I have a guy who is always helping an ex, saying it's because he promised her so he let her stay at his apartment for 9 months. Meanwhile, i moved on! and the other one, he has a 29 yr. Old with her. She and son spent a whole week in his house, and still has her.clothes and perfume there after leaving. Is that normal?
@@WeavToldMe it's hard bro i told her we should stop communicating and she asked why...I said it's for the best and she said ok...wat does that mean? Is the relationship over?
This just happened to me I’m struggling with do I delete them or block for media ? Dated for two years seems like she has narcissistic tendencies. I thought everything was good. We were broken up but still seeing each other and then today she said we can be friends but not intimate anymore. ?
Mine wanted for us to be friend built me up and then said I was to emotionally involved to be friends and then pulled same crap 3 more times and same story then went to ohio together to see her son all went fine and on way back she went off on me and now nothing who got hurt the worse is I torn up emotionally again now gone silent on me were married for 12 yrs now separated is when all these games she played me with. I must be stupid and love to be beaten up emotionally and yes it hurts like hell and still does I am lost anymore hope someone can say it gets better!! Pray for me
Well technically me and her are friends But honestly It feels great cause we are classmates so its hard to avoid her But yeah we were close friends before we dated so its fine
Yeah, uhm , No ....my ex tried 😂😂😂😂. He's still waiting, he's gotten married. He has a friend In Jesus and his new wife. Grown Boy get outta here. 😂😂😂😂. Foolish like Ashanti ‼️
When a ex leaves, I burn the bridge... always.
William me too 😊
I hear you on that! I broked up with my ex girlfriend 4 months ago. There were times she texted me saying that she wished to talk and that she wanted to tell me something kinda important. I never responded I just blocked the number and went about my day!
I LOL’d really loud when you said, “Good luck with that shit.” Thank you, I needed that!
Haha. Appreciate the love. Thank you for watching!
No.. staying friends with a narc, is being a option.💯
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Once i break up i never ever see or talk to my exes ever again. If you on the past you stay in the past.
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An ex is an ex for a reason. There is no “friends”. Once we’re not in a relationship anymore, I wish him well, but he’s not in my life anymore.
Never stay friends if there’s no kids involved. Best put energy and time into meeting new people. This is how I moved into a relationship that I could move forwards with and forget about my ex who really had no good intentions with me long term. Cut and forget the ex
Those that want to be friends are trying to keep the door open, or you as an option in case the other side isn't that green. Another reason friendship works for the other person is they can get validation and all the accessibility to you without no commitment or real emotional availability. It's just convenient for them but it only hurts you in the end. Walk away and simply move on, preach on!
Going through this right now. My ex and I had a mutual breakup- we actually were planning on breaking up on the same day haha. It went smoothly, albeit with tears and such. I never liked staying friends with exes, but I decided to give it a shot with this girl. Honestly, it was weird. She acted like we were still dating, and I found myself enjoying it. This was a huge red flag for me, because I liked it but knew it was wrong. So I ended it. It was hard, and recent, but I'm staying strong.
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Feel that
Update?
@@San_Deep2501 yes please update because I'm in a weird situation he thinks I broke up with him first but I really wanted space so now he's parading around saying while I said he was free to move on but we had a mutual break up even though I missed some it's been like 20 days now but he still has my pictures up on Facebook and he likes my Facebook post he said he's no longer part of my future but then he said "dare I say it? I will be honored to be your friend he just threw it in there like that and I said okay so what does all this mean anybody know?
@@WeavToldMeMy ex girlfriend who I was friends since highschool we started dating later on in life after highschool. I found out she is a narricisit and highly manipulative! She verbally abused me and humiliated in public! I broked up with her then I got a text saying I need to unblock her and talk to her cause she wants to apologize! I'm like really?! I didn't responded I blocked the number. Then again I got a text from her on another number saying she wished to talk to me and she wants to tell me something kinda important. I'm like kinda doesn't tell me anything! I blocked that number and went about my day! I honestly don't wanna talk to her for a while about anything I just want to recover!
Here's what happened with me, my ex broke up with me, it was a long serious relationship and I never saw it coming that he would break up with me because we were like so in love. But after breaking up he said I'm gonna be there for you as a friend. I really didn't know what to say because I was in state of major heartbreak and shock so i didn't cut him off because i wasn't ready to accept it. Though he said he'll stay by my side as a friend, he kept saying things like "i love you so much", "you are the love of my life", "I love you but i can't be in relationship with you" and this kept going on for 6 fucking months until i decided to cut off all the strings. This hurts like hell but at least I don't feel tortured.
Stay strong!
I know someone who tried to pull this on me and I said I didn’t come into this offering friendship. And, it’s like they’re trying to keep contact for personal gain
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What would be the personal gain, in your opinion?
I’m just curious to hear your (or anyone that reads this) perception .
~ Set your spirit free and see the many possibilities 🦋 Maria ❤️
@@DivineQueen75they want your help, financially. They want you to take them to the airport at 1 am. They want you to treat them like you used to when you were dating, but without the commitment.
Commitment is 2 sided … anything else is not commitment - unbalanced, un equally yolked, out of order, so on and so forth. Trust your spirit above all else. 🌹
Blessings 🦋
@@DivineQueen75Validation, especially if they were the dumper.
Again another 💎! He tried that with as if I didn't know what was going on behind my back. Friends for what dude! So you can still have access to my emotions and body or better yet so you can triangulate me with your new supply. I'll take the clean no contact break for 500 Alex!
Kind of sounds like me imaged she may have a new supply also. I am like family to her one daughter and her granddaughter and I are very close she calls me grand pa and two beautiful children do as well
Sounds exactly right. Thank you for watching!
And here I was trying to be ok with going on the first New Year’s Eve with my gf her ex and his gf, hell no… gents delete these people from your life and move on and save years of misery
I want nothing else to do with my ex. If a man can just cut things off and go on like he never knew you for months it's definitely no coming back rather he's with someone new or not people will stay with you so did you can make them better for someone.
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And when a woman sunny, tells a man, she dont know what she wants right now, that she don't want to date, but focus on her "mental health". Let's be real that woman is tryna play a man for a fool(me) I wised up, knew she had a man on the side to monkey branch too, and I jokingly accepted the"let's be friends" offer. My keister was nothing less than faithful and I would of lived for her too, but shit changes. She is currently in the rebound RN as I speak. So it's not always Men, women 80% of the time breakup with their man just to get into another relationship (monkey branching) and if they are in college that statistic jumps to 90%. That's legitimate proven fact. Just do what I am doing, walk out the door onto a better road, grow from the bs, and evolve yourself into a better you.
I don't believe in staying friends with any of my ex's. When it's over, it's over. The host is absolutely right when he states that if you share kids, you do need to be amicable and cordial but after your kids grow up and they're old enough that they can keep in touch with their dad that you don't need to be in the middle, then it's ok to cut ties.
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“Good luck with that shit” 😅😂😂😂😂 no for real though!
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I told my ex that he betrayed me .. that makes him not to qualify being a friend to me
Spot on man... Going through this right now... Blocked and she still got through..how ? Beats me... Anyway, checked myself and realized that I needed to leave the narcissists behind... wasn't easy, but got stronger by the day. Now, narcissist sees that I've disengaged and wants to be friends...🙃🤪😁🤣💯
Thanks for watching!
Blocked her and she still got through how? 🤣😂🤣
He knew and literally stated I know you will never have anything to ever do with me again after our divorce and I told him you are right on spot buddy you are done. That’s one thing he got right.As far as I’m concerned I am a widow.
Feels like you're talking about the story of my life. When I was with them, they stated right into my face that their ex is their BFF. I cry a bit then laugh hard when you said "good luck with that shit" Thanks Weav. I still feel like shit but I'll wait for the next person who will treat me as number 1 in their heart, not triangulate me with an old flame.
My ex said this to me a few weeks ago. It was a fight. I remained in contact to see what his actions were. I found out he went off being all stupid and flirting with someone and took her number. He keeps denying it but he’s always uptight and denying everything. I made the mistake of staying with him a weekend. He was all lovable and come to find out. He fought with the other one….that’s why the weekend thing happened! I guess they made up so he’s gone the weekend again. No more! I blocked him. I’m moving on for sure. I feel so much regret for last weekend. I need to make better choices and just be done and I am done.
Nope!!! Even if we have children! I will be RESPECTFUL for the sake of our children, and never make you look badly or speak against you, however “friendship”??? That’s NOT going to happen!
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That is so true I have to agree that's why you have to cut all time preach brother preach
Thanks for checking out the video. 🙏🏾
FR i dont get why she still so obsessed with me that she has to be friends and spam me everyday but also wants the "benefits" of being single and getting to drink and party every weekend doing drugs. im just saying nah i dont want a gf like that and i dont want a friend like that 😂
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Great video! I agree with you 100%.
Thanks for watching!
I only healed when I stopped the friendship and realized he was never my friend.
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U probably was the cheater
was meeting for cofeee like 3 times a week and I was always left feeling like what the heck is this I don’t want this lol
@@Mimi-vh3yt😂🤣😂 meeting for coffee sheesh lol
Broke up with my ex, he was sweet and all but it was the bare minimum for me, felt one sided. I became bored, wasn't proud to be with him to be honest. I felt bad but i wanted to make it work but even since i bring up something that bothers me he saying "i be bringing up stuff" so i broke it off and sent him a long paragraph but didn't say "why i though we can nake this work out" but nothing he was like "i understand, but I'll always care for you, we can be friends if you want" but i didn't replied after. I wish my ex nothing but the best, if it's meant to be it'll be later on.
Sometimes it’s like that. Stay inspired! 🙏🏾
There's only 1 guy who I've ever stayed friends with and he is still single and genuinely loved me, but we ended because I moved to China and then became a digital nomad and never returned to the usa. He will be a great partner for any woman one day ❤️ I'm still single as well but we wanted different things in life. I wanted to travel the world and he didn't and I wanted children and he never has. Absolutely one of the best relationships I've ever been in.
Thanks for watching
My ex wanted to be "sex friends". I declined with ive got self respect no thank you. Found out later that night shes seeing a new guy after we split a month ago.
I would never be a backup plan or allow someone i thought loved me to use me.
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Always WEAVE your exs alone 😂😂😂
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I'm convinced my ex wanted to be friends to soothe his conscience. He knows he did me dirty & I didn't deserve it & figures if I was his friend it somehow absolved him from what he did. NAH, SON! We'll never be friends.
I always ask how is that supposed to look? We just gonna act like nothing happened between us? Make that make sense. Nah. We good
I'm facing this right now
manh same
Work on yourself , let them go !!!!!
Let them go, it will become a vicious cycle. My husband is in care, long story he is narcissistic. I have contact to see he is being looked after . He has new supply in home.
@@jenniferyates8100 that's so sad : ( , the people who guilt trip and never Apologise for what they did , moreover are self centred are NPD narcissist?
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...yet again it's not easy just leaving. It takes time.
He told me to be friends with him , i also accepted because I thought it was the right thing to do since I couldn't live without talking to him but after watching your videos 2 months ago I blocked him everywhere, just moved on and I don't need him anymore
Thank you for following along. Stay strong!
Who the hell said be friends w your EX
Not an option
I agree
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I agree with u SUNNY 🌞.
Weav I love how you just tell it like it is! That's why I like watching your videos. I can't do other videos- they go on and on and on and I lose sight of the message. You rock😎
Appreciate the love, thank you!
I have a guy who is always helping an ex, saying it's because he promised her so he let her stay at his apartment for 9 months. Meanwhile, i moved on! and the other one, he has a 29 yr. Old with her. She and son spent a whole week in his house, and still has her.clothes and perfume there after leaving. Is that normal?
Hell nah! Get. Out. Now!
Thank you, need to hear this, especially from a man❤@@WeavToldMe
Hell no be friend after break up that don’t apply
What if you were friends for a decade before becoming romantic and the romance only lasted less than 6 months before a mutual ending?
Ain’t no putting the toothpaste back in the tube. Choose wisely!
@@WeavToldMe thanks! 😃
Wow this is so true ❤️
Thank you for watching
He said that lol i said nothing he said his new girl has to understand😂😂😂😂i changed my number lol f that lol crazy ppl
I Agree.
Aweh serious it doesn't make any sense to me he asked me to stay friends with him and I replied No I don't want a friendship
We can be friends & I mean only friends so stick to words u say friends mean like bro & sis 😂 to me
Thanks for watching
Thank you
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Absolutely
Exactly.
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I got friend zoned after 24hrs of NC smh I agreed but I wnt connect with her ,if she dnt change her mind
If you don’t want friendship, say no and keep it moving
@@WeavToldMe it's hard bro i told her we should stop communicating and she asked why...I said it's for the best and she said ok...wat does that mean? Is the relationship over?
ayye facts
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U right
This just happened to me I’m struggling with do I delete them or block for media ? Dated for two years seems like she has narcissistic tendencies. I thought everything was good. We were broken up but still seeing each other and then today she said we can be friends but not intimate anymore. ?
Don’t fall into that trap.
@@WeavToldMe should I delete her off social media or stay on and be friends with her but non-sexual ?
Mine wanted for us to be friend built me up and then said I was to emotionally involved to be friends and then pulled same crap 3 more times and same story then went to ohio together to see her son all went fine and on way back she went off on me and now nothing who got hurt the worse is I torn up emotionally again now gone silent on me were married for 12 yrs now separated is when all these games she played me with. I must be stupid and love to be beaten up emotionally and yes it hurts like hell and still does I am lost anymore hope someone can say it gets better!! Pray for me
Joseph myatt. So sorry.i will pray for you. Take care of yourself. All blessings to you Joseph.🕊️🌈🙏🌷
One day at a time. Stay inspired!
Factsssss!!! Go away
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Exactly 👏👏👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for watching
Well technically me and her are friends But honestly It feels great cause we are classmates so its hard to avoid her But yeah we were close friends before we dated so its fine
😂😂😂😂😂 Yeah We Cool But Just Don't Call Don't Text We Have Nothing To Talk About. Peace And Love.
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They just want to string you along till they find someone else women don’t know how to be alone there always I mean always seeking validation
Exactly
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Sometimes people are just cool and you don’t work as lovers so you are friends. It doesn’t have to be weird.
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It doesn't work
Do not do it
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No thanks!!
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Yeah, uhm , No ....my ex tried 😂😂😂😂. He's still waiting, he's gotten married. He has a friend In Jesus and his new wife. Grown Boy get outta here. 😂😂😂😂.
Foolish like Ashanti ‼️