I'm weeping. This was so well put together and makes you really think. It is a question of life: do you focus on fighting what's wrong, or loving the adventure - or is there a balance that needs be found? Maybe the combination of fighting and loving is what makes life so powerful and meaningful. Without feelings life has no meaning beyond existence.
To live, To thrive, to laugh, to act daft, to love, to look above, to try, and then to cry, to fail, to learn, to do again, to do something new, to do it for you, to do it all too, to dare, to feel the emotion within you that has you at a scare, to admit vulnerability, to see strength and salvation in it's sensibility, to never fully give up, to find someone who means so much, to die happy, for you realise that you were enough, to live well for that is why we are here, I repeat never give up, never fear.
I just watched only half of this, didn't want to get depressed. After all I've stopped watching/reading the news and cut negative shit out of my life for a reason! I've been through a lot of crap the past few months: death of a best friend, got dumped by someone with the excuse they had mental issues and wanted to be left alone only to find out they've started seeing someone else 2 months after, was last minute stood up at the airport on my birthday for my birthday trip by a 'good' friend of mine, didn't get the recognition from my workplace I've been so long working for and more, and more little nasty bits... I just got tired. Got tired of feeling in pain but at the same time got mad at life! Why the hell should I feel like I don't belong in this world and be pressured into the belief that the only escape is death?! No! Truth with depression, which I've suffered from before for 2 years and continuously struggled with stress and anxiety throughout, is that the only thing you can control and change is your own attitude and emotions. No one is ever going to take responsibility for your own happiness and life/people is/are naturally flawed. Every good trait in a person comes with a weakness. You accept that, you accept you are just like anyone else, no matter how honorable and well-intentioned you are, you've got your shit side too but you learn to love yourself for it. Gotta be your own hero and let people be. Sure, take care of who you want and can but not at your expense because no one's gonna put you first, you put yourself first. And if someone else puts you first, sorry but if they are not your mother or father they are probably mentally unhealthy themselves. You have such little time on this world, so better learn to cherish and love yourself first. Just think about it, how hypocrite is it to love others but not to love yourself? To want to help others but not yourself?? Better put these negative thoughts in the bin and stop feeding yourself with bad energy. Bin the shame, bin the guilt, bin the bitterness and start to love the person you see in the mirror, that imperfect and beautiful creature. Only once you love yourself you can truly learn how to help others, find your place in the world and protect yourself from bad experiences and people. I promise you the people who truly like and love you will stick with you. Accept your demons, learn what stirs them and subsequently you'll have control and peace. Yeah, I rambled a lot. Good luck to all fellow INFJs and keep away from the shade!
Magical.. Tom.. Still haven't come across another human who feels as much as "home" as you do, like myself. I hope you are doing fantastic, you deserve the very best. Your overall message here on youtube is phenomenal and your presence is so appreciated.
Revelation 21:4 "And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away."
I rewatched this today, and something really hit hard for me when I watched the scene from Up. The house seemed broken, everything was a mess, and it lost a lot of it's "beauty" (as seen by comparison of the pictures). When he we trying to put everything back to the place it belonged in order to feel comfortable again, I started balling my eyes out uncontrollably. I find this scene so metaphorical, I feel like I'm broken/damaged on the inside, after so much pain and hurt over my lifetime. I relate so well with trying to put everything (myself) back together again to make everything feel "alright" - to feel comfortable and stable again. However even after putting the furniture back to where it belonged, a lot of things in the house were still fallen over and broken; seeing this all through the lens of metaphor of self hit somewhere deep into my core. His deep sigh of trying to feel "ok" by sitting down in the one spot of the house he felt comfortable, having a sense of knowing not everything is REALLY ok - made me realize that I live everyday that way. Then when he looked at the book of memories, seeing how beautiful everything once was and how now everything feels worse, also hit my core. The only thing that seemed to somewhat excite him (to keep him going) was hope and motivation for the future (shown with Ellie's message) "thanks for the adventure - now go have a new one!" All of this made me feel intense, deep rooted emotions that I subconsciously internalize everyday, because I truly and personally understand the meaning to this scene. I think I finally understand why this is titled "Fi in INFJ"; thank you so much for this video and helping me get in touch with my core.
"this is for... for trading our silver platters for something that matters like the gold that shines from our hands when we hold each other"- Andrea Gibson "Say Yes"
This hit hard Tom...with the current affairs of this world and what's on the news lately. The shots of soldiers make me wonder whatever happened to the days when wars were fought on battle grounds. I have certainly heard stories when lives of women, children and elderly weren't classified as collateral damage. Human evolution huh!? hoping for better times ahead for humanity.
I always cry when I see Up, but this really gets me. I have been contemplating all these things myself, thank you for creating this. I need to channel my energy into something like this so I don't explode.
Such a beautiful video Tom. I've been stuck in the Fi lately and I really felt this connect deeply with my emotions. The whole thing with whats going on in Syria has been bothering me as well and I've been stuck in between trying to feel the sadness of others and trying to live in the happy moments of life, but just not seeing them be fulfilling on the greater scale of life. I've been loving watching your videos ever since I discovered them a week ago, I feel as if I can finally connect deeply with someone who understands. I hope you are doing well and I will send my positive vibes your way
As an INFJ I would like to add something about Syria, I've been following the conflict since it started in 2011 and right now the situation is much better in many ways, ISIS and the jihadists are almost defeated and the civil population has started to rebuild the country, there are still areas of conflict but in general the situation is getting better, the main humanitarian problem are the international sanctions (US and friends) against Syria, we must spread awareness into this fact to end this unjust sanctions; I feel very encouraged by the bravery of the syrian people and how they love their homeland. I don't want to get more into politics but that's how I see it.
This nearly killed me, but in such a way that I scarcely mind. To know how utterly entangled and rendered I am by each passing image; then to think of the multiplied depths to which you must feel, to which you must live this same pain. But.. but, the beauty of tension is it's release. The slow unfurling of pain, the lift and buoy, the transcendence into consolation and hope. When riding the waves of life we cannot perch in definitely upon the crest, we must dip down into the trough to truly appreciate the peace that renewed perspective brings. Beautiful rendition of your inner self process. Thanks for sharing.
I can recommend the book "Man's search for meaning" by Viktor Frankl it truly is an eye opener, a piece of writing that really influences your perspective and outlook on life in a positive way.
*'You Are Enough'* by *Sleeping at Last* have saved me from depression, you guys should listen to it too, I hope it can heals your wound and help you through your day, kept listening to it, and no matter what emotion will blooms in you, I want you to know.. *you are enough as who you are💙* - INFJ
In the context of INFJ, Introverted feeling is very much connected to emotion or at least the types of thoughts that trigger such emotions, although being a 'shadow' function this aspect is not so easily observable which is why it 'feels' intensely emotional. I'll explain it more in the next video and why it's so important for INFJs.
From my understanding, Fi is about ethics and values coming from an within, while Fe is about ethics and morals coming from society/taught to us. I'd love to hear about how Fi is related to emotion! I look forward to that video :)
my self awareness won't allow me to write exactly what i want to, but i want to tell you that im having a physical response to your videos because you sound like me and im so confused by it? does that sound INFJ? im only learning now
I'm weeping. This was so well put together and makes you really think. It is a question of life: do you focus on fighting what's wrong, or loving the adventure - or is there a balance that needs be found? Maybe the combination of fighting and loving is what makes life so powerful and meaningful. Without feelings life has no meaning beyond existence.
Yep ; )
To live, To thrive, to laugh, to act daft, to love, to look above, to try, and then to cry, to fail, to learn, to do again, to do something new, to do it for you, to do it all too, to dare, to feel the emotion within you that has you at a scare, to admit vulnerability, to see strength and salvation in it's sensibility, to never fully give up, to find someone who means so much, to die happy, for you realise that you were enough, to live well for that is why we are here, I repeat never give up, never fear.
I just watched only half of this, didn't want to get depressed. After all I've stopped watching/reading the news and cut negative shit out of my life for a reason! I've been through a lot of crap the past few months: death of a best friend, got dumped by someone with the excuse they had mental issues and wanted to be left alone only to find out they've started seeing someone else 2 months after, was last minute stood up at the airport on my birthday for my birthday trip by a 'good' friend of mine, didn't get the recognition from my workplace I've been so long working for and more, and more little nasty bits... I just got tired. Got tired of feeling in pain but at the same time got mad at life! Why the hell should I feel like I don't belong in this world and be pressured into the belief that the only escape is death?! No! Truth with depression, which I've suffered from before for 2 years and continuously struggled with stress and anxiety throughout, is that the only thing you can control and change is your own attitude and emotions. No one is ever going to take responsibility for your own happiness and life/people is/are naturally flawed. Every good trait in a person comes with a weakness. You accept that, you accept you are just like anyone else, no matter how honorable and well-intentioned you are, you've got your shit side too but you learn to love yourself for it. Gotta be your own hero and let people be. Sure, take care of who you want and can but not at your expense because no one's gonna put you first, you put yourself first. And if someone else puts you first, sorry but if they are not your mother or father they are probably mentally unhealthy themselves. You have such little time on this world, so better learn to cherish and love yourself first. Just think about it, how hypocrite is it to love others but not to love yourself? To want to help others but not yourself?? Better put these negative thoughts in the bin and stop feeding yourself with bad energy. Bin the shame, bin the guilt, bin the bitterness and start to love the person you see in the mirror, that imperfect and beautiful creature. Only once you love yourself you can truly learn how to help others, find your place in the world and protect yourself from bad experiences and people. I promise you the people who truly like and love you will stick with you. Accept your demons, learn what stirs them and subsequently you'll have control and peace. Yeah, I rambled a lot. Good luck to all fellow INFJs and keep away from the shade!
Just know you're not alone ,i feel your words .Thank u for sharing this.
Yes. Thank you.
Magical.. Tom.. Still haven't come across another human who feels as much as "home" as you do, like myself. I hope you are doing fantastic, you deserve the very best. Your overall message here on youtube is phenomenal and your presence is so appreciated.
Revelation 21:4 "And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away."
I rewatched this today, and something really hit hard for me when I watched the scene from Up. The house seemed broken, everything was a mess, and it lost a lot of it's "beauty" (as seen by comparison of the pictures). When he we trying to put everything back to the place it belonged in order to feel comfortable again, I started balling my eyes out uncontrollably. I find this scene so metaphorical, I feel like I'm broken/damaged on the inside, after so much pain and hurt over my lifetime. I relate so well with trying to put everything (myself) back together again to make everything feel "alright" - to feel comfortable and stable again. However even after putting the furniture back to where it belonged, a lot of things in the house were still fallen over and broken; seeing this all through the lens of metaphor of self hit somewhere deep into my core. His deep sigh of trying to feel "ok" by sitting down in the one spot of the house he felt comfortable, having a sense of knowing not everything is REALLY ok - made me realize that I live everyday that way. Then when he looked at the book of memories, seeing how beautiful everything once was and how now everything feels worse, also hit my core. The only thing that seemed to somewhat excite him (to keep him going) was hope and motivation for the future (shown with Ellie's message) "thanks for the adventure - now go have a new one!" All of this made me feel intense, deep rooted emotions that I subconsciously internalize everyday, because I truly and personally understand the meaning to this scene. I think I finally understand why this is titled "Fi in INFJ"; thank you so much for this video and helping me get in touch with my core.
"this is for...
for trading our silver platters for something that matters
like the gold that shines from our hands when we hold each other"- Andrea Gibson "Say Yes"
When you finally connect to the Fi...nothing can describe it.
on a day like today, from a fellow infj...THANK YOU
This is very helpful for something personal to me. Thanks Tom! Some people are such a light.
This hit hard Tom...with the current affairs of this world and what's on the news lately. The shots of soldiers make me wonder whatever happened to the days when wars were fought on battle grounds. I have certainly heard stories when lives of women, children and elderly weren't classified as collateral damage. Human evolution huh!? hoping for better times ahead for humanity.
Let's hope so.
I always cry when I see Up, but this really gets me. I have been contemplating all these things myself, thank you for creating this. I need to channel my energy into something like this so I don't explode.
Such a beautiful video Tom. I've been stuck in the Fi lately and I really felt this connect deeply with my emotions. The whole thing with whats going on in Syria has been bothering me as well and I've been stuck in between trying to feel the sadness of others and trying to live in the happy moments of life, but just not seeing them be fulfilling on the greater scale of life. I've been loving watching your videos ever since I discovered them a week ago, I feel as if I can finally connect deeply with someone who understands. I hope you are doing well and I will send my positive vibes your way
As an INFJ I would like to add something about Syria, I've been following the conflict since it started in 2011 and right now the situation is much better in many ways, ISIS and the jihadists are almost defeated and the civil population has started to rebuild the country, there are still areas of conflict but in general the situation is getting better, the main humanitarian problem are the international sanctions (US and friends) against Syria, we must spread awareness into this fact to end this unjust sanctions; I feel very encouraged by the bravery of the syrian people and how they love their homeland.
I don't want to get more into politics but that's how I see it.
Can't watch that scene from Up with dry eyes, it gets me every time. One of my favourite movies! Loved the video x
I haven't even seen Up and this made me cry.
This nearly killed me, but in such a way that I scarcely mind. To know how utterly entangled and rendered I am by each passing image; then to think of the multiplied depths to which you must feel, to which you must live this same pain. But.. but, the beauty of tension is it's release. The slow unfurling of pain, the lift and buoy, the transcendence into consolation and hope. When riding the waves of life we cannot perch in definitely upon the crest, we must dip down into the trough to truly appreciate the peace that renewed perspective brings. Beautiful rendition of your inner self process. Thanks for sharing.
I can recommend the book "Man's search for meaning" by Viktor Frankl it truly is an eye opener, a piece of writing that really influences your perspective and outlook on life in a positive way.
Seems really interesting. A great man and a survivor. Thanks for this tip
This is very beautiful, Tom. Thank you and I hope you make more like it.
thanks for the morning cry over yogurt Tom! 😀 it's all a beautiful adventure isn't it?
Touching & lovely, thank you 💌
*'You Are Enough'* by *Sleeping at Last* have saved me from depression, you guys should listen to it too, I hope it can heals your wound and help you through your day, kept listening to it, and no matter what emotion will blooms in you, I want you to know..
*you are enough as who you are💙*
- INFJ
Lol just finished reading hamlet. I knew there was a reason I related to him so much
This is brilliantly put together.
Why thank you
c'mon man...why'd you have to do this to me :'(
Love the video (and Up omg I always cry), but what does this have to do with Fi? Emotions aren't really correlated to the cognitive functions?
In the context of INFJ, Introverted feeling is very much connected to emotion or at least the types of thoughts that trigger such emotions, although being a 'shadow' function this aspect is not so easily observable which is why it 'feels' intensely emotional. I'll explain it more in the next video and why it's so important for INFJs.
From my understanding, Fi is about ethics and values coming from an within, while Fe is about ethics and morals coming from society/taught to us. I'd love to hear about how Fi is related to emotion! I look forward to that video :)
ok, cried :'(
where are you Tom? :)
my self awareness won't allow me to write exactly what i want to, but i want to tell you that im having a physical response to your videos because you sound like me and im so confused by it? does that sound INFJ? im only learning now
scared to watch another, but compelled to find that potential clue
i just get scared of how deep i can go, it seems bottomless sometimes and then i get panic attacks
Wow
May I request subtitles?
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/To_be,_or_not_to_be