Things Only A True INFJ Would Understand
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- Things you’ll only understand if you’re an INFJ! From shyness to being an introvert we look at the world’s rarest personality type from the Myers Briggs personality test
15. All by Myself - INFJs are known for being inside their heads most of the time, having more inner dialogue than what they express around other people. Because of their neverending string of thoughts, it’s easy for them to feel isolated, even when they’re surrounded by friends. It may seem contradictory, but people who possess this personality type feel lonelier in a group than they do when they’re actually alone. Since INFJs are within the lowest percentile of the sixteen character varieties, they often sense that they’re misunderstood. Extroverted people feed off of those around them, gaining energy by being a part of social gatherings, but for INFJs it’s the opposite. It can be anxiety-causing, stress-inducing, and draining for not-so-social-butterflies to have to participate in interactions like this.
14. Communication - Since people with this personality type are so introverted, it is surprising that they are experts in communication when they open up. INFJs are intelligent, often book-read, and take a lot of time considering other people’s feelings. Plus, they are said to be able to sense the emotions of those around them. So, by examining these factors, one can see how INFJs can speak effectively to individuals and large groups if need be. In fact, there are many famous people with this personality type that everyone recognizes for their amazing speech-giving skills. Some of these renowned human beings include Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, and Mother Teresa. In fact, Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech is one of the most memorable and moving orations of all time. Although it isn’t set in stone, these remarkable people are often classified as INFJs. So, even though they often prefer not to be outspoken, some of the recommended career paths for these unique folks are acting, marketing, teaching, and social working.
13. Organization - We’ve already discussed that INFJs have a constant chain of thoughts and an insane amount of inner dialogue. Because their brains are never at rest, it isn’t shocking that they sometimes feel mentally jumbled. Due to the lack of organization within, it’s important for them to maintain a harmonic atmosphere in their homes, at work, or at school. Keeping a calm environment helps INFJs deal more efficiently with the turmoil they face inside on a daily basis. It’s not fun to process a million thoughts at once, meanwhile dealing with clutter around the house. So if your INFJ friend is coming over, be a pal and tidy up, buttercup!
12. Intuitive - Considering it is the second word in the acronym for this personality type, it’s not surprising that these unique people are very intuitive. Opposed to their detail-focused counterparts, INFJs are more abstract. They pay more attention to overall events than specific aspects. So, rather than remembering the particulars of a conversation they had or precise interactions, they recall experiences by how they felt during them and from the impressions they left. INFJs are also often known for “reading between the lines.” While most people pay attention to what is explicitly said or done to them, people with this personality trait recognize the meaning behind incidents or individuals’ actions. Their intuition also plays into the fact that they trust their feelings more than what actually happened to them. INFJs have more faith in their perceptions than they do in logic, thus making decisions based on instinct instead of rationale. This reliance on intuition also determines their thought-process regarding problem-solving and often leads to eliminating ideas before attempting to follow through with them if they suspect a negative outcome.
11. Helping Others - Although they can seem withdrawn during interactions with others, don’t think that INFJs don’t care or aren’t listening. In fact, folks with this personality type care a lot about the people they come into contact with, especially if they’re close to them. Their focus on those around them is a strong guiding factor in how they behave. Their main goal is usually to keep things running smoothly and make their friends and family happy. INFJs experience a lot of emotions that go along with their aspirations to help. They frequently believe they know how people are feeling, and although what they perceive isn’t always correct, they generally think they recognize what someone needs. In fact, sometimes INFJs are so intent on keeping others content, they often forget about themselves. - Zábava
Everytime I speak:
What I talk: 10%
What's in my mind: 90%
Let's do hope that is actually true for every kind of personality except tourettes! lmao
i feel you
Same It's difficult to express
i feel you man
quarantine is a bless for me
I've been so busy with my self
I can relate, it happens all the time
INFJ = constant, never-ending conversation with yourself
Mark Hiatt yup lol
Continues into the bed when I am trying to sleep, so I try to entertain myself with a very curious and interesting thing I haven't given enough thought yet. It's maybe bizarre for some but a difficult (but very interesting) question or subject can actually put me to sleep and keeps away other thoughts that is worrying me and would essentially keep me awake.
Soooo cool to see someone else write that...I'm not the only one that does it.
True.
Reasoning. Upon reasoning. Others might also but ours is likened to near perfection. If there was the perfect mindset and judgement.... That's the INFJ.
This comment section makes me feel like I have friends
hands down the best comment section ive ever read.... i fit in!!!!
Why just feel like you have friends when 99% of this comment section are some of the most caring and supportive people ever? XD
Yeah
I never knew there was an explanation for who I was and the things that I do
@@joepecaro117 omg same!
You know you're an INFJ when your google searches are a never-ending string of pointless questions that youhave about the universe
How far down the rabbit hole have you gotten? I went from Aliens>Illuminate>New World Order>Lizard People>Demons>
Chakra>Energy>Vibrations>Karma/Reincarnation>
Numerology>Guides>Starseeds>Lightworkers>Angels>The Source>
Psychics>Multi-Dimensional Existence>Manifestation/Reality Manipulation
and now I'm at Middle Earth/Elementals/Deities/Gaia...
typing it all out now made me realize it's been a wild ride...
This made me laugh because before I watched this video, I Googled "How many types of chocolate are there?" That search led me here.
I like to ask the serious questions.
My sister is an infp and we are very different, but I see where you are coming from
@@athavavalisio9585 wow, we can sit down and talk for an eternity.
Not really. INFJ are much more fascinated by their own thoughts, ideas and emotional processes. Curiosity and awareness are definitely a strong trait, but it would mainly manifest in silent meditations.
People think I’m quiet but I’m actually just having a conversation with myself.
Yh at last someone gets me !!
Excuse me for interrupting your conversation with yourself. Probably not as interesting 🧐
Fido its literally not though
John Jacob Two channel’s that might intrigue you 1) ADAPT 2030 2) Mike Morales.
Sometimes I hold my phone to my ear while talking to myself out loud so people dont think I'm insane 😂
"Feels more alone in a group than alone"
*This*
Unless that group is full if infjs
@@vinnyhorapeti2461 that would be so great
This tho,
This really hits me
Whenever I go out with friends I tend to think instead of actually talking to them
@@murasaki1417 same here
Me too
I thnik that being an INFJ is always making sure that everyone in a group feels heard, but when you want to say something you feel like no one is really interested and you prefer to be silent and have a conversation in your mind
Yeah :(
I almost cried reading your comment. It is true.
So true.
I listen to everyone - when it's my turn to speak - no one listens.
Lizzy from Aus.
🧡🦘🐨😊👍
Don't expose me like that and remind of the fact I do too much for others
I didn't know that :/ As an ENFJ my eyes and ears are fully focused when an INFJ friend speaks - you'rethe ones I most love connecting with (but it's so difficultto reach that point of connection). I do feel we have a lot in common though...but with different energies.
We are walking contradictions
We live in our heads
We feel misunderstood
We love others more than ourselves
We hate small talk
We have small groups of friends, but we are very close to them
We want to do well, as it is important to us, but we procrastinate
We have hard times focusing on the here and now
We overthink A LOT
We can have hard times trusting
We are very empathetic
We want to help everyone
We have thought of conversations before we even could be in them
We can panic easily by overloading things
We are independent
We are so focused on pleasing others
We are *amazing*
*We are INFJ's*
I want you to breathe for a moment
Hello, my friend :)
Perfect
How did you know I wasn’t breathing? 💀
Yes!!
Hiyaaa
I have finally learned to be HAPPY.about who IAM..I USED TO ASKED"GOD"to help me to be NORMAL.. now I know he/she MADE ME this WAY..
you know you're an INFJ when you're literally having a conversation with yourself throughout this video (about this video) lol.. my mind is so noisy right now
😂 yeah I was constantly talking to myself while I was watching this vid!
Same! Haha I kept pausing the video and speaking to myself as if I was a reaction channel 😂
I thought i was the only one haha! Omg INFJ unite! ❤️
*laughs out loud*
Gosh.. IM NOT ALONE🤣
“INFJ’s usually feel more alone when in a group than alone”
Wow. I’ve never felt so understood
Yup
Ikr
Thats exactly the case with me as well.
Same here man
yep! i feel more lonely in a group even though everyone constantly includes me XD
The hardest part pf being an INFJ, is that, you can feel deeply all the emotions around you. And since you always want to help people and to please them, it is hard to ignore some truths about life like, you can't fix everything or can't help all of them.
Yes this is very true of me as an INFJ
yessss i can relate to this
@Mona Alrefai Aljandali 24 same, happens to me too. I'm so keen on fixing other people's problems. Sometimes it's best to give them some private space and figure stuff out on their own.
Pathologic 2 taught me that.
Yup, that always hurts me😭
People tell me I’m quiet and I’m like “uhhh I’m talking all the time”. Then I realize that’s in my head 😅
Sameee
“Once you mistreat an INFJ they will cut you off” 🤣🤣 without question
I was like hmm I don't know if I really do that... then I remembered I stopped answering my dad's texts years ago when he turned into a total dickwad after my parents got divorced lol
Yes we will. Only accept truth.
I LIVE this!
True
frfr, idgaf how fine u r, how nice u were, all the times we had together, or how long we've been friends, u say some sideways shit more than once, we done fa life. and thats that
I am NEVER alone when I’m by myself.
We feel like there is so much to think about that we don't want to "lose" time talking with people who doesn't count for us
Michel Mélinot
HaleluYah!!!
Being alone is the best
I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time. Now I know the meaning to the Bush song.
If you think about that it sounds kinds scary XD
A huge INFJ struggle: living in a body that doesn't want to conform to the perfectionistic, creative, and harmonious image in their mind.
From ENTP: Conforming is not what bodies do. You might want to try a different tact.
@@richsackett3423 yes, thank you for your very encouraging comment.
@@wk1810 Sarcasm does not suit you.
“INFJ’s are known for being inside their heads most of the time.”
My head: *CREATES WHOLE OC STORY ARC*
you didnt have to call me out like that
Don’t worry, I called myself out too lol
relatable
lmao!, i literally create a whole 6 worth of movies in my head, and it's still going on to this day
Same
lol you know you're an INFJ when being understood on a CZcams video more than anyone in your life makes you shed a tear.
Lol , omg totally feeling that after this video
Ugh the questioning and guilt numbers felt like an intervention
True
Spot on!
Absolutely
INFJ will also get anxiety about the fact that different aspects of their personality are somewhat contradictory.
J K was just recently discussing this with my mentor.
the difficult part is not feeling contradictory, is mostly that people seem to perceive that flexibility as incoherence
Michael Aramis Yes, I can see that.
@@michaelaramis1210 not. You tell someone to not do something, but underneath, they could all along. Just bc it's not obvious enough doesn't make the person unlikely...fail. not your comment, ppls perceptions
amen sista
Yes, jeeessuss. Can think yourself into believing you're a hypocrite sometimes
I’m nearly 60 and suddenly life is starting to make sense - thank you.
36 here, same :)
21, same. Lol
17, yup
@@xenos2352 bro you're not even 18. How life starts to make a sense for you. You are gonna be facing many challenges in future. And then they'll be making the sense.
@@s3i8 I mean that some days ago I discovered I'm INFJ, and a lot of things started to make sense. I know there's a lot of things I still need to face, but at least I know I have a starting point.
“Feel lonelier in a group than by themselves”that hit hard but true 🥺
You know you are an INFJ when you find it uncomfortable to tell others that you are an INFJ....
Because you feel like they will think you are trying to be unique/intresting..
Is it just me or??
Edit: Yo what's up the new statistics says we are not the most rare anymore.I'm personally happy because now it feels more comfortable.And now we don't have to face all the people saying we are mistyped.
Absolutely !
Yessss u know ur an INFJ when u think farrrr about other people's perspectives
It’s a superpower. Keep it to yourself. “Never teach your soldiers all of your cunning. You’ll become a victim of yourself”
So true
But when i knew that i absolutely alright n i was just an injf, i wanted to shout to everyone that I'm an INFJ so they better study abt it before jumping to conclusions!
Once, in high school, which was 32 years ago I gave the wrong answer to a question my teacher asked me. I still think about that to this very day. 😔
Wow, so good to share that. I had read our brain miraculously filters out errors/emotional damage to others. I think I remember every single time I’ve made a stupid error... i expect perfection of myself... and very time I’ve hurt someone.... I expect perfection in that area also. Like you, it appears, I remember errors made as far back as grammar school, and I’m 76. So bad news: it won’t resolve itself!
Damn me to
I feel sorry for an answer I knew but didn't speak.. That was 7years ago
OMG. So do I. I think is stupid to keep remembering that, but I just can't forget about it.
SAME
It always happens to me too I just can't get rid of all my mistakes even those I did in my childhood :(
I talk to myself almost everyday, have fantasy stories in my head like a boss, creating characters and storyline, listen to some music and it's a whole movie 👏🏾👏🏾🤭 .
I’ve written comic books for Sonic and used video game music for inspiration, I very much relate to what you’re saying
Everyday there is a new murder mystery happening in my head
Maybe u called me 😂
I never related so hard in my life- anytime I listen to music, I am definitely daydreaming
i hate this! i always thought im weird that i imagining lot of things when i listen to music. I keep them on repeat, make my own music video in my head. When i told my husband, friend & family, they all saying im weird & childish
I didn't realize my personality is so rare..
Same
😭🤞
As an INFJ, Ive had countless people tell me they thought I was snobby or stuck up because I was so quiet and unable to use small talk. Anyone else?
They tell me the same thing all the time!
I can relate to being thought of as snobby. I was even accused of being 'retatded'! How cruel! Just because I was really quiet in school.
The majority of my coworkers immerse themselves with trivial boring petty subjects and I honestly find it difficult to be sincerely interested and involved; I hope I don't come off as a snob ,but the constant shallow talk causes me to drift away . I'm grateful for the honest sincere deep friends who have won my trust.
A friend of mine called me an INFJ..... and I was puzzled. but it scared me a touch watching this because it is exactly what I am. From what I can work out, we are amongst the most caring people - that can't be so bad
Yep, same here
"So focused on being a good person" TRUE
Always focused on being a good person that I see myself emotionally hurt others than think about it for long periods of time
HI ARMY!!
So focused that they didn’t bother defining what a “good person” is.
You have 699 likes, so I'm gonna be mean and not like it. I would like it if I could, though.
@@zinzoosnakes1837 lol
"If you mistreat them, they will retaliate. Not in an outburst, but by subtly cutting you out of their lives." I had to pause the video and scream at how accurate this sentence is. The amount of people I've subtly cut off is unbelievable. I don't like conflict, so they've all been subtle. Lmao I guess I really am a true INFJ.
This is me too. I have no issues cutting someone out that doesn’t treat me right. I’m such a loving and helpful friend, I don’t have time for people that mistreat me or for that matter others too. ☺️
INFJ here. The smiling issue: I'm an educator and have had to tell my students that just because I'm not smiling isn't because I'm mad. I tell them I have a "thinking face" on. My upper grade students totally get it. Ever since I realized this, it's made teaching a lot easier. Usually the extrovert students get up enough nerve to test out if I'm mad or not by approaching to tell a joke. I laugh and then the more introverted students approach me... Because us introverts observe most of the time 😉 it's the cutest thing when they figure out body and facial ques.
See this is what's likely going to happen when I'm a Nurse Practitioner 😅. Also 'thinking face' is better (and more appropriate) than what I call RBF. I just return to my default neutral look when I'm applying myself
I am INFJ and if you who are reading this are INFJ too
I love you!
Jane 777 awww ☺
thank you glenn :(..
You're welcome Lawrence
I'm enfp and why do I find infj so amazing an charming? Help hahaha 😂🐙🐙🐙
I love you too
When i found out about INFJ’s i almost started crying because it fit me so perfectly and i just knew i was one
same..reading through comments just made me feel like wow i’m not the only one, i feel understood
@@multicolouredmochi1769 same 🥰
Nathan Tomlinson awww....I know, me too. This stuff has helped me more than any therapy ever has or could.
Nathan Tomlinson I started crying because for the first time I could see that existed others that could exactly understand how I feel and that’s great
Ikr. It felt like i was reading about myself
It's true for me as an INFJ that when someone broke my trust, I have this strong rule within myself to not to talk with them anymore or ignore their existence.
I love how the title is "Things only a true INFJ would understand" because if we show this to our friends, they wouldn't understand.
INFJ’s are very all or nothing people. We’re either on a diet or at a buffet. We either do something perfect or not at all. At least that’s been my experience
So true
Daniel Shover fellow INFJ?
Yes I'm an INFJ 🙂
Daniel Shover Do you like it? I’m curious because I rarely run across people like myself (0.5% of the population right so 1 in 200 people and that’s only IF you can find one)
@@djvelocity well I've kinda started liking it. INFJ are very extroverted introverts and I'm trying to leverage things that are so unique in whole population. When I started reading about INFJ , I kinda feel happy now for being one.
Imagine being an INFJ with depression.
Oh wait
Fuuuc.....
Damn....
It's the worst....
d-don't...
Guilt keeps eating me always
When I was around 8, my mom asked me why I talked to myself all the time. I said because I’m the most interesting person I know. I took this test at work and it all makes sense now.
"They feel more lonely with people then they do by themselves"
and there it is.
When a video understands you more than other people💀💀
Spoken like a true INFJ!
Bruhhh
Yeah!!!😞😞
Care emoji
Yes it's so true. I just wanna cry now..
woman: "INFJs are not open books"
also woman: *literally described me to the core in a 12-minute video*
Ahmed Ahmedov ikr
IKRR
Made my day hahaha
LUL
Calm down cawboys! Did you know that this test can be altered depending on you mood, diet, health etc.
I took the test but when I saw that being an INFJ was rare I was like “hold up, now I’m doubting myself so I’ll take it again to be sure” … I took it like tree more times and got INFJ-t all times but I’m still wary lol
I got the same thing
I could’ve sworn a long time ago it said ENFP for myself, but the latest, which I took the test twice in college, now states I’m an INFJ
And thats how you know your infj lol
Sounds 100
Same, but number one kind of hit hard.
Infjs will never be understood by anyone , the most important thing is to know yourself and appreciate your personality and once you do that ,the journey to self love , interest and discovery becomes so amazing and never ending.
You know you're an INFJ when you never met anyone like you
Facts
THIS IS THE TRUEST THING EVER
I never have. I always thought I'm weird.
I always recall a close friend telling me in my early 20’s, “It’s like you’re constantly searching for someone who is like you. You can’t live life like that. It’s probably not going to happen.” It’s been almost ten years and this statement, and my thoughts about it, have haunted me and inspired at different times. Even now I’m still torn about it. Sure you can find anyone on the internet, but creating a close connection with someone like myself is still a lingering goal of sorts.
Ikr.
INFJ population: 1.5%
CZcams comments: 157%
waulpall since the title states INFJ most INFJs will watch the video if they know they are since they want to know more about themselves:) this might explain the 147%. Even 1% are about 7 000 000 ppl world wide.
@@Abhsgvahah That would be ~70,000,000 ppl worldwide.
Charles Petrizzi true:)
We are all here . Bcz i have no life in my real life
I actually did the personality test sooooo Idk what's going on here XD
I was always the quite weird kid playing by myself. I have entire conversations and possible situations in my head
Same here
"Finding happiness in what others think depressing" that's creepily accurate 😂
imagine being an INFJ and having a friend that's also an INFJ, and you're feeling all those things together... basically soulmates at that point I wish I had.
I can confirm that it's great, I have 3 :))
Yesss it's amazing ❤
I wish I met another INJF ;(
So true being INFJ-T can be so lonely
Let's be friend
People think we’re quiet but if they could hear all the stuff we have stored in our heads they would probably get annoyed pretty quickly 😂
Absolutely
No, their heads would just explode 😂
Yeah,
It’s all 🤪“fun & games” for them until they hear what we think about.
This time, a friend of mine told me what i was thinking and i told him he wouldn't last a second about what i would think
It's true. There are a couple people who can handle my endless stream of thoughts. They get really worn out if I'm in a verbal mood 😂😂😂
Just saying, this is one of the most supportive comment sections I've ever seen. Go IFNJ people! (Including me)
She: "You can't achieve the impossible."
Me: Yes I agree but I also strongly believe that nothing is impossible so... (*internally struggling to collect thoughts and decide what to say next) Bye!
I hate when that happens. Can't even express myself like I want to. 😫
Yessss i also believe that nothing is impossible
Absolutely
That sentence kind of bothered me. I hate being told that I can’t do something and that it’s impossible for me. It just makes me angry and I can’t seem to accept it
Me in my own head thinking of something funny and smiling*
Random guy watching me: Wow what a freak
😂😂😂 That's me right there!
Then me thinking to myself "u poor sucker u have no idea what you just missed out on". freak is a relative term also. Just my opinion but better to be someone's freak than someone's doormat
yes i know that...
„what are you looking at, do you want a picture“ Me: excuse me
„Why are you smiling“ Me: why not
My sister laughs at me sometimes for this exact reason 😂
Lol omg all the time. People are always wondering what I’m smiling about, it looks like I’m always up to something
Sad Songs: their not sad, their just beautiful pieces of art I am taking in.
Exactly!!! They are Just true expression
Right!!
Facts!!
Everyone around me thinks I am insane for spending my time listening to sad songs, that includes my twin. The truth is that the songs are works of art!
They’re* come on now, thought u was one of us...
Guys! I know it’s hard, so let’s do a GROUP HUG!!! ❤️
Having been unhappy for a decade, I finally figured out I am an INFJ in my late 50s. When I watched this video I was truly astounded by how accurate every statement is. I hope others learn from this at a young age and avoid the painful consequences of guilt, self-criticism and putting yourself last. You are worth it!
5 years ago, my cousin wanted me to tell me something but then he just said forget it. *I am still curious of what he wanted to say to this day*
😂 damn
😂😂😂
Lol😂😂😂.
You don't understand.
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.
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He just wanted to say, "Forget it
Im INFP but im now curious too :D
As an INFJ, I am literally the worst at small talk. It makes me feel dumb. I think it’s the in-genuine aspect of it I just cannot engage in bs.
+KaiyoteinHiatus. Exactly. I only engage in it in the hopes of developing a real conversation, or not wanting to come of as cold, or insensitive....but it always feels so ingenuous.
Yess. That's why it's hard for me to talk to my crush or just new people. I cant find ways to keep it going!!
I've been called "stuck up" because I shut down during small talk. It's so pointless though.
As an INFJ, good genuine small talks comes easily to me via a couple of choice questions. However, if they give crappy answers or show disinterest I feel disappointed and start to throw up barriers. But hey, I dont have to bother about liking them anymore. So, some of my go to questions would be like, "So, have any plans this weekend? (movies, anything)" But it isn't just about the plans, you can go much further. E.g. The person doesnt have anything planned. "No plans, really? Do you prefer to relax at home? Me too! etc, etc" If the person is going hiking "Oh wow! where? tell me more about it" . "Video games?" What do you play, what do you love about those games? Typically, if its a subject that I'm knowledgeable about I'll add my own perspectives and stuff e.g. musical. If its something that I'm unfamiliar, then I ask tons of questions, I want to know more about why they love that thing/topic/hobby. I'm usually drawing more connections subconsciously in the background like, is this person genuine, do i feel comfortable, etc. It takes practice sure but once you've done it a few times, you dont have to think about any more. Also, people really like others who are genuine which is a huge bonus for us!
Same! I end up sounding awkward
Being an infj ain't easy yet it's the most wonderful thing to realise that we are trying our best to stand out and help others ❤️...
i related to the “smile” one so much lmao ppl always tell me i look mad or unapproachable but in reality i’m just vibin
“They try hard, or not at all”
This is so true. I couldn’t care less about most things I’m not passionate about... But when I am passionate about something, the world is gonna know.
Especially as an artist who draws, one moment you are empty of creativity for months, the next picosecond you are able to create a steampunk sci-fi world with unique technology and machines.
Agreeee
YEP a blessing and a curse. Don't think others would really understand or appreciate it.
@@rokairu0-216 LOL, why is this so true?
mhm
agreed!
INFJ's UNITE! we should make a support group for ourselves xD
DEW IT
But I’m afraid all of us won’t open ourselves in the small talk 🤣🤣🤣
@@Kaiser.852 same page lol
Yessss
Yes
I’m actually crying. I had thought for a long time that I for sure was messed up in the head, but now I find out it’s just a natural thing because I’m an INFJ. There’s nothing actually wrong with me 😭😭😭
I think the INFJs like watching these videos cause it’s nice to know that we’re understood and that it’s nice hearing what we feel so we don’t feel so alone.
“....feel more alone in a group than alone” finally someone understands
It's fairly simple when you think about it. An INFJ has trouble connecting with most people both ways, so naturally being surrounded by lots of people is only going to rub their difference in their face, hence causing them to be more alone than actually alone.
Yes I always feel that way until I get to know people
@Swapna Arghya With all due respect, I will personally leave this opportunity to others. I already have very little precious time in my life for the friends and family I already have, so I will remain a simple random person on the Internet for the moment. ^_^ I wish you the best of luck with that, however.
oh exactly.. my siblings would observe me secretly when i was in high school and they would always worry why i tend to be quiet while im with my classmates..now i understand why..
exactly
I have never related more to a comment section like this one
Same! 😅
Bayadir Abdulmohsin fr lol
Same😂
Like realllyyyyyyyyy they are literally describing me
Same!!!!! I almost cried knowing there are this many people out there that understand. I can’t find a one LOL
Holy crap! I’ve never had my life explained so accurately as it just did in the last 12 minutes.
Now I finally know why I felt this way my entire life!!! I don’t feel like such a weirdo now
Yeeeessss, I am so there.
As an INFJ, I sometimes worry i’m never gonna date/fall in love due to my strong judgements towards people’s style/personality/grades/family. I can’t control my judging!!
Lmao neither 😩
Don't worry. You're not alone. I have the same sentiments too.
Me too... The fact that I started to rant onto the screen when I spotted an error (well it could be a grammar error, typo or the context itself but who knows how far can we judge? 🤷).
Ah... Same for me, one time, a guy tried on hit on me in dm, like he only sent one word or two, and i found my self unconsciously judging him on the way he chat, his manner.... I felt bad and guilty.
Klara Maria literally me, I find everything wrong someone did
Feel lonelier in a group than when alone, YES so true
Yup so real!
sameee
Agreed
BSJ yep. Alone you can be free to do whatever - read, fold laundry, clean out a drawer, watch your tv show...or is that just me? In a crowd you feel pressured to “entertain” with stories and hate being put on the spot. Or is that just me?🤣🤣
Wendy that might be part of it, being free to do whatever you want when alone. But for me it's also that I don't seem to know how to socialize the way other people do. I've heard it described this way: to an INFJ observing other people interacting socially, their conversations seem to follow a linear flow, where one thing will lead into the next. But the INFJ does not follow this pattern. In our minds we go all over the place, exploring each topic more fully, and bounce around in all directions, not a linear flow. It's described in this video starting at 1:45 (though I certainly recommend the entire video): czcams.com/video/aeNXy_DCFTI/video.html . Do you identify with this description? Perhaps INFJ is more comfortable alone because we're not attuned to the social patterns of others, so instead of feeling "put on the spot", it's easier to do our own thing.
"If you miss treat them they will cut you out of their life" SO TRUE....
some people say that i'm too quiet, that i don't even know about how they feel.. they didn't know i'm organizing my thoughts on how to make them feel better without any marks of negativity...
soo.. im not the only one that talks to them selfs randomly through out the day?
Absolutely not
@@amruthavalli1260 I like your channel picture.. you've got good taste :)
It’s perfectly awesome and normal to talk to yourself, so long as you don’t answer yourself. My Doctor always told me, “you’ve got to talk to yourself.” I don’t like talking about this while attaching a label to myself. I enjoy reading what everyone else has to say but to me it’s the same as talking about my drinking problem. If I choose to share that’s one thing but I hate it when other people start talking about how I quit drinking and all of the stupid things that I’ve done. It feels the same. We are all very different but share this exciting and mysterious quality. It’s great learning about it, however it is interrupting my Linux time, bed time and my cats/reading time, I didn’t do the dishes or work in my lawn today either. I did go shopping though so at least I got dressed and left my house. Winner.
@@myrtle243 😉thank you!
@APxFeezy What do you mean?
When someone asks you to explain something that you knew "in your gut" and you can't actually put it into words, but it actually makes perfect sense to you, and yet they are completely perplexed...
Chris Yes, spot on, see Billy Bob Josè above and his replies...
Not to mention extremely judgy and a tad personally offended. Which I find so weird.
Spot on. I wish I knew more people like this!😭
All the time...
SO RELATABLE
Yo that cutting connections to people where INFJs are fed up is really true. Like, I'm an INFJ and when I feel like my connection to a person isn't going anywhere or it's toxic, I will get rid of that person in my life
Ive also noticed that when my room is messy I physically feel stressed n agitated but when its clean n orderly I feel much more relaxed, it's so weird but I like it
About the music part, I'm an INFJ and I think we can listen to up beat music, a long as it has a meaning that speaks to us.
Yes, I have a very specific music taste because I only listen to music that has a real story behind it!
I’m also an INFJ and I mostly listed to fast upbeat metal, which I guess could connect with the sad themes.
I am an INFJ female. Can you guys pls recommend me some songs!! Actually I am still trying to confirm whether I am a true INFJ or not. I can relate 100% to this video but am still somewhat spektical to this.
Sakshi Pathak My favourite artist is The Weeknd, because of the melancholic music
@@sakshipathak7298 I really like Lauv's music
I can't tell you how many times I've been asked if im okay because I was too deep in thought. It's like they either think I'm angry or sad
Sames
I can relate
Omg me too
Ya... 👌. My friends ask me everyday and I feel sad and irritating on hearing it 😅😂😂👉👍🤝
my friends always say he doesnt even know about cricket football famous actors etc 😁Because I DONT CARE ABOUT THESE GAMES AND ACTORS I LOVE DOING STUFF BY MYSELF AND I FEEL PROUD ON MY WORK...... AND IN MY JOB I TROUBLESHOOT LIKE A CHEEZEE CAKE.
Totally me! I've been described as "alone in a crowd" more times than I can count.
The moment you said "impossible can't be achieved." My brain went like "Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, let's prove them wrong."
(INFJ things)
(:
Being a perfectionist has ruined my life 😭
Person: it's impossible!
INFJ: No it's not. And I will make it so.
Here I'm thinking wtf am I..
I am an introvert most of the time but I can be a extrovert sometimes to peoples that are shyer than me.
YESS THATS ME
I relate completely!
Your a human being not a label or a limitation put on u by yourself or anyone else. No CZcams video can define you as a person. Your bigger than the opinions of other. Believe in that simplistic Beauty
theres a thing called an ambivert
introverts can be like that, it's normal. When we know someone who we trust, we open up to them and sometimes looks like an extrovert. And i think we often looks less introvert to other introvert person, because we relate to them ????
You can tell that most of us are INFJs because we’re having deep conversations in the comments of a CZcams video 😂
I Know right!
I'm reading tomes from people I don't know because it's mostly like I've written it..
Comforting to know that we're not alone but probably none of us will meet anyone we've read here.
Fibi Wright. OMG fr I was literally thinking the same thing!! 😂😂😂
Always by accident on a James Frank video. Search him on youtube...
Your all gay
Sorry, I didn't hear that, I'm too deep.
infj girl: *a guy starts talking to her*
infj girl later while intense overthinking session: so what do i call this relationship as? what are we?
Sounds like a boy talked to a girl. It was a stich in time.
Nope, we always know someone else's intentions
Sorry, I didn’t realize that I was in our group when I made that remark. In that case you have a new soulmate. For sure, particularly in a quiet bar over a few drinks, listen to some good music, talk to the bartender, there are some old video games and a pool table. The history of the place and the town and how it’s changed, share some old stories about some old ghosts.
I'm an INFJ. I love being alone, but I feel lonely in general. I love my friends, but I feel overwhelmed when I talk to them. I don't talk much at school but when I do, I can't shut up.
this is a mood which i relate to fully lmao
minus the last bit, i purposely try and not talk to people
We are kindred spirits. LOL. You cannot stop talking because you feel relief to finally be in the company of someone who may understand you. Correct?
@@sw9382 Correct.
12:00 Painfully true: "If they've hurt somebody, they will do everything in their power to fix it. If they don't know how they've upset a person, they have extreme anxiety because they're not sure how to atone."
Karen Woolley I needed this.. 😭 hits me right in the feels. I thought it’s only me.
sameee
Sara Hoeschele very true.
This is so true.. I rarely got into a trouble with people and I try to avoid one at all cost but there will always be a time that you'll slip especially to those who are sensitive or bad-tempered. They'll got me into severe anxiety and mental breakdown.
I hate when that happens, especially if I really appreciate that friendship, Id overthink on posible reasons and solutions for weeks
I took a personality test and found out I was an INFJ, so I went on a marathon to find out more about this personality. I was extremely shocked when you talked about the music taste of an INFJ, no one has ever understood my love for sad songs with calm melodies and heartbreaking lyrics. Honestly, now I am a hundred percent convinced I’m an INFJ.
Me too 😂
Me, too.
Same!
Post rock, dream pop, shoegaze, grunge, any sort of sad calm piano, violins, love it all so much :D Everyone post a song here :D
Slowdive - Slomo czcams.com/video/KDIDLIE7Z1E/video.html
Yes!!! I love song that just breaks my heart and makes me cry. They’re the best. You can feel the raw emotions in the lyrics.
I was always insecure about my personality and I've always thought that due to my mom being a narcsissist I was messed up and that's why I am different. I am glad to know that I am not that weird afterall lol
Same
This made me cry today. I've just turned 24 and I finally feel like something/someone has finally understood me. I don't have any social medias apart from instagram - if you share yours below I'd love to connect with you, apparently we only make up (less than) 1% of the population so it would be amazing to have someone to resonate and share our own experiences with.
Kind Regards,
Matthew
"It's easy for them to feel isolated, even around friends. It may seem contradictory, but people who possess this personality type feel lonelier in a group than they do when they're actually alone." Bro, I always feel drained and sad even if I'm in the middle of a crowd or a party. I even wondered if that's a normal thing to feel.
Sometimes im just like what? Im asian... Leave me alone.*looks studious* even though i wasnt trying to be. I was just trying to avoid interaction
Also why i ignore my parents most of the time. It may seem disrespectful and it is but when it's done often, 12 hours is far from enough time to recharge on top of having other problems. Misunderstanding arises
God saaammeee
Same. I feel much lonelier in a group than I do by myself?? Idk
Omg so true !!!!!
If ppl saw me talk to myself when I’m alone I’ll look insane
I'm always doing this to the point I don't even notice until someone asks "who are you talking too"🤣🤣🤣 I literally just drift off
Believe it or not, a lot of us know that will get us judged so we purposely DONT do it lol. If I ever, I’ll probably remind myself i look stupid lmao
same
One time my elder sister saw me having a conversation with myself and it was sooo awkward she started laughing afterwards 💀
Two times people noticed and asked about it yo me 💀 one was a stranger other was my friend 💀😂💀 Hella awkward!!!
Bro when she said “how’s the weather” I let out an audible sigh, because of how much I dread small talk. It’s especially hard for starting relationships nowadays since no one wants to have deep meaningful dialogue
this is so me ! i am so busy with conversations in my head that i'm not paying attention to my facial expressions.
i hate labels and putting people in boxes but i am such an INFJ, only discovered this a couple of weeks ago , i'm 49 !!
its been a struggle , in fact my life has and continues to be a battlefield , in saying that their is no one i would rather be.
INFJ toddler: listens to other kids talk and doesn't speak until they're able to form sentences.
crazykenna this was actually me as a kid, to the point where I was one of the special ed kids in elementary school because I started speaking so late LMAO (not in special ed anymore tho)
I spoke at the age of 7 years old.. Yeah pretty late hahaha
I think this rings true as adults too.. I'm studying a third language and I don't want to practice speaking until I feel like I have a grasp on the sounds and structure. I'm full on observing mode.
that was me oml
Literally...my parents were about to bring me to a speech therapist.
I have litterally never felt so understood in my entire life
I get you, sister. Love from Kentucky.
never heard of Briggs Meyers/ INTFJEST etc before today, this is my 2nd video and I match everything on both. Ridic!
Right
scrolling the comment section: "There are really other aliens like me??? And how do they look like?"
Same! Sending love from the Bronx NYC
as an infj, i always tell myself that i'm my greatest best friend lolol :D love the conversations i can have with myself- and am rarely bored that way!
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully unique sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So lts break some myths about INFJ Personalty Types.
When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not sttempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass.
INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss.
Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understad', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves.
Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strangebecome acholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and per you never existed. It never works.
INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane.
INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows.
INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries?
INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. However, if they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they lie to protect that person's feelings.
INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment and making mistakes.
INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice, then completely ignore their recommendations. They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriendl' button on Facebook.
INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in.
Do not mistake a INJ's confidence as egocentrism. There is a difference.
INFJ hate themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves.
The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's care more about other people than themselves which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (2) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. They are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer.
It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group.
The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological disorder rather than a Personality dysfunction). INFJ's are not prone violent behavior. The good news is they give up easily, This is where the Door Slam or simply walking away from a argument comes from.
If a INFJ loves you, be prepared for lengthy romantic rituals. Box's of candy, flowers, poems, lovely e-cards, teddy bears and such. But be careful. A INFJ understands how to manipulate situations to their advantage. Including the human heart. Once they reveal their true inner nature however, you will begin to understand why only 2% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are just so dam charming.
INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted)
INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots' even when there are no dots.
Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying.
Occasionally, you will notice them acting rather mysterious, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes.
Never tell a INFJ they possess a 'Old Soul'. They are terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't want the extra competition or deciding who should run the Universe (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity. That would be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials.
So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. They are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. I like to think they represent the noblest form of humanity. A personality type which everyone aspires to immulate....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Altruistic and Protective.
It’s so weird someone describing exactly who you are as a person to the dot
Absolutely agree!
It’s not that they describe you but rather that you are the definition of the characteristics. If that makes any sense ?
absolutely..
I was lowkey scared😳
Dude i cant, i always thought im the only person who think like this and then there is a whole personality like me hahaha
As an infj, i tend to get piss off easily by a person's attitude or moral but i'm angry at myself for thinking abt being angry at them so i just focus on their positive sides and love them as a whole 💕
Yasss always trying to improve ourselves
You are me.
sad but true, most people are just straight up stupid or worse...trying to put sense into them is like trying to penetrate a steel wall with words
😁😁🤣🤣
I was like this but with some people focusing on positive sides and loving them as a whole can hurt you. Been there few times. :( I finally had to learn to not get hurt anymore and I just cut people off completely if their attitude or moral doesn't match my own. It's way healthier for me now and I don't feel as drained. Being INFJ is nice but at the same time it's exhausting. :(
This is definitely me. I'm just amazed how accurate this is. Now I see someone actually understands me and how I think and do. Amazing!! Now I no I'm not the only one weird. Lol
I'm an INFJ-T myself. I have so many thoughts occurring at all times. I never feel like I truly fit in but understand people with an uncanny intuition. I love helping people, giving advice and watching people grow. If my partner is feeling down or stressed, I feel it too. I love to write and I love staying organized. I'm happy to see I'm not the only one.
they said we are so rare.
so i'm glad this vid gathered us in one place. :D
Yeah
I think those numbers have went up through the years.
Jhes 😂😂😂😂😂
As am I!!
yea...
I've found my people
True dat
Yes you have
lets cry together
I feel the same
This is the way
I’m confused. If constant thinking isn’t universal to all personality types... what IS happening in their brains?
EXACTLY
Dude literally something I’ve been trying to comprehend for years.
You know you are an infj when you always do things perfectly but you have that nagging inner self whispering to you the millions of ways it could have been better 😂. Bottom line, I'm never satisfied with my work, even when everyone around appreciates it 🤧