Popular Dating App? Do's and Don'ts on A First Date? // Dating In Japan Q&A
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- čas přidán 26. 07. 2024
- I answered questions about dating in Japan! Dating tips from Japanese local!
00:00 Intro
00:46 Do's and don'ts on a first date
02:37 What do Japanese girls look for in a relationship?
03:16 How to tell if a Japanese girl likes you
04:14 Popular dating app in Japan
05:41 Place I want to date in Tokyo at night
06:27 Are Japanese girls obsessed with white guys?
07:02 How to say "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" in Japanese
07:36 How to find a date in Japan
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Your fluency has really been improving a lot! It's not easy to speak in this kind of style. Great job and always looking forward to the next videos!
Your Engrish is very good!
Always love your videos, no matter the topic, you just seem like a wholesome, well rounded person :)
I like the way you are down to earth and honest
That's so nice channel ! Thanks for sharing this. I love Asian culture.
Aloha Asagi! I really like these videos you make about dating in Japan. Thank you for the advice, it makes a lot of sense to me :)
1. always make appointment at love hotel a head of time.
haha :D
Yoo facts, haha
Thank you for sharing
I watched your " how to meet people in Japan" video and compared it to this one.. your fluency in English has significantly improved. You doing well. Keep it up
Great video Asagi! I'm someone who is hoping to teach in Japan, and I am currently in my final year of university, so I'm doing a lot of research whenever I can and honestly the subject of meeting people and dating in a totally new environment does make me anxious to some extent! (Especially since I come from a rather conservative country, and here dating is kind of weird and low key lmao) But that's why I've been loving watching your videos as it's really nice seeing things from the perspective of a Japanese woman. I'm doing my best to keep the mindset of: 'just take the leap and go with the flow', I hope that if I do make it over there, I shall not allow worries to get the better of me and look forward to meeting lots of great people!
PS: You mentioned you wanted to make a video on how to meet people, do you still plan on making that? I feel that'd be quite the helpful video actually.
Great video. Right when I needed it. Thank you for your hard work 🙏🏿
Hi TC. Glad it helped you. Thanks for checking out!
Your personality matters more than your appearance 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right!😂
Another great video! I agree 100% on your points. Can I add this...? The "shy factor" ... When Japanese girls giggle a lot while covering their mouth and nose.... I found it difficult to know if they were happy-flirting or giggling/laughing for "dame" lol!!! hahaha.. ;)
What do Japanese girls look for?
ANSWER: $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
ME: lol 0X
プシーをください！=)
Asagi's American and German accent was so funny!
"bitteeeeee" lol
You are Absolutely Right, when it comes to limit talking about yourself on a first date. Remember, you went on a Date. to get to know each other, not just YOU...
4:00 I cracked up.....apart of jokes the tips were really good.
Lol. I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 😆
Sending my love to japan
*Looking at the title*
Instant like!
(And thank you for answering my question :-) )
Thanks for asking the question! Glad you enjoyed the video.
The infamous Jeff.
For the wonder if she is interested in you part I was told you won't really know until you do a kokuhaku and she responds with her answer
I went to Meguro Live Station on my trip to Tokyo to meet this girl and watch her band perform. She knew my brother and me from Twitter but I was the only one in town. I'm a decent looking guy but my brother is a male model and much better looking than me. I felt like I was her 2nd choice right from the start and that she had her heart on meeting my brother instead. The night was going well, then she told me that my brother was "very handsome" I was shocked she would tell me that!. About an hour later she asked me to buy her Mr. Big tickets. I agreed because I thought we would go to the show together. I got back to my hotel and found out that the show was still 2 months away and I would be back home. I then realized she only wanted me to buy her tickets!. This unfortunately set the precedent for other girls I met in Japan. My brother was their fantasy and I was the wallet..lol
Sorry to hear. Hope you will find a girl who has a decent manner!
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan Thank you!
You need to learn about female nature and accept it.
You're a guy, but your name and photo is a girl?
nice video , lets see if i find my heart girl...
This was pretty helpful compared to the ones I just seen that made it seem more difficult to meet a Japanese chick.
Honestly my biggest concern is the langauge barrier - been studying nihon-go for about 1.2 years so far, chotto wakaru ga chotto hanashimasu
But it does seem like a big issue , and only if u find someone like urself or my Nihon-go no sensei that knows either English or a decent amount of English to be able to communicate effectively .. but ehh here’s hoping by studying for 2 years I’ll be almost 100% conversationally fluent 🤷♂️
Can't even remember my last first date( been married for thirty years)! What I'm looking forward to is being able to safely go out to eat in a restaurant again! 🍜 Nice video Asagi👍
Hi bozo. That's what I'm looking forward to too!
🙏😌 thank you, I look forward to one day finding someone in Japan.
>Being an innocent tourist in tokyo
>Going to a local bar near the hotel
>see this beatiful japanese woman having fun across the room
>you approach and invite her a drink.
>her response 7:02
😂😂😂
Americans tend to talk more because both people in a conversation insert themselves in the topic. However, if the other person isn't assertive... they are gonna have a fun time trying to talk...😅
LOL @ middle finger and advice at 7:01. Only you, your body, and your heart know what you like - who cares what anyone else thinks - bravo for not giving a damn!
wow, you are just awesome
One thing to keep in mind is that many japanese don't use tinder for hookups, but instead to find friends. Be mindful of that when swiping :D
Yes. That's because Tinder started to advertise itself as an app to make friends... from a few years ago.
Asagi's Life えー？そうだね？
I love Japanese women and their culture ! ❤
Your comment regarding how to know if a Japanese girl liked you on a date, (quote) “She would get a little bit touchy … I’m not talking she would grab your ass kind of touchy” … really cracked me up ! LOL. I was drinking coffee at the time, and that comment was “GOLD” !
Your videos are very natural, insightful and informative. Lots of good topics and very well presented.
僕も応援しています。頑張って下さい。
これからも どうぞ宜しくお願いします。
久々に見れました。日本の文化伝えてくれるの嬉しいです！
お久しぶり〜。コロナのせいでなかなかコンテンツ少ないですが、頑張ってます〜
All my first dates were in izakayas. Well, all my dates...
❤️❤️❤️
Yeah we Americans sometimes tend to speak up and even interrupt. I do it by accident being a New Yorker it comes natural. Talking a lot about ourselves is a habit I've seen some have too, lucky for me I haven't picked that one up I'd much rather hear her talk about herself than talking about myself.
Some these questions I noticed weren't Japan specific even though they tried to be in the phrasing of their question like "How can I tell if a Japanese girl likes me" or "Do Japanese girls like white guys with blonde hair and blue eyes" the answer would probably be the same as any other girl. "It depends". And questions pertaining to intrinsic social values I think those are more individual too rather than monolithic to a whole country or culture.
we're just not comfortable with silence so we end up talking a lot
Don't you hate it when asian people only talk about white people and never mexicans and black people? They can be americans too.
Hi Geno. It's not all bad. But you might want to be careful when you talk with Japanese.
Great video, really helpful as I’m looking to move in the next two years. Look forward to the video on how to meet people in Japan as I think that will be the most difficult thing!
Hi Corey. Glad you enjoyed the video!
it isn't that difficult but you need to know Japanese. The more you know the better. To me the ultimate challenge is understanding group conversations. Everyone will use their native pace and even sometimes dialect when speaking so it can be extremely difficult if you want to join in on the conversation.
When are you moving to the US?
Japanese women sound a lot more like Western women than I expected. Thanks for sharing this video.
Or what I talked about were all universal things?
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I think you are right. Most of what you talked about are universal things. Very interesting video.
If you're in the US and you meet all 1 billion criteria including being both clean shaven and having a beard, having both short and long hair, being born a specific height you can't change, being a specific race (e.g. asian only if you want to date asians), and having lots of money and self-esteem such that you don't really need anyone and you're doing her a favor by even speaking to her, and beat the incredible odds to get a response from the first move you made (don't count on any woman making the first move; if they do, it's a miracle), don't make a restaurant reservation because most people don't eat on the first date.
Hmm
Good video as always! And I don't think that Jenny will have any trouble in meeting a great guy sooner or later: it's a numbers game and she has the advantages of being cute, smart, and even a little bit funny! 😊
Thank you 😎 Right now the advantages don't help though, because the big disadvantage of "self-isolation-hikkikomori-life" blogs that advantage 😂
HI Robert. That's true. I really hope she will find a gute Japaner soon! 🙏
7:00 Literal Lol'd.
Asagi's replies are good. But some questions are too difficult. Not even a psychologist can give a specific answers on this subject.
She's so pretty
Foolish people always ask about finding someone to date... and more. The way to find a great partner is to keep making yourself a better person. If you can’t find someone, you better have a talk with yourself in the mirror. If your a man/boy go read the book “Fire in the Belly” by Sam Keen.
2:07 Yeah, my family is like this. Talking is just a slightly quieter glorified shouting match.
I used okcupid before, it was good at first but then sucked met 2 different girls, one didn't work out, the 2nd I had a good chance but I blew it because I rushed into the relationship, after that okcupid was just dead, no one responded to my messages hardly any activity or new people, it was kinda crappy tho if I was still single, and was in Japan i'd definitely use pairs, even tho I'm still learning Japanese, I would of liked someone I can practice my Japanese with
What do japanese girls think of indian guys? Do they have a chance?
Thank you for answering my question! 😊 And Oedo onsen! しぶいっ！👍 メモメモ。笑 そっか、横浜の方が多かったもんねー。
Saw your channel and you are absolutely gorgeous!
私もめっちゃ行きたい 😁
私もデレクも温泉が大好きなので、スパとか温泉施設がいいんです（笑）
Sooooo, I guess kancho is out of the question? 😂
Have you done a video about how you met your boyfriend and how you two feel in love?
I think that would be a great video, maybe you could do it together?
So basically in "how to tell if a Japanese woman is interested in you" the word "japanese" is superfluous :D
Baku no Kanojo ni natte kuremasenka?
It is actually true. I went on a date last year with a japanese girl I met on Meet. And I was nervous so I blabbered all date. She spoke too, she spoke about her personal problems which I was happy. But the next day she stopped replying. and 3 to 4 days later she texted me to tell me that she didnt want to see me again becouse a I talk too much. Damn, I was nervous. I wish I saw this video before hahaha.
The big problem is, In my country a date where there is no silence is a great date. Silence = Bad. What do you do in a Japanese date? Do you stare at each other while eating and drop a casual: Ii tsuki desu ne? So unconfortable.
Ohh I got you though! I think you can just ask questions that aren't just yes or no, so that she can talk.
Japanese people tend to be silent until you ask things.
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan Yeah I was confused though. Becouse when I took her to the station and I was going to say goodbye. She started to poke my arm with her finger and grabing my sleeve and moving my arm. I never understood what was that. Did that mean she liked me or maybe she wanted to go to a love hotel, probably not since she didn't like me in the end. But you said that if women get touchy they like you, so she was either bipolar or im just confused.
I think you should maybe appreciate things around you like for instance music in the background. The reason you are nervous often equates to the fear of losing someone. The good news is you can always try to find someone else if it doesn't work. Try to just enjoy the moment with her and have fun. Crack jokes, tease her a bit. And one thing you can do while you wait is play something like thumb wrestling or something. Japanese girls seem to like that and especially the いっせーのせ game. If you show her that you know those games she will be impressed because of your knowledge of Japanese culture! But don't take one rejection too seriously. Take it as an opportunity to learn about the culture. There is practically an endless sea of people to choose from so don't worry if one date doesn't work out.
@@CobourgRailfan that was last Hera though. I’m back in my home country hahaha but thanks anyways. Inusual Ku don’t have problems with dating but Japan was something from another galaxy for me
5:34 Pretty much what 90% of us came for.
はじめまして私わサンジットです。わたしわスリランカ人です。まだ日本語を勉強しています。わたしわ日本で働きたいです。日本人は茶色の肌の人が好きですか？
I don't know how people manage to speak about themselves for any length of time.
WHERE IS THE VIDEO ON MEETING PEOPLE IN JAPAN?!?!?
Hi mis asagi you ate a classic lady. You are thw reson i LOVE JAPANESE WOMAN I WOULD LOVE TO MARY ONE SOME DAY
6:30--7:02 Asagi gets emotional, LOL. We Americans can get a bit overbearing at times. Good video, with good advice for those who might live in Japan. I did notice that editing was especially nice, too. Ganbatte!
Haha. I couldn't help. Thanks for checking out the video!
Good video Asagi!
From a guy's perspective, Japanese dating apps are good, better than tinder imo. I find that I match with more "serious" women on there. It's hard to explain but sometimes tinder for example feels like everyone is just trying to practice English or "meet a foreigner because they are a foreigner".
The only thing I don't like about the Japanese apps is that they are so expensive. From my experience, only guys are paying, which is interesting. Basically, you can get matches for free but won't be able to read or send messages unless you pay. And you have to pay a lot.
Good point. Seems like they are expensive to set the bar high because dating apps tend to have way too many guys compare to girls. (Pairs 7:3, With 6:4 etc.) If they are free guys would match less. That's kinda understandable but unfair from the gender equality perspective.
Japanese girls are so cute and pretty😍
Lol. That's an illusion.
No it's not an illusion i'm sure of it hehe😁
@@kylesleycatuburan7169 Sir, are you Japansplaining a Japanese girl on Japanese girls? Wiiiiiiild 😂😂
@@annieranai2198 Oh don't be like that i was just complimenting her, 😁😅
Me watching this video:
Kind *check*
Caring *check*
Whew looks good so far, she is not stressing about financial par... *DUCKING BLACK SCREEN APPEARS AND TALKS ABOUT $$$*
thats what japanese men say, they want money.
What every women wants?
1. Money
2. Money
3. Money
4. An equipped person for sexual activity
5. Good looking person
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100. A person with good personality
You are so beautiful!
♥️🇯🇵👩🏻💼🙋🏾♂️🇧🇷♥️
I think you are beautiful, charming and wonderful. I hope to invite you one day to the restaurant, you are very inspiring ❤💗
I think that the Americans that speak tooooo much are Argentinians xD
Your just loverly .. you shudent give dammmmmm..
Haha first middle finger I've seen on youtube😆
Hehe 😁
Japanese women are beautiful.
you are so beautiful congratulations
You. Are. So. Cute. Love you 😭😭😭😘 Maybe you can be my wingman as soon as we are allowed to go out again 😎😁 The video was hilarious and totally agreed to all points! I would add the advise: Be earlier than the appointed time or at least don't be late. If I added up all the time I had to wait for my dates I could have gone for a nice one-day-trip instead. 🕔
Jenny! Hab dich lieb 😭😭😭
Ahhhhhh yes! You didn't have a luck about guys being so late! That's so rude! (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan Now, now no need to be flipping a table out of rage, conserve the energy ladies, conserve it and channel it so you can use the energy where it is needed the most
Please. I would imagine that Japanese girls want the same as all girls want. The guy must have a high salary in a large corporation.
どうも、あさぎーさん! Do you think a Flipino has a high chance to have a Japanese girlfriend who will be his wife eventually? ありがとう。:)
I have Filipino friends with Japanese wives, so yes it is possible. Focus on being the best version of yourself.
@@DK-210 Thank you for answering and for the advice. If I may I ask, are you a Japanese? :) By the way, I missed something on my question above, I know of Filipinos who have Japanese wives, so the correction to my question is that, do you think a Filipino has a high* chance to have a Japanese girlfriend who would be his wife eventually? :)
If you are a tall good looking rich man with a great personality and speak fluent Japanese, then yes you have a high chance to get girls 😂
Means, it's not about the race. I can't say which race have a high chance.
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I'm not tall unfortunately, let alone a good-looking guy. HAHAHA 悲しいな。
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan ちょっと。I thought you said personality (character) is the most important. HAHAHA 😂
Learning just 50 Japanese makes them feel much more comfortable
'Anata wa' 'Kawaii Chan' 'Megami' 'Ohio-gozaimas' ...
Right on.
Are you single? I like ❤
Asian women make me go 😍🤷🏻♂️
how about pair me with one of your girl friends, 🤣
Actually most of my friends are not available haha 😅
Asagi, I find you very attractive! Honestly, will you marry me ?
Well u said if I wanted to date in japan .... u didn't include ur self my lady what does it take to win ur heart
I started to get apps about dating apps and advice how to get a girl , forwarded for men.
IM LESBIAN SHUT UP
Can i date you asagi ?
No
Did you break up with Derek ?
Sigh. Why people ask such thing to me? Cuz it's on the internet? 🤷
I’m not trying to make you feel terrible. But if you expose your personal life on the Internet to get likes and views and get attention you can’t possibly be surprised when someone else ask you about the same exact thing that you hung out there for people to pay attention to such as your dating life. I mean that is not logical.Besides if you’re 30 something why do you want people in your personal business anyhow?
I am inclined to believe that you spend 14 hours a day in front of a mirror.🤔
Before seeing this video, kind reminder to look in the mirror
What is it with all these vloggers making crappy videos about things I like and things I don't like about foreigners?
It bores me to tears. Who cares about what you like and dislike?
I think I will make a video about 1000 things I hate about shite videos made by Vloggers.
Which is popular dateing app in Japan
I covered in this video!
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