Appalachian Woman interview-Ashlyn
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- čas přidán 27. 11. 2020
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Ashlyn, an Appalachian woman from Leslie County, Kentucky.
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"I had a pretty loving childhood" and "my mom pimped me out" should never be in the same story
My mom is still abusive and she has my son . Omg 😳
When you don't know better, you don't know better.
I've never met anyone like her around here.
That poor girl is just messed up unfortunately she brought children into this world.
It's very common for people to be clueless about how abusive their childhood was
I agree and the the abused don't know any better. There was a news story here in Detroit. I guy took his dog to a vacant lot and set it on fire because he just didn't want the dog anymore. The poor dog survived and followed the guy home because it didn't know any better, it had no where else to go. Abused people are the same as that dog. I know from experience. When I was a kid I thought I had it pretty good. But when I look back now at my mean alcoholic father and mentally ill mother I feel lucky that I survived okay. My siblings didn't. I think about that dog a lot these days.
Almost every one of the people interviewed say they had a good childhood...and then once the details come pouring out, it turns out to be a complete disaster.
Yes they made it out alive. Many don't.
They don’t know any different 😔
You tell yourself it was better than it actually was, for multiple reasons, emotional survival..ect
Because look at the horrendous examples they have to compare to. When you only get slapped & kicked you think you're not abused because you don't get hit with a closed fist. The kid or woman who only gets black eyes when their parent or spouse is drunk doesn't think they're abused because they know lots of people who get black eyes with no alcohol is involved.
I guess I haven’t heard the same interviews you’ve listened to. The one’s I heard have had very good lives.
Man it broke my heart when she said her kids were well taken care, and one of them lives with her mom.😳 the same mom who pumped her out at 13? Dang, and she is still abusive? Man. The generational trauma is real. Hope she finds peace, and those kids really are ok.
Good catch.... well, I mean.. Bah!
Yeah, not good.
Yeah that caught me too....I was like wait, your mother pimped you out when you were a F'ing child, and you left your child with your pimp abusive mother claiming "they're well taken care of"?? 🙄
That's exactly right. One thing I noticed is she speaks out of both sides of her mouth. However, I'm not sure if her mother is as questionable as she once was.
My instant thought
I have been in Baltimore my entire life. One thing I love about this channel is it really shows that poor people in the mountains and poor people in the hood are not so different after all.
They grow up in similar circumstances
If you richly think, you become rich, if poorly think poor, you become poor, therefore, your thoughts is the master of your own life.”--Lord Robin
We all are one in the same and alot alike once the barrier gets broken and people just talk to eachother and hear the next person out
THANK YOU for acknowledging this! No disrespect intended but I worked in the inner city and the urban poor...city people don't know what poor is. Poor without all the resources...poor without clean city water, poor without wealthy churches, food banks, jobs.... you are very kind to see this.
@Donte821 I respectfully disagree. There are similar experiences due to what they are subjected to (drugs) but no...poor city people can't imagine the poverty...
I’d love for you to interview native Americans on reservations.
yes, I was thinking the same thing.
Absolutely!
*Yes*
I would also like to see that.
He did interview a few native americans
Mark,
I am from Harlan County, Ky and I absolutely love your videos. Thank you so much for bringing light to the hardship that comes with living in poverty stricken Appalachia. Growing up here is not like growing up anywhere else in the world. You will have very great experiences and meet great characters. I have a character from Harlan County that I would love to see you interview, his name is John Terry. John is big name around here, he was a very wild 6'3 300 pound bad ass who nobody messed with but loved to be around (unless he was drinkin' that day) and now he has evolved to be a wise old man. John Terry is a true character and representative of Appalachian life in Eastern, Ky and I would love to see you interview him. He is the last of his kind and deserves to have some form of remembrance. It would make for a great video.
A lot of people are commenting so if y'all could give this a thumbs up so that Mark can see it I would greatly appreciate that! Please get in contact with me and I will give you his address and Facebook.
@@dlesliejones Thanks, buddy.
Heck yes! Bless you and that interesting, fascinating culture of American people
These videos provide such a unique view of those who live in Appalachia.
@@thedildozer6775 My family is from the same area on my daddy's side! You kno anyone with the last name of "Fee"???
Sounds like it would be a great interview Mr. Dildozer!
I was raised in Eastern Kentucky. Thank God my father had enough sense to move us outta there. No jobs except for the coal mines. He packed us up and moved us to Georgia until we were adults then we all moved to North Carolina. We had such a better life because of what he did. No telling what would have happened to us if he hadn't. I will forever be grateful for him.
I also had a very strong grounded father. I wouldn't be the man i am today without him
She's a beautiful woman, inside and out. Very resilient, intelligent, and a big compassionate heart. Wiishing her the best of luck.
"I'm too young to you know look after my kids" what a load of shit. Not too young to make kids or sell your body though. And you're saying how great she is....how many women have you paid for in your time?.......
Speaking about her mother: “I wasn’t born to be her sacrifice for her own fuck ups”! That’s a powerful statement.
Nice catch...I found that a very compelling statement.
She’s right
All unwanted children are sacrifices on the altar of irresponsibility.
I hate to see her repeat the same thing with her kids. I hope she can clean up her act.
@@Kerrviii unfortunately she can't 😔😥 so sad
It kills me when they say how bad their parents where to them, turn around and let them raise their kids.
Bad parents is a common theme of these videos. The real privilege anyone is born with his the privilege of having loving parents. Not their skin color, not where they came from.
Same. Sad to see.
It's that awful cycle of what they know. Its heartbreaking.
yes!
I don’t believe a word out of the mouth of any person who claims how bad the mother or father was, and then turn around and hand their kids over to those same people. It doesn’t add up, at all.
I know this girl personally.
I was her sponsor when she was in treatment at Cumberland Hope Community Center in Harlan, KY.
She is a beautiful soul. Remembering her sober&&running across this yesterday made me cry like a baby.
God love her, her family&I pray she gets sober again, before it takes another beautiful young life too soon.
Aren't there HIPPA laws?
Way to break her anonymity
@@hopskotchsquirrel9504 this..
She doesn't say her name so how is it hippa
Thank you for caring for the broken people. ❤
I am so proud of her for acknowledging her feelings so that she doesn’t hurt her children. Wow. My heart breaks for her.
Anyone else noticing how physically beautiful this girl is? If she had one quarter the pampering of any kardashian girl....sitting there with bad teeth, no makeup at all, bad maneurisms and still her natural beauty is stunning.
I couldn’t agree more!! I hope she knows she’s lovely!
Yesssssss
I totally agree with you shes gorgeous she has natural beauty . Dosent need makeup .
Beautiful 💕 young lady with natural strength
I was thinking the same thing.
I've been sober for almost a year now, from an addict addicted at the age of 10 until 32. I'm almost 33.I've been high my entire life. Today I'm sober, its HARD! Constant reminders everywhere but I'm determined to stay sober. I say alllllllll that to say this..its hard and for anyone out there going through it you're not alone! Stay strong and focused! You got this!😊🤗
Keep up the good work and may your future be peaceful and happy
Keep striving great job
Congratulations on your sobriety!
I've been around the rooms, have a few 24s, and if I may, it get's easer. As the years go by, I miss it less and less, and then one day, something will happen to bring me right back! I'm fortunate, I live in a part of the country where there are meetings like every hour, in like every free building! So keep coming back. Trying to figure out if I can throw in one more cliche'!
You're doing great ! Keep your head up!
2:33 "So I remember being, 13, 14 years old, a young adult." Here we are in the year 2023 with the Internet reaching the Appalachian people yet the old ways still dominate. Fleeting childhood to long enduring adulthood with nothing in between. Graduated age 15 with a love of nursing and if she had a family to sponsor her in a state far away she could now be a nurse practitioner. My heart breaks for what could have been.
She literally said she's too young to look after the children she was old enough to make. She's fing 30yrs old ffs. Not some 16yr old anymore.
She’s mentally ill and a drug addict. How could she be a good mother? She was prostituted by her own mother just before she reached puberty. I admire her for knowing she can’t raise her children yet. She has no support system. She was once intelligent enough to graduate high a school at 15, and become an LPN. Drug addiction took all that away from her. Where are all the treatment centers for people like her that were supposed to be built with the drug lawsuit settlements????
Wow I literally just commented like the same thing before I saw this! It’s really sad but she does speak with knowledge which blows my mind especially compared to addicts in the hood
That absolutely broke my heart. If you read this Ashlyn, know that someone is praying for you, and know that if you look, you will find the confidence that you need to have a rich and rewarding life, surrounded by those who can profess love in the same deep way that you clearly do.
Only through Christ, can anyone be changed permanently. Pray that she would turn to Him. 🙏🧡
@@pattihawks353you both need to see a psychiatrist and keep your blood cult joke to yourselves
There are some days when i feel like life just sucks. Then I watch video's like this and realize just how good of a life I have.
So true. We don't realize what we have.
Literally i will never comaplain anymore
I appreciate your willingness to rethink gratitude and perspective, but at the same time life does suck! For everyone- because we have no choice to exist, then suddenly we're thrown into this crazy thing called life and left to figure it out. Sometimes it sucks, sometimes it's beautiful. No sense in discounting those feelings. We're all just doing the best we can. :)
I so totally agree with you!
I suppose the milkshake is always taller on the other side.
I was listening to how fast she was talking and pouring her heart out like a flowing river.People want to know that someone cares about them and their life is important.I am amazed that she graduated High School early and then went on to Nursing School and worked at a hospital.She articulates very well and expresses herself well even though she has been through a lot.I believe in redemption and pray that Ashlyns life will make a dramatic change for the better and she will get to experience happiness and love.
Yes, you said that so well and I agree that!! I also hope and Pray that she becomes someone that she herself can be very proud of!
@larry williams
@Larry Williams - Dream on ;)
When people I have never met act like they care about me I get suspicious, Larry. I wonder what they want from me.
People I know will listen.
Her first big step would to stop using. A lot of people view drug abusers as something to use, not something to love and trust.
That's so fucking Beautiful! I hope she does too!!
This beautiful young woman, the fact that she became an LPN and her whole life affected by the pain pill epidemic 😢I pray she finds peace & some kind of joy in this life.
I resonate with this story so much considering my own Appalachian raising. I don’t know how I survived without going under at times. I am so blessed to have an education and better socioeconomic hope now. Life in Appalachian poverty is grueling, tiring, and will test your very will.
Be blessed
She was a victim and people made fun of her and no one did anything about it . that’s wrong. Her school should Have reported the abuse to child services. A lot of people failed her.
Yep
That's the culture of the region though. The best thing to do is to bring these children out of the region for a better life. There's nothing there left.
@@blackcitroenlove that's not true for all or even most of southern Appalachia! I LOVE living in the mountains of Western North Carolina. There are plenty of hard working and successful people here. Quite a few very wealthy and well known people have huge, expensive vacation homes here and people from urban cities are buying up all the available (which is not much) real estate as soon as it's available because it's safe and quiet here and most people are polite and courteous.
@@smidgeonofagangsta doesn't work for everyone. Everyone is not included
People wouldn't listen if she wasnt wearing a mask. PRIORITIES
It breaks my heart that she identifies becoming mature with doing sex work for her own drug habit rather than her mothers 💔 She has no clue how beautiful she truly is and how much value she really does have in this world.
She is very articulated, and intelligent. I can't imagine the woman she would be, if she had a different childhood, and a mother that knew how to be a mother. Breaks my heart to see this. I am praying for the right people to come into her life.
I wish she had the help most of us receive by at least one person in our lives.
She never had that person to help steer or guide her in the right direction...
It’s amazing she graduated high school, became a nursing assistant, and then gained her LPN certification. She deserves a huge pat on the back for those accomplishments. Everyone makes mistakes in life but the determination this girl has, despite the cards she’s been dealt, if anyone deserves a break, it’s her. 🙏
I feel this woman was so neglected and abused that she stopped maturing and developing. A child stuck in a womans body.Her family ruined her.
That is what they say the day you first engage in alcohol or drugs is the age you stop maturing, add trauma to that and she is trapped in that age.
Please ! Well that would make me the most successful 12 yr old in the world . With businesses , employees , military , college degree, kids .....
@@mrbee145 I've seen it myself many times. A few successes don't make up for 1000s of failures.
Well shit, guess i really am 14 and that’s why my therapist refers to my behavior as “normal in children” 🤷🏻♀️
Lol sucks
This video is more a video of someone who had a horrible upbringing than an Appalachian woman.
This chick is very smart and down to earth. It's not her fault she was raised that way. I hope this woman gets treated better. Somehow, someway.
I agree... She looks like she could be a doctor or in a similar career, if she had grown up in a very different setting. Bless her heart!
I couldn't agree more. You are a product of your environment.
@@kakel536 Looks like a doctor? Lmfaoo. You think doctors have certain features? You trying to say that she doesn't look totally inbred, like most Appalachians?
College doesn't make you smart. Life makes you smart!
@@kaylacarpenter272 I was thinking the same thing; be realistic!
My heart goes out to Ashlyn. It's a hard life she's led, but it sounds like she is still trying to muddle through it. I hope she finds contentment and happiness. She deserves some of each.
This young lady needs to realize how amazing her accomplishments til now really are, just so she's able to realize she still has every opportunity to finish her nursing career and that she could still be a great mom. She's already overcome soooooooo much under some of the absolute worst circumstances, so she can absolutely make a comeback and be the person she always wanted to be. I'm hoping and praying she makes a turn around and a comeback. She deserves it and so do her babies.
It takes a strong woman to admit she's not the mother that her kids needs 🙏🙏🙏
Best comment ever
This is a very good point because that’s usually the last thing one wants to admit. She is trying not to repeat the cycle of abuse that she realizes is the only thing she knows.
I would agree, except for that she lets her 6 year old live with the parent that abused her for her entire life. She needs to step up and protect them from the same life that she had.
I’m not talking about this woman but really it takes a strong parent to be what their kids need
@@onecraftybadger3847 Exactly my thoughts!
I worry and fear about her son who is with the abusive mother hopefully someone will see this and the child can be protected
She's Had child services come to the house, no drug test and they live in filth. Social services is a joke and let them keep the kids in danger
@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious
@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious
@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious
Nobody protected her. Nobody’s protecting them. It’s a vicious cycle of abuse. I’m not sure who you think is going to protect them? Not social services... They’re a joke... Everyone there is walking around with unprocessed trauma so it’s definitely not gonna be friends or family.
The breakdown of the family structure has me as depressed AF… without it the future is bleak. This girl has a beautiful heart and soul. It seems like she’s going to waste, yet she’s right there for the saving, with the right help.
She graduated early from high school, she has opportunities to better her life . She is still young
I couldn’t imagine going to jail when I have a 3 month old baby and getting out when they are 18 months. How awful. This gal has such a sweet disposition and personality. All my hugs go to her
Poor children. Her mother sold her, was abusive to her and still is, yet she trust her with her son.
Yeah her mom is down below commenting and talking shit!
Shonda Gibson 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
@@sayrahmarie501 wow; disgusting. That just makes me worry about her son even more.
@@sayrahmarie501 Is her mom the lady Shonda that he interviewed? I haven’t watched it but it’s coming up in the recommended
@@jeanakatherine9369 yes, that’s her
That’s exactly what I just said to myself!!!!
I hope someone checks on her son that is with her horrible mother. This is tragic as hell.
That was my thought as well! That woman does not need another child to ruin.
I had the same thought. There is a market for young boys. If a mother has no issues pimping out her own daughter, I fear she has little reservations about doing the same to her grandson. I hope I'm wrong. There is so much going on here. Abuse, addiction, neglect.
@@dluelmo it's all intergenerational abuse - I think this girl is trying hard to break the cycle with the limited resources she has. She's not dumb - she has insight and I think she has moments of clarity but the clarity must seem like the wall of a tidal wave. It's tragic.
I've watched a couple of these videos now, and the generational trauma that these people have endured is mind-boggling. I hope this young woman can find peace and stability. Heart-breaking.
My heart broke hearing her. She never got a chance , not a break in life. With education this girl could be going places. She's smart she just needs a hand up. GOD Bless her.
Pisses me off hearing that a six year old is independent. He’s not. He’s neglected and trying to survive.
It's a way of describing a human personality at any age. I really don't think she meant that he was financially independent or was living on his own!
@@dawnatilla John has put in words is 100% right, your comment is just ridiculous , as is the next .
I feel for mark that must be so hard to hear being there , SAD 😞
So sad
Kids aren’t independent, they learn to be independent before they should, and carry that with them throughout their entire life, with most never understanding why they are the way they are, or why when they are in their 20s and 30s and act like children. I’ve seen both; children who were taken care of their entire childhood and become amazing adults, and children who were born and let wild, and hit their teens and then into their 20s and 30s and go buck wild, making up for lost childhood
@@the_koo3151 you started off saying what I was getting at but then got off track. Every child and their upbringing and situation is different. Everyone’s path is different but at 6 years old not one person on this earth is independent in any way, shape, or form. If you think otherwise then you are a guilty enabler.
"I wasn't born to be her (mother's) sacrifice for her own fuck ups."
I felt that 💔
This girl basically got shit on starting out in life. I wish her well and I hope she can get it all figured out.
This is what a survivor looks like 🌹
Thank you for giving a voice, to our voiceless. I love your videos and learn so much from them. I’ve shown a few to my children as well. I appreciate your heart for our people ❤️
such a wonderful channel. always a reminder to me that we are all different - each of us has different burdens to bear and we need compassion for everyone
I love her honesty .... there’s something really cool about people who tell their truth. The good, the bad, the ugly and traumatic. Hope things improve for her ❤️
@@007nadineL lol no one ever knows for sure if someone is telling lies or not ... but why say so many horrible things that paint you in such a negative light if they aren’t the truth ? Doubt she just made that story up .... but there’s always gonna be a skeptic
@@daniellecarmell2046 I'd be willing to bet you that even despite her seeming to be telling the truth here that even this version of her and her life is through her own rosey red glasses. I don't say this because I want you to think badly of her. But I've known damaged girls like her, and the fact that they have that little bit of charm(or a lot of charm in other cases) that's their hook into people lives where they can wreak havoc with absolutely no sense of responsibility. They can do things that are hard to call anything but evil, and it's never their fault because they're a victim.
There is only TRUTH not hers or yours or mine
@@laurendeaves376 what does that mean ? No one is capable of truth or honesty ?
@@daniellecarmell2046 it means truth is universal, we don’t have seperate truths, different perceptions but not your truth or mine, there is only truth
Growing up with a mentally ill abusive drug addicted parent myself i know how hard those trauma bonds in abusive families are to break, especially here in the south where loyalty and respect to your elders means everything.I just want to give this girl a hug.Not a single bit of hate or judgement here....just empathy and love.I'd rather sit and listen to someone like her than royalty,these people appreciate having the chance to speak and be heard. In the south we love to communicate but we are taught from birth to keep quiet about anything that hurts us or brings shame,especially to our elders. Thank you for these videos.
I've been watching your channel for a while and one thing I learned is that humans can normalize pretty much everything that happens to them. We are survivors. Everyone is awesome, everyone is a treasure and every one is fucked up. C'est la fucking vie I guess ! Thanks for making these videos and you couldn't have found a better name for your channel. Keep it up.
These videos should be a required course in high school...
Yes don’t do drugs kids
More like middle school. Kids are on drugs by high school.
I agree
@@Calverts399 Yes, I agree middle school would be better...
Would not be effective.
You can tell she's a good person with a beautiful heart trapped in bad circumstances that stems from her childhood and the horrible abuse from her so called mother..
How can you tell? Do you know her? Has she done anything of note?
@@patrickfleming253 The junkie shuffle she is doing all interview is a good indication she is a good person...
This was her Mom 30 years ago.
@@ronniebababooe7584 Damn dude, you're cold. Having a hard time with drugs doesn't make someone a bad person. I hope you never have to experience such judgement in your life.
There is absolutely no valid was to tell if a person is a good or bad person from a few minutes of seeing them on a screen, saying a couple of things they choose to want you to hear, in an edited video. You know absolutely nothing about this person except that is she currently high at this taping. You have no idea her morals, intentions, personality, etc. from the information to which you have access.
😭😭😭 can we get an update on her...please 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Her going "GIT!" to whatever animal walked by cracked me tf up
Me too!
Gotta love it LOL
A very traumatized little girl in a 30 year old's body.
Agreed😢 I thought exactly the same....💔
product of her environment,,,
Aren't we all? Some move past it, others don't.
@@linsioux217 exactly, either people realize there dilemma & fix it or they don't,,, can't help those that drown hanging on to a 100 block of cement because they saw it on tv or its the law,,,
Very sad
She’s just so naturally beautiful.
she really is
Why lie?
that hair
Just like rosie o'donnell
She’s average.
so proud in her ability to know when she is and when she's not fit to be a mother. Takes strength to admit that. Hope she's doing ok and getting all the help she needs
Ashlyn is certainly stronger than she realizes. Great lesson: It's not about the life you live, it's about the life you choose for yourself. I paraphrased what she said but I've taken it to heart, whole-heartedly.
Thanks Mark for putting amazing people into our views and hearts.
Cheers
I drive a truck all day and search for new content to have for my brain to graze on. I landed on SWU as the algorithms playlist dictated then after the first video played became an addict.
This is one of the best open based interview forums I’ve ever had the pleasure to drive to.
In every single interview the human element and their particular situation on this floating blue rock comes into your face and into head.
Hearing and thinking is good.
Understanding others is great.
Having cross sections of culture expose itself in a comfortable talk is amazing.
Love your work.
“It’s not really the life that you live - it’s the life you choose for yourself.” That hit like a punch to the gut. I see a sparkle in this young woman’s eyes…she’s still in there, somewhere. The CNA, the woman with goals, the hope for a better life. God, how I hope she finds her way back for she and her children. She is beautiful.
I was thinking the same thing. She just needs to get off the prescription pills, but I think that's harder than any illegal drug, they just don't talk about it
Agreed. Such a kind hearted soul she is.. even through all she's been through! I pray for her healing and love that was never properly given to her. Shame on this world flooding our areas with drugs to tear apart the family unit. These stories break my heart into a million pieces.. every single one!
God Bless you Mark Laita for shining the light on this epidemic the way you do. So people can see the consequences and hopefully do better within their own families.. that's where the repairing begins.. at home.. with love❣️💕
Yet she is damning her kids to her life by leaving them with her mother who was more a pimp than parent. Nothing beautiful or profound just visiting her bad parenting skills on her kids. I gave up a child because I couldn’t be the mother he needed or wanted. And that killed me but his successes makes me know I did what was necessary with what I had
"It ain't the life you choose,it's the life you live"....What You Give-Tesla
She's certainly intelligent
Bless you all for sharing. Life is a particularly unique ride for us all. Admiration to Ashlyn for evaluating and putting perspective on her trajectory. 🙏
Love from the Midwest Ashlyn! I hope things are going well for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
Ashlyn is beautiful as she is, authentic, compassionate, intelligent. And broken but not beyond getting better. I wish her the best.
She deserves to give herself more credit. She’s done the best she can with what she has been given. I hope she finds a healthy sense of contentment someday.
She left her kids with the same mother who pimped her out for drugs that she still needs. That’s just a little scary. This was such a heartfelt interview. I hope the babies are ok. I might have heard that wrong though.
You didn't hear her wrong.
That caught my attention, too. Disgusting and sad.
The I left my babies to their nanny, my mother, to discipline them.
😭
We care about you nice lady. You deserve to be respected. We send prayers and positive energy your way.
These videos exemplify the frailty of our humanity and should build bridges across racial and cultural barriers.
You have one side that feigns a level of compassion that neglects to mention their responsibility - saying they should be taken care of by the government, etc. You also have one side that has zero compassion and thinks they're helpless. But they are human, and while both of those concepts have elements of truth, people aren't very good at speaking on the nuance of these situations. I think we should have compassion for these people in a way that allows us to understand how they got caught up, and we should teach ourselves (and them if we're able to) how to NOT be in a realistic sense and not a judgemental one, so we don't end up like them (and to help them if possible).
@@depletable "how they got caught up" and "so we don't end up like them"...
Some of these people haven't made bad choices in life that put them in crappy situations. Some are born into rough environments and live a rough life because it's all that they know. Then their are individuals that were born into rough environments but we're able to figure out that what they are experiencing in life isn't right so they seek help or guidance from anyone or any institution that will listen or give a damn but their cries for help go unnoticed until it's too late. In short, living a rough life wasn't a choice or bad decision! It's what was dealt to them at the earliest stage of life!
@@GaiusCaesarAugustusGermanicus. We easily delve into a philosophical conservation about responsibility and existentialism. You may even get into a conversation about genetics or IQ. I have heard plenty of stories of people in the most horrible beginnings making choices that pull them from that place.
Other than that, you learn the ethical and moral responsibility their parents had, and learn from that.
Even if someone was born in that situation, and never made a good choice because of it (which is what you are suggesting - that they are and were totally incapable, so they somehow have no responsibility) you can still learn from their literal actions, so that you can understand the domino effects, and help yourself and others with that information.
@@depletable dude shut up
@@pinkpugginz Whatever you say, Stupid.
This girl is so beautiful. My heart bleeds for her and what shes been through.. she's a strong lady..
She's a really smart girl. Such a rough hand she was dealt, but she's done her best with it. I hope good things come to her and she has an easier time of it.
Yes, she's very strong and you see her kindness
What's so infuriating to me is how SMART and CAPABLE Ashlyn is. She was just never given a real chance. This makes me so very grateful for my incredible privilege but simultaneously breaks my heart that so many others didn't have the same opportunities as I did simply because of the circumstances of their birth. On another note, I do love hearing the accent I grew up with. Folks think hillbilly means dumb. Well, just listen to Ashlyn and be educated.
But there’s those who would have u believe that every white personal in America is privileged. Just not so. There are rich. Poor. Middle class all races. Poverty is the problem not race
I wish we could help her somehow. My heart goes out to her. She has severe PTS and a nervous disorder and yet she is so open and honest about her story. I respect that so much.
That’s not a nervous disorder, that’s the drugs she is currently taking.
"Nervous disorder"? You can't be that naive.
Classic crystal meth movements
Crystal Meth is a hell of drug.
@@pm2886 Lots of people are naive because they've never known people who did drugs. Or even worse, they have known those people but weren't able to tell they did drugs which is a far more dangerous place to be lol.
Heart breaking.
She has a lovely soul.
This women is so articulate and downright honest about her past and present situations both negative and positive mad respect
Very intelligent, articulate and self aware. All this sweet woman needs is a chance and a way out.
Dear Interviewer,
Your interviews are riveting. They changed me. Seriously, there are so many people, me included with deep-rooted pain. Most of us just deal with it by ignoring it and living as best we can. The truth in each video is actually therapeutic to me. So thank you!
I agree. I love his videos. He treats everyone with respect and he has such a talent with getting people to open up. Love it!
@@goughaway52 Your screen name is clever. At first I thought it was Gouge Away like the Pixies song, but maybe it's a play on Vincent Van Gough? Either way, great artists.
From the heart, right into her soul.
What honesty!
What a well spoken and emotionally intelligent woman! She so clearly speaks on what she feels and is honest and open, a rare trait to have. Ashlyn, don't fear change! With a personality and attitude like your you can achieve big things.
Emotionally intelligent people don't give their kids away to their abusive mother 😢
6 years old is the man of the house...that breaks my heart
Ashlyn, please, get your shit back together. You're young, smart, beautiful with a big heart. There's so much you can do to have a beautiful life. You and your children deserve it.
She’s way too jacked up on drugs man!
Just, wow. It's great to be exposed to interviews like this, helps people build compassion.
Great girl. I relate a bit. Different, of course…but I do.
Thanks for sharing a bit of your story, Ashlyn. It is inspiring. It is real.
My life hasn’t been roses either, but I feel like I had it made compared to what you told us. And damn it was still tough.
You seem like a beautiful and honest person. Keep being yourself and taking care of yourself.
I couldn't imagine leaving my child with the same person that did all those things to me when I was young....
What is grandmom doing with her child ?
Right ? I lost a ton of respect for her when she said she loves her kids that's why she left them where they at. Like what??? That's probably the worst place for them
There's no rhyme or reason when you're using. She THINKS it's for the best, but it's the last thing she should've done.
She's probably like many people who don't realize that boys are as likely to be sexually abused, as girls.
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This baby never had a chance so heartbreaking
that's probably the most uplifting interview I have watched on here..she makes me smile- I wonder how her life will change due to this exposure?
If one good thing comes from testing positive for covid its the time you get to see things like this. Just stumbled across this channel yesterday and its by far one of the best most eye opening experiences CZcams has to offer. After watching all of the Whittaker episodes its wonderful to see the help they received. The real life salt of the earth people will survive regardless, but its nice to see their struggle doesnt go unnoticed and even if its temporary, their struggle made a little less. Ive traveled thru this area and other areas of KY and its hard to fathom until you see it first hand. This girl has an onlyfans and yet talks about how technology is far ahead of them elsewhere, which seems crazy considering how technology is far behind her only a few miles or counties away.
I feel like Ashlyn sabotaged herself when she started working at the nursing home. She spoke about doing CNA work and working on licensing to be a nurse, but then became hooked on pain meds. It is not unusual for a victim of abuse to sabotage themselves and repeat the same pattern. Ashlyn seems like a strong and caring young woman and she seems to care enough about her kids and aware how her abusive mom affected her enough to leave her kids with people who could take care of them. I hope she’s doing all right right now.
I know all about sabotaging myself. I did use my 16 months in prison as a tool though and have 10 years clean now after 20 years of riding a rollercoaster I could never get off.
I would say that her childhood conditioned her to be a failure, as to be a success goes against their rules.
She definitely self sabatoged... the question is around the relative level of consciousness she had of it happening... to what degree did she see pills sitting and have that survival switch of stealing something valuable and snatching it vs she got scared of this new path and decided it was too much to bear.
It blows me away that she was a lvn. I'm 43 and just graduated a BSN program and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life academically.
I'm blown away she was able to achieve that through the childhood trauma she experienced.
@@KindredGh0st she doesn't even know what a LPN is, do you honestly believe she was one?
Her realizing and understanding her social and addiction problems is remarkable.
Dear Ashlyn
Thank you for sharing your story. You can make a home for yourself in Appalachia and change the story of suffering. I think Kentucky holds so much natural beauty and I believe that beauty can heal when we choose to see the works of the divine and not suffer in the dramas of humanity. I pray for the revival of Appalachia. Bless you.
One thing I've noticed about the people that are interviewed on this channel....they got stories! They have so many stories I don't think they take time to breath in between topics. Their stories all just seem to blend in together. Their lives are so intriguing to listen to.
Ashlyn has so much insight into who she is, where she has come from and she is so brave trying to give her children a better life.
Ashlyn...I admire your courage for speaking on your regrets about your kids...I can promise you SOOO many moms can relate to you and even more moms feel a little less alone and maybe even encouraged to get help for themselves and their kids ...
I hope you reach your goals and your kids are always safe and loved. You have so much potential...may you live up to it, live the life you deserve, and be able to show those babies what is possible. ♡♡♡
Heart breaking to see this poor girl struggle with her demons. Garbage parents cause so much grief. Best of luck Ashlyn.
Some people just are unique and great at explaining, talking, expressing. She's one of them 🌞 genuine
i love hearing all the tales from this part of our country. its rarely seen or heard, and their tales are valid and need healing through the story telling as we all do.
It's hard to end a vicious life cycle.
Its possible, hard, but possible.
True. People don't realize how bad it can be for some ppl.
@@joefox9765 easy to do when it is all you know
It’s the same in urban environments.
What's her onlyfan?
My heart goes out to this girl, I no she’s 30 but she sounds very young minded. Her story is all over the place, she is what happens when parents don’t look after their young children. Her mother sold her tiny body, and she just doesn’t see it. Her mother isn’t a mother.
I think meth has a part.
She's high as hell no disrespect... that's y the story is all over the place sad 2 watch
@@CaleCoast I agree. She was high during this interview. As evidenced by her incoherent and confusing thoughts.
Wow! I thought she was younger. Obviously, I'm a bit distracted BUT she is HIGH. Mind and words going 10 miles a minute.
One of my favorite interviews so far
Thank you for this. Thank you Ashley.
Thanks for sharing these videos, it's so rare that someone shows the humanity without judgement
I sincerely wish and pray for the best for every single person you interview. I appreciate their candor!
Really enjoyed this one, she's something special. I wish her the best.
Yeah she's wanting to ditch her kids and run away, very special...
Ashlyn is pretty, has a good personality, and understands her family dynamics very well. Kids born into that life rarely stand a chance to make it out alive. I hope Ashlyn has found a better life for herself. She deserves it.
Much love to you, Ashlyn! Thanks for talking to us about your experiences. Just the way you understood that you are not "crazy" to remember what your mom wanted you to forget, you are not trapped in your fear of change. There are people who can help and support you if you want to try new ways of living. You do have a big heart. Someone is going to value that.
God bless her and her children. This is one messed up and confused girl. And no those kids are not well cared for. I'm a grandmother raising my only grandchild that was born to drug addicted parents. I pray someone can help get those children into a good home.
Two of my bff's were raising their grands for the same reason, substance abuse.😢💔
Yes it's sad. The drug epidemic has caused another epidemic of children being raised by family or foster care. And most all these children struggle with issues from the trauma they went through from their parents lifestyle. Drugs doesn't just destroy the addicts lived, they destroy the whole family. Prayers for your friends and the children they are raising. 🙏❤️
@@janetwheeler382 god bless you and your family. You’re amazing for raising your grandchildren
Unfortunately because of where she lives there is HUNDREDS of kids living in that environment in her area. It’s normalized. It’s a good desert, areas don’t have clean water, a lot of people live without electricity, etc.
Only way to help is out government stepping in financially to get them out of the burden of poverty.
@@Justaperson630 I understand. I grew up just across the mountains from where she lives, in SWVA. I haven't lived there for almost 30 years but but I have family there and I know and see how the living is there. Sadly out government does not care. They are a forgotten part of society. I've fought hard for two years now with a government agency in Richmond for help for us grandparents that have stepped up to help raise these children. They do not get it. They turn a blind eye..even out local representatives do nothing. Its all so very sad.
She is such a beautiful woman. I hope she's doing better today 💜
Given what this woman was provided in life, she is a very beautiful soul. I hope she finds someone that will protect her and show her love that she deserves