starting life over...in my 30s after losing almost everything
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You all are SO kind and encouraging in the comments I cannot thank you enough! I was so nervous to post this video, but I am glad that I did because it reached the people that it needed to. Thank you so much for being kind to me and each other in the comments 💗 this transition has been a journey for sure lol! Every day I feel a little bit better. I hope you all are taking things one day at a time.
I am making my way through the comments and I saw a request to never delete this video so that they can come back to read the comment section. I promise I won't delete! 😊I hope your 2024 is off to the start you've hoped for! I can't wait to share more of this journey with you all.
💕Jenn
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thank you! your story inspires hope
Congrats
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
¿Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!:)
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
Frugal living, saving, investing
I think the 30's "restart" happens to everyone. I ended a marriage, was laid off, didn't know what to do. Ten years later, I can look back and thank God everything fell apart because it got sooooo much better.
I am 26, not that old but I feel like my life is restarting too. I was partnered for 6 years and have never really had to do adulting alone. I am terrified about how this year is going to turn out for me because I am by myself and I hope and pray 10 years from today, I can look back like you and truly be happy about where I will be then :)
I needed this word right now. Thank you
Exactly how I feel! All I could think when I was in my “restart” era was watch a year from now, I’m gonna be so much happier. I knew where ever we ended up would be better because it’s a new start. 💕💕💕
EXACTLY!!!!!!
This is 💎
Women in their 30s sharing glimpses of their most vulnerable self is the content I love and relate to. New subscriber here!
SAMEEE
I relate so much to it aswell 😊
Im a guy but that age Is s...t for me too
this comment motivated me to go ahead and release the content videos I've been afraid to put out --- thank you 🤍
Im glad that we are still appreciated ❤
At 29 my father died, crumbling my world. I entered therapy. At 30 I went back to school, at 31 my 5 year relationship ended- the person I thought I was going to marry. At 35 I got my masters degree, now at 36 I’ve been in a relationship with the love of my life for 3 years and we just bought a house together, I’m working on my business. Life is a wild ride. ❤
Thank you for being so open. I love your content.
Gives me hope ❤
Thank you for sharing this!
Also 36 ❤
Thanks for your amazing video, People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏
You're right, Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time
Jennifer, I feel the same way right now in my 40's. I quit my job to pursue my dream of becoming a nurse. I have one more semester and I feel like my life is just beginning which is crazy. I love that you decided to make this video and that age doesn't matter because different ages can be in the same place in life. Great video!
Ah you're almost done! I know that feeling must be good, one step closer to your goal! I am going to try and look my situation like you mentioned - that my life is just beginning.
Hi jenn I get you dear I feel the way you feel right now seriously like ,this vlog made my day ,you said everything and more of the way I feel ,I am currently in my 30s and I currently decided to go back to school,and this is my third semester,and I tell I am feeling lost most of the time , actually today I woke up with that feeling like shit I fucked ,am thinking I messed my life up ..... But I just also woke up to this song from marverick city "Firm foundation" and suddenly I felt like yoo😮 God gat me and am on the right path .....
So honey your not alone feel your feeling but know something we are all in this together ❤ from Nigeria......
all I can say is same sis. Turned 40 this year and literally hit rock bottom and have been riding out this season of my life in a constant state of blindness. Idk what next, don’t feel like I know what time doing currently…I’m just floating
Same I’m 42 and I feel like I’m just getting started
Thank you for sharing this! I’m almost 39 and trying to figure out how to change careers. Not a lot of people talk about this stuff in their late 30s/early 40s
Looking at the responses it seems we all are just suffering in silence.
Seriously! My friends try to relate but they just can’t. We need a support group or something!
we can all gather here and support each other!💗
I’m starting over at 38, was unemployed 7 months and almost lost everything. I’m unhoused, but slowly rebuilding my life. Finally got a job too
I'm 47, living with my parents and wondering what my life has come to! You are definitely not alone! With Faith in God, we will get through this stage in life! When you mentioned not rotting un bed, that spoke to me. Some days, I feel like that's all I want to do but I have to push myself and get up and move! Thanks for sharing! I pray your content creation and being an influencer takes you to heights higher than your wildest dreams!❤
Sometimes we need a web of prayer. Web of 5+ people praying for a particular person or people… Not just a 1 time prayer either, but constant prayer. Imagine if everybody covered everybody in prayer rather than word curses… Everybody blessing everybody imagine how beautiful it would be…
Me too and I hate it. I’m grateful but I’m not happy
You are not the only one living with your parents or family members. There are millions of Americans go through what you’re going through right now. This economy is tough for a lot of people. Just breathe and know that everything is gonna be OK. Just know that this is only temporary. Please take this opportunity to get yourself together and focus on self-care, and focus on your dreams. Take baby steps. Just remember this is temporary, your not alone during this time, just breathe, say bye bye to your pity party, and remember everything is going to be ok. There are so many people that’s in your shoes right now that’s not feeling sorry for themselves.Remember who you are and you got this. Sending you some California love.
this comment is so sweet 💖
45 living with my mom. Never completely had it all together. The bed is my escape. But I have to get up and face the world... No friends btw.
28 here🙋🏽♀️college drop out, no career, a minimum wage job, never had a boyfriend and desperate and lost af😂 life keeps throwing hardships after hardships but I believe I will continue figure it out at my own paste. I wish you the absolute best and I’m subscribed to watch you blossom ❤
we're all lost out here but at least we are together🥲 thank you for subscribing!
28 over here been in rollercoaster toxic relationships I have never experienced real love , or been in a real genuine relationship, working a minimum wage Job and I hate it , Going through the MOST !!! You are not alone sis.
You’re not alone! Going through the same things here at 26
@@mpume_zuma girl, we have to keep pushing ❤️
❤️ you
I started over at 25, then 35, and again at 45. Each time the losses were more monumental. Each time I experienced depression and failure but then eventually rebirth and restoration. I discovered that I really am worth so much more than I believed in previous versions of myself. I met people in their 60’s who had to start over after devastating losses. I am so very grateful for each day no matter how difficult it may seem to be with changing demands and new challenges. Journaling and poetry saved me. Art saved me. It is tempting to isolate. Stay connected to family and friends you can trust. I learned that being myself is alright. At 45 I was almost homeless, having survived a horrible divorce, job loss, family death, and foreclosure/near bankruptcy. At 55 I am in a new city with a new job and pursing a Masters degree. My current partner is my best friend - 5 years strong. I spent 3 years feeling completely lost… in survival mode. Along the way I found a whole new tribe and creative gifts that had laid dormant for decades. You will be okay. Give yourself time and the gift of rediscovering your true self. You will rise. .
I’m turning 27, 2 months separated and beginning brutal divorce, left with my clothes & my child, back at my Mothers, no job, little support with child rearing, reentering the workforce after being a SAHM, sold my only car last year😖feels like a hamster wheel. This encouraged me and reminded me I’m not alone❤️ I’m not a total failure. Life is lifing and I’m holding on 🎉
Thank you for sharing your story.. I got a divorce at 33 years old, no child and betrayed by my ex husband left me so insecure and having a mental breakdown. I started over and met the love of my life at 35 years old and currently remarried to an amazing man who hears and sees me. Moral of the story forget the time line that society sets for us etc you will be ok❤
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I am quitting my job in 2 weeks. I have no plan, no savings bc of this job, and I live on my own. I have been falling into a whole of lostness, and just turned 30. this job has sent me spiraling the last 2 years and i refuse to deplete myself any further by staying. I am taking a leap of faith, so I can start feeling good again. I am terrified and feel crazy for having no backup plan, but I'm choosing the lesser of two evils at this point. This video was just what I needed. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.
Omg I put in my resignation in this week. At a job I felt was no longer serving me. I really don’t have a solid plan either… but I know I have to put myself first. So congratulations on your new journey and putting yourself first. ❤
@lifewithangelina92 thank you so much, likewise to you! I wish you the absolute best in yours :). I hear so many saying they did what we did and it was the best decision so I hope we can look back on these comments some day and say the same thing :)
I’m going to resign at the end of the school year. I don’t know what I’m going to do next but I don’t want to do this!
@kiaj.d.5855 wishing you all the best! It's encouraging for me to see others also willing to put an end to careers and jobs that are not serving them, even when they are uncertain about what's next. That takes courage and Im optimistic that its the first step in a better direction :) You got this!
@@lifewithangelina92 just a little testimony. Last year I quit my job with no back up, barely any savings. Within the same week I received a call from a recruiter for a job and ended up getting it. God is taking you exactly where you need to go
I just turned 37 last month and the relationship I had with the guy that was my everything ended three years ago. In May, I was let go from what was my dream tech job. The biggest lesson I’ve learned at this age is to care for myself first and foremost. Not everyday is the greatest, but I push through. We will make it through 🙏🏼♥️
I am learning that same lesson right now and it's taking everything in me to not give up! I'm taking it one day at a time. We WILL make it through😊
This gives me hope. I am 33 turning 34, no boyfriend or kids still living with parents. Still recovering from a manipulative relationship. Our mistake as woman is that we tend to put everything else first but ourselves.
Yes sis', we will make it through. We are all in this together, thanks for the encouragement❤
We will make it through❤❤❤
I had to reset everything at 32, now I am 37 today and I am so glad that happened because it allowed me to have the wonderful life I have now. The reset is a good thing!
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❤️🔥💪🏾 “The reset is a good thing.”
This almost made me cry. 32. Diagnosed with a serious illness and divorcing after only a year of marriage after doing everything I could to save us. Currently can’t afford to live on my own. I’m subscribed and I’ll be rooting for you. And us. ❤
I love reading all of these comments. I’m not in my 30s but I found comfort in these stories. I felt so insecure/ashamed/embarrassed/guilty and almost as if I was also emotionally not as mature as my peers (same age or older) just by how life has happened to me. I felt disconnected but I’m slowly starting to believe in myself again. ❤ thank you guys for the inspiration☺️
Omg i feel the same. I feel like ive developed slower emotionally and my critical thinking and social skills arent as sharp as peers my age. And I dont know how to bridge the gap. But I'm learning to give myself grace and that its ok to move at my own pace.
@@reginaogwal9777I grew up carrying more than my peers. In some areas I was more immature because I frankly had no emotional processing safe space.
But I did learn things some of them are only grasping in their 30s. There isn’t one timeline, just timelines that are more fun than others.
This video showed up in my recommendations today, and it’s perfect timing. I’m 38 (39 in 2 weeks), and experiencing a LOT of what you shared. Today, I found a painting that reads “actually life is beautiful and I have time”. I saved it as my wallpaper. Thank you for your vulnerability. I just subscribed, and I’m looking forward to your journey and mine.
I love that quote! I do have so much to be thankful and I don't want to miss all the good just because of everything else bad going on. Thank you for subscribing 😊
Happy birthday ❤
Just hit 30. Unmarried, single, no kids, no career, had to move in with sisters, and lost a LOT of people either to life or death in the last few years. Starting this next chapter with God, a new job that isn’t exactly high paying but I’m blessed, starting a nursing program in spring, and learning myself finally. I feel so behind but alive for the first time. It’s not on the timeline I would’ve wanted or expected but I’m getting comfortable with the idea that maybe that wasn’t the plan for me and enjoying not feeling like I need to have a chokehold on everything from fear of being… here 😅 This is only the beginning and I’m scared but I know better is right in front of me. Thank you for sharing and creating a safe place for others to do so also. ❤
Me too good luck
Thanks for having the courage to post. I was widowed at 34 after 10 years of marriage. Now raising my young children alone. Definitely not how I envisioned things. God will keep us all. Keep pushing and keep posting!💚
I wish you all the best! You can do it! We are always stronger than we think we are! Sending love ❤️
God will definitely keep us all, wishing you well wishes!
My mom widowed at 36 with four kids,24 years later,she did a wonderful job
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It's a series of ups and downs life. It's like waves in an ocean. Just because someone might of had more ups in their 20s to you, that same person in their 30s might become depressed or lose a job or get a divorce while you are travelling the world in your 30s (hypothetical speaking haha)
Reading the comments honestly puts my mind as ease. I just turned 29 last month & my anxiety has been kicking my asss, over thinking about where I’m at in life. It’s refreshing to read that others are just here trying to figure life out.
At ease why say so?
Me too turned 29, never had a boyfriend. Most of the time i feel like a failure.
@@gloriasifuna680429 never had a girl friend...i mean...like it would be a good idea too know each others tho? Same insecurity= No insecurity 😉
@@gloriasifuna6804 Im joking btw, im from Italy, bit far from U.S
If i can give you an advice there are many guys out there who aren't bad people AT ALL, it's not like they are "Beta" or s..t like that. Maybe they just dealt with a tremendous life, my family Is very fragile and i needed to help it, while graduating in mechanical engienering. Now im trying to move in the dating market and it's an hell, im invisibile, even tought i fear nothing (i dont fear rejection at all) the only insecurity Is your same one: I have no clue how to start relationship.
Cheer up girl, there are many of us who would give everything for the chance to give and have some love.
Im assuming you are interested in people around your age.
Cheers 👍🏼
Yes I agree you got this 🤍
Baby girl, it’s ok! I’m 37 going to be 38 in May, and I feel like that sometimes… most times actually!. Listen, focus on the “little wins”… and trust God!. Trust me, I’ve been there. Studying God’s word and speaking to Jesus Christ (and His Holy Spirit) will help you. Trust me, there’s people who will kill to be where you are!.
Your life will fall in place. Everyone’s timeline and life’s journey ain’t the same.
Love you. Stay in gratitude! ❤
Thank you so much for the encouragement, God is the only one I trust in at this point lol.
This video is on time ! I’m literally in the same situation for sure staring over after job loss, heartbreak and feeling uneasy thank you for being open and honest about your life ! We got this love! ❤
I can relate with you sis I am 37 and will be 38 and as we continue to figure things out in life it is not easy, but we do have God who can help us through anything.
Yessssss
Another 37 here, turning 38 in May as well. I totally relate.
May the Lord ake control and His will be done.
Wow. It’s crazy that someone is out there experiencing what I’m feeling. Soon I’ll be officially divorced and I was a stay at home wife and I’m literally starting over from scratch. I’m losing my home and starting over in a new city with no friends or family. It’s so hard but I feel like it’s a sign that I just so happened to click on this. ❤
You got this! ❤
Hugs 🫂❤️
sending you my best wishes for your new adventures that await you. stay strong and always believe in yourself. Take care. ❤
Same! I have been out of the workforce so long and I don’t know where to start. I’m also moving to Texas with just me and my kids. I feel so lost! So, I totally understand you!
@@tamara3562 Thank you!
Sis, I’m 43 and still not living the life of my dreams. You WILL BE ok! Everything doesn’t blossom for us all at the same time or at/by a certain age. Keep putting your best foot forward and putting in the work, and it’ll come! Here’s to you manifesting success in EVERY aspect of your life!! ❤❤❤
It happens at any age!
This spoke to me. I’m a 31 yr old Black man in ATL. Let me say you are GORGEOUS! Keep your head up. Beautiful on the inside and out. Any man is blessed to have you. You’ll be more than fine!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting over. I’ve started life over plenty of times & i can honestly say every time i started over life gets better & better & it was all worth it. Growth & a closer walk with Christ & I’m literally enjoying & living my best life.
Thank you for being so open & honest. This is going to draw so many people to you because this is what people are looking for. We love honesty & truth. Girl let God use you & your channel is going to thrive.
Thank you for your kind words! I am looking forward to the part where it's all worth it and gets better. And thank you for the encouragement to keep posting, for so long I felt like it would be silly to post about stuff like this but I'm learning that the right people are finding my content and that makes me want to keep going!
@@jennnoire you are so welcome & its never silly to post whats real. Most people lose focus on whats real! It’s not always about the luxury life style & having everything all together. People want substance & to know that we all struggle, something thats relatable. Im excited to see this new journey and I believe it’s going to be amazing!
33 turning 34 and I was just journaling about this. My season in life looks so different than many of my friends and its never got to me until recently. Thank you for daring to be vulnerable on the internet bc this really helped.
32 and this is exactly how I feel. I feel lost, different season from my friends * colleagues. It feels like I'm grieving the life I thought I'd be living currently
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable
@@stellagathigia6766 you said it perfectly. Its like I KNOW I was supposed to be the shining star and the one to "make it" and now its like im looking at everyobe else do what I couldve beeeeeen done and im like wtf is going on
@@stellagathigia6766I am same age as you and going through everything you are. It’s quite difficult.
I'm 38 and a mother of two teens. I thought I was the only one trying to figure out where my life is headed at my age.
Here I am sitting in my car, and I just happened to come across your video. God has a way of showing you that when you think you're alone, you're never alone. I'm just in awe of you and the women in the comments.
It's incredibly beautiful to see a community of women come together, being honest and open.
I truly appreciate you for creating this safe space.
Newly subscribed and here for the journey 👑🙏🏾💪🏾💞
Im 35 year old man and I feel the same way. I love the message and cant agree with it more im down with seeing how your story unfolds. Thank you for your vulnerability hun 🙏🏽.
Darling I'm 46 and starting over again. This time is different because I am literally over my former career and unsure what it is that I really want. I know what I don't want. I feel like I've accomplished so much and so little at the same time. Shedding and surrender is painful. All the questions you posed I ask God every day. I want to get past this season but I also want to gain the lessons so as not to repeat them again. So one person saw it and stands with you. Sending you strength and hugs!
I just turned 53 and going through the same thing right now!! What a season it's been. I truly thought I was the only one going through this ... just feeling lost! I get it, and I wish you and everyone here love, strength and support !!
I’m starting over also at 39 Your not alone and we got this 💪🏾
Sending you love!❤️
@@jennnoire 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
I’m 56 and starting over again adapting to change new journey, so you guys are not alone we GOT THIS,!!!!!.. So Cheers 🥂 to Transformation..
Me too
Broke up with my bf of 4 years right around the timed I turned 30 shook me right to my core. 4 years is a long time, especially at our age, thats a significant % of my life. I feel you sis. I sometimes still feel depressed and incapable of a relationship at this time. Day by day, step by step.
Try 7
I can relate hun. Take care of yourself , it will pass.
Just give it time
This comment section is so validating. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. We are all so proud of you.❤🥺
This was comforting. 29 here lost everything at 28 and I have been sleep walking through life since. I am trying my best and i hope one day this will all pass.❤
Thank you for sharing
Thanks so much for this 🖤 I’m 29 learning to appreciate my last year of my 20s really being myself and authentic. I lost a life I thought I once wanted as well and have to start over. I’ve learned that I was never really in control and that holding on to something so tightly sometimes is the fastest way to lose it.
I truly believe that everything that can be shaken will be shaken so that what can not be shaken will remain.
Releasing control is becoming a constant theme in my life these past few months and I'm learning exactly what you said about holding on tightly is the fastest way to lose it. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement!
Thank you for sharing! I'm 54, living at home, single and have went through a lay off. I have been applying for jobs with no success so far. I am trying not to stress but some days are better than others. I signed up with a staffing agency so I can have a routine and have some income coming in while still applying for jobs. I'm currently working as contractor. I'm looking forward to the new year and new opportunities personally and professionally. I'm reminding myself to not overthink about what I am going through. I'm trusting God and I am confident that everything will be ok even though I can't see into the future. All of us that are going through something right now.... we got this! ❤
Starting over in my mid 30’s too, (34 here) had an independent life, good apartment, car, and everything till one day came crumbling down. I was so done with ny nursing career… it traumatized me to my core and affected the way i interacted with people, it added fuel to my depression along with deaths in the family 4 people close to me in a span of 4 years. I was frozen, paralyzed, unable to move forward for 3 whole months. I was trying to sleep alot and not wake up. I never imagined myself to be this way because I always thought I was a go getter. I trusted myself too much. I always had plan B plan C etc. I felt I took things for granted while I was packing. Fell hard Like a domino . Also broke up w boyfriend and financial crisis on the line. Felt like I was a worthless human being and a loser in life. At 34 I felt like life was so short, my perspective changed after having experienced deaths in family and witnessed death right in front of my eyes..Moved out of state and only literally had 2k w me and drove to my cousin’s house to recuperate.. still on this journey I just moved in her house 2 weeks ago..looking to work towards entrepreneurship and not be on anyone’s mercy.
Goodluck to you! You can do this!
How are you doing now? ❤
Immediately subscribed. You literally spoke my life. I’m actually married with two children and I just feel blah. I feel like that’s all I have . Grateful for my family but so empty in my space of becoming for myself. God speed to your recovery. I hope it gets better for you, Jennifer.
Thank you, truly! As moms I feel like we focus so much on the family that we lose sight of what *we* want for ourselves sometimes. Sending you so much love!
Girl…..I was laid off during the month of my birthday, the company closed down and I relocated across state for that job so I understand a bit of what you’re going through. God can help you.
I wonder if we worked for the same place? :( I hope things are getting better for you!
I’m 29 and I feel like I’m starting over. I feel so much shame and fear because I’m nowhere where I thought I’d be, and people in my life are criticizing me for not being married or settled. I’m lonely AF and my business has dried up. This video made me feel a little less alone, but it still hurts. 😢
Same boat🛶 plus USD 6,000 debt
@@RebrandingAfrica101 This too shall pass 🤗
Please speak up and defend yourself sis. Don't let them get to you! Tell them to leave you alone. It is not compulsory that everyone must marry, If that happens good, if not, still good. Don't be rushed into choosing who is not good enough for you just to satisfy societal standards of settling down and having ten kids lol.
Currently going through this wave of Life at the age of 35; had to cut off all toxicity including My previous job & family members...I'm now in My isolation faze to focus on Me and ONLY Me. Learning to be patient & give Myself grace while getting back on My feet👑🙌🏾🌹
Yes I am going through this now too
I cried as I was watching because i'm literally going through this. Im fresh to the 30s club and it has been hard. I feel like im starting from 0 and not where I need to be but i do know tht things are going to work out! Transformation is never easy but what is on the other side of adversity is always so beautiful and well worth it! im grateful for all the seasons and all the lessons❤
Same, just turned 30 a few months ago.. I had an extremely difficult twenties and I’m starting over but for the first time, I’ve finally started feeling a sense of hope for the future. I wish you the best, we got this!!💪🏼💪🏼
I’m 34 also and I’ve been experiencing the same things. I’ve lost a career, a marriage, friends, family, a home and most of my material possessions. It was like on one hand there was this clean slate to build on but on the other I felt empty. I had to heal through therapy and verbalizing my vulnerabilities. I know the timeline wasn’t what you hoped for but it will all make sense with time. Plus it makes for great content for those of us who struggle as well at this big young age. ❤
I dont ever comment on anyones video usually, but please dont delete/private this video. Im going through something extremely difficult and this video has been the main thing that is getting me through day by day. “Let go of control and be patient”, “I have to accept that maybe somethings cant go to the next version of me” really resonated with me. Keep doing you girl, you have a beautiful soul and will go far. Rooting for your success and everyones in the comment section whos going through it ❤
”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.“ Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
YOU are the most realist, transparent, authentic, amazing person on social media. Seriously! You have been nothing but vulnerable and open and HONEST, with no filters or trying to get the best shot or leaving something out because it won't be "glorified" enough! I absolutely love it! I admire your strength, and I share the struggle along with you. Trust you are NOT alone
Your words, thank you so much❤️ sending you love as well!
Girl, thank you for this video. 35 years and almost lost everything in 2021. Still in this season but hopeful that things change for the better for me
It took me 4 months to finally have the courage to watch this video. Around the time you posted this I got laid off from a job I so badly wanted and broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years who I thought I was going to marry. All of this happened within a month of my 29th birthday. The healing process is still ongoing, but I'm glad to know there are other ladies out here who understand what this feels like 💜
I’ve always joked that I have nine lives😆 seriously, I’ve “started over” so many times and I have kids who’ve been patient with me. I left a six figure job several months ago after not being supported and being suppressed. Walked away from the love of my life after reuniting after 15 years. Lost so much but I am blessed and have learned so much on how to start over. Be transformed, workout and take care of your health. Love yourself over and over again and trust God!! Your setback is preparing you for a comeback! Wishing you all the best ❤
This happened to me between 37-38 just now and I’m so hopeful to see things turning around. I’m now realizing a fresh start could be a blessing. ❤
I’m 48 and I watched this entire video because I felt and heard the emotion in your voice at the very beginning. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I realized that this can happen at any age. I lost multiple people that didn’t die, some that I had to walk away from and some that walked away from me and it was very hard. I still feel very stuck 2 years later. These times are meant for self reflection and self love. We are all well on our way. I wish you and everyone going through this the absolute best and remember no matter where the road turns you deserve the absolute best and are so worthy. 🥰 Hugs
Been dealing with loneliness myself over the past year. I just jumped into a new CZcams series a couple weeks back that went viral and I'm dealing with turning this into a career as well. Developing friendships is the part I'm having a hard time with as I do so many things every day to be productive and move my career forward. Thanks for making this, you're not alone.
I’m literally same age as you, losing my job next month, my mum passed away when I was younger and now my dad has been diagnosed with cancer so I moved back home to help him. I’ve no partner or kids, life is definitely upside down right now 🙃. You’ve got this! ❤
I'm 37 and finally starting the journey back to school I feel you
30 is the perfect time to start over! You know more, experienced more and have to somewhat of a conclusion what you do and do not like. As a person whos currently going through that, its been eye opening and freeing. Be blessed sis, you're doing just fine and will continue to prosper!
I so feel this 46 single parent after a divorce of 16 years going back to school and starting over was hard but sis God can do anything!!!
❤️I went through something similar when I hit rock bottom at 28. I felt devastated and still recovering from it at 31, but it completely shifted my perspective on life. Who TF set these timelines for us anyway? What kind of life do I want and not what others want for me? I am rebuilding slowly but surely.💎Your video encouraged me to keep going ❤️❤️
I absolutely LOVE watching your tiktoks and YT videos. I recently got divorced this year and I am a single mom of 4, you have been such a motivation and inspiration! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what you are going through. I've been feeling like I am in this exact same place and felt like I was the only one feeling like that. Starting over is just a fresh start for the life we desire and deserve. God has an amazing plan for us and he is going to restore what we lost 10x over and it is going to be so beautiful in the end!
Thank YOU! You've had a big life change this year, I am sending you love and hope that you give yourself grace. Your words of encouragement mean so much! And I fully believe God has an amazing plan for us.
@@jennnoire Thank you so much ❤️
I’m 31 years old and you are literally saying exactly how I feel. I had a baby at 28, my child’s father has left us and working had been a struggle for a few years and dealing all of that on top of trying to fight for my happiness has been a lot. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone.
37 (turning 38 in 8 weeks) . I broke up with my fiance a year ago which was the right thing to do, I feel lost and I feel old. Im unhappy in my job and under performing at job. So grateful to come across this video. We are all going to be OK. Im happy to be a new subscriber.
We got this ❤❤❤
Happy birthday in advance! It is going to be a beautiful year for you! A beautiful and exciting beginning!
I’m 30 in April and will finally graduate University that same month. I feel like my life will be starting at 30. Thank you for this video 🎉
34 here....Whew. I'm learning that 30s have truly been a journey of self discovery and growth. Although, it is not easy to see, there is beauty in our journey. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. Keep going! This is your time! 💗
Heavy on the self discovery and growth! These growing pains are brutal sometimes, but I have some hope that things will get better with time.
@@jennnoire growing pains are the WORST but you know the saying “trust the process” One day you will look back and be amazed at what you were able to push through. STAY POSITIVE 🫶🏽
Life ohhhh Life... I SPEAK Abundance to us and in our lives because Jennifer, you are not alone... I can relate in soooo many ways...💛🙏🏾💛🙌🏾💛
I’m 27 turning 28 in a few months but I just got into a medical program after years of trying and even giving up and pursuing a different career just to quit and get back into the medical field! I learned so much about myself during my journey of what I thought I was “failing” but thinking about it there is no way I would have made it in the medical field at 20 yo. I was so innocent and naive. I’m happy that things worked out the way they did. I now leave it all up to God to lead me to where I need to be ❤️
I just turned 33 yrs old a few days ago. I recently left my husband due to domestic violence. Grateful to God that my three kids and I got out of that toxic home. My parents took us in. We live far from the abuser and he filed for divorce. I worry about my kids and what I am going to do in terms of future employment. We are struggling in one way or another. Stay strong, Jenn. ❤
Hi, your video came up in the feed earlier in the week and it's perfect timing. Honey you're not alone in this thing called life. I'm 49 (I'll be 50 August 2024) and I've had to reestablish myself so many times I'm not even counting anymore. Give yourself grace and self love. FORGIVE YOURSELF. Words spoken to me today. Forgiveness gives us freedom 🤗 We're all still a work in progress. If we say we've made it and no further growth is necessary then that means we've made it home to our Lord and Savior and are no longer on this earth.
I feel exactly the way you said you felt in this video. I'm 38 and do not have the life I imagined I would have at all. I know I've achieved things but then I've also had major failures. I feel that I have started over so many times in my adult life that it's comical. I deal with an anxiety disorder, which makes things tough to deal with and makes me super hard on myself too. I find myself embarrassed about my life and my current living situation, and feeling like I have failed at life, and I hate feeling that way. Thank you for being open about this because sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who I know (lol) who feels this way about their life. I also feel like I never hear other Black women talking about stuff like this unless they are already out of that phase of their lives and are doing great now
Same girl same, just turned 35 and feel so lost… praying your path aligns with all your desires 💕
I really appreciate you sharing this. I’ll be 28 in a month but I feel I’ve never “lived life” no relationships. No memories of fun travel etc. I feel I’m on some type of timeline. I feel as if I have to change and accomplish everything in my 20s but 30-50 age wise is still a good frame where you can do so much.
I went on my first solo trip at 29 didn't have a boyfriend till 33 everyones timeline is different. I used to feel out of place now I like that mine was different. Made a promise to myself when i turnt 30 to be and live authentically me as possible. I hate that were made to feel a pressure to have done things by a certain time. Being single for so long was actually a good thing as I could focus on my peace and happiness and getting to know myself.
You actually escaped so many heartbreaks and depression from relationships. I have had some and trust me I have wished that I never experienced those pains and traumatic situations. But I keep the lessons, it is molding me into a better person with better experience. I feel wiser now. Humans are very unpredictable and you are not sure what they might do next. Don't regret it too much, you are actually lucky putting in all that time into your own personal growth. I hope you have a very good and painless experience when you finally have the relationship you are hoping for. Please keep in mind that you have so much time for all the fun.
Hey love, new subbie here!! It crazy that you came up on my for you while editing my starting over at 40 video, so trust and believe that you're not alone. You got this girl. God has a bigger and better plan for you. Just trust the process. Your content is really good, so being a full-time creator may not be a bad idea. Can't wait to see more ❤
Thank you for subscribing! :) I am fully trusting God and leaning on him more now than ever!
Wow. We have the same story. 2020 had to walk away from a relationship I thought was it with some who I thought was my best friend and right after lost my job of 6 yrs at 35. Take it one day at a time was the exact thing I had to do also. Pray, grieve the life you had and take a new step each day toward moving on ❤
Jenn, looks like you accomplished your goal for this video because this is my life right now. 31, lost the relationship with the man I thought was my forever person after being together for 7 years, just moved out of my parents place but this era was nothing as I expected it to be, especially at a time when my other friends around me are engaged and married. I see you and feel you.
Though my relationship ended last year, what’s brought me the most comfort day to day is surrendering myself to all my emotions without shame or suppression. Tapping in to yourself, coming back to yourself, will allow you to heal much more completely than suppressing those hard days ever could. At the end of the day, I still have hope in truly knowing that what’s for me will never leave me. With my relationship ending, it was important for me to understand that I can be heartbroken for the loss but immensely grateful for the time we shared (the two feelings can exist at once 🙂). Wishing you continued healing ✨
The part where you said surrender to all emotions without shame or suppression is exactly what I needed to hear! I didn’t realize how much shame I’ve been feeling and i need to work on letting that go!
I'm weeks late but I just turned 36 and I had to start life all over again nearly two years ago after giving my life to a cause and relationships that completely failed me. I almost lost everything as well. This was refreshing to watch! 💖
Definitely gained a new supporter today. The things you said in my opinion are definitely not easy to say out loud and then say out loud for others to hear. I pray we all figure out that "what now and what's next" when time is right of course. Sending blessings your way even though you don't know me.
“What now and what’s next” - I love that! ❤
Thank you so much Brittany! I pray the same for us all too and I know things will get better, with time. I'm hopeful!
At 33 I'm still lost, left a relationship, left a job I wasn't happy at all, now I'm at a place where I'm finding out who I am, or what my purpose is on this planet.
Wow… im reading the comments and all that I keep saying to myself is.. Life is not linear. I believe at after seeing so many people going through exactly what I’m going through shows that I need to give myself more grace. When you think about it, the way we may have seen our lives may not be our own true desires. What if this is teaching us and stripping us from all the beliefs that aren’t truly ours. So that we can form our own beliefs, values, and wants and even needs. We never done this thing called life before, at least in this lifetime and I believe at this point we have to be gentle with ourself and sit back and just BE. Our moment of stillness and self discovery. We’ve been pouring and running from it for too long. It’s time to learn who we TRULY are. It’s painful though I can’t lie.
Starting my life over at 36, mom passed away 2023 in February. My wife asked for a divorce at the end of October!
You are so not alone. You got this! Rejection is just redirection! ❤ Something better is on its way!
😮 really 5:42
I felt like I lost the love of my life in 2020, then came the C and the world went crazy! And then I had to finish college on top of that. I almost failed, but I got myself out of depression last minute.
I finshed decently and found a job, new friends, started to volunteer and now will do my first big trip in years. Life changed a lot!
I used to cry at work - in the kitchen while making breakfast for elderly people - (trying to support myself during college) ... to now being thankful for everyday!
I love this video. I’m living alone at 28 it’s got some lonely moments. I also feel like I’m meant to be alone to learn to love me first. It’s not easy for me. I take it day by day. I made a new friend. And I’m going out more often it’s not so lonely. I think what helps is to know we are never alone we may feel alone but there are millions going thru the same.
Its so crazy, I am 32 turning 33 soon and I am at the exact same place. My marriage failed after only 3 years and I am now starting my journey to a new career path. It has been a very difficult pill to swallow. The hardest part is not feeling you are where you should be in life. That hurts more than a failed marriage. It gets better with each passing day keep pushing girlie!
Thanks for sharing. I have been fired from a good job, divorced. It’s challenging starting over. My faith helped me persevere. ❤😊
Am about to move out of 10 years marriage to start over at 32. Thank you for encouraging us through this video.
Hey girl, going into my 30s in 2 months. My emotions are conflicting. My 6 yrs relationship ended, healing from depression, and I realized my savings are not enough. I am in so much pain but I guess my job right now was my blessing because I am always burned out in my last job but this job right now is one of the things that keep me going aside from my family, my greatest supporter. I am right here learning from the examples of people searching on youtube how's their life in their 30s and I realized that whenever/whoever you are, everyone is doing their best to live their best life.
I’m starting over at 39, i definitely feel this with you. I’ve had to leave a lot of the people or the past behind bc the amounts of truths kept from me. In this process forward I have no clue where it’s going to lead me yet but I’m keeping on keeping on. Anything will be better than the situation I just survived through. Truly thank you for your video
Girl! I relate to this on so many levels. My life turned upside down in 2020 and three years later I'm still picking up the pieces.
Someone encouragement for all of us in this season is to continue to explore the changes in ourselves and celebrate the growth.
Fell on my head got a traumatic brain injury at work . No more marriage, kids are grown and I’m 48 years old starting over, weight, loss, journey, inpatient treatment program in a different state, growing closer to God, God is still good. I feel you. Thanks for sharing your story. Also, I appreciate all the comments let me know we’re not alone.
I’m a man turning 37 this year and I relate to so much of what you have shared. I’m trying to launch a career pivot which has me starting from zero. Last few years have been brutal on my mental health. Trying to rebuild that and heal my mind too.
I’m that “one” who needed this. Thank you.
We are all people trying to figure out the way of life alongside each other. ❤
This is the level of vulnerability that I need and so many other women need as well. I’m in my late 20s and still feel like there’s soooo much more I need to learn. Thanks for sharing with us.. looking forward to more
I feel you. Felt like I had a reset 31 to 32, let go from a job, thyroid cancer, 6yr marriage turned to divorce finalized, no longer able to use my car, new job, navigating finding self again, depression, started new hobbies that brought joy to my soul, made new friends, traveled - all in one yr. Now 32, I look back at that year and I realized I was the happiest I had ever been in life despite the bumps. I got to rest after years of feeling like survival mode and signed up for random things (ie burlesque, Konpa, Kizomba , heels dance class, pole class, aerial and etc) that I’ve been interested in but never tried.
Hi Jennifer, I can relate to what you are going through. I am 42 and single. While I have a good life, it’s not the life that I dreamed I would have in my 20s. I have had to work hard and longer than I wanted to take care of myself. Nothing has been given to me. Now I am dreaming new dreams for myself and working on building the life that I want.
You just wanted to be single can you prove that no guy who is thinking of you right now 5:42
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing with us. I am going through many major changes as well right now. I also lost my job on my 30th birthday. It’s been a year of resetting. It feels like I’m at square one at 30 and it’s both exciting and terrifying. We’re finding our way, sis! ❤
Definitely a year of resetting! We got this!
Sobbing. I feel you 100000%. I’m about to be 31 in a month and I feel so lost and hopeless. Like I’m behind and not enough. It’s reassuring that I’m not alone. YOU’RE not alone either. We all aren’t alone! Thank you for sharing your journey. Your words are beautiful and I’m so glad you found the bravery to upload and share your vulnerability. I hope you’re doing better than before ❤
New subscriber here as an overachiever, planner etc etc...I never saw the 30s curve ball coming. Just bare naked in the wilderness of life. Spirituality, trauma therapy, and connecting with family have been keeping me afloat. I have no clue what the next chapter holds but I pray it's better than the last more fruitful and happy.
I so relate 💯 with you.
I'm 35 and had to start over 3yrs ago for the same reasons you're going through; similarly, I lost a job because the company went under, then lost my partner that (at the time) I thought would be my future. It's funny how life works sometimes...it's like we have to shed in order to grow. May we remain steadfast in the pursuit of ourselves cause I do believe this is what it looks like to grow❤
CZcams just recommended your video. I loved it😍 and i was reading all the comments🫂
I am gonna share this quote i love so much 😊 it helps me when i was going through 2 burnouts and a painful 💔
" Don't be afraid to start over. This time you're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience "
All of you, remember that you're so much more than your career, relationships etc... you are a simply HUMAN BEING 🤍
Take a step-by-step everyday 🌟
God knows everything you have been through. You will all be fine✨️
Take good care of yourselves🤍
Sending you so much love, light, warm hugs 🫂 from Belgium 🇧🇪
29 going through one of the hardest transitions in my life, thank you so much 🥹🦋
Jennifer, needed this I lost my job that I loved because of a manager that hated me. It’s the first of the year and I have to put everything in Gods hands.🙌🏽
i am 37 yeasrs old and feel like i a, not doing much in life,sometimes its hard for me to find my purpose,there is more to life then just to be averge,stepping out of my comfort zone is the hardest,
Its SO uncomfortable outside of the comfort zone. We can do it though, baby steps!