NC's High Rate of Domestic Violence - "Enough Is eNOugh" - A WRAL Documentary
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- The statistics are startling. About 44 percent of women in North Carolina have experienced rape, physical violence or stalking by a husband or boyfriend in their lifetimes, and about 25 percent of North Carolina women have been the victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives.
The WRAL Documentary, "Enough is eNOugh," examines the problem of domestic violence in the state from the perspectives of both victims and abusers.
Hosted by WRAL News anchor Gerald Owens, “Enough is eNOough” originally aired Dec. 18, 2014.
Read more at www.wral.com/wral-documentary-... - Krátké a kreslené filmy
Implementing a program where ankle monitors are placed on abusers when a protection order is issued is BRILLIANT. Otherwise a protective order is useless. Kudos to this police department!
What a very good idea .
Yes! Of
course
There are plenty of women in prison for killing their abusers.
One old lady said she told her husband to stop hitting her and he didn’t listen. She picked up a shotgun and blew his hip out.
Another young college educated black woman told her boyfriend not to ever hit her again. He didn’t listen. A few days later, a friend of the woman came over to visit.
She smelled something coming from the closet. She opened the door and the man’s dead body was rotting inside.
Women kill their abusers quite often. I don’t think they should spend the first day in prison.
I don't believe that they should either and I also don't believe that women should have to kill in self defense because nothing gets done about domestic abuse.
Yeah I disagree with that. After an investigation is done, and a trial is held, then a judge or jury should decide how the perpetrator of the crime should spend the next era of their life. Right is right. U don’t get a pass because you’re abused, unless you have been abused unjustifiably so, and that’s everyone that chooses to take the moral high road and choose nonviolent behaviors to resolve n work out their issues. They must prove this in court or whatever. Nobody walks away free. In relationships things are pretty tricky, but it usually takes 2 people to sink that ship, but only one to create that initial disturbance of relationship harmony. These statistics are skewed, and if it’s researched by feminists, then I Really question if there’s motive or an agenda to mislead or misinform. That usually is the case.
@@ct7853 well if the woman constantly ask for help and the police don't arrest the abuser and the district attorney's won't give nothing but probation the women have to take care of the problem!!!!!!!!!
I lived in this for 10 years I’m gonna let you know it’s like living with a murderer that you’re walking on eggshells with just hoping you’re not a victim. It’s the worst feeling it really is.
It’s like living with a lion you keep trying to domesticate. Even during “good moments” you know you’re not safe, even at their best you’re scared to make any sudden move
Both great descriptions. I hope you are both ok
Well you gotta be dumber than you think the public is 10 years and you didn't realise this till after you had revenge on him or did you know the whole 10 years, if so why are you pissen and moaning about something you chose to stay for , 😊
@@lv2756actually that’s a good depiction, but you fail to understand something. A lot of people can be reasoned with. U can’t communicate thoroughly, and with a lion, u don’t know if it’s coming or going. Talk to people, even if you’re not good at Communicating. That’s the best weapon you have, “verbal communication. U may want to learn to communicate.
@@ct7853 I’m talking about an abuser. Trying to reason with one kept me in year long relationship where I’d been beaten so badly I had to be hospitalized three time and the third time, I had an eye injury so bad I had to get scleral bucal surgery and my sight never fully recovered. You fail to realize I WAS in fact trying to communicate and reason with an animal. Please do not give this advice to anyone in that situation.
These men never do this in front of other men
Did you ever see the movie burning bed. With Farrah faucet he did. Real life story
women too
Most men are really cowards
I left my ex the morning after he tried raping me.
I pretended to go to work, called my job and told them i couldnt come in and i went home grabbed a couple of black plastic rubbish bags and grabbed the essentials and i was gone.
He spent years stalking me afterwards.
These new ideas for protecting victims are long overdue.
Hear hear.!!!
If parents aren't going to teach this at home, why aren't we including some of this in health/sex ed classes in high schools? And for that matter, why aren't we offering self defense classes in high school? Most schools teach Stand First Aid/CPR classes, we teach them to save others, why aren't we teaching them to save themselves???
education, as a survivor its about time this was recognized 👏
This is why I choose to stay single
Me too.
I'm currently in an abusive relationship right now, he almost broke my arm an hour ago. I left and went into a local church parking lot and bawled my eyes out too afraid to call the cops on him for fear of what he'll do to me next when he gets out 😭😭😭
Leave the relationship if your still with him!!!!!!!!!!! Leave before he does more harm to you!!!! It's not worth staying with crazy abusive men.
Leave while before you have children with him .
Lock him up! Get it on record! Save yourself and the next person!
You are beautiful and strong. You deserve to be treated with RESPECT. That is physical abuse and is extreme controlling behavior. Please text or call National Domestic Violence hotline.
Also, delete it from your search history for your safety. Please text or call or text them as soon you are safe. We are behind you. 🙏🙏🙏
God bless you child
I live in Dunn, N.C. and there is nothing here in the city for Domestic Violence victims...We need something here...
Single strong women are goals
Unfortunately, these policies have not been implemented nationwide.
Well done. This police department is an shining example of best practices in the area of protecting victims and society. Now...when will others follow suit?
This video is great n deserves more views.
God bless all victims of domestic violence.
God has more important things to bless 😒 he's not wasting his time on a human who allows another human abused her 😂😂😂🙄😒
We need to take these programs and create them for school children of all ages. Coercive control is rooted deep. Skills all around for everyone will reduce the casualties
8:54 law makers are the biggest law breakers, the good ole boys protect each other. That monitor don't mean ole boy!
Classic domestic violence, she wanted him to get help because she loved him but wants to hit her always a Hiter
A friend of mine was murdered by her husband a few years ago in Elk Park NC.
I’m so sorry 😢
Am I allowed to wear a body camera. To protect my body
Yes, do whatever you have to do by any means necessary to protect yourself.
Well, a family court judge gave my son in law 7/7 arrangement. This before he went to trial for throwing the baby on the ground and strangling my daughter. YES, YOU READ THAT RIGHT! My son in law has not pick up the kids, yet, for his 7 days , since the ruling two months ago.
Losers abound!
Yes this was in Pitt county!
Background check even if you have to pay for it
Love to give you a hug yong breve lady.. God bless you and your family 🙏. love from Finland
This is the only answer to combat future crimes perpetuated by the children who were raised in domestic abuse situations, not all children go on to abuse, I didn't, but criminals will often cite a poor upbringing as part of the reason for their actions, well done North Carolina for taking a stand against partner violence.
CPTSD is real
Powerful and informative.
Im thankful to God i did not experience DV growing up.
They should have to wear the ankle monitors for life. Most will do it again. And the effects the abuse has on women can be for life, so why shouldn't they pay for life? Especially when they try to get help with protection and justice through the court system and charges are dismissed. It's sickening
Yep. Same w s*x abuse. The victims get an automatic life sentence while the perpetrators get a slap on the wrist.
men too
Divide and Conquer. The 1st play in the abuser's handbook!!!
I'm living in this relationship.. He said if I leave him he will hunt me down and kill me. I don't know what to do.. I'm so scared 😭
Search a crisis shelter in your area. That’s how my mom got away. Friends and family may not understand how serious it is but the shelter will. I was 7 but I remember we went to a parking lot and volunteers picked us up. We could not be told the address of the house or anything because it was completely secret. There were other women and children there and counselors. We stayed a while and then they helped us leave the state. It was a real commitment, because we never went back home. I never saw my cousins or friends or pets or toys again. But we were safe. It’s really hard, I hope you the best. If I could I would come get you myself ❤❤❤
This is so sad I feel sorry for those poor women
men too
Blessings to Cummings for training to learn from his mistakes and make things better!
Very sad story’s😭😭😭💔💔💔
Brave girl ❤
I thot it is ok. Later after 25 yrs....this is not normal. I got help
You say society has to change. The offenders and the punishment needs to change. Make them responsible for the abuse they just inflicted, instead of sending them to anger Management. Courts don’t send perpetrators on the street to anger management, why should a domestic violence perp get that and no jail time.
We have the same social problem in Canada too.
Yes my husband had PPO and Tethered
Ma and dad always tell each other where they're going what they're doing.
Neither one asks. Neither one calls it controlling. They've been married 62 yrs and give each other respect. Neither has opposite sex friends, they don't test and push each other's limits.
That's how it needs to be, been with my Husband for 20 years! :)
@@charreedawn
The grass doesn't get any greener and you ain't missing a damn thing. Y'all might as well stay and just ride it on out.
There's a difference between making that choice out of your own free will and being forced to.
Quit making sex the most important of ur relationship.
I'm a abuser I enjoyed controlling my ex wife but she left me😢but I will now change for the better
It's people like you are the reason why I chose to not have relationships with men. Get help, and in the future, stay in your own lane and don't bother with us again.
Another case of women believing in a tyrant. I love you women but you need to empower yourselves. DON'T settle for second best however wonderful he may sound. Make yourself aware and walk away at the first sign, sadly my daughter did not do that
Another case of shitty dude who was left unchecked and unchallenged by everyone around him, why is the focus always on THE VICTIM and not the PERPETRATOR? You know, the actual person accountable?
if I was born back then I would have would help the children
“She made me hit her” “ she pushed my buttons” “ she was asking for it” all the excuses, maybe someday men will actually be man enough to be responsible for THEIR actions and stop blaming women. But unfortunately it hasn’t happened yet.
I got hit tonight he threw phone in my head pulled my hair because I told him what we spoke about it angered him I'm not allowed to buy nothing if u did he cut it up told me he will hit me with baseball bat next time pulled scissors on me spat in my face puts pillow over face
I would do serious damage to this man. However you must leave and know that he has a well recognised mental disorder. He's a psychopath and won't change. Know that people are problem solvers so ask a professional for help also family and friends. When you know his condition the spell is broken and you're free. YOU'RE FREE♡
Kudos to you.
Hooe you ok leave xxx never ends
RUN.
Hi dear, I hope you're in a safer place now. I'm thinking about you!
Here’s my 10 cents; my 2 sense is free! Always know, and remember there was a time when males were off to work, and females were home, up until the late 80’s to 90’s when they boomed from the homes, and out into the job markets in complete full force, and closing the gaps. There were abusive fathers, and there were men that abused or sexually assaulted. Who do you think often monitored kids, and watched over them at nurseries or daycares etc????
Women or females. A lot of boys are messed up today because of it. Girls or females as well. Before we believe everything we read or watch, we may want to analyze, and rethink. This in no way excuses any behaviors at all. This isn’t common sense, it’s just sense that we can all think for ourselves and not be blinded, or beguiled or even biased for or towards certain groups. I can’t fully trust statistics simply because all the info could be Tampered with or set to rouse an agenda. Can’t be trusted unfortunately and that’s sad, because how can we know the truth completely.”
YOUNG LADIES PLEASE DO BACKGROUND CHECKS TO MAKE SURE YOU NOT DEALING WITH A LUNATIC !🚩
Men too!
These story very disturbing, and very upsetting, this man was extremely cruel and Very violent
This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch
I am Glad this Woman Survived this terrible situation and left this very violent situation
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man....
Beating a woman is Not masculine
Beating Women is NOT sexy
Beating Women is NOT manly
I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men
WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE
This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman:
For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable...
Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe...
No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often.
Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been...
My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior,
I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others...
Keep everyone SAFE
PLEASE BE SAFE
Your Life is important
Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate
Jason Sandifer,
Michigan
MESSAGE REPOSTED
10/14/2021
Women shouldn't beat men either. Men get abused by women a lot, and we don't call it out as much.
Some men do change and regret their behaviour.
There’s no excuse but untreated ADHD makes it very difficult to control one’s impulses.
Does one with untreated ADHD (now treated) who is not abusive anymore deserve to pay for it for the rest of their lives?
It’s not as if they’ll ever forgive themselves.
Yes, some men do, but it's very rare. Not everyone with ADHD, treated or untreated, will be abusive. I assume you're talking about yourself since this seems specific. I truly hope that you have changed and have changed for good. A lot of people that "change" are only like that temporarily. It depends on what they did. If they did what the guy in the video did, then I think they should be locked up for a long time. However, if they hit their significant other once and never did it again, I think that's much more forgivable.
Emotional disregulation makes you more vulnerable to being abused.
Excuses, excuses, everyones got excuses
Leave the first time he hits you.. but don’t tell him and leave safely.
There are shelters to help you.
It depends on the individual situation. In any case, lets say the man or woman who engaged in active violence at on time has stopped, that's a good thing. But it also should be understood that the relationship is dead. And that they must release the person they abused to pursue their own future. No , one does not have to pay their entire lives- unless they killed or crippled someone.
I decided to drop out of pretrial Diversion to save money. I have to go back to court and serve my time in jail for domestic violence charge. When I was arrested I did a week in jail maybe 2 weeks. I was taking my anger management classes and alcohol/drug classes like the Judge initially ordered me to do when he put me on pre trial. Now that I’m going to most likely go back to jail, how many days/months will I get most likely?
Details: I splashed beer on my mom after she punched me in the back of my head. I’m in Georgia and maximum is up to 1 year and $1000 fine. With my specifics situation how long do you think I will get in jail?
How do u get caught in so mess like that after 6 months y'all have to learn to stop thing before it happen wen u can c it
6:03 B.S
Every town and every city needs this awesome job
For these men that they like to beat women, they just don't believe in God is the only reason they do it. The Bible states you're supposed to avoid abusive attitudes at all costs. Never put your hands on a woman. And women should never put their hands on a man. But sometimes, dating is not the answer to everything. But a relationship do have its own burdens.
Just don't date guys with tats all over, that's for starters. Especially if they look like they were done in prison!