Woman ‘Melted’ into Couch FOR 12 YEARS after Parents Left Her To Rot
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I need the link to the 911 call, please. Thanks 🫶🏻
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1:16 😂
@@user-nw9mg5tg4e I am aware, but I wanted the full recording because there are other parts of it not included- such as the chest compression attempts
@@user-nw9mg5tg4e I am aware, but I was trying to get the whole recording, because there are parts missing - such the chest compression imitations made by Clay
Obviously these "parents" didn't care about Lacey, but how on earth did they live in a house with rotting flesh smells, bodily fluids and maggots. The level of cruelty and neglect is beyond comprehension.
I don’t know how they lived with the smell to be honest, just trying to imagine it is making me feel sick to my stomach 🤢
A wonder how did they keep their clothes odor free. It amazes me that nobody noticed it...
Exactly how do you come home everyday from work and smell that and see their daughter they "cared so much for" right in front of them and them just keep living like nothing ever happened. Unbelievable!!
@@Rebecca_Bailey Was about to say the same about the smell. I was like no way y’all are able to survive the smell.
My thoughts exactly
My son is autistic with Pathological Demand Avoidance and severe anxiety. He absolutely goes through periods where he can't leave his bedroom or maintain his hygiene. You know what I do during those times?
1.Anything I can to help him stay at least a little bit clean - wet wipes, warm bubbly water in a bucket to stim with, buying extra of his safe clothes so I can wash what's dirty and he can wear the clean versions....
2. Liaise with the professionals who are part of his care team regularly.
3. Support him to recover so we can get back to things being easier for him. Yes that often means low demands for PDA, but that doesn't mean ignoring him, it means finding creative ways to help him do what needs to be done.
4. Stay close by.
You know what I DON'T do? Leave my vulnerable child to literally rot for years.
*Editing to say I can't believe I've just opened CZcams to so many notifications. Thank you everyone for your kind words, I didn't expect any response at all! My kid is awesome and honestly it's a privilege to be his Mum. For people saying PDA is new to them - I really recommend the PDA society website for helpful information. ❤️
You're a good mom or dad. Good job for doing that!!
Thisss. I also wonder if perhaps she had a seizure disorder that eventually affected her into not moving or something. I have a friend who was having seizures for years in her teens but had zero outward signs of it. She just got quiet and unmoving during them and often got in big trouble with parents and teachers, assunihg she was being rude and ignoribg them😭😭
Bless your heart mama/dad ❤
You're a very good parent, he's lucky to have you❤
This!💜 This is how you parent a child with your son's diagnosis. Thank you for sharing.
Lacey's parents could've done better. They chose not to. Can't imagine why. But it was a choice.
I think the mom not knowing Lacy’s age is proof that she didn’t care about her at all😔
For a child with her background to suddenly do a complete 180 and developed SEVERE social anxiety.. i just know something happened to her early on
One hundred percent. I was sexually abused by a family member when I was 5. Before, I was outgoing and chatty and bubbly. Afterwards? I literally stopped talking for the most part. I would only speak to my mom and brother. My brother literally spoke FOR me in public (restaurants, to ask where the bathroom was, etc) until I was 12. It took years for me to recover. I can't even imagine what poor Lacey went through 😢💔
Absolutely. Change in personality is a major warning sign of abuse.
THANK YOU! I have bad social anxiety but am on med for diagnosed severe general anxiety disorder. All are diagnosed and more. She went out using weights, it’s not social anxiety, it being scared of people because she can’t trust people. She started thinking everyone were like her parent. She had severe autism as a girl. Severe autism as a girl is SO different than boys autism. That was not social anxiety to me, that was being severely autistic with role models who made you even more scared of people.
They did something that made her completely anxious. And then they neglected her. Who knows what she went thru before
I think u r 100% right. My son is autistic & I've never heard of autism kicking in as they get older, it's usually the opposite
I do not believe for ONE SECOND any of this was Lacey's free will. They made her stay on that sofa and then she couldn't leave and then they stopped cleaning her and feeding her until she died. I am convinced they abused her before. A child doesn't develop social anxiety just like that, when she was described as brilliant, friendly kid before. They did this to her.
I honestly got this feeling as well!! I call it clipping a kids wings when parents do stuff like this, hindering their kids somehow someway.. I don't know why they'd do this to her but I'm with you.. they caused this!
Considering the changes started around puberty-- you know where i'm going with this.
Pulling her from school was a red flag imo
@rachelcarter9029 This was my first thought, especially when they said the parents decided to "home school" her.
@@InteriorDesignStudentexactly
I'm convinced all the lotion and clean clothes were staged before law enforcement got there. There is no way Lacey's mother was caring for her any time recently.
i think it's possible she had 1) cared for her in the past and just left everything there when she stopped or 2) it was actually supplies to clean with and keep the smell at a minimum
@@rachelcarter9029well considering that the smell was actually so bad that the coroner said it was the worst they’ve ever smelled, I highly doubt it was to keep it at a minimum
Absolutely. If they genuinely cared about her hygiene/health, she wouldn't have been rotting into the damn sofa.
I agree
I thought the same thing
I worked as a wound care nurse for a time, and I can tell you that the smell of rotting flesh is not easy to wash off. There were days when I got off shift that I would take multiple showers before I would go near another person. Taking that and the statement made by the coroner about the smell when he walked into the house, how the hell did the parents not reek when they walked out of that house?! I can understand that they probably stopped smelling everything, but how no one else could smell it on them amazes me!!!!
100%
THAT is an incredibly good point. Makes me think more people knew what was going on. Or that they wore Hazmat gear in the house..
Seriously how did neighbours not report the smell?
My thoughts exactly!!
maybe they thought it would be rude to tell a couple of middle-aged people they smelled like literal death? I've encountered some older folks who just seem to have an unfortunate smell despite being clean, so that would be my first thought.
I've waited on people before who have literally smelled like they were rotting/ just hadn't bathed or changed clothes for weeks/ months 😔 most of the time. It was just sad and awful but I always wondered how they just didn't realize...
Lacey is not here to defend herself. Thats why they say it was her choice. High probability this woman was abused all her life.
and there are people here in this comment section defending that it was her choice and I am like... wow. These people exist. They are real. I can't even wrap my head around it.
Exactly , no one wakes up able to be this delusional neglectful and lacking empathy and a conscience . The parents have been that way before they had Lacey . They are dangerous . They couldn't see what the rest of the normal empathic outsiders could see ...... And their supporters ,... wow ..., how disgusting they found so much support,.... sickening .. ... where was Lacey's supporters in the community or church goers ???? . Thank goodness the DA went after them and didn't let them go ..
Also, why not get someone to at least care for her hygiene and nutrition if they were too busy or if it was too hard for them. Its such a weak excuse to say ‘she wanted this’
"You've failed your child" is a complete understatement. My heart hurts for Miss Lacey
I can't imagine the kind of pain Lacey endured before she died. How anyone could just stand by and watch their own child rot like that is unfathomable to me.
This is so cruel so heartbreaking 😭😭
Even hard to believe how it is possible not to care for a daughter for a day let alone years and years..... And the pain she must have endured 😭😭 I cant and dont even want to imagine .... Why do some people have to suffer so much 😭😭😭
as a disabled autistic woman the first time I heard a deep dive about this case it quite literally sent me into a downward spiral of existential panic
Same here, it's so depressing..
i hope your families care more than this poor girl 😢 certainly try to speak up if necessary. i can tell how angry Danielle is!
I hope you have people who care for you, if not please reach out for help. I know it won't help much to assuage your anxiety but this poor victim had horrible people around her. I will pray for you and hope you have good people. You, nor anyone, deserves treatment like this. There are people who care.
If ever you feel neglected or that you need help, please please please say something to anyone. 🙏 People care. If one person doesn't help, keep reaching out to others. When vulnerable people need help, even strangers will step up to help. As you can see by Danielle's reaction. Her emotions about this case are not unique. ❤
I'm so sorry
My mother lost her foot and was going through dementia. She was 300lbs and totally bedridden. I and my brother changed her MULTIPLE times a day until she passed.She never had so much as a rash. When the hospital received her corpse (she had a massive heart attack and died before help could come) they were shocked she didn't have a blemish. If two completely inexperienced young adults can manage that with such a large woman, Lacey should have been FAR easier to care for.
They left her to rot to death because they couldn't be bothered to care for their own CHILD. They couldn't even be bothered to get her help. How do you do that to another human being, let alone your own child?
For 12 years for this "Popular couple" they didn't have any visitors to their home?? That's hard to believe no one stopped by the house.
Not really, I’ve known lots of ppl like me who literally never have ppl over (in my case it’s cuz my house is too small, and there’s no room to seat more than 3 ppl). There’s lots of other reasons why ppl don’t invite others to their home, and it’s not that hard to avoid. When someone asks to hang out, you suggest a public place like a restaurant or a park. Usually when someone suggests to get together, they offer their house or a public place since inviting yourself over is taboo. I’m js I haven’t had a single guest in over 8yrs, so it’s not that hard to believe someone else out there is doing the same thing.
Nah, it's fairly common. My household was like that when I was growing up. Parents simply super private. Even now, I just don't like people in my space, our place is small. ✌️
This happened not far from where I live. The crazy thing is that they did! They would throw little get togethers. The parents would just close the door to the living room. I have no idea how no one smelled rotting flesh. The whole thing totally flips me out.
They had people over? That's insane! @@teriboudreaux6743
I'm amazed they actually called emergency services. The amount of abuse and neglect, I'm shocked they didn't try to hide the death.
I wonder why they did at all
That has always confused me.
@JCTheSniper15 Stop. You're implying that adults can't be abused or neglected, and that's not true, especially for vulnerable people. Any good parent would have their child forced into care instead of watching them suffer for YEARS on the couch.
@@JCTheSniper15 what you've just said really confuses me. An adult clearly suffering was LEFT to piss, shit, decompose, suffer for 15 YEARS?? Do you have how long a time that is? She was living under their roof, she was their responsibility from the moment she was no longer able to move. No one deserves to be left in those conditions - they prolonged her suffering by not stepping in. How is that not abuse ? They also prevented her from getting the treatment she needed - they specifically refused help from the doctors and then left her to rot?
@JCTheSniper15 being the age to be considered an adult, doesn't mean anything. Dr's clearly diagnosed her with SEVERE autism and social anxiety disorder. I don't care if she is 60 Years old, she was literally rotting away on a couch that her parents walked by every day, she was caked in feces, she had maggots in her ears , couch foam and feces in her stomach because her parents were not feeding her are you saying it's not the other adults responsibility to get her help simply because she was of adult age?
as a caretaker even if lacey didn’t want want to move they easily could’ve cared for her that way, kept her clean, fed, etc. they’re absolutely vile
Exactly. Cater around the sofa was my first though. They just simply neglected her
Yep. Sponge baths, bringing her meals, even adult diapers and regular cleanings. Even if they didn’t want to do all of that, they had the money to put her in a nice care facility. There is no excuse.
Exactly as I nurse we have a lot of patients who refused to make a shower we still keep them clean and keep up to date with their hygiene no excuse even if she refused they should of forced her and did her hygiene for her and kept her clean.
I’m an ER nurse- and you would be shocked how many times people come into the department in this condition- ALIVE. It’s more prevalent than you can imagine.
Whatttttttttttttttt....make a video please! Lol
That is so concerning and scary.
@@leahwalker192 probably not true.
@@asdfqwerty5389if they’re homeless it’s very true
@asdfqwerty5389 It absolutely is. Your limited experiences are not indicative of the experience of everyone else.
Grow up.
Lacey was showing textbook catatonia. Very common for ppl to think the person is choosing not to move,engage, withdrawn, incontinence, if left untreated they can be completely disconnected in all areas of functioning. What's even worse is they are cognitively aware but unable to do anything. When my autistic son was 12 he had severe catatonia and he went from someone who could talk,run,eat,use bathroom,to a 12 yr old infant who couldn't move,talk,eat,use bathroom, he had to be spoon feed, and diapered for 6 months before he recovered. These parents were lucky enough to have doctors recognizing the seriousness of her condition and they still did nothing ughhh
Well done mum 💖💖
That sounds terrible. How did you manage to get your son better after that?
@@rizkiramadhan9266he started treatment when he finally got to see an experienced phyc doc. The wait list was several months but as soon as doc started treatment (benzos, like Ativan, clozapine) he started to improve pretty quickly,thou some ppl have had to undergo several rounds of etc(electric shock therapy) to restart the brains ability to actively function. Ik etc sounds harsh but modern etc is done under sedation and heavily monitored during each session. My son is now 16,he's on medicine to decrease the chances of catatonia reoccurring but there's really no guarantee.
I'm curious too. How did he get out of the catatonia? Did you think it was permanent regression? How intriguing to me. ❤
@@CrystalCat24 I'm sorry I thought I responded to this but he was put on benzos ( meds like Ativan, clozapine, Xanax) it's amazing how it more less unlocks catatonia and u see the persons brain wake up. Thou rare some ppl require multiple ETC treatments (electric shock therapy, don't worry it's not the barbaric ETC u may be thinking of, modern ETC is done under sedation and heavily monitored during the treatments) to come out of it.
Yes there were times I wondered if he would ever recover. I knew with autism it's common to see regression during puberty but this was beyond anything I could've imagined. It had also triggered his tics to a level I had never seen B4 on anyone..clap clap squeeze poke for hours on end to being stuck like a statue. The best way I can describe it was sorta like when a toy is broken or has dying batteries. Being as he had it so severely he will always be at risk so his doc keeps him on a low dose of clozapine to decrease the risk but it's deff always in the back of my mind. He's now 16 and can use his voice to tell u all about how he completed his goal of using the microwave to make a burrito:)
How much HATE does it take to do that to your own child? Your own child with a disability. For 12 years!The profound abilism, prejudice and ignorance towards neurodiversity, cruelty and an enormous amount fo sadism...
The audacity to say the loved her.
This
YES THISS 🙌🏽
They loved her to death. They loved her to a fault, is beyond comprehensive. Unbelievable.
It takes MINIMAL care to keep someone in decent care. Even if she chose to not get up, they couldve wash her, fed her, clipped nails, etc. Blaming their neglect on their child is wild.
Honestly. You’d be surprised at how many parents are embarrassed to have a child with disabilities. It’s cruel and sad.
What strikes me is that they made that decision to not get her help every day. You can kill someone in a spur of a moment where the decision is made once and very quickly, but that's not what happened here. They decided so many times to not take action and so many times it took her closer to death.
Pretty sure they saw her rotting body EVERY SINGLE day and decided to not do a thing.
No sane person would even leave a stranger in that state, let alone their own flesh and blood family
Honestly i appreciate how angry you get talking about this kind of stuff, it's the appropriate response. Most true crime content is.... a little less empathetic.
Sometimes, it might just be that the storyteller avoids anger. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't have empathy. Personally, I'm an extreme empath due to childhood trauma. The trauma also created a lot of anger. After so many years, I'm able to minimize that emotion. It doesn't mean that I condone bad behavior. It only means I don't want to suffer the effects of anger. I hope this makes sense. To be clear, I'm not saying Danielle is doing anything wrong. I'm a big fan of hers. She's very good at her job here. ❤
Agreed lol
I have to say, that argument that “It was Lacey’s decision. She’s an adult.” That’s BS. She has severe autism. Making her disabled. Hence all decisions fall back to her parents.
Her parents who couldn’t be bothered.
As someone who struggles with social anxiety and agoraphobia I can concur that Lacey probably verbally said she didn't want to leave, but I know inside she was screaming. It's like being trapped inside an invisible cage of your own making.
HOWEVER.
I have a husband who loves me and when he sees the warning signs (not eating, not talking, no eye contact, won't move for hours on end) he gets my therapist involved asap and does everything he can to get me out of the house or even just opening all the doors and windows so I can have sunlight without having to leave my safe zone. When you love someone you don't let them rot.
If that house smelled so bad, how did the parents not smell when they went out? How could everyone around them not notice and think something was wrong??
Trust me, people can smell when you’re a smoker. They can smell it if you don’t clean your litter box. How did they not smell like sewage and death?
@@tiffaniecross2209 I'm a taxi driver and people smell of the restaurant they've been in for a few hrs when they get in my car. I can usually smell if people have cats or dogs and most drinkers have a sickly sweet smell. I can't believe these people didn't honk to high heaven either!
I could have been Lacy if not for my parents. In my teens, I developed major depressive disorder and an anxiety disorder. After a few years, it progressed into full-blown agoraphobia. I didn't leave my home for a full year. My parents told me once it was easier to let me stay home where they knew I was safe and cared for. Yet, when they thought about me, fully as a person, it wasn't the life they wanted for me. They got me the right kind of help- therapy which included medication to break the excessive anxiety and I emerged on the other side of my disease. I remember those days being frozen in my mind and body filled with fear. I can't imagine enduring 15 years. If you would have asked me during my year indoors if I was happy I'd say yes just like Lacy supposedly said. Yes, but I was ill. This was in the 90's when mental health issues were more stigmatized. No one took medication or saw a psychologist. It wasn't talked about. My parents felt like they had somehow failed me. BUT THEY GOT ME THE HELP ANYWAY. It didn't matter what anyone else said about me or how they handled the situation. I feel these two needed to keep up appearances more than help their daughter. Imagine was everything. That woman could have led a full happy life if she got help. I hope those two rot.
You are blessed to have parents like you have ... I'm so happy for you as well ..
I really resonated with your comment, at around 20 years old i became a complete recluse after an abusive relationship.. I had diagnosed depression and anxiety and i guess the abuse caused a mental break. I didnt leave my house for a little over a year, rarely left my room let alone my bed. This also could of easily been me until my mother needed help with bills and i got a job. I have no idea how i was able to do it, I think i just really didnt want to burden my mother any more than i already was. Im glad youre better today and continue to thrive 💓
This case breaks my heart, she deserved so much better. I don't understand how her parents could do this to her.. the levels of neglect is beyond.
If her mental age was that of a child, then why did they did they let her make the decisions. I would not let a 10 year old decide what to do.
What does "mental age" mean? She was a legal adult.
@@JCTheSniper15bro just stop. It’s getting pathetic.
@@WolfDreamer101 what's pathic is calling people evil criminals because they didn't deal with a crazy person the way you imagine a crazy person should be dealt with.
@@JCTheSniper15who's crazy??
@@JCTheSniper15right so you are a child then it makes total sense now
As a CNA, there is absolutely no excuse for a person to be in this kind of physical condition. Not when there is bed baths, bed pans, etc. These parents simply did not care about their daughter whatsoever. They could’ve even hired a care giver if they did not want to do so themselves. So foul.
Exactly they could of hired a carer to look after her hygiene if they didn’t want to clean her up this could have been avoided what a sad case. Poor girl she had evil parents 😢
This case has haunted me since I heard about it. What Lacey went through was inhumane. I'm 31 now, but when I was in my early 20s, I struggled with agoraphobia. Sometimes I didn't want to leave my room. My parents were understanding, but constantly checked on me to make sure I was okay and if I needed anything. Eventually, they got me out and about comfortably. There is ZERO excuse for what her parents did, or what they claim happened. That poor woman... May Lacey rest in eternal peace. 🕊
i had agoraphobia for 10yrs. I still struggle, but no where near what I went thru. Congrats on beating yours!❤
@@lilmisskiss692003 Thank you! I still struggle as well, especially now living with chronic illness. Congrats on your progress! That's something to be so proud of. ♥
I’ve had agoraphobia for 27 years, I’m so glad you were able to fight it. It can be very isolating, and it’s always reassuring in a way to see someone else talk about it and know you’re not alone.
i’ve had agoraphobia for about 10 years now, my mother was (and is still when it acts up, luckily mine is mostly sort of dormant{?}) incredibly supportive and was always gentle when pushing me to try to push the boundaries and there for me if it didn’t work out well. i can not even fathom my own mother behaving like lacey’s parents
I'm so glad to hear you are doing well. My mom was my salvation for me in my situation. Poor Lacey deserved so much more
I dont understand how one time over the FIFTEEN YEARS of Lacey sitting on that couch that neither of her parents had a come to jesus moment and did something to help her. I feel bad if I accidentally sleep in and don't feed my cat on time, knowing that she is dependent on me and she went hungry even for an hour makes me feel horrible. How could you watch your daughter slowly die over 15 years....
I know!!! I wash my dog on a “schedule “ and if I’m a couple days over I’m like half panicking. I get up Monday-Friday on a schedule and I like to sleep in on Saturday and I still wake to feed my dog and let her out so I technically don’t even “sleep in”
Yeahits not easy to understand, the scene of her in her own filth , how did they look at that and be ok with it ? The smell ffs . they got used to the smelll of their daughter literally rotting to death
Sorry to say but this case proves there is no coming to Jesus because there is no God. There is no Jesus. You can't tell me that a loving God would allow this
I’m with you on this. I have fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis in both knees and 5 slipped discs. Pain gets BAD.
But I also have a dog and a cat who didn’t ask to come into my life. So I go to work to afford food for them. I buy them food and treats. I bring the dog, a chiweenie, outside. And I empty the kitty litter. Because they deserve that care and then some.
And I did the same for my kids before they left the nest.
👋👋👋🙏🙏🙏 This neber ever happens again!!!😥
This case haunts me. Hearing about Lacey makes me think of my own son. Autism, low IQ, interests are a bit young for him. If one day he stopped being the kid who chases the dog around the house, rides his bike, and loves bowling, I would stop at nothing to help him feel like himself again.
I have known for a long time I will always have to care for him in some way and I'll do that til I am gone. I canNOT imagine my baby rotting into a couch bc I failed him so horribly. Despicable.
In 2012, my life was in complete chaos. Along with me and my husband Fred, lived my son, his girlfriend, her 2 kids, and his 2 little boys on the weekends. I had a mental breakdown and didn't leave my bedroom for 5 months. My family was quite interfering with my self imposed exile. They wouldn't leave me be. After listening to this, I thank God they loved me enough to support and care for me.
as an autistic person with self-isolating tendencies, this hit so hard, I've had moments like this where I would not want to leave my bed or couch for weeks and the only way I was able to get out of it was because of my friends and family.
If i can offer some unsolicited advice...You may consider finding a check-in buddy. You don't have to be social about it, just a text daily or every few days to say "checking in safe today" so if suddenly you stop doing it, someone will know to call or come by. I'm a single mom and the only adult in my home, and one of my biggest fears is that something could happen to me and no one would know my child is here with no one to take care of her. I do a daily check with my mom, who also lives alone and tends to self-isolate and i worry about what if she has a stroke or something. It gives my mom and I both a sense of safety that we know each other are okay or at least know when to worry, even if we're not feeling social and arent trying to chat really.
As a registered nurse, I've seen patients in very similar situations, still alive, end up in the hospital to die from septic shock. It's heartbreaking.
Her parents are monsters. WHO would do this???
My daughter is an only child. Autistic. Low IQ. Name starts with an L and is two syllables like Lacey. This story hit so close to home. I watched this video yesterday and had my daughter sleep in bed with me last night because of how much this case rattled me. No one deserves the treatment Lacey received, but ESPECIALLY one with special needs. My heart is absolutely broken.
My grandmother had a stroke. The doctors said it was likely she could get most of her quality of life back with physical therapy. She didn't want to do physical therapy and would cry. My grandfather couldn't bear to see her cry so no physical therapy. She didn't get any better.
Family members fought to get her placed into facilities where she could get proper care. She would cry and my grandfather would take her home. She did have trouble with bed sores. She did get infections.
Every visit with them was a battle because she wanted to be at home and he refused to upset her. But he was simply too old to take proper care of her. It took a toll on his health, too. Eventually, he died of a heart attack and she died in her sleep a week later.
Their lives could have been so much better if he had just found the courage to tell her no. If she had gone to therapy she could have walked and talked again. If she had stayed in a care facility she would have likely improved enough that living at home wouldn't have been an issue. But things went downhill because he couldn't find the courage to make her do things she didn't want to do.
I'm glad my grandparent's situation didn't get this bad, but given more time I'm sure it would have gotten worse. If you love someone be willing to upset them when it's a necessity. Sometimes you have to choose their life over their wishes.
I agree. It's called "tough love" and it needs to happen sometimes for a person to improve and get better. Being an enabler to someone does far more damage than pushing someone in the right direction.
I kind of thought through a similar scenario as this listening to this story. Early on it sounds as if they were in denial of how serious her condition was. They probably thought and hoped it was a phase that would pass. I bet early on her mom did do the things she said she did to take care of her daughter, but I imagine eventually that's taxing on the caregivers too. It's not an excuse, just a possibly scenario I see. They still had the opportunity when they become overwhelmed to seek further assistance and they chose not to. It's so sad to think of where Lacey's mind must have been for 12 years. Did she stop at 24 and lock in to the past or was fully engaged in her surroundings watching life pass her by or was she entranced and in her mind living in a Disney movie, probably feeling like Sleeping Beauty waiting on her prince to come wake her. She was a beautiful girl with such a bright smile. So sad to think of how her life was spent.
My son has autism, and it breaks my heart anytime I hear someone taking advantage of the disability, and victimizing these people. Especially parents who should be the ones sticking up for them. My heart just breaks..
I'm glad your son has someone who feels this way. My mother thought since she was physically disabled that my autism didn't matter and she never got me any help and now I am a very very fed adult
@aidanangalia8868 I am so sorry to hear that. As a parent it hurts. I work hard to make sure my son is cared for, and feels safe. I am not perfect by far, but I knew when I decided to start a family that my child could be aflicted with all sorts of things that would make their life challenging. I told myself I would always do my best to care for them accordingly, and know I am lucky to have them in my life.
I have noticed that most parents who fall short in those areas are often struggling mentally themselves. I had some of the difficulties my son has when I was growing up, and my mother was really mean to me. She is a pretty big Narcissist, and suffered abuse of her own. That does not make any of it in any way right, but maybe your mother had similar mental issues. Either way I hope you know that you have value as human being, and your life has a purpose. ❤️
Yes! My son has autism as well. I will never understand people like this. It is absolutely gut wrenching and maddening!
I wonder if they got financial help from the government for her… and used it for the complete opposite.
I’m a parent of an adult with autism & I have fought for my son his entire life and got him as much therapy and assistance as I could possibly give him. And I’m so proud of him. I also can’t imagine doing this to a child. How can anyone be so cruel.
On the maggots, they'll only eat dead flesh. They won't eat live flesh. I think they're sometimes actually used in some medical fields to keep a wound clean and remove the dead flesh. So it's probably reasonable to say that the maggots kept her alive longer than she should have been.
Frankly the treatment of this girl is horrific and disgusting. It honestly astounds me that someone could not only do that to another person, but their own relative, their own child. How they could just go about their own lives, walking past her multiple times a day. It's a whole other level of avoidance
Lacy's parents didn't take her to get help because having a "less than perfect" child would look bad for their image. If they took her out of the house people would know about their daughter having autism and that didn't fit their image. Now them trying to uphold their perfect image has cost them everything and should they ever get out, the world already knows that they are monsters. Poor Lacy, you're free now without pain or neglect, all you feel is love 🙏🏽🕊❤
I cannot comprehend how parents are able to do this. We're supposed to care and protect our kids. It's beyond disturbing when parents can harm and cause their children's death.
This may be the worst case I've ever heard on my entire life.
What an excuse of "parents", they are so disgusting I literally have no words.
It is!!
How do you live in your home and walk by your sofa seeing your child like this? Decorating the tree?! Wouldn’t the smell get to you? The things good parents would do for their children. These people are the worst of the worst.
This is definitely one of the worst cases of neglect I've ever heard. I'm on the autistic spectrum and mum always made sure I stayed active and stayed well socialised. She's also VERY protective.
I don't know what possessed them to start doing that to their own daughter. Then again, I'll never understand people who actively neglect or harm their child ...
I have a theory that at one point one of the parents physically assaulted her and she was too brain damaged to move. I think that explains why they didn't send her to the hospital. They didn't want people to find out that they abused her and then neglected her. No way she had a say in this.
Also crazy they called HER lazy when they couldnt even care for their daughter in this situation
Either that or they didn't want Lacey to tell medical staff about other horrific abuse. The fact that she suddenly changed drastically in young adolescence points to something pretty terrible.
I've been deep diving into this case and researching what I can and this is pretty much the theory (physical abuse either from someone else or the parents) I've come to as well. Something happened to cause that massive shift in personality and sudden profound autism diagnosis. I'm autistic too as well as a parent and I cannot wrap my head around it. ALSO if they truly loved Lacey, they would've told the whole truth about what happened. All interviews and reports I've found is the parents giving excuses and lies to protect themselves.
@xchrononautx I completely agree. I think this case is a pretty good albeit extreme showcase of how people misunderstand autism and how that can be dangerous. I'm autistic and a parent as well, my brother is autistic as well as my father. With sensory issues and other things, there is just no way I see an autistic person being okay with existing this way. I mean, nobody would be okay with existing like this, and I understand hygiene and sensory issues are different for different for different people on the spectrum, but it just doesn't track as she was not this way before. Even if it was just her "choice" to live like this (not buying that at all), if the parents really gave a crap they would have bathed her or moved her once in a while or maybe got a new couch. Called a doctor. Not HID her. I think their actions say it all tbh. Had they just brought her to the hospital in the first place they might have actually gotten away with it. Sad and it also makes me wonder how much of her "personality change" wasn't actually autism at all but just the result of trauma.
@@hailylazore2021 absolutely agree with you. I don't think there's any other documented case where a sudden change like that is diagnosed as profound autism unless Lacey had been masking for such a long time that she eventually mentally broke?
I’m so shocked she didn’t die of sepsis years prior…she must have been in so much pain 😭
Parents who refuse to treat their autistic children as human beings deserve an extra special place in hell. As an autistic/otherwise disabled person myself, this situation is absolutely horrifying.
So, I have terminal bone cancer and a flurry of ppl come in and out the house just checking on me, taking bloods, dressing ulcers on my legs even though i still have to shuffle around in order to take care of my daughter and the house, I do spend a lot of time on my bed resting and the district nurses in particular are absolutely obsessed with bed sores, of which I have none, I dont sit long enough for thst but theyre forever asking after my posterior because they are so flipping dangerous to have ❤
My older brother has one of the more severe forms of autism and my mother knew that she wasn't equipped to take care of him, though she did try, so what did she do? She put him in a home. The home has been taking care of him for 30 plus years, and he's actually doing very well.They send frequent updates on his progression, and he can actually say a couple of words now. Some people may judge parents for putting children in a home.But I think it's a lot better and more responsible to do that rather than neglecting them.
Ugh god this situation absolutely infuriates me. The simple disregard for human life when all Lacey's parents could have done was call someone to take her. They'd be lousy parents for never bothering to visit her in care but for god's sake she deserved at least that. My mom has MS and has been bedridden for years and has nurses come out to give her care daily as well as family to help her. I couldnt fucking imagine subjecting my mother to that, and these two just let this poor woman suffer.
I have MS. Hope my children are as kind as you when my disability progresses. They are already very helpful. God bless you and your Mom. You are both in my prayers.
I once read this case and it blows my mind that nobody could smell it on the parents!!
They must have stunk.
Maybe because they were big shots in town no one said anything???? I wondered the same thing
That's what I'm wondering how the smell didn't stick to their clothing...
I wonder why and when they just stopped feeding her? Bizarre they called 911 if they were trying to kill her. I have no words for the torture this woman endured.
Danielle ALWAYS brings the outrage for victims who don't have a voice, for those mistreated and victims who need it most
I feel like the parents should at least be charged and convicted of criminal negligence and manslaughter. They may not have wanted to kill her, but they let her suffer and die anyways when they had a lot of time to intervene and get her the medical attention she desperately needed
Re: her shirt exposing her chest. A news report I watched said her dad had tried to pull a shirt on her I think while the authorities were on their way. He was trying to make it look slightly better than it was, but he couldn’t get it on her. So that’s why it was only half on.
Fancy seeing you here!
The absolutely ridiculous idea that her having a t-shirt on makes the situation look better just does my head in! You know they were scrambling because they knew they were royally screwed! Xx
That's what I was thinking.
I-that just kinda makes this worse? It means they left this poor woman naked half/all the time! 🤢
It feels like the parents were embarrassed by her & her diagnosis, so they pulled her out of society.
Her mom looks legit evil
This is so horrific… a note on maggots though… some species only eat rotting flesh and are used in many countries to clean festering wounds. The maggots probably kept her alive a lot longer than she would’ve survived by preventing severe infections for so long. It’s so horrific what she went through and that her parents could obviously see the maggots on her and not fucking do a thing. As a mom of four- one with OCD and autism- I just can’t imagine giving up on her. It’s well beyond heartbreaking… this is goddamn infuriating.
It is truly horrific. Like a horrible scene in a horror movie. How coouod they look at that and prestend it was alirght ?
it’s not just that she fused with the couch, she did, but...i saw some early photos and half of her body was IN the couch. if you see the couch pic, that’s only where half her body would be if you really look. the other half was inside the couch…just…gosh
your points are very interesting. i didn’t know about the maggots that can keep people alive.
lacey’s case truly broke my heart. i’ll never forget her. 🤍🕊️🤍
I thought the same.may have helped with the nerves also. Bless you good momma, ✌🤟
I bet the parents never really went into that room at all. How did they avoid the horrible sewer smell every day?
When you have a bag of trash that is sitting around for a couple days it stinks to high heavens.
Who could live in a house like that? Their clothes don’t start to smell like the house? 😮
@@JennM-ty7je she was in the living room… and Danielle spoke of times they put up Christmas trees a few feet away from Lacy, posting photos on the internet to prove it. They were in there at least some of the time.
Personally, I think they definitely saw her and just acted as if she didn’t exist. After 10+ years, they learned to ignore her, even the odor. Smells basically disappear to your brain after a while (it’s why you can almost never tell if you, yourself, have bad breath unless you really try… your brain becomes numb to it, so to speak).
Im sure you’re definitely right about the folks smelling funny though… but maybe they were good at masking it or keeping at arms length from others so it wasn’t as noticeable? That one definitely makes me curious too.
Did you see there was a similar thing that happened where a woman here in the USA that refused to get off the toilet. Her BF left her there for two years. He brought her food, he’d sit on the tub to chat with her, but left her there. A crew had to physically remove her from the toilet and she had fused to the toilet seat
Really sad. But at least he actually got her help eventually
How about you call an ambulance and tell them she won’t get off the toilet? Sorry I just don’t see the honesty in that situation. How did she sleep like that?
I remember that case
@@JennM-ty7jeYeah, I would maybe let it slide for like a day, then take action to get them off the toilet. This is insane.
I was immediately thinking of that case when I started watching this. I believe she was grossly obese and couldn’t get up from the toilet. So boyfriend couldn’t move her and they both just went on with life such as it was.
Rotten Mango also covered this one and she mentioned how the maggots on Lacey’s body were doing more help than her parents because maggots eat dead particles and were essentially removing the dead parts of Lacey’s body 🤯🤯
This case makes me so sick. She was such a beautiful girl, her parents did not deserve her. She should have been sent to a care facility.
I don’t know how anyone could just… watch their child rot and do nothing. I don’t know how they could let her live in filth like that, or even just…. let their house smell like that? I genuinely don’t understand these monsters.
Honestly, it shouldn't be so easy to pull children out of school. Parents should have to provide evidence their kids were either transferred to another school or are actively being homeschooled which, in that case, should be actively monitored for the safety and education of the child
You are 100% right, homeschool kids are left alone, CPS should do regular controls on them, considering the long list of abuse cases that start with the child being pull out of school and isolated.
Homeschooled children are on average, MUCH safer at homeschool than they are in public school. My daughters school has multiple security guards at each entrance, at least 2 police on campus at all times, and still has at least a couple violent fights a month and wide spread drug use. The last thing ANYONE needs is more government intervention into private citizens lives...or didn’t the government response to covid enlighten you to that fact?
Nobody caught that she had neuro and developmental disabilities until she was 14. In Louisiana, private school teachers are not required to be certified. That means unlike a public school, they are not always mandatory reporters.
@@michelledml3162 I respect parents rights to homeschool children but I've heard too many CA cases of neglectful/abusive parents pulling their children out of school before tragedy happened. If you aren't harming your children it should be no issue to comply with laws designed to protect minors but, I also respect your perspective. There has to be some sort of middle ground
@@kageyama1083Plus 90% of parents don’t have the organization/discipline/intelligence to homeschool effectively. Unfortunately many parents love to say otherwise, but it’s the truth. There’s a reason why teachers have to go to school for years to become a teacher.
That is horrible neglect of a disabled person.
I really don't believe it was neglect. It was, - in my opinion - , on purpose , because they saw her as a disappointment, a failure in their - could be - perfect life. She, a person with authority, carrier, power, give birth to ... "something" less than perfect; beneath their expectations? No!!! I was surprised they called 911 and not tried to just get completely rid of her by buring her somewhere; noone was asking about her anyway...
@@aikaterinimoschou9437 absolutely on purpose. I bet they let the body sit there as long as possible so they could plead insanity.....
It's kind of weird in the U.S. because a lot of college-aged students leave home and don't go back for many reasons. I know a few people who are estranged from their families. So, it's really not odd for the neighbors to not question it, depending on what the parents tell everyone. But it's sad for Lacey, for sure.
This is probably one of the most disturbing cases I’ve ever heard of. It’s like something out of a Stephen King horror novel but far, far worse. I honestly can’t wrap my mind around it.
Her autopsy photo and report are absolutely heartbreaking. As a mother, I can't imagine.
The image of her on the autopsy table is awful, she was soooo thin
Where can you find the photos?
@@christinegraytruecrimeshe looked like a doll, I mean she looked so thin and emaciated that my brain can’t comprehend an actual person looking like she did.
The defines the saying “you never know what happens behind closed doors”
My thoughts exactly.
Omg yes!
As someone who has autism I know that we are very stuck in our own ways like when I was a child I would refuse to eat anything besides cheese and crackers, but my grandparents would never just let me eat them I always had to have a main meal even if I didn’t want it. You can’t just let someone with autism just go on with what they want to do if it is something that can hurt them. These parents should have agreed to let her go into a hospital, would she go kicking and screaming YES! Because that’s the autism speaking WE DONT LIKE CHANGE! But if our caregivers don’t care for us then this happens.
This case hits me hard. Lacey is a lot like me in many ways, and while I can't speak to her parents' motivations, I can speak to my own parents'. My story started out a lot like Lacy, except my parents refused to let me get diagnosed with autism. My parents had tried so hard to have a baby, and they resented the fact that they finally had one, and it was "defective".
They did go about it differently though. Once I was a legal adult, I got myself an autism diagnosis. The doctor sat down with my parents and told them I wouldn't be able to take care of myself without years of occupational therapy. My mother said, and I quote, "f*ck that" and threw me out of the house two days later. I was 19, and I was homeless for over a year. I've managed to claw myself to where I am now, at 28 (well, I will be 28 in a few weeks), and my parents insist they did the right thing and the doctor was clearly wrong because I'm still alive, as if they didn't put me in a situation where my only options were literally to either learn very fast or die. I'm alive, but I'm barely functional. Though they frequently still berate me because I'm not as far in life as my peers, despite the fact that I'm already playing the Game of Life in Hard Mode and them figuratively kicking my legs out from under me on top of that. They say I owe them because in the last couple years, they've given me some money when I was sick (I had COVID once, and then bronchitis multiple times) and missed a few weeks of work and couldn't make my rent on my apartment. But frankly, I think they're lucky I still speak to them at this point.
Oh, and also my mother has admitted to my younger sister that she planned to drown me in the bathtub when I was little because I was "difficult" (aka, I had undiagnosed autism)
But yeah. This case hits me hard, but it doesn't surprise me much. One of the most common causes of death in autistic children is their own parents. Lacy was an adult when she finally died, but I think her slow death started long, long ago.
I'm very sorry to hear that happened to you. Wishing you all the best for the future. Take care.
Your parents need to be arrested
You are so resilient! I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t get the right kind of help, but kudos to you for doing everything you can for yourself. You communicate very clearly and intelligently in your writing, which is a wonderful skill to have. You will continue to do well, despite the lack of love and care from your family. Keep it up. You are worthy.
@@viviannichols3582 She certainly is. I can't even imagine thinking about how it would feel or what to do. She is a very strong person and the fact that she still talks to them is amazing. I hope she is happy now and I wish her all the very best for the future.
(Happy Birthday)
this case has absolutely haunted me to my core, it has since i heard about it. i just want to give her a hug and tell her i’m sorry. i can’t grasp how someone can do this to a person to someone they claimed they loved
Its truly incomprehensible And if these people were so popular did anyone wonder about their daughter? Is even stranger
I just know that her parents were ableists who thought, well she was just fine before, so she’s faking this and choosing to be “lazy”, let’s let her deal with the “natural” consequences until she “chooses” to change. I just KNOW that’s how they felt. Disgusting. Poor girl just needed support.
And thats why she says she’s an adult. In her mind, because she’s such an ableist, she thinks Layce chose this for herself.
and they used the "well what can we do? she's an adult", even if your kid is an adult if they're literally rotting right in front of your eyes, you do something to help
That would explain why everything seem to go downhill as soon as she got the autism diagnosis
Yes omg. Its baffling to my mind but you made it make some sense and its still just baffling tbh. Jfc. Taking the this is the consequences of your own actions to an extreme. Omfg.
If you are mentally or physically disabled even with being an adult you have limitations you need help with. I have physical disabilities and get help when I'm able to. Autism and cognitive issues reduces your mental age. Her physical age is 36 but mental age around mid teens. Lacey's parents wouldn't have understood this with saying she's an adult
How can people didn’t notice ?? I mean they live in the house with that level of the smell you would have got the sense of odor in their clothes or their hair 😢😢😢
The Google street view was really eerie and it made me think...you literally never know what's happening behind closed doors or in any of the homes you might pass by every day.
Shanda Vander Ark is a perfect example of that. It blows my mind 🙀
I don't even believe that her parents ever loved Lacey.
I believe that, given their "status" and reputations, they were trying to give off the "Ideal American Family" image, but didn't genuinely care about actually getting Lacey the help she clearly needed.
It seems eventually her parents thought it would be easiest to basically leave her and forget about her, erasing her from their lives.
Her mother posting on FB about how their lives were going while not even acknowledging Lacey is absolutely unacceptable.
I understand that having someone with disabilities, physical and/or mental, can make taking care of someone very difficult.
But a family or loved ones who genuinely love the person, will do anything and everything in their power to help the person and give then their best life.
These monsters clearly did not give a DAMN about Lacey.
They don't deserve the oxygen to keep them alive.
They could have called nurses and care givers to help.
But no.
They denied even the most basic help.
Even for people who hate their child htf were they not affected by the literal sight and smell of it .its bizarre
As a severely disabled woman, I'm so very grateful for my daughter and carers. She will never let me go to a retirement home for similar reasons.
I cannot imagine allowing another human being to suffer in such a way. Breaks my heart.
Thank you Danielle, for putting your heart out there with each and every story you tell. ❤
You are blessed.💜
I'm in recovery from a cardiac arrest and episodes of intestinal infections (ugh) so I'm staying with my daughter and her husband. It's frustrating to not be able to do things like before but it's beautiful to have family who'll treat us with respect and care. Thanks for sharing! Take care 😊
I'm 19 and for the past few years I've been in a similar, albeit less severe, situation to Lacey. I'm autistic and have terrible social anxiety, and when I was 16 I dropped out of school and I've only recently started to go back outdoors, but I developed serious agoraphobia in the past few years so it can be difficult. My heart goes out to Lacey so much, thankfully my Mum has been very helpful, even when I spent 2 months only getting up when it was really necessary. My hair was matted and I wasn't showering or speaking to anyone. Although it's gotten better now, this case truly breaks my heart because it's seemingly impossible to go through something like this on your own. I had so many arguments with my Mum about going to the doctors and even eating because I didn't want to get up in the first place, and if I hadn't had her, I probably wouldn't have been in a hopeful place right now; Lacey's parents are evil for not pushing their daughter to get the help she needed. I don't think it would have been easy and maybe, if she was here today, she would still struggle, but at least she would be alive. I'm not sure what happened to make her want to stay inside in the first place, if that really is what happened, but I might have a little bit of insight. I got diagnosed as autistic just before my 18th birthday and they explained that the reason I stopped going outside and got so depressed might be because of autistic burnout. I had been unconciously masking for 16 years and it wore me down so much that one day I just couldn't do it anymore, probably because of lockdown in 2020. I don't know what it's like in America, but here in the UK my old school was awful and instead of doing welfare checks like they're supposed to do, they just took me off their systems completely as if I never existed. I know Lacey was 21 when she completely stopped going outdoors but there should have been somebody checking on her, even if it was a friend or neighbour calling for a welfare check, something should have been done outside the home too. Not that her parents aren't to blame for the most part, but it should never have gotten to the extent where they were the only people checking on her, at least I was going to the doctor every once in a while. It terrifies me to think how many people across the world are in similar situations to me, unchecked by everybody around them, that could meet a similar fate to Lacey's simply because nobody bothered to check.
My heart aches for her and I hope desperatley that wherever she is now, she's happier, nobody deserves to go through what she went through, I hope she's at peace now.
I’ve thought a lot about this and I wonder if it’s like when you’d hear in the old days…people would be locked in attics and such to keep the rest of the family from feeling “shame” and “embarrassment”. I think they valued their reputations so much that they hoped she’d just die quietly. I hope by Lacey’s horrible condition and death that other people will be proactive in getting help for their loved ones. We live in the richest country in the world…it’s shocking this could ever happen
A reminder that neglect is also a form of abuse. Inaction to do something when you could have done ANYTHING to help the situation is just as bad as any form of abuse.
well said
I have autism, and I thank my lucky stars every single day that I have such a great family and support-system. It breaks my heart when hearing about how some of my autistic brothers and sisters are being treated 💔💔💔
They had the means and didn’t have a live in carer?? Disgusting.
I’m a nurse and I’m Autistic plus I have Autistic family. It’s not as cut and dry when a patient is over 18. Once a person is 18 they choose what they want and need unless they have legal guardians or someone with power of attorney. There are some other situations where they could make choices for her but they actually should have gotten guardianship or power of attorney before she was 18 so they could make choices for her. You can not just force someone to get care when they are over 18. Also in an Autistic mind getting care has to make sense and be a priority. Many Autistic people suffer with hygiene issues because they don’t consider it a priority. My Autistic brother has that problem. Even my youngest kiddo does so I keep it as simple as possible so it’s easier on everyone like keeping her hair short. Specific days and time for bath time. Specific time we floss and brush teeth.
Her parents and her doctors failed her. They all could have done more for her. The doctors should have reported her parents to the state and had welfare checks done.
If her parents had actually gotten her help and done what they should have, Lacey would be alive. Lacey could be living on her own. Lacey could be getting community services to help her; they have services to help clean for disabled people in their homes.
These were people that didn’t want help and they didn’t want to help their daughter. Lacey should be alive.
As someone who grew up in Louisiana, a big part of the culture is one of polite privacy. As gossipy as it can get, people rarely pry very deep because it is considered impolite. On top of that, there still exist stigmas against mental health in the Deep South that leads to a lack of understanding and treatment. None of this is an excuse, but might bring some understanding to some of the aspects of the case.
as a southerner who also has autism... this is where I'd like to point out the difference between manners and kindness. they overlap, but when your manners no longer keep to kindness... seems to me that's really just classism prettied up, isn't it?
the older I get, the less use I have for manners and the more I appreciate kindness.
@@nivisionfor sure
I get it but I wouldn’t give a shít what anyone said. I would help my kid. But I get it. Her standing in the community as well.
I live in Louisiana as well but to me it seems pretty normal to not ask neighbors where their adult/almost adult children are, unless you're close to them. I live in an apartment complex and have no idea what my neighbors, much less their family, are doing.
I think you do a disservice to folk of the Deep South to even suggest that there is even a sliver of understanding of the abusive and cruel behaviours of these monsters.
I've been hoping for someone to do a respectful deep dive on this case, and you're one of the most respectful true crime content creators I know.
Those parents are really twisted.
hearing that feces and sofa foam was found in her stomach was very upsetting, i can’t imagine being in a situation where that’s all i have to eat. so heartbreaking
I have a STRONG stomach. Never once in all the time I have watched true crime content, have I ever debated on skipping ahead or waiting to finish the video until after I finish my dinner... This case is... on a whole other level. I am disgusted, horrified and enraged. Thank you, Danielle, for handling this case with the same delicate grace as you always do, while also sharing every detail. I appreciate the attention you give to these cases, even the one that made my skin crawl
Seriously! I've watched true crime for years and this is the one case that is keeping me up at night, it's horrific.
Ive been waiting for someone to do a deep dive on this case!!! This story blows my mind its so tragic its stuck with me since Lacy was found
Rotten Mango has a video on this case too
Her parents are straight up EVIL! If they didn't want to clean her and care for her, they could have committed her to a hospital where she would have received ACTUAL CARE! I don't care how much of a "burden" it is....I would NEVER treat another human being this way...LET ALONE MY OWN CHILD! DESPICABLE AND DISGUSTING! I do pray they will get judged harshly for this in the next life!
Suggestions? Well, I might propose Giles de Raise, Truddi Chase, Kendall Francois, Chuck Traynor & Linda Lovelace, Sawney Bean, and Richard Speck.
I can't wrap my head around the fact that her parents could live like that 😢😢
Right!? I can’t comprehend how this happened and went on for so long.
They are monsters they didn’t care. You should be thinking about the neglect Lacey went through and abuse she suffered
I've heard this case before and it is absolutely appalling
Yeah, they all cover the same cases at some point
First time hearing about this case for me. Dang this one was difficult to stomach
heard about this case on tiktok not long ago, even more infuriating when you know all the details. god, she deserved so
much better.
This case and her parents are disgraceful I hope they never get out of prison.
Even if that was the case and Lacey did not want want to get up of the couch and made that choice by herself, the parents should have intervened and put her into the hospital. The fact that the parents did not do the order to force Lacey off the couch and into hospital is absolutely absurd. Them being negligent obviously did her more harm than it did good.Lacey did not deserve the suffering she had to go through on that couch. Also for the parents to freeze up when they are asked about Lacey goes to prove that they knew what they was allowing was wrong and harmful. Sheila could not even remember her daughters age in the call with the dispatcher is just so frustrating.
This case truly broke my heart. How could you treat your own daughter like that
same!
we all have those tc cases with us that breaks us and we’ll never forget them.
Danielle is the only true crime CZcamsr who doesn’t sensor any words. Tells the story how it is. I appreciate that so much! Thank you, Danielle. 😊❤
Umm yeah well that can affect her videos. Which means she won’t get paid so she has to be careful what she says and it’s not like she swears
I was waiting you to cover this case…. I watched 3 different docs on it and the whole situation didn’t make sense, and no explanation….. I trust you to give us all the facts, so thank you!
These “parents” are sick, parents shouldn’t even be a word used for describing these people … rest in peace to Lacey , she was so beautiful and I can’t believe no one thought about her for so long it’s heartbreaking. the fact that the doctors and especially her awful disgusting “parents” failed her. Breaks my heart.
As a mom of a 14 year old son with Autism(and 2 older children) this story is so disturbing and triggering for me!! I’m so protective of my son I couldn’t imagine hurting him never mind allowing him to slowly die while I watched! Taking care of a child with special needs requires a lot of love and patience and it seems like these parents didn’t want that responsibility!RIP Lacey🙏🏻💔
I’m there with you! My son is 6 non verbal severe autism and I have 2 other kiddos and I could never fucking imagine leaving my child any of my children in a situation like that…this absolutely breaks my heart poor girl 😭😭😭💔💔💔 her parents were so sick
This case kinda reminds me of my grandmother.. She had alzheimer's and she fell down the stairs after which she stopped moving. We moved her in with us and my mom and aunt (who had travelled from another country to help) would wash, feed and change her and even THEN the room didn't exactly smell like roses. They also tried to move her as often as possible so she won't develop a bedsore (I can't remember if she ended up developing one anyway or not, but my mom and aunt still tried to do everything they could to prevent it). I can't even imagine what Lacey must've been through and I can't wrap my head around how the parents could stand the smell or the sight of her like...just,,, how? As parents I would think they'd at least feel SOMETHING when seeing their daughter in that condition or, at the very least, they'd clean her so she won't smell.
Lacy was melted waist deep into that couch, and they disnt think to pull her off of it, have ger admitted, or anything of the sorts. They knew what they were doing, and i hope they rot in prison just like Lacy did in that prison of a house! Truly a terrible, terrible case.