What He Really Means: Confronting a Cagey Man

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  • Tanny was annoyed that John flaked on her twice - but now that he’s in studio, is he worth a third try?
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  • @bleeka325
    @bleeka325 Před 5 lety +2444

    Consistency? He's consistently shown that he's not really with it

    • @truerealpearl7781
      @truerealpearl7781 Před 5 lety +14

      Exactly!👍

    • @nadakaid633
      @nadakaid633 Před 4 lety +32

      This guy was not serious. Move on girl

    • @Cruz1214.
      @Cruz1214. Před 4 lety +6

      I wonder how it went

    • @keishalebray1996
      @keishalebray1996 Před 4 lety +10

      He said it himself, he got kids which mean he got baby mama drama plus he prolly saw that she was just gold diggin on ig or somethin

    • @paulfrancisc1674
      @paulfrancisc1674 Před 4 lety

      @@keishalebray1996 good answer , thanx for the smart thinkin

  • @akatsukichik112
    @akatsukichik112 Před 5 lety +3526

    He still got another free date on Steve's dime so I guess he didn't need his wallet after all 🤷‍♀️

    • @sarai2sarah734
      @sarai2sarah734 Před 5 lety +40

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @summerseahorse1363
      @summerseahorse1363 Před 5 lety +65

      akatsukichik112 exactly! He’s a free loader.

    • @marcusmelton2295
      @marcusmelton2295 Před 5 lety +14

      He will if they're going on another date. Without someone paying for both of them. 😂

    • @Saschamybella
      @Saschamybella Před 5 lety +35

      That’s a laugh I needed LOL cheap ass full of red flags

    • @asupreme7669
      @asupreme7669 Před 5 lety +4

      😭😭😭

  • @riangelogeertruide8399
    @riangelogeertruide8399 Před 5 lety +908

    Him: i never felt this way about anyone
    Me: LIESS😂

    • @tamaraburgess4877
      @tamaraburgess4877 Před 4 lety +14

      Facts!! I’m surprised this doesn’t have more likes.

    • @Josh_-bh7mx
      @Josh_-bh7mx Před 3 lety +21

      The guy is a lier 🥴🤣

    • @pinkorangesoda
      @pinkorangesoda Před 3 lety +21

      Right thats the most fakest overused phrase

    • @SoraKemono-Tashi
      @SoraKemono-Tashi Před 2 lety +13

      I was thinking the same like, he has a daughter and he didnt feel the same for his babymomma, before making the baby?
      If he’s just having babys here and there without really liking the person then, still he’s not worth it lol

    • @sierraferguson6300
      @sierraferguson6300 Před 2 lety +1

      😆☝️☝️☝️😆😆😆😆

  • @Kevin-hq5os
    @Kevin-hq5os Před 4 lety +356

    You can almost FEEL the game he's running on her.

    • @katherineh7381
      @katherineh7381 Před 2 lety +20

      game or not...I can definitely see from her responses she is hurt and upset...if this is truly the case she should say bye.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před 2 lety +11

      yep, he will try to smash and dash

    • @noanswer2003
      @noanswer2003 Před rokem +4

      @@koolsmoothfan most guys won’t go this far just for sex, but it could be he likes her but not ready to commit or still have fun.

    • @saringaclose
      @saringaclose Před rokem +11

      @@katherineh7381 steve harvey did this poor lady dirty with this

    • @justanopinionsincerelynoof3860
      @justanopinionsincerelynoof3860 Před rokem +2

      @@katherineh7381 believe @Kevin. When I am ever in doubt about a man, I ask a guy friend or any of my male relatives. They are always able to tell me what’s really going on😄.

  • @eeikochan
    @eeikochan Před 5 lety +1647

    When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
    He already done showed her.

    • @eulawilder8046
      @eulawilder8046 Před 5 lety +35

      Believe them the 1st time they show you who they are...like, when he stood her up the first time and the second time when he "forgot" his wallet.

    • @blex187g
      @blex187g Před 4 lety +3

      They already “done” showed you?? What?

    • @theeelevatedsongstress
      @theeelevatedsongstress Před 3 lety +4

      True, he has.

    • @onm9128
      @onm9128 Před 2 lety +1

      Oh wow! Thanks for reminding us of that wisdom. I was almost falling for the frizz.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před 2 lety +4

      facts, if you having family problems do not take it out on me, that's a big red flag already

  • @vlee7217
    @vlee7217 Před 5 lety +924

    She's basically agreeing to waste her time. Girl move on.

    • @jaydee4782
      @jaydee4782 Před 5 lety +16

      I think she likes the idea...cause I can see she ain't ready to give up.so Steve just gave her what she wanted.

    • @ms.sherlock
      @ms.sherlock Před 5 lety +2

      agree!!

    • @mrsa6925
      @mrsa6925 Před 4 lety +1

      Right!

    • @jenniferbassfirstchannel
      @jenniferbassfirstchannel Před 4 lety +6

      I agree totally . Man cant say it to a girl in the 1st text message it time to move on! Mixed messages are big red flag

    • @andrebaxter4023
      @andrebaxter4023 Před 4 lety +9

      Indeed. The guy isn't a man. His excuses were bad.

  • @charmaineb3664
    @charmaineb3664 Před 4 lety +353

    "To be honest" - I'm always lying and I want you to believe me.
    "I've never felt this way about anyone else before" - I'm 27 and I've been a player all my life and it won't stop with you.
    "I came all the way out here in front of all these people" - I'm gaslighting you - manipulating you into believing that I'll do anything for you when really Steve Harvey paid for my ticket.
    "You said you want... so I'm..." - Again, I'm putting this on you because I'm not mature enough to be accountable.
    Women (and some men), it's not normal to lie and not live up to what you say in only a couple of days of knowing someone. People are not that deep. They usually show you exactly who they are, you just need to keep your eyes OPEN and fiercely protect your heart if you are serious about attracting a true love.

    • @milkshakes95
      @milkshakes95 Před 4 lety +15

      Imma need u to preach sis

    • @Jessica-ck3ir
      @Jessica-ck3ir Před 4 lety +7

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @SpecialKRNB
      @SpecialKRNB Před 4 lety +4

      Yas! 👏🏾🙌🏾💃🏾

    • @user-dp3ud9py2h
      @user-dp3ud9py2h Před 3 lety +16

      Precious words I really enjoyed how you analyzed his words 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @nabilyassin1742
      @nabilyassin1742 Před 3 lety +1

      but could you at least agree this the worst case scenario. I have no experience with this stuff, but it might be a bit too negative.

  • @ninarobinson2255
    @ninarobinson2255 Před 5 lety +36

    Too many red flags, 27 and newly separated, baby mama drama, I can FEEL it!😳🚫

  • @SS-hb3ct
    @SS-hb3ct Před 5 lety +1116

    He has no interest in her. All game .😩😂

    • @highlyfavored2434
      @highlyfavored2434 Před 5 lety +72

      He has interest in her and others too.. hes too immature for her

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +83

      @@highlyfavored2434 She isn't all that mature herself. A mature lady wouldn't give a '3rd' chance.

    • @highlyfavored2434
      @highlyfavored2434 Před 5 lety +28

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e not sure about that. Depends on the circumstances. I'm pretty sure most of us have given the benefit of a doubt to someone who didn't deserve it. Doesnt necessarily mean we are immature

    • @RJ25255
      @RJ25255 Před 5 lety +4

      @@highlyfavored2434 exactly! Very much true

    • @TrinaBinaBaby
      @TrinaBinaBaby Před 5 lety +2

      THIS!!!

  • @siobhansyt
    @siobhansyt Před 5 lety +1825

    Personally I think he blew his chance. When a man shows you who he is, believe him. Standing up someone sets the tone for the relationship and the standard of respect one has for their self and the other will show them. If you don't value your time, he wont either.

    • @andremotivation6561
      @andremotivation6561 Před 5 lety +17

      Same thing applies to women

    • @secondopinion53
      @secondopinion53 Před 5 lety +3

      The_PG So True

    • @willmart4321
      @willmart4321 Před 5 lety +25

      I stood my wife up 2 times that was 22 years ago,and we still love each other as much as ever,oh and we joke about it now sometimes you should give a person more than 1 chance

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 Před 5 lety

      Preeeech!

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 Před 5 lety +32

      He is not stable. He’s a liar 🤥. She betta run honey! Red flags 🚩 all over the place.

  • @kaimichelle1895
    @kaimichelle1895 Před 5 lety +71

    Steve is messy for bringing him on the show 😭😂😂

  • @jossies451
    @jossies451 Před 4 lety +169

    "You have one mission, to allow him to show you who he really is." Really Steve? He's already shown her who he really is.

    • @sandrawashington3328
      @sandrawashington3328 Před 4 lety +2

      Jocelyn Steve, we can see his dysfunction. She needs to internalize what you, and rest of us see.

    • @yvettemarshallTWN
      @yvettemarshallTWN Před rokem +1

      And she knows it because she said “women want the men to prove us wrong”. She’s boss lady wonder why she can’t meet someone near to her so she can check him out? He’s bitter from ex and kids and debts. He’s broke! No.

  • @professorkeuchannel1161
    @professorkeuchannel1161 Před 5 lety +1547

    He could be the most genuine guy on the earth or the most scumbag opportunist on the planet lol

    • @tianamiller6820
      @tianamiller6820 Před 5 lety +58

      Id say the latter

    • @salmakhalid4387
      @salmakhalid4387 Před 5 lety +40

      Agreed, got an opportunity to be on TV and took it. I wonder if he gets money, some shows pay people...

    • @vihtavuori8892
      @vihtavuori8892 Před 5 lety +48

      03:30 steves pants are almost up his knees...

    • @ProductiveChi
      @ProductiveChi Před 5 lety

      @@tianamiller6820hear hear

    • @ninastar5285
      @ninastar5285 Před 5 lety +5

      Only time will tell.

  • @cynthiasutton5691
    @cynthiasutton5691 Před 5 lety +714

    When Uncle Steve said " I'm gonna pay for this date" He was giving Dude an opportunity to be a man and show this Woman who he is... AND Dude didn't say "No thank you Steve... I got this one. I'm gonna pay for this date myself and finally show Tanny who I really am" but Dude didn't step up. Tanny, Uncle Steve is teaching you a valuable lesson.

    • @estreliasoriano5308
      @estreliasoriano5308 Před 4 lety +34

      True! No one ever thinks of that. You don't always have to accept itjust because it's free, especially if you wanna prove yourself..

    • @sandrawashington3328
      @sandrawashington3328 Před 4 lety +17

      A person can try to teach a lesson as a teacher, mentor, friend. The object of the lesson has to catch on. Steve knows something we don't. Perhaps he senses a fragility in the woman who does not need to experience a hard drop by a guy who probably is a cad. Steve just may have a guy that he will introduce to her when she is in the picking up pieces mode.

    • @sandrawashington3328
      @sandrawashington3328 Před 4 lety +12

      Hey the dude does not have money.

    • @flipzbergur7197
      @flipzbergur7197 Před 4 lety +26

      @@sandrawashington3328 if you are poor, why bother to date? Take care of your wallet and your life 1st before taking care of a girl

    • @rachelleakuffo8949
      @rachelleakuffo8949 Před 2 lety +7

      She already paid for the first date when he "forgot" his wallet.

  • @reesecup9122
    @reesecup9122 Před 5 lety +28

    "You gon bring your wallet" LOL 😂 I died

  • @tawniwendland2755
    @tawniwendland2755 Před 4 lety +261

    Well it’s been almost a year and I want to know how many more times he stood her up. Update please, UNCLE STEVE!

  • @kellieonakanvas6175
    @kellieonakanvas6175 Před 5 lety +258

    She's a beauty......he has loads of baggage....Tammy run...but don't just run,HAUL ASS. He stood u up TWICE girl

  • @blondeegirl00
    @blondeegirl00 Před 5 lety +744

    No he's too immature. She can do better. She's high value

    • @kj3887
      @kj3887 Před 5 lety +11

      What makes her high value?

    • @dmoney9285
      @dmoney9285 Před 5 lety +5

      blondeegirl00 ... He seems quite mature for a 27 year old, Lil Wayne is like 40 and look how he acts lol

    • @jesuschrist5417
      @jesuschrist5417 Před 5 lety +5

      @@kj3887 Most importantly she's good looking.

    • @ShennellOfficial
      @ShennellOfficial Před 5 lety +12

      I agree she’s way too good for him

    • @smartkookie
      @smartkookie Před 5 lety +14

      @@kj3887 What makes her not highly valued? What did you see today that made you ask that question? Please tell me because I didn't see one thing that resembled low class or, any ratchet tendency.

  • @violinplayer101
    @violinplayer101 Před 2 lety +24

    I once met a guy on a dating app. We talked for 2 weeks, and then he ghosted me. SIX MONTHS LATER, he texted me with some lame excuse as to why he ghosted me and asked for another chance. Needless to say, I didn’t give him one lol

    • @ScorpioBeauty
      @ScorpioBeauty Před rokem +2

      Exactly! Basically it didn’t work out with the woman he REALLY wanted

  • @myinsignificantopinion799
    @myinsignificantopinion799 Před 5 lety +46

    It's clear he just wants to score. I wish she had declined on national television.

  • @passengerprincesspodcast
    @passengerprincesspodcast Před 5 lety +466

    Why would Steve pay for it? This guy need to prove himself, not get another free meal!

    • @ms.sherlock
      @ms.sherlock Před 5 lety +5

      Moriah Green Just what I thought!

    • @andrebaxter4023
      @andrebaxter4023 Před 4 lety +2

      Indeed.

    • @prestokrs1
      @prestokrs1 Před 4 lety +1

      The whole point is they supposedly have great chemistry which is hard to find. The money thing is a nice gesture but as long as he is actually employed then it's not that important.

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 4 lety

      Because they are a guest on the show. But I wouldn't know if I could trust him with what appears to be mind games initially.

    • @obasolaobafolajimi1710
      @obasolaobafolajimi1710 Před 2 lety

      Sure u don't gat a man yet

  • @anthonyburnette8980
    @anthonyburnette8980 Před 5 lety +385

    He is full of it

  • @godwinyoh3700
    @godwinyoh3700 Před 3 lety +9

    Really cool, i love how he took the issue personal.
    BTW, see the way the crowd started booing teh guy but turned out cheering at the end. NEVER FOLLOW THE CROWD!!!! Many project their insecurities, or just do what they feel will make you feel better.

  • @Coolct
    @Coolct Před 5 lety +296

    I wouldn’t care about his apology and Steve flew him out🙄 he’s going to further WASTE her time. Uncle Steve should have lead her to say NO!

    • @SpecialKRNB
      @SpecialKRNB Před 5 lety +12

      That's what I'm saying... steer her in the right direction.. since she clearly missed her turn.. THANK YOU! 👏🏾

    • @Alkemiss
      @Alkemiss Před 5 lety +9

      I was disappointed Steve did this... i bet he wouldn't allow this foolishness to happen to his own daughters

  • @coachtouden
    @coachtouden Před 5 lety +141

    My husband said "No way in hell would I advise my daughter to go out with this guy. I would rather be late than show up to a date for a woman I am really interested in than to say I forgot my wallet. " She should not show her desperation for this tall good looking dude. He is gaming.

    • @jellybellyfun3288
      @jellybellyfun3288 Před rokem +3

      Agree!!! And, Stupid Steve helped him play her!!!😳

    • @sandracollins4298
      @sandracollins4298 Před rokem +3

      I thought he was gonna tell that he was married or something

    • @jasminehouston-burns1691
      @jasminehouston-burns1691 Před rokem +2

      And he's not even that good looking. I'm not trying to be a hater because he's a player, I'm just saying there are better looking men.

    • @coachtouden
      @coachtouden Před rokem

      @Jasmine Houston-Burns good point

  • @missladygray
    @missladygray Před 5 lety +17

    Booooooooooooooooooooo! Leave him where you found him! Shame on Steve for setting this up. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve to ever find love, he just doesn't deserve to get another chance with her.

  • @jarinxcii263
    @jarinxcii263 Před 2 lety +7

    He hasn’t felt like that for anyone else that’s like the 15th time 😂🤣

  • @idoflawlesshair
    @idoflawlesshair Před 5 lety +213

    Tanny, girl leave him alone and find someone else!

    • @bighomiedaj1149
      @bighomiedaj1149 Před 5 lety +1

      Nessa 73 exactly why relationships don’t last! Cuz of this virus 🦠 “find another one”

    • @JMacTheFanatic
      @JMacTheFanatic Před 4 lety

      yea like me!

  • @Signedthesavvyexpat
    @Signedthesavvyexpat Před 5 lety +657

    She’s given him too many chances... that’s a problem... he’s a smooth talker. I’m so not here for it! I can’t when women keep giving men chances after they’ve showed them who they are... smh. He’s not there for her he’s there to be on the show.

    • @rastabuggie7239
      @rastabuggie7239 Před 5 lety

      Well damn lady...its ten women to one man...she better jump on it.

    • @rastabuggie7239
      @rastabuggie7239 Před 5 lety

      @As D 🤣🤣 She is infatuated with him, so she might as well give it a try.

    • @taliyafaith
      @taliyafaith Před 5 lety +3

      Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +12

      Desperate. He knows she is infatuated with him. I see him as a BSer.

    • @vturner
      @vturner Před 5 lety +9

      Honey Bee exactly lol... the ‘I lost my wallet” trick took me out loll hes trash

  • @CA2SD
    @CA2SD Před 5 lety +24

    Steve is right...so many relationships could’ve been saved if ppl just had real face to face conversations.

    • @AllThingsSoul
      @AllThingsSoul Před rokem

      Agree 100%! Men do what they're required to do. Require that they talk to you via face time or phone. No texting.

  • @TrinhThanhVan
    @TrinhThanhVan Před 5 lety +10

    The dude sounded exactly like my ex. Acting up and tripping on me then threw tantrum and put the blame back like he never had any responsibility for his actions. That's what a child does, not a man.

  • @laurenleavell_
    @laurenleavell_ Před 5 lety +1645

    Gurlllll, do better and know your worth (sigh). Lowkey mad at Steve for allowing this to happen, he knows the game.

    • @Abena_Goddess87
      @Abena_Goddess87 Před 5 lety +125

      I think he wants her to see his true colors for herself. All she has to do is listen for them red flags.

    • @sukeealexis2009
      @sukeealexis2009 Před 5 lety +35

      He can't make the decision for her , ultimately it's her choice.. Now after this if he truly change it will show through his behaviour or he will revert back to his old stripes, you can only pretend for so long. I wish them the best and if he flake again than she needs to permanently close that door...

    • @RBLong0928
      @RBLong0928 Před 5 lety +9

      Lowkey feel the same. This is all on Uncle Steve's dime. BUT, I don't think he knew that. He obviously has things she needs to key on and decide if he can and will rise above them as well as if she wants to go there, i.e., anger issue, the fact he's a father, he was angry with his family about something (is there family drama).

    • @allib876
      @allib876 Před 5 lety +12

      Low down disrespect....how is going to show his worth on Steve's dime.

    • @mariabernal1170
      @mariabernal1170 Před 5 lety +13

      Yyaasss girl. Exactly what I was thinkin. If the guy was really intersted, if anyone is really interested, they would do so much to show someone they cared. This is wack.

  • @janebaker4912
    @janebaker4912 Před 5 lety +317

    She could do so much better. And pulling the "I'm a father" card. Ewww next.
    That's going to be his excuse for everything. I've been there. And it's emotional blackmail that you can't fight without looking like the bad guy

    • @SpecialKRNB
      @SpecialKRNB Před 5 lety +17

      Yep... sadly, some players are a Narcissist!! Two men you should NEVER DEAL WITH...and that's Narcissists and Abusers...

    • @TheCocoKayyy
      @TheCocoKayyy Před 5 lety +3

      NEXT

    • @Alkemiss
      @Alkemiss Před 5 lety +7

      Those who feel it knows it!!! That fling should of stayed only in Vegas... he should of been a hard pass.

    • @jessidawkins5245
      @jessidawkins5245 Před 5 lety +1

      Am facing this issue with my bf right now

    • @vannessafanning3200
      @vannessafanning3200 Před 5 lety +1

      That ewww part lol love it

  • @mandanaweingartner153
    @mandanaweingartner153 Před 4 lety +9

    I love her outfit from head to toe 👌🏼

  • @synchronicity67
    @synchronicity67 Před 5 lety +5

    he's so right about d eye to eye way of communicating..old school 👍🎵💚

  • @LadyFay88
    @LadyFay88 Před 5 lety +2160

    Shame on Steve! He should never encourage this woman to entertain this foolishness. I'm sure he would never advise his daughter to do this. Smh

    • @gigimarie1987
      @gigimarie1987 Před 5 lety +105

      i was thinking the same thing but I do believe that this was used as a teachable moment!... Cause us women sometimes don't get it at times...

    • @kazzd58
      @kazzd58 Před 5 lety +5

      Shame??? These comments lmao

    • @Nikkipooh222
      @Nikkipooh222 Před 5 lety +19

      Well I think she would have went out with him if they went all the way back where they are from anyway. I don’t think Steve would have convinced her to not go with him. I agree with the comment but it is how she acted that made me say that

    • @sunnyday7869
      @sunnyday7869 Před 5 lety +7

      Fay Marie
      Agree!!!! Ruuuun!!

    • @brooklynforever1990
      @brooklynforever1990 Před 5 lety +10

      He sure wouldn't

  • @rivermoon8682
    @rivermoon8682 Před 5 lety +447

    NO NO NO...She falling for the okie doke. She young with low self esteem. I'm an old school woman and this man is full of Bull Shish...first he stands you up then he forgets his wallet then he stands you up again. And he got a child and a baby mama comes along with that and he lives long distance. AND HE NOT EVEN PAYING FOR THIS DATE STEVE IS....GIRL YOU GOT A LONG WAY TO GO BEFORE YOU UNDERSTAND MEN.

    • @yv6958
      @yv6958 Před 5 lety +30

      River Moon I’m 24 and have had one boyfriend. And I know that that’s bullcrap. It’s common sense lol. She’s too sprung

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +4

      @@yv6958 Right!! Common sense.

    • @deedeemoore6096
      @deedeemoore6096 Před 5 lety +20

      She better run for her life 🏃🏃 its so many red flags that has presented itself that shouldn't be ignored she would save herself from a lot of i unwanted stress !!

    • @jackpea7102
      @jackpea7102 Před 5 lety +31

      Yeah it is also a psychological game he is playing. He rejects her twice by standing her up. This makes her desperate in seeking
      his attention. She knows she is attractive and can't figure out why he isn't chasing her. This will make her more willing to deal with and sex him up. Mind control.

    • @jackpea7102
      @jackpea7102 Před 5 lety +19

      @@deedeemoore6096 If he sexes her up real good, she will be his slave. Dickmatize. She is half way there already.

  • @Monica91481
    @Monica91481 Před 4 lety +6

    This is why I appreciate the old school way of doing things

  • @thevia1976
    @thevia1976 Před rokem +10

    I always feel that when you truly meet someone you find incredible, it only take one opportunity to make a good impression. Either they take it or leave it.

  • @josephchalwes3517
    @josephchalwes3517 Před 5 lety +129

    Don't do that again Steve

  • @fatik4441
    @fatik4441 Před 5 lety +89

    he did not deserve another chance, I can bet my money on him failing her again and SOON

  • @hemikiwi817
    @hemikiwi817 Před 2 lety +11

    When someone shows you who they truly are, believe them!

  • @KitKat-bi5zd
    @KitKat-bi5zd Před 3 lety +5

    “I’ve never felt this way before” 😑🙄

  • @lee48lee68
    @lee48lee68 Před 5 lety +114

    Please move on. He stood you up twice, he “forgot his wallet” and didn’t offer to pay you back. If he treats you like this now when you’re not a sure thing, imagine how he’ll treat you when he’s used to having you around. He’s not worthy of you. Please walk away.

  • @dotmanmide
    @dotmanmide Před 5 lety +146

    I tell you this, this dude isn't serious. If he is, it wouldn't come to this. Point blank, period. She is gonna regret this 'third chance' again.

    • @SpecialKRNB
      @SpecialKRNB Před 5 lety +2

      RIGHT! 🙌🏾

    • @jackpea7102
      @jackpea7102 Před 5 lety +8

      Yeah she is bout to get her feelings stepped on. He and his baby mama are still knocking boots.

    • @paradisioescapes8761
      @paradisioescapes8761 Před 3 lety +2

      Very true

    • @britt1953
      @britt1953 Před 2 lety +1

      Love when a man can admit when another man is acting up!

    • @maryrnbsn5114
      @maryrnbsn5114 Před 2 lety +3

      Yea I'm so confused why Steve did this.

  • @kendalladaramola
    @kendalladaramola Před 4 lety +7

    He already said he wasnt ready to have a relationship. Listening to his subtle objections. He spoke about hik having a child, also financial problems. That is your cue right there girl.

  • @tru2daci
    @tru2daci Před 4 lety +81

    Who else thinks she’s too pretty for him✋
    Give me a like, don’t flake on me😅

    • @contr4dixion
      @contr4dixion Před 4 lety +3

      She's pretty. Won't say too pretty for him, but definitely too good for him...

    • @pezdawg7632
      @pezdawg7632 Před 3 lety

      Hellooo

  • @junehoward3923
    @junehoward3923 Před 5 lety +47

    He already showed her who he really is! When someone shows you who they are the first time BELIEVE THEM! ~ Maya Angelou

  • @gregoryadolphine339
    @gregoryadolphine339 Před 5 lety +70

    And the audience it killing me, when they were reading the texts they were like no no no and when he walks out because he is tall, dark and so called handsome, they start to cheer. Please.....

    • @mariaj985
      @mariaj985 Před 4 lety +7

      same thing i said...fake af...its the same things girlfriends do to each other

  • @estreliasoriano5308
    @estreliasoriano5308 Před 4 lety +2

    Good to find out what happens LATER on. I love the fact that you mentioned "The 90 Days" subtlety ;*

  • @shamikagates-cotton4894
    @shamikagates-cotton4894 Před 5 lety +13

    It's beeeen 90 days.... What's the update??👀

  • @lifewitholga_
    @lifewitholga_ Před 5 lety +153

    She's such a lovely lady, good looks and well mannered

    • @SnowFoxParty
      @SnowFoxParty Před 5 lety +10

      And no brain cells....lol

    • @plausibleg.3170
      @plausibleg.3170 Před 5 lety +4

      She is all those things and probably more. Which causes a man to wonder why is she single? After determining that he'll use you up.

    • @talawoods25
      @talawoods25 Před 5 lety +3

      All that and no self worth.Smh

    • @lifewitholga_
      @lifewitholga_ Před 5 lety +1

      Well damn... Lol!

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před 2 lety +1

      @@SnowFoxParty ikr, no clue about relationships

  • @M0chaJ0J0
    @M0chaJ0J0 Před 5 lety +470

    Steve should not have paid. He already got away with a free date when he “forgot” his wallet.
    Dude isn’t ready. Period point blank. All these excuses. He’s 27 she’s 30 and obviously established. He’s still figuring things out. He has baby mama issues and poor communication skills. Run!

    • @laj4186
      @laj4186 Před 5 lety +4

      💎💎💎💎💎

    • @eveliasalinas9918
      @eveliasalinas9918 Před 5 lety +6

      🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

    • @doloresdavidson-george5495
      @doloresdavidson-george5495 Před 5 lety +15

      Whether he is established or not... It's obvious he only sees her as an option. He could be a millionaire and it would not matter because he will continue to mistreat her.

    • @M0chaJ0J0
      @M0chaJ0J0 Před 5 lety +2

      Ashley Winston George same outcome. Run!

    • @doloresdavidson-george5495
      @doloresdavidson-george5495 Před 5 lety +3

      @@M0chaJ0J0 HAHA True.. My point was that she allowed him to view her as such. She needs to respect herself more.

  • @darleneramdin532
    @darleneramdin532 Před 3 lety +9

    So you mean to tell me he STILLLLL didn’t have to pay for this date???
    That was his chance to be like, na uncle Steve! I got it!
    Smdh

  • @Scorpion182
    @Scorpion182 Před 3 lety +5

    Apology is an action word. He could have expressed his apology in a phrase “ I’m sorry “

  • @kj3887
    @kj3887 Před 5 lety +111

    This dude's a player he's good with his words and he knows how to play the game. He has her confused, you never let a woman know where she stands with you. Women are attracted to guys whose feelings are unclear. She's really infatuated with him.

  • @cupcakes7015
    @cupcakes7015 Před 5 lety +100

    He consistently stood you up,twice ! He lives outside your town ! Stop being thirsty ! foolish woman !
    11/7/18

    • @xxnarutxx3938
      @xxnarutxx3938 Před 5 lety +6

      I agree. She's so beautiful. She could do so much better. Why give him the chance to stand you up again? One is all you get. If you couldn't call me and talk to me then no 2nd chance for you.

  • @emmanueldique7407
    @emmanueldique7407 Před 3 lety +2

    This is one of the most fire suits I've ever seen. Uncle Steve!!🥺

  • @jennmari7425
    @jennmari7425 Před 5 lety +11

    He's a total PLAYER!!! It's sad to watch her being bullshitted. I've been in a similar situation, but she will find out on her own...time ALWAYS tells..

  • @molarbear8725
    @molarbear8725 Před 5 lety +168

    hul up hul up hoooollld up......yal for reAL? this man flew all that way out cuz he got to be on the steve harvey show!!!

    • @TRUEFXMEDIA
      @TRUEFXMEDIA Před 5 lety +6

      U R 100% RIGHT!

    • @romancetrtmusic
      @romancetrtmusic Před 5 lety +5

      @@TRUEFXMEDIA SOMEBODY LONLEY JUST DONT WANNA SEE A BRO AND A SIS HAPPY LOL Its a good effort and Steve set up a few people with successful relations ship so its not about the journey its all about the destination. I wish them well!

    • @RoyalMasterpiece
      @RoyalMasterpiece Před 5 lety +11

      Right. He wanted his 15 minutes.

    • @ShennellOfficial
      @ShennellOfficial Před 5 lety +5

      Exactly paid flights, hotel, a girl he can use and a chance to be on TV

    • @kenyaezeanuna1288
      @kenyaezeanuna1288 Před 5 lety +4

      And you Know the show paid for it or he stole his baby mama money to get there. I don't understand why Steve offered to pay for the date this would have been the perfect opportunity for this "boy" to show he's a man and present his money jar

  • @lee48lee68
    @lee48lee68 Před 5 lety +50

    Steve, he already showed her who he is.

  • @lilyflacks485
    @lilyflacks485 Před 4 lety +15

    Firstly, where is the money she spent? Secondly, my mother taught me, "Words are cheap, they cost you nothing, it is action that shows intent. "

  • @chrystaln1709
    @chrystaln1709 Před 2 lety +1

    "you gon bring your wallet?" 😂😂

  • @montgal53
    @montgal53 Před 5 lety +125

    This episode was a waste. Why? Because Tanny was going to say "yes" (i.e., I will give you another chance) regardless of the explanation John gave. Keep in mind, he stood her up TWICE. After all, it is _very difficult_ for women to reject good-looking, tall men. But I guess the segment was about 'texting' and interpreting the 'text'.

    • @aunjamoney6707
      @aunjamoney6707 Před 5 lety +7

      I totally agree with you montgal52! I don't understand why she needed clarification on this. And if he's already showing the signs this early on and they live on opposite ends of the country how in the world is she expecting for this to actually work. I'm curious to see if he would have never provided her with an apology or an explanation if not given the opportunity to come on television.

    • @Noix009
      @Noix009 Před 5 lety

      montgal52 lmao I knew she was gonna day that
      Damn

    • @keino111689
      @keino111689 Před 5 lety +5

      montgal52 I can’t quite put my finger on it.....I don’t know why women do it but it has happened to me. I’ve asked a woman for her number and took days to call, then after we spend some time and she clearly stated liking me, I stopped calling, saw her months later and gave a simple apology and she was all over me again. She was mad for about five minutes. I’ve even kinda played it cool as if I hardly noticed a woman....and she was fine as hell.....and she knew she was fine.....and what messed her up was that she couldn’t understand how I didn’t show interest like all the other men do. She asked if there was something wrong with her. I don’t know if it’s a challenge for them to figure out why he’s not giving her all his attention or what but they seem to like a guy that has a strong personality to hold his own even knowing that he could lose her.

    • @adj5767
      @adj5767 Před 5 lety +13

      @@keino111689 No. The woman has low self esteem and doesn't see you ( as you should be seen). The attention you give is more important to her than whatever you are about.

    • @Ayommari
      @Ayommari Před 5 lety +10

      I blame Steve. She came there to talk about it, not to go out on a date with the man. Steve brought that man there. I think she was being nice to him.

  • @MagnifiQuinc
    @MagnifiQuinc Před 5 lety +22

    The fact that she ALLOWED this dude 3 chances to show her how much he wants to be with her is baffling.

  • @Angel-sp7ty
    @Angel-sp7ty Před 4 lety

    I liked your smile on your face watching them actually

  • @cherryboo65b56
    @cherryboo65b56 Před 5 lety +6

    No way! He was confused?!?! The man has a child. He’s been in a relationship.

  • @IS33U
    @IS33U Před 5 lety +167

    It's a typical case of wanting what we can't have... I think she in love with the challenge/Chase...too many red flags in the beginning. no thanks... ✴️Time Is Non-refundable Spend It Wisely✴️

  • @JoeTheViewer
    @JoeTheViewer Před 5 lety +35

    I can't believe Steve let him get away with no explanation of why he didn't pay her back.

  • @infinitegalore1266
    @infinitegalore1266 Před 2 lety +1

    Steve looking at her like???? Girl you don’t listen 😂

  • @LaudvekkysGrooveLab
    @LaudvekkysGrooveLab Před 5 lety

    Yo iAlmost forgot this is not a movie!!!! The candidness in this episode is so pure

  • @gigimarie1987
    @gigimarie1987 Před 5 lety +68

    Steve showed what it means when men 'don't do closure' and why.. As you can see if you let someone disrespect, disregard and diminish your feelings, time and energy they will continue to do it. I can bet my bottom dollar that he will stand her up AGAIN, flake AGAIN and disregard her feelings AGAIN.. Not sure why us women (esp. black women) put up with so much from our counterparts. This is a harsh reality in the young professional dating world... And the crazy thing is, the clip before this he DM'd her trying to make her feel bad because he fell short!!!! Black men hold your brothers accountable! btw Tanny is fine af... She needs to leave John ass alone!

    • @laj4186
      @laj4186 Před 5 lety +1

      💎💎💎💎💎

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před 2 lety +2

      she should not have given him another chance, plain and simple, I could tell he was running game on her from a mile away

  • @SophisticatedTeacher
    @SophisticatedTeacher Před 5 lety +78

    I see red flags. A man in a new suit and shoes without a haircut. Who does that? He also never explained himself. It was a bad time. WHAT WAS GOING ON FRIEND????

  • @MercuryLeo555
    @MercuryLeo555 Před 4 lety +1

    Yes old school still works. Steve’s pants are rising when he sits down lol

  • @OnlyQueenE
    @OnlyQueenE Před 5 lety +12

    It's a no for me. This man didnt even get his hair cut for the show. Lmaoo. I dont trust it. Lmaoooo

  • @courtneyballard1452
    @courtneyballard1452 Před 5 lety +43

    You just met him, so... why not just walk away and meet someone else.
    Have she heard of he's not that into you?
    I bet he blows it again.

    • @MegaCadette55
      @MegaCadette55 Před 5 lety +4

      They banged and she became attached. Lmao People really need to keep their legs closed

  • @laj4186
    @laj4186 Před 5 lety +44

    He's a Flake Tanny! Period, point blank not to be trusted. Take it from a newly married woman. Before my hubby, I met many flakes. Move forward. I'm highly shocked Steve facilitated giving him another opportunity. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Steve dropped the ball. If I'm wrong, I applaud and congratulate . I like you Tanny, you're sweet but not silly. ALWAYS let your Intuition guide you. His actions already spoke my love. Loud and Clear.

  • @muthonimutonga7673
    @muthonimutonga7673 Před 5 lety

    I enjoyed this so throughly!

  • @renatabarbosa750
    @renatabarbosa750 Před rokem +3

    She is such a classy and beautiful woman. I really hope she get what she truly deserve!

  • @gracemutomboshako4996
    @gracemutomboshako4996 Před 5 lety +70

    I hope she will not come back with texts saying that he messed up again. Pay attention to red flags, ladies !!! Like she said, he's good with words.. Still waiting for an explanation about why he "forgot" his wallet tho lmao

    • @tianamiller6820
      @tianamiller6820 Před 5 lety +12

      If a guys actions do not match his words throw the whole man in the bin. Men are good with words because they know women love to be sweet talked but most of them dont back it up in their behaviour. Thats where you catch them out!

    • @gracemutomboshako4996
      @gracemutomboshako4996 Před 5 lety +3

      @@tianamiller6820 EXACTLY !!!!!!!!!

    • @highlyfavored2434
      @highlyfavored2434 Před 5 lety +12

      He left it at his baby mama house 🙄

    • @gracemutomboshako4996
      @gracemutomboshako4996 Před 5 lety

      Mrembo Mweusi hahahaha

    • @laryanryan9170
      @laryanryan9170 Před 5 lety +4

      A man never forgets his wallet.

  • @gregoryadolphine339
    @gregoryadolphine339 Před 5 lety +7

    I have to comment, the guy told you twice in his texts to move on, read between the lines. He stood u up twice. Didn't she listen to Steve "Don't let a guy tell you he doesn't want you more than once", but from her body language she is really into him so we have to understand. What I like is that Steve sees that he is a fool but he is creating the platform for her to see it for herself. Thanks Steve this is going to come in handy when I start to talk to my daughter about guys and dating.

    • @SpecialKRNB
      @SpecialKRNB Před 5 lety

      Yes.. we as women are so curious to as to why our women's intuition is telling us otherwise... even though he's saying all the right things.. smooth operation style... but our heart's are on a different wavelength from what he's saying... please just teach your daughter the standards of how a man is supposed to behave and treat other women.. and just pray that she follows those guidelines.. cause I must admit.. our hard-headedness doesn't take an overnight success of banishing... but as long as your daughter has that guide... she will be avoiding men such as this guy in the video... start her young.. so, she knows growing up who to involve into her inner world.. keep it up dad.. I'll be praying for you...

    • @gregoryadolphine339
      @gregoryadolphine339 Před 5 lety +1

      @@SpecialKRNB I really feel it for her, you can see her heart is telling yes but her mind is telling her no. If he is not interested just leave the girl alone, what the heck. He is stringing her along for what. The guy just likes to be seen and heard. So upsetting, am done.

  • @BrownBeauty1913
    @BrownBeauty1913 Před 5 lety +1

    I'm ready for this update

  • @aflyshe
    @aflyshe Před 3 lety +3

    No one is perfect. I believe in giving people second chances to get it right. I think the fact that he flew in means he may want to try and see if there is a real love connection with the young lady; they may have just met when his life was a little uncertain and he did say give him time to clean some things up. Sometimes when we are in the midst of a storm, we may not react "the right way" as we are dealing with our feelings while trying to make sense of it all. I'd LOVE to hear an update to see who things turned out. The hubs and I had some hiccups early on in our relationship...that was 28 years ago and counting :-)

  • @AnaLozah
    @AnaLozah Před 5 lety +30

    ummm...Steve, why are you letting her go on a date with this guy? She just called you UNCLE steve! This guy is obviously just flying over there for YOU not her!

    • @AriJordan
      @AriJordan Před 3 lety +5

      steve is a hypocrite, he talks down on these types all the time and he's out here helping this one.

  • @trinitoy1947
    @trinitoy1947 Před 5 lety +66

    Watch Steve face when she say u will bring ur wallet lol

    • @Noix009
      @Noix009 Před 5 lety +2

      Tenika's Unisex Salon 😂😂😂hé face her the side eye

    • @Gina-Montana
      @Gina-Montana Před 5 lety +9

      Tenika's Unisex Salon 🤣 what man his age “forgets” his wallet? He already has at least one child. At this point she either needs to be ok with being 2nd so he can comfortably support however many children he has or move on. Steve should’ve left this one alone.

    • @trinitoy1947
      @trinitoy1947 Před 5 lety +1

      @@Gina-Montana Yea true lol.

    • @claudettewint2073
      @claudettewint2073 Před 5 lety +5

      This ain't going anywhere. One free date n that's it. 'Bring ur wallet.....!!?!??

    • @golebaonephatsimomangori2548
      @golebaonephatsimomangori2548 Před 5 lety +3

      She doesnt trust him at all, i hope she will make the right choice. SMH

  • @illenessOne
    @illenessOne Před 5 lety

    Oh he got her . She is hooked already . Look at that eye contact and smile on her face .

  • @DistortedV12
    @DistortedV12 Před 4 lety +3

    He knows what he's doing, she's giggling and everything

  • @colonneaux
    @colonneaux Před 5 lety +25

    Steve’s facial expression at 3:13 🤣

  • @nehemiamokgaliphe2244
    @nehemiamokgaliphe2244 Před 5 lety +76

    He got her smitten.

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +1

      Yes!! That's the right word!

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 5 lety +3

      @Bman Mcdowell Is that what it is.. I was wondering how the world is she soooo into him n all He's done was stood her up.

    • @Kennyarnold16
      @Kennyarnold16 Před 5 lety +5

      +bman he definitely got them cheeks. she's wide open and he knows! she is putty in his hands lol

  • @JadesOfGrey
    @JadesOfGrey Před 4 lety +2

    Steve is literally the master of fixing everything

  • @123joshmallett
    @123joshmallett Před 5 lety

    Thank you steve. Old school. Face to face

  • @miabelfon5408
    @miabelfon5408 Před 5 lety +6

    So many relationship experts here. I hope you all have thriving love lives.

    • @7thfret.
      @7thfret. Před 4 měsíci

      You don't have to have a thriving love life, just a brain and self-worth.

  • @brightndiweni1657
    @brightndiweni1657 Před 5 lety +36

    Shiz beautiful and well-mannered too. Am right here uncle Steve if he messes up again hahaha

    • @onm9128
      @onm9128 Před 2 lety

      I love this one here. Good one!

  • @kivensjean-louis1572
    @kivensjean-louis1572 Před 4 lety +7

    Yo this man knows exactly what he’s doing, he’s good at this game 😂😂 but she can’t help it “ attraction “

  • @peachesparty3703
    @peachesparty3703 Před 5 lety +2

    Blablablabla all that toughness and she melted away with him appearing on the show

  • @jaccourt9531
    @jaccourt9531 Před 5 lety +38

    He never felt like this before......what the he'll was his baby mama. He has a kid he said these words before.

    • @indigomontoya1970
      @indigomontoya1970 Před 3 lety +1

      I had a baby 3 months into a relationship. We didn't know each other. It was bad. Mostly my fault. Having a child doesn't mean it's the love of your life. My son was not a mistake. The relationship was. Just saying. 50% of all marriages end in what? I was not ready. It was horrible. We went from best friends to worst enemies.

  • @dariahlacombe6560
    @dariahlacombe6560 Před 5 lety +14

    She's 30 acting like shes 18 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @1LovelyMiss
    @1LovelyMiss Před 4 lety +4

    I feel like the expression of such strong emotion on his part, so soon is a red flag... but what do I know. Lol

    • @britt1953
      @britt1953 Před 2 lety +1

      No you’re completely right! He was love bombing her, saying a bunch of sweet things to get what he wants from her

  • @sleepyheadfpv1507
    @sleepyheadfpv1507 Před 5 lety

    At the end of the other video I was like Uncle Steve u ain’t gunna do me like that!!! 🤗.
    Then I found the other one lol

  • @itwaswritten1196
    @itwaswritten1196 Před 5 lety +30

    Roles are reversing now days. Females are taking on the role of the male and the males are becoming more emotional and codependent. So it seems, please Steve will you focus more on the proven Black Kings out here. Similar to the ones that checked the sisters after being disguised as more relaxed individuals with great credentials.