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We've all been there before: seeing a gorgeous girl, and wanting to say hi and introduce yourself. Yet for some reason - you simply can't. The nervousness, the anxiety leaves you mentally crippled as you search for the balls to say something, and the words for what you'd even say.
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Ugh, there was this girl I had a crush on that would literally approach and talk with me, but I was too nervous to hold a regular conversation so I’d give one word answers and generally ignore her. I’m a genuine idiot for that, it’s wild. She moved away and I think about it constantly
Brooo mee but she didn't move but I dead ass ignore her
Exactly I met the girl that is literally perfect for me and if she talked to me a lot but I got nervous and just did the same thing
@@americohagim1131 Theres no perfection.
She could be worse and whats important is whats in the heart.
She can be everything but nothing both of you have in common.
There was this girl in class who was inlove with me and I was secretly madly inlove with her "like the girl of my dreams" and I was too scared to even say 1 word to her because my friends would tease me about it.. God I wish I could find her to just tell her I was inlove with her
I’m doing the same right now but if I hold a convo I’ll be cringey and wack because I already like her.
I talk to girls with the mindset that I'm still young and even if I say something to turn her off there are many other girls out there and I would just learn from my mistake and try not to do it the next time.
That’s smart
Joygulplay there's something i have to admit in all my life i never approached a girl throughout middle high im currently 18 already graduated from high school and now i regret it that i should've made friends with a girl for the first time just to see what's it like having one what do you recommend i get nervous around girls that i know or don't know
@@jesusmarquez9948 id say to just try to act more confidently, make her have fun in conversation is a good way to talk or flirt
Also stop jacking off, it helps with confidence and stops idolizing women
Oke
I have this mindset also n I try to approach ladies that give me the eye but when you like them before getting to know them it’s much difficult.
"Can't approach an attractive female?... BOOM Jump into a cold shower"
This comment made me laugh out loud lol
🤣🤣
Hahahha
Just did
Bro 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Trust me boys, regret is literally the worst feeling you can possibly feel, don’t be like me and miss out on a perfect opportunity
Thank you for falling so others can be raised, brother! I shall heed your advice!
Mannn just happened to me yesterday bro she was giving me all the choosing signals and I still ain’t make the move , next time I see her ima most def get ha 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
I be asking for they notes or any nuances jus to talk & it be working lmaoo
The problem I had once is: I had a crush on a girl and I was somewhat afraid of saying it. When I got the courage to say it, she didn't just say: "no" or "sorry I am not interested". Nope, she said no (expected) then called her "boyfriend" to speak with me, AND then told the entire class about it.
This is the problem I am having at the moment.
Letting go of that allegedly "perfect" opportunity, and the juice of victimism that comes with grief,
will open you for other opportunities with the billions of women out there.
Rejection in front of EVERYONE. That scares me as well
Aye just have the mindset oh we all gonna die boom😎
Dude, one thing that's helped me tremendously with some of my social anxiety is this: nobody REALLY cares. You think they care because you care, but most people are so wrapped up in their own mistakes and lives that they forget you exist almost immediately after you leave. I think school taught up that everyone is always watching us, but the real world is too big for that to be the case. Do and say whatever you want, and most likely, even if you embarrass yourself, no one will remember it happened.
@@timothyalan34 thanks for that
@@timothyalan34 because humans are selfish pieces of shit that's why
That’s my biggest fear and I don’t like going up to a girl to ask her out while it’s a lot of people around cause it’s almost as if they are all looking at me and waiting for me to fail or something
This is probably the weirdest best advice I can give but I think it'll help some people.
I'm high functioning autistic (asperger Syndrome), I wasn't born with the ability to understand empathy or social cues so I had to learn them myself where most people just kinda develop these skills naturally. Believe it or not, I've always been a bit of a ladies man. I can be awkward sometimes and trip in my conversations but that never seems to deter women. Here are my top four tips for any guy.
1. Don't take it seriously. Even if you slip up or make things awkward, a ton of women find that endearing anyway. You don't have to be an ultra chad seductive mastermind to charm someone. Believe it or not, messing up something or being awkward isn't as important as the rebound. It's okay to slip up as long as you catch your fall, so to speak
2. This one sounds weird but people are like robots. Me being autistic and having to "learn" social interaction showed me that people aren't as complicated as one might think (at least surface level). This is best shown with simple input=output actions. Hold open a door for a girl=gentleman points. Say something stupid at a bad time=slight awkwardness that you can either clean up or ignore (imo it's best not to linger on it and just laugh it off). This also kinda ties into number 3
3. There are things to remember that women ALWAYS appreciate. Examples being:treat them like they're important (but don't go overboard), be a gentleman, behave like you enjoy their company (when they talk about something you don't care about, just be interested, ask questions, ask what they like), having things in common, etc etc. Finding these universal "good boy" actions are important.
4. Everyone's different. Some chicks are into different kinds of dudes. Some people aren't compatible. Not every girl you like will like you back. And sometimes, even if they do, the relationship wouldn't work anyway. At the end of the day, you have to find that one particular person that you just connect with. The tips I gave you help to get closer to them but whether or not a relationship or "picking up the chick" happens really depends on your and her compatibility. Don't take it to heart if it doesn't work out. It's better to be single than date someone that won't make you happy.
Thanks man
Damn bro this helps so much thanks
Legend
Great comment 👍
So underrated comment bro
Why can’t the girls ever just come up to us😭
For real 💀
Coz there are another 10 guys? Xd
They don't can't handle being rejected.
Bc as males we established to be a stronger sex
Tbh I wish that too but then again if she did and we start dating I would think she capable of cheating🤷🏽♂️
This is the only channel that talk about man's dilemma and resolving it. This channel doesn't have any bullshit like any other channels.
Heads up to you man!
So true
We've got Quarantine for self-improvement. Let's not waste it
lets get the high ground
Gotta get myself clean and talking practice.
@@godlymike1070 and how do you plan to do that
I wasted it
I wasted it sadly i want to go back to march 2020 to August 2021
Female:
My anxiety: heueheuehe
My brain: Activates fite or flight mode
Isn't it Fight of flight
My life was a lie
@@robertpietraru1939 no, because we don't use the fight mode, only the flight mode :))
Holo fight brah ... fight
@@adrian15049 true xD
I’ll never forget the most crushing moment I had with a girl. At my gym I noticed this girl and she was the prettiest girl I’d ever seen. I put off talking to her for weeks until I decided that when she was leaving I’d leave too and try and talk to her in the car park. I mustered up the courage and was super confident to talk to her. I followed her out the gym about 20 meters behind her and before I could say anything to her her boyfriend pulled up in his car and picked her up. I was destroyed in that moment bruh😂
Bro I am crying for youuuuuuu 😭😭😭😭😭, I am almost in the same situation
That girl was weird for rejecting you because you didn't talk to her the first two times.
Yeah i know, sounds like bs to me
Ye I feel like she should’ve still been interested even if he didn’t approach her in weeks. If you found someone attractive 3 weeks ago, then you will still find them attractive 3 weeks later.
Shit happens all the time .. a lot of the times they already have some dude giving them too much attention or they have a bf
Frl
@@cullenshadow1007 yeah buts that’s just looks. For girls it’s all mental attraction. Basically on how you carry yourself, your masculinity, how you talk, walk, etc. She can be turned off by those things. There is a big difference between someone finding you attractive versus someone being attracted to you. A lot of guys get that mixed up
This video is perfect for us introverts. I am one of them. I have these same feelings
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@Fedor A I relate :/ But it's not impossible to improve, so keep trying!
I get panic attacks when talking to females
Same 😅
@@SenorBukets 😂😂
Even though I'm an adult I still get anxious especially when talking to the opposite sex. When I talk to girls especially the cute ones I become a train wreck. My shoulders stick up, I hold my breath, I make weird faces, I break eye contact, I rush my speech leading to poor communication skills. When I do have the confidence to talk with girls I tend to become overconfident which can end up overwhelming her.
You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. Use motivation to achieve success rather than the motivation against failure!!!!!!! You got nothing to lose but everything to gain!!!!!!!!
beautiful outlook.
hope you are doing well
And you miss 95% of the shots you do take, haha. Take this from a dude that is relatively successful with women and has no issues approaching
I was at the fair and this is exactly what happened lmao I will try again even harder using this info!!
Update: I applied this when I went for a walk in the park, I went and talked to this amazing looking girl going for a run. She wasn't single, but I felt so happy after stepping out of my comfort zone
Teach me lol
"Anxiety comes from the hesitation not the action."
This will be helpful. After I get out of the quarantine
Same lmao
Fuc quarantine quarntine doesnt stop me
Ima use this in school
Not sure if it'll end by now :/
When school starts up again we have to wear masks, I hope that won't make things harder.
Remorse is more painful than failure... So do it!
This is very true. I am always giving excuses to my subconscious mind when I see a girl I like. And it’s been 35 years or so...... IT’S TIME TO FOOKIN CHANGE!!!!!
Haha wish you best with girls
Damn dude. That story. She was interested in you? Like for real? Dang. I feel your pain with anxiety and nervousness. However, I'm always like this as an introvert and a guy that barely gets out the house so my social skills are super bad. Now I had a friends but I didn't have friends till after highschool. I'm always in my house playing video games all night. Never went to the prom or go somewhere. What you're saying is, you either make the move or the move will make the move for you. Every action counts.
You miss 100% of shots you don't take
@@lj5660 na every shot is a brick for me I could be Steph curry or ray Allen and that shit still brick and air ball
hey man it's never too late. 2020 I realized there was so much more to life
& focused on traveling + socializing. as soon as I set my mind towards this I got a beautiful girlfriend and flew out to puerto rico. I didn't start living my life truly until 24 years of age, kill the root & start now.
I'll always be alone 😔 If I make it to old age I'll be all alone when I finally croak and nobody will know or care
This is definitely one of the most life changing videos I’ve ever seen on CZcams.
I experienced this exact thing today. I promised I would talk to the girl tomorrow. Now, the way your girl acted to you the next day makes me feel my girl will do the same to me too😔
THANK YOU SOO MUCH
Mate what are you doing here lmao
Yooo Wolfiez 😂
Nice
down bad wolfiez
Down bad bro💀
I mean if she smiled at you, it means you won already, no need to get nervous, I get nervous when I feel I'm about to lose, or get rejected(which has never happened before, I just don't talk to anybody, not even men XD).
Why should always men approach first, women can do it too. That girl could just start to talk to you and there wouldn't be any problem with her. I mean, if she found you cute then why didn't she approached you
Very good point there
Because they don't have to, if the roles were reversed and women typically asked guys out would you still go approach girls to ask them out? Or would you wait for one to approach you?
It seems like a double standard, but it isn’t. Girls can get a guy anytime they want. But that doesn’t mean they find men of quality. Approaching show that you at least have some sort of edge. At least you are better than every other guy who doesn’t approach
@@lj5660 men don’t have to either
From ur comment i realized you are a weak guy.
This happened to me so many times in my 20s (and in my early 30s!), approach anxiety really sucks! Then as soon as I have the courage to go up and talk to them, they suddenly lose interest and I'm like "WTF just happened??" I've learned to use situational and environmental awareness when speaking with women now. But at the core of it, you just have to go for it before your mind goes into fear sets in!
I always tell myself "Kick the door and keep moving". It means knock down the thoughts that betray you, and do it.
Even if I do make the first move I don't know what to say after introducing myself like maintaining a conversation
Fr that’s been my most biggest problem what the hell do I say to her how do you start that first and after conversation
Me 2
Actually a great video that is simple and effective. I think introverts have espescially a harder time with this one but yeah, with practice it surely becomes easier because it works like that with almost everything in life. Thanks for the reminder!
Glad you liked it!
Get rejected is what I fear of talking to people but life is life and I accept that
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Haha appreciate it bud
Most importantly, always believe in yourself👌
""Damn, she looks good" I thought as I looked at her slender legs"
lmfaooooooooooo i was like what why did he throw in that unconvincing description
That was gold
bro stories be made up
This is so good. Needed this. Gonna kill the root once and for all. So I can feel better and get better social skills and easily talk to girls. Thank you bro.
Good advice bro. I used to have this anxiety, and did exactly what u said about “kill the root” it’s true. what’s the worst that can happen, don’t be your own enemy by doubting yourself.
The reason I don’t approach them is because I don’t know what to say or how to start a conversation
Respect for those who dont even have a cute girl in class😂
I ignored this girl I really liked in my sophomore year of high school and she really seemed like she was into me, but since I was so nervous that she would reject me, I didn’t take action and my friend ended up making her fall in love and eventually being his girlfriend. Now I have to support my friend taking about them when that could have been me, so guys, as this video said, “TAKE ACTION AND KILL THOSE ROOTS OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS”
Real accurate effective contest keep going dude
Waiting for next art of seduction video
I used this when I started doing my body transformation. It especially helped with dieting and it also carried on to everything I did on a day to day basis
Thank you so much, even though I haven't talked to her in person in a while, texting her has been a lot easier. And you also inspired me to take a cold shower, so that whenever I message her I'll think of how I put my negative thoughts to the side and jumped into the uncomfortable.
Subscribing to this channel is probably one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
This video sums up all my problems and why I’m always single
Thanks Buddy! Another Great Job!
Who would win:
Obi-Wan-Kenobi with a high ground
or
Gentelman's game after ice cold shower?
Idk man, I can feel the force pulsing through my veins after a nice ice bath
general kenobi
Obi wan cause he is the goat
What about Obi-Wan-Kenobi with the high ground after an ice cold shower?
The high ground is omnipotent
Do it before the fear grows too large for you to fight against it. Every second that pass without you taking action is a second that the fear is using to get more powerful.
most true thing ever
What helps me is acting as if I already knew her and already smashed her. I don't know why, but when I put the mindset of "I already smashed this girl, I don't need to be nervous" I just ain't nervous.
This wants me to hate fear, about time i'm will overcome my fear. fear is a real bully.
Like you said, it's amazing advice tbh, in pretty much every area of your life it's a good mind set to get into. You've basically nothing to lose and the world to gain, even when things don't work out the way you would have liked them to, you will still feel good about at least taking the chance. Great content as always!
bro fumbled the bag not even a minute into the video
Incredibly useful
Thanks man, this video not only helped me with girls but life situations.
Hey Bro Thanks for this video was waiting for you to cover up something on this topic. Thanks again❤️
Perfect answer to my question.
Thanks GG!
Man the 3 second rule when u want to do something count to 3 then do it
It's certainly not easy to overcome, because you are expected to make a first move, but by doing that you also reveal yourself (reveal your cards so to speak) to other person and it puts her in position of advantage. She can accept, refuse, say "maybe", just laugh in your face, say "f*ck off" etc. It's not a nice spot, but hey if her response is bad or even vulgar, be grateful, you dodged a huge bullet. The worse could happen was she leading you on with no real intention, essentially wasting your time, these are the worst.
I like your animations!
This is really solid advice and I like the use of the analogy, it worked.
Absolutely right brother 🙌
you deserve more likes great videos mate
Very helpful thanks for making this video
the cold shower analogy is perfect and in someways go hand n hand . you take a man with a purpose, and u and that, nofap ,ect and i mean u almost naturally form a bullet proof state. Overall, cold showers are known to have several health properties but all and all i believe its a great way to raise your vibrations as well as make yourself indestructible
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Few months back I joined a new gym, there was this cute girl that caught my eyes, I badly wanted to talk to her but couldn't .I was busy for same days so couldn't go to the gym so i decided to follow her on IG she followed back with in 15 minutes, she even replied to my IG stories.I thought this could be a perfect ice breaker and when I go to the gym next day I'll talk to her ,but my bad i couldn't gather the courage to just say a hi to her.
Yesterday I saw her with her boyfriend in a nearby cafe she was looking damn beautiful but My wife and childrens were also with me so i still couldn't do anything💀
Thank you hope I can use this advice tomorrow
You got this!
Such a helpful video.
Thank you so much GG this is really helpful
Im from those ppl who literally never pressed the like button on any vid even if it was helpful/enjoyable but this time i didn’t hesitate. Much aprct
Damn! This is just great advice for life in general
This is helpful, thanks
Love your all videos bruh ❤️
Everyone is Quarantine: *Tries this on their mother*
No one do that
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Same situation happened to me about 3 or 4 months ago. I saw this girl in class and we made eye contact, she gave me obvious signs that she was into me. I think she even walked out of class the same time I did so I would talk to her. Later on I found out I had another class with her and we locked eye contact for a few seconds. That was a dead giveaway to talk to her. If I had the knowledge that I have now I would've spoken to her the first time. I did eventually talk to her (weeks later), asked for her snap and she thought it was weird. She said she'd msg me and never has, and that's okay.
I had a similar experience back in college. I had this one chick keep eyeing me and she would come and sit in close proximity to me during lunch breaks while initiating eye contact. It took me sometime to realise that this chick might be into me so one day during lunch break I just went up to her and introduced myself and pulled out a seat lol .. I remember my heart was pounding like crazy, we then ended up talking for the remainder of the break and ended up exchanging numbers. I would be lying if I said I didn't feel invisible after that like I could talk to any chick with all that adrenalin lol. But ye, now I don't think twice before going to talk to a girl I find attractive.
this is so helpful, thanks
Can't wait for the next art of seduction video and thanks for the free book
That is what I was doing before lockdown. After lockdown I forgot that, thanks for this great advice.
Mannnnn, am I glad I ran into this video, cause I could relate a lot, and made me realize the things I feel, I’m not alone, thank you for your advice, great, helpful, relatable video
Thanks! I would gotta repeat watching this to remind myself!
I've tried to explain to my friends how I approach girls but couldn't put it into words but this is a PERFECT explanation.
Great advice
That's legit a very good advice.
Thanks! This helped me alot.
*Sees each other and sits near one another in economics class*
HeY i tHInk yOU'rE in mY 3conOmiCs cLAsS
Damn that story is harsh...
Thx for sharing your tips!
I really want to ask out my crush but as an introvert, it’s difficult to find a good time to tell her because im afraid of rejection in front of ppl, being made fun of, rumors etc
Nice this will help you a whole lot
Nice video , really useful
I had a hunch it was just gonna boil down to "don't think about it, just do it" and to be honest, I have no idea how to do that.
The thing that helps me is that I think from the start that this will be a fail, so I have nothing to worry about because I have nothing to lose
Just remember the thoughts in your head may not be how you envisioned it. Negative mindset needs tackling and by doing that, be open and reassure yourself
this is very helpful tips, life changin 🙌
Finally, something useful
That story in the beginning is so embarrassing it must be relatable
Good tips 👌🏽salute ✌🏽
Nice job
Your changing lives brother thank u so much
Very helpful
Love your videos!!
Thank God I popped into this
Ur videos are really fun to watch 💙