How Being Introverted Can Get You Girls - ANYONE Can Do It

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  • @interestingcomments5903
    @interestingcomments5903 Před 4 lety +5403

    Reads title
    “Don’t do this... don’t give me hope”

    • @Michael-zs3xi
      @Michael-zs3xi Před 4 lety +64

      Same....

    • @MrAlexanderLang
      @MrAlexanderLang Před 4 lety +97

      Never rely on hope, always good 'ol trusty math.

    • @jay-cg8ri
      @jay-cg8ri Před 4 lety +5

      Nice copy buddy

    • @justanamateur6129
      @justanamateur6129 Před 4 lety +5

      Being introverted not means born ugly, weak, poor. Imagine how 100 kilogrammes badass without any skills could be attractive.💥😆🔫

    • @ysgramornorris2452
      @ysgramornorris2452 Před 4 lety +3

      I wish I could've given it to you sooner.

  • @michaelthomas8077
    @michaelthomas8077 Před 4 lety +4892

    It's not people I struggle talking to, it's girls I'm attracted to.

    • @alfonsourbina3342
      @alfonsourbina3342 Před 4 lety +132

      Michael Thomas you got a good bar

    • @jamesyamamoto5155
      @jamesyamamoto5155 Před 4 lety +31

      Same

    • @michaelthomas8077
      @michaelthomas8077 Před 4 lety +138

      @@alfonsourbina3342 I don't drink

    • @WhynotMinot
      @WhynotMinot Před 4 lety +33

      Michael Thomas same. I'm agreeing to your first comment not the one where you say I dont drink. I do not drink though.

    • @ryanflorian2047
      @ryanflorian2047 Před 4 lety +40

      some time I find best to not tell some one you like them
      instead just look at them (look at her hips, chest, neck cheeks)
      then just look at her eyes and you will see her do the same thing to you
      this is important because it will be the moment you know if she is interested
      after that go at your own pace

  • @Yolo_Gamer-te3lg
    @Yolo_Gamer-te3lg Před 4 lety +4149

    “How being introverted can help you get a girlfriend”- and a hundred more jokes you can tell yourself

  • @cristhianc5580
    @cristhianc5580 Před 4 lety +1634

    Let's compare two actors
    Robert Downey Jr:Charismatic
    Keanu Reeves:Breathtaking
    Me:me

  • @macroxela
    @macroxela Před 4 lety +4080

    Lots of people confuse shyness with introversion. Introversion means being comfortable with yourself and preferring your own company, perhaps a few close others. Shyness is wanting to socialize with others but not doing so due to anxiety or something similar. If you're shy, you need to work on overcoming it. If you're introverted, embrace it.
    Edit: Wow, my 1st comment to reach 1k. Thanks everyone! 😊

    • @whatsupdog2727
      @whatsupdog2727 Před 4 lety +20

      macroxela thanks, I was confused about it

    • @MikeyJoJo6385
      @MikeyJoJo6385 Před 4 lety +182

      You can still be both shy and introverted.

    • @lebronjames7094
      @lebronjames7094 Před 4 lety +31

      @LEO2001 Damn but you must keep going, life's gonna give you what you want if you fight and do it right

    • @paveljirgal8143
      @paveljirgal8143 Před 4 lety +14

      @LEO2001 jesus, thats cruel, and also it very reminds me my story too, i was happier earlier, got more friends.... But due few bad things that happened in my life and because few bad decisions, my life turned upside down and now.... Im fucked, dont know what to do next...

    • @apotheos4169
      @apotheos4169 Před 4 lety +7

      From this I came to know that I am a legit introvert. I prefer my own company but other people cling to me. Goodbye quiet life. 😢

  • @baguswidhiatma1673
    @baguswidhiatma1673 Před 4 lety +1247

    There is a diffrence between introvert and bad social skill, introvert often have good social skill but it drain their energy quickly, so they need to be alone sometimes to recovery

    • @random_dude26
      @random_dude26 Před 4 lety +90

      I am both , so I'm screwed

    • @KlaverKatten
      @KlaverKatten Před 4 lety +19

      @@random_dude26 That is called being ambivert ;)

    • @random_dude26
      @random_dude26 Před 4 lety +59

      @@KlaverKatten I meant I'm introverted and lack social skill, not introvert extrovert.lol

    • @Blank100k
      @Blank100k Před 4 lety +18

      Lol that’s me I love talking with big groups of people 1 on 1 too but trying to keep up with the constant change of topic and tone kind of drains me

    • @forgespolyglothouse3555
      @forgespolyglothouse3555 Před 4 lety +7

      you just described me i have good social skills but after talking i feel like i need to be home at least 8 hours to fully recharge

  • @buak809
    @buak809 Před 4 lety +2641

    How introvert can get girls? Oh that is just simple, he needs to be attractive

    • @emilandersson8292
      @emilandersson8292 Před 4 lety +243

      or a famous actor

    • @kowya5952
      @kowya5952 Před 4 lety +80

      shut the fuck up

    • @roycelemuelko4681
      @roycelemuelko4681 Před 4 lety +195

      nah being attractive aint worth shit, its always about confidence and humour

    • @buak809
      @buak809 Před 4 lety +266

      @@kowya5952 watch out we got badass here

    • @buak809
      @buak809 Před 4 lety +322

      @@roycelemuelko4681 Lol yeah, keep lying to yourself
      "Being attractive aint worth shit" that's a good one

  • @kontakt642
    @kontakt642 Před 4 lety +678

    Keanu reeves may be an introvert but he's also literally john wick he's fricken ripped.

    • @thegentlemensgame
      @thegentlemensgame  Před 4 lety +81

      Yeah don't get me wrong, most introverts wont do as well as Keannu, but the point still stands that most introverts wouldnt have an issue getting just 1 dope girl if they learned to embrace it / maximize their strengths

    • @lincolnacn2287
      @lincolnacn2287 Před 3 lety +3

      He’s Keanu friking Reeves so yeah yeah

  • @latt.qcd9221
    @latt.qcd9221 Před 3 lety +205

    Being a "good listener" is the fastest way to the friendzone because she will see you as the guy she can talk to about the guy she's actually into and ask you for advice.

    • @jemilanenestj2522
      @jemilanenestj2522 Před 2 lety +3

      Yup.

    • @pizzatime9797
      @pizzatime9797 Před 2 lety +43

      Then cut her off when she brings up that guy, tell her if it ain’t about us we don’t need to chat

    • @cccbeats_
      @cccbeats_ Před 2 lety +29

      @@pizzatime9797 Exactly. You have to be assertive when saying this, and not needy. Not enough guys know the difference.

  • @dinamus275
    @dinamus275 Před 4 lety +175

    Handsome introverted : misterious, atractive
    Ugly introverted : creppy, dangerous
    i hate this

    • @patrickandersen4672
      @patrickandersen4672 Před 4 lety +17

      Sad but true.

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 3 lety +10

      a smile is what separates those

    • @dinamus275
      @dinamus275 Před 3 lety +4

      @Anthony 50 nah being atractive is all that matters bro swallow the black pill

    • @dinamus275
      @dinamus275 Před 3 lety +1

      @Anthony 50 yeah its kinda better, doesnt lead you to depression like the black pill

    • @jemilanenestj2522
      @jemilanenestj2522 Před 2 lety +2

      @@deltaxcd It doesn't matter

  • @Ash_Wen-li
    @Ash_Wen-li Před 4 lety +957

    As an introvert I am very good at one on one conversations, exerting a calm presence, being authentic and building rapport by quickly turning small talk into something more meaningful. The issue is that my way of responding is a bit too straightforward leading girls to just see me as a friend. One thing I am trying to work on is banter and teasing. If you're like me and you can incorporate that into your game, then you'll be solid.

    • @isaiahlezama9570
      @isaiahlezama9570 Před 4 lety +31

      Ash I am the exact same way bro!! Just started incorporating that in my game the last couple months, and it’s working.

    • @bassbooster5527
      @bassbooster5527 Před 4 lety +59

      get to know your facial expressions. Think about the emotion you want to convey to someone and ask yourself what facial expression matches what I’m thinking. I am an introvert who also likes one on one interaction. When I socialize with a women who interests me one one. I tend to have less tension because I know that a one one situation plays to my strengths. I keep a calm but light vocal tone with a bit of depth in my voice is the environment isn’t too loud.
      For the most part I find that women are extremely receptive to low energy men if their outside influence is reduced (if they aren’t in a big crowd or a group of loud friends. Low energy provides a contrast to most women because they are so energetic when they are out with friends or social gatherings. I find when women are able to interact with me one on one I really don’t have to say anything fancy other than express my thoughts in a way that gets her to speak. other than that women are comfortable around me one on one. it’s getting them to be open receptive to my energy when I first meet them that is the problem because like I said in a public place a women’s mind is still influenced by her surroundings, as with a lot of men when they approach a girl in public, she thinks someone is looking and judging even if she thinks you are attractive just that thought alone would keep a man from approaching a women he’s attracted to and a woman from being receptive to a man she’s attracted to. Just work on getting to the point where you can invite her to a place that matches your energy but is still fun or at least different from what she may be used. So low noise environment, because you want to be able to speak to her in that calming voice that most introverts possess which is a strength that puts people around them at ease. You also want to be able to listen to her without her having to think about who’s watching which influences what she says or even how she says it. but introverts also have the ability to be extroverts for periods at a time. That is when you want to socialize to actually meet the women to plan that one on one time so you can capture her interest. to socialize as an introvert though feels like pouring a bowl of cereal and realizing there’s no milk. You want a bowl of cereal but you can’t have it without the milk. That is to say you want friends or a partner or multiple dates but you don’t actually care to socialize. You wouldn’t mind socializing but can’t really understand people to well at a social level. Some of the things people talk about can sound like gibberish to you unless it has some meaning. so throw yourself into the waters and work on your weakness which would be extroverted socializing but keep that primary introverted energy.
      Learn to be a social introvert that is. Introverts are great at reading social cues and can be very thought provoking through their speech.
      Learn to socialize with that low energy and instead spending all of your observation power on others use some on yourself. Notice when you catch yourself doing something that the person you want to be wouldn’t do. That’s all the advice I have from my experience introverts are the contrast to extroverts. Opposites attract learn how to be the attractive opposite

    • @nickymasangu9255
      @nickymasangu9255 Před 4 lety +3

      A whole me,I relate!

    • @Ash_Wen-li
      @Ash_Wen-li Před 4 lety +20

      @Nate W. That is a fair point. The funny thing is that when I'm with my close friends I banter, tease and make jokes all the time. It's just doing that with people I'm not close to where I think very straightforward. As long as the style is authentic then you don't need to worry about changing your personality.

    • @Ash_Wen-li
      @Ash_Wen-li Před 4 lety +5

      @LEO2001 Then in that case you'll just have to stick to your strengths. If banter is too different from your regular personality then you definitely don't want to become fake by forcing it

  • @wheeinsoojinmakemeweakfromawe

    I am an introvert when I make small talk with friends I always feel like I am being a little annoying to everyone

    • @toro4271
      @toro4271 Před 4 lety +23

      Same here

    • @WhynotMinot
      @WhynotMinot Před 4 lety +14

      same, except I'm not totally sure if I am a full introvert

    • @thegentlemensgame
      @thegentlemensgame  Před 4 lety +195

      That's called the "spotlight effect" bro. Basically, you think people's attention is on you, maybe in a negative light, more than they actually are.
      Truth is, most people are just in their own little worlds! Even if you do say something annoying / not cool, people forget about it quick.

    • @wheeinsoojinmakemeweakfromawe
      @wheeinsoojinmakemeweakfromawe Před 4 lety +4

      @@thegentlemensgame
      Thanks 😃

    • @WhynotMinot
      @WhynotMinot Před 4 lety

      @@thegentlemensgame I just found your channel and I like it

  • @sudhanshubajracharya2767
    @sudhanshubajracharya2767 Před 4 lety +651

    Don't do that
    Don't give me hope

  • @WithoutFear804
    @WithoutFear804 Před 4 lety +338

    This is kinda depressing that we need this to get girls to notice us...

    • @brunotatekawa5038
      @brunotatekawa5038 Před 4 lety +55

      80/20 my friend. For most of us life is just the time we have to cope with the reality that we will never experience what we wanted to. At least be happy that you will never be able to spread your seed, so your children will not have to suffer as you have.

    • @connorthegambitgaming
      @connorthegambitgaming Před 4 lety +12

      One some people are just to shy or afraid of bieng themselves near girls plus u ask on out and they reject life goes on there’s plenty of fish in the sea

    • @noorazamzain2661
      @noorazamzain2661 Před 4 lety +2

      @@brunotatekawa5038 ...this is unexpectedly wholesome

    • @shorx9199
      @shorx9199 Před 4 lety +33

      @@brunotatekawa5038 bad mentality

    • @GameOver-ou1ge
      @GameOver-ou1ge Před 4 lety +9

      @@shorx9199 but he an't liying

  • @sarikagupta4948
    @sarikagupta4948 Před 4 lety +814

    Who all are introverts👍👍
    👇these many extroverts equal one introvert..

  • @dolo9936
    @dolo9936 Před 3 lety +58

    I hate that everyone refer to introverts as “Shy”

  • @1AMdoesSomething
    @1AMdoesSomething Před 4 lety +689

    Off topic but I thought Keanu was Jesus for a second.

  • @bermudezeg
    @bermudezeg Před 4 lety +312

    I’m introverted, keep to myself, but people think I’m shy, which I’m not, I Just don’t like small talk and honestly don’t like sharing my personal life with everyone. It’s personal for a reason. I can tell at work people are scared of weirdest out. Lol just look at them straight in the eyes and they just look away lol

    • @Ugh718
      @Ugh718 Před 4 lety +20

      Yeah.Exactly.Ikr?Like,I don't care if ur cat pooped today,or what it ate,or what did u do when u get up.I wanna actually talk about something meaningful.
      Edit:got

    • @mrzukunft
      @mrzukunft Před 4 lety +7

      @@Ugh718 Please use space after punctuation. It makes me crazy reading your text. Also, if you notice that you made a mistake, correct that mistake directly instead of saying:
      "Edit: [insert mistake]" 😂

    • @johan_va3642
      @johan_va3642 Před 4 lety +1

      i feel like you, it is not that i am shy or introvert i just hate small talk

    • @shanek2724
      @shanek2724 Před 4 lety

      I relate to this 100%

    • @fran-yv1xc
      @fran-yv1xc Před 3 lety +2

      Im the opposite😂, i like hanging out with people but im too shy to express myself without being akward

  • @monkeman966
    @monkeman966 Před 4 lety +413

    So you want to tell me that a girl will be attracted to a stay-at-home, introvert, gamer-like teenager who rarely has contact to females ?

    • @Jam-iv6xz
      @Jam-iv6xz Před 4 lety +100

      Yes. Believe it or not there are girls who like playing video games and not going out every Friday night...

    • @suppusthesnaxe7864
      @suppusthesnaxe7864 Před 4 lety +98

      Introvert doesnt mean antisocial

    • @D0MiN0ChAn
      @D0MiN0ChAn Před 4 lety +59

      If you don't make every second sentence about sex or how hot she is, then yes.

    • @MarthSR
      @MarthSR Před 4 lety +41

      Teenager. You're at a set of years in which you're discovering yourself, and so is every one your age. You'll fail. Hard. Many times. As will everyone you know. They'll just never tell you.
      So go ahead. Fail. Hard. Learn. Then succeed.

    • @Manie230
      @Manie230 Před 4 lety +18

      suppusTheSnAxe wait you tell me that my antisocial ass will never find a girlfriend. Impossible I always thought some day I wake up and have one.
      But real talk I know that I am an introvert after every party I was on even if I didn’t drink I directly went to bed I was so tired after just being there. But I am also very bad at small talk and shot like that if I don’t find something g we both have in common by accident or because I was sitting with them while they talked about something that i also enjoy or know i can’t interact with people. But I accepted it that’s who I am I am a little antisocial dude who doesn’t like to go to parties. My only way of finding potential partners would be through a job but I don’t have one so until then I guess I just stay with my self and there is no one that understands me better than myself.

  • @esion0192
    @esion0192 Před 4 lety +166

    "ANYONE can do it"
    Me: *observe*

  • @killmenow3181
    @killmenow3181 Před 4 lety +146

    Guess Keanu will be my religion as of now.

  • @goblinslayer6375
    @goblinslayer6375 Před 4 lety +47

    Introvert In Realife: 🐱
    Introvert In Meme: I'm A God.

  • @Tosmasta00
    @Tosmasta00 Před 4 lety +50

    Had a few girls tell me that i'm a good listener and that i'm more calmer than others.

  • @vincentnguyen1343
    @vincentnguyen1343 Před rokem +8

    Four strengths of introvert guys:
    1/ Listening (patient and attentive)
    2/ Presence (calmness, eye contact, hand gestures)
    3/ Authenticity (treat everyone with respect and also speak up for yourself)
    4/ Mystery (mysterious at first, then slowly start opening up to the girl)

  • @valentinpanait6305
    @valentinpanait6305 Před 4 lety +20

    I see these comments and people are confusing beeing introverted with having low confidence and self-esteem.

  • @keisihelenpaim8502
    @keisihelenpaim8502 Před 3 lety +27

    I'm an introvert girl and I really love a shy guy, they're the best! The most respectful, cool, and smart.💙

  • @joshr1873
    @joshr1873 Před 4 lety +23

    Its a helluva lot easier to get girls while being an introvert if you're hot, an area I'm lacking in more than social skills.

  • @darshan81
    @darshan81 Před 4 lety +38

    The moment you compared Introverts with Keanu, I want to be become an Introvert

    • @vedant3030
      @vedant3030 Před 4 lety +4

      He was jesus not Keanu 🤣

  • @wongjohnson
    @wongjohnson Před 4 lety +54

    Me: wanna go (subject talking about)
    Girl: I have a boyfriend
    Me: oh, that's cool
    Inside me: good job, homie. You did it!

  • @DimitrisChrrr
    @DimitrisChrrr Před 3 lety +4

    1. Listening
    2. Presence
    3. Authenticity
    4. Mystery

  • @R421Excelsior
    @R421Excelsior Před 4 lety +173

    So this entire video was made for "ideal" well-adjusted introverts and then addressed the real ones (the ones who would have an actual reason to watch this) in ten seconds at the end by basically saying "deal with it".

    • @bh9486
      @bh9486 Před 4 lety +34

      If you cant even say hi to someone, you're not a "real" introvert. You have legit social anxiety and you should be more concerned with dealing wih that first...
      Most introverts can at least hold a decent conversation they just arent the ones to initiate it typically.. this isnt an "ideal" introvert ..that's the norm.
      Stop making excuses calling yourself a "real introvert" when you're just a socially anxious pussy who's too scared to even hold eye contact with someone

    • @whiteronaldj90
      @whiteronaldj90 Před 4 lety +30

      Atlas as an introvert myself, I will say if you can’t hold a basic conversation or even initiate one it probably falls into an anxiety issue. Introversion is more so preferring to be in small groups or spending alone, largely in quite settings to recharge. That doesn’t mean you are unable to interact with others in any capacity. Online dating has been great cause it removes a lot of the noise in cold approaches. It allows me to play to my strengths and I recommend it

    • @GamerEngineer1345
      @GamerEngineer1345 Před 4 lety +54

      @@bh9486 having social anxiety is not being 'pussy' it's a disorder like depression and needs treatment, for me yeah I feel anxious when talking to strangers and girls but if they are the one starting the conversation I can hold myself just fine

    • @morales8837
      @morales8837 Před 4 lety +2

      @@bh9486 Incorrect I believe your opinion to be.

    • @guywithknife
      @guywithknife Před 4 lety +10

      B H It’s not being a pussy. I can initiate and hold conversations just fine, its just mentally exhausting to initiate and the anxiety drains me for ages after. Hell, I’m typically quite open and energetic when I get comfortable in a group, but that first half hour or so is exhausting and filled with anxiety. I’ve tried all sorts if things like dumping myself into awkward or uncomfortable situations, attending events alone or travelling alone and none of it has helped much. Sure, I deal with it and get on with life, but meeting new people is still an exhausting and difficult struggle. Does that make me a pussy? Don’t be so judgemental about ither people’s struggles.
      (I do agree that calling people with anxiety “real introversts” is dumb though, introvert and shyness and anxiety are nit the same thing and some people have only one or some of them but not all. I’m not arguing with you on that because you’re right, I just donkt agree that being these things makes you a pussy and find calling people who are clearly struggling in their own way is just mean)

  • @TheLazyBoi_
    @TheLazyBoi_ Před 4 lety +28

    Well I got bullied by girls in school, so thanks to them, I have no confidence in talking to girls and Im nervous around them

    • @Kingzach01
      @Kingzach01 Před 3 lety +3

      My advice: try not to overthink the situation when shooting your shot. If you miss, you miss, you’ll have plenty of girls to try again with maybe even the next day. If you don’t miss, congrats

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 3 lety +4

      I think sometime later you will dream about being bullied by girls again when girls will be just ignoring you LOL
      when girls bully you that means they sort of like you, that's how they invite you

    • @bequanis
      @bequanis Před 3 lety +2

      @@deltaxcd 😐

  • @hughp-k7415
    @hughp-k7415 Před 4 lety +272

    “How to get a girl.”
    The gays guys and straight girls: *sad introvert noise*

  • @backupschmliff1156
    @backupschmliff1156 Před 4 lety +70

    0:40 Once again, gamers are oppressed in this tragic society we live in...

  • @lsajaky9826
    @lsajaky9826 Před 4 lety +177

    "how to get girls as an introvert"
    Step 1: Be good at being an introvert
    Oh ffs

  • @sagarkrishnamurthy
    @sagarkrishnamurthy Před 4 lety +10

    Dude
    You're thoughtful.
    I like it, respect.
    Have a nice time making more videos

  • @brandserie9824
    @brandserie9824 Před 4 lety +83

    Why dont some of us create a group and start helping each others achiving the goals. Advising each other , telling and past experience setting any goal for future. Who is for this?
    And also gentelmens game is very good, i had watched many dating advises but this is my favourite

    • @ayodeledamilola3210
      @ayodeledamilola3210 Před 4 lety

      I'm down

    •  Před 4 lety +1

      Bro that’s perfect

    • @brandserie9824
      @brandserie9824 Před 4 lety

      Can you send your number in my private your full number inculding country code and we.create whatsup group

    • @noyes9885
      @noyes9885 Před 4 lety +1

      Just create//join a Facebook Group

    • @brandserie9824
      @brandserie9824 Před 4 lety +8

      Have created the group you can join now facebook.com/groups/570778390435766/

  • @taymc5150
    @taymc5150 Před 4 lety +45

    How you doing ladies fear me for I have never interacted with females before and I spend all my time alone in my room.

    • @GameOver-ou1ge
      @GameOver-ou1ge Před 4 lety +1

      Mood, and same😂

    • @bigman9970
      @bigman9970 Před 4 lety +5

      probably wouldnt help calling them females 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

    • @ozz961
      @ozz961 Před 4 lety +1

      Me

    • @jackcolson4745
      @jackcolson4745 Před 3 lety

      @@bigman9970 it's supposed to sound dumb and intelligently inexperienced

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 3 lety

      probably you have a scary facial expression you need to learn how to smile properly and not look insane.
      If you are scared then probably your scared face scares women away because women fell same emotions because of empathy

  • @ckyung1312
    @ckyung1312 Před 4 lety +4

    Dayum, great analogies. Quality content. Trying to red pill my younger brother who used to qhine about his exes on social media until I told him that it was causing the opposite of what he intended. It worked.

  • @BartixShieldsmen
    @BartixShieldsmen Před 4 lety

    Good on you Andy for succeeding where we haven't yet!

  • @rusko8294
    @rusko8294 Před 4 lety +14

    Speaking about Kobe Bryant, rip.
    Edit: I'm an introvert too and this video is really good.

  • @TheAniki94
    @TheAniki94 Před 4 lety +13

    To be honest that feels reassuring and encouraging to see and hear we, introverts, have thoses skills to use to get girls 😊👌 thanks for this, feeling more calm and confident now. I'm gonna attend to a party on Friday's night, gotta try to light up those skills 💪👌

  • @gambit_toys6554
    @gambit_toys6554 Před 4 lety +12

    8:10 sooo true!
    Said hi yesterday.
    542 approaches so far!

  • @shankaranarayanangopalan7036

    Thank you 😊😊 this video meant a lot to me as I had my own issues with being open with girls as much as I would I have liked to. Please do lot more videos on this theme so that all of us are benefitted 😊👌🏻👌🏻. Do continue your good job 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @fenixselfhelp7177
    @fenixselfhelp7177 Před 4 lety +3

    tl;dr
    Play to your strengths.
    Strengths of introverts:
    Listening (actually paying attention to what the convo is about and adding substance rather than just talking)
    Presence (making presence felt thru body language rather than vocal power, i.e. eye contact and hand gestures)
    Authenticity (be comfortable about who you are and unapologetic about it)
    Mystery (Don't put all your cards on the table, but introverts don't do this naturally anyway. reveal slowly)
    Good video.

  • @ElTimotoQIK
    @ElTimotoQIK Před 4 lety +42

    5:30 Looking T H I C C

  • @fr3ddy653
    @fr3ddy653 Před 4 lety +1

    Back at it with another great video. Keep up the good work

  • @Mportella7
    @Mportella7 Před 4 lety

    This vdeo is actually gold. Great channel!

  • @somelamenamehowaboutmr.juk6231

    "I hope the new year has been treating you well so far"
    I mean, it could be worse, and I'm still alive, so I ain't complaining.

  • @Jay-ot9rc
    @Jay-ot9rc Před 4 lety +10

    Im an introvert and i sometimes get girls even if i don't flirt with them

  • @nevanread
    @nevanread Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you for doing a video based upon my comments 😊.

  • @avneet5219
    @avneet5219 Před 4 lety +2

    Good video bro, keep up the good work coming👍

  • @fellowfollower7597
    @fellowfollower7597 Před 4 lety +10

    I've been introvert since... and actually this is so accurate 😮

  • @IceBearChill007
    @IceBearChill007 Před 3 lety +16

    I'm an introvert and I've actually tested most of what you've said and the response is still the same... They assume you are either gay, in some form of a relationship or simply not willing to talk with them. As for the cliche about having to be "fit" that also still seems to hold true for a vast majority with the small off chance of actually maybe finding one or two who might be different even they hold you to a standard you probably can't meet as an introvert. As good of advice as this video was it may need some updating or revision... ( I saw this video when it came out but did not comment till now as I was testing this as well as some other things)

  • @isaiahthomas7862
    @isaiahthomas7862 Před 4 lety

    This video has helped me alot. I am a very introverted person, I have few but good friends, and now am in a relationship of 1 month. Every video I've seen by you has given me more confidence and advice than any other video I've seen. Thank you so much

  • @jamesarmstrong2350
    @jamesarmstrong2350 Před 4 lety +51

    I've been wondering all my life what people can talking about like friends, in relationship or in a marriage. I can't talk to even my brother. There's always an awkward silence between me and my family. xD I will never have anyone.

    • @darthvader7010
      @darthvader7010 Před 4 lety

      James Armstrong just talk about random stuff and things that happened in your day, or some bs. It usually worked in my experience.

    • @steyn1775
      @steyn1775 Před 4 lety +1

      just try to tell them something you are passionate about, then they will often listen and ask questions to know more about {stuf you are interested in}

    • @alexbaribeault
      @alexbaribeault Před 4 lety +6

      @@darthvader7010 Nothing happens in my days. My life is boring as fuck

    • @r.v.b.4153
      @r.v.b.4153 Před 4 lety

      @@darthvader7010
      I'll often quickly run out of information

    • @r.v.b.4153
      @r.v.b.4153 Před 4 lety +2

      @@steyn1775
      This is something I think most people should be able to accomplish, especially if they're invested in the thing that makes them feel passionate.

  • @monkeyturner2434
    @monkeyturner2434 Před 3 lety +5

    2020 treated me really well actually, doing my whole freshmen year online! It's the dream!

  • @JDog88
    @JDog88 Před 2 lety

    This is the video I needed to see, thank you so much for making it.

  • @ramymansour3821
    @ramymansour3821 Před 4 lety

    I listened to this video and I liked your way and I downloaded all your videos thanks

  • @birdmanoo0
    @birdmanoo0 Před 4 lety +3

    At one time I thought I was an introvert, I no longer think that. I'm bad at talking in groups. Which leads people to think I'm an introvert.
    Any time I'm with a group of friends I'm quite, but when I'm with only one of my friends I can hold a conversation with them quite easily.
    I don't like interrupting people talking or being interrupted while talking. And it is hard for me to joke around for fear that one person will be offended or left out of the joke. Also I'm just bad at gauge a group's feeling.
    I remember one time I went bowling with a bunch of my friends from work. After we were done they went off and paid for there stuff and went to the car. I was trailing behind a bit and started talking to the cashier. I made her laugh and had a nice small chat while she rang me up.
    What I didn't know is that my friends didn't leave and was watching me. Surprised the hell out of them that the "quite" one of the group was the one to strike up a conversation with her.

  • @cafesportivo9004
    @cafesportivo9004 Před 4 lety +1

    This was a pretty nice video and I can tell you’re speaking off personal experiences. While it might not be too helpful for me per se, the art and the way you approached the topic was still very appealing.

  • @chloepatti9734
    @chloepatti9734 Před 4 lety +7

    Hi everyone! I'm a girl, a mid-key extrovert, and you're probably all wondering why I'm watching this because it's for introverted guys. It;'s simple, I love anything that has to do with the MBTI or just personality in general. However, that's not why I'm commenting. I'm a loud, fun, lovable, and awkward ENFP and I'm usually attracted to quieter, more introverted people. So you DO stand a chance with girls! I think guys who listen, are sincere, and shy are absolutely adorable-- just remember not to be too insecure because it can become a major turn-off. I love the challenge of breaking through someone's shell and getting to know them intimately, plus I talk a lot.😛 Also, sometimes I feel like my high energy is canceled out when I'm with someone who is equally or more bubbly than myself so use your introverted powers to the fullest. You guys can do it! Good luck to you and God bless. P.S.: Susan Cain's TED Talk for introverts is AMAZING!!

    • @thegentlemensgame
      @thegentlemensgame  Před 4 lety

      Thanks for the thoughtful comment! Im sure a lot of introverted guys will read this and be happy

  • @thiccburger290
    @thiccburger290 Před 4 lety +62

    Jokes on you, my introversion just keeps me away from people in general

  • @adrielcapon8983
    @adrielcapon8983 Před 4 lety +38

    Alternate Title: How to become a isekai protagonist

    • @NotAnirban
      @NotAnirban Před 4 lety +1

      Oh man!😂 I did NOT see that comin'!😂

    • @whathell6t
      @whathell6t Před 4 lety +2

      Adrielcapon
      Which one? From Digimon, Re:Zero, Rising of Shield Hero, Aura Battler Dubine, Mashin Hero Wataru, Magical Knight Rayearth, InuYasha, Fushigi Yuugi, “Now and Then; Here and There”, etc.

    • @AngryGrape1337
      @AngryGrape1337 Před 2 lety

      @@whathell6t Drifters, the only good Isekai. Totally not my bias as a history buff and the whole show being pure fanservice to me anyway, but whatever.

  • @191.
    @191. Před 4 lety

    Awesome animation. I love it!

  • @jasperd3705
    @jasperd3705 Před 4 lety

    Your channel is good dude, it may not attract that much subscriber for now but you've got a solid and helpful content.

  • @nv7583
    @nv7583 Před 4 lety +8

    listening skills, zen-like presence, mysterious...sounds like a stalker to me. 😂 great video!

  • @kericwu
    @kericwu Před 4 lety +16

    Great points here! I personally think there's someone for everyone

  • @jeetbarot734
    @jeetbarot734 Před 4 lety

    The best channel I found in 2020 🙌🙌I really learned from your videos 🔥🔥

  • @gtiz8460
    @gtiz8460 Před 2 lety

    These analysts is literally what my mind was leading me towards thanks bro being an introvert is key to me i embrace my presence at first I was ashamed

  • @midknight3350
    @midknight3350 Před 4 lety +15

    Man, I have learned more about myself on videos like this than anywhere else. I am an introvert and always considered myself disadvantaged because of my quietness. But videos like this is chipping away at the stigma I have burdened myself with. I'm not a bar going type, so I'm not very likely to put myself in a scenario of "Go to a bar, get a drink, and either wait for a girl to approach me or approach her."

  • @jumborumbo6957
    @jumborumbo6957 Před 4 lety +6

    Best vids!
    Carry on

  • @ghostcarrillo
    @ghostcarrillo Před 4 lety

    This was a nice video. Thank you.

  • @hunterthompson5877
    @hunterthompson5877 Před 4 lety

    This helped a lot! Thanks!!

  • @mariusjanusauskas8612
    @mariusjanusauskas8612 Před 4 lety +6

    Really informative and interesting basketball analysis

  • @ankri.lovely8058
    @ankri.lovely8058 Před 4 lety +8

    As a girl, I often find the introverted guys more interesting because for example their hobbies tend to be more similar to mine. Also, I like the idead of getting to know an introverted person, because they are way more "mysterious" than exroverted people. You have to do something to get information on them, they are not giving it out for free. Love that! :)
    (edit)
    Lol actually this is a point on the list of the video, didnt expect that :D But good to know, that its not just me.

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 3 lety +1

      Smells a like a friendzone :)

    • @rastafit23
      @rastafit23 Před 2 lety

      💯

    • @alexios9848
      @alexios9848 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah, used to think that. Sadly it has never worked, at least for me (Man)

  • @EduardoSantos-pv8yo
    @EduardoSantos-pv8yo Před 4 lety

    Thanks for the video, man.

  • @mayusolanki3121
    @mayusolanki3121 Před rokem

    1. There are many paths ot victory (mastering one skill/sport, be an expert/professional/goalist, etc)
    2. Listening skills
    3. Presence (body language etc)
    4. Authenticity (truthful/respectful/unapologetic)
    5. Mystery creation

  • @franciscovasquez6545
    @franciscovasquez6545 Před 4 lety +25

    When you started talking about sports, you lose me 😂

  • @talknight2
    @talknight2 Před 4 lety +29

    What if I thought I was introverted my whole life and developed introverted habits but then realized I actually can't get enough of being around people? 🤔🤔

    • @ge5510
      @ge5510 Před 4 lety +1

      This is happening to me right now. Weird stuff.

    • @dnangel4277
      @dnangel4277 Před 4 lety +2

      @@ge5510 Same here!

    • @kristiannoel4866
      @kristiannoel4866 Před 4 lety +3

      I'm the same, people find that strange when being around others a lot wears you out. :-/

    • @jaydenalonso3284
      @jaydenalonso3284 Před 4 lety

      Imbivert check it out

    • @Igeltod
      @Igeltod Před 4 lety

      Personality and Behavior can change over the years of your life. No one says you will be one type of person your whole life :) so maybe you just transitioning to be an extrovert or at least become more socially active

  • @swipefn1931
    @swipefn1931 Před 2 lety +1

    These videos are so down to earth, you earned yourself a sub! :D

  • @angelus_solus
    @angelus_solus Před 4 lety

    I can't hardly talk to a lass without stammering speech, trembling hands and feeling like my heart is gonna explode. That and my verbal filter goes offline. This last week I tried chatting up someone at Pier One Imports. At one point she apologised about not having her name tag and without even thinking, I laughed a little, casually pointed at her and said "you should be spanked". WHAT!? Where the f**k did THAT come from? She laughed too, but I felt MORTIFIED. At that point, I thanked her for her help and quickly walked away. I did give her my email, but that was on Monday and I doubt I'll ever hear from her.

  • @ryankeshet5820
    @ryankeshet5820 Před 4 lety +9

    Cartoon girl @ 6:23 "Andy is so nice!"
    Me: He probably finishes last

  • @maxversthappening8166
    @maxversthappening8166 Před 2 lety +3

    Ok, as someone who’s more of an ambivert than a introvert, the thing I personally struggle with and I’ve seen other people on the comments do is talking to people you like. Around girls I’m friends with I can talk with them just fine. It’s just around my crush I’ll change. Depending on my mood, I’ll either be more extroverted or I’ll not talk with her at all to not say anything dumb. It’s a struggle, I’ve gotten better at it, but it just came up in my mind watching this. Granted, I’ve been single all my life, so maybe I’m just doing something wrong lol.

  • @shermanngjazz
    @shermanngjazz Před rokem +1

    I'm fairly introverted myself and this is some good tips, I'll try to let things happen on its own instead of forcing it when I'm trying to get a girlfriend.

  • @Kurokami447
    @Kurokami447 Před 4 lety +2

    This video is very good thanks to youtube recommendations

  • @petyarizova2906
    @petyarizova2906 Před 4 lety +45

    I like introverted guys🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @MMosM_
      @MMosM_ Před 4 lety +24

      Petya Rizova the world needs more girls like you

    • @tommy2245
      @tommy2245 Před 4 lety +1

      Are you introverted too?

    • @petyarizova2906
      @petyarizova2906 Před 4 lety +1

      @@tommy2245 I wouldn't say so

    • @subliminalmindfuck454
      @subliminalmindfuck454 Před 4 lety +2

      Petya Rizova yeah hmu, I’m pretty introverted. And I actually like extrovert girls.

    • @_MNF__
      @_MNF__ Před 4 lety +17

      @@subliminalmindfuck454 F

  • @BrandonF26
    @BrandonF26 Před 4 lety +19

    4:46
    Remind me of gta IV
    “Actions speak louder than words”

  • @dsf2671
    @dsf2671 Před 4 lety

    yes, right. I believe you.

  • @avalonjustin
    @avalonjustin Před 2 lety

    I wasn't expecting this advice to be so good. You have to embrace your personality and be comfortable with it. Women can pick up on that!

  • @armyforlife6303
    @armyforlife6303 Před 4 lety +43

    As a girl, I just came here to see if it's true...
    And all the points are straight on target

  • @aleksandarsimic7489
    @aleksandarsimic7489 Před 4 lety +11

    4:01 *And then my friend..You are getting Friendzoned*

  • @vipulchaturvedi622
    @vipulchaturvedi622 Před 4 lety +1

    You earned an introvert subscriber

  • @ghettoyouthgottalent
    @ghettoyouthgottalent Před 4 lety

    I like this video, it really helpful.

  • @esh768
    @esh768 Před 4 lety +49

    But my face won't cooperate with me. :)

  • @mmangalisomasinga432
    @mmangalisomasinga432 Před 3 lety +14

    Apparently I'm already good at this stuff given my previous experience. The problem is that, as an introvert, you rely on someone else to initiate the conversation.
    I've never had a woman approach me to start a conversation which is literally the only way a conversation would ever begin.
    These tips might be effective if someone approaches you but if they don't then you're screwed.
    At that point, you'd actually need to be able to strike up a conversation with a total stranger without it being awkward and-
    Oh wait, isn't this what extroverts do? Yeah, no wonder introverts complain about not getting into a relationship. The requirements are bullshit.

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 3 lety +2

      What stops you from starting a conversation by yourself?
      also, you start a conversation with body language so if someone is looking at you they sort of started it already, in the same way, to ake a woman approach you, you have somehow express your interest in her. although probably the best response you will get is not getting disgusted by your look and you will still need to approach her.
      You don't need to be an extravert to start a conversation you just need some creativity to find an excuse aka "pickup line".

    • @SwordWieldingDuck
      @SwordWieldingDuck Před 2 lety +2

      @@deltaxcd because we don't know how to initiate it. And you can be sure, we tried, and all our attempts did not amount to anything.

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 2 lety

      @@SwordWieldingDuck You understand that sentence "we don't know" means that all you need is just to read instructions ? At this day when you can easily find manual on "brain surgery for dummies" You probably can find some instruction manual on how to talk to men women or whatever else you need.
      If you tried and failed that does not mean you did something wrong with you approach but more likely the person you approached was uninterested or disgusted in you because of your looks or because they were in the wrong mood.

    • @SwordWieldingDuck
      @SwordWieldingDuck Před 2 lety

      @@deltaxcd i tried instuctions. They don't work, simple as that. There is way more things, like body language, that can't be controlled that well without practice, and it is hard to get practice because you can't start conversation in the first place. It is self-feeding problem.

    • @deltaxcd
      @deltaxcd Před 2 lety +1

      @@SwordWieldingDuck so in other words you do know how to initiate conversation after all and you just need some more practice on body language.
      Then why do you say that you cant start conversation if you totally can do that without any problems and did that many times already but just don't get desired results?
      Although practically the only only language you really need is make as much skin contact as possible. You just touch someone "accidentally" all observe if they are pleased and also touch you back or disgusted then decide if you leave them alone or initiate conversation. Same with dating sites if you arrange a meeting with someone you start with a hug. Or when approaching people you can just lightly touch them to get their attention.
      What you say does not really matter that much.

  • @Caktusdud.
    @Caktusdud. Před 3 lety

    I find this useful
    No not for relationships but with socialising in general you can still use these tools without the intention of love

  • @anselpereira5662
    @anselpereira5662 Před 4 lety +1

    I love you just because you showed keanu in this video

  • @proffesormeme4495
    @proffesormeme4495 Před 4 lety +7

    I almost choked myself when i saw the title

  • @rulekop
    @rulekop Před 4 lety +3

    Is an engineer AND plays dota!
    Andy seems like a great person