Are you running out of time? | Mel Robbins
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- čas přidán 16. 03. 2018
- Do you have anxiety about being successful? You're not alone.
When things start to happen for you and you're on a roll in your life, it can be easy to feel like time is passing us by without you realizing it.
That sense of urgency can shoot your emotions straight into the future, where anxiety lives. I’ve come to understand that the warp speed and thoughts about the future can be controlled, and in this video, I share the strategies I use to ground myself and slow. life. down.
This was a great question from a private event with alumni of my Power of You course. It's a big concept that I think so many of us can relate to. Remember, you're in charge and you control the pace!
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Omg she is literally counselling me one on one
she is just awesome never got such inspiration as mel robbins providing to us
This is so true! I just published my first novel and I’m 57. Some super cool opportunities have come up as a result, and I’ve suddenly felt regret that I didn’t do this sooner...but it’s ok. “Jump on board and go for it” is my new motto, along with the 5 second rule of course, Thanks Mel...that “stupid” rule (as you say) changed my way of thinking!
Hi TeriGigi, Congratulations on publishing your novel. I'm 55 and I just published my first novel last month, and it's a great feeling. And I've been surprised at how happy and confident I feel talking about my novel, compared with other things (like my business) - I was on the radio yesterday live, and when I listened to the recording I sound so positive and enthusiastic. Like you, I'm questioning why I didn't do it sooner, but I'm glad I haven't put it off any longer! What is your novel called TeriGigi - I'd like to buy a copy? I want to support other 50+ first time authors!
Congratulations on your first novel! Mine is called Marie Antoinette and The Hidden Door of Versailles. What is your title? That is so great that you got a radio interview! I was interviewed on an author's You Tube channel if you want to check it out. The channel is The Daily Connoisseur and it's called "TeriGigi + Jennifer L. Scott Interview."
I know what you mean...I can be so confident talking about my book because I believe in it. But then my inner voice tells me to shut up...I've learned to ignore my inner critic...it's more fun that way! 💜
Hi Teri, your book sounds fantastic. I've just downloaded it on Kindle and will leave a review once I've read it. And I've just watched your online chat with Jennifer L Scott, that was so good. I'm excited for you writing your next book too - you sound so hyped and excited about it. It's just great! Yes, I'm learning to ignore my inner critic too - after all, some people will like our books and some won't, but as long as we like them, that's all that matters (or at least that's what I think). Although it is nice when other people enjoy them too! I was really interested to see you have a CZcams channel too, I watched a couple of your videos. I've been mulling over the idea of setting up a channel for book reviews, new authors etc. I planned on calling it 'Scribbling Saturdays' - I might just go for it. Like you, I'd rather just talk than have to write blog posts (I write bids and tenders for a living so don't need anything else to write!) This is a link to my radio interview: soundcloud.com/bishopfm/deborah-oxberry - it was on our local radio station, I'm in the UK near Durham. My novel is called 'Hurt and Revenge'. It must be great to relive your teenage years in your new book. A friend of mine, Rosemary Blake, is writing a series of books about strong women, also set in the 70s. Her first novella is 'The Boatman's Daughter' and she's nearly ready to publish the second one in the series, Brioche. Best of luck with your books, and I'll post a review once I've read it - can't wait! Best wishes, Deborah
I just downloaded your's too! Let's continue this on email. terigigi@yahoo.com. Thanks!
Congrats. Age is just a number. 🙌
I think the reason for it is that we compare ourselves with others on our age without knowing exactly what's going on the background and the social media makes things even worse, highlighting only the successful people without showing 90% that fail and the failures of the successful ones. Be gentle to yourself. Give your best and keep going and know that you are trying.
My biggest worry is that I’m at this age with no achievements yet
Join the club
same here
Same here
Whats ur age
@@taetaeiamagoodboy3649 hey fellow ARMY 💜 late twenties 😂
My birthday was yesterday and this was the first thing I thought of 😢 i was sooooooo depressed
Omg Im turning 31 soon and I feel like life can pass us by so quickly and we have to take advantage of every moment! This video turned up on my feed in divine timing! Thank you ❤
Maz Dela Cerna im 32 and i feel depressed and old
When you're 54 or 64 or 74 you will think that 32 was so young still
@@mariovasquez7672 I'm 37 and living a FULL life. I might even say that I have already lived 2-3 lives.
I'm pretty sure I will get to 100 easily. So I still have 63 years of awesomeness ahead ;)
im 12 and im already having a panic attack everyday because of this.
Think about how lucky you are to have an awareness of this I knew nothing about when I was 12
Sorry you are feeling this so long. Learn about Emotional Freedom Technique it could change your world. If you like talks, you could watch Peta Stapleton’S TED talk as an introduction.
Be proud you have this self awareness 🤗 that’s amazing about you! Keep trying to work it out and never give up on your self improvement 🤗
I meant “so young” not long
Same
Take care
Gratitude helps me move forward and stay calm. It is my go to thought process if I start over-thinking.
As you say it so well be in the moment... I used to be overwhelmed by the future and the thoughts that I hadn't accomplished so much yet...
I am 43 years and I am ready ... never to late.
i am 29, i feel like my time is running out.. i don't know what to do..
@@pinkbowzntoes017 You'll feel that way at 29, 39, 49... that's life
@@myenemysenemy1043 I'm only 31 but i'm still undecided in what career should i get. i already passed to licensure examination for teachers. but still i don't know if i want to be a teacher
I look forward to hearing from you every single day Mel. Ty 😊
I’m 22 and haven’t done the normal stuff that teenagers do when they in their teens and so when I reached my 20’s I decided to become more opened. However since the pandemic, I felt fine for the first part and now I feel so scared that I’m running out of time because of the pandemic. Like I want to do all the things I want to do but I feel like I’m running out of time like I need to get things done in my 20’s. Even though my life is only starting, I feel like I have no time.
This is me and I’m 23 years old
@@rogineadixon it’s so weird that you commented on this because I have such a different perspective on life to when I wrote this comment. I actually accepted that things take its time and it must happen on its own. I’ve learnt from the time I wrote this comment to now that I can’t force things to happen and my life has completely changed for the better. I’m so much happier now. I’m also 23 😭🙈
@@heretogetupdated6199 that’s one of the things I realized as well. But the anxiety still come and goes
@@rogineadixon yeah it will but I think once you truly accept it, the anxiety wont be there. Because I was exactly like that with the anxiety and I thought I was over it but I wasn’t 😭
@@heretogetupdated6199 I look forward to being anxietyless
Thank you so much for this video!!! Thank you...Right at this present moment in the last couple of weeks I have such a high anxiety everyday with panic attacks about running out of time to do all that I want to accomplish and experience. I have been sick physically and mentally in a depression for 25 years. And with therapy and your help in the videos and content you put out there, I have gotten pass my dark days, but left with this "days are too short" feeling. Really cant thank you enough...
Mel, I love the Five Second Rule. I used it to leave a bad job and realized how much I had actually been using it prior to that. I wish I could tell you how much your advice has helped me in life.
I'm a 64yof... thank you. I can volunteer now that I have my car back after 8 long yrs. ! I used to volunteer on the suicide hot line at home... ( that helped a lot ,now I can do more!!! Blessings to you and yours.
Have some great holidays. Saw your husband on today's show ( all men ) 11-22-19. What a awesome gentleman.
Its like LOA. Everytime i need motivation for my everyday problem, Mel Robbins often shows up on you tube and discussing on the problem that i have like right now ... thank you, Mel 😊
Wow. This is EXACTLY what I needed RIGHT now!!! Mel is the BEST!!! Thank you SO much!!! I have a horrible tendency to overthink. Then I get SO overwhelmed that I become completely drained of mental and physical energy which results in a paralysis... I need to get a grip and move forward. JUST DO IT! I'm about to turn 53...
I started going through this when I turned 50.
Hey Mel, I'm from Colombia. Thank you for everything you've done to get the knowledge of what you teach us. I hope soon i can buy the book and the kick ass, audible. As soon as i started watching your videos, i felt so good, and wanted to start working on me and the life i want. I'm going to stay tuned. Thanks again!
I am 51 and can totally relate! I have so many unrealised goals and dreams. I have done mist if what I aspired to but not at the level I want. I want to go to the next level...but I feel so stuck......I was thinking this morning when my 2 year old granddaughter climbed onto my lap and my heart vfilled with gratitude and live..I relished the moment ...later as I looked for utube meditations I discovered this video. Spot on
Love uuu big hugs to u
Wow, a comment section full of people all going through the exact same thing as me. Feels good to know that I'm not alone.
No u r definitely not alonee xx
I think I had to listen 7 times to that part of the gap (4:30) before I understood it, haha! I'm 26, I have an engineering degree, I have worked two finance jobs in big corporations that I hated. I have a passion for writing/singing and producing music. I'm left my job to live with my parents and now I'm trying to get this music thing off the ground. It's really hard because I don't have anyone who can help me in that business, so I'm doubting my decision all the time. My friends are starting to buy houses, settle, start a family... However, my gut feeling tells me that this is the right thing to do. I listen a lot to you Mel! Your insights keep me from quitting! Thanks!
This video is so much at the perfect moment.
Being 23 and just preparing for the "real" life after university I also feel like I have not enough time left. I live in the present, I do things that interest me and I love my life, but there's so much I'm trying to do at once not to waste any week or day for last few years.
This video made me 5-4-3-2-1 and put down in here the question I am struggling to find an answer to. How do I know if I'm tired or overworked? Or depressed? Or just being lazy and should 5-4-3-2-1 and go back to work? It all looks the same: lying down and wathing youtube or reading books, or just sleeping.
Thank you for all the motivation and wisdom you share with people around the world.
bless you Anna your'e just at the beginning.... :)
Mel Robbins is instantly effective ,with clarity. She puts real meaning to the phrase; it hits home.
I love the way to you expose the true about
to stay present. Stop thinking start meditating.
Thanks Mel you could'nt say it any better. Your 5 second rule really works. 🙌
Livin in the gap.
So profound!
Thank you for another great video!
Back to Spring Cleaning...
My feeling of running out of time is a little different because there are things I want to do and I don't feel like I have enough time do them. I'm 36 and don't have anything to show for my life and it does feel like time is running out and that's anxiety causing.
Life is about being of Service and helping others, it is not about acquiring things, I bet if you reflected on your life you would see that you have impacted many people in positive ways, Success is not measured by wealth but by the lives you touch, by the difference you make to them x
@@walkwithme4975 ohkk i m taking a screen shot xx
Your explaination about the confidence was amazing in one of the video. It really helped me, I remember I was giving a presentation and my heart was pounding... I recalled what u said about building a competency and I rocked the presentation. Thank you for changing my thought process.
Your videos have blessed me and I have used your tips. Thank you
Yes agreed ive only felt like this since things have been going well and Im kicking goals. You explained it perfectly 👌
very helpful,,,,,i hate flying,in fact i have not flown since 1987,, i was in a helicopter crash, and walked away,,,but,,,,i think no matter what,,,i will never fly agian, but this is great advice and help for other areas for me,,
Love this! Also, can you make a video about how to not care what other people think of you? Your advice and speeches are helping me so much in life and already I've been so much happier, so thank you thank you!! But I still can't stop thinking "but what will *they* think if I do this..." and I can't figure out how to stop. :/ thank you again for all your advice so far, you're brilliant.
My LIFE is f..... Gift. love IT. You are good Robin.
You can free yourself from anxiety! I love her so much but I wish she hadn’t said that really, There are various modalities to help clear anxiety and clear these unwanted thoughts, EFT is one of them and it’s scientifically proven to work now too. You can watch Peta Stapleton’s TED talk if you want to learn more!
Love you Mel and all that you are doing!
Where have you been all my life Mel? Thank you. I usually create content and interact live, but I’m focused on watching and learning right now - which lead me to your channel. Can’t believe you were in my town last month! Have to get your book. This topic is my only weakness! JK, but I know it can be solved now!
Just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much!
thank you much! I needed this today. You are amazing.
Thank you Mel, You are the best xxx
I haven't even started yet, but I see MEL and I think...ok, let's do this. ❤
Feeling like this is a gift and a curse. When I feel like this, it makes me work 10x harder. Makes me wanna take advantage of every minute and every day. But it’s also the reason why I can’t sleep. Even when I try to close my eyes my mind starts racing and I start thinking about all the things I wanna achieve before I die. Sometimes I start doubting myself. Sometimes I get disappointed at myself when I look at others around me succeeding. I’m 20 and I feel like time is running out, Idk why I’ve been feeling like this. I’m literally at work right now and somethin made me wanna search up “why do I feel like time is running out?” I’m just confused. Looking at the comments made me feel a bit better cause now I know I’m not the only one who feels like this.
Meditation helps with that 5 second rule. When I started meditating I realized that I have other options not just the first one that pops into my head. One example is when I feel anxious. I calm down realize it’s going to pass and I don’t have to become anxious. I can feel it but I don’t have to become it. And I can make that feeling as distant as I want it to be. As long as you don’t ignore the feeling.
Thankx so much Mel!!! Gr8 advice
many thanks for your wisdom!
Thanks.
Wow. THANK YOU Mel
Mind the gap. Love it
"Your life is a f*****g gift." - Mel Robbins
Omg the nail on the head ...
One of the best things I've heard
Still binging on your videos and your backround... lawyer, well, well. You go girl.
Btw Love the 5 second rule!! Peace
Thank you !
thank you so much...
Would love to be able to come see one of your trainings!!
Thank you 😀❤
LOVE THE OUTFIT, THAT WOULD BE MY IDEAL OUTFIT.
Do you have vídeos with Spanish subtitles, I understand everything but I want to share them with family and friends that only speak Spanish... or maybe I could put subtitles and upload them, but I don’t know if that would be a problem with copyright or something... 😱 many Spanish speakers might need all of your great videos 💜
life happens in that gap. that is so true. all you need is to handle that 5 seconds
Hi Mel Robbins im renilda from philippines ..so wow with this..
It is thought which weakens resolution and results in inaction.
social medias magnified the need to be somebody
Love u so so much mel from india
Outstanding! I am also 49😊
I'm marching out of time, trying not to speak out of turn, that's all I can be sure of.
1 year of miserable work and now im in danger of getting VSS and im out of time. Because most high skill work fades almost completely
5 Sec Rule ..... the gap is important .... Thank You Mel :)
What do I tell my son who has been told he’ll be lucky if he lives a decade? He’s 20 and has untreatable cancer. No major symptoms yet, 2 surgeries so far.
Mel that gap was covered by Stephen Covey between stimulus and response is the time to choose that response! 7 habits
John Crichton That's right :) and Covey based it on Victor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning, a great book - a psychiatrist's chronicle of the deathcamp in Auschwitz
its very true
This Started for me... 1st day of elementary school...
I would like to just point out that another version of 5-second rule is 3-second rule which was invented by PUA Industry way back which explained the same thing. Other than that , great video.
Word...
Divine mel
I'm 18 and feeling this way a lot. It sucks. I'm so so so lost.
... and meditation/practicing stillness is like the bridge of the gap.. it’s like the GodGap I call it and the more we meditate the bigger the gap becomes ie the bigger our state of stillness becomes and in that state of being we begin to understand the ‘momentum’ which is life. We understand how we are all just momentum - and when we’re ‘in life’ practicing our state and we go back n forth in and out of it; into life then something happens and we’re all of a sudden pissed off and have to come back to our state (5,4,3,2,1) breathe and in the remembrance of it, we go back to our ‘state’ - slow it down.. in this sense we start to realise that this is all there is, we live, we die and that’s it. At that realisation we start to shit ourselves thinking we’re never gonna do all we want to do and we’ve wasted so much time! So that momentum then starts to push us to the ‘fuck it’ stage and we just head on into ALL the stuff we wanna do. We realise we are way more powerful than our mind, we are not our mind or our emotions we are way bigger than that.. Mel you’re awesome can we do a podcast?! ☺️
❤️❤️❤️
Almost pretty much immediately I feel like I have no time left when I hit 50 - I will be 51 in 2 months - it’s an anxiety I never expected to have. It is not a good feeling.
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hmm...if it would end right now I would be disappointed that I am still working more or less full time. Maybe thats an answer?
actually, i am going timeout. I am 30 years old. need to change my path with one-year online experice and online learning things like that. is that possible or any way to get a start
Soo its been 2years now did u achieve wht u thought??
That 5 second gap for me also means on opposite sides: "lizard brain" like Seth Godin explains and on the other side: "infinite amouts of peace in the present moment" its the ying and yang of bending reality.
This is not true you're called to do several things throughout the years and maybe the quiet was Your growth time. Maybe the quiet doing something to get to the next level so I disagree everything has a purpose and it's time. 
it is intention, niat
I am running out of time and don't know what to do. No motivation at all. 😢
U urself r a motivation to u....choose wht u really want to do....u have survived in ur life till today then...badass broo...today itself is a big achievement....we all go thru such harsh time in our lives...so its okay u will be better i m sure....i will suggest u to re think and start again with full enthusiasm.....xx
Im so unmotivated its not funny...I purchased the 5 sec. journal 2 months ago and still have not used it.......I've come close but can't get with the program.
Adele you can always use 5 Second rule in situations like these.
You need to understand why....why aren’t you motivated? If you start to journal just once, it is a beginning. The purpose of a journal is too mind dump, both positive and negative. Good luck! Took me 53 years to start. I have been journaling for 4 years.....feels great
Adele, your struggle stinks and i know it all too well because it's something I used to struggle with. You can change it! I hope you find this CZcams video helpful ... melrobbins.com/why-motivation-is-garbage/ xo
Thanks Mel !!! Your motivational reply definitely lit a fire under me!!!
I Just want to let you know how much you've helped open up new ideas and possibilities...and thank you again for reaching out and giving me a lil kick in the butt. It will definetely make me think twice the next time I fall into a rut...Im using my 5 sec journal and of course 5-4-3-2-1 whenever I need a push....woooohoooooo.......Thank You👍
THE little tidbit every person over forty needs to think about.
who says it's 5 sec. to react..
To make it worse my mom half joking 🙃 (which i know is not a joke at all) said oh no my daughter will die allllone ( I’m 28 and not in a relationship/married yet)
>oooooooooooooooooo[oooooo
Wrong
Why are u using vulgar language mam?
The message is way more important that what you consider "swear words"
I think you swear too much.
The cussing is very non professional. I'm trying to stop cussing myself, it's hard but I don't appreciate it from a mentor.
It doesn't seem to be hurting her so far. Mel's real and no one is forcing you to be mentored by her. There are more important things to worry about than the odd curse word. Take what helps you and discard the rest.
The cursing is terrible, I can not show this to my kids...