How To Speak And Sound Like A Gentleman - Gentleman's Gazette
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00:00 Introduction
In a nutshell, we believe that being a gentleman is an aspiration that every man can achieve. In this day and age, it doesn't have anything to do with position, wealth or influence. How you speak and sound is something that's within your control and you can change it and perfect it even on a very low budget. If you're watching this video chances are you know that there are areas where you can improve and I'll share the areas where I think I should get better with you along the way.
00:52 So what are my tips to sound like a gentleman?
First, as just you seek out the person whose speech you admire and that you can analyze and emulate. That being said, public speaking and presenting are very different from conversational speech. For example, here on CZcams, I have to talk a lot faster than in person otherwise you would fall asleep. Also, public speech is often scripted or practiced and hence it's very different from conversational speech. It all starts with the tone. The most warmly intended words can sound very cold if presented with the wrong tone. At the same time, kind words may sound threatening simply by the way you modulate your voice.
Apart from your volume and your tone, proper pronunciation is paramount. It sounds basic but there's a large number of words that we often mispronounced.
A hallmark of a good education, upbringing and learning ability is to have a large vocabulary. When you hear a word you don't know I suggest to keep it in mind and look it up in a dictionary afterwards even if you can kind of guess what it means from the context.
If I look back at my videos, there definitely somewhere I have used the word "dapper" a lot in one video and I bet there are some people who will know which videos I'm talking about. Because if you're very repetitive with your words, people will keep it in mind and it has a negative connotation.
05:16 Few Rules to Sound like a Gent
One, do not use run-on sentences. Finish the sentence and the thought.
Two, don't insert different thoughts in the middle of a sentence. It just complicates matters and listeners won't really be able to follow you.
Three, finish your train of thought and come to an end.
A good conversationalist will always have a well-flowing discussion. They will stay on one topic and then naturally progress to the next one because there's a connection point.
Sometimes speaking like a gentleman includes avoiding certain words or things.
First of all, it's wise to not use superlatives unless you truly want to describe something that is over-the-top.
In the same vein, proclaiming something as being the best or the best in the world particularly if it's related to something you do is simply a display of ego and nothing more.
08:02 Interrupting with a Caveat
Another aspect that can be perceived as being very impolite
Speaking like a gentleman also means to avoid filler words. Uhm, uh or like are all words you better not use.
A gentleman will never swear excessively in a conversation. Let's be honest, we all swear sometimes. Even though not so much on CZcams, but sometimes even filming when I'm frustrated with something or from disappointment.
11:02 Sarcasm
Personally, I'm a sarcastic person. However, if I'm meeting new people and they don't know me I stay clear of it because they won't be able to understand what I really mean and they may take what I say for face value which couldn't be further from the truth or my opinions.
12:12 Outfit Rundown
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My father brought me up as a gentleman here in the UK, then I spent 20 years rebelling, only to find myself again. A lot of things he told me you mention in this video. Not using superlatives, correct pronunciation, not interrupting, speaking clearly. He only bought his clothes from Oxford St in London. He would have enjoyed this channel.
i wanna like this comment but its at 69 likes
Arib rather simple a joke wasn't it?
You are so lucky you had a dad like that
@@akuaku3496 In my experience, there's no shut thing as 'luck'.
@@andrewmccloud8581
shut the up man know one cares why would you have to say that 🙄 there’s allways that one person aka you that has had (all the experiences and is so wise about everything)
The Japanese decline a request by saying "that would be difficult", instead of saying "no"; very diplomatic and polite.
The subject ego is displaced to permit one to talk about oneself in the third person. It is very humbling in a shame-based culture. Western societies are usually guilt-based.
I never once heard someone simply say "no" when asked for a favour, unless its a child talking to their parents, people usually say sorry then briefly explain why they can't.
Hmmm, well I understand, within the context of culture, however I personally think to view this as polite and diplomatic is itself a western-centric p.o.v. because surely if you are Japanese, and you know it just means 'no', then it would be no more or less polite. ( An example being the English ' sorry'. We say it, when we hardly ever mean it). Secondly, isn't it more congruent and straightforward to say what you mean? Again, this is my English p.o.v.
UltimateBargains the Japanese are a pack of sandal wearing goldfish tenders
"No worries bro! I can make it easier for you by...."
The rules according to me (psychiatric nurse): 1) Eliminate profanity from your vocabulary, even in the company of other men. 2) Look at the person you are speaking to -- don't look down or away. 3) Use good diction. Speak clearly without slurring. 4) Suit your tone to the environment. When upset, concentrate to stay calm and use a normal or even a gentle tone of voice. 5) Do not invade people's personal space, or touch them without permission -- just ask if you can give a hug. The advice here is also good.
Mary Cahill ‘Eliminate’ profanity?
@@salazam Please don’t be sexist here. Try yelling and swearing in your boss’s face and good luck with that 😂
But punching your mate in the shoulder is fine right?
@@prapanthebachelorette6803me n my boss yell n swear at each other so wut now?
When in doubt, say nothing.
This tip about superlatives was the best thing I ever heard ever! The most amazing conversation tip in the whole world!!!
Ha LOL
This is the best comment I’ve ever seen!
Best comment in the world!
How to steal like a gentleman: Be a politician.
The most veracious statement nowadays.
Good sarcasm :)
хахаха. Я даже знаю кто самый главный "джентльмен" в России
Haha funi
Boom 🤯🤣
What a display of self-awareness with the "dapper" reference. You do a great job, Raphael.
Just end all of your sentences with "old sport" 😉
I'll say.
Oh but mr Gatsby... 🤣
love that movie
Dave?
@@calintoma5472 you'll be there one day old sport 😉
TAAAALKING AND LAUGHING TOO LOUDLY IS JUST OBNOXIOUS AND YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT
Tommy Noble Quite so, rather like using all capital letters😋
I'll go and fetch My sewing kit. 😂
Mostly if i get loud its not intetionally. I only get carried away.
Swedes should be safe here😂 south europeans have said to me that it sounds like i’m whispering.... when i think i speak loud...
I do all of this things
Hello my fine gentleman I'm very pleased to be watching this .
The “don’t flex on your new vocabulary too soon” part is perfectly spot on. Not only for the risk that you might get it wrong, but also knowing direct translation from the dictionary without in-depth understanding of the cultural context can turn things sour in some cases. One time we were talking in German about our summer camp experience and someone use the word Lager, I was horrified and had to explain what the word really meant
I always had a problem using love or hate with ordinary things. These are powerful words, Thank you for explaining it.
@@salazamthat escalated quickly
Yes. Excessive swearing makes it lose its luster. I typically only do it when I’m disappointed, or angry, or sometimes to make a point. The point gets lost if I’m constantly dropping the f bomb.
Cursing is the hallmark of a weak mind attempting to express itself powerfuly.
@@johnprovince5304 for me it is a sign of frustrated mind trying to get across an idea to a feeble minded people who take too long to comprehend your words.
I mean, what the (expletive) am I gonna do with these (expletive) cuss words if I can't (expletive) use them every five (expletive) seconds?
Depends on culture and context as well
Nowadays swearing seems to be trendy especially amongst younger people and in arguments it proves and shows extreme inferiority in formulating phrases during civilised debated.
About vocabulary: the very best thing is to not oly have a large vocabulary but to have it in multiple languages. English speakers are most often monolingual and if that is you I urge you: learn another language. It will change your life. No kidding, a new language is not a list of alternative words, it's a different world view. Learning languages can be done at any age, I learned a new language in my fifties. I now speak four at a fluent or near fluent level. Again: it will change your life.
I agree! I speak 7 languages and counting 😊
I like to believe that my articulation is well enough, but I always try to educate myself and you have taught me a good deal. A young gentleman in the making.
I was born in Scotland and now live in Australia. One of the first things I noticed when I moved was everyone said like, all the time. E.g. 'So like I was going down to the shops and like there was my friend there and we were like OMG i like haven't seen you in like for ever.'
Too many bogans
If gentleman’s gazette had an app, I would download it.
S Tra Yes
@S Tra why would you even think this way?
That is a great idea!
Well that F-bomb was unexpected.
I burst out laughing.
He must have heard me talking
@@Karen-gh8gv Likewise
Well, I guess it proves his point that it ruins your image
Haha
Extremely useful for people who don’t speak in a proper way.
Steven Crane Hahah, Perhaps you should start with yourself, for example: try use ‘correctly’ instead of ‘proper way’
Martin Sophroniisccus Well,take that as a sarcastic useage;)
It is interesting how no two videos of yours are ever the same. Every one teaches me something different!
People screaming in restaurants gets me. So rude. Even my Philippino priest screams during his homily. It turns parishioners off. It's like he's yelling at us.
You and Tracy Hensel are literally my weekly re-education on what are classy men and women from top to bottom and I so appreciate it. I cannot stop watching your videos, Sven! Even though I am a woman I feel that it is just as important to know many of these things as men do. When I was young, nobody taught me these things. So I had no understanding on what is a lady, or what is a gentleman. It's always refreshing to my mind to learn about these topics especially if I can pass them on to younger generations. Unfortunately your description of the 3 yr old boy saying the F-word because of his parents influence is all too true, and I don't want to be one of those parents. I want to raise a respectable boy, and a ladylike daughter, and I like to think that is what I am striving to help achieve today with my children.
Background sound was so pleasant it blends so flawlessly. And yes video was to the point as always
Great topic. Style is more than clothing and shoes, and I appreciate you for fresh topics that help us to better present ourselves.
Man...I watched some videos from some other channels and wow! You put them all to shame in every category: style, class, and polished, edited videos. Thank you for your attention to detail!
I’m so glad I started watching your videos - it’s been of great help to run my business. Thank You 🙏
Some one once described the over use of swear or curse words as adult stuttering. At the
time, I thought that was an interesting and rather apt observation. Thank you for touching on that subject.
Awesome video and tips Sven Raphael! Thank you so much. Most of your points were very familiar but it sure helps to hear them again and with other words. Thanks again!
Reviewbrah and your fine self are the most gentlemanly youtubers I am aware of. A splendid example to us all.
Sven and Reviewbrah are awesome
Thank you for this video. I appreciate your Channel.
Love this video. You make it very clear that it isn't just about using fancy words in order to be a gentlemen. I must say at 1:40 I laughed immediately when you raised your voice.
You should create an instagram with just your looks for inspiration!
True, we could add that to our existing one
What your Instagram?
I prefer metalhead or both. 😎⚰
He doesn’t have good looks so that wouldn’t work.
@@kotabathory8026 i'd like to see your face.
Excellent points and well delivered. Thanks.
My old Headmaster used to say open up the dictionary at a random page, pick a word with your eyes shut and if it isn't one you know learn what it means and how to pronounce it. Then use it 5 times during that day. Do the same thing every day over the course of a year and you will have expanded your vocabulary by 365 words.
g13flat - Excellent advice! May I assume that you were at school in Britain? If you wouldn’t mind my asking, how long ago was that? Also, approximately how old would your headmaster have been at the time? Apologies for the flurry of questions - I’m not inquiring out of bland curiosity; as an educator, I just wanted to put the paedagogical method into chronological context.
I’ve always really admired is people that have a big vocabulary and just know how to spice up certain words to make conversations more interesting. I have a small European auto shop that I own with my business partner. Quite a blue-collar environment. But my clients range from real estate professionals to lawyers and doctors and dentists to local college students and everyone in between. So naturally I get to converse with people of all backgrounds. Also people from each of those groups I considered to be my really good clients and it’s always refreshing to hear higher intellectual vocabulary out of people my age, in early 20s mid 20s etc. The subject matter is of course always about cars but it’s nice when I get to know a thing or two about the personal lives of the people whose cars I repair.
This is excactly what i've been wanting to see, something as useful as this is often not found at home, thus this helped me.
I didn't have parents either.
Greetings from Brazil!!! Thank you for the excellent video.
It's enjoyable watch a video about good speaking habits in a positive manor.Your channel has excellent and useful content for the modern gentleman.Best wishes!
Another great video! Thanks for posting!
Very well done Sir!
I love your advice about changing the subject and word salads! Very useful to remember!
I am 16 and growing up in a age where people spend 1000 USD on a box logo shirt after watching your video I would rather spend that money on a nice pair of Italian leather shoes and maybe more. Thank you for making a statement for all gentlemen across the world coming from Atlanta Georgia USA.
And reading your comments people are so stereotypical "Americans always do this, all Americans do that" not all of us are some trump voting loud speaking in proper country people but that is my opinion others have theirs I'm sure.
You are doing a great job
Please keep on sharing more💗💗
I should have subscribed to this channel long back. I was doing so much wrong my whole life. Thank u sir! :)
doing wrong is part of evolving and learning, you can not get better and become a better person if you don't do anything wrong. also a person who never done anything wrong (or think he / she dont) has an Ego bigger then the universe which is also not something to aim for
a very helpful video. Thank you
Very informative and helpful
A style that never goes old.🙂
Besides the quality and pertinence of the video (spot on), the outfit is beautiful. I love the effect of matching trousers and vest and an odd jacket, too few other people do that - most commonly they match the tops and wear odd trousers.
Thanks a lot Sir, this really helped me.
Thank you for these suggestions. I have a couple of things to work on!
Excellent job Sir. I agree with your video n think most young men would benefit from taking note of it. Some older men also.
Thank you this was great insight
and gotta say, that painting in the background is beautiful!
Ah, you must enjoy seriously horsing around (e.g., dressage) or riding to hounds? Or perhaps you're an aspiring Mr Darcy or Mr Bingley?
You should make a video on what you would do if you went to get a bespoke suit. Basically how YOU would interact with the tailor, for example: What questions you would ask? How you would explain the type of style, fabric, color, fit, etc? Basically after watching your video, I can go to a tailor tomorrow and get a bespoke suit done with confidence. THANK YOU! You know so much and I really believe this can help a lot of people.
Thank you, Sir.
I was just challenging myself, “How could a Brazilian man ever speak or behave as a gentleman?” and then I hear in this video about your [partially] Brazilian upbringing... Just to make myself clear, I’m from Brazil and the most formal (ah the superlative) environment I have had contact in my life is a Board of executives.Well, every journey starts with the first step! Thanks for your videos!
Loving your videos.
I giving my likes, and comment as support to this kind of video.. hope to see more video like this.. good job sir.. we love it
The starter pack is a soft voice and a British accent ;) 🎩👌🏻
Hi from Brazil!
Perfect vídeo.
It is hard to be sarcastic in America. People get offended when you say Merry Christmas
y?
@@Kuro-ef8kn to support minority Muslim in America if you say merry Christmas liberals Wil say you as racist like in India if you say happy Diwali you're racist
@@yathishb7954 That's bigotry
Unlucky, burger
@@Kuro-ef8kn liberals
I love your tie
Thank you very much Sir
Great video sir
Excellent!
Well, today is a first for me. A German says listening to Americans speak is “menacing.” Menacing.
Meanwhile, ordering flowers for your wife in german sounds like you’re ordering an air strike.
Uhm, have you listened to a regular non-WWII-SS-Gestapo-German recently? I think not.
But to explain: in Germany anyone speaking above a certain volume without need (like when you're in a noisy environment) appears to be aggressive in one way or another. It's not that Americans do sound "menacing" because they're Americans or because of the language, but solely because, for our ears and custom, they are often waaay too loud. Same goes for arabic people. Although here the language itself probably contributes to the feeling of being threatened.
This reminds me of those Americans who mispronounce the German "I love you" (Ich liebe dich) as "Ick libbuh dick" and then say German sounds awful.
BlackAdder665 Juuuuuust got back from a work sponsored trip to..... Germany. It’s an Internet Comment bro, don’t take it too seriously.
Jawoll , alles klar.
This is just awful. Let's keep the party polite, and the song goes. The subject is manners, not world politics.
Those shoes are the cat's meow! Very nice!
Well done, sir!
I like the point on pronunciation. It doesn't even need to concern complicated or rarely used words - but properly pronouncing everyday words actually gives me a better impression of others.
The most widely mispronounced words I've heard in English tend to be 'February', 'sixth' and, in the south of the US, 'ask'. Pronouncing these words correctly always gives me a more positive impression of someone.
Great video sir.
Actions speak much louder than words.. vocabulary is key.. half of the converse if the words are chosen selectivly.and always put the other person first. .a firm handshake is paramount too.
Love this video...oh no, I enjoy this video. Subscribed.😀
I will meet you at menfluential 2020 for sure . Thanks for inspiring me so much.
I do love me some well placed banter.
Here in the US we do LOVE to exaggerate. It is very common here. I never thought it would be annoying to anyone listening. I myself can't help it.
Good tips in this video!
These advices are lifetime ones
Don't turn the words of other people around. If I'm talking to my German teacher, she always answers to something very different than my question. Then she just keeps on talking. That's why I don't like talking to her anymore.
patrick henry no, but I just had a talk with her. Horrible
3:48- 3:42. Oh. My. . . . Spot on brother!
Excellent! Here in staten island NY----young adult men-, speak curse words +sound like they were in work release program. Seven-hour.+
When I speak in a public forum, I tend to address an item in threes, similar to Dr. King, but my cadence and inflection is that of Ralston Hill, playing Charles Thompson in "1776". In private, I can be too boisterous out of passion for my subject, but when I speak calmly, I tend to a more ... hmmm ... British movie villain? ... approach. Otherwise, I simply speak perky, and happily to everyone, and try to communicate a few words in whatever language is their mother tongue, if I can. It appears to put older folk at ease, that you might know something of their culture.
But that's just me.
Hi can you please make a video on proper etiquette during business meetings when you are being introduced to people you do not know in relation to sales?
This will be helpful because i have a strong accent and people always judge me on my NYC accet when i am not in NYC.
I dont want it to hinder my closing. And i feel it does at times.
For once I agree with you completely. All true and well observed and worthy of being followed.
One little suggestion though: a more even flow of articulation might be experienced as more pleasant than speaking fast for a few words, then making a break, then proceding fast again followed by yet another pause, as if you were in a stop-and-go traffic jam. However, that might be what you usually do since you mentioned you would speak faster on CZcams than in normal life.
Excellent point re sarcasm. A huge foilble of mine.
Hey Raphael, think you could do a video on Moleskin trousers? I know you did Corduroy but I've heard Moleskin is a similar item but can find little to no information on CZcams. Won't really expect anything till the colder months come back as it's more suited for that season, but a response would be appreciated in the mean time.
I love this video
Changing the subject abruptly is a good way to deflect from an awkward conversation .
As a Japanese, I somehow hesitate to say something like "I love ice cream" even when speaking English. I'm glad to hear that typical gentlemen have the same sense with mine.
You are the best men’s style channel, IN THE WORLD
Well said...
Upon this grand film i now comprehend the great infinites, I am now a humble poet, you have forever changed the universe in its greatness with this simple video. Humbly, it is great. Now shalst i conquer this galaxy, with your help, I thank.
Anyway nice video
Don't you know that I surely subscribed
U r a true gentleman
I’m a teacher. I found this video perfect to share with my students. To the boys, gentleman, I model how to treat the girls, ladies. It brings me joy when a little gentleman runs up to me to share how he was a gentleman to a lady. Also, I share the tone of a word will change the message’s meaning. Alas, I was going to share the video, with my students’ parents, but there is a swear word in this video. Overall, well done. (When I travel abroad, we, Americans, stick out like a sore thumb. 😆 Except for me, because I like to watch people make fools of themselves, with loud shirts to match their loud voices.)
My favorite video by far, this is by far the most important video to watch on this channel.
Maybe once you do a worth it video on Hermes Ties that video will become my new favorite...........……………………...................
I recognised the two suits combination and the very beginning;)They are so frequently involved into your videos,LOL:)
I like his advice about "word salad." This is great advice for everyone!
Dear Sir,
Very much on the Money with this Information.
Thank You.
great video...thank you sir...cant do brown shoes tho.
This is my favourite video from this channel. I just feel it shouldn't be labeled as gentlemanly but expected or correct.
The Japanese sure knows how to become gentleman with their speech.but really the way we speak speaks loudly about what we are.i really appreciate the above advice and I will use it to my betterment.the narrator is really capable.
Thanks for this Video,
i always find them to be informative and well made.
Is there any possibility to get a Video on Hat etiquette?
we'll put it on the to do list
If so I hope it will take modern practice into account rather than simply being what was traditional a hundred years ago - good modern hat etiquette is very different to what a lot of certain hat enthusiasts promote.