Dealing With Past Sexual Abuse
Vložit
- čas přidán 27. 04. 2022
- Dealing with the aftermath of sexual abuse can be tough. Many people experience a wide range of emotions. It's important to know that you are not alone.
Here at AMAZE, we hear you, we see you, and we are here to help you!
For more info, RAINN provides several important tools:
● National Sexual Assault Hotline (available 24/7): 800-656-HOPE (4673)
● National Sexual Assault Online Hotline (live chat)
● Visit RAINN.org for additional resources tailored for several groups, including Asian, Native Hawaiian, and Pacific Islander survivors; Black survivors; Indigenous survivors; Latinx survivors; LGBTQ survivors; immigrant survivors; male survivors; survivors with disabilities, and more.
-----------------
AMAZE takes the awkward out of sex ed.
Real info in fun, animated videos that give you all the answers you actually want to know about sex, your body and relationships.
Please like, share and subscribe to AMAZE! Follow us on Snap and Insta for more info about puberty and growing up.
Snap: AmazeOrg
Insta: AmazeParents
TikTok: AmazeOrg
amaze.org/
[AMZ-132]
My mom didn't understand and blamed me. Said I was an attention seeker. She already takes my every word with a grain of salt
Hi, I am sorry to hear you experienced this. You deserve to be heard and receive support. Please continue to tell a trusted adult or anyone until you get the help you need. You can also contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-4673) to speak to a trained crisis worker.
Same here.. I was sexually abused though i was 31yrs old, by my so called bro in law. Even after telling my parents, my mom blamed me, putting all kinds of accusations, saying I was interested etc. No one took a stand for me. I feel soo disgusted and frustrated. 😤😔
@@pollytheparrot8929 My mom blame me as well huhu
Same huhu, my mom also blame me for what happened
@@YourMaric So sad to hear.. Anyway, u got to know their true colors.. Better to b away from such people..Stay safe and strong❤🙏
30 year old women crying watching this. I wish I had spoken up
I am so sorry this is happened to you. You’re not alone, and you deserve help and support. Perhaps you could visit RAINN.org to chat with someone or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1(800) 656-HOPE (4673). It's never to late to get help.
You are not alone same age as yours even today i cannot forget
Me either
It happened when I was a teenager 13 y o, gym coach, he was 72 y o, I just ran away
30yr old here too and me too...❤❤❤❤
It’s never to late to report it
I told my Mom and she blamed me for everything, they were several family members who did those things and much more. All my extended family blamed my baby body for what they did starting at when I was 4 years old simply because I was born female. I don't trust my family anymore nor will I ever again.
That's insane 😡 It's never the victims fault, i hope you'll get better and they'll be punished
I am so sorry
You are worthy of the most beautiful love
Be blessed darling ❤
It's not your fault at all I'm so sorry that happened to you and I hope you can recover well all hope you can get better even if it's not today Get well!
No matter what gender you are no one deserves to be sexually abused at all I'm sorry that happened I hope your healing well
BLAME A VICTIM OS SA IS BAD , BUT BLAME A 4 YEAR-OLD VICTIM OF SA IS FVKING WILD. I wish you the best and I hope you will get better and heal ❤
a mom we all deserve
happened to me already
When I told my mom the first thing she asked was "did u like it?" And she said that I was imagining things and that I tempted them
@@I_love_your_mom-v-
Mine too, hm...
I wish I had the courage to tell my mom, but I just can't...
@@DepressedTransTherian me too
"you were only nine or ten years old you didn't know what was happening" i needed to hear that
i appreciate how she didn’t force her to report it against her will
If it was my kid, I would report it no matter what
My parents forced me to report it when I was 10. They took me to the police station and the police questioned me for hours but I didn’t speak to them. I don’t really know why but I just felt like I didn’t even know what happened to me so how was I supposed to explain it to other people. Also I was ashamed. They asked me questions like ”What were you wearing” ”Why did you go with him”. I wish they wouldn’t have forced me to report it.
@@nayeon_5615honestly the “what were you wearing?” questions are stupid. Anyways, I’m sorry that happened to you :( hope u feel better
I can appreciate that too. The alternatives suck. It's much easier without the added stress.
wish my mom had that same response when I told her my story
Same she just told me I was because he liked my body.
Same.. she just laughed
My mom just said "but they said you wouldn't be able to remember!!" then covered her mouth and said "I mean- you probably just imagined it".
Yeah, I don't talk to her anymore.
Wow .. I'm SO sorry oh my lord..we will get through this yk .. stay strong :(
@@Inlovewithseverussnape tysm 💜
😢So sad
i wish i had a mom like that for my situation of what happened
Same
Real
I can be the mom-
My mom just said that I tempted them and that I was imagining things
@@I_love_your_mom-v- Oh no…
It wasn’t your failt
"you were only 9 or 10 years old, you didn't understand what was happening"
I wish someone had said that to me when it happened..
My mom lied and said that’s not what happened, even though I was the one who experienced it. And she said it wasn’t that bad. I wish I had a mom who stood by my side like this.
I’m really sorry for how she treated your situation. There are plenty of others who experience that.
@@someolddude3827I know where you are coming from but please don’t brush it off because it should not happen in the first place. Many have experienced it yes but IT SHOULD NOT HAPPEN
@@Silencer796 he was not trying to brush it off,but was just saying that it's unfortunately very common.
@@promeneuzivotu117 Will you feel better if someone told you that there are many others who experienced like you? No, you would be heartbroken that you and many others forced to experience it!
@@Silencer796 ok but still he was just trying to point out things.
I love how this pops up Like 20 minutes after I just had a melt down thinking about it
Hi, I am so sorry this happened to you. If you ever want to speak to someone there are trained support specialists that you can call at the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-HOPE (4673) or chat with online at Online.RAINN.org.
i guess in a way it was perfect timing
@@amazeorg thank you
Same
İf your mama says this,your lucky (video)
I wish my mom reacted this way with love and understanding. Her response was to just ignore me and never talk to me again.
I had a brother named jayson, and one day he came in the living room and it all went wrong. And that was the day i never forgave him nor talk to him...
Same
Your own brother?! 😭😭😭
I cant believe man these days now a days some women cant go outside to walk at night or even in the morning without worrying about these things
@Adonisius_Kavata yes...my BLOOD r related brother.
@JaedaShorts I agree, it's scary for woman 😢
I love how she has such a close bond with her mom and that she was able to speak up ;)
I wish her mom’s kindness, understanding and not blaming her daughter were more common responses..
I rarely cry watching something, but this was heartbreaking when everyone was laughing no one noticed her silence that says so much..
I love your animation and your drawing style!! Love 🖤
This vid deserves to get viral, this kind of topics need to take more than serious...
Thank you for raising awareness. You can share it with your friends and family.
This made me tear up. I went through the same thing a decade ago and man, I never felt so related. It’s sad that I connect so closely to this but it’s true. Problem is, I don’t know if I should say anything about it. I’m scared to be known as *that* person.
I am sorry to hear this was your experience. It's never too late speak to someone you trust. You could visit RAINN.org to chat with someone or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1(800) 656-HOPE (4673). You deserve the same help.
I remember when I was 12, we were having a VBS thing at our church. I was my first VBS in GA so I was excited. There was a boy there. He’d always stare at me. I didn’t really care at the time, considering that he just might be really observant. He then started to get… touchy. He’d always grab my arm and touch my sides. It made me uncomfortable, but I was afraid. I was afraid of being stern with him. I was afraid that I was actually in the wrong. He’d grope my chest and my body in ways that make me want to vomit my organs out and cry. When I told my parents, I’m so grateful that they understood. But when they asked me why I didn’t tell them, I didn’t respond. I remember when my dad asked me, “Did you not tell us because you were afraid?” I just broke down, sobbing and I nodded my head. As a toddler, I was always crying and complaining about random crap, my parents would tell me that I would be fine and to stop being dramatic. Of course, yea, I was a big dramatic person, but I think all those times left an effect on me. I was afraid that if I’d told my parents, they’d reject me and blame it on me. The days I was in VBS, I usually wore a big T-Shirt and biker/workout shorts, nothing special. I sometimes thought that it was my fault, that maybe it was my fault that somehow, too much of my legs showed or something. I’m glad that my parents took action and protected me.❤
My mother told me it was my fault. I want a mother like the one in the video.
I am not the perfect person, but i understand you. I am with you.
It's not ur fault at all dear. ..Dont believe that bs. . Sorry that u faced such nonsense, and ur mom doesn't deserve u. U need to b far away from such toxic people.. Tc.. 😘❤🙏
Womp Womp
Thanks.. Thank you so much...
I love this, even if it’s a long time ago, I felt so stupid. I still remember those years, I feel like crying so much now.... When I told my friends, They thought it was a joke, when I told my Family members they Shouted and scolded me, when I told my parents, They shouted at me and told me to stop lying. And it continued.. I didn’t know what to do.. I listened what he said, I want to cry so much, I’m happy that I saw this.. And lucky he’s gone now, I don’t want to talk about it, but Thank you so much! ❤❤
I am so sorry you had this experience. Thank you for sharing your story. If you want more resources or support you can always head over to www.rainn.org/.
I wish I had a mom like that my mom doesn't believe me
Hi Lilia, I'm sorry to hear that. If you can, continue to tell a trusted adult that you trust until someone believes you. In the meantime, there are trained support specialists that you can call at the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-HOPE (4673) or chat with online at Online.RAINN.org. These specialists can help you come up with a plan to get help. Keep telling adults you trust until you get help. You deserve to be safe.
Im so sorry..
It’s hard sometimes to see representation, and this helps a lot thank you, even if it’s s story I’m glad they got to report him, I wish I got report all the people who did that to me and ofc I’m getting the helped needed even thought I need a new therapist
Hi, sorry to hear that you experienced this. Thank you for sharing and helping to raise awareness for others. Glad you are getting the help you need.
she's so lucky to have someone to have her back like that, my mom was a complete disappointment shoving my confess under the rug after it took me so much courage and time to say it
i was also scared to tell my mom mostly because i didnt want it to be a big deal and i didnt want to run into him after people told him what happened but even after i told her i had to talk to all these people and it really stressed me out a lot and sometimes i kinda wish i never told my mom but if i didnt tell her then i would have to keep seeing him so i was kinda stressed about that as well but im also kinda glad i told my mom.
Yah my mom just told me I tempted them and that I was imagining things
Your content is always so great, but this video in particular is just so relatable. Keep it up!
Thank you so much!
@@amazeorg You are the best. Thank you for driving teens through their days.
I sadly relate to this. It happened this year. Thankfully i knew what had happened to me wasn't right because i have a supportive mom.
I told my grandma she yelled at him but just let it go I used to play with him and I used to love him but after that it wasn't the same every chance I had I hid from him but to this day he still lives with us
I am so sorry you are experiencing this. Sexual assault is not your fault, and you deserve to be safe. Tell someone else, like another relative, teacher or neighbor that you trust. There are trained support specialists that you can call at the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-HOPE (4673) or chat with online at Online.RAINN.org. These specialists can help you come up with a plan to get help. Keep telling adults you trust until you get help. You deserve to be safe.
this would've helped me as a kid. i'm glad its out there
I'm sorry you did not have this resource as a kid and I'm glad you can access it now. Please share it with the young people in your life!
@@amazeorg thank you
when i told my mom she cried with me and told me it wasn't my fault. my dad went ballistic
My heart goes out to everyone in the comments sharing their stories, and to the people who have stories to tell but haven’t shared them in the comments. To everyone reading this, you’re loved and you’re loveable no matter what you may think. You got this, and you’re strong enough to get through every challenge in your way. You got this
Wish I had someone by my side to tell me, It matters, even if it happened long ago.
Wish I could tell my mom.
It matters. I know because i felt it.
I told my parents and they told me if i wanted attention i could just ask (it wasn’t fake it was real it happened for 4 years by my own brother and they made me apologize to him. ME, TO HIM. I’m way too scared to tell anyone else in fear of the same thing happening again.)
If I told my mom I would probably be disowned
It wasn't a big of a deal.. he just made me uncomfortable
He would often touch me in the most despicable ways
I still feel his hands on me until this day :(
Sexual assault IS a big deal. Please find someone supportive to talk to about it. ❤️
I Was Sexually Abused At Age Ten. When I Tell My Parents That I Still Think About It They Tell Me "It Was Years Ago" Im Like "Does That Matter?"
Whether it was long ago or no it will still affect you for your whole life so I hope you’re okay
I never went to mom, she died before I could talk to her and receive love and understanding from her. ❤ Your loved ones will support you not shame you. Go to them ❤
Growing up. Losing my innocence to my cousin when i was 5 while she was around 16 feeling like my body is not mine feeling insecure wanting to rip off my face because i look alike her Losing so much weight cutting my hair so short so that i cant see her in the mirror anymore. I am 15 now and i am still not okay.
My mom never had that courage to speak out, she just ignored all the things like they never happened to me,, yes those things still haunts me..
I am so sorry this is happened to you. We want to make sure you get some help. You tried telling your mom, but it sounds like you will have to find other trusted adults to help you, like another family member, teacher, friend’s parent or neighbor. There are trained support specialists that you can call at the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-HOPE (4673) or chat with online at Online.RAINN.org. These specialists can help you come up with a plan to get help. Keep telling adults you trust until you get help. You deserve to be safe.
Same happened
And she reported but they dropped the case immediately :’)
Yeah.
Because Not enough evidence. also he didn’t rape her so no dna. but it will be his records if happens again
I'm jealous of the sweets they are consuming. Damn it.
Yeah, this thing happened to me like 3 times…I told my mom, my dad and my sis that is a psychologist…but it didn’t work…I really have nightmares about it! I just hate that I am cute and I seem to be innocent! That caused my xenophobia!
Xenophobia??
For me that caused my trans/homophobia. It also resulted me being scared of my trans cousin despite he did nothing to me.
@@cheese_covered_water
Its common. I- I was feeling alone in this situation, but in this comment session... I felt better.
@@Itsfine416 glad I found someone else who went trough the same thing I did :)
@@cheese_covered_waterI Don’t Support The LGBT Community Anymore But I Respect Them And You Too
It’s a great idea to report him. She probably wasn’t the first he did this to, or the last.
Well, at least mom is supportive. 😢
I like how there was a plus size girl, a skinny girl, and a more average weight girl. Nice diversity:)
I wish we can stop this from completely happening!
What do you do when it happens multiple times or from a family member?
It's best to tell someone you can trust and vent to. A therapist would be a perfect starting point. Please make sure that it's someone you can trust. I was in this situation (s.a. and incest) and I told a few close friends first, then my therapist,and recently my parents.
@@amnestyvibes I hope you you're doing better now (:
I haven’t even open up to my mother about my assault. I only ever told her about my harassment.
This is such a wholesome way to raise awareness on this topic❤
I wish my mom was like this about it. 😕 I still think about it all the time, I was 11, Idk if this is normal but I think about hurting him.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. This is not okay. It is not your fault, and you have done nothing wrong. We want to make sure you get some help. You tried telling your mom, but it sounds like you will have to find other trusted adults to help you, like another family member, teacher, friend’s parent or neighbor. There are trained support specialists that you can call at the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-HOPE (4673) or chat with online at Online.RAINN.org. These specialists can help you navigate your feelings. You deserve to be safe.
i was also 11.
@@Workrelated2child, you were 5. You didn't know it was sex, you were a r*pe victim. If you're worried about society not accepting you, then you can keep your loss of virginity (r*pe) a secret and only tell people you trust. I'm so sorry you went through that.
Not sure why this popped up in my feed, but nice to see there are such resources for people who need it?
This is exactly what I needed to hear/see. Thank you so much
You are so welcome!
This video made me realise i was sexually abused by my father… i hate myself so much because i can’t hate him. I try so hard but i cant.
Same😭 13 year ago but still i can not sleep very well.. i lost my peace
This is the kind of mom we all need caring and supportive ❤️ 💕 💗
I cant even confront my mom cuz I'm scared of being blamed
I'm scared too :(
how did it go? did u tell ur mom?
fr
This was beautiful gave me chills
I told my mom I was hurt and needed support but I wasn't ready to elaborate on it. She kept nagging until I finally gave her the details. When I did, she asked why I didn't just say no and that I should've just put my foot down (he threatened suicide on the regular).
In the end she was more upset that I had lied and made excuses over the fact that I was sexually abused. I don't feel safe to tell her anything anymore
I was 18 when mine happened. It was a party and i got followed. I get told its my fault for putting myseld in that situation. Told i need to let go and forgive for myself
I’m to scared to open up to my mom about it. I was only 7 and he was 5 so I don’t think that people would believe me. :(
I wish my mom did that when I told her, I came to her crying and shaking and she laughed at me and told me to stop crying that’s not a big deal and that I’m childish, all I wanted from her was to hug me and tell me that I’m brave for talking and that my feelings are important and that I’m safe now.
Now I think I’m ready to be there for my little sister and protect her from him or from anyone who would make her feel uncomfortable like the mom in this video
I’m so sorry this happened to you. If you want to talk to trained support counselor call the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline 1.800.656.HOPE. Continue to tell a trusted adult, teacher, or guardian until someone believes. You deserve to be heard and safe.
Womp womp
I wish I was that one girl with the long legs like she never missed leg day
I was assaulted for the first time at about 9 years old. I was told that I let it happen. When i was drugged and assaulted in college, my now husband tells me that its my fault for putting myself in that situation.
Girl, get the divorce papers!
I don't like your husband....
Some people are complete garbage like whoever told you that you let it happen. If you felt drugs in your system, don't feel bad about stopping it, you couldn't have. Keep asserting this to your husband until he concedes.
@@KendraWest-xk6po He won't "concede." If he truly loved his wife he would be furious with the abuser and feel very protective about her.
Sometimes that's the way it is too. He may always think it's her fault.
I wish I could report that person too
I did it. But the result wanst so well. But im proud of myself for be brave. Still im sad about it. Bcz my mom didnt care.
I wish I had a mom like that
This is brilliant.
Respect to the mom
Only if my mom was like that
I was sexually assaulted by a ex friend of mine and when I told my mom about it she put her foot down and told me to block her on everything and make sure I was safe again
I hope you are doing okay🫶
@@Ranasabia420 I'm trying my best to recover but it's not easy sometimes
I just remembered something that happened to me. I had a meltdown and now I'm trying to prosses and calm down
My family excused it as a schizophrenic episode but my episodes aren't like that. Mine are like not seeing cars on a busy road or not seeing students in a busy class room. All my senses are able to detect something that is there but my eyes kinda edits it put like editing a photo
I still haven't told anyone .
I wish my mom was with me when it happened 🙁 But I'm really afraid to tell her.
Hey listen, if u havent already please please do. I promise you will feel relieved
Okk I just started the video and the song in the beginning transported me😩
Great content than the name of that song will be welcome 😊😁🎉
I'm thankful that my mom response was nice after what I told her what happened
Whatever happened happened and I can't change it obviously .. but idk how to cope with it coz the man who did this to me lives with me.. I don't go out .. I just don't do anything.. I cry and get over it and cry some other day..I only wish my mother would take my side and somehow she'll know I'm right and it's not my fault .. but she refuses and maybe that's simpler for her to believe the otherwise because it'll break her if she accepts the truth... but I wait for the day she'll undertand
I see you and hear you. I'm so sorry ❤️🩹
i remember when i was touched when i was little and now looking at it i just realized that it was serious, sucks to suck that i still havent told anybody
The adults would just blame it on you anyway
@@Ballsack831 yeah..
@@Ballsack831not all adults blame the victims. not everyone blames.
I love u videos so much u made me so comfortable
GIVE ME A MOM LIKE THIS RIGHT NOW.
aww this made me feel better
I NOT telling my mum yet 😢
To hear the fake mom say even if it was a long time ago it matters broke me
I really want to be my attorney and send the scumbag away for abusing my daughter because one hope united doesn't care 📜👈😑 they don't care
I'm 26 and was raped at 7 and at 23 in the army. I looked this up mid breakdown. I wish I could just get over it but I can't.
Wish all moms are like this
He was 4 years older than me when it happened.
He was 52 years older than me.
@@Itsfine416 okay
@@Itsfine416it’s not a competition
@@Itsfine416 it’s not a competition, have some respect for others.
I never told my family
all mine said was they know me and i prob provocated... sometimes its making me sad even i know i cant talk with them in general after trying.. so i shut up and idk why they dont seem to like me that much no mattet what...
I didn't even tell my mom. Because she always told me I was an attention seeker and that I always try to attract men.
And I knew she'd think that it was my fault, that he only did it because of my behaviour.
I wish that there are a lot of mothers out there who are more like the one in the video.
When I told my mom, she freaked out that it freaked me out, so I lied
something that I hate is that family doesn't even talk about it and it makes me feel like all that trauma just came out of nowhere, is it so bad that I want to talk about it
April is SA awareness month, And I just wanna let you know it wasn’t your fault ❤
Im struggling with this, I never told anyone, and years later my abuser burglarized a house and raped an underage minor, its terrible now hes a registered sex offender.
can we do one for boys too?
Hi, thank you for your suggestion. In the meantime check out this video: czcams.com/video/STyNOVjgxcM/video.html
An experience not that similar to this happened to me about 3 or 4 weeks ago (im 10) I was just sitting class doing whatever and my classmate next to me started to clap his hand behind my butt but i didnt think tooo much of it and when i turned around to see himdoing is acted like he did nothng then, later in the day i was siting in my seat during dismissal and he slowly started to touch my butt (he is 11 or 10) when he made a small touch to my butt i thought it was an accident until his full hand touched my right cheek and i gave him a threat saying that if he touched me like that again i would beat him up, one time (i think on the same day idk) he used his hand to move my head in an inappropriate motion he even stared at my butt and said "Gyatt". The worst part is that i have to sit next to him in class i never feel comfortable standing in front of him in line and i hate him (i never told anyone about this and im too scared)
I do not know what to da I am just bored of my life now I want to give up from life there is no one who protect me
I love this video ❤❤❤😊
Thanks for watching!
My mom told me it was my fault and I should never have left the group home. It was abusive.
My mom told me to let him do it, so he wouldn't get mad
😲
@@MakelBelieveyou don’t know that ass hole. You can’t just accuse random people on the internet of lying.
@@MakelBelieveInteresting response this has triggered in you ..
My mother was scared of my brother and never protected me either. It's not just you. It's males using their aggression to harm others - and they get away with it.
Is it classed as SA when its just touching?
yes, as long as it is the "right" kind
if you didn't consented to it, if you where pressured to consent and if you gave up after they asked you many times then yes, it is. you okay ? please know that it is not your fault. you didn't asked for any of this to happen and the only one at fault is the one who abused you.
Eee my mom kinda took my side and also blammed me- thou I do think Its somehwhat my fault but I was just 10 back then idk I've gotten over it so Idrc but it is traumatising to have backflashes of it happening
No one understands the one was was abused..nor the family.nor the frends ..not the spouse..wanna be so loved...but i cant be ...all because of the touch i dint ask for...