How To Deal With Past Sexual Abuse? | Sadhguru
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- Sadhguru talks about how we can use terrible situations to enhance ourselves rather than become wounded.
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That young lady was so brave to ask that excellent and honest question so directly. ❤️
When Sadhguru says "it does not exist", it doesn't mean it didn't happen. The meaning is, it happened but is not at this present moment happening unless one continues to carry it into every "today". Instead, we should acknowledge it happened, it caused us pain, confusion, fear, etc. However, we have the power of CHOICE, and we should choose to say, "Today is not yesterday and I choose today to live, to be in my power, to overcome. I choose today to be happy and explore the beautiful treasures in life." This is your power, so not give it over to anyone or any past event. Help others to discover their power as well. Rise up and be queens. Encourage other queens in the making 👸🏽
Another way to work with this type of shadow is to note the feelings. Say, "This is anger", acknowledge the feeling, and let it pass. "This is sadness", label it and let it pass, and wave goodbye to it.
So beautifully said! Thank you. To many future queens and kings ❤️
Simplistic bullshit.
Right focus on present, past is past & its over . Live your life & be the one who you want from other's . 🙌
That goes for men too?!! I think as well in my OPINION
To anyone & everyone who had to go through this , remember it wasnt your fault , love yourself , tc of yourself . Don’t suffer it’s already past .
Thank you🙏💕
I'm literally crying 🙂
You so kind🙂
Literally needed this
I felt like it wasn’t fault for so long I’m ready to talk about it now.and thank you so much
"When something bad happens to us, we can either become wise or wounded" - Sadhguru
I choose wisdom!
But sometimes we become wise and wounded
Domt glorify truama
I was very severely abused as a child- physically, mentally, emotionally & sexually. My father was an alcoholic, narcissistic pedophile and Mum a heroin junkie, blame for my experiences lies with my perpetrators however I used to blame mum for a lot of my trauma but then I realised that my trauma had actually occurred due to the trauma she herself had carried and as I grew up I watched as the choices she’d made ultimately lead to her life completely falling apart but she got back up and rebuilt it all, she didn’t just put herself back together either she put my whole family back together again.. She’s completely owned all her mistakes and becomes more and more evolved in her being everyday - As much as I blamed her for things when I was young I can’t thank her enough for the precious lessons I’ve learned from her. One thing in particular is this- Sure, I was once damaged by someone else but I can always repair any and all damage on this journey not just by surviving but by always striving to be the very best version of me. And something I’ve always told myself is- You are only their victim when You let them win ☮️❤️
What a wonderful outcome. But if your mom hadn't come around to heal and be accountable, would you be saying the same?
No, you are their victim when they hurt you. Then you heal. Redefining the word victim is manipulation and not seeing the truth. You don’t have to stay in victim mentality, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t a victim m
@@ExaminerCross I really appreciate your comment and I absolutely agree with you❤️
Best wishes for your future
Same. My mother died of a heroin overdose in her bed. I was alone with her body for 2 days straight. I was 3 years old.
Don't carry your problem or pain like a badge.. we can either become wise or wounded with the pain. This is a choice we have.. That's a very deep and thoughtful. I too believe it so I take it wisely😍😍😍
Wow thanks for showing this as I am deaf and could not hear it myself.
Tbh I think that you can become both more wise and more wounded at the same time
“Once you let your past decide how you experience the present, you have destroyed your future.” -SADHGURU 🙏🏽⭐️🧡💜💫
Lol
That makes no sense what so ever.
You can always learn from your past but you can never escape it.Your past defines you no matter what.But you can still decide if that defining factor will be your strength or your weakness. A sad beginning may not always lead to a sad end
Lot of truth there, for sure. And I'm a psychotherapist.
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welcome to the internet. where everyone is a psycho therapist..
Is it true psychology helps pay for an exchange of a suffering for curing another? Because people go cycling unless consciously choose to expand self.
@@mydogsbestfren7490 😂😂😂👌
Basically he is telling to stop suffering, duh! I already know that! how is that a good advice?
Don't let your past destroy your present and future🙏🌺🌿
Too late. It already has. Not sure I even care.
I was hurt as a child by men and this is so helpful thank you
I m a guy & still had to suffer but I m over it
What makes it helpful?
@Beede Bawng that I am living in the now and that child I was is no longer me.I’m strong now and wise and I can help mentor others who have been hurt and I can spot the sighns… I’m on a mission now to help anyone I can
@akay k Huggs
@revolt 07 yes Thank you
“Thinking is just a recycling of data that you have gathered in the past.” - *SADHGURU* 🙏🏽⭐️🧡💫
Hmm...he has a point but, it seems like very high level fluff spiritual answer. People who deal with PTSD can't control events that trigger there trauma which send them back to the traumatic event. A certain sound, smell, or a sight can cause a person to experience the traumatic event all over again.
This is where the science and therapy is important. Sadhguru is correct that it is a memory.
Unfortunately, some people have experienced extreme traumatic events. He ought to advise for those individuals to still seek therapy. As therapy will teach you the skills to deal with the emotions/thoughts when the traumatic memory is triggered.
Also, some memories can be extremely painful. It is best to learn this skills in a controlled environment with a professional therapist.
Listening to Sadguru is therapy. I went to therapists who put me on medications and I am like a zombie. Medications are worst. listen to the wise and their voice and experience is therapy.
@@lokkich487 Just like medications didn't work for you it doesnt mean it won't work for others. And in the same way how Sadhguru worked for you, not necessary he will be useful for others.
It happened to you..I can sense it..I went thru it, I am trying to heal...you are not alone, I can understand what you went thru....let's heal together and chose to be wise. The amount of trauma and the type of TRAUMA..all of it and every moment of it, don't overthink about it, when it replays voluntarily, make yourself observe it rather than living thru it again. Every person involved in it including YOU, forgive them and yourselves too , because the TRAUMA sometimes may include our stupidity.
Not stupidity but being naive
Very phenomenal line from Sadhguru no matter who he is speaking to he always says" I am sorry,I am not a politician to say what you may like,I just speak truth " ,just wonderful....
Terrible things happened in my life and they keep coming back up in my mind.
Thank you for this Sadhguru!🙏
Either I became wounded or wiser, wow!!!
By the way, I have forgiven everyone who have hurt me, even without them asking for forgiveness.
Wonderful!! I am so sorry that you had to go through so mucb pain in your life that it is even hard to express it… well forgiving others that harmed you is the biggest blessing that you have gave it to yourself.. it is not the point that they suffer or not .. it is that we should not make our self suffer for what others did to you…life changes for everyone.. today is not same as yesterday… 10-20 years ago we are not the same today .. our body has evolved too … we are not helpless anymore … so it is important to relax and understand that we can overcome all that it is … you are stronger than your wounds…. !!!
@@anshulgupta1384 Thank you so much Sir.🙏
This means so much to me.
It's actually the first time I have admitted this in public even though I didn't share the details, but it goes along with the title of this video.
But have since dealt with it and I'm doing okay.
Thanks again for taking the time to speak some words of encouragement my direction, I highly appreciate that!🙏💕
@@FromPeloToYourHeart you can talk when you like with me … i have gone through this same road
@@anshulgupta1384 will do, thank you so much!
So what's the guarantee they will not gonna make you as their victim again or not any child as their victim?? Don't you think punishment is the only forgiveness that these motherfuckers deserve???
Past can't be changed, future can't be predicted, live in present 🙏
Past is not something to regret on
I think he's entirely on the mark. It doesn't mean that if long-term abuses happened from a person's most formative years that they shouldn't go through therapy to understand their behavioral patterns and lack of control. It's about mastery, and as he said, reading the manual. Therapy can be a way to reading the manual and getting past those buried patterns that a person is not aware of or doesn't understand within themselves.
One of my very close loved one had to suffer such an incident in her childhood and I just wish her strength and power to face this memory and become so stronger that she can protect not only herself but everyone else too !! 💓
I wished to be her strength and vice versa but destiny had other plans ...but anyways more power to her good side ...
I’m so sorry. My friend was abused from 6-13. She went to therapy, stopped drinking but finally took her own life at 57.
@@marykd11 I'm so sorry to hear that!! At the end of the day, spirituality is something that helps us not give up on life , at this point it's literally my only peace spot ! I just hope no one has to ever go thru that ever ever again
@@harshshah1588 I agree. She had connected herself with a church and pastor but from my side it’s not the same mind training as in the eastern religions. She was very connected to Tara. I took her to a Buddhist center but she had already had 5 attempts before that. We were all so powerless
I am also a survivor
Sending positive energy vibes back and good morning everyone💜💫👁
Happy sunrise 🌅
Sending love and light to you!
@Miss Krystyna Yes shining my love light bright
to everyone who read this....
you are wonderful!
How how lucky are we to be born in his era.... I mean how can be a man have such wisdom🙏🙏🙏🙏
Jordan Peterson also says the same thing;
Learn from the past and use it to create a better today and an even better tomorrow. It might not be easy. It is definitely tearing us apart. But.... That's the only way forward
everytime u prove that y u r being sathguru...namaskaram🙏
Idk what Earths humans may have done has you not popped in. I'm so grateful. 🙏
Beautiful teaching. Thank you! 🙏✨
Thank you for this!
thank u Sadhuguru for the clear explanation...too many of us are carrying the wounded memory...we have to be resilient and wise but never forget. relay our experience to our young ones so that it will not happen to them... May God bless us all ...especially those who have been "wounded"...u r wiser now...
This thing we all required 👍👍👍👍
Sadhgurudev, I just want to say that I am blessed to have you. I want to thanks Internet and CZcams for providing us this platform. I can not describe in words.
What you said helps me make this distinction between my thoughts and my experience. Your clarity is simply astounding.👍🙏🏼
Needed this wayyyyy too much😭💕
I was never thinking of my pain, accepting things as they were, but then I started to lose my memory out of nowhere and fall apart and had several breakdowns and then I had a last - a massive one - because I have never confronted and released all the past experiences that were causing all of it. So, I had to focus on the pain and I released it all, but it took a long long time. Now, I am well, but I don’t know how I would release tons of experiences in a flash. I was wise because of it before, but at the same time in too much pain I didn’t know how to release, despite my best efforts and attempts to find help… I don’t think that things are that easy… especially when it comes to complex trauma.
I agree... when horrible thinga happen in childhood, it feels woven in to our way of being... I dont like that, but, the past is still with me. Only drugs seem to help me to keep moving forward, and I know that is not a long term solution. Im still so very, very angry about it.
@@mybiz1006 You have every right to feel the way that you feel. Every emotion you have is valid based on your life experience, beliefs, and values. Figuring out how to deal with the negative emotions in constructively positive ways is part of the healing process. Another aspect of it is when those emotions do come to the surface not stuffing them down to be dealt with later. Inevitably we end up stifling our healing process doing so. Good luck to you and I wish you the best in all things.
I had a long process too, the path was hard. People wonder how I can be so happy, brave and full of life, more than others.
I have noticed though - pain is never behind me. As I grow and take on new responsibilities and challenges, troubles return in new forms. I am ready though, when they come, I increase meditation and exercise, and try to use it to learn humility and make sure I keep growing.
Thank you for this ❤️ 🙏🏼
Thank You so very much. We are not our wounds. We are what we believe.
“You are carrying your pains like a badge.” Either become wise or wounded.
Thankyou so much sadguru we badly need that 🙏🌸
The past should not be forgotten,The future should not be feared,and right now is a gift thats why its called the present
PTSD is a debilitating problem
there are people who can help
Never give up on life💯
Few days back I was sexually assaulted by a stranger and still that fear that experience haunts me every single second but after listening this i will try to not to be wounded by past experience but be more stronger than ever taki abki bar koi hath lgae toh sir phod dun uska
Heavenly words, wisdom.
What a fabulous explanation
My daily dose of motivation ❤️🕉️
Sadhguruji! Thankyou 😇
This is true from a spiritual context but misses the physical and psychological experiences that are also part of the human experience
Dear Sadhguru may blessing continue to flow your way. You handeled that question so well. I love how you broke it down for those young people. I am experiencing this with a few people close to me and it helps me to better help them. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you. Stay well and be Blessed!!!
I needed this!!!!
So True...Great Depth of Wisdom👍👌🙏
Pranam Sadhguru🙏🙏🙏
... fiecare acțiune negativa este atenuata de vibrația pozitiva... rămâi prezent în câmpul vibrației pozitive
Sadhguru is peace of mind and happiness for me.. 🙏
I needed this video today. Thank you for the wisdom.
Keep Your Head Up, You’re Loved! ♥️♥️♥️
Me too I needed to hear this!
@@FromPeloToYourHeart Keep Believing and Knowing, That You’re Special!!! You’re Loved! ♥️♥️♥️
@@TzvetelinaTodorovaTzekova thank you so much!🙏💕
Words of Wisdom by Sadhguru - Understand the nature of our being so as not to suffer memory & imagination. " Choose to be Wise not wounded from past experience" very important but most of time as one' s mind broods on unpleasant experience one suffers from it.
Thanks a lot for each and every word. I really needed it 🙏
Love u sadhguru.....
Why after 5 years have I forgotten my trauma. It's still there but not vivid anymore or well ordered. I remember for about 5 years I just could not forget it in full immaculate detail.
This really helped me today 🙏
You are very wise wish I could meet you 💜
We suffer in our ignorance,will be happy and joy in our realization.
We can’t change the past but we start this moment brand new so are past can be something we can’t imagine ❤️
Somehow I have become obsessed with Sadhguru. These videos are so healing.
Wisdom recognizes wisdom, we hear the truth in what he says and recognize the profoundness of it. We have all the tools we need to live well off of great wisdom. May you and all who read this live well
I think Sadhguru was trying to say is that a woman has to face the fear, in the present.
It will always be a part of you either consciously, or subconsciously.
When someone goes through this type of emotional and physical trauma, the soul fractures.
Healing comes when you see it as an experience, without judgement.
👏👏👏 very helpful as always
I get what he is saying. At the same time he is not addressing the impact sexual assault has on the nervous system. Trauma which affects the brain, hence why you can have anxiety et, get triggered. If only it was as simple as he states. Yes nothing is happening now but impact can live on in your nervous system & body. Yes wise rather than wounded for sure. Healing the NS & body takes time.
True said
Beloved sadhguru ❤🙏🌄
so wise 🙏
Agreed Sadhguru our education system teaches us thing which we don't need
Thank you sadhguru...
Namaskaram sadhguru 🙏
When something bad happens to us and something hurts us either we can became wise or wounded..💯💯
Thank you man of God
Thanks for sharing
The same thing happened to me in the past many times I took very time to get out of this and now I move on and I want to live in the moment.
Thanku 👍🏻
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🌹🌼🌸 Thanking Sadhguru 🙏
Thanks
Perfect!
I agree still time is un illusion and everything that happens at the same time....
Mindfulness!
It's a good piece of advice, but I suspect it's pretty much advanced for most people to embrace the present like that. To understand and embrace this, you have to be in advanced deep meditation and detach yourself from thought/ego identification. This level of understanding will be required if one wants to cure by living in the present. BUT...
If you can't forget and still are a materialist, maybe you should try epistemology... And a ton of psychologists, psychiatrists, and medicine before this. (nothing against materialists, I'm just mentioning another path. The goal here is to help each other right?).
Sometimes, I have the impression that Sadhguru forgets people are in different levels of understanding AND different beliefs (or not belief). And not everyone can translate and adapt things to their necessities.
Thank you
just live in present !
You can not choose, you are wounded...being a child of alchocolic. Growing up Just with my father alchocolic, and then on 10 years moving with mum. How do you think someone feels when his roots, his root chakra is very bad. No foundation, broken family. As a child you dont know, you dont have knowledge - you were wounded you didnt have choice. Now when I realized from where all this wounds, i am trying to heal.
Sadhguru 💯🌏🌎🌍🖤🤎💜💙💚💛🧡❤🤍
Thank you Sadhguru🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Sadhguru
Sushmita: you can either become wize or wounded - powerful SadhGuru ✨🙏💖
Sadguru past problems doesn’t matter to us but our happiness is bothering to those people- on top of that they want to destroy us because we are doing better without them and they don’t exist in our life❤🙏🏻
This video expresses OUTCOMES but i thinkthe process of getting there deserves some investigation
Thanks guru ji
Unfortunate how we are as a society today. But now because we have someone to guide us in the right direction, I think there is value in working the way Sadhguru talks about here. Sucks, but its important to keep in mind that we still have a choice.
Why is my reaction that I wrote with only good intentions not visible for others? Maybe it was me, I'll try again. Thank you for allowing an open and honest conversation.
It's not as easy as explained. N it does exist human beings are not just just an aggregate of flesh and bone it's also the experiences and the emotions you have felt shape you.
Just on the topic of letting go, look up the lyrics to a song called "The Grudge" by Tool. You don't have to like the band, or even listen. But I suspect when you read the words, the music may beckon to you to listen. It's rock, if you don't like it, maybe just try it. It's a powerful song about the weight of the burdens we carry, and about what it does to you, leading up to the solution. Find a way to let go. Be it seeking therapy, confronting those people, dealing with the issues in therapy, or whatever is the solution for you (most people need help because you can't just wish it away). Anyway that song really is quite powerful if you take the words to heart.
i need this
Hit the like button! 'Isn't it so?'👍
Love you sadhguru
Shambho 😊🙏
Powerful
Namaskaram sadhguruji 🙏🌳❤🙏
6.12.2021
Sadhguru..
a lot of truth but you have to heal wounds. cant act like they’re not there… sometimes he’s comes off like “get over it and focus on now” i know that’s not his intent but we can’t forget you have to heal your inner child, heal wounds etc. so that we can really focus and enjoy the now