r/AmITheA**hole For Refusing To Save My Mom's Life?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 24. 05. 2021
- r/AmITheA**hole OP is the product of his mother's affair, which resulted in his father divorcing his mother. As a result, OP's mother blames him and treats him like absolute garbage throughout his entire life. She even convinces the rest of her family to bully him as well. The abuse gets so bad that he leaves to live on his own. Well, eventually OP becomes fairly successful, and OP's mom comes knocking because she wants money for life-saving medical treatment. OP tells her to pound sand, but then has second thoughts and thinks that he might be the butthole. What do you think?
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The mother in law got what was coming to her. She insulted his thoughtful gift to his face in front of everybody. I would have told her the same thing.
I agree, she insulted his very thoughtful gift and is being greedy and now suddenly he is somehow in the wrong for telling her off after that emotional slap in the face, screw her feelings
Yeah I agree some stuff on mother day can slide but if ya gonna be an ass about it then someone else is gonna be an ass
Yeah, OP is not the AH. How dare the MIL put him in that position and cornered him like that.
I think the correct response would be to turn it around on her by explaining how much the flowers really meant to him given how they were from his late motherâs garden. Going into how he thought that a thoughtful emotional gift like that should be worth more to her than a shiny rock because it basically represents him accepting her on the same footing as his own deceased parent. If she still spits on it after that then itâs just time to go
Yes, she got what was coming but he engineered the entire situation. He deliberately got her something that cost nothing and tried to make it seem benevolent by taking all this time to pick and arrange knowing perfectly well that she wouldnât appreciate it. He wanted to create the blow up and wanted to humiliate her in front of everyone. His wifeâs mother. She should have been the one choosing her momâs gift. The dynamic sounds weird that it was him. He didnât say anything about his wifeâs gift to her mom so it didnât sound like this was a second gift to her. Yeah, MIL is horrible.
op on mothers day thing doesn't get 2 out of 5 he gets 0/5. That woman was a choosing beggar
Iâd say 0.5 for the day he said it, but yeah. That woman needed to be shut down, this is classic choosing beggars behavior.
@@quinnw919 maybe 0.5 I feel like on certain days the point made is bigger.
yeah , sometimes rslash just completely misses the point . If someone is acting entitled , they are not going to stop unless you tell them loud and clear . They did the right thing by telling her to stop.
Yea, that MIL sounds like a classic narcissist, that loves to gaslight people.
Yeah but maybe he should have talked in private and not made a scene infront of everyone
RSlash before his baby: âYeah donât be a shitty parent! Youâre the buttholeâ
RSlash after his baby: âSo you have chosen... deathâ
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Fr tho
"I wish you were never born! Now pay my bills!" Some people just blow my mind
I know right? I would have said "Since you wish I was never born, why don't you just treat it as fact from now on." and never talk to any of them again.
Have to disagree with you rslash, the Mother-in-Law was being totally entitled demanding gifts from OP just because he is well off. OP had every right to call her on her bullshit since she had no issue insulting him in front of everyone despite OP giving her a thoughtful gift.
I agree with you! The mother-in-law sounds like a Karen. We have always applauded people for standing up for themselves against entitled people, including on Mother's Day. I don't see a difference in this case either.
Yeah I do agree. It sounds like his wife is indirectly enabling that behavior, and you hit the nail on the head. Though rSlash has said that he apologizes for bad takes because of sleepless nights from his daughter, and we all know that a lack of sleep != rational thinking. Though I do respect rSlash for admitting when he isn't in the right, even though he has demonstrated that he is gonna be a good dad.
She treated OP like a wallet
@@tedhumphreys1473 still we have told him to take a break so thatâs not an excuse.
@@Ricky-ox7ip he canât take a break he has a family to support and this is his job you canât just quit your job once you have a baby to support
The guy cut flowers from his late mothers garden to give as a gift to his mother in law, that's a real heartfelt gift and not something you would do unless you actually care. For her to throw it back in his face, his reaction was completely justified imo. besides, what he said wasnt even that bad. 0/5
I agree he literally just said that it was ridiculous to treat his mother-in-law as if she was his spouse. Who expects their son-in-law or their daughter-in-law to treat them like they are married? Like of course is going to get his wife expensive and nice things, if he can afford it and she likes it then why not. But for the mother-in-law to demand he get her a very expensive necklace because "oh you can afford it you got this expensive necklace for your wife" or to demand he get her anything really is very childish and the fact that she waited until mother's Day to do anything like that in front of a giant group of people is even more childish. Based on the story I'm willing to bet that the mother-in-law is a narcissist, a lot of them do stuff like that
He gets -1/5 buttholes. The MIL, however, gets 100/5 butthole points.
I mean r/technicallytrue
Yeah sometimes r slash has some really really bad ratings like the one where the lady asks for money if you ask if she is pregnant
Completely agree. While it may not have been the ideal time or place, sometimes the "right time" is the moment it needs to be said, not some ambiguous afterwards.
How does rslash miss the point so badly on the mother's day story? The mil was acting so entitled and needed to be told that OP didn't marry her or owe her luxuries. She's not entitled to OP's money just because OP has money. Mil was grossly entitled and needed to have her shit shut down even if it was fucking Christmas. I'm deeply disappointed in you, rslash.
Seriously. Mo buttholes to that OP.
calm down man people can have different perspectives;;
@@yellowbanana9866 rslash constantly talks about how no one is entitled to someone elseâs money regardless of relation but this time he goes against his own thoughts. Heâs constantly hypocritical of himself and has a lot of issue looking from other viewpoints than a straight white man who doesnât have to worry about money
@@anthonywolfe594 very true. It's always "OP has to defend his spouse from his family" but never the other way around.
@@anthonywolfe594 He didn't say the MIL deserved the gifts or was entitled to the gifts. He said the OP shouldn't have yelled at the MIL in front of her. I think he would have been better to leave the room, but I would have only given OP one out of five. And that's an opinion from a middle aged, bisexual, atheist, black Hispanic woman, so I hope that checks most of your boxes.
As someone who grew up and still is poor, I was taught to show extreme gratefulness for any and every gift I have ever received even if it was something I didn't quite like. Hearing that MIL story makes me angry beyond belief and seeing the wife think he was out of line makes me think he should leave her tbh
Same, that was a red flag for međ©
Imagine cheating on your husband, having a child with the person you cheated, blaming the child for the divorce, then asking for money several years later saying âI sacrificed everything for youâ when you really did nothing at all
I think the ex-husband was a bit off a butthole too, to be honest. OP wasn't at fault but was still thrown out and the man that had been his father until that point cuts him out completely. I understand that it is hard learning your wife cheated and that your son is not biologically yours. But that doesn't really excuse punishing that child. The least he could have done was checking in on the child he once loved.
Which is also a bit much in my opinion. To just stop loving a child because the mother lied and cheated is just wrong.
My son is adopted, so the very idea of kicking a child out of my house that calls me "daddy" because we don't share DNA is utterly foreign to me.
Ex is also in line for 5/5 for child abandonment.
@@Ikajo Him not checking on the kid thats not his doesnt make him a butthole he loved Op because he thought he was his but finding put OP isnt his ruined that relationship, his wife lied and cheated so he had every right to leave and cut off all contact Op isnt his kid so he's not obligated to keep in contact and sure as hell not his responsibility to check on him and hes not punishing OP he just cut off contact and rightfully so why would he stick around after wasting 5 years on a kid that aint his i doubt the ex husband hates Op but again its not his responsibility to check on him
@@avatarofaiyel its not child abandonment that kid aint his so its not his responsibility to raise a kid thats not his his wife cheated and lied about Op being his son and when he found out that he wasnt he left and rightfully so why should be keep a kid thats not his and the product of cheating and lies and yes i get that its not Ops fault but think about from the ex husbands point of view
@@thanos8077 ah, yes. The five-year old you've believed to be your son this whole time and loved unconditionally. If you can flip that emotional switch off the second you find out they might not be then you are a sociopath plain and simple.
Story 3: Why does Mother's Day give the MIL's terrible behavior a free pass? rSlash, you get three out of five buttholes for victim-blaming and enabling a choosing beggar.
Exactly. I don't expect to get away with being a greedy piece of shit on my birthday, why does she get a free pass on Mother's Day?
Shame on you Rslash!
No he get BANANA
THANK YOU!! My thoughts exactly!
I agree, she deserved to be called out. Mother's day or not.
In that MIL story:
"You're rubbing your financial stability in my face!"
Me: you keep using his financial stability as the main reason as to why you're entitled to such expensive gifts from him.
"you're treating me like i'm greedy!"
Me: you literally complained about recieving a bouquet of flowers instead of a expensive necklace.
That MIL was acting like a grade A choosing beggar and OP was in the right to tell her off like that for her ridiculous behaviour, regardless of what day it was.
Fourth story: I'm angry in OP's side. His family literally broke that bridge with a nuclear bomb and they regreted it, now is time to cry elsewhere.
Yeah and i feel so sorry for his ruined childhood, but its great, that he found his happiness
They didn't regret anything lol, they just wanted money. They never regret, they just deem him as the asshole and think they don't deserve such treatment. It is only right when they treat others like that, not when others treat them the same way back...
@@N0xiety Yup. Glad he cut them out of his life.
@@N0xiety , that is why you gather them up into a room and assassinate them all because no more assholes to criticize you means no more bullshit to deal with from the assholes.
they stole his childhood his family and then they ask him for money NTA you take your sons childhood for your mistake and expect him to give you money then get mad when he dosent because apparently "i have sacrificed a lot for you " did you love him no so why does he have to love you
rSlash, let me put it like this:
Mother's Day: Is not a reason to be a shitty person to someone, and not a reason why it shouldnt be shut down.
Father's Day: : Is not a reason to be a shitty person to someone, and not a reason why it shouldnt be shut down.
Christmas: Is not a reason to be a shitty person to someone, and not a reason why it shouldnt be shut down.
Thanksgiving: Is not a reason to be a shitty person to someone, and not a reason why it shouldnt be shut down.
Birthdays: Is not a reason to be a shitty person to someone, and not a reason why it shouldnt be shut down.
OP was not the asshole in that situation, the mother-in-law was completely out of line.
agreed. no idea why holidays are magical free pass.
100% agree. OP is in the clear, and that family needs to get over themselves
agreed
His wife was too! She agreed with everything he said but didn't stand up for her husband to her own stupid mother? It's her mom, she should be the one standing up for her husband especially when he did no wrong.
Agreed
rslash, for the story of OP getting his MIL flowers for mother's day, it sounded like she was absolutely trashing his gift in front of everyone. she doesn't deserve the same level of gift as his own wife, especially with how MIL is being greedy. why should OP wait to confront bad behavior.
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Exactly, Rslash is basically saying OP should've just sat there and let her berate him and not say anything because it was Mother's day.
@@andrewi.crocker8675 yeah, she was the "public space" to pressure op, that blew up in her face.
and the family stfu, and spouse shut up,
mother's day is nothing special, certainly with that golddigger of a mother.
Yeah his take was very weak. I'd never fault someone for defending themselves when deliberately humiliated on a public stage. She shouldn't have received anything at all. I'd be looking at my wife a lil funny if I were him. Sounds like a sign of things to come for that baby when they get older lol smdh a mess.
This was exactly my thought! I would have been hurt and put her in her place, too, regardless of what day it is. If she is going to act like a child, then she is going to get treated like one. Double-standards don't fly.
If my mother-in-law talked to me like that, about getting her a ridiculously expensive gift, and my wife didn't back me up, I'd send my lawyer with divorce papers so damn fast that their heads would spin.
rslash, in the most generous cultures i've heard of, belittling a gift publically is at least heavily frowned upon. in the harshest ones, even a polite refusal of a gift from a hated enemy if done publically and in some instances even privately can result in exile, or even potentially a legal death sentence.
Which cultures are these? đ€šđ§ (Death sentence for refusing a gift)
@@justcallmebon2684 yes, I would like to know as well.
In my family, everyone HATES taking gifts and make a big deal about not taking anything and its actually considered polite
But in the story she's a massive ahole about it lol
In Japan, its actually considered rude to open gifts from people in front of them so that if you have a bad reaction, they don't see it.
Honestly, I think it's a bad take on the whole mother's day fiasco. OP was right to address the issue then and there. She wanted to make a scene then, and he had a right to address the situation.
It wasn't the time and place, people like her thrive from attention and he gave her exactly what she wanted. She now gets to play victim and his painted as the bad guy.
i would have told her that if she wanted to be a beggar she needed to sit on the ground with a cardboard sign. out of all of the fucking things a person can hask when money is low she wanted a necklace. wtf is wrong with her?
I agree. Ignoring the fact that mothers day is a big marketing ploy, mil was the one who initiated the ungrateful behavior. Your wife and her family are the buttholes.
Also, what about the wife? I think she deserves a star too because why didn't she tell her mom to knock it off? If my mom pulled that stunt I'd definitely say something.
@@k.huelle OP said why : She didn't wanted her relationship with her mom to sour, even if she disagreed with him. It might not spare her a Butthole points, but that's understandable at least.
In the Story about the mother That complained about the gift. While yes it is rude to criticize a mother on Motherâs Day it is also rude in most cultures that I can think of to refuse or belittle a gift given to you publicly. To say that that gift is bad because it didnât cost a lot is rude especially in front of the rest of the family. So just because sheâs a mother she is not immune to criticism in my opinion and fully deserved what happened. But thatâs me and I might be stretching I donât know
Second this completely!
I would have been much spicier in my language to anyone who would do this. Mil is a f- idiot.
First of all who gives a fuck that it was mother's day if she killed someone and got arrested would u say the cops are cruel cuz the arrested her on mother's day -_-
1000% agreed!!
100% agree she made it the time and place. By being rude and putting his gift down.
the mother in law was a bad take. she was incredibly rude to op, he just matched her energy
The last story breaks my heart. Thatâs straight up child abuse. I feel so bad for them, nobody deserves that.
12:44 "Criticizing your mother in law on Mother's Day is really rude"
First of all, he was defending himself from criticism. Second, remember he picked those flowers from his DEAD mother's garden. Belittling someone who lost their mother, on Mother's Day, is beyond abhorrent.
Generally, the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree and, given that how reluctant the daughter was in supporting her own husband, I would suspect this is the case here. Sounds like money was a big factor in why this marriage took place. If I were the OP I would reconsider the whole marriage.
12:45 "and so is your mom but no one else is complaining"
Yes, why should he date someone who chooses her mother over him?
On the contract case, I bet the father also got a cut for a finder's fee. So when daughter declined, he lost his cut.
That was my thought. Father saw that 35k and wanted it for himself, or he was getting money as well for getting her to sign the contract.
True, i find it odd for the father to be very pissed at OP for no letting the girl signing the contract.
I suppose if OP hadn't warned the daughter about the lousy contract and she got ripped off, it would still be OP's fault.
@@Emura100 let's play devil's advocate. Let's assume the Father wasn't trying to self enrich, but maybe didn't think his daughter had any long term future as a creator or wanted to create a situation which would force her out of that business. The daughter gets $35k up front, which the Father probably thinks is 'lots' of money for just making videos. Or something along those lines. In any event he's an idiot and should stop trying to helicopter parent.
@@Torsin2000 Didnât the contract state she had to return some of the money if she didnât hit certain goals? So even the 35,000 wasnât guaranteed.
That last story where you gave 5/5 felt really affirming to me. Sometimes I regret cutting off contact with my mother and think about going back, and convincing myself it wasnât bad. But she downright has told me those same things, told me to kill myself, the works tbh. She fueled her own habits instead of getting me clothes for school, deodorant, undergarments, school supplies. Ignored my mental health for years. I have so many awful stories. I was locked in the hot attic once because of her. I was kicked out at like age 16 or 17. I just wanted to say thank you so much for affirming that this treatment is not acceptable.
"New family, who dis?"
This one is gonna stick with me forever
Step daughter: *Asks for advice as an adult*
Step mother: *Gives advice as a fellow adult*
Father and mother: How *DARE* you!
If this doesnât summarize being an adult child then I donât know what else will (assuming the daughter was also reprimanded) đ
@@clairer342 Only with awful parents.
First story: OVERREACTING?! There's no way to overreact a completly disgusting and racist joke.
Agreed
I thought it was a mail order bride joke, but apparently Iâm wrong
Well rslash is kinda right. What if the trashy cousin just said "yeah I made a joke, and he uninvited me!" So the family calls and says "hey you're overreacting" and instead of reasoning op just hangs up and leaves. I mean it does seem exactly like that, but i don't know so maybe he did tell the truth and the family is racist or its more likely that he lied about it.
@@bryn1063 Nosy family should ask, "Well, what kind of joke did you make to get uninvited?," before even thinking of calling OP.
@@295Phoenix Yeah, but the cousin probably was angry and dumb. He probably made op look like a monster, or they're just entitled two very likely things.
Last story: I've said this before and it still stands "You reap what you sow."
I expected it to have a twist of the mother needed an organ donation, like a kidney or liver or bone marrow, from her son and all her other spawn were the wrong type. At least that would make sense why she couldn't ask her other children, but nope, they're all money grubbing trash.
That last story is insane his mom cheated and she blamed it on the baby she had with the other man đđđ Iâm dead
The mother in the last story is experiencing karma. People who wish death on their own offspring are not worthy of being called human.
My thoughts exactly
If she can wish death on an innocent child then she shouldnât complain or be surprised when the child wishes death upon her in return.
(I know OP doesnât want her to die)
The comment reminded me of the one video Rslash did, where the woman actually killed her kid. Then she was killed along with her son.
@@HH-lo7jw Only then, she killed her son and got killed by her community. Here, she wished death on her own kid and now SHE'S about to die.
@@HH-lo7jw yeah, i remember that one. The family in Louisiana with a black son who got dismembered, and then the mother, sheriff and her white son were killed, in the 1700-1800s?
I strongly disagree with you on the Mother's day-Story. It was the right time and place. She tried to guilt-trip him/her in front of everyone. "Don't start a fight if you dont want to get hurt." She startet the whole thing and op reacted reasonable. This Mil was greedy and "entitled". She wanted to shame op in front of everyone at the party and op backfired.
Agreed
I agree I dont know whats up with rslash scoring but its way off lately.
@@katswan5037 It's been off for awhile. IDK, what he was thinking, maybe when he actually sees a ChoosingBeggers Post that will remind him of this story and then he might reconsider his score. But sometimes, r/Slash just needs a reality check from the outside.
Op in the mothers day story should've gotten 0/5 buttholes. Mother's Day is not a reason to be mean, he got those flowers from his LATE MOTHER'S GRAVE and he took the time to take care of them so they'd look nice for her. My sister's mother in law would've been so happy! So I disagree with you rSlash
the step dad one is so heartwarming since the step parent seems to have good relation with the step kid and actually told her the full truth treating her like a adult able to make her own decisions. the world needs more good people like him.
Step mom. not step dad.
Sounds like the cousin made this "joke" at a family function, so, yeah, the family knew exactly what he said. OP did the right thing.
I think some of the more distant relatives might not know the whole story, and some relatives might not know what the joke was and were likely lied to.
Either way why wouldn't his parents try and get the full story? Some families aren't worth having.
@@benry007 have you heard of the word entitled?
No, it's an emotional overreaction 100 times out of 100.
Even if he was serious.
@@RunicSigils seems like we found one of the "family" members. Dude, some jokes just ain't ok. Joking about fucking sex slaves and human trafficking is one of the jokes that ISN'T OK. You gotta see this from the OP's perspective.
Second story, that "father" needs to grow up. The daughter have any rights to ask for op's opinion. That's not sticking your nose to other business if the person themselves ask for your opinion
I think the father was trying to be the hero to his daughter and was pissed when OP showed just how bad a deal it was, turning him into an accidental villain. I don't think he was deliberately trying to rip his daughter off. I think he just trusted a friend of a friend "who knew all about this stuff". He had no right to get mad but I think it was his a combination of his ego taking a bruising and being angry at himself for almost screwing over his daughter.
@@SomeUniqueHandle agreed, though on the darker side of the spectrum he might've actually actively wanted to screw her over (maybe he was getting under the table benefits from the deal), and he's pissed he isnt able to. there wasnt much said about The Father, so there's nothing to prove this might be true, but who knows?
I'm as concerned at the mother who does not want her daughter to be self employed. Like what the heck. That is the best way to be successful and make as much money as possible.
@@baziwan9407 best part is: IT AIN'T THROUGH AN MLM! *god, the sheer amount of people who claim to be "self-employed" but actually just work for an MLM makes me sad.*
@@baziwan9407 And formthe story that daughter ispretty on what she is doing so in her case been self employed is a positive, if she kind sucks maybe she would need some help any help, but if she sucks the bioligical father would show up it this "deal", I see eople try todefendthe father you are ignoring somepoint,first theywant 50% ofher income,so to beclear 10% is already absurd and the further that people goes is like 25% and even then is after a long time of negotiation, second they want to own the IP, basically owner her, if she screw up or refuse to do a work, she would be kick out andreplace from some other girl, ture some would leave but most will stay and some newcomers fans will stay as well, if she had sign that deal she would be to totally screw everything she build and put effort was completely in vain since she would lose everything.
Some of those âinternet dealsâ are total rip offs for the creators. Thereâs been a few creators that have been really burned by these companies. If you ever decide to go with one, you gotta get a lawyer to read over their fine print, so they donât take you for everything!
It's sad that you didn't recognize that the Mother in Law was being a choosing entitled beggar
Hopefully by uninviting his family, he saves $1000, making a net zero impact on losing the parent's engagement gift.
Congrats on your 100th like
@Captainzilla418 Yep, but how much money will he save by not having his family at the wedding? What @benjamine128 was saying was that maybe he'll save enough by not paying for them to compensate these 1000$ that he has to pay back .
@@accis86 My brotherâs wedding was recently, a very good man. He asked me to sit and help with some math- and yes, a net saving (from 50 people he forgot couldnât attend) of nearing $750. If theyâve fancy plates or fancy anything like we had- thereâll be good savings on them not going.
@@bayzaranya Well... one of my brothers paid something like 20k for his wedding for 64 people (No fancy plates but we live in Switzerland... things are pretty expensive here).
My other brother paid the same amount in Portugal (as we're portuguese living in Switzerland and he married another portuguese woman living here ;) ) but for that price, we were 80, he married on the beach and had his wedding party in a big venue near the beach, with a band all the service, excellent food, childcare, etc...
I guess what someone saves from uninviting guests depends on where someone lives and how much life costs there ;)
12:57 I personally feel like OP should've gotten 0/5, since just because its mothers day doesn't mean mothers cant be criticized. Along with that, the mom was extremely rude about her gift that took OP a while to make. :/
I guess the problem is more about the circonstances. if it was in a small comitee, yeah, but here it was in the middle of mother's day in front of the whole family.
I wouldn't give more than 1/5 in this situation, but yeah.
Yeah, I also "love" how the wife didn't get any a-holes score, even though she never defended her husband, and actually got mad at HIM for his actions...
I agree. rSlash was off on this one. You want to cause a scene? Fine, let's cause a scene. I think, too, the fact that the flowers were from OP's LATE MOTHER'S garden was glossed over. OP didn't have to get the MIL anything, but he did, and that thing was full of care, time, and sentiment. The MIL is a choosing begger. 0/5 buttholes for OP.
@@Juju2927 "I guess the problem is more about the circonstances. if it was in a small comitee, yeah, but here it was in the middle of mother's day in front of the whole family."
I mean the Mother in Law also criticized OP and his gift in front of the whole family? She could have just kept quite until whole family wasn't there... she was the one who chose to make it an issue while the whole family was there
Don't forget it was from his late mother's garden, and then she promptly called them sucky and cheap
Omg, that last story. I am glad op is doing well. What horrid people.
Can we all agree this guy is 500/10 FREAKING AMAZING!!! Going out of his way and wanting people to ask him for tips/advice and wants people to shine on this platform, this guy deserves ALL THE COOKIES!!!
"She said I was treating her like she was greedy."
Because she IS. OP got her a nice gift, but it wasn't the expensive jewelry she wanted. She's a choosing beggar. And yeah I would have said the same thing.
"Criticizing your MIL on Mother's Day is really rude."
Bro. She's greedy. She NEEDS it. It doesn't matter the day.
And finally on the last story: OP hasn't clarified why the stepdad or siblings can't chip in. đ§
On that last story, I'm of the notion that the halfsiblings and stepfamily are not much better than that "mother," if they even qualified by that point past how badly they treated OP in that one.
agree 100%, if a relative kept trying to get me to buy them expensive shit even if it was xmas id tear them a new one, lucky for me my familys the type that if you get reamed out on xmas you deserve it, back years ago my brother got pissed that i didnt by him a ps1 since i had one on xmas day (i had bought one the previous month with money i earned from shoveling for my grandparents), needless to say i tore into him and told him if he wanted one to earn the money and buy it himself, he said it wasnt fair that i had one and he didnt, dad then said that i earned money and saved up to get it and just cuz he has one doesnt mean you get to have one (mom often babied him when we were younger but dad put a firm stop to that), and since he didnt want the gift i had used what little money had to buy for him, i took it back and my dad didnt blame me my family is the "if you act ungrateful dont expect to get the gift that was originally given to you", ive had cousins that when they threw a fit cuz the gift wasnt what they wanted didnt get the gift that was given to them, the giver went and returned it (which is what i did to my brothers gift, i used the money to buy ff7 so yay me, lol, and i still have and play it to this day 20 yrs later), long story short if you throw a fit about a gift dont expect to get anything
@@danteblack1141 I already love your family! Wish mine was like that instead of the crying (hate to use the word but itâs the best to describe them) snowflakes I have lol
@@bird5454 ive bought games for both my brothers and they didnt like them (for whatever reason) so i ended up with extra games, lol
@@danteblack1141 Exactly. Does rSlash also think that if a spoiled brat starts crying and throwing a fit on his birthday because he didn't get the expensive present he wanted from an uncle, complains that it's not fair because the uncle gave his own son a more expensive gift for his birthday, and calls the uncle's gift crappy and thoughtless, he shouldn't be told off just because it's his birthday and that's not the time and place to scold him? The time and place for OP to tell off his MIL was the time and place when she was acting like a spoiled brat. She chose Mother's Day as the time and place to make a scene, not OP!
OP in the second story is definitely not the asshole. She literally made sure a young woman wasn't being taken advantage of!
Exactly
She literally asked a favor.
That alone already guarantee a NTA
EXACTLY!
Folks have no idea how many of these phony ass agencies screw over people, who make their money on social media. OP is 1000% NTA. Google how bad an MCN screwed over and ruined Smosh.
this also teaches the daughter to not just sign any future work contract but have it checked over by someone who understands it.
That MIL deserved to be called out. I don't care what day it is. If you try to shame me in front of a group of people, I'm gonna stand up for myself. Also, in the last story, would that mother have gotten a pass if the conversation had taken place on mother's day? If you're an awful person, you don't get a pass because it's a holiday.
OP is a saint for not getting revenge on his mother. What kind of human waste makes an eight year old feel depressed
The story where the wife is pissed bc the man doesn't treat MIL Like a second wife, seriously, if that was my wife I'd be out of that relationship before I even got in my car. That's ridiculous and clearly the two of them are just trying to use this man for his financial stability. I married my wife, not her family. It's 2021 marriage don't work like it did in the 1700s
Exactly...damn this comment is making me think...
i dont understand why people are NOW criticizing rslash for doing this stuff hes been saying these things for quite a while im glad he is now getting called out for it.
@Ross With No Sauce yeah at one point he called a woman an asshole because she didn't want her kids to see thier father while completely ignoring the fact that him and his current partner were abusive to the children.
@Ross With No Sauce yep sucks to see the good ones go down hopefully he changes
@@charizardboss4299 glad I'm not the only one who noticed R/slash has had a lot of bad takes lately I'm not sure why
I'm glad the last OP is doing better. OP is doing the right thing in cutting all of his toxic "family" out of his life. He is blessed to have his fiance and her family in his life. They are more family than the OP's mother and stepfamily ever will be.
The only thing i would pay are her tombstone!
I agree!
*THE MOTHER MUST SUFFER IN HELL, FOREVER!*
Last story reminds me of my egg donor. Sheâs told me for as long as I can remember that she wished I was never born, wished me dead, Iâm the reason my dad left, ect. Thankfully my dad fought to keep my sister and I in his life and married a good woman. My step mom is nothing shy of amazing and I wouldnât have survived without them because of the depression my birth giver gave me. If she died today, I would probably laugh hysterically and dance on her grave singing ding dong the witch is dead. Long story short, ops mom is just getting well deserved karma and should have never had the audacity or entitlement to call op in the first place
My father used to tell me he wished I had never been born and he'd try to murder me in my sleep. So many people used to lecture me that he cared about me. It's mind blowing to think about now.
The mother in law could have deeply hurt OP's feelings for treating him like a wallet
Ikr
Both of those last two are easily entitled parents. In the last one, OPâs mom isnât mad or regrets that she cheated, she regrets getting caught and puts all the blame from what is 100% HER fault on an innocent child that did nothing and got the childâs siblings to hate that innocent child too. Thatâs disgusting
AND expects the neglect child to save her, after all the abuse
12:11 So her mom can insult him and hurt his feelings but when he put her in her place and say that he's literally not obligated to buy her anything HE gets yelled at but she's pitied?
12:50 "That was neither the time nor the place to address that issue".
Yes it absolutely was, she belittled a gift in front of other people and acted like a choosing beggar. There was no better time, nor a better place. RSlash, I love your content but I massively disagree with you here.
Iâm glad that the last OP got a happy ending. They were treated horribly even though it was the mom they should have been mad at not them. Iâm happy OP is in a happy place now.
I'm honestly surprised he didn't snap and kill some of his family when he was younger.
id go back and reread it, its vague, the timeline doesn't match up and its really one sided. It also sounds like he had contact with his mom until she said "I have cancer" and then he's justifying why shes bad and he shouldn't be involved to help her in probably the worst time of her life. Idk, I had a very abusive mom growing up and I also was a quiet kid. But I can list exact moments, exact things, I mean her frequently wishing I was dead and then on occasion trying to stab or shoot me (i have a restraining order for life against her now, she narrowly avoided prison because she has BPD with Schitzophrenic Episodes). These are things I live with and freak out over constantly, id never describe it as "bullied" or "not getting the latest gadgets", my mom was violently abusive and the most evil person i can think of.
I have a cousin for instance, his older sister got the "latest gadgets" and he would piss moan and scream. He called the police once to claim he was abused after he started yelling racial slurs at his step mom because he didn't "get the latest iPhone" and my uncle threw his stupid ass out in the front yard.
Honestly, go back and scan it, it sounds REALLY fishy.
@@inquisition3173 Aita has a word limit, qnd rejection and hated or make you feel like a burden are abusive. And he did point exact moments that how they wish him dead, wich is very common on affair kids because they shift the blame to them, especially the kids. And it doesn't look like a lot, but he point the latest gadgets just as a way to point how is not like the family struggle financially.
It could be fake, of course, but the situation if real was of abuse. You don't need to have fiscal altercations to be abuse, being singled out and hated is abuse too.
That last story was blatant mental, emotional, and neglectful abuse; because of the mother's choice to cheat. It was not the child's fault regarding their parentage. To demand money from a child you outright abused for years because "I birthed you, so that must count for something right?" Makes my blood boil. She ignored the hell she put her child like it was nothing. Just ugh.
The first story: Good on you OP! Thank you for having a spine and using it! Although I think you should've tried to explain yourself to the rest of your family first. Because just like rSlash said you have no idea what your cousin even said to them.
The second story, OP you aren't an a-hole and you didn't butt into someone else's business. Your step daughter came to *you* and *asked* *you* for advice. Daddy is just mad you messed up his get money for nothing scheme. It sounds like he was gonna get a cut of a clearly predatory scam of a contract. No way in frigid hell would I or anyone *EVER* sign a contract like that! They wanted to make your step daughter property and own her, along with her content. On top of taking most of the money she earns. They would keep her trapped under the threat of paying back that 30-35k because they would pay her so little that she would never get out. So good on you for telling her it was garbage because it sure was! Also, nothing wrong with being self employed. I dunno what decade your wife is stuck in but in today's world being self employed is frankly one of the only jobs where you're treated like a human being with a life not meant to make a rich old man more money.
Third story, OP not the a-hole your mother in law has a screw loose and I think you should seriously consider a restraining order. Your mother in law sees your money and not you. You put the mother in law in her place you weren't out of line and as for the timing all I can say is whelp if she weren't a gold digger and if she didn't throw a spoiled toddler tantrum then that wouldn't have happened. You put the *GREEDY* *OLD* *BAG* *IN* *HER* *PLACE* Don't matter the day but if the day mattered so much then should've acted properly and not shown her butt. You need to tell your wife this. You both have got to start putting her in her rightful place and your wife needs to truly accept that her mother only sees you as free/easy money whenever she thinks she deserves it; and that you won't tolerate that.
Fourth story, OP NTA Your two faced backstabbing weasel of a "family" only came to you because they see you with everything they feel like they should have. They crapped on you and treated you worse than dirt but despite that, you worked your butt off and defied the odds and you've crawled out of that s*!t hole and made something of yourself, by yourself they can suck a big fat one. I 1,000% assure you if you weren't making good money they wouldn't have even given a fart in your direction. Don't feel guilty for a pos getting what a pos deserves. Maybe that family, that she loves so much can help her. They laid with garbage and now they're getting taken out like the trash they are. Stand your ground and keep them out of your life! Nothing and I can't stress this enough, Absolutely *NOTHING* good will *EVER* come from hauling all that S*!t aka "family" around. OP you have an amazing loving family that you've always deserved and guess what, it ain't them.
Second story: The father is angry because OP didn't let him basically scam his daughter.
I think daddy wanted a chunk of thst advance payment.
@@TJDious My thoughts exactly.
And the Wife not wanting her to be Self-employed? Technically Steve Jobs & Bill Gates were self-employed
Hell even the People who started EVERY CAR COMPANY IN THE WORLD Were Self Employed.
Ford, Chevrolet, Buick, Honda, Tesla...
@@TJDious pretty sure the company promised him a cut
I've realized that rSlash became harsher and more unforgiving towards abusive parents since he has become a father, it really changes the perspective i guess
Abusive parents deserve no sympathy or forgiveness
I have a son about a year older than Lily. I've gained perspective in a different way. I feel I understand the thought processes of some AH parents. E.g. one stepdad on another video who took money his stepdaughters received from their father's family and redistributed it evenly between _all_ the children. I get that he didn't want his kids to feel like second class citizens.
It doesn't change my judgement that he is TA, or make him any less of TA, but now I understand why he would behave that way.
On the other hand, straight-up abusive parents, I understand even less now.
Child murdered, murderer
Even smosh got destroyed by such company deal. Even Anthony paddila left smosh because of it.
13:02 this story feels like its straight out of Harry Potter
OP in the second story: You're not TA at all. You saved her from what seems like a scam. You're also her parent.
And besides, she came to you and asked you for your opinion. You gave her a fair and honest opinion.
Yeah, he never said she wa the asshole. đ
That mcn seems like an obvious email scam
@@mavisvioleta I'm directing it to the OP. I'm not saying Rslash said she was TA.
@@BlakeKDM I definitely agree. It reeked of being a scam. There was no true benefit to the daughter.
Yes it seems sus as they may ask for banking details or worse there channel op should be aware and should inform the daughter otherwise she is forced to sign away a ton of money to a stechy mcn
Bad Take on the mother's day story, if he hadn't addressed it right then, he would have never had a chance. She needed to shut up with her entitled Karen bs on the spot!
YESSS!!! She was the one complaining about his gift and whining about the necklace... infront of everyone. If my mother did something like that, I would be embarrassed by HER behavior. Not my spouces.
@@_.WildMoonChild Honestly!! She had no right to do that! If anyone I knew did that nesr me I'd immediately call them out smh.
Another example of R/slash's shitty takes.
@@RegenWasTaken Yeah. He usually has a level head then he says stupid shit like this smh.
Wow, three 5/5 buttholes from rSlash in two weeks! Becoming a parent yourself must have really made you more sensitive to parents being buttholes to their kids. I like it. It's kind of like a mama bear instinct (although in this case, being a Dad, it's more of a papa bear instinct).
11:55 "treating her like she was greedy" well, from what was said she deffinitly is greedy
I thoroughly disagree on the MiL one. Sheâd already been wheedling him for awhile and tried to force him into buying her stuff when he wouldnât budge (it was Motherâs Day, in front of others, and she _sent a photo of exactly which gift_ she expected). She set the confrontation up and it didnât go the way she wanted. I genuinely hope he and his wealthy family have their assets protected.
Maybe it's just my family's background (i.e. my parents don't want gifts on those days because it comes across as fake), but why is OP even expected to give her a gift when she isn't his mother?
@@iAstra that's what I was thinking. If your wife is a mother than ya get her a gift but your mother in law should be happy she even got flowers
Couldn't agree more. Op is totally not in the wrong, the MIL wanted to embarrass him or make him feel shit for doing what I would appreciate as a gift (even if its not my sort of gift) The fact that it was mothers day means fuck all, it's not his mother and even if she was that's no way to treat your child.
The MiL as a kid: "I expect for you to get me this incredibly expensive dollhouse set for my birthday because you got mom a nice pair of earrings for her birthday. I don't care about any other gift you give me."
The over-involved mother-in-law had it coming. SHE decided to pester OP about his gift instead of sensibly telling him all of that bullshit in private later, and OP must have also felt hurt that she rejected a gift he'd put so much thought and emotion into, but no one's talking about apologizing to him apparently.
Parent: *breathes wrong near their kid*
Rslash post baby: So you have chosen death!
Just because you're dying of cancer, doesn't magically make you a good person. I wake up everyday wondering when my mom will finally kick the bucket so I can live without the weight of knowing she's out there ruining someone's life.
"Yeah I know I'm the one who cheated on my husband and got pregnant with another man buT IT'S YOUR FAULT FOR BEING BORN" yeah um some people are just disgusting and should never have kids
That last story literally broke my heart. Imagine blaming a child just for being born. And brainwashing the other children into hating him. I don't blame him I would have went no contact a minute I was old enough to get out of that family and I would have never looked back how dare they come around asking for money to pay for hospital bills.
OP should've told the mother to remember when she wished he wasn't born and to consider that wish fulfilled. People who were never born can't pay your hospital bills.
I wouldve said "except when you never got me anything because you hated that i was born right?" And list everything she and my siblings done
Sounds like a gacha story to be honest
I know this might get backlash but in my opinion.
She never cared about your life when you needed it so why should you care abouts hers when she needs it
@@lewiesheldon9303 taste of medicine
"new family, who dis?" Made me laugh so hard
Lol, "we wish you weren't born and will pretend you don't exist, but can we have some of your money?" Fat chance.
In the one with the Demanding MIL, I think OP was completely justified. Not only did OP try to maintain himself until the end, he even treated her with respect. He set up boundaries, she ignored them. 0/5 OP.
The mother in law, she sounds like 1 of those perpetual victims who can never accept a "no"
Motherâs Day: you wouldnât give your neighbor an expensive ring on Motherâs Day. Right?
The guy in the last story was honestly an angel. I'd have a hard time not telling her to enjoy hell or something really mean if my family ever treated me like that.
OP from the story with the stepmother should've gotten 0/5. You may say that he shouldn't have done it on Mother's Day but the mother was insulting him to his face. No mother (step or otherwise) gets to do that on Mothers Day, especially after he told her all the effort he out into it. She was so entitled and OP was right to call her out on it, she shouldn't go around critiquing somebody without expecting backlash.
I think a lot of mothers out there would be very happy with receiving "only flowers" on Mother's Day. This MIL just basically made a fool of herself in front of everyone (though the rest of the family seems to be completely blind to it) by trying to use a small holiday as an excuse to get what she wants. "Ugh! Flowers? That's for common people! I want expensive stuff!". As far as I know Mother's Day all about giving recognition to mothers in any way YOU want, a nice breakfast and a card is already a nice gesture. You don't have to start moving mountains or buying luxury for Her Holiness just because SHE wants it.
So weird considering she wasnt well off to begin with. You really wouldn't expect that type of behaviour from people who had to "make do" and survive.
In the last story: obviously, OPs family wasn't poor. At least he stated that his siblings and parents got nice stuff. And they were six siblings or so. Why on earth does his mother contact him for money? Either her husband or one of her beloved children should be able to pay for her.
The problem with the mother in law was the son in law did address her entitled demands calmly at the beginning, but she continued to push by stating his gift sucked, and that he can afford it etc.. He responded in a very negative tone, because she wouldn't stop. His wife should have addressed it with her mother before it got to that point. I feel like the mother sees him as an atm machine not her daughter's husband.
That mother-in-law is beyond disgusting and entitled Op just called her on it
Why do I have the feeling that the father âmadeâ the contract to control her
I wondered that, too. I couldn't help thinking that he would get some kind of payout, maybe from some kind of control over her content, if she did sign up.
I love how he raise the stories so seriously and offer real good advice even if op wonât see it.
No no no, just bc itâs wedding day doesnât mean sheâs safe from criticism. She deserved it.
âDOESNT WANT HER DAUGHTER TO BE SELFEMPLOYED???â
What parent would be upset that their child is successfully able to support themselves without having to rely on another person or a company?
Yeah this is like so the old way of thinking they need a "real job"
people that are scared of the risks self employment might bring. itâs not dumb, things can go wrong, but they should let people live their lives.
Granted, not everyone is suited for that. I've been unemployed for quite a while and have considered starting a company but then come to the conclusion that I'm not suited for that position.
Well... self employment is quite risky, that's the issue I guess... What parent would be willing to see their children face uncertainty and maybe suffer hardships while trying to reach success? I think she'd rather have her daughter follow a more "traditional" and secure path for herself, that's all. Let's be honest... what is the proportion, among youtubers and other content creators who can live from their creation? It's like football players: many who dream of it but in the end, how many can reach that goal?
Sadly many people believe that CZcams is not a âreal jobâ as they think a âreal jobâ involves a traditional 9-5 job. Mostly the people who think this way tend to be in the older crowd so the idea of being able to self-employ yourself is foreign to them.
"Throwing out the baby with the bathwater" is the best expression I've ever heard lmao
Dude, that saying is literally hundreds of years old. Is this really your first time hearing it? Jeebus, I MUST be getting old.
@@SkunkApe407 maybe he just isn't an english native speaker? Judging by his name odds are good he isn't.
@@baraka629 I could see that if it were an American saying, but it's a saying from Europe. I've heard old Italian and Greek women say it. I think I'm just a dusty old fart, lol. Thanks for the vote of confidence thought!đ
Weeeeee
My therapist told me that last week. I didnât understand what he meant so I just imagined my therapist yeeting a baby đđđ
Yeesh. I'm of Eastern European descent, and spent some time living over there. That first story made me cringe.
"New family, who dis."
Absolutely perfect XD
nah about the mother in law. My sisters husband is a heart surgeon and makes A LOT of money. my mother doesnt ask or even expect anything out of him. And if she complained about a gift like that, even on mothers day, my entire family would have called her out on it.
Family: I hate you, get out of our life
OP: leaves and earns a nice life and money
Family: We Love you, please be part of our life
Family: We still don't love you, give us your Money*
@@tommasosementa3119 OP: No. *Blocks all of them*
@@mask938 family: surprised pikachu face
I loved how he took so much time to get those flowers. Thats such a wonderful gift. I would have been speechless.
On the first story I shouldn't be laughing at that joke... oh god I feel bad...
For the MIL story the MIL threw the gift back in his face calling it thoughtless when the fl9wers were from his DEAD mothers garden I'd be emotionally concerned if he didn't get pissed.
Story 2: Wait wait wait. The father is mad that the daughter was saved from a predatory deal that he was involved in, and the others were mad that OP intervened and saved said daughter from predatory deal? Sweet Christ. NTA. Hardcore NTA
Hey, if those half- and step-siblings want their mother to receive financial help for her cancer bills, OP should've suggested they chip in the money.
The MIL called his dead motherâs flowers a crappy gift. On Motherâs DayâŠ
On that last story, while it's never ok to wish death/cancer on someone, the mother is suffering the consequences of her actions. What she did is bloody unforgivable
"No one deserves to die for those things" when you call your children worthless and abuse and neglect them, uh yeah, they kinda do
Also she wont die, just live with crippling debt. OP owes her nothing.
nope, nobody deserves to *die* period.
@@V1G4M1 you probably have a very privileged life if you really think that way
While I would say she doesnât deserve to die I would say itâs not ops responsibility to save her at all. Like, most homeless people donât deserve to be homeless, but People arenât going to give each of them a house. It sucks but you reap what you sow
@@V1G4M1 Some people do deserve to die... But well... what that "mother" did wasn't enough for her to deserve to die... However, what she did to her son made that she didn't deserve his help either! How can you treat a human being like garbage and then demand help from that person??? And her own son at that!
The response to the mother "You couldn't keep your legs closed, then treated me worse than the average dog gets treated I HAVE NO F@CKING OBLIGATION TO HELP YOU OR PAY FOR YOUR TREATMENT!"
rslash being shook about a 50/50 split
me laughing nervously, thinkin about vtuber agencies
Thank God OP told his stepdaughter not to sign that contract. As it's highly likely that it was made by the Father who just wanted her money and figured if he tricked her into signing it, she wouldn't have any other choice but to give all her money to him and make bank if she succeeds or fails.