The clubbing video made me soo happy. There's been a few videos where it's like "It's my disabled family members bedtime and they won't stay in bed!" and they make me feel awful. So I was happily surprised to see the clubbing video where disabled people are treated like actual thinking feeling people by the people caring for them.
I'm on the autism spectrum and I don’t get to choose my bed time, but my ideal time is to probably go to bed at midnight or pull an all nighter, so the times I do go to bed from my mom telling me to is at 10 or 11 at night
Y'all, I wish every nd kid had a family that accepted that two slices of bread was a sandwich and gave them a swim pad without question at family parties and a support system that shares in their joy at the color of measuring cups because it matches their weighted blanket and a support worker that hypes the hell out of your autonomy. Fuck, guys. I think the new generation of nd kids might actually be okay. Like it's getting better. I'm almost in tears.
Thank you- Like hearing people point out that gen Z will be more accepting instead of saying there all dumb and will end the world. It feels good to here people look forward for my generation-
The masking autism bit really hit me. I've been masking my autism for 40 years (now I'm 45). I hit 40 and something in me clicked and I don't mask anymore. I don't care if anyone likes it or not and now my family is telling me how and why I changed so much. NO BITCH, I AM MYSELF FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 40 FREAKING YEARS!!!!! So, to all people out there, be yourself and hope y'all have a great day!
I love this for you! So glad you’re comfortable being yourself now . My husband used to mask his autism before he met me bc he wanted to fit in with everyone and be “cool” his mom used to always call him a retard and say he was embarrassing but now that we’re together he feels comfortable to be himself and I’m happy he’s able to be himself no one should have to hide autism for the sake of anyone else screw that!
@@linaulnes8821 One of my friends is in the autistic spectrum. He acts completely different if he is alone with me than he is with others. With others he is charming, flirty, even hugs people for hello and goodbye, shows nearly none of his "normal" speech patterns etc., he is just a different person. Sometimes (only sometimes) I get a bit jealous, because of course he is easier for those other people, while he is often bit difficult while with me. But the again I have the feeling that what he does to the others is a mask and what he does with me is his true self, and I like his true self better. Still: Can you blame people for sometimes prefering the easy route?
Meu deus eu sinto muito pela sua situação, deve ser horrível ter que mascarar toda a sua personalidade, suas estereotipias/stims com medo de ser julgado
love this, especially the clubbing scene. those people are some of the few i think i'd actually have fun and dance with in a situation like that, and it's awesome the overnight support person decided to turn it into a fun activity instead of just going to bed or dropping them off! it's really hard to support anyone in mental health unless you can at least somewhat be friends with them, and i've been on both sides of that.
not to say like, you HAVE to be friends. but like, treating someone as an equal and worthy of love and respect. it can even be friendly aquaintances, but a rude stranger telling someone to go to bed just seems like horrible care imo
Okay so I found an absolutely beautiful dress with puffy sleeves (I love puffy sleeves) but the fabric was too uncomfortable and overwhelming so I had to take it back to the store. I was super sad about but today my mother came home with a similar dress except it was made with different fabric so I can wear it! I love my mother, she’s so awesome.
holy shit i love the clubbing video. im autistic, and i also work as a caregiver. my client is in her 30s, and whilst i tend to prefer my own days to be heavily structured, she loves trying new things and going out. on rare occasions we have the time, it is lovely go to out with her and have fun experiences. she takes me out of my comfort zone all the time in the best ways.
My dad used to give me the milk to shake it and i did like a full body stim for 3 minutes with that milk in my hand while he was watching me, smiling :D
Omg! The one with the strawberry soup got me cracking up, because I‘m literally just eating soup and not 10 minutes ago my mom came into the kitchen and told me that there are strawberries in the fridge that I could put in my bowl…. She didn‘t know I was actually making soup not semolina, but for a second there I actually thought about putting them in my soup. XD
I really liked the ones with the girl with the headphones. It was really interesting to see a highly communicive adult who was completely self aware of melt downs. I've only ever experienced meltdowns in middle school age kids and younger so it was fascinating to learn that adults still have them, despite being aware of them. I wonder if she ever gets frustrated with herself for having a meltdown
As an adult (22) who just had to work through a terrible meltdown last month, it's definitely something that creates a lot of conflicting feelings. They don't actually get any easier to go through, I've just learned over time (mostly on my own, without help) how to 1. anticipate what may cause one and how to prevent that 2. how to take care of myself during & post meltdown and 3. how to communicate to the people I live with how to support me in navigating the situation. It's definitely helpful to have more control over my life, unlike a middle schooler, and know that I can push through another hour of Rough Sensory Experience and then go home to decompress, where I may then have a meltdown. That might be why you don't see adults facing them as often as kids. Kids very rarely have the opportunity to say 'Actually, I'm going to go home/into another room/the bathroom/outside now, it was nice seeing you,' especially in schools. My adult friends and colleagues, who may not understand my disability, at least know that I have it, and also just understand that sometimes, folks just plain feel unwell, and need to step out to handle feeling unwell. I'm still very self-conscious about them. I struggle to let my girlfriend even see me when I'm having one (not only is it vulnerable and embarrassing for me, my meltdowns often have me hitting things like the floor and my pillows, and violent outbursts can sometimes trigger her PTSD) but we've gotten to a point of understanding about shorthand communication, the things that can help me, ways for her to stay safe and regulated during, what I need from her afterwards, and things she might notice about me when I am getting close to experiencing one. It's not fun, of course, but we know what to do about it and how to support my recovery.
The fact people think they only happen to autistic kids says everything about the lack of knowledge. I am glad you listened to this and choosed to learn.
I have meltdowns a lot even as an adult (20). I have a lot of problems with my emotions and easily get overwhelmed if I get too excited, sad, happy, ect. I end up spending a lot of time reflecting and thinking about life so that I can avoid getting angry or upset, and to realize my emotions and do the steps I need to calm down before things go bad. But, other things cause my meltdowns too... Luckily I've been getting better. I'm still a pup though, I have a lot left to learn about myself and life. My main sensory issues though are definitely sight and hearing, though touch/taste/smells still annoy me. My eyes hurt from bright flashing lights, so I hate going outside too early, and I really appreciate games that let me turn off or minimize particles. For sound, I often play games muted or listen to music/videos turned down. I also have specific sounds I hate to hear, I had a meltdown yesterday in a VC cause someone kept mic spamming and yelling. Speaking takes a lot of energy for me so I was just gone. In private or online, I speak a lot more clearly and think I appear more normal, but outside, when everything is overloading my senses, its hard to do anything. It's like opening 50 tabs in chrome then expecting the next one to do everything, I can't close any of them and its all I can do but to do what the bare minimum x-x
@@huntermorgan4201 Yes, blue is associated with autism speaks, which is a hate group. I thought you used blue for that because of the kind of video we are on. Sorry for assuming. Also, blue puzzle pieces are a hate symbol made by autism speaks. Thanks for reading, and sorry again.
@@kaylanek1 Oh yikes! I do not like autism speaks, and didn't realize they used that symbol too. I will keep that in mind for contexts like this and use a different color next time. Thank you for letting me know!
Oh, the super strength discussion mostly makes me sad because there are still a lot of people who use that as a way to demonize us, I'm afab so I was never extremely strong but I have busted a few holes in the walls, I've never injured someone and hopefully I never do. 💙
If you see so eone bullying your kid you should stop it (or at least try to stop it) from happening Your kid could get in trouble with the teachers if they hurt someone severely Your kid hurting the kid that's bullying them might hurt them back even more It teaches the kid that getting into fights is a good solution when the mom could have helped instead And it feels like the mom see's the kid' anger as a tool or source of entertainment I know she probably wouldn't let her kid get hurt or hurt someone else but that joke felt insensitive and weird to me :/
i have been a teacher but pretty much consider myself a learner of autistic people for the past 30 years. I didnt believe any of the stuff I learned in my graduate program because I did a lot of respite for families and found if I just explained how weird stuff we expect them to do but then say why....not a problem. I learned believe every person knows exactly what you are saying, agree that their bodies cant always comply and try to find ways to make it work. I worked with kids that were considered uneducable and they ended up being the smarted kids in the class. I just lost a job because I wont do ABA with children. It is torture and I wont participate in it. I just want to know how I can help spread the word. I have always been held back because I am not Autistic myself and dont feel like I can speak for people but there has to be some way for us to band together.
There's a name for not being able to know/feel what my body needs?! What?!?! I spent YEARS only eating every days or drinking exclusively when something tasted good and I had it around, with exception to if someone reminded me humans require nutrition. I also next to never slept, much worse once I lived alone and lost my prompts of everyone else sleeping. Honestly just thought it was one of the many ways I am defective. Because that's how I labeled myself since I was 6 years old - Defective. These videos always reveal something else about myself that I never knew had a place. Now I just need to find out why the hell I regularly HAVE to air out my eyeballs and why not doing this makes me want to remove them with a spoon. 🙃
Sometimes it can also be depression or related to adhd and other stuff. It’s good to talk to your therapist and doctor to make sure that’s what you have
@@ollieno971 It's always been that way since I was a baby onwards, apparently. Got told stories of when I was a baby/toddler and just not eating for ages because I just didn't realise I needed to from broarder family, running around in the snow in nappies and so on. Obviously, that can't speak for emotional understanding, but it's certainly a sign something was amiss. 😅
That moment at 13:51 literally just unlocked one of my biggest problems over the last few years. I mainly took notice of the fact I didn’t feel hunger at all and sometimes thirst at around 16yrs old ( I don’t remember the exact year, but I do remember that it was a summer’s day), before that I had nearly given myself a damn heart murmur on accident cause I was trying to listen and feel my heart beat and made it skip ( or at least that’s how my brain interpreted that feeling), and as of this year I’ve been having problems sleeping cause I used to sleep with a quilt, but I started getting overheated and waking up early as a result, but if I didn’t sleep with one at all, I’d get too cold and wake up early either way. I hadn’t had even heard of the term interoception up until now, and it all just…clicked I guess. No wonder I haven’t felt any of that! Though I do have the question of if it’s common in autistic adults for that to be a problem. Upon looking it up, it seems to only say kids deal with this as a problem
I have the same and never heard about this until now. We always have to be careful when looking up information about Neurodivergence, especially as adults, because doctors have misunderstood the entire condition and they still don't know much about it. Doctors thought that autism in adults didn't exist, because adults were expected to "grow up"/out of their Neurodivergence, basically as we get older were suppose to get better at masking and pretending that we are normal for the sake of others around us. In short, doctors and psychos know very very little about autistim as a whole, and even less about autism in women/afab, and even less about autism in adults.
@@madeline569 1000% true! It’s a very weird situation, especially since my mother pointed out that there is a condition that acts similar to those unable to feel pain, but just with hunger and thirst.
I thought I was the only one with the heart thing. I can't sleep with people because when I lie next to them I try to sync my heartbeat to theirs. Do you also sometimes subconsciously hold your breath? Because I do that all the time and feel lightheaded and disoriented because of it. I have to take a big gulp of air like evry 2 minutes because I forgot to breath again.
I was sitting in my room, feeling SO angry for no reason. Then I decided I wanted to watch CZcams and put my headphones on. When I tell you the INSTANT calm that washed over my body. It was so nice. And then I realized, I wasn’t mad, I was over stimulated. So next time, I’ll just put them on when it is loud instead of letting myself feel overwhelmed.
I'm really bad at knowing at what point I snap from being too overstimulated, but when it happens, it's usually pretty bad. Most of the time, what happens is I get self-destructive, snap at anyone who tries to talk to/touch me, become ridiculously anxious about everything, and on rare occasions shriek at the highest possible volume. If someone could give me some advice on either preventing a meltdown or lessening the effects of one when it's already happening, I'd appreciate it greatly.
This happens to me a lot. What I do is if I feel even the slightest over stimulated, I try and fix it immediately. I don’t take chances of pushing my limits and immediately put on headphones, try and get away from whatever environment or thing that’s making me over stimulated, and warn people around me. However, if I’m already in a meltdown, my main goal is still to get away, decrease stimuli, and get to a safe environment away from people. For example if I’m at school, I ask to go to the “Safe room” (it’s a room meant for kids who get too stressed out and over stimulated) or to go walk in the halls. If I’m in public, I try and get to a bathroom. Usually bathrooms are quiet and dark, plus, you can hide in a stall to avoid people. If I’m at a friends house, I let them know what’s happening. It’s best to tell your friends your needs, for example I have a safe room in each of my friends house’s where I can go to calm down. Another thing I recommend is if you go non verbal, bring some way of communicating so you can inform the people around you. I don’t usually go non verbal but if I do, I know sign language and have taught my friends certain signs, as well as the fact I can use my phone to communicate. And finally, bring fidget toys. For example, I tend to bite myself so I bring something I can chew on so I won’t hurt myself. I hope this helps. :]
I can’t give very much help because I don’t know much about what’s going on, but I’m also really bad at gauging overstimulation and get really snappy. From me to you, I hope you’re doing well and whatever come your way, you’ll find a solution to overcome it!!
In addition to the other comment using the principle of removing yourself from the situation, in my school days and later in life I found that it helps to have a friend or a loved one, someone in school or at home who might witness or be present in your meltdown, to know what to do and to explain to them the best way to help you. Maybe it's leaving you alone, maybe its being there close, maybe it's trying to distract you. I say this because one time when I had a meltdown at school during a lesson I rushed to the bathroom because my meltdowns turn into seizures and my friend who was unaware got there to check on me and witnessed me having seizures and started panicking which made me more stressed until the other friend who was informed about my meltdowns got there too and calmed her down and helped me out immensely in that difficult situation. You know, sometimes people want to help, but don't know how, and if they are informed they can cover your back in public places and really provide the support you might need there
@@RoadtoStick ooowwwwhhhh! Or baby food carrot cake (but wayyy less sweet or e So I can’t handle it well 😅) wt strawberry cream cheese icing! Btw the baby food carrot cake recipe is really good my fav cake growing up was carrot cake from the box and then my mom did that recipe taht she learned from her friends family when she was young and it was good I just didn’t like how sweet it was
My 13 years favorite Christmas gift this past year was from his dad.. a 50 foot roll of bubble wrap. Makes him so happy when hes upset. Calms him when hes nervous. Right up there with the video games.
so we teach autistic children social skills that we consider normal at a young age but we should really teach all children at a young age that everyone is different
Does anyone else love the sheer joy of opening packages like that one girl? Cuz I loooove doin that and the best part of Christmas is opening presents, not even what they are!
Every time someone says something like "I never would've guessed you were autistic!" I just want to telepathically infuse them with the understanding of what its like when I'm not masking, such as: • Social anxiety issues (etc. Not being able to maintain eye contact) • Sensitivity to loud noises and certain sounds • Needing to physically shudder, shake, twitch, or flap my hands to get rid of the "icky" feeling certain sensations give me (such as fabric scratching my nails) • Having to remove scratchy tags from everything I own • Having to make sure my underwear/pants can sit comfortably anywhere under or above my belly button bc any pressure/sensation in that area is overstimulating • Being unable to handle certain textures (such as pineapple chunks in Popsicles) • Not understanding the value of several social norms (therefore coming off as rude) • Naturally having animalistic traits (etc. T-Rex arms, hissing, cooing, whining, howling, wagging my butt when I'm happy/excited) • Being unable to process instructions/directions half the time • Hyperfixations • Constantly questioning whether or not im "actually autistic" bc half the time my default state is, in fact, masking and mimicking the traits of everyone around me There's probably more I can't even think of but either way it's exhausting only being seen as your mask and not being able to take it off without unlearning many years of adaptation and likely suffering social consequences anyways. This compilation reminds me I'm not alone tho and I feel hella valid. Thank you
Thank you so much for writing this! I saved it because you've helped me put my feelings/experiences into words perfectly. It sucks that you have to go through this stuff, too, but I really appreciate not feeling so alone with it. Thank you. =]
Whenever someone does says that to me, I would be like "realy? I thought it's obvious". And they just say that they thought I'm quirky or that I'm not too autistic acting to be seen as autistic.
3:09 That was so me as a kid. In elementary school, the Michelle Obama thing required kids to get an apple or an orange with their school lunch, but none of the kids actually wanted to eat their fruit, so, since I was obsessed with apples, my lunch-buying classmates would all get apples and give them to me. I would return home with ~7 apples each day.
What's funny is that I'm slightly neurodivergent and look nothing like it probably. But I also like to eat my food separate. I like to taste each thing alone. I hate when things get too mixy. If it's a salad okay. But sometimes I'll make a fuss about it. Like: "Why do you need to mix it all in? I can't taste the salmon like this!" but I do love certain combos. Like you'll see me take a piece of avocado with a piece of salmon in my mouth. But usually I like to eat one thing then another. Or in some cases I grab a bite of both. Like one piece of potato and a piece of meat in case I'm getting full but still want to make my mom happy I ate all the food in my plate.
Same here. Growing up, EVERYTHING had to be separate when i ate and if it couldn’t be, i either didn’t eat it or had it really plain. So all the time my dad would always tell me “take two things you like and mix them together and it will be delicious” and i was always like “what the fuck, thats disgusting”
I don't know if this is autistic or not. I think it's called survival. I used to be bullied in middle school for seemingly no reason. One of my highschool classmates told me he knew my bully and that he was a looser/jerk. Good to know after all these years! So in highschool I became the bully. I was snappy, talked back to anyone who was trying to annoy me and I used to hit people with the corner of my phone if they became annoying. Like one guy was always taking my stuff. Even my phone off my headphones. I would chase him, get my phone back and hit him with it. I'm weak so I didn't hurt him too much. The moral of the story is don't disturb a kid even if they look calm and relaxed. Expecially if they are calm. You do not want to test anyone's limit. I met this guy again when I was 16 (he changed school) and referred me to his friends as the "girl who kicked me in the staircase". I thought he was cute at first. But then I found out he was stupid and my high standards were like: "It's okay, you're not the most clever person out there. But man! He's as stupid as a rock can be. Avoid immediately!"
DUDE i didnt even realise i have a very specific way of eating plated food until that last one, i always go from least favourite to most favourite, no exceptions; curries and stirfry i pick all the veggies out and leave the meat and noodles till last, salad i pick out the lettuc-y stuff and leave mushroom and tomato, i didnt even notice i did it until my mum pointed it out one night. is this just me?
For the chap stick hate, I’ve noticed that the good sensation of absorption in my skin overwhelms the sensation of tacky lotion on my skin, so I can handle moisturizer. If I can’t do chap stick that day, sometimes I’ll just rub face moisturizer on my lips because it absorbs fast and doesn’t leave anything behind for me to feel.
God I love seeing videos of autistic joy so much, it's so nice to see other autistic people happy, it makes me feel a lot better about life going forward as an autistic person!
HEY! This is the special interest/hyperfixation comment. If you have anything you want to talk about but can't find anyone to talk to about it, I'm here to listen! I'll do my best to respond too. Don't forget to eat, drink water, and get some rest. Love y'all!
Seeing other autistic people and knowing I'm not alone in this vast world gives me such feelings of comfort and make me feel warm and happy inside. The for these feelings and good luck to everyone else like me!
OH MY GOD YEESSSSSS. I have ADHD, and I am constantly forgetting to eat and drink. And when I DO eat, it's usually just canned chicken noodle soup. (I just like it ok?).
Um... I really relate to majority of this compilation. Specifically the 1st compilation with the guy talking to himself explaining masking, and (especially) the girl with pigtails hairdo and how she was trying to explaining masking and having a hard time. It happens to me quite often... Idk. I always felt different growing up. Still do 😕
This scares me so much because I relate to a lot of this stuff way too much for my own good, but I’m confused bc some stuff in my early childhood made me really good at copying anyone I’m around, so of course being around this makes me think ”Is this what I am?” But then I know I’m good at copying so I think, no you’re just copying, this is bad, faking stuff like this makes you a terrible human being, and then another part of my brain says, but these people talk about thinking that way. And then it starts over again until I go play my flute to clear my mind.
The first one hit like a brick cuz I'm pretty sure that was the summarized version of me talking to my family about being autistic, including the continuous intensing of the voice. And basically the same facial reactions. Overall, most were supportive when I went into detail and the research that I did for 2+ years before saying anything
4:39 This reminds me of how, one time, as a kid, I tried to make fruit punch out of apple juice and strawberry slices since they were my 2 favorite fruits. It was disgusting.
The video at 9:24 reminded me of when I was a kid and they had to trick me just to get me in the building whenever it was time for my shots and one time I booked when I realized they were about to jab me and I hid under the table of a meeting going on in an adjacent room and they had to drag me out and it took 5 adults, including my massive stepfather, to hold me down. I was in grade school.
9:24 this is so true. I remember in kindergarten a kid kept touching me and wouldnt stopand overall I was overwhelmed. This memory is so vivid of me flipping my desk and yelling and then balling up and crying. I then get expelled from that school and have home schooled ever since. I am now 14 and have improved much more and am more verbal and have gotten better at controlling my senses and meltdowns and am going to a private school this fall. I'm also working on masking because lately I have been feeling tired and overwhelmed by masking too much. I can only keep persevering and moving forward to reach my goals!
Oh , my god! I have problems eating because I choke on the first couple of bites and have to eat and drink very slow with tiny bites. It feels like a golf ball stuck halfway down my esophagus! When I was a child I had my own plate bowl and cup and wouldn't eat off anything else. I have to eat all fries first, then burger.
there's nothing i hate more than videos that try to cram everything in at once 500 speed while yelling all the details at you in a fluctuating sing-song "tiktok voice", so I'm glad there's a few more... reasonably paced videos here. (dissociative, anxiety and autism prof. diagnosed)
The first one is very informative (thank you and we're sorry 😞😢) and as an introverted person it also applies to social situations for us as well (I'm very good at pretending to be an extrovert, but gosh it sucks out all the energy out of you) and when by the time you get home, it's time to crash. Which leaves me with no time to properly relax or spend my energy on my family, who actually deserves it.
I often will just cease to feel hungry and/or thirsty and I never knew why until now- holy shit that makes so much more sense- Luckily I have a schedule that makes sure I drink and eat enough but still-.
The washing the dishes bit is soooo true. Like, I CANNOT when the food touches my hand even if I’m wearing rubber gloves (which r horrible texture wise)
9:18 There's many reasons why that tiktok bothered me: 1) If you see someone bullying your kid you should stop it (or at least try to stop it) from happening 2) Your kid could get in trouble with the teachers if they hurt someone severely 3) The kid that's bullying them might hurt them back even more 4) It teaches the kid that getting into fights is a good solution when the mom could have helped instead And it feels like the mom see's the kid' anger as a tool or source of entertainment I know she probably wouldn't let her kid get hurt or hurt someone else but that joke felt insensitive and weird to me :/
9:21 something similar happened to my brother (he's not autistic, but he is dyslexic). A bully was hurting him so he fought back. Mom and dad were proud of him because if you're being hurt, self-defense should be your last resort.
Masking...Well, aren't so many of us? Just ask anyone during the day. Are you solid or faking? I've been waiting 50 years for someone to ask me. 40 years ago, someone in an inner-city, avant-garde video store said, "You have a beautiful smile." I turned to him with full on eye
cant read the name for some reason but now i wanna send the person unboxing stuff welch’s juicefulls since they’re like gushers but better and i want everyone to know they exist cause they’re wonderful- the juice is more thick than gushers i think tho
I so relate to the last one about eating. I have to eat either the dishes one at a time, or alternate between them, and always finish both at the same time taking similar-sized bites. I also sometimes don't eat even if I'm hungry because I either don't like the food options available or I don't have the energy and will to. I haven't been diagnosed with neurodivergence, by the way.
Sooo funny to me that this video didn't have subtitles -- thankfully there were automated subtitles though! Hopefully I didn't miss anything! I am hard of hearing and have an audio processing disorder, but can't stand loud noises. Life is hard 😆
The dude @ 10:04: I’m 5ft 2 (have been since I was 9-10) & I resonate with this guy so much because I have little awareness over my supernatural strength. I especially lose all control if you try to restrain &/or mercilessly antagonise me; as I promise you, from my history, you won’t! & the more you try; the more things that will be broken- objects & people! I am not proud of it but it has protected me in the past.
I was wondering when people with intellectual disabilities would have representation on their own terms in the mainstream, at least it's the first time i see it and it's super nice !
I am going to start this comment by saying that I am not trying to be rude or to correct you, but as a person with autism, I wanted to inform you that autism specifically is not always an intellectual disability. I have no problems with my intellect, although a lot of other people with autism do. If I came across as too polite or cautious, I just didn't want to hurt your feelings. You might have been talking about a different intellectual disability showcased in this video but I just wanted to let you know about autism specifically. If I came across as too polite or cautious, I just didn't want to hurt your feelings.
9:23 Ooh, that brings me back to the time another neurodivergent student wouldn't stop hassling my best friend, so I upended the table and lunged at him in the middle of class.
13:13 now the ADHD version of this would be me drinking it, reading the label and realizing that it says shake well.. So the i put the cap on ( or cover the top if there is no cap and hope it doesn't spill) and shake it even though I've already drunken half of it and its too late to shake it
I'm not trying to mean but am I the only person who is getting rubbed the wrong way by the lunch packing one? Of course it's good that she's endorsing the kids' likes but maintaining their nutrition should be the number one goal. By the looks of it, the only major healthy foods were the applesauce, apples, and peanut butter (both of the latter going to only one of the kids). Plus, peanut butter doesn't have too much protein and apples are loaded with sugar! Overall it just seems like a lunch with way too much sodium, sugar, and starch and not nearly enough protein, vitamins, and other healthy things. Just as a disclaimer: I myself struggle from issues maintaining a healthy diet and have experienced firsthand the issues coming with not getting proper nutrition! I also understand that caring for neurodivergent children is difficult and entirely empathize with the mother's struggle. I also don't know what breakfast/dinner is like in their household, nor do I know what issues each child has. Please feel free to civilly debate me on this!
Being able to get the "right" nutrition is a privilege. We are disabled. If we day we can't eat something or kids often say they don't like it. We rather starve, then eat it, cause it's not possible. Do you know how many autistic kids get starved for days in the name of being healthy?
@@draalttom844 No, I don't, because being starved for days *isn't* healthy. That's not up for debate. How is getting the 'right' nutrition a privilege in a family that can clearly support a healthy diet for its kids? I would *force* a kid to eat healthy food if it meant that they weren't willingly starving themself because they can't eat by their own choice. I'm sorry but I don't understand your argument.
@@atightknitfamily and I'm also disabled so no even if I wanted to eat meat my body will eject it and that's the case for millions if people, even more can't afford to eat
Did anyone else just really feel the first one I mean I felt that I related to it this is basically how the conversation goes when I talk about my autism
The part at 9:18... yeh... I once threw a chair at a kid by accident, and hit another with my lunchbox hard enough to make him cry and run off. I've been better since I was a kid but damn, I kinda regret hurting people. I don't want to, but as a kid I didn't use words as well and I felt it was the fastest and only way to make them listen.
Masking is a part of my life too and I get a lot of people who tell me that I don't seem like I'm autistic. I spent years practicing,so people don't act weary of me. Especially when I am too quiet all the time.
The guy at 10:08 is kind of lucky to me. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when I was eight years old and I always had muscular issues. Whenever someone picks on me in front of my mom, she 10/10 will go full the woman he was responding to to defend me.
I used to be so bad at eating because I legit had to separate everything! Not even just be category. So for example like one video said they would eat the whole hamburger and not separate it out I would have to separate the whole hamburger first and then choose stuff. I mean I don’t eat meat anyway not a fan of the texture and I’m a lot better now. I still separate things though.
I was 9 and I threw a 17 year old 186cm guy over my shoulder like a sack of leaves because he scared me by approaching from behind and putting his hand on my shoulder with a lighthearted smack. Got into a fight when I was 11 with a classmate, I don't remember how, he was coming at me, it was maybe 20 seconds because I put him down without any effort and stepped on his chest lightly, he couldn't sit up and he broke sweat trying, I didn’t even put my weight on it I was just holding him by pushing me away with my leg. Never had any fight again, had some weird moments playing sports but learned to pull my punches a lot and go easy when I "apply force" on contact, I'm like a pillow instead of a wall 😆
The clubbing video made me soo happy. There's been a few videos where it's like "It's my disabled family members bedtime and they won't stay in bed!" and they make me feel awful. So I was happily surprised to see the clubbing video where disabled people are treated like actual thinking feeling people by the people caring for them.
I'm on the autism spectrum and I don’t get to choose my bed time, but my ideal time is to probably go to bed at midnight or pull an all nighter, so the times I do go to bed from my mom telling me to is at 10 or 11 at night
Y'all, I wish every nd kid had a family that accepted that two slices of bread was a sandwich and gave them a swim pad without question at family parties and a support system that shares in their joy at the color of measuring cups because it matches their weighted blanket and a support worker that hypes the hell out of your autonomy. Fuck, guys. I think the new generation of nd kids might actually be okay. Like it's getting better. I'm almost in tears.
Thank you-
Like hearing people point out that gen Z will be more accepting instead of saying there all dumb and will end the world.
It feels good to here people look forward for my generation-
The masking autism bit really hit me. I've been masking my autism for 40 years (now I'm 45). I hit 40 and something in me clicked and I don't mask anymore. I don't care if anyone likes it or not and now my family is telling me how and why I changed so much. NO BITCH, I AM MYSELF FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 40 FREAKING YEARS!!!!! So, to all people out there, be yourself and hope y'all have a great day!
I love this for you! So glad you’re comfortable being yourself now . My husband used to mask his autism before he met me bc he wanted to fit in with everyone and be “cool” his mom used to always call him a retard and say he was embarrassing but now that we’re together he feels comfortable to be himself and I’m happy he’s able to be himself no one should have to hide autism for the sake of anyone else screw that!
Yes! They really don't like it do they, when you stop molding yourself to their comfort zone all the time 🙄
@@linaulnes8821 One of my friends is in the autistic spectrum. He acts completely different if he is alone with me than he is with others. With others he is charming, flirty, even hugs people for hello and goodbye, shows nearly none of his "normal" speech patterns etc., he is just a different person. Sometimes (only sometimes) I get a bit jealous, because of course he is easier for those other people, while he is often bit difficult while with me. But the again I have the feeling that what he does to the others is a mask and what he does with me is his true self, and I like his true self better. Still: Can you blame people for sometimes prefering the easy route?
Finally no family values
Meu deus eu sinto muito pela sua situação, deve ser horrível ter que mascarar toda a sua personalidade, suas estereotipias/stims com medo de ser julgado
love this, especially the clubbing scene. those people are some of the few i think i'd actually have fun and dance with in a situation like that, and it's awesome the overnight support person decided to turn it into a fun activity instead of just going to bed or dropping them off! it's really hard to support anyone in mental health unless you can at least somewhat be friends with them, and i've been on both sides of that.
not to say like, you HAVE to be friends. but like, treating someone as an equal and worthy of love and respect. it can even be friendly aquaintances, but a rude stranger telling someone to go to bed just seems like horrible care imo
Okay so I found an absolutely beautiful dress with puffy sleeves (I love puffy sleeves) but the fabric was too uncomfortable and overwhelming so I had to take it back to the store. I was super sad about but today my mother came home with a similar dress except it was made with different fabric so I can wear it! I love my mother, she’s so awesome.
holy shit i love the clubbing video. im autistic, and i also work as a caregiver. my client is in her 30s, and whilst i tend to prefer my own days to be heavily structured, she loves trying new things and going out. on rare occasions we have the time, it is lovely go to out with her and have fun experiences. she takes me out of my comfort zone all the time in the best ways.
Okay but the shake well tik tok is a whole ass mood. Took me a while to realise I don't have to be that through at shaking lol
My dad used to give me the milk to shake it and i did like a full body stim for 3 minutes with that milk in my hand while he was watching me, smiling :D
@@ApoTheMadLad haha good thing he didint do that with double cream or you'd make butter
Omg! The one with the strawberry soup got me cracking up, because I‘m literally just eating soup and not 10 minutes ago my mom came into the kitchen and told me that there are strawberries in the fridge that I could put in my bowl…. She didn‘t know I was actually making soup not semolina, but for a second there I actually thought about putting them in my soup. XD
I really liked the ones with the girl with the headphones. It was really interesting to see a highly communicive adult who was completely self aware of melt downs. I've only ever experienced meltdowns in middle school age kids and younger so it was fascinating to learn that adults still have them, despite being aware of them. I wonder if she ever gets frustrated with herself for having a meltdown
As an adult (22) who just had to work through a terrible meltdown last month, it's definitely something that creates a lot of conflicting feelings. They don't actually get any easier to go through, I've just learned over time (mostly on my own, without help) how to 1. anticipate what may cause one and how to prevent that 2. how to take care of myself during & post meltdown and 3. how to communicate to the people I live with how to support me in navigating the situation. It's definitely helpful to have more control over my life, unlike a middle schooler, and know that I can push through another hour of Rough Sensory Experience and then go home to decompress, where I may then have a meltdown. That might be why you don't see adults facing them as often as kids. Kids very rarely have the opportunity to say 'Actually, I'm going to go home/into another room/the bathroom/outside now, it was nice seeing you,' especially in schools. My adult friends and colleagues, who may not understand my disability, at least know that I have it, and also just understand that sometimes, folks just plain feel unwell, and need to step out to handle feeling unwell.
I'm still very self-conscious about them. I struggle to let my girlfriend even see me when I'm having one (not only is it vulnerable and embarrassing for me, my meltdowns often have me hitting things like the floor and my pillows, and violent outbursts can sometimes trigger her PTSD) but we've gotten to a point of understanding about shorthand communication, the things that can help me, ways for her to stay safe and regulated during, what I need from her afterwards, and things she might notice about me when I am getting close to experiencing one. It's not fun, of course, but we know what to do about it and how to support my recovery.
@@morg678 Thanks for sharing!
The fact people think they only happen to autistic kids says everything about the lack of knowledge. I am glad you listened to this and choosed to learn.
I have meltdowns a lot even as an adult (20). I have a lot of problems with my emotions and easily get overwhelmed if I get too excited, sad, happy, ect. I end up spending a lot of time reflecting and thinking about life so that I can avoid getting angry or upset, and to realize my emotions and do the steps I need to calm down before things go bad. But, other things cause my meltdowns too... Luckily I've been getting better. I'm still a pup though, I have a lot left to learn about myself and life. My main sensory issues though are definitely sight and hearing, though touch/taste/smells still annoy me. My eyes hurt from bright flashing lights, so I hate going outside too early, and I really appreciate games that let me turn off or minimize particles. For sound, I often play games muted or listen to music/videos turned down. I also have specific sounds I hate to hear, I had a meltdown yesterday in a VC cause someone kept mic spamming and yelling. Speaking takes a lot of energy for me so I was just gone. In private or online, I speak a lot more clearly and think I appear more normal, but outside, when everything is overloading my senses, its hard to do anything. It's like opening 50 tabs in chrome then expecting the next one to do everything, I can't close any of them and its all I can do but to do what the bare minimum x-x
Trust me, we do.
This is by far the best curation of tone in an autism/neurodivergence compilation I've see. Embracing for sure 💙
Not the blue heart ;(
@@kaylanek1 Blue is my favorite color, so I use that heart the most. Is there a specific meaning that other people associate with it?
@@huntermorgan4201 Yes, blue is associated with autism speaks, which is a hate group. I thought you used blue for that because of the kind of video we are on. Sorry for assuming. Also, blue puzzle pieces are a hate symbol made by autism speaks. Thanks for reading, and sorry again.
@@kaylanek1 Oh yikes! I do not like autism speaks, and didn't realize they used that symbol too. I will keep that in mind for contexts like this and use a different color next time. Thank you for letting me know!
@@huntermorgan4201 Of course! You learning is much better than the alternative of choosing to support them. Have a good day!
Oh, the super strength discussion mostly makes me sad because there are still a lot of people who use that as a way to demonize us, I'm afab so I was never extremely strong but I have busted a few holes in the walls, I've never injured someone and hopefully I never do. 💙
If you see so eone bullying your kid you should stop it (or at least try to stop it) from happening
Your kid could get in trouble with the teachers if they hurt someone severely
Your kid hurting the kid that's bullying them might hurt them back even more
It teaches the kid that getting into fights is a good solution when the mom could have helped instead
And it feels like the mom see's the kid' anger as a tool or source of entertainment
I know she probably wouldn't let her kid get hurt or hurt someone else but that joke felt insensitive and weird to me :/
i have been a teacher but pretty much consider myself a learner of autistic people for the past 30 years. I didnt believe any of the stuff I learned in my graduate program because I did a lot of respite for families and found if I just explained how weird stuff we expect them to do but then say why....not a problem. I learned believe every person knows exactly what you are saying, agree that their bodies cant always comply and try to find ways to make it work. I worked with kids that were considered uneducable and they ended up being the smarted kids in the class. I just lost a job because I wont do ABA with children. It is torture and I wont participate in it. I just want to know how I can help spread the word. I have always been held back because I am not Autistic myself and dont feel like I can speak for people but there has to be some way for us to band together.
You could have a stim toy, like a chew necklace you like or carry a plush you find cute to normalize it
9:08 What a cute panda! Great job dude!
I bet he’s drawn that same panda countless times. Perfect.
There's a name for not being able to know/feel what my body needs?! What?!?! I spent YEARS only eating every days or drinking exclusively when something tasted good and I had it around, with exception to if someone reminded me humans require nutrition. I also next to never slept, much worse once I lived alone and lost my prompts of everyone else sleeping. Honestly just thought it was one of the many ways I am defective. Because that's how I labeled myself since I was 6 years old - Defective. These videos always reveal something else about myself that I never knew had a place.
Now I just need to find out why the hell I regularly HAVE to air out my eyeballs and why not doing this makes me want to remove them with a spoon. 🙃
Sometimes it can also be depression or related to adhd and other stuff. It’s good to talk to your therapist and doctor to make sure that’s what you have
@@ollieno971 It's always been that way since I was a baby onwards, apparently. Got told stories of when I was a baby/toddler and just not eating for ages because I just didn't realise I needed to from broarder family, running around in the snow in nappies and so on. Obviously, that can't speak for emotional understanding, but it's certainly a sign something was amiss. 😅
That moment at 13:51 literally just unlocked one of my biggest problems over the last few years. I mainly took notice of the fact I didn’t feel hunger at all and sometimes thirst at around 16yrs old ( I don’t remember the exact year, but I do remember that it was a summer’s day), before that I had nearly given myself a damn heart murmur on accident cause I was trying to listen and feel my heart beat and made it skip ( or at least that’s how my brain interpreted that feeling), and as of this year I’ve been having problems sleeping cause I used to sleep with a quilt, but I started getting overheated and waking up early as a result, but if I didn’t sleep with one at all, I’d get too cold and wake up early either way. I hadn’t had even heard of the term interoception up until now, and it all just…clicked I guess. No wonder I haven’t felt any of that! Though I do have the question of if it’s common in autistic adults for that to be a problem. Upon looking it up, it seems to only say kids deal with this as a problem
I have the same and never heard about this until now. We always have to be careful when looking up information about Neurodivergence, especially as adults, because doctors have misunderstood the entire condition and they still don't know much about it. Doctors thought that autism in adults didn't exist, because adults were expected to "grow up"/out of their Neurodivergence, basically as we get older were suppose to get better at masking and pretending that we are normal for the sake of others around us. In short, doctors and psychos know very very little about autistim as a whole, and even less about autism in women/afab, and even less about autism in adults.
*psychs
@@madeline569 1000% true! It’s a very weird situation, especially since my mother pointed out that there is a condition that acts similar to those unable to feel pain, but just with hunger and thirst.
I thought I was the only one with the heart thing. I can't sleep with people because when I lie next to them I try to sync my heartbeat to theirs. Do you also sometimes subconsciously hold your breath? Because I do that all the time and feel lightheaded and disoriented because of it. I have to take a big gulp of air like evry 2 minutes because I forgot to breath again.
@@acanimatics906 yep, I do that a lot.
I was sitting in my room, feeling SO angry for no reason. Then I decided I wanted to watch CZcams and put my headphones on. When I tell you the INSTANT calm that washed over my body. It was so nice. And then I realized, I wasn’t mad, I was over stimulated. So next time, I’ll just put them on when it is loud instead of letting myself feel overwhelmed.
I'm really bad at knowing at what point I snap from being too overstimulated, but when it happens, it's usually pretty bad. Most of the time, what happens is I get self-destructive, snap at anyone who tries to talk to/touch me, become ridiculously anxious about everything, and on rare occasions shriek at the highest possible volume. If someone could give me some advice on either preventing a meltdown or lessening the effects of one when it's already happening, I'd appreciate it greatly.
Same. Sorry I can't give advice
This happens to me a lot. What I do is if I feel even the slightest over stimulated, I try and fix it immediately. I don’t take chances of pushing my limits and immediately put on headphones, try and get away from whatever environment or thing that’s making me over stimulated, and warn people around me. However, if I’m already in a meltdown, my main goal is still to get away, decrease stimuli, and get to a safe environment away from people. For example if I’m at school, I ask to go to the “Safe room” (it’s a room meant for kids who get too stressed out and over stimulated) or to go walk in the halls. If I’m in public, I try and get to a bathroom. Usually bathrooms are quiet and dark, plus, you can hide in a stall to avoid people. If I’m at a friends house, I let them know what’s happening. It’s best to tell your friends your needs, for example I have a safe room in each of my friends house’s where I can go to calm down. Another thing I recommend is if you go non verbal, bring some way of communicating so you can inform the people around you. I don’t usually go non verbal but if I do, I know sign language and have taught my friends certain signs, as well as the fact I can use my phone to communicate. And finally, bring fidget toys. For example, I tend to bite myself so I bring something I can chew on so I won’t hurt myself. I hope this helps. :]
@@FloatyyBrain Thank you so much! I'll try to take this awesome advice to heart as quickly as my terrible executive functioning will allow.
I can’t give very much help because I don’t know much about what’s going on, but I’m also really bad at gauging overstimulation and get really snappy. From me to you, I hope you’re doing well and whatever come your way, you’ll find a solution to overcome it!!
In addition to the other comment using the principle of removing yourself from the situation, in my school days and later in life I found that it helps to have a friend or a loved one, someone in school or at home who might witness or be present in your meltdown, to know what to do and to explain to them the best way to help you. Maybe it's leaving you alone, maybe its being there close, maybe it's trying to distract you.
I say this because one time when I had a meltdown at school during a lesson I rushed to the bathroom because my meltdowns turn into seizures and my friend who was unaware got there to check on me and witnessed me having seizures and started panicking which made me more stressed until the other friend who was informed about my meltdowns got there too and calmed her down and helped me out immensely in that difficult situation. You know, sometimes people want to help, but don't know how, and if they are informed they can cover your back in public places and really provide the support you might need there
okay but was the Cheese/Carrot/Strawberry soup good?
Delicious! 😍
I kinda wanna try and make that, the flavors might end up working together in some way!
@@FloatyyBrain strawberry carrot cake chesse cake?
OHHH YESS :DDD
@@RoadtoStick ooowwwwhhhh! Or baby food carrot cake (but wayyy less sweet or e
So I can’t handle it well 😅) wt strawberry cream cheese icing!
Btw the baby food carrot cake recipe is really good my fav cake growing up was carrot cake from the box and then my mom did that recipe taht she learned from her friends family when she was young and it was good I just didn’t like how sweet it was
My 13 years favorite Christmas gift this past year was from his dad.. a 50 foot roll of bubble wrap. Makes him so happy when hes upset. Calms him when hes nervous. Right up there with the video games.
W-Wait there are people who reed “shake vigorously” and DON’T shake it like a maraca?!
IT SAYS “SHAKE VIGOROUSLY”!!!!
EXACTLY IT SAYS SHAKE BEFORE USE. SHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAKE
Oml I always shake the living heck out of it to make sure
I love shaking it vigorously
My sister and mom will give me a look, but i just shake that shit regardless lmao
Its good stimming XD!
@@nicomoist5336 it is the best stimming. I ruined for myself thought when I hit my jaw shaking a Parmesan cheese shaker lol
so we teach autistic children social skills that we consider normal at a young age but we should really teach all children at a young age that everyone is different
Why not both?
Does anyone else love the sheer joy of opening packages like that one girl? Cuz I loooove doin that and the best part of Christmas is opening presents, not even what they are!
Every time someone says something like "I never would've guessed you were autistic!" I just want to telepathically infuse them with the understanding of what its like when I'm not masking, such as:
• Social anxiety issues (etc. Not being able to maintain eye contact)
• Sensitivity to loud noises and certain sounds
• Needing to physically shudder, shake, twitch, or flap my hands to get rid of the "icky" feeling certain sensations give me (such as fabric scratching my nails)
• Having to remove scratchy tags from everything I own
• Having to make sure my underwear/pants can sit comfortably anywhere under or above my belly button bc any pressure/sensation in that area is overstimulating
• Being unable to handle certain textures (such as pineapple chunks in Popsicles)
• Not understanding the value of several social norms (therefore coming off as rude)
• Naturally having animalistic traits (etc. T-Rex arms, hissing, cooing, whining, howling, wagging my butt when I'm happy/excited)
• Being unable to process instructions/directions half the time
• Hyperfixations
• Constantly questioning whether or not im "actually autistic" bc half the time my default state is, in fact, masking and mimicking the traits of everyone around me
There's probably more I can't even think of but either way it's exhausting only being seen as your mask and not being able to take it off without unlearning many years of adaptation and likely suffering social consequences anyways.
This compilation reminds me I'm not alone tho and I feel hella valid. Thank you
Thank you so much for writing this! I saved it because you've helped me put my feelings/experiences into words perfectly. It sucks that you have to go through this stuff, too, but I really appreciate not feeling so alone with it. Thank you. =]
@@MusicRaisedHerSoul Omg ofC?? I'm so honored to have found the right words for you 😭 We're never alone in this
Whenever someone does says that to me, I would be like "realy? I thought it's obvious". And they just say that they thought I'm quirky or that I'm not too autistic acting to be seen as autistic.
3:09 That was so me as a kid. In elementary school, the Michelle Obama thing required kids to get an apple or an orange with their school lunch, but none of the kids actually wanted to eat their fruit, so, since I was obsessed with apples, my lunch-buying classmates would all get apples and give them to me. I would return home with ~7 apples each day.
What's funny is that I'm slightly neurodivergent and look nothing like it probably. But I also like to eat my food separate. I like to taste each thing alone. I hate when things get too mixy. If it's a salad okay. But sometimes I'll make a fuss about it. Like: "Why do you need to mix it all in? I can't taste the salmon like this!" but I do love certain combos. Like you'll see me take a piece of avocado with a piece of salmon in my mouth. But usually I like to eat one thing then another. Or in some cases I grab a bite of both. Like one piece of potato and a piece of meat in case I'm getting full but still want to make my mom happy I ate all the food in my plate.
Me and my girlfriend are the exact same way!
Same here. Growing up, EVERYTHING had to be separate when i ate and if it couldn’t be, i either didn’t eat it or had it really plain. So all the time my dad would always tell me “take two things you like and mix them together and it will be delicious” and i was always like “what the fuck, thats disgusting”
The panda OMG!!!! And the young lady so happy about her home goods 🥰
I don't know if this is autistic or not. I think it's called survival. I used to be bullied in middle school for seemingly no reason. One of my highschool classmates told me he knew my bully and that he was a looser/jerk. Good to know after all these years! So in highschool I became the bully. I was snappy, talked back to anyone who was trying to annoy me and I used to hit people with the corner of my phone if they became annoying. Like one guy was always taking my stuff. Even my phone off my headphones. I would chase him, get my phone back and hit him with it. I'm weak so I didn't hurt him too much. The moral of the story is don't disturb a kid even if they look calm and relaxed. Expecially if they are calm. You do not want to test anyone's limit. I met this guy again when I was 16 (he changed school) and referred me to his friends as the "girl who kicked me in the staircase". I thought he was cute at first. But then I found out he was stupid and my high standards were like: "It's okay, you're not the most clever person out there. But man! He's as stupid as a rock can be. Avoid immediately!"
DUDE i didnt even realise i have a very specific way of eating plated food until that last one, i always go from least favourite to most favourite, no exceptions; curries and stirfry i pick all the veggies out and leave the meat and noodles till last, salad i pick out the lettuc-y stuff and leave mushroom and tomato, i didnt even notice i did it until my mum pointed it out one night. is this just me?
I swear I love it all!
But the shake well got me dying 🤣 and the exact same product too 🤣💗🔥
Look, to be fair you can't shake that stuff enough
I seriously did not know everyone didn’t do that
For the chap stick hate, I’ve noticed that the good sensation of absorption in my skin overwhelms the sensation of tacky lotion on my skin, so I can handle moisturizer. If I can’t do chap stick that day, sometimes I’ll just rub face moisturizer on my lips because it absorbs fast and doesn’t leave anything behind for me to feel.
God I love seeing videos of autistic joy so much, it's so nice to see other autistic people happy, it makes me feel a lot better about life going forward as an autistic person!
HEY! This is the special interest/hyperfixation comment. If you have anything you want to talk about but can't find anyone to talk to about it, I'm here to listen! I'll do my best to respond too. Don't forget to eat, drink water, and get some rest. Love y'all!
Seeing other autistic people and knowing I'm not alone in this vast world gives me such feelings of comfort and make me feel warm and happy inside. The for these feelings and good luck to everyone else like me!
watching your videos convinced me to start writing and drawing out my autistic experiences. it has helped me get through so much
I love the flexible support idea!! We need more of that!!!
Omg, agreed
Trent made a really good panda.
OH MY GOD YEESSSSSS. I have ADHD, and I am constantly forgetting to eat and drink. And when I DO eat, it's usually just canned chicken noodle soup. (I just like it ok?).
Hahahhaha I can relate, ADHD my entire life. I'll cook a meal, and sit and watch my child eat while I forget to eat 🤣🤣
And then be so hungry I eat the chicken soup straight from the can lol
Ma dude drew a perfect panda my heart ❤️
The guy charming the lady out of banana fudge pops. He know he has game. He knows it! Thought he was going to ask “so what time you get off work?”
Oh my god the throwing furniture and stuff i didnt know it was a thing! I wasn’t diagnosed until ten years later lmao
9 :13 Is the most wholesome drawing vid I've seen in my life.
THE SHAKE WELL BEFORE USE ONE WAS SO REAL 😭😭😭 and i just realized that maybe my thinking is more literal than i thought
That kid is a man of taste, who appreciates the delicacy that is the bread sandwich
Um... I really relate to majority of this compilation. Specifically the 1st compilation with the guy talking to himself explaining masking, and (especially) the girl with pigtails hairdo and how she was trying to explaining masking and having a hard time. It happens to me quite often... Idk. I always felt different growing up. Still do 😕
The one with the sleeping couple in the beginning is so funny and how I sleep on my own 😅
As someone with severe ADHD, I relate to this so much omg.
This scares me so much because I relate to a lot of this stuff way too much for my own good, but I’m confused bc some stuff in my early childhood made me really good at copying anyone I’m around, so of course being around this makes me think ”Is this what I am?” But then I know I’m good at copying so I think, no you’re just copying, this is bad, faking stuff like this makes you a terrible human being, and then another part of my brain says, but these people talk about thinking that way. And then it starts over again until I go play my flute to clear my mind.
I love this compilation! A great mix of helpful and feel good videos.
The first one hit like a brick cuz I'm pretty sure that was the summarized version of me talking to my family about being autistic, including the continuous intensing of the voice. And basically the same facial reactions.
Overall, most were supportive when I went into detail and the research that I did for 2+ years before saying anything
I love wow wow wubbzy, I want a wubbzy stuffed animal
4:39 This reminds me of how, one time, as a kid, I tried to make fruit punch out of apple juice and strawberry slices since they were my 2 favorite fruits. It was disgusting.
The video at 9:24 reminded me of when I was a kid and they had to trick me just to get me in the building whenever it was time for my shots and one time I booked when I realized they were about to jab me and I hid under the table of a meeting going on in an adjacent room and they had to drag me out and it took 5 adults, including my massive stepfather, to hold me down. I was in grade school.
I need that especial section!!!! Lucky little guy
9:24 this is so true. I remember in kindergarten a kid kept touching me and wouldnt stopand overall I was overwhelmed. This memory is so vivid of me flipping my desk and yelling and then balling up and crying. I then get expelled from that school and have home schooled ever since. I am now 14 and have improved much more and am more verbal and have gotten better at controlling my senses and meltdowns and am going to a private school this fall. I'm also working on masking because lately I have been feeling tired and overwhelmed by masking too much. I can only keep persevering and moving forward to reach my goals!
Oh , my god! I have problems eating because I choke on the first couple of bites and have to eat and drink very slow with tiny bites. It feels like a golf ball stuck halfway down my esophagus! When I was a child I had my own plate bowl and cup and wouldn't eat off anything else. I have to eat all fries first, then burger.
there's nothing i hate more than videos that try to cram everything in at once 500 speed while yelling all the details at you in a fluctuating sing-song "tiktok voice", so I'm glad there's a few more... reasonably paced videos here. (dissociative, anxiety and autism prof. diagnosed)
The first one is very informative (thank you and we're sorry 😞😢) and as an introverted person it also applies to social situations for us as well (I'm very good at pretending to be an extrovert, but gosh it sucks out all the energy out of you) and when by the time you get home, it's time to crash. Which leaves me with no time to properly relax or spend my energy on my family, who actually deserves it.
I often will just cease to feel hungry and/or thirsty and I never knew why until now- holy shit that makes so much more sense- Luckily I have a schedule that makes sure I drink and eat enough but still-.
The washing the dishes bit is soooo true. Like, I CANNOT when the food touches my hand even if I’m wearing rubber gloves (which r horrible texture wise)
first one is so relatable, people always think im faking cuz I am decent in masking
9:18 There's many reasons why that tiktok bothered me:
1) If you see someone bullying your kid you should stop it (or at least try to stop it) from happening
2) Your kid could get in trouble with the teachers if they hurt someone severely
3) The kid that's bullying them might hurt them back even more
4) It teaches the kid that getting into fights is a good solution when the mom could have helped instead
And it feels like the mom see's the kid' anger as a tool or source of entertainment
I know she probably wouldn't let her kid get hurt or hurt someone else but that joke felt insensitive and weird to me :/
4:59 hits home 💀
I so relate to the first video SO HARD 😑😑😑
9:21 something similar happened to my brother (he's not autistic, but he is dyslexic). A bully was hurting him so he fought back. Mom and dad were proud of him because if you're being hurt, self-defense should be your last resort.
2:21 OMG IM SCREAMING GORILLAZ IS MY SPECIAL INTEREST TOO I FREAKING LOVE THEM AAAA 😭😭
Masking...Well, aren't so many of us? Just ask anyone during the day. Are you solid or faking? I've been waiting 50 years for someone to ask me. 40 years ago, someone in an inner-city, avant-garde video store said, "You have a beautiful smile." I turned to him with full on eye
13:16 Wait, so this _isn’t_ normal?
cant read the name for some reason but now i wanna send the person unboxing stuff welch’s juicefulls since they’re like gushers but better and i want everyone to know they exist cause they’re wonderful- the juice is more thick than gushers i think tho
I have non-verbal episodes, but I don’t use AAC. Instead, I just text.
I so relate to the last one about eating. I have to eat either the dishes one at a time, or alternate between them, and always finish both at the same time taking similar-sized bites. I also sometimes don't eat even if I'm hungry because I either don't like the food options available or I don't have the energy and will to. I haven't been diagnosed with neurodivergence, by the way.
Sooo funny to me that this video didn't have subtitles -- thankfully there were automated subtitles though! Hopefully I didn't miss anything!
I am hard of hearing and have an audio processing disorder, but can't stand loud noises. Life is hard 😆
The dude @ 10:04:
I’m 5ft 2 (have been since I was 9-10) & I resonate with this guy so much because I have little awareness over my supernatural strength. I especially lose all control if you try to restrain &/or mercilessly antagonise me; as I promise you, from my history, you won’t! & the more you try; the more things that will be broken- objects & people! I am not proud of it but it has protected me in the past.
I was wondering when people with intellectual disabilities would have representation on their own terms in the mainstream, at least it's the first time i see it and it's super nice !
I am going to start this comment by saying that I am not trying to be rude or to correct you, but as a person with autism, I wanted to inform you that autism specifically is not always an intellectual disability. I have no problems with my intellect, although a lot of other people with autism do. If I came across as too polite or cautious, I just didn't want to hurt your feelings. You might have been talking about a different intellectual disability showcased in this video but I just wanted to let you know about autism specifically. If I came across as too polite or cautious, I just didn't want to hurt your feelings.
my doc that said i dont have autism bc i have friends and i was social said that "if i was masking i wouldnt beable to turn it off ever"
14:00 omg I think we have the same headphones!!!! yay
That last one about eating each food separately is exactly what I do.
Carott strawberry and feta could work…
9:23 when I was in school I would steal people's chairs and make a huge (but extremely stable) pile to hide under by throwing them at each other
9:23 Ooh, that brings me back to the time another neurodivergent student wouldn't stop hassling my best friend, so I upended the table and lunged at him in the middle of class.
13:22 I THOUGHT THIS WAS JUST ME WHO DID THIS 😂😂
It says “Shake Well”, not “Shake Adequate”!
7:16 is such a great tool, gotta look into it more
13:13 now the ADHD version of this would be me drinking it, reading the label and realizing that it says shake well.. So the i put the cap on ( or cover the top if there is no cap and hope it doesn't spill) and shake it even though I've already drunken half of it and its too late to shake it
1:08 I’m wheezing!!!!
I'm not trying to mean but am I the only person who is getting rubbed the wrong way by the lunch packing one? Of course it's good that she's endorsing the kids' likes but maintaining their nutrition should be the number one goal. By the looks of it, the only major healthy foods were the applesauce, apples, and peanut butter (both of the latter going to only one of the kids). Plus, peanut butter doesn't have too much protein and apples are loaded with sugar! Overall it just seems like a lunch with way too much sodium, sugar, and starch and not nearly enough protein, vitamins, and other healthy things.
Just as a disclaimer: I myself struggle from issues maintaining a healthy diet and have experienced firsthand the issues coming with not getting proper nutrition! I also understand that caring for neurodivergent children is difficult and entirely empathize with the mother's struggle. I also don't know what breakfast/dinner is like in their household, nor do I know what issues each child has. Please feel free to civilly debate me on this!
Being able to get the "right" nutrition is a privilege. We are disabled. If we day we can't eat something or kids often say they don't like it. We rather starve, then eat it, cause it's not possible.
Do you know how many autistic kids get starved for days in the name of being healthy?
@@draalttom844 No, I don't, because being starved for days *isn't* healthy. That's not up for debate. How is getting the 'right' nutrition a privilege in a family that can clearly support a healthy diet for its kids? I would *force* a kid to eat healthy food if it meant that they weren't willingly starving themself because they can't eat by their own choice.
I'm sorry but I don't understand your argument.
@@atightknitfamily who cares if they can afford it, they can't cossume it, you buy propaganda food, you will starve your kids for days
@@draalttom844 what is ‘propaganda food’? why can’t you consume it? maybe you don’t want to, but that doesn’t mean you physically cannot.
@@atightknitfamily and I'm also disabled so no even if I wanted to eat meat my body will eject it and that's the case for millions if people, even more can't afford to eat
who is the creator at 14:06 with the cow print shorts? I can’t read the @ but i want to see more of their videos!
Me too
Did anyone else just really feel the first one I mean I felt that I related to it this is basically how the conversation goes when I talk about my autism
The part at 9:18... yeh... I once threw a chair at a kid by accident, and hit another with my lunchbox hard enough to make him cry and run off. I've been better since I was a kid but damn, I kinda regret hurting people. I don't want to, but as a kid I didn't use words as well and I felt it was the fastest and only way to make them listen.
Masking is a part of my life too and I get a lot of people who tell me that I don't seem like I'm autistic. I spent years practicing,so people don't act weary of me. Especially when I am too quiet all the time.
The clubbing looked so fun!! ❤️
...man, these make me uncomfortable as hell. Way too relatable.
That first one.🙋♀️
The guy at 10:08 is kind of lucky to me. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when I was eight years old and I always had muscular issues. Whenever someone picks on me in front of my mom, she 10/10 will go full the woman he was responding to to defend me.
So fun! Love the clubbing. Idk if anywhere in my area operates care work in that manner.
I used to be so bad at eating because I legit had to separate everything! Not even just be category. So for example like one video said they would eat the whole hamburger and not separate it out I would have to separate the whole hamburger first and then choose stuff. I mean I don’t eat meat anyway not a fan of the texture and I’m a lot better now. I still separate things though.
I was 9 and I threw a 17 year old 186cm guy over my shoulder like a sack of leaves because he scared me by approaching from behind and putting his hand on my shoulder with a lighthearted smack.
Got into a fight when I was 11 with a classmate, I don't remember how, he was coming at me, it was maybe 20 seconds because I put him down without any effort and stepped on his chest lightly, he couldn't sit up and he broke sweat trying, I didn’t even put my weight on it I was just holding him by pushing me away with my leg.
Never had any fight again, had some weird moments playing sports but learned to pull my punches a lot and go easy when I "apply force" on contact, I'm like a pillow instead of a wall 😆
I’m not physically strong but if you give me a physical task I will give it my all, as long as I’m in a situation where I won’t feel embarrassed
I also love sharks and gorrilaz
13:19 YOU’RE NOT SUPPOSED TO SHAKE STUFF LIKE THAT…..?
the lunck packing video nmade me hapy that the mom cared about the kids a lot to make food that they like for lunch