7 Greatest Conversation Starters That Actually Work
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- Being a great conversationalist can be challenging. I have struggled with it myself prior to meeting Dorian, and the absolute hardest part and often overlooked is the way to get INTO a conversation in the first place. So I asked Dorian (the best conversationalist I've ever met) to join me to do a video about the 7 greatest conversation starters that actually work - which have been battle-tested by myself and Dorian for years now. What drives me nuts about the other advice I see in articles and videos is that you'd never walk up to someone out of the blue and ask some stupid question like: "What's happening?" - you already know exactly what's happening 'cus you're at the same f#$ckin place! I can't stand to see advice like this because I have struggled with how to start conversations myself and those type of small talk tips and tricks are the furthest from helpful.
awest.me/7starters for a companion article to this video.
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I hope you liked this video, I normally do longer series' about men's style, men's etiquette, men's grooming, men's dating and other men's lifestyle topics, including some occasional vlogging. But I thought this would be fun to do one-of type videos like this one about 7 Great Conversation Starters that actually work about Small Talk Tips and Tricks. Definitely check out my other videos if you liked this one! - Jak na to + styl
Got questions for us? Ask them here: awx.ac/questions
-Hey, do you know where the restroom is?
-No I don't, sorry.
-Nevermind, I just shat myself. Anyway, nice dress you got here...
This is the most hilarious shit I’ve ever seen
I never laughed so hard in my life because of a comment wtf
I’m going to use this one 😂
Lmfao!!!!
@@bubbagray8433 did u
Am I the only one that finds it weird to go up to a stranger and ask them "what was the best part of your day?".
Sky Cornfield You are hot.
Diarmuid Ó C not just hot but she is hot af
nope. you're not the only one :/
Mila Amores Hi where are you from?
😂😂😂yeah
Me : Hi, do you know where the rest...
Her : Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Uttam Chandrashekar LOL fantastic! :)
Uttam Chandrashekar I'm willing to bet every single one of these conversations starters have been met with "I have a boyfriend" at some point!
Guy: Please call an ambulance! Someone is having a heart attack!
Girl: Pervert! I have a boyfriend!
cheesesteakphilly q
This happened to me sooo many times now..
"oh that looks good what is it"
"have you never seen pizza before?"
JustJoe LMAO !
hahahahahaha
Me.
I think if it were something obvious like that I might change the last part of the question to ask what kind of pizza it was.
i've been laughing about this for a week straight
"Hey i farted over there, can i stand here for a minute?"
Works always!
Benjonie hdahahaha this. Should be no 1
That is fuckin awesome, gonna try that haha
😆
Lol
Im trying to talk to my crush 😂
:in school:
Me: “Do you know where the food area is?”
Him: “we’ve been going to school here for 2 years”
At work:
Me: hey i like your shirt, where did you get it?
Him/her: dude, we’re wearing the same uniform, it’s company policy
😂😂😂
Erik Lund - omg thank you for giving me this idea, I can use this (I’m glad we don’t wear uniforms in my school)
Hahahah 👏🤣
Me: “Hey, what brought you here today?”
Him: “It’s my birthday party...”
Oh hey, do you know where the restroom is?....OK, thanks but I'm just going to stand here and keep talking to you even though you're probably thinking I need to use the restroom.
lolz !!!!!!!!!!!
Gary Lancaster lol, my exact thoughts.
Don't over think it bro, this one works. If you say it in kind of a flirty way and continue convo, she'll realise you just wanted to talk to her and she'll soon forget what you opened with anyway.
It seems stupid from a man's perspective because we typically focus more on the logical content of the conversations, but women tend to focus on the emotional aspect, so it's fine.
+Jack Harley
Yeah, I would wonder about someone if they asked where the restroom is and didn't immediately continue on to it. Because the last thing I want to picture a guy who approaches me doing is going to the restroom, and that is exactly what would happen if they hung around and talked to me after asking. Cause... eww.
In theory you might think that, but I've used the restroom line several times (at conferences, parties etc) and it's never an issue. I think it's more about how you ask it - if you ask in a matter-of-fact way and then don't follow through, it will be weird. But if you say it in a flirty way, with particular body language, it will be clear that you're just trying to strike up a convo and won't be weird at all
7. Do you know where the restroom/bar/etc is?
6. Heyy where are you from?
5. That looks good! What is that?
4. I like your (smth)! Where'd ya get it from?
3. What was your best part of your day?
2. What brought you here tonight?
1. Hi! So how do you know (sb)?
Grape upvoted
I love you
Grape glad I didn't waste my time watching lol.
Ty😂
You are the real Grape
Person 1: Hey do you know where’s the restroom?
Person 2: Down the hall to the left
Person 1: Cool, so where you from
wbu?
You talkin to Donald Trump?
Papa Wuise home alone??
@@janebatchelder4347 Lost in new york, I love that movie
person 2. the washroom
Sees neighbor*
“Hey, where are you from?”
Yikes lol
pfft
You can also interpret it as where you are from originally or whats your ethnicity
Me: Hey is there a..
Her: Sorry I have a boyfriend
Me: Oh great! Does he know where the nearest restaurant is?
where r u from?
I'm socially awkward. It's hard for me to *start* AND *keep the conversation going* without awkward pauses 😔
Saaaaaaaaame
Don't ask just the 'ordinary' questions like "Where are you from...". People tend to give automated responses to that because that's what everyone else asks. Especially attractive girls who get asked this 10x a day, get bored by these questions.
It's much better to ask questions that require the other person to think about the answer. For example "if you could choose to be anywhere in the world right now, what place it would be?" or "imagine you just won 1 million, what would be the first thing you do..." or something like that. Of course, this is not the first thing that you ask someone on the street :D But you can use it later in the conversation. Just look away for 2 seconds and say "Hmm, you know what?" and then ask something like the questions above. Maybe you can tell her "You seem to be a thoughtful person. I wonder what do you think about / what would you do if ...."
Of course, it's a good idea to think about some questions at home, before you go out to meet someone. Then you can practice it with some girls and later it will become a habit. You'll not have to prepare it in advance anymore.
PS: sorry for my English, it's not my native language :-/
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I can start a conversation, but I have trouble keeping the conversation going and finding things to talk about. How do you not have awkward pauses and maintain the conversation?
Practice.
tell her to give you 5 words in her mind , let's take food for example : so when she say food , ask her what her favorit food and start a conversation ! when you run of word , jump to the second word ... and keep it going 😊☺😀
Great info.. Thank you! I have to try this some time. 👍🏼
when it gets awkward. Remember to ALWAYS pee on them to show dominance.
Pambudi Wardhani hahaha..
Me: Hey, how is your day today?
Her: I have a boyfriend sorry.
Me: *Oh you one of those*
One of my best starters you didn't mention is a cheerful "Cheers!" Nobody refuses to clink glasses, you come off as full of life and you can use one of your suggestions to continue.
Hey! Do you know where the restroom is?
-yeah it's right over there.
Thanks!... Nice weather isn't it?
-umm... Sure
Gg
Therein lies the bad part of the video. I mean it's literally a conversation STARTER, they didn't tell you how to take advantage of that.
Usually when I'm feeling ballsy/never going to see them again, I just risk it and say "Sorry, I just wanted to talk to you, hi I'm X"
"hi ....do you play minecraft?"
"No"
*End of conversation*
Me: Do you know where the restroom is?
Stranger: yeah, it's over there
Me: So where you are from?
Stranger: Why don't you go to the restroom?
I text my crush 1st
"Hey, do you know where the restroom is?"
One time I asked a cute girl where the restroom is...it was literally behind me. Well, at least she laughed.
you can tell straight off the bat, he is a good hearted person and that generally translates in conversations. cheers to you both.
"Hey, how is to live on the Earth?"-a great one, because you have a common ground
LMFAOOOO
Underrated comment
2:58 compliments don't instantly let my guard down. They increase my guards.
Sounds like you've been through something
Who hurt you?
I know what you're saying. Maybe we all need to just not over-think things too much. (in today's day and age we should be cautious at times, but not overly cautious... over-thinking hasn't served me well, personally)
Me:Hey you know where the restroom is?
Her: yeah it’s just over there.
Me: Cool you wanna go with me?
Great way to get slapped XD
PFFTTT
Works 100% 😏
I live this😂😂
Me: hey do you come here often?
Her: No
Me: well, that's one!
Her: one what?
Me: something in common
'oh thats a nice shirt, where did u get it from?'
'um its our school uniform, everyone's wearing it'
The guys face looks like a next gen cgi graphics
Pablo Diablo he looks like a ken doll. Completely shallow
Dorian is not straight... He might be marrying someone, but we don't know his name yet, cuz it ain't her.
From a distance I thought it was the guy from Tesla.
He looks more like that Facebook lizard man
Yall play to many bideo game
So.....Do you like bread? 🍞🤔
David Cordova 💀
"Susan, I saw you in the classroom today. As the sun came from behind the clouds, a burst of brilliant light caught your hair, it was haloed in front of me you turned, your eyes flashed fire into my soul, I immediately read the words of Dostoevsky and Karl Marx, and in the words of Albert Schweitzer, 'I FANCY you.' "
Jason Joyner Damn. Shakespeare pick up lines. Ladies love poetry. I'm a guy and I find you attractive now.
HA HA HA HAAAAAAA
Meta
Cheers Ashley and Dorian, great video as always.
Something I find really good for starting a conversation is making a joke. Something inoffensive and uncontroversial, and easy to understand. Not everyone responds well to it, but those that do often really like it.
For example I arrived at the checkout with some chocolate biscuits, lemonade and a pizza once, and when the lady in front of me glanced at it I shrugged and said "All those healthy eating lessons in school paid off!". We had a good chat all through waiting for the person in front to be finished, and when she had been served the lady at the checkout kind of carried on the conversation.
DORIAN!!! GET ON THIS SHORT ASS STOOL SO I DONT LOOK LIKE A MIDGET.
nikmark01 whipped
I thought he will ask for the whip :D
Really loved the "what was the be part of your day today" question! I will always use that, but maybe not as the opener.
Ashley, your 'Year-round wardrobe' articles and videos are THE best there are out there. Having read and watched them all a few times, I can tell how much thought you put in. Thank you for giving us such first-rate guides for free :)
"What brought you here today?"
"Umm.... its school ._. "
I have always naturally been good at talking to people. I have a hard time keeping people to like me for some reason.
Well, then you are either trying too hard to get them to like you, or you are bad at picking up on cues and you think you are good at talking to people, but really you just talk at them while they think you are being obnoxius but are too polite to tell you to fuck off.
As a very introverted and shy person I've noticed that very outgoing people are sometimes also very loud and lack any sense of self concsiousness, to a point where i just don't want to be around them.
Yeah, it's never your own fault if people don't like you.
Make sure to never take responsibility for anything and don't try to grow as a person.
Solid advice there Trever. Good thing you are not just projecting your own experiences to build a straw man argument.
Everybody who doesn't like you is just a superficial "sycophant", well, that doesn't sound sociopathic at all.
You clearly have it all figured out, Trever. And you don't even seem to see the irony in all of this.
Both tragic and hilarious.
You are projecting again. Nobody told him to lie or to suck up to anybody(in fact part of my initial comment was about him possibly trying too hard to get people to like him).
How is is me explaining how my point is not "BS"(as you so eloquently put it) in any way ironic?
Staying the same is for lazy people. There's always room for self improvement and you are never entitled to anything in this world, not even friends.
Okay, so just to reiterate: You are *assuming* there is nothing wrong with him or the way he interacts with people but you insist that he shouldn't change or care if people like him.
I offer him my perspective on why he might face the problems he's describing and you tell him it's bullshit and that he shouldn't change or listen to me. Because that clearly has worked out great for him so far.
I'm not saying I'm right, I was offering him an opinion (based on assumptions, yes) with the intention of making him reflect on himself and the way he interacts with people.
Of course there's merit in loving yourself, but if it's always the others' fault, maybe it's time to reflect.
One of the best videos on the channel in a while! Extremely helpful! Thanks Ashley and definitely keep it up!
This my way of starting a conversation...........You like jazz 🎷🎶😉
This was super helpful! I am extremely shy and have missed out on some opportunities because of it. I’m going to change starting with these tips
Amazing. Thanks for making a video on this. It is relatively easy to start a conversation with anyone provided you know what to say and how to go about it. Thanks for these useful tips on easy conversation openers that actually work.
These will only work if you're attractive
Just don’t be weird and you’ll probably be ok
These only work if you are confident
iamFerriz like everything else really Hahahaha
The difference between a creep and a friendly lad it's good genetics
Sorry for that truth bomb
Not really but okay. It’s called confidence and charisma
then i best fine another video lol
I just walk up to a female and say, "How YOU doin'''.
JOEYY TRIBIANY
Wendy Williams
That’s so true! I’ve made a couple friends just by complimenting, and we were able to have long length conversations
I’m loving the list and the flow of this and the energy you all! Watching this so I can make my life streams a little better. Not Sure how much this applies, but it’s getting my mind going
You two look and sound good for each other, thank you for all the tips.
This was great some of these are so simple I can't believe I had never thought of them!
I tried no. 4. Asking the girl beside me inside the elevator, asking her where is her chest. She slap the hell out of me.
Lol you kinda deserved it though
Are you joking or didn’t this really happen?
korikawa dafuq...
What a humble man. I like that. Hope you both are well in your relationship
At a wedding reception to start a conversation with new
people, my wife and I will always start with the question, “So do you know the
bride or the groom?”, somehow I just never thought about the question “So how
do you know the host?” in a more general environment. Thanks for the tip, I really enjoyed this
video.
Glenn Conner i
Me : "Hi, what brought you here today?"
My colleague : *looks at me weirdly*
A good one I often use when waiting for my auto at my mechanic's shop ( when someone else is also awaiting ) is, "What are you in for?" They usually smile/laugh and tell me what's wrong with their auto and then ask me the same. Then I just take it from there, IF I feel they're in the mood to chat. BUT, people today are so addicted to and constantly on the phone playing games, checking emails or on social media, that I'll usually wait to ask when I see/feel I'm not interrupting anything major/personal. Or I just may put "Excuse me" in front of the question.
I also have sinus challenges/allergies so this also opens the door to conversation especially if I happen to sneeze ( AHHHH-CHOOOO-:)
Another good one when there is a TV in the room, is to comment on something being said on whatever show is on. "Wow!, I can't imagine being in that predicament! something like this usually gets their attention AWAY from their phone and they'll comment on it also. THEN you can ask what they're in for. I've made a few contacts/acquaintances this way and have always had a pleasant experience even in the future when seeing them again at my mechanic's place. For me, starting convos is easy when I'M in the mood. Continuing on afterwards is SOMETIMES challenging. It's all about the "feeling."
Hi Ashey, i followed most of your style tips and my style really improved. actually my officemates started to notice that and i was flattered when they told me that they like my style and "you look good".
Mine has to be -
"So what do you like to do when you aren't working"?
People don't always like their job, but they love talking about their interests.
Matthew Hedges good one
One of my favorite & go-to's conversation starters at the dinner table is "have you seen any good movies lately?" I kid you not everyone will definitely have an input.. people like to be heard and share their opinion no matter simple the topic is. Also be sure to keep the ball rolling after you started the conversation for instance you can ask, what do you do for work? Then ask if they've always had an interest or what lead them to that career path.
Liked this one a lot! Please put up more videos similar to this, very worthwhile watching. Will be waiting for it. 👌🏽
Best way to freak someone out:
"Hey, so I've got a serious question..."
"Okay..."
"It could ruin what we have..."
"What do we ha-"
"Are you sure you're prepared for this?"
"Uuuuhhh...."
"Ketchup... Or barbeque?" **Intense squinting**
recently out of a long term relationshit, I found this video better than most.
Usually you get tips that are better suited to a "how to flirt" video, but after going to town and usuing the "that looks good" and "where you from"it made those awkward "what do i say next" moments pass with ease even for me. an embarrassingly introvert outside my screen and keyboard.
its redundant to say since you're reading this and already watching/have watched the video yourselves; but these are bloody red hot tips to mentally jot down, they're gold when you need em.
@AWxinc thanks for your video, ima watch this again now but w/out adblock because this was a good one and real life helped my awkward silence moments.
Thanks :)
#2 is considered a micro aggression on college campuses LMAO
Might not be a 'starter', but if you can find a way to ask about their hobbies or interests, that can give you some good material to connect on. Remember...people love talking about themselves and they come alive talking about their hobbies. They can go on for hours sharing a ton of knowledge about playing an instrument, painting, travel, or whatever. It's like striking gold.
Normally I dont thumbs up a video but this one deserves it, congrats for such an amazing couple and excellent tips.
I've discovered that having an interesting coffee mug is a great way to get people to start conversations with me at work. (Guessing my mug won't fit your mug recommendation video when you make it though, haha)
The best one is
" How you doin?"
Ashley great video, thank-you love the way you do your videos, the backgrounds are great, simple but classy, very nice!!
that could be a good idea. worth a try... thanks for the tips
Do not ask "Where are you from?" as your first question or be accused of a "microagression" by certain people.
dear god i hope this is satire
+Amge55v8 As a man born in DC with Senegalese parents, I go through the same things though I don't find it insulting in the slightest...
You have to consider that most of the time when people ask "Where you're from?" they actually mean "What ethnicity/culture do you associate with?". They want to know about your values, traditions and history.
They don't care where your mum pushed you out.
Don't ask that to foreign people because it makes them feel like their zoned out because of the way they look. Its fine if you're asking domestically "where are you from?"
RealDarkFilm, Are you sure? Because from what I've seen, people from other places seem quite glad to talk about where they are from. Probably because they like that place and culture, and it's also something they can easily talk about.
"What do you like to do for fun?"
If someone can't answer, then they're probably a pretty awkward person. Everyone has a fun hobby, and most like to talk about it. It also gives you the opportunity to talk about what you're passionate about, which should allow you to easily be confident.
100% my favourite conversation starter (/chatup line) - "Excuse me, do you mind if I introduce myself real quick?" - I've never had a bad reaction to that but have had plenty of bad conversations...
Good one!
Another way is to say "can I touch the slime?" when someone is playing with that. It worked for me. xD
Much needed tips, especially for us guys
🙊
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I cant talk to girls. Im going to be single forever
@@bandito1007
Hello Going to be single forever. I'm dad and I doubt it, son
"Once your in (a conversation) it's relatively simple."
Not for all of us :( It's something I've had to really work on my whole life, with pretty minimal improvement. To use their first example of asking where X is, I would have no idea what to do regardless of their response. I have no idea what "go with it" entails.
“What brought you here tonight?”
“Uh, we are at school. What do you think brought me here? 🤨 “
“……..um-“
"Oh that looks good, what is it? Did you get it from the restroom?"
my conversation starter: "hey, does your tongue fit in your mouth?"..
Josh cross wtf
lmbo!
Def not coz you’re drolling while looking at me
"My whole tongue including the posterior third sits at the top of the mouth just behind the front teeth."
- attractive people
"Oh hey, that looks very good, where'd you get that from?" - while talking to a guy holding a cup of white liquid at the sperm bank.
Him: Deez nuts!
Wow. I love your channel. I’ve subscribed and turned that bell right on Lol. I’m a man in my early 30s. I struggle with conversation to the point that I just avoid it. I can have a deep meaningful convo with anyone however I can’t do small talk. It makes me angry listening to trivial things. Could you please do a follow up video and just help explain why people like small talk and how to use small talk
After reading many comments I understood that people are 1)way too funny
2) some are negative 3) some are positive 3) some comments
Me: *Have been kinda sorta maybe stalking someone for over 3 months and knowing majority of the things about them*
Also me: H-hey, what’s your name?
I saw your video on how you first met him, and was curious as to what type of guy you would be attracted to. Not what I expected at all.
He looks kind of like me -- which I find really flattering because I think she's really cute! lol
A tall, clean cut, good looking entertainment executive who is a good conversationalist? Why not? As someone who is interested in and works professionally with fashion and social advice and is clearly a competent professional herself, isn't this guy exactly what you would expect?
the guy mentioned that i don't have to pick just one. excellent point i was just thinking to pick the best one when he said that.
Great video..... going to fallow those tips.
Dorian I'm sure you now know where the restrooms are at a lot of venues
Omair Sheikh oh f.... Haha
I disagree with most of these, unless you're in some sort of house party environment. I may not be the greatest at getting random people to have a conversation, but I've always known that conversation starters have to feel natural, which mean they have to come from the natural circumstances around you at the time. Even small-talk has to feel natural. Some of these could feel natural, but with a little bit of imagination and a quick wit, you can start a conversation at any time without looking like you rehearsed a line. A conversation starter I use often is "Hey, did you hear about ...(some recent news.)"
Amazing video ! Good camera quality perfect execution of a 2 on 1 explanatory video keep up the good work 👍
Great video , thanks
What product does Dorian use in his hair? Great video btw!
Me: "Do you know where the restroom is?"
Stranger: "Yeah go straight through the double doors"
Me: Now that I have started a conversation let me talk for 20 mins while there is a bladder infarction goin on.
AWxINC - This doesnt work on men
Hey Ashley, loved the video so much I gave it a like, continued watching, forgot about the like, and went back to give like, but noticed I already gave a like. That's how good the video was.
Oh, and subscribed at like minute 2
Great content Ashley, I will be having a haircut soon in a salon, and it's hard for me to keep up a convo with a pretty lady hairstylist . Tanks !
Me: Where are you from ?
She: From Serbia
*And there it ends*
I thought this was a dove advertisement.
Interesting...I typically also will compliment someones attire..."you really really sharp in that outfit...where'd you get it?" Also I've used "so what would you say was the highlight of your day?" I think most people like to talk about themselves so I do what I can to facilitate that...good video!!
Great video! I liked starter number 3. What are some ways to keep the conversation going and fresh?
A stranger asked me once where I was from..........he was a gang member
Law19157 😂 and then how did you respond ?
Am from there Nd there , I like your gun , where did u get it ?😂😂😂
I love your g-string, where'd you get it?
lol
im gonna ask number 2 when i go to school tomorrow ! Thanks !!
"Do you know where the bathroom is?"
"Down the hallway to your left."
"Oh alright thanks."
Me: Hey, I saw you from back there and I was wonder.....
she: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
This was amazing. The highlight to my day.
AubaGT so true man ...u don’t even finish your sentence..
Me, an awkward person: *Hi, crush! How’s your brother?*
Her: *Oh, he’s good!*
Me: *How’d you two meet?*
Her: *Come again?*
i wish you both the happiness ! great video!
Well sherlock holmes can start a conversation with his observations and deductions