Stop letting people treat you like a doormat | 5 no Bullsh*t Tips
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- čas přidán 22. 05. 2024
- Sometimes your quest to try to please everybody around you will only lead to personal disappointment. Stop letting people treat you like a doormat now!
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00:00 - Intro
02:02 - Tip 1
04:23 - Tip 2
05:59 - Tip 3
07:58 - Tip 4
09:40 - Tip 5
📚They need your weakness....
1: Limit your sympathy.
2: No expectations without actual agreements.
3: Embrace reasonable conflict & pain.
4: Say NO, for no actual reason sometimes.
5: Set Boundaries & Standards
Wow “ The less you expect from people, the happier you are “. Thank you Jessica. Well done 👍
Learn to say NO without feeling guilty!👍💯
I made it part of my new year's resolution to learn to say no as I've always been take for granted. And now at my new job, the ladies feel like I'm being stingy by not indulging them. I didn't even respond to them. They don't know where I'm coming from. I'm 100% focusing on myself and MY HAPPINESS.
"No" sometimes is what can actually save relationships... or push the ones who shouldn't be in your life out
Hahahahaha! As a older man i learnt years ago: While a woman is playing hard to get, playing mind games, making you jump hoops and whatnot, she is doing the opposite for her Mr Right even sleeping with him after the first date. She breaks all the rules for him. The thing is, she keeps you waiting as a 'Just in case something goes wrong"...You are her cushion because she knows you can do anything for her... Aaaand THAT'S WHY YOUR FIRST BORN IS BORN 2 WEEKS OR A MONTH EARLIER AND IN WORST CASE SCENARIO,2 MONTHS EARLIER. It's NOT your child! Guys have you ever seen a man and his wife and the child looks nothing like the guy like ZERO? So this story of playing hard to get is just her telling you :You are NOT the one until I need you for my convenience .SIMPLE! Thank me later guys :)
Getting treated like a doormat is degrading & disrespectful so slam the brakes on such behaviour & tell them that enough is enough.
These are universal lessons that everybody needs to learn early because they apply in all aspects of our lives. Unfortunately, not everybody picks them up in good time and it leads to many conflicts. Important points that resonated with me included:
1. Everybody is dispensable, including myself. Imagine infants do survive when their biological mothers die off, why can't you survive without anyone else? I always remind myself of this fact by recalling that no matter what happens in our personal lives, the sun still rises in the East and sets in the West everyday at its appointed hour to the microsecond. To imagine therefore that we are indispensable to other people is absolute b*llcrap.
2. Saying no and accepting no from other people is very good for everyone because it brings freedom to focus on other things
3. Most people are users. Most of the people we think are friends are actually not friends but people who use us for their own good. The day they find a better alternative or someone they can manipulate more easily, they will dump you like a hot potato.
4. Nowadays when asked for a favor, I ask myself if the person asking would do the same for me if I were the one asking. If the answer is a No or a hesitant Yes, then I simply refuse
This resonates well with me🙌.
I am grateful for what you do here. As a typical 'Nice Guy', I have lost so much of my finances, time & myself over the years. But last year, I got the biggest blow to my personality because I wanted to make others' lives easier.
To cut it short, I first saw your videos on TikTok and they have been very helpful. You are doing an amazing job. Stay Awesome!!
I had an ex that suffered from severe mental health issues. She would self harm in the relationship and I tried my hardest to give her love in the beginning and tried to give her a different perspective of a good guy, but it felt like it was never enough. It would fuck up the trajectory of our 2 1/2 year relationship. Even when things were getting better, meaning we weren’t arguing as much, she would eventually lose attraction for me. It was trauma bonding at its finest. The closest we were romantically was when we were going through rough times. We would get into a very uncomfortable situation and then we’d reach an understanding and we would love on each other. It was so fucked up. When we got comfortable, the spark was gone. I felt like I was hungrier for her love when I had something to prove.
Especially appreciated the tip to never do anything for anyone with an expectation attached.
To be honest…. What I found out to be a great tool to put your foot down when you feel you’re being walked on (Taken Advantage of) is to simply let them know you feel you’re being taken advantage of in those exact words….. You’ll be surprised of the person response if they genuinely care about you and the friendship they have with you.
Thanks so much for the video, because I have just come to realise that always trying to please people even beyond May capabilities, just leaves me heartbroken when most of the people I help out don't even appreciate my efforts.
Thank you for these lifetime lessons. I think this title of the topic could be "Stopping Letting People Treat You Like A Doormat | 5 No-Nonsense Tips. Love to you, Jubilee Jessica!
Saying No and showing the capability of violence saved me from these kinds of people.
People are to be loved & valued
Things are to be used
Our prime purpose in life is to help others but if you can't help them, at least, don't hurt them.
Exodus 22:22-24 is for all & sundry
Very true Jes. I have been a victim as well. I learnt it the hard way. Often times, people will take advantage of your being kind.
Great video. I took my distance from someone who thought I was his dog walker. No regrets.
Woh!a NO is a NO.. explanation not necessary, otherwise your decision stand to be swayed off.. all points are beautiful Jessica thank you.
Thanks a lot, I have learnt to say 'No'.
You're absolutely right.
Thank you Jess.
Thank you Jessica 😊
Thank you for this session❤
Needed this. Going through similar situation. Thanks 💯
Sometimes the people you even try to help kind of think it’s your responsibility to give them a helping hand and if you don’t help them they see you to be a bad person.
I needed to hear this again. Thank you!!❤️
Powerful words thanks Jessica
Brilliant, thanks a lot...
This has to be my favorite video from you so far this year thank you.
I love this woman!!!!!!
Thanks Jessica, much love ❤❤❤❤
Great content, thanks for sharing this
Sister I don't where you get your knowledge and wisdom from, but I have been learning to much from You! Thank you!
Thank you Jessica, awesome stuff
You’re awesome!!! Thanks for another reminder in your great message
This is so clear Jessica, I just gotta say thank you my dear
God bless you abundantly 🤗❤✌
Didn't know I needed this video until I finished it. Thank you Jessica.
The lessons I've learnt in this life and I'm happy that I'm applying this lesson on recent times....I'm taking absolutely no bs
Thanks Jess needed that . Words that is worth just as much as your existance.
I needed to see this video. Love you Jessica 🤗
Woooow this video is informative. Thank you so much!❤️🙏
I think your channel & platform is amazing, bless you
This is explicitly mine. Thank you Ma'am.
Hey Sis, thanks for another very informative video, you hit the nail on its head every time!!.
Thank you so much for these
thanks Jessica 🙏love from RWANDA.
Jessica’s CZcams is my best place
Your calmness and your mode of dishing out the Golden points makes me crazy over you JOS! 🍇🌹
Thank you Jessica. Most especially to say No. Wow I have been blessed.
Thank you very much 💕
I appreciate your take on boundaries. I’m trying to unlearn my doormat ways.
Many thanks Jessica. I really needed this. I just felt you were directly talking to me. That was absolutely me. Thank you for the advise
thank you Jessica, your words are always in time thank you live from Nigeria
Thanks so much, u are the best, am in this situation right now , always feeling guilty and trying to pleased everyone but at the end i suffer
Hey Jess!
You popped in at the right time!
At the final account assessment, I will be letting you know, from how much trouble and pain you're saving me.
May God be with you, ALWAYS!
I'm just overwhelmed with joy learning from this video. I can only say...... THANK YOU DEAR JESS.
This girl is awesome, thanks for all you do for us. Stay safe!!😉
Awesome!🤾♂️🤸♂️🤾♂️
Really great message
That was a very important topic you analyzed very well. Thank you.we do not use that word "no " as much as we should.
You always have every information that I need at the right moment 😃
Oh thank you Jessy
Great advice Jessica, I feel like you talking to me, I will learn to say no!! Thank you 🙏
I like that knowledge jessica it's fantabulous kind of tips
Thanks girl for making my decisions strong especially on relatives who just idle around coz they is someone they can learn their shoulders on . Watching from Kenya.
Hmmm, Jessica, Thanks so much. This has always been my weekness of not saying no when i really ought to and people have taken advantage of me. Thanks a million.
Honestly Jo's... thank you so much . I am all this you just mention and it caused me my life .... everything I am as human.. I know better now.. I salute you
Awesome thank you
Video resonates with me 100%. Have been down because most times i feel taken advantage of due to my kindness. Wish i could hit the "love" button for such an amazing video
Public comment. Great message .we are all human with feelings . Respect and care about each other values and actions reflects who really care about you and who doesn't care how you feel.
Great job as always Jessica OS, No can always save one a lot of stress, time, money and emotional heartbreak... Most of all people would always choose themselves over you anytime every single time
You are good. Very informative video.
Thank you thank you thank you! This is a great video and something I needed to hear
Honestly that is exactly for me l was saying to myself a week ago I really need to cut off some people out of my life because people are so rude and disrespectful even when u are not doing things and looking for return from them people are so ungrateful l have to care about myself right now am done. Thanks for the encouragement hon love you nothing much the truth ❤
I love you are genuine in your videos with informative videos thank you for your contribution to build Africa
This is one video from you I have watched over and over again...everything said resonates with me. This came at the the right time...You never know who you're helping out here. I'm glad I chanced on this. Keep up with your good work 👏
Today I tried one of the video tips titled tips how to get her attention through texting and it worked so much it's helpful keep empowering us with knowledge ❤
Jessica I always tune to this episodes incessantly,have drawn alot from you be blessed much love from Kenya ,we too would love to welcome you to this beautiful country of ours
This video talks about who I was sometime ago, until a friend realize these about me, drew my attention to them and I worked on them. Today it's helping me a lot.
I like your teachings
I'm genuinely in love with this woman's intelligence
You have a blessed from God Lady J!! 🙏🙏
I commend you for being brave and doing what other women won't do these are things women keep to themselves hoping the man won't catch on the way you deliver these messages are crystal clear thank you God bless you
Great job
Thank you for this point,it is the problem I’m having in my marriage now,I need to know when it’s no,then it’s no.
Great one here. Please do a video on those who come to you to borrow money from you. They measure your pocket with their minds and what they see. Saying a hundred NO to them seems not to drive them away. I fully agree NO is NO.
Thank you for this
My partner has been always advising me on this because a lot of people tend to take advantage of me but I have learnt a lot in this video and I’ll learn to say no, set boundaries and not be expectant
Great tips! What you might need to do sometimes - is eliminate all the “negative people” from your life - like right now, if you haven’t done so already.
If someone is not “adding value” to your life, meaning - bringing anything to the table, you need to cut them off!
And surround yourself with people - who will help you get to where you want to be, and grow as an individual!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
right now ,,an it aint gonna be a woman
67 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
But why are you everywhere?
@VidMart Stock Videos thanks! I appreciate it.
Jessica thank you so much. These are things I’ve been telling my girlfriend. So I decided to share this video with her, she really appreciate it it now. Good vibe ❤
Thanks for reminding me to say no!!
Boundries as Standards in Morals n Eticks . ( Limits ) . Helpful indeed tnx
Practicing to say “NO” could have saved me from entering a shitty business deal
Well said
Lesson learnt 👌👍❤💕 all points mentioned are clear and straight forward. Not to mention, am the victim of this video. From today onwards, I think it's surely important to work on myself more than on other people. Jessica, you're fire 🔥🔥🔥
*Everyday-we-live-we-die-a-little-bit-more* ...this is absolutely deep.
Thank you Jess
56 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please
Thanks for highlighting. Everyone around me has seen this happing. Took time for myself to realise. Taking advantage of my good nature. Didn't want looses them as a Friend. What a sucker I've been
This is deep and massive 🔥
Very educating programs..you have opened up my way of thinking and reasoning..kudos t you jessiceOs
You made some good points
You were speaking to me somehow. I stopped being Mr Nice guy and the person got angry 😅😅😅😅😅. Who cares?😃😃