people treat you the way you've trained them to treat you (break the cycle)

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  • čas přidán 8. 07. 2023
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  • @AaronDoughtyPodcast
    @AaronDoughtyPodcast  Před 11 měsíci +5

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  • @sheyharv7604
    @sheyharv7604 Před 11 měsíci +147

    I have cut 80% or so of people out of my life who I have found to be judgemental and abusive over the past year. We are no longer on the same wave length. It is unfortunate but very liberating at the same time. Without the negative energies amongst me anymore...I feel so much better. Thanks Aaron for the reminder. Much love

    • @vintuitive7627
      @vintuitive7627 Před 11 měsíci +3

      This is why o don’t take yoga or meditation classes. Most all of those people are like that.

    • @FallingStar44
      @FallingStar44 Před 11 měsíci +5

      It is freeing. Those people are so stuck, they will grab anything in motion.

    • @_cr8ive_
      @_cr8ive_ Před 11 měsíci +3

      Amen...🤜🏻💥🤛🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻

    • @opticalman6417
      @opticalman6417 Před 5 měsíci

      it has to be done i cute ties with a toxic sister for this very reason
      dont let anyone dim your light

  • @Kareena1988
    @Kareena1988 Před 11 měsíci +15

    We must set boundaries...there are many abusers out there

    • @jsniffiles
      @jsniffiles Před 9 dny +1

      Only if you love them because setting boundaries takes an enormous amount of energy. If you don't even really know the person / love them, let them go if they are negative / abusive.

  • @JJShalashaska
    @JJShalashaska Před 11 měsíci +19

    I've always been an agreeable person, always valued other people's feelings and tried not to hurt them and always be nice to them. And this led many people to believe that they couls use my kindness as a toy, and when I demanded from them the constant respect that I gave them they told me "you're very demanding".
    Now I'm ending up alone because I started to respect myself, and people don't like it, especially when I make them taste their own medicine.
    I realize I've been surrounded by blood sucking vampires and narcissists.

  • @ButterflyAwakening
    @ButterflyAwakening Před 11 měsíci +39

    If you happen to read this, just know that you are limitless. Believe in yourself my friend, and unleash your full potential. Keep pushing forward! Love from ButterflyAwakening🦋🦋
    Aaron, thank you for the content.

  • @Light-Shift
    @Light-Shift Před 11 měsíci +35

    This is so true. Loving and giving your heart out has backlash. They attack if there is a lull. Live and learn. Honor yourself first. You are the one creating. And let go of those who mock you and even hate you for independent critical thinking, calling a spade a spade without fear of consequences, honoring yourself, and not seeking their approval and merging with the cloned and current narrative. Compatibility is a precious thing. My team told me to love yourself beyond life itself. And thats because we are beyond this 3D experience. There are good and beautiful energies we have too from family culture and ezperiences. Let's keep those. It isnt all bad as some are trying hard to instill.

  • @karenwolsky1570
    @karenwolsky1570 Před 11 měsíci +18

    " You need to train people how to treat you " was a famous saying that Dr. Phil said over and over again on every one of his shows, since 2000s . I adopted that into my life a long time ago and it created amazing changes in my relationships and self value ✨️ I was no more a victim of anyone's bullshit. That being said, they are different stages that you discover in that process, which is the best way on the approach of how to " teach " different types of people the way you want to be treated.
    Example: In the beginning beginning , I was an aggressive "teacher " and today after owning that rule in my life, I am today a more graceful "teacher"😊

  • @corinnefisher166
    @corinnefisher166 Před 11 měsíci +6

    I was 43 years old, 3 years into ego death/dark night of the soul, before I realized I was a mirror image (personality wise) of my mother. I had put her on a pedastool that was based pure fantasy & chikdhood survival. What a wake up call!

  • @bruceboice7955
    @bruceboice7955 Před 8 dny

    I'm in this situation right now today 12th June 204. I went to the office today and greet people there but they just ignored my hallo. I have promised myself from today that I will never greet them again, never again. They really embarrassed me today and I will never forgive them for that and I will never forget. One of the managers/ principal tried to get me fired from work but my union is still fighting the dismissal. They are all talking about me I know that for sure because I am a real and straight forward person. I've told myself from today that they hate me and I am going to keep my mouth shut and never greet them again. Let's not accept nonsense from other people please

  • @Snapsta123
    @Snapsta123 Před 11 měsíci +7

    'Whole porno porno' 😂😂😂 aaron who is doing your captions? 😂😂😂

  • @tiffanyboetjer2407
    @tiffanyboetjer2407 Před 11 měsíci +7

    Exactly. Im evolving out of the box people have put me in. And I already know that I have things in common with my mom even though I don't want to.

  • @rwharrington87
    @rwharrington87 Před 11 měsíci +2

    I think the more accurate statement is "people treat you the way they've been trained to treat people"-I think it's a combination of their interactions with both you and others as well as their current state of mind depending on their circumstance. I just had a friend start acting like a complete asshole to all of his friends and his family for *seemingly* no reason, and everyone has distanced themselves, including his family.

  • @EMuro-wu7uy
    @EMuro-wu7uy Před 11 měsíci +5

    This entire video is amazing, the more I change, the more I enjoy solitude. With my own relationships I've let go of many bad relationships, and feeling better more and more.

  • @lagoldie9783
    @lagoldie9783 Před 11 měsíci +2

    A thief doesn't steal from you because you taught them to treat you like that Bull Bull and more bull. People treat you accordingly to the character or lack there of that they have.

  • @heidijames8825
    @heidijames8825 Před 2 měsíci

    Truly decent people don't need to be trained..........only ones who have no morals, conscience etc.

  • @SharingItForward
    @SharingItForward Před 11 měsíci +9

    It's really nice to see people awakening to the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. Myself included.
    I appreciate you and all you do Aaron.

  • @theasmith1323
    @theasmith1323 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Regardless of what the person did to you.. may it be traumatic in life.
    One thing for sure to learn is to move forward, think that it’s never your fault and it’s their fault in not treating you right. But avoid to feel resentment and think of what you can do and be grateful and positive from now on. At the same time, be a blessing to orhers

  • @chriswalls5831
    @chriswalls5831 Před 11 měsíci +3

    I shouldnt have to show people how to treat others that's on them

  • @tammybrown4410
    @tammybrown4410 Před 9 měsíci +1

    You can always make new friends. 😊

  • @dmarcdavinchi9152
    @dmarcdavinchi9152 Před 2 měsíci

    I love the way you explain this concept. Most people dont even know this exists

  • @JS-ld2qd
    @JS-ld2qd Před 11 měsíci +4

    Need to listen to this over and over again until it sinks in

  • @amarie6223
    @amarie6223 Před 6 měsíci +1

    This is me right now. Im waking up to how I've allowed others to treat me 😢😢.

  • @yourpotatoangel1117
    @yourpotatoangel1117 Před 11 měsíci +2

    I almost cried today when this suddenly popped up in my feed , I was thinking about this for a long time but didn't find a single video about this topic , I felt frustrated. And I was starting to care less and I saw this ❤ so keep hope the universe listens 💞🙏🏻 also thanku so much Aaron for this great information ❤❤

  • @creatordaylight9651
    @creatordaylight9651 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you. I needed that❤

  • @saddymore
    @saddymore Před 11 měsíci +3

    Thank you, Aaron!

  • @lindaross583
    @lindaross583 Před 11 měsíci +3

    100% true thank u Aaron!

  • @aav_n
    @aav_n Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thank you Aaron ❕

  • @shinebabyshine.
    @shinebabyshine. Před 11 měsíci +5

    I swear your videos come right on time 🧡

  • @Xxsopxx
    @Xxsopxx Před 11 měsíci +4

    Fantastic video, great message!!! Needed to hear it, thank u.

  • @waveartculture
    @waveartculture Před 11 měsíci +3

    Perfect timing for me seeing this. Thank you, Aaron. I appreciate you and all that you do for your community.

  • @ekonaboy
    @ekonaboy Před 11 měsíci

    Indeed, there is truth to the concept that people often treat others based on the expectations and behaviors that have been established in their relationship. This idea, often referred to as "the way you train people to treat you," suggests that the dynamics and patterns of how we interact with others can influence their behavior towards us.
    Essentially, if we consistently allow certain behaviors or accept mistreatment without setting boundaries or expressing our needs, others may learn that it is acceptable to treat us in such a way. On the other hand, if we establish clear expectations, communicate effectively, and assertively advocate for ourselves, we are more likely to receive respectful treatment from others.
    While it is important to note that this concept is not an absolute rule and does not justify or excuse mistreatment, it highlights the significance of our own actions and communication in shaping how others perceive and respond to us.

  • @tammyg-gt4wv
    @tammyg-gt4wv Před 10 měsíci +1

    SPOT ON!!!!!!

  • @Itssimplyaisha
    @Itssimplyaisha Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you Aaron❤

  • @cellerdoor2954
    @cellerdoor2954 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I have come into realization of this myself the past few months aaron we are definitely on the same wave

  • @vinyltimewithamy1984
    @vinyltimewithamy1984 Před 11 měsíci

    Great message!

  • @thebullwhisperer916
    @thebullwhisperer916 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much!👣💞✨🔥🌬️🙏

  • @noco2605
    @noco2605 Před 11 měsíci +4

    Thank you, Aaron, for this new video. You help many people to become happy. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and positive energy with us.

  • @Desiree-Laine
    @Desiree-Laine Před 18 dny

    This is so good. TY.👍

  • @jh230377
    @jh230377 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Never a truer word spoken

  • @ericraycarta1111
    @ericraycarta1111 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Dude how did i even miss you i live in Arizona and didnt know you even came here thats is awesome but sad i missed out maybe next time though!

  • @waterlily938
    @waterlily938 Před 11 měsíci +3

    It's amazing how your videos show up always at a perfect timing. I won't express enough the gratitude for the way you are helping me in this phase of my life. I'd love to be there... but it's a long trip from europe and cannot make it right now ❤

  • @jettemerete
    @jettemerete Před 11 měsíci +2

    ❤️🙏❤️ dear Aaron dear soul. Just what I needed to hear.
    Love health peace and light from a Virgo in Denmark (Europe)
    🇩🇰😀

  • @LuvableAF
    @LuvableAF Před 7 měsíci

    I am nothing to anyone but something to hurt.

  • @wanderingspirit444
    @wanderingspirit444 Před 11 měsíci

    This was so awesome and I can relate to all of this especially with the family energetic field information 😊 Makes so much sense to me so many ways thank you

  • @annafornander9662
    @annafornander9662 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Hi! You came up on my screen and I got curious. I listened to this one and then "your future self wants you to see this". Your energy went straight in to my heart!❤ I felt uplifted , energized and a strong connection! Keep doing what you're doing, inspire people to discover themselves on a higher level.
    Who knows, our paths might cross someday. Much love!❤😊 Anna

  • @merishormeri57
    @merishormeri57 Před 11 měsíci

    Ty Aaron, I wish I was in LA.. ❤

  • @eileenmorris9357
    @eileenmorris9357 Před 11 měsíci

    absolutely SPOT ON, its only taken me 45 years o become aware of this, every single word you said i can relate to, im now buzzing with self love and respect, and have well and truly broke the cycle, thank you

  • @sianwalmsley7334
    @sianwalmsley7334 Před 11 měsíci

    Harsh truths …and fear is losing those you love …which I have …x

  • @louisatoland2383
    @louisatoland2383 Před 11 měsíci

    This is good ❤ I resonate 🙏

  • @MoonyMercuryBaby
    @MoonyMercuryBaby Před 11 měsíci +2

    Great vid

  • @thembangwenya7563
    @thembangwenya7563 Před 11 měsíci

    Bless everybody may God, the universe forces be with you and lead you to your true pure love self. I love you!

  • @SilviaPunkinMathis
    @SilviaPunkinMathis Před 10 měsíci

    Bam! ThatPart!

  • @nellieatkinson
    @nellieatkinson Před 11 měsíci

    Definitely resonated ! 😮

  • @thoomm
    @thoomm Před 11 měsíci

    Amazing timing❤😂🎉

  • @MsDreamofmine
    @MsDreamofmine Před 11 měsíci

    For the past few years, as my vibrational frequencies has ascended I have realized that I am no longer attracting the same types of people in my life. There has been people including family and friends who no longer resonate with me and they have become distant and some I just let go of but I can say I feel lighter. The things that use to bring me so much pain no longer holds residents in my mind. I have totally detached from having closer with situations and let go of the memories that held me bondage. With Innerwork comes inner peace; you just have to be prepared to go through the darkest times and know that God/Universe/Creator is there to guide you. The best part of the journey is forgiving yourself for what you have allowed. No more playing victim; no more blaming others for what you unconsciously unknowingly did not know. If you’re watching Aaron it’s time to let go!! 💜

  • @Aqualight.33
    @Aqualight.33 Před 11 měsíci +6

    Thank you for this reminder message! On another topic, I really appreciate being able to read your words along with listening to you talk because it helps me to take it in and remember. However, I've noticed that the automatic captioning gets the words wrong a lot. You might want to check out the CC captioning at 5:23 in this video. I don't know if it's possible, but it would be a good idea to have an actual real person review and edit the captions. Lots of people, like myself, like to take screen shots of the captions to remind them of the content. When I went to screen shot "Ho'oponopono" it actually showed porno porno instead, lol.

  • @JadenJahci
    @JadenJahci Před 11 měsíci +1

    Aaron,
    “May God Bless And Keep You Always”
    ~Bob Dylan

    • @sheyharv7604
      @sheyharv7604 Před 11 měsíci

      Funny story...my earth father's name is Robert but goes by Bob and my son's name is Dylan who just happened to be born on May 24th, Bob Dylan's Birthday... I was born Dec 11th and Bob's son Jakob was born Dec 9th same year...my oh my...I LOVE music...cheers! 💜

  • @bedourahmed1581
    @bedourahmed1581 Před 11 měsíci +7

    You said ho’oponopono and the subtitle says “whole porno porno” 🙉

  • @LuvableAF
    @LuvableAF Před 7 měsíci

    I allowed someone to abuse me , but he did it in a way he was able to take my money and promised me love. I am devastated he took everything but on the other hand when I lose my cel phone and internet I will be free from his control. I was put on this earth for abuse and I allowed it.

  • @rashmidhaundiyal8350
    @rashmidhaundiyal8350 Před 11 měsíci

    Exactly 👍

  • @stephaniepadgett256
    @stephaniepadgett256 Před 11 měsíci +3

    First thing I noticed besides you looking great as always, was your shirt. I was born on All Saints Day, which is the date of Nemesis X returning in 2046 per Archaix research. Great message, unfortunately my partner brings up my family everytime he’s created an argument & my family has never asked for anything & doesn’t get involved much, they mind their own business. It’s so annoying :(

  • @IvaHrvojic1111
    @IvaHrvojic1111 Před 11 měsíci +1

    If you come to Croatia, Europe i will be there 🤗

  • @aithaf8225
    @aithaf8225 Před 10 měsíci

    Merci mon ami

  • @christineplaton3048
    @christineplaton3048 Před 11 měsíci

    Its true.. howevr sometimes we are forced into friendships with lesser emotional intellectuals. It is an imbalance yes. Example. Woman. Drinks to excess. Has no car. Tried to demand i drive her daily for her beer . I refuse after it becomes daily. She knocks on door at least four times one day. I complain to her best friend. Her best friend ..her enabler had been busy. I end up being called a liar and the leader if this clique...most of whom have various serious addictions...ends up hating me. My worst trait was to call it like it is. Alcohol addiction that needs help. Im better off alone and know it but must find new people to interact with. After covid its difficult and I had relocated. Yes people treat you how you permit them to treat you. Just say NO. You are then challenged to literally GROW beyond this lower...level or vibe or however we understand.

  • @gintautesemionoviene3159
    @gintautesemionoviene3159 Před 11 měsíci +5

    What is if those people are a family with 2 young kids who fled the war in ukraine living in foreign country now... I helped a lot fromna bottom of my heart but there is only so much I can do for people who dont even try to learn local language (english), I feel for them but its just toxic for me so 60% of the time I just have to ignore the calls and messages. I allowed them to treat me in the way of asking for stuff and they are ready to give to me too, but I dont want anything from them 😬

    • @simsim876
      @simsim876 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Maintain your boundaries. You gave them a new life. They have the foundations to move forward themselves now.

  • @makotheshark3365
    @makotheshark3365 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Yeah.. people project it on others.. reminds me of shadow work

  • @crazychristmas100
    @crazychristmas100 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Love your videos Aaron. Always learning so much.

  • @BEve218
    @BEve218 Před 11 měsíci

    Yes

  • @yozo_b2
    @yozo_b2 Před 11 měsíci

    We Would really appreciate it and it would be wonderful if you can make a video how to break the cycle for us that we can’t come to California

  • @SRILANKANCHRISTIAN
    @SRILANKANCHRISTIAN Před 11 měsíci +1

    Good

  • @kelleymalloy449
    @kelleymalloy449 Před 11 měsíci +1

    What about when you first meet someone and they treat you mean, think they know how you feel, ask too personal questions, judge what you're putting in your body while they smoke and drink lol😅

  • @snowwhite1255
    @snowwhite1255 Před 11 měsíci

    Sir I really resonate with your characters you initially had like pleasing other people, dimempowerment or like a leaf in the air... So want to join your session. Hope I can afford to fly soon to your place for your sessions. And as of now, i request that you someday visit us in India to conduct sessions so that I can easily attend. Plz

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 4 měsíci

    Let me think how do I feel about someone who makes fun of someone with gifts

  • @kim6314
    @kim6314 Před 11 měsíci +3

    I love your videos but please increase the audio 💟

  • @niaselah3348
    @niaselah3348 Před 11 měsíci

    If you are in a relationship that's supposed to be reciprocal and for the benefit of everyone involved and if you don't play the role they want, they attack, blame and shame you, who is actually doing the training?
    In relationships where there's only a need for adjustment I would agree that's you. Probably based of you being trained for that role by previous other types of relationships but when there's coercion or diminishment as a response to you not wanting to play a certain role, that's not you and I don't think it's spiritual to say it is

  • @ireluke8816
    @ireluke8816 Před 5 měsíci

    I also heard 'How a person treats you is how they feel about you.'
    So I am bit confused.

  • @e.thereal
    @e.thereal Před 11 měsíci

    Sometimes seen a couple of your videos and usually I watch them to the end but not this one because something seems off, not a regular but hope everything is alright.

  • @rajwinderkaur7786
    @rajwinderkaur7786 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Wanna spoke wrong direct this is good ,But those who were speaking wrong,indirectly were the more dangerous for me .they want to save their self respect.

  • @chrisschwab7696
    @chrisschwab7696 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Its your energy you give effects others, wouldnt it make sense that other people's energies affect you and alter and change who you are until you become aware of it.

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 5 měsíci

    I don’t need a body

  • @thelast1090
    @thelast1090 Před 11 měsíci +3

    what if you do to need make changes with co-workers?? when you distance yourself from them they call you ''childish'' and talk about you badly behind your back or in presence of others too..how to solve that?

    • @bruceboice7955
      @bruceboice7955 Před 8 dny

      I'm in this situation right now today 12th June 204. I went to the office today and greet people there but they just ignored my hallo. I have promised myself from today that I will never greet them again, never again. They really embarrassed me today and I will never forgive them for that and I will never forget. One of the managers/ principal tried to get me fired from work but my union is still fighting the dismissal. They are all talking about me I know that for sure because I am a real and straight forward person. I've told myself from today that they hate me and I am going to keep my mouth shut and never greet them again. Let's not accept nonsense from other people please

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 4 měsíci

    Nancy’s new name is emerita lmao

  • @twelv
    @twelv Před 11 měsíci +1

    👏👏👏💃

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 4 měsíci

    The bots want to come out as the annunaki princess and take my role the rich ones

  • @leyfamilyof8650
    @leyfamilyof8650 Před 11 měsíci +3

    I don’t agree with this I always hate when I hear this after being in abusive relationships.

    • @josephined8576
      @josephined8576 Před 11 měsíci

      It is a pdf
      psychic trap. These people want to pin the blame in you , so you wont investigate further . A MIND MANIPULATION GAME.

  • @lauraantic1384
    @lauraantic1384 Před 11 měsíci

    I think as they are older they get worse so if It means i dont need them around my aura and giving them my energy

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 4 měsíci

    Isabella Greene

  • @PrancyBiscuit
    @PrancyBiscuit Před 11 měsíci

    This does not apply to minors or victims of abuse! You did not cause your abuse!

  • @ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500

    And I didn't know... I recently realised it... She once said she loves when he gets hurt and angry when this guy at the supermarket grabbed her. She loves drama. And she used me for it. And my sister is a mini her... But only the traits she likes about herself. And i am the traits she does not like about herself... I d like to ask a psychologist if i am right with my guess... Is it? 🧐

  • @bq1424
    @bq1424 Před 11 měsíci

    No they don’t. No one is responsible for the training of a Narcissistic abusive individual. However the victim of a Narcissistic family is conditioned and at HIGH RISK of falling prey to other Narcissists. Part of the Narcissist’s WEB OF ABUSE is BRAIN WASH TRAINING OF HIS / HER VICTIM.

  • @Gowiththeflow111
    @Gowiththeflow111 Před 11 měsíci +3

    You look like Jared Leto

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 5 měsíci

    Are people real chat

  • @lilly43698
    @lilly43698 Před 11 měsíci

    Because their pets....

  • @lagoldie9783
    @lagoldie9783 Před 11 měsíci

    That's Bull

  • @TigerPaint92
    @TigerPaint92 Před 11 měsíci

    I disagree. People treat you based on how you treat others. Karma, you reap what you sow.

  • @thetemplelaboratory
    @thetemplelaboratory Před 11 měsíci

    Hey he's not shouting.

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss Před 4 měsíci

    I dreamt I was at Megan fox’s house and I had a bedroom there

  • @opticalman6417
    @opticalman6417 Před 5 měsíci

    what he saying is bs if other people treat you badly its a mirror reflection of the tragic relationship they have with themselves it has noting to do with you send them love empathy and compassion and remove them from your life if need be

  • @fredrickjenkins-lw6ns
    @fredrickjenkins-lw6ns Před 11 měsíci

    This is the biggest lie I've ever heard.

  • @Abc19853
    @Abc19853 Před 11 měsíci

    Why u rant same thing over and over again