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Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some brides and grooms that got caught CHEATING on their wedding day. Enjoy these cheaters getting caught red handed.
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Hi, I'm Charlotte Dobre. I'm an actor, reactor, singer and sometimes (not really) comedian. On this channel I do reactions, commentary and occasionally I make a joke or two. I love poking fun at social media, weddings, entitled people, tiktok and OF COURSE petty people. I upload daily, usually 7 days a week, unless life gets crazy or I get lazy. Come hang out, it's a good time.
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Dude... that first story... Guy was about to kill his fiance. I've seen enough true crime to know what a 500k life insurance policy and a financial plan with the mistress means.
That Chapter life insurance dannce, anyone?
That's exactly what I was thinking, he was seriously moving on with her house and money from her "passing", he belongs in jail.
That was my first thought!
Most definitely!
🤯
That first story really went from “yeah, it’s sucks couples counseling can’t work if one partner is just a manipulative asshole” to “holy shit she was gonna be killed for the life insurance”
There’s a Taiwanese avid gambler that does that. So, he killed his mistresses n their children after putting life insurance on them. He also had a thing where he would find rich ladies to get married with. But one of the ladies was also scamming him because she wasn’t rich. So he decided to kill her off. The ending was that he went to the temple because traditionally, he was scared of the spirits of his mistresses n children. The police had to threaten putting the murder charges on his (first wife) daughters for him to not retract back his story. He loves his first marriage’s daughters so he ended up confessing. Overall don’t get addicted to gambling.
@@makck3554 That’s absolutely fucked and incredibly sad. Addiction is insanely terrible (I know firsthand how heinous it can be) but gambling in particular seems to help drive people to crazy things. In my opinion the people who do things like this were already poised on the edge. Addiction doesn’t unlock darkness inside of someone but it 100% can be the trigger that allows darkness out. When you take someone who’s already capable of violence and mix that in with the desperation and shame and anger that addiction brings, it’s always a recipie for disaster. Do you happen to know his name? I’d be interested to read or watch more about the case.
@@makck3554 Ohh, is it Chen Jui-chin you’re thinking of? If so, yeah holy shit, he’s absolutely insane and the entire story is so fucking wild. Killed his first wife, remarried, killed his 2nd wife’s son, kills his own son, kills his 2nd wife, starts dating another woman, kills her son, (she didn’t believe her sons death was an accident but couldn’t prove it, thankfully she got out alive), meets a new girl and a few days later he r**** her, steals all her shit, kills her and tosses her body off a cliff. He was one sick son of bitch. He was nabbed after this one and was ultimately executed. His ex-wife has come out and spoken about how he never should have been able to get away with this shit so long and I completely agree with her. The system failed, so many of these deaths could have been prevented. His excuses and accidental deaths just kept being accepted, life insurance just kept being paid, absolutely atrocious. All of this was powered by Chen’s vicious nature and his gambling addiction.
@@makck3554 Holy crap... Noted, don't get addicted to gambling 😬
When I accused my now ex husband of cheating, he looked me in the eye with tears streaming down his face and said to me, “I can’t believe you could think I would cheat on you” and proceeded to act so upset and hurt at my accusations. He even made me apologize to him. He was cheating.
Yeah it’s when you find yourself apologizing… My current husband would be like “no way honey, what can I do to reassure you?” (In fact he’s said that before because I have some trust issues from my ex, who would react like you’re describing here.) Glad to hear you got out of that relationship ❤
Ahhhh abusers ….
Scary
Ah, gaslighting narcissists
damn
When my husband decided he needed a girlfriend, I decided I DIDN’T need a husband. And I called her husband to let him know. She wasn’t happy about that 😂😂😂.
why do they always get so pissed when they get exactly what they deserve
@@helixxia9320bc they think they're entitled to have 0 consequences
"If a guy uses the term crazy to gaslight you when clearly something is wrong you are not crazy" - golden words from Charlotte needs to be remembered . It is true for girls as well .
Amen
I've been stabbed and smothered by exes. I guess I just choose the wrong ones aye?? Charlotte is entirely wrong when she says she never believes. Some exes are bloody insane.
I dunno... I mean, the guy that mentally and physically abused me for years and then stalked me, culminating in him threatening to break into my home and kill me and my new partner was legitimately mentally ill, but you know... *shrug*
I know that a lot of people will throw their ex-partners under the bus and label them as "crazy" when they're at least as much of the problem, if not more and it's completely fucked up. I'm pretty sure that I've got at least two exes that probably feel that way about me for not putting up with their shit.
Between stalky, try-to-kill-me ex and emotionally manipulative and financially abusive ex, however, it's very definitely that they were the problem, not me overreacting etc. I just had garbage taste in men and crappy self-esteem.
Just automatically dismissing someone's experience as false is just as gaslighty as dismissing someone as "crazy when they just call you out on your shit, regardless of gender. And that's without getting into the issue of adding to the stigma of mental illness.
One of my ex's kept accusing me of cheating he was so insistent that I was. Looking back now I think he was cheating and I'm glad he left tbh. He was emotionally abusive.
At :56, I channeled Charlotte for a second when we both said “I’m sorry? WHAT?!?!?!?!
That first story, I'm pretty sure her finding her fiancé that day may have literally saved her life. Here's why:
1. He had not only been gas-lighting her, but he tried to tell everyone that their relationship issues were her fault and tried to make it seem like he was the one in love, but she had the trust issues
2. He took out a 500,000 life insurance policy! They were not even married yet. She didn't say anything about having health issues, and it seems like he was never willing to put his own money into their life together.
3. She bought the house, but he was living there without her.
4. He and the mistress were budgeting a new life? On what money? Maybe on life insurance money *cough *cough
I think she caught her fiancé before he could kill her. Seriously, it's not that different from the case where that one guy who kept putting life insurance policies on his wives and kids before killing each of them in a fire.
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Edit: Thanks for all the replies! I saw A lot of True Crime fans here, and yeah, same! I thought that this was just me rambling after watching too many of Boze's True Crime videos😅Good to know I wasn't the only one
I was thinking the same thing. Any True Crime fan will tell you: a mistress, a life insurance policy, and planning for the future without her is a very bad combination
Same 🚩🚩🚨🚨🚨 red flags were going off in my head 👀
I was going to say the same!
i was thinking the same thing when i heard about the life insurance, but i thought i watched too much true crime
Now that you mention these details, I'm scared to think what could've happened to her if she didn't catch him!
Not saying that's exactly what he was planning with his mistress, but nowadays who knows! I mean any and all psychopaths and murderers can look like and be anyone. And listening to your gut feeling is what can stop you from going any further with someone or with a situation. And all in all, I'm relieved she listened to her gut feeling.
First story is like my aunt's, her marriage counsellor kept telling her she needed to work on her trust issues and her husband wasn't cheating on her. Then he withdrew their lifesavings to go live with the woman he was DEFINITELY not having an affair with. My aunt called up their therapist and smugly told her that all future sessions were cancelled because she didn't have trust issues, her husband really was having an affair. That phone call and my ex-uncle deciding to represent himself in court so as to hide his affair from his work friends (he's a lawyer) and utterly failing since he doesn't practice divorce law were my aunt's two silver linings during that dark time of her life. Sometimes it's the petty things that bring us joy.
in some situations after being treated very bad, pettiness just feel so nice
To the first girl:
Holy crap! He took out a life insurance policy on her and started planning his life with the other woman! Us true crime fanatics know what’s up 👀
Also, super curious what her counselors, friends and family are now saying when it came out that SHE WASN’T CRAZY AND HE WAS CHEATING!!!!
That first girl who found out her fiancee took out a $500,000 life insurance policy probably saved her own life by leaving. I would be willing to bet that if they had gotten married and he continued to see the other women behind her back that she'd be dead by now and he be collecting a big ol' check.
That part creeped me out. Knowing he was planning to leave and he clearly has no money....and they had a budget. She was nearly a Dateline episode.
Immediately thought of the same thing. Holy shit.
He was absolutely planning on “something” happening to her.
@L B
@Kensey Ha
Her fiance probably did have big plans to collect the life insurance. Luckily (??) he's too stupid to carry out such a grandiose plan. Thank goodness it didn't come to that! And thank goodness she's rid of him!
Good God. I know it's a bit off-topic but this premise reminds me of the webtoon, Marry My Husband, where her shithole husband is cheating on her with her [toxic] "best friend", mind you she's a cancer patient and goes to the house to see him, he obviously gets caught and kills her. He knew cancer ran in her family and got life insurance. The difference being since it's a webtoon, she ends up back in the past and goes for revenge. It goes to show how fiction is at times based on reality. I'm really glad that she didn't end up dead because of him. She deserves way better.
Oh man, he was definitely going to kill her!
Nope. Nope. Social media doesn't ruin relationships. I can't get down with that. Cheaters, liars and manipulators ruin relationships
Wholeheartedly agree with this! I also don't think there's anything wrong with looking at or liking things. If I can't trust my SO to so much as look at another man/woman and like their content, than there's way more issues going on than them simply liking a thirst trap (or whatever it happens to be) 🤷♀ I also feel as if I should be able to trust my SO if they're chatting with someone in DMs because chatting =/= cheating - it really just depends on the nature of the interaction and their ultimate intent imo.
💯 If someone is posting thrust traps, unfollow them 🤷♀️
💯 agree with you..... social media isn't the cause of relationships downfall
yes and also the "you are making him look at that bc that's what you post" hum no, he can unfollow...
@@dawnf.1703 Just unfollow... social media doesn't ruin relationships
The first and last story got to me. Honestly the first girl saved her life by getting out. Straight up sounded like the guy was going to kill her, the financial planning does NOT look good.
The second one got to me just with the kindness of the third neckless. Girl you are ROYALTY and don't be treated less than
1st lady is a warrior!!! You go girl. Glad you fought for what's yours.
So, my father used to cheat A LOT on my mother and they eventually got divorced because of it. Due to that trauma the first year of my marriage was unstable at times because I was ALWAYS suspicious that my husband was doing something behind my back. One of the things I remember very vividly is that he NEVER called me crazy. He wasn’t cheating (I would go through his phone quite often and nothing) but he never dismissed my feelings even tho I was wrong. I also remember my dad telling my mom she needed to go to therapy because she was losing her mind (which she believed for years). My conclusion: if he calls you crazy he is cheating. Because if he’s not cheating he’ll try to work with you through your insecurities.
It's never okay to go through someone's phone, no matter how insecure you are. You're lucky he didn't leave you. I could never be married to someone who constantly thinks I'm cheating and taking my phone and looking through it. That's messed up. Get some help.
@@user-mm4dk3kq4r No need to bei so rude about it. She already knows she had a problem with insecurities and she wrote that she was working on that. She did get better. Nobody is perfect, especially not in the first year of marriage.
She has a trauma, which makes her behaviour not okay, but understandable! Her husband supported her, because he knew she didn't do this things to hurt him or being disrespectful but because she was hurt deep inside. Should we leave our partner because every flaw they have? Because every psychological problem they have?
Maybe the husband was okay with her going through his phone? Maybe they talked about that and he told her, her insecurities are bearable for him?
Because this are things I told my now husband at the beginning of our relationship. He had bad experiences too and needed two years to come over them. When trust ist broken you need time to rebuild it and I loved him enough to support his healing process. He was nervous when I was alone with my phone and would constantly check on me. He also went through my phone and to be honest I didn't care. He stopped this 7 years ago and I am very proud of him.
Please don't be so rude and judgy about people who experienced hurtful things, who clearly ARE working on themselves.
She never justified her behaviour.
@@user-mm4dk3kq4r Just because you can reply, doesn’t mean you should
@@nadjahollje6805 I'm glad to hear a few stories of people with trauma and new partners working on it with them. I've got some trauma too and I know it'll probably have some consequences in a new relationship. It's something I'll be working through (with a therapist if I can get one) when I meet someone, because honestly I don't think anyone can predict the effect the trauma will have on a new relationship until that relationship happens, but I hope my future partner is understanding of it and willing to work with me as well
@@user-mm4dk3kq4r It's never ok..to YOU. If her husband doesn't care why should you?
It’s kinda funny how one of the biggest clues that a partner is cheating is that they’ll suddenly start suspecting you of cheating or being dishonest
Isn't it great??
Projection is a hell of a shield
Right? It's like their twisted way of trying to justify their nasty behavior by saying "Yeah well if she/he cheats on me, then they're just as bad/then me doing it isn't so bad!"
oh yeah do I know that one!! When my husband was creeping round where I worked to see if he could catch me cheating with my boss (I wasn't...he had a very nice girlfriend) & then accused me of sleeping with all & sundry IE: if I went for a coffee with a female friend that resulted in him telling me I was sleeping with her I wasn't. The best one was he accused me of cheating with the young man who bagged our groceries at the store...because I said thank you to the kid! That's when you know HE's the one cheating...and, yes, he was. I divorced him.
~projection~
I really feel bad for the 1st girl 😞you can tell it still upsets her . She’s too gorgeous of a girl to be treated any way but amazing! Also when you have that “feeling” it’s never wrong! I’ve never been wrong when I’ve had that intuition before! It’s even scared the guys who weren’t being faithful bc they said I was a witch or thought I could read minds 😂
Haha good - keep ‘em scared 😏
Sure it is… people are wrong about their intuitions all the time.
@@snyper1982 You might be, but you never listen to it anyway.
The first woman, I feel for her. I was in a situation like that, only I kept taking him back because "Nobody knows you like I do." It was a 10+ year on and off relationship and I always thought he'd change. I was so brainwashed I almost end gamed myself. I stole his "nerf toy" and had my note. Glad I didn't do it and am still here. It's been 4 years since he broke up with me for "being untrusting" while he was actively cheating on me for the 12th time.
I’m so glad you are okay!
Tbh I don’t think it’s social media ruining relationship, it’s people ruining relationships. You can’t “tempt” someone who’s happy and secure in their relationship, which you can be with or without a social media presence. People who cheat don’t care about their partners, which is not a symptom of social media.
Not ruining, just exposing what is already there.
I agree, social media isn't the issue, it's just making it easier to catch the cheaters. There's no reason to ask where someone is and if they have other accounts to follow if you're already wholly committed to someone.
This! Thank you. A woman is allowed to exist and post whatever makes her feel good about herself. A man's reaction is not her responsibility.
Came here to say this as well! And as far as the even looking at other people, I think it's totally fine and part of human nature to find other people attractive, it's the acting on it that's the issue. I don't care if my husband likes some girl's photo on Twitter because I know who he is and I know he's not acting on anything, but we also show each other pictures of attractive people all the time so maybe we're just very secure in our relationship 🤷♀️
Agreed 💯👍
We shouldn’t blame social media for ruining relationships blame the ppl themselves
Exactly and they found proof on social media which may have been harder to prove without it
It's not the opportunity that makes the crime, it's the criminal. And social media only offers more opportunities, it's not a Jedi mind trick.
IG don't change a person's nature.
It's so weird to me that she has this stance because it's the opposite of what she used to say.
Fr and we definitely shouldn't Blame women posting pictures 🙄 instead blame the men who can't set or keep boundaries. Also if your bf looking at another girl's bikini pic on Instagram as he scrolls by makes you THAT upset, it's probably not a great sign.
@@jessierabbit this
Nice that the jewellery engraver totally understood the mission. The 'you deserve better than this ' pick-me-up gift was a beautiful gesture. Hope karma gave that nice lady a well deserved thank you! We need more people in the world like her! ❤
I’ve said for years that men use the “you’re crazy” to discount the valid emotions their actions cause!
Life insurance policy?! Omg this could’ve been a true crime podcast story.
Yes!! I was just thinking that. I'm like, girl, he was planning on killing you and making it look like a tragic accident because he wanted to be with this other woman!
Ya, just had the same thought!
I 100% thought the same omg
@@dianaquick8883 I was wondering if anyone else caught that. Not only did they have a budget, they had plans to make her disappear forever. Too bad just taking out a life insurance policy isn't enough proof for a charge. It would be all suppositions and hearsay.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that! Thank goodness she's okay! Omg it seriously seemed that way
God I hate how they try and gaslight the brides. That first bride was doing CHARITY WORK
Yep. Should have sent him to the Salvation Army for rehab. Let Mother Teresa take care of the needy.
My ex-husband told me I was crazy too. I couldn't shake the gut feeling that he was cheating with his receptionist. We started marital counselling and the therapist would always side with him. I would see glances between the therapist and him that made me very uncomfortable. I started thinking there was something going on between them too. They'd again say I was crazy. Fast forward a couple months and the therapist was pregnant. We had an appointment set and he got there before me. I overheard them talking and the therapist was telling him that they should tell me and he said not to because he wanted her to have an abortion. She seemed shocked. I didn't let on that I knew. Fast forward a week, I went to his office unannounced and this receptionist was in his office sitting in his desk straddling him and they were talking about their future together and their unborn baby she was carrying. I walked in and exploded telling him I knew about both his affair partners and their pregnancies. She looked stunned to find out about the therapist and her being pregnant as well. I filed for divorce. He claimed in court that he never cheated and their were no other pregnancies. My attorney called both women to testify and they didn't know they were supposed to lie in the stand or they didn't follow the instructions to lie under oath. Needless to say I got my divorce and full custody of our daughters. He married his receptionist 11 days after our divorce was final. He abused their daughter who was 6 weeks old and was arrested. He was given a 10 year probation term because he took a plea deal. To his day he still claims he never cheated and was railroaded into taking a plea deal. Although he has too pay child support for both of these babies he still claims he isn't their father. I still laugh at him and it's been over 20 years since we've been divorced. I still think he got off to lightly for abusing his 6 week old daughter. I would have loved to have seen him be put in jail for what he did.
This is insane im so sorry.
He was not a human at that point.
I feel for that first girl & her ex trying to make her think she was crazy. My ex legit almost had me in the psych ward thinking I was crazy & had me convinced that his ex was stalking me to the point that I actually tried to get a restraining order, all to cover his cheating 🙃
The fact it takes a year to get a guy out from her house, that she bought by herself and they were not even married. Well. There's more issues than the ex fiance, apparently the system is severely flawed too :P
Very flawed
For real
How the heck were they even able to drag that on for so long? They had no marriage certificate. So that wasn't an issue. She paid for the house. The only thing I can think of is the house was in both of their names when she paid for it. That's the only reason it would have been such an issue. 🤔
If the house was not put under his name by the lady then the system is not flawed it's f'ed up.
If I started to realise that the law was letting me down like that, I'd have directly changed the locks to every door. I mean, at a certain point you take the matter into your own hands.
The fact that he took out a life insurance policy on her makes me think she had a VERY lucky escape!
I dont see people calling cheaters out as "ruining a relationship", i see it as 'saving an individual from a disgusting pig"😊
ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INTUITION when you've known someone for a long time and you feel like something is off...99.9% of the time you're right
It's not SM that ruins people's relationships. It's the people in it that don't have integrity and respect.
It doesn't ruin them it makes it easier to expose the cheating.
yeah that might be what she meant
PREACH IT
I am so angry for her. She bought the house and all he did was paid the $500 water bill.
Oh honey you think a water bill with that accent is 500 bucks? She even said she was being redneck water is like a cent a gallon in the country if you have a waterprovider at all (you probably won't you'll probably be on a well) that being said he didn't pay shit the dad paid a bit on the down that's it
I mean, if your partner doesn't have money, I could understand. But trying to get the house after the ed of the relationship? And after it was clear he was using her money to be with the other woman??? WTF no, I'm changing the locks ahahah
@@OrontesRMyeah that’s the point. I don’t really care if a partner only puts in a small amount - as that’s what marriage is. You join each others lives together. But he should have had at least some humility and moved out.
I think she said closing costs? Not water bill
She said it was the closing cost. And his dad gave him the money too. Bro was literally squatting.
The tea giving up the ghost was the best thing I've seen this week 🤣
Silent cheating!! I love that term….I can’t even explain how social media derailed my confidence and my relationship . Thankfully my now fiancée and I had the chance to review the boundaries we each have and we made our relationship stronger from it.
5:10 yeah, and the guys who actually have insane exes don’t usually call them crazy; they usually describe actions, from what I’ve seen. “She broke into my house”, “she stole my dog”, they usually describe actions. The folks who don’t touch on what their exes did and just call them crazy (and don’t say “it hits hard, I don’t wanna talk about it”, like it isn’t a sensitive topic, there’s boundaries), usually is a bad sign.
Exactly
Social Media does not ruin relationships, a person has to make a specific choice to ruin their relationship, social media just makes it easier to give "cheaters" an easier outlet to make those choices. People blame social media for making it harder to find a loyal, loving relationship, but I am 75, been single for 35 years due to the fact I got tired of cheating spouses. For 35 years I have just been enjoying the benefits of being single and meeting single women, and I am up front about my feelings regarding marriage.
Good for you fot living the way you like and being completely upfront and honest about it.
I think it's easier to catch cheaters in their cheating because of social media, cheaters often cannot keep their fingers from the keyboard or resist the urge to take pictures. even if they have a second account, they screw up eventually.
No one has to follow an account. No one. Charlotte, I worry.
I think it's extremely funny that while I'm reacting to their stories, 99% of the time, I make exactly the same faces as you do at the exact timing hahaha
I loved that video of the necklace packaging. The look on the jewellers face set it off perfectly :D.
This comment is to remind you there are people out there who do not cheat. Do not settle and never think someone cheating is your fault or you are not enough, they are unsatisified with themselves not you. - a married woman who has two kids and whose husband has been there through breast cancer and shown her love and taught her she has value
This is beautiful thank you I needed to read this
As someone who has read so many stories about hisbands leaving their wives due to cancer related mastectomies this story gmh thank you
My late husband of 36 years had an understanding, you can look, but not touch. We were married not dead. We were both faithful. Miss that man every day.
I'm so sad for your loss, he sounds like he was an amazing husband and man.
Ceejay, I can see why your husband was a “keeper”, as they say. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤
@@erikarussell1142 Thank you, he was a good man.
@@patriciaosborn5994 Thank you
@d Why, We loved each other and we're secure in our relationship and trusted each other.
First story: One, your accent is so nice to hear - I love it. Two, you seem formidable. You dodged a bullet here (maybe even literally) and you’re going to be okay. In fact I suspect you’re going to be more than okay.
I've been sick for a long time, it's gotten worse and husband and I have had to have some difficult convoys today. But thanks to you I still manage to laugh and feel better about my situation.
At least my husband ain't a hoe.
Hes the most wonderful human I could ever dream of.
My dad gaslighted my mom for years saying she was crazy cause she kept finding evidence that he was cheating or stealing money from her. At one point she really started to think she was. She stayed in that marriage till all her kids were old enough because he would tell her that she was to senile to take care of the kids alone and he would get full custody us. He never even tried to be there for us kids. Would hide in his bedroom whenever he was home with us. My mom homeschooled and raised us all on her own and worked night shifts to pay off all the money he kept spending. Many years later after my mom finally divorced him, he told me that he did cheat on her. Multiple times. She was not crazy at all and that man didn't deserve her.
Wow what a dedicated, hardworking and strong woman your mom is to go through all of this for betterment of kids...give her a hug from my side🥺
What a heartbreaking situation for you all. None of you deserved that man to be in your lives. He contributed nothing, and made life harder. I'm so sorry. My father was a dead beat too, but he was overly abusive so my mom got out.
Wow your dad sounds so charming
Sorry to say this about your dad but He's an A-hole!
@@nikethanavattikunta6147 don't be sorry, he really is one. If I could cut him out of my life I would.
Social media isn't ruining relationships. Cheating ruins relationships, social media just exposes the tea.
social media isn't ruining relationships, unfaithful people are ruining relationships. nobody is holding a gun to your partners head and forcing them to like booty pics. cheating has been going on since forever.
💯 for real
yeah
What Charlotte says is true! My ex husband told me all of his girlfriends were crazy, which should have been a red flag to me. But unfortunately this was before the information of the internet. The first time I had that gut feeling I got the “we can’t have relationship if we don’t have trust”. If I could go back in time to my younger self I would tell myself to run. He cheated with a coworker and now I know my gut was right about other weird situations.
Come on Charlotte, you know social media can't ruin relationships....only the people in the relationship can do that! Social media only exposes the ruin....
I commented this earlier and I don’t want to spam but I feel like it’s the best way of giving context to why the statement gave me the ick
Honestly it’s a diet version of holding women responsible because man does “X” and women are held accountable for the actions and/or restricted due to it
The many examples: The boys are distracted in class by a bra strap-school dress conduct
It makes me so uncomfortable because it just feels like a diluted argument of r-culture/SA and feeds into further discrimination and misogyny against women imo
So I got married on Sept 30, 2017, just like our first bride was supposed to. The venue had 2 spaces so 2 parties could happen on the same day. The venue called us 3 days before the wedding to say the 2nd party had just cancelled. Have always wondered what happened, and seems really odd that I'm hearing this story now. Well, if it was her, hope she's doing well, and thanks for all the free food and booze that we got since the venue couldn't store it for the next week's weddings.
WOW that would be crazy huh?
😯
Alright part 2 you look her up and buy her a beer🍻
Butttt if you have a good relationship and had your dream wedding and her life fell apart, kinda an ahole move. Be well! I’m sure she is better too.
She had a Texas drawl if I'm not mistaken.
When my husband and I were engaged there was a women who liked my husband. We all worked at the same place, and she was pretty nice to me…but I could tell something was up. She was 15ish years older then my husband, so whenever I’d bring it up he’d say she was almost old enough to be his mom. 😂 he’d tell me about times that she “joked” about running away together. And other “jokes”. And I continued to tell him it made me uncomfortable. He did start distancing himself from her out of respect for me. But I could tell he didn’t really believe it. And they worked together so he couldn’t completely not talk to her.
Fast forward a couple years. Him and I are married and both found new jobs, I ended up getting together with someone else who had worked with us back that. They knew this woman, brought her up and told me about the giant crush she had on my husband!! Apparently she’d always watch him walk away and tell the other coworkers “if only he was a little older, or I was younger”. (And more but I don’t remember it all) I felt so validated, I called him on the way home and told him.
We’ve been married 10 years
Woman who are able to flip that switch ❤❤❤ getting humor revenge is the best !! The last one tho 😂😂😂😂
The overall entitled feeling that grooms or husbands think they have when they are caught cheating is just ridiculous. Poor girls that go through this. Queen Charlotte, do your thing with sharky!!!❤
Poor anyone that goes through this. Happens to men just as often anymore. Sad
Not all cheaters are male.
It goes both ways. Women be thinking they have the same entitlement when they don’t.
People.... Women do this also.
Sorry but ain't just girls go through this i was a chef working 70hrs a week and found out my ex had been cheating almost the entire 2 years we were together I found out the day I picked up the engagement ring
Social media isn't ruining relationships, people are ruining their own shit!
Fun little story. I found out my ex was texting my best friends, showing up at their work, bringing them lunches/dinners, etc. All while I was home with my sick NEWBORN twins. One of the friends, we will call her skank for this story, would message him randomly and he would immediately get up and "go to the bathroom" I knew he wouldn't cheat with her physically because she was in another state. But it's still the principle of it. She finally told me after it happening for 6 MONTHS The 2nd friend, we will call Whore for this story. She did not tell me he would stop by her work, bring her food, helped her MOVE (told me he had an emergency at work) anyway, she did help me leave after my twins were almost 4 years old took me and my twins in for a month and then I moved out once she told me what happened between them. See him and Whore hooked up....a lot.....behind mine and her husband's back. I was super close to their daughters. Like SUPER close! My little mini mes. They were amazing!
Anyway, she messaged me saying "I was told you neglect your twins and do not love them" I told her to go f*** herself, informed her husband of what she did just days after getting married to him until only them and God knew when, and blocked her on everything. Have not spoke to her, her STILL husband or my favorite mini mes since. That was almost 10 years ago. However Skank decided to tell me that my new relationship was never going to work. He was a snake and has a double life. I asked boyfriend (now husband) about everything she brought up and found out she was, duh, lying. So I cut her off as well. She will still randomly message me saying she misses me and our friendship. I will only send back a 🤣🤣 to her.
Fun fact about my new husband, he is my ex husband's ex best friend and all 3 of us worked together for a moment. At one point, my ex told me to go f*** myself. I told him I no longer needed to, I got the dead weight out of my bed and moved on to his best friend and he does it right.
Coming up on 9 Years that he and I have been together and we have NEVER been stronger. The twins dad, my ex, has zero contact with them, me or husband due to the state putting a protective order on him for abusing my babies. They are 13 now and love their bonus dad more than anyone else on earth (likely including me! Haha) he's amazing with them. Never misses a practice, game, concert, dr appt, dentist appt, often teaches them new stuff outdoors, stuff on cars etc. They are all my reason for living!
good it ended well❤️
It’s not social media ruining relationships, it’s people.
The first story I love how the marriage counselor said "There's nothing going on he said there's nothing going on so there's nothing"
Like dude people can say that and lie 🙄🙄🙄
Yeah that sounds like a terrible marriage counselor 😂
Not a very good marriage counselor then. Time for a new one!
I was cheated on by not one but TWO narc husbands (yes, I have since identified and addressed my childhood garbage, thank goodness). Both of them ruined me financially (second one took the house I bought!) and I had to fight and claw and scrimp and scrape to get out of debt both times. I had sworn off relationships entirely but here I am with my husband of 16+ years, happily and faithfully PARTNERED in a real marriage. I can totally sympathize with the first young lady. Baby, I have been there. I hope you go on wiser than I did. Took me two dirtbags to learn. Phew.
That last one with the necklaces! I’m sorry THEY cheated on her but I am so glad she wasn’t married when she found out. A ruined wedding is cheaper and less painful than a divorce.
It took me two as well. My first ex was a husband who who cheated on me soooo much even the p.i. was ashamed and baffled. 24x in 2 months. 24 different women in 2 months. I got chlamydia from him while pregnant and almost lost our daughter. And I can't have babies, so she is my miracle... he blamed for cheating ofc, but I know I'd never ever even slept with anyone other than him, he took my big V card. The second was a bf who ended up quitting his job after 2 years and just lived in my house not contributing to shit, not even cooking and cleaning. I had to come home after 12 hrs days and do that too. He ended up getting in trouble with the cops and went to prison for 2 years. I waited for him like a good gf and put money on his books... and when he got out of prison, he just never came back home. He ended up getting a gf who was in her 60s when him and I were in our 20s and she was married. He moved into his mom's house and continued acting the same way he did at my place. I think he's still living there and I'm now almost 40... but now I'm getting married in June and I cannot wait. Ours is the best Most healthiest relationship ever. We do nothing but laugh and play all day. I love that.
and in some cases, you can get the money back if the wedding doesn't happen. You don't get any of that money back in a divorce. Always a bright side to every shitty and dark situation.
I gave up after 2, not worth my time or effort. It's been 14 years and I don't regret it one bit.
@@msdeviantdizzy
Me too. Never again.
Oh wow congratulations on 16+ years what advice would you give someone in those twenties about marriage and relationships in general?
1. The perfect gaslighting. It’s never him, it’s always you!!!
Charlotte, your reaction at 4:20 made me laugh so hard! 😆 you genuinely feel for her. I love that for you! ❤ lol
I'm glad that the young woman that caught the guy in HER house called the police. That was a smart move! This meant that they had to testify under oath what they were doing there. Hope that she let the counselors know what he did, too! The guy needs to be named & shamed.
And the counselors retrained-with her living with her folks and the stupid--work on trust stuff-sounds suspiciously like toxic evangelicals, Catholic, or other Christian marriage counseling.
If I was the girl in the first story nobody in my family would ever be allowed to question my gut ever again. I would bring this story up all the time if they tried it lol
I noticed women's support is lacking in this subject too. I've had that issue where I felt my ex was cheating on his just friend and I asked around a lot of women who said I was being crazy and that I should be ok with him having a girl as a friend. Of course he was cheating so I'm not doing that any more. If I don't feel comfortable with my partner hanging around other girls when I'm not there I have the right to feel that way I personally think it's wrong and I wouldn't hang out with men I never hang out with men while I'm in a relationship. If other people are ok with doing that that's fine but personally I can't not anymore because it's happened a few times already.
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@@empath9814 I think if a guy and girl have been friends for a long time, they should have their partners' trust. If one of them is into the other, the vibe will be obvious.
i LOVE when professionals/service providers help the person that was cheated on. Props to you guys! Youre the real MVP's XD
That lady's story reminds me so much of my story from 2004. My fiance and I bought a house together based on my credit because his was crappy. The day before we closed, I found out I had an STD. I had only been with him. I went ahead and moved all my stuff in the house but couldn't get over the betrayal. So I left 2 weeks later, after he began getting physical during our arguments about the issue. 5 days later one of our co-workers (we worked together) was sleeping in MY bed, telling everyone at work that he'd told her she could have all my stuff. I got a lawyer because he wanted the house, also wanted to keep my name on it, move her in, and didn't want me to fight him. He ended up having to make the house payment by himself until it sold, and had to split the equity with me 50/50, because he couldn't get a loan to buy me out. He has a wife now that he constantly cheats on at work, and he also commits DA against her all the time. Thank God I dodged that bullet before we go hitched!
what does da stand for and go queennn sending much love
Damn
@@cupcakemuffin128 domestic abuse I'm pretty sure
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Hope the people in her life help her get out safely
My niece's bf was cheating on her and she caught him red handed and recorded the conversation with him saying 100 times "I was scared and stupid " we still laugh at the scared part
I was scared... the giant woman made me perform snoose snoose!!! I could've died!!!
@erikarussell1142 in between questions you hear SILENCE. She goes " oh if you have to put thought into it it's a lie "
Silence and "I don't know I'm scared " and she goes " apparently, scared right into another v jay jay you idiot " Proud of her frfr!
Can I just say social media doesn't ruin relationships. Cheaters do
I'm going through a real ruff time in my life and I'm so thankful for your videos. They always make me smile and that's hard to do! Thanks for the joy you bring me and others!!
The first girl you can really see the pain in her face even this many years later :(
taking out the life insurance, finding a budget they made out. that man was considering murder.
My husband told me his ex was crazy but she legit was. Gaslighted him into thinking her mental health issues were his fault, and, after he had called the cops on her during one of her episodes, she gave herself bruises and tried to convince the emts / police that he did it. Luckily his parents witnessed the whole thing and the angle of the bruises confirmed they were self inflicted.
When Charlotte said that when a guy tells her his ex is crazy it's really she was sick of his shit all I could think was she was projecting and way too forgiving of women. If you want to know that women are crazy, just look at social media posts. There are a lot of psychos out there.
"it's like Pokemon.... let's just collect'em all!!"🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yo that first story….maybe I watch too much crime TV but he took out a policy on her AND had a budget plan with his mistress…..literally saved her life!
Agreed
I’m older and I can’t tell you how many people I’ve seen who have been with a cheater, get married to them and act surprised when they get cheated on! I mean, I’m amazed at the levels of delusion/stupidity!
I knew something was amiss when my now ex-husband started bringing up his coworker randomly in conversations and saying her name a little too often. They are now married. It is often that when you're infatuated with someone, you want to talk about them all the time. Even to your own wife 😅
The last one though!!! That has to be my favorite one!!!
Good morning! And today it really is! Today marks the last day of my last payment for a business I lost in pandemic. Thank you Charlotte for getting me through this. I appreciate you so much 💛
Yay! Sorry you lost the business but I hope you can start a new one!
@@talosheeg Thank you. I did right here on CZcams. Well, it got me by and I learned new things. Now I work in the industry helping others with their channels. Love it!
Congratulations! It's an awesome feeling to have that weight off your shoulders.
@@amandaturner5694 thank you :) it really is
Bravo❤️
Man... that first story was traumatic!! That poor woman! It looks like she's doing so much better now, but still, that is ROUGH. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Her ex is a piece of trash, and she is better off without him. Absolutely vile.
These videos help me stay invested in staying single for longer and continuing to work on myself and mental health. They also make me laugh ❤😁
OMG Charlotte your reactions are the best!!
For me, calling "liking a photo or looking at other people" cheating is too extreme.
But we all have different expectations and boundaries and it's important to communicate with our partner. If you both define for your relationship that liking a photo is off limits and one of you does it anyway, than it's cheating.
I've experienced it too many times we're I've had a boyfriend just like other girls photos so much or it's the she's just a friend and it turns out they are cheating. I actually had a girl show me her screenshots of my ex gushing over and talking about how I'd never find out so yeah I can't handle that anymore. I will not force anyone to not have social media or give up a friend but I refuse to date these people I want a man who has the same expectations and boundaries as me but people think I'm paranoid even though my parents have this relationship we're they don't follow people on social media or hang out with the opposite gender. 🤷🏻♀️ I wish people would respect that everyone has a different idea and set of boundaries in their relationship we need to respect that.
Yeah agreed I felt like a follow and a like isn't really "proof of cheating"
It just skates a fine line of controlling. Me and my bf are like "you can find other people hot or beautiful but just make sure you only love me" and don't take everything as a micro aggression of betrayal
How about appreciating other people, but keeping it to yourself? How about exercising "self-control"? I know we have normalized playing stupid games like, "Marry, Fuck, or Kill?", but is that really necessary or helpful to maintaining stable, happy relationships? If you are in a committed relationship, if you want to keep fantasies of others, I don't think it's "adultery in the heart", in the famous phrase of Jimmy Carter. But your mind is a big private place, just don't make other people feel bad.
There is no reason to be liking photos of others if you are in a faithful relationship. My boyfriend and I both don’t even have social media and he keeps his eyes to himself also when we are out together because he says, “why would I look at anyone else when I have the love of my life beside me?” That’s called respect.
@@empath9814 Exactly! It's absolutely controlling and insecurity-based. If they gonna do it they will- I don't like it when women blame other women for existing on the internet that their mediocre bf's bother LOL.
Never ever ever ignore that feeling of "it doesn't feel right." Even if the person wasn't cheating, that doesn't mean anything. It just means you are either having cold feet, which is normal.... or you're not confident in the relationship.
Either way, don't ignore the feeling because no matter the reason, it needs to be resolved.
Also...don't EVER buy a house with someone you aren't married to...
The overwhelmingly vast majority of relationships between people before the age of 25 end because they are supposed to. 60% of all marriages before the age of 25 end in divorce. that number drops to 25% at the age of 26.
You're not supposed to be finding your Forever person really before the age of 24. You CAN but realistically, you won't. That is a time to be learning and experiencing and figuring out what you want or do not want in a partner.
There is a reason so many relationships at that age end and so many people who got together at that time are unhappy in their relationships. Your brain isn't even fully developed until age 25-26. The part of the brain that doesn't fully developed is the part that makes good decisions . That's why people that age are usually making bad decisions .
You are literally not even a fully formed human who knows yourself let alone what...or whi is going to make you happy long term
It's actually 25-28. And most men fall under the 28 year mark. But yes. You're correct.
Um so just because a certain presentage of people get married and have a better relationship at a certain age you think everyone should do that. It's not the age that's the problem people just don't know how to have a committed relationship these days. I've met people of many ages that are horrible and cheat.
My parents were highschool sweethearts and got married at 21. A cousin of mine met her husband in middle school and they have two children. I'm telling you now it doesn't matter the age. Do people rush into marriage absolutely but this mentality is the reason people start judging those that marry in their early 20s I hope you don't do that.
You are so wrong about that. I'm 29 and I know I'm not ready for marriage. Plus, I never dated when I was a teenager and only started dating when I was 24. I'm currently in a relationship and I'm not ready for marriage at all. Also, many people find their soulmates even at the age of 11 and get married and have kids because that's how it works for some people. Also, there are people who don't find love until they're in their 50's. Just because it worked for one person doesn't mean it works for everyone. Also, I doubt my current boyfriend is my "forever" and again, I repeat, I'm 29 and this is my first relationship. I probably won't have kids or get married until I'm well in my 30's or 40's. You have a serious messed up way of thinking if you think that people can't find their "forever happiness" by a certain age. Age should NEVER matter until you're dating someone who is about 15 years older than you or something but again, that's just a preference to me specifically. A person's values, worth and who they truly are as a person should matter more than just age. If you don't understand that, I feel sorry for you.
@@empath9814 like I said, it CAN happen. The vast majority, it won't. And it has nothing to do with "these days" unless you're talijnf the crazy societal changes from when divorce was super frowned upon and women couldn't really survive or live without a husband.
I love the "subscribe!" In the end also last is indeed the best
Well said, supporting that woman!💜🙏🏽
First girl literally saved herself from being killed.
In my opinion, if you feel the need to perform a loyalty test on your significant other, the relationship is already over.
That last one is just serving up petty revenge like a SAVAGE with those classy necklaces and I am all for it.
I've said it before and I will reiterate - because I am polyamourous, the ONLY thing that will send me into a rage is if you LIE to me. As long as whoever I'm seeing is upfront, tell me for god's sake that "Hey, I have someone I want to hook up with, any rules I need to follow?" I will answer - "Yup, be sure you protect yourself against STDs and call me after." I don't need the gory details, but I do want to know. Right now I'm in a closed triad - meaning we don't see anyone outside the three of us. We are considering bringing in another person, but it will be at least a year before we make that decision because there is a hell of a lot to negotiate. Bottom line - just don't lie you idiots. As Phil DeFranco would say, "Don't be stupid, Stupid."
When the first woman says that her fiancé took out a $500k life insurance policy on her....😳 I may watch too much true crime, but made me slightly concerned.
Had a cousin who back in the 90s cheated on his girlfriend that he had since middle school with 3 different women (had 4 separate beepers and everything). Long and short 2 of the the women found out about the other by a mutual friend. They roped the third girl into coming with them and beating him up and also telling his girlfriend (spoilers she dumped him and he cried...he learned the hard way
That last one was good.
!Queen!
I love the romantic music in the background of the necklace video, perfect.
Love the fact she was getting gaslighted by the marriage counselor my god
The first story reminds me of Dirty John n just how much telling a person that they’re crazy and lying to them can really destroy you
I'm obsessed with the bride bridezilla and wedding stuff ahhhh
The last one of the woman who made the necklaces for the cheater ordered by the girlfriend was so sad and sweet. As someone who experienced an ex cheating it does change you..
I'm going through a crazy stressful time right now and Charlotte and these videos are single handedly getting me through with much needed levity.
I’m sorry! The holidays make things even harder for a lot of people! I know we don’t know each other but I hope things get better for you soon! Holidays are always difficult for me as well. Hang in there!!❤️
I'm so sad things are so crazy lately. I pray things get muuch lighter here going forward, that the stress levels go down, and you find much clarity and Serenity in this time. I pray this next year is very peaceful for you.
Me too I found here when the jd/ah trial was going on and I fell in love with her! I went through and binged for days to watch every single video even the ones from io and now I’m hooked to watching her new video with in 5min of it posting and watching everything else on every platform! I’m obsessed! Lmao!!
That first story FFS! Always trust your intuition!!!! Also, thank you Charlotte. Your Channel gives me an endorphin rush, even when I am having the worst day, like today! Sick with tonsillitis 🥹. We love ya tatty queen ( tatty is Scottish slang for potato)♥
Even if he wasn't cheating, don't ignore that feeling. That intuition is telling you something isn't right whether it was cheating, cold feet or just not being happy. The reason doesn't matter. What matters is until that feeling is resolved you shouldn't be getting married.
And don't fucking buy a house with someone you're not married to.
@@Mewse1203 I did the latter, got a house with my partner. That scares me a bit I won't lie, It's in his name. I pay all the bills he pays the mortgage. 8 years we've been together. love him to bits, I know he loves me too. I just hope we get engaged soon.
@@kingpuppet5881 oh dude....that is not cool. I hope everything works out but 8 years? How much longer do ya'll need to decide? I really hope you're joking because everything about your situation is the worst thing that can happen in my opinion.
@@kingpuppet5881 if you live in the UK, look up the ‘family law group’ online and they have a page on couples that only has one person on the mortgage. I hope it doesn’t happen to you but the info may be worth looking at so you know your rights just in case ☺️
@@ndawn90 your being smart about the way you went about it! I think the big problem is people aren't as pragmatic as you are and don't think they'll have a problem. It can feel kind of crappy to go to your partner who you love and say "hey just in case we break up in the future can we sign this contract?" but if you're not married, it's an absolute must if you're going to buy a house together.
I'm sorry you had to learn such hard lessons in such a bad way. Much love.
Instincts ladies. Follow those instincts. I KNEW my ex was cheating on me, I just knew it...he did the exact same thing and accused me of being untrusting, I'm making stuff up, and I need to work on my self-esteem, he constantly accused me of cheating on him. Well, I was unknowingly the other woman for a year. He was living a double life for an entire year. Now that I'm older and wiser, I wouldn't put up with that mess today.
The way charlotte's videos have me invested in these scenarios is highly entertaining 🤩🤩
Girl love ur videos😍😍☺
Behavior like this is the big reason why I'm so paranoid (I've had multiple exes leave me for other women) and why I'm absolutely terrified of being with someone, cuz you're right cheating is so easy nowadays with social media 😢😢
Girl I have to tell you I'm 52 and I found your channel recently what got me was the ending when you yelled subscribe I jumped out of my chair because you scared me and then I started laughing uncontrollably. I want to start a channel and boy I want to say that at the end it was just too good and funny. Love your work if I copy it I will pay homage to you
This was your best video yet, and I love the hilarious shark fighting the jerks!😂
Loved the fact you called the POLICE!
The $500,000 life insurance was a hit of her life