How trauma in your marriage can affect your sex life | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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  • čas přidán 22. 06. 2023
  • Put those kids to bed 'cause it's going to get real in here. We've talked in the past about gender roles, lingerie, all these things and it lead us to a conversation about Sex... Who should be initiating? How can rejection affect your marriage? Lets get into it!
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  • @catherinefrye7269
    @catherinefrye7269 Před rokem +613

    My Husband and I have been married for 51 years and we have definitely been through those times like You and Chance concerning our sex life. Early in our marriage we we like little bunny rabbits and later we had our ups and downs, having babies and more responsibilities sex wasn't our priority anymore. Now all of our are grown and married and have children of their own. We are enjoying each other all over again. Our communications together is very important. We hold hands, walk together, hug, kiss and it feel like we are courting all over again! He calls me his girlfriend and I call him my boyfriend, lol😂😂❤

    • @sassyx2048
      @sassyx2048 Před rokem +16

      This was si cute to read love it.

    • @shirlyfolger-lh1di
      @shirlyfolger-lh1di Před rokem +11

      Congratulations on reaching over the half way point. Wishing you both many more prosperous years to ahead. 🌹

    • @Joyclyn
      @Joyclyn Před rokem +4

      Admirable

    • @patricegrace437
      @patricegrace437 Před rokem +5

      That is soo beautiful. ❤

    • @napturalgoddess6602
      @napturalgoddess6602 Před rokem +3

      Aawww! I love this! It’s beautiful on the other side 🥰

  • @lakeishamorris9183
    @lakeishamorris9183 Před rokem +284

    “Don’t think about what you can get! Think about what you’ve got and how you want to keep it!” That was a powerful statement!

  • @BrandNameVegan
    @BrandNameVegan Před rokem +405

    I love that Chance emphasized the importance of listening to a man when he's being vulnerable. Ladies, that is so important to let him open his heart so he can feel comfortable sharing. Like Chance said, if you shut down a man's vulnerability, that is damage that you will likely never recover from. A man may never open up again - and then we wonder why more men aren't emotionally available or emotionally intelligent. Take care of your partner's heart. ❤

    • @eade25
      @eade25 Před rokem +6

      Looooooove the realness

    • @rbivinc1
      @rbivinc1 Před rokem +3

      Preach Preach!!! 🗣👏🏿

    • @tamlynn786
      @tamlynn786 Před rokem +7

      That part hit home! It’s sooooo important to let your man feel safe to show his sensitive side.

    • @antinciafoster7979
      @antinciafoster7979 Před rokem +3

      Amen

    • @carlahill8096
      @carlahill8096 Před rokem +5

      Absolutely 💯 correct men has feelings that goes deeper then the surface and for some it's hard to open up and talk about it they have to be able to trust you to listen and trust you ❤

  • @demetriakelly9839
    @demetriakelly9839 Před rokem +174

    They are talking like grown married people who have learned and are learning.❤

  • @Angryegaroq
    @Angryegaroq Před rokem +249

    Love the fact that Chance is able to voice things from a man’s perspective. Feeling seen.

    • @antinciafoster7979
      @antinciafoster7979 Před rokem +1

      Me too

    • @nicolejohnson8218
      @nicolejohnson8218 Před rokem +1

      tell us more lol love watching them together

    • @donaldsonlatisha5693
      @donaldsonlatisha5693 Před 9 měsíci

      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @daniellemoxey9940
    @daniellemoxey9940 Před rokem +154

    The friendship that they share is what allows for these uncomfortable conversations..they truly seem to not just love each other out of obligation, but like one another genuinely. The laughter that they collectively share is also so healthy...they're laughing with each other not at each other! Love this dynamic ❤️😊

  • @IAmDionneKelley
    @IAmDionneKelley Před rokem +216

    THESE are real conversations and so very necessary. My husband and I both sat here saying "Have they been in our house???" #22yrsAndHolding You two are helping men, women, relationships, and marriages. You two are a Blessing to the Kingdom Team Brown!!!🧡🙏🏾🙏🏻

  • @moniquereleford2088
    @moniquereleford2088 Před rokem +92

    My husband and I are 33/34 and have been married 12 years. We literally just had this convo and I prayed and asked God what did I say wrong cause he got so defensive!!! And I got on CZcams and this popped up!!! God is so good and this has been so relevant!!! Thank y’all for your transparency and obedience to God!!!!! This is so good!!!!

  • @elisse215
    @elisse215 Před rokem +281

    It feels like you can substitute “initiating sex” for basically any need that your partner has. it’s so difficult to navigate meeting each others needs within your relationship and I appreciate hearing how y’all unpacked your feelings and egos to work through it

  • @22deel
    @22deel Před rokem +59

    I love how Chance always says "we done helped these people enough!" hahaha

  • @paulabrown5507
    @paulabrown5507 Před rokem +74

    These are the convos that our generation did not have. My marriage did not make it because of not knowing ourselves, what traumas we still had from childhood, not knowing how to talk about anything without it feeling like an attack or having the vocabulary to do so, etc…. I’m hopeful for the next generation and for my future relationship.

    • @tamlynn786
      @tamlynn786 Před rokem +1

      Same! If there is a next time, I’m ready.

    • @ibiminaabiye257
      @ibiminaabiye257 Před rokem +2

      Absolutely. Mines didn't make it for lack of communication. I'm hopeful for my future relationship.

    • @barbaraholland2809
      @barbaraholland2809 Před rokem +1

      @paulabrown
      I agree with you 💯. ❤🎉

    • @barbaraholland2809
      @barbaraholland2809 Před rokem +1

      ​@@ibiminaabiye257
      AMEN. Same reason why mine didn't make it.😢❤

    • @jenniferchaisson6601
      @jenniferchaisson6601 Před 11 měsíci +3

      I'm so glad you're talkin about having the hard conversations. It can really save a lot of marriages.❤❤

  • @MzMel-2023
    @MzMel-2023 Před rokem +250

    Many couples divorce because of lack of understanding of each other. We have to be mindful of each other's life load and move accordingly with grace, kindness, compromise and gentleness for a solution that benefits both.
    👑❤️👑

  • @dinkydink4456
    @dinkydink4456 Před rokem +119

    It tickles me whenever Chance tells Tab to "Stay Focused." Tab was about to drive that conversation to the left😁😁😁😁 It's great where you can banter with your partner.

    • @mjohnson6841
      @mjohnson6841 Před rokem +5

      Chance: "Baby...you're gonna have those old ladies in my DMs. I don't want those nasty pictures." 🤣🤣🤣

    • @dinkydink4456
      @dinkydink4456 Před rokem +2

      @@mjohnson6841 Almost took me out 🤣🤣🤣

    • @savillewilliams
      @savillewilliams Před rokem +1

      He catches her every time 😅😂

  • @carmelleellis7368
    @carmelleellis7368 Před rokem +99

    Tab you hit the nail on the head!! When hubby isn’t initiating it rips us wives to shreds! It brings insecurities, makes us feel bad about ourselves, and wonder if we’re good or pretty enough. Chance you’re so right… Rejection hurts both husbands and wives.
    Let’s respect and honor growth in eachother❤ I’m so proud of you both for surviving the growing pains🙏🏽

  • @kjwilliams100
    @kjwilliams100 Před rokem +63

    😂😂😂I laughed so hard at Chance trying his best to hold Tab back.."alright, you gonna have these old ladies in my DMs"😂😂

  • @tenacity337
    @tenacity337 Před rokem +82

    You guys are saving marriages with this video. May God bless yours abundantly. To hear Tab our bubbly positive american mom talk about going through sickness and not wanting it is so real, and healing to my soul. You 2 encourage people to not give up and that marriage has valleys and mountains but don't give up in the valleys. Omg you 2 are good. Where is the offering bucket?

  • @Melanatedluxury
    @Melanatedluxury Před rokem +58

    I wish Tab & Chance would counsel young couples so they know making it as far as they have is possible. Overcoming things together instead of apart. People change every decade. It’s inevitable.

    • @ItsChristyLove
      @ItsChristyLove Před rokem +9

      Thank God for videos! They can only do so many things in their life, BUT these videos can go a looong way and be shared with Millions! 🎉

    • @gogoldiego
      @gogoldiego Před rokem +3

      Young people have to want the advice. Many of us try, but they reject with such horrible attitudes.

    • @MsMizz1
      @MsMizz1 Před rokem +8

      This is the counseling !! Free and accessible at our convenience. It doesn’t get much better. If they have access or resources they can get a licensed professional to expound on how they relate to the topics personally and work through it with them.

  • @dixanna27
    @dixanna27 Před rokem +43

    I’ve never been married but I always wanted someone I can talk every thing to and about as a best friend in marriage, even the hard times and hard conversations. I enjoyed getting a glimpse of what people experience in loving each other through phases of difficulty instead of people pretending as if they don’t have/haven’t had issues and grew or worked towards change.

  • @Karlynscloset
    @Karlynscloset Před rokem +49

    What an amazing and authentic conversation. Y’all out here saving relationships. You two are a gift

  • @zzinkk
    @zzinkk Před rokem +177

    Kudos to y'all for recognizing the issue and working to improve. Many couples have turned to porn-addiction, side relationships, etc and consequently grew further apart until the great separation was inevitable.

  • @ladymarie6980
    @ladymarie6980 Před rokem +53

    Omg I was just having a convo last night with my partner of 8 years. We get so swept away with kids, financial troubles, grief etc that we get easily used to the routine of not having sex and intimacy overall. I can tell you one thing after having these talks I too look forward to the fun...cause it really does make both people grow closer and fall all in love again. Yall know what im talkin bout 😅.

  • @misskiane1
    @misskiane1 Před rokem +25

    Stop thinking about what you can get. Think about what you got and what you want to keep. Words of wisdom from Chance

  • @juanderuano8969
    @juanderuano8969 Před rokem +108

    Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 Před rokem +3

      @jaypritchett3414 wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do I reach her?

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 Před rokem +2

      @jaypritchett3414 Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @winegyalfitness5757
      @winegyalfitness5757 Před rokem +6

      Go FIX it and lay it all out on the line and be accountable and apologize and go get your woman !!!!

  • @divinewordsofwisdom1527
    @divinewordsofwisdom1527 Před rokem +125

    My Husband and myself will be celebrating 31 years of marriage on 6/26 and this segment of Tab & Chance is sooooo spot on for me! ✨💜✨ I love this Truth which is soooo very similar to our marital journey. I love the honesty because I too am very honest about our marriage and it’s growth. Our marriage grew up along with our growing. I got married at 19 and my husband was 24 and we literally grew up together in the good, the bad, the ugly and indifferent. But the growing has grown us to this peace and this equilibrium. Y’all, this is honesty of what many marriages look like and to get to this space is beautiful indeed! Thank you Tab & Chance for keeping it real! Love you both! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

    • @letrallindsey4753
      @letrallindsey4753 Před rokem +12

      Happy anniversary……..🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 my husband and I celebrated 33 years on 6/16…I struggle with when the atmosphere is foul now you want intimacy from .. It is very difficult for me to get past the emotional abuse and then switch to intimacy .. Can I get some advice from the seasoned folks …..

    • @BlaydeAlabama
      @BlaydeAlabama Před rokem +10

      6/2 11 yrs..Now that makes sense. Women foreplay starts in our mind and works it's way 👇. Actually learned this is premarital counseling. We're all diff Soo maybe tell him how he can change the energy. What's your thing??? Like for me it's music. If he can't get me dancing or singing it changes me instantly. MAYBE acts of kindness.. what's your thang?
      Also did y'all talk about the problem and come to an understanding? Once again if our minds are cluttered..YOU KNOW it's NOT happening.

    • @BlaydeAlabama
      @BlaydeAlabama Před rokem +3

      Does he know your love language & you too?

    • @letrallindsey4753
      @letrallindsey4753 Před rokem +7

      @@BlaydeAlabama for real if the mind is off its not going to happen. Im praying that God will give us wisdom and create a different mindset. Its a rough season though.. but we still say I DO.. inspite of it all …I love candles and music and he cool with it…thank you for commenting sister…

    • @s-whitestudythewordministries
      @s-whitestudythewordministries Před rokem +5

      Happy Anniversary!

  • @amoybeckett433
    @amoybeckett433 Před rokem +111

    This such a healthy and honest conversation

  • @1983msmika
    @1983msmika Před rokem +50

    If I close my eyes and change the voices, I would swear this is my husband and I. Reassuring to hear how this is a very common theme in marriages and how you all work through it. I'm going to listen again with my husband. It will not only validate his feelings but see that it's not just him and it's not just me. It's not just US and WE can get through these same issues! Thanks Tab and Chance!

  • @tamlynn786
    @tamlynn786 Před rokem +20

    Y’all had me crackin up!! “get the ice, get the ice” 😂😂😂 This was such a good episode that a lot of married and single folk needed to hear. I’m divorced and realize a lot of the things I did wrong. I’ve been single for 7 years working on myself and I think I’m ready to try again: this time a healed and evolved person. Anyway, loved the video! Many blessings to you two for sharing your journey with all of us. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @artesyamoore
    @artesyamoore Před rokem +42

    I feel like we encountered an inside joke at 19:30 cuz they were both laughing TOO hard 😂 I love y’all

  • @sonyarobinson2184
    @sonyarobinson2184 Před rokem +171

    I applaud both of your for having this uncomfortable conversation that a lot of us need to hear. Me and my husband have been in a similar situation and it helps to hear both sides.

  • @MermaidQ
    @MermaidQ Před rokem +20

    Thank you for this conversation ❤ it was needed, I am 18 years married and I watched this with my husband. We were able to see each others side ❤ I apologized and now we can move forward.
    Watching the video made it less awkward and we were able to listen and not feel alone on this topic ❤ Thank you Tab

  • @jcksn7169
    @jcksn7169 Před rokem +21

    This just helped me to release some offense from my ex husband. Thanks Tab and Chance .💯🙏🏼

  • @alethiajacobs8066
    @alethiajacobs8066 Před rokem +796

    It’s something about when us women hit our 40’s! They getting a whole new woman out of us!😁

    • @delectablesensation8528
      @delectablesensation8528 Před rokem +36

      I’m learning this …. I have to talk to her like girl what’s wrong with you acting 18😮😮 help me … not your pEee feeling good 😮😮40 is the new young woman… we need to talk about this issue lol

    • @angelasnipes2515
      @angelasnipes2515 Před rokem +33

      It must skipped all over me then, I never want to 🤷🏿‍♀️

    • @acenewb1e
      @acenewb1e Před rokem +6

      Facts

    • @SereniTee99
      @SereniTee99 Před rokem +5

      Sho is.... I'm learning😂

    • @Flowersforyou963
      @Flowersforyou963 Před rokem +7

      So true

  • @PRISCILLAGIDDENS
    @PRISCILLAGIDDENS Před rokem +31

    I’m am crying. Chance say, aight NIE you gone have these old ladies in my DM again. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
    Great video once again. This will help a lot of households.

  • @sherrisells352
    @sherrisells352 Před rokem +6

    Been married 27 years and we still having these conversations. Thanks for being real. It helps a lot of married couples.

  • @lisahinckley9359
    @lisahinckley9359 Před rokem +35

    Tears thank you for this I’m 57 married 36 years to my one and only since high school I’ve been through it all this is so healing for me thank for opening up so personally you are helping a multitude of relationships!

    • @shawshank6015
      @shawshank6015 Před rokem +6

      Hi Lisa. I just watched this. I just turned 60 April I'm married to my 1st love also from high school it will be 39yrs in 2wks. Been such a lonely sad life, I stay for my grandchildren now I have 5 for the same reason I stayed for our kids, we created this family & I honour & respect that. Our kids know nothing about what went on. I shielded them. Now I pray everyday that God continues to give me the strength because that's what I need. I don't need anything else I gave up hoping for the other good stuff I feel God already knows. I stopped crying but I find lately some thoughts are coming back & I do have a little moment. Sorry for this long message I pray God gives You Strength like I ask for myself, Bless You.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Před rokem +3

      ​@shawshank6015 Wow..OMG..I guess in so many words you are thinking about leaving. I don't know anything about your financial situation but if it's in tact go ahead and leave. You deserve to be happy 🤷‍♀️❤

    • @shawshank6015
      @shawshank6015 Před rokem +1

      @@lynntodd2845 Hi Lynn thank you for your comment, yes you are right I am finally thinking of leaving. Thanks again for your kind words.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Před rokem +1

      @shawshank6015 Your welcome 🙏🙏❤️

    • @jessicaevans2564
      @jessicaevans2564 Před rokem +1

      ​@@shawshank6015Hi, I don't know your scenario, but there are such advancements in martial counseling and encouragement and wisdom for being a better spouse, takes a chance. Maybe your husband would like to join you in living some of those dreams.

  • @kdperry591
    @kdperry591 Před rokem +43

    Am I the only one who absolutely LOVES them? They are one of my top 5 Black Love couples!!!🩷🩷🩷

  • @Samone_World
    @Samone_World Před rokem +20

    Extremely hard when your not emotionally connect as she said. Having those emotions in checks brings the spark back

  • @vivianbrowne4571
    @vivianbrowne4571 Před rokem +42

    Chance is right. We get it. We don’t need to know the details. Sometimes too much will cause people to look at you differently. But make no mistake, you all give good advice & have helped so many of us. I’ve been married 40 years & have learned some great things from you. Things I didn’t necessarily realize. You all are hilarious too! Thank you & God continue to bless you! 💕💕💕

  • @rachinewilmoth3146
    @rachinewilmoth3146 Před rokem +15

    I am not married, but these conversations do help me to understand how to approach my relationship thanks alot to both of you ❤❤

  • @melbaknowlton
    @melbaknowlton Před rokem +8

    🤣🤣 y’all are wild!! Tab was trying to tell all the secrets Chance had to get her quick and bring her back in 🤣🤣🤣Love this episode!!

  • @mpatreece2726
    @mpatreece2726 Před rokem +10

    Tabitha Brown 1.01M!!!! Congratulations!!!🎉🎉🎉

  • @worldpeace0266
    @worldpeace0266 Před rokem +87

    This was a much needed conversation.. there is a lot of growth in you guys, it's obvious! But most of all the maturity of you guys listening (actively listening).. keep pushing.. keep moving forward... TOGETHER!!❤❤❤❤

  • @larandle
    @larandle Před rokem +5

    I hot my 40s and i became a whole new woman inside and out. I worked on my mental, physical body and and spiritual health. Y’all look. I walk into a room now making people wonder. And my husband is enjoying every bit of it.

  • @alfredlee728
    @alfredlee728 Před rokem +31

    Sister Tab you are a mischievous mess! And I mean that in the most respectful good hearted way! Thank you to both of you for sharing this with us. This is so very needed. Very healing. Thank you.......Mrs. C. Lee

  • @maxinesaltking7188
    @maxinesaltking7188 Před rokem +64

    Can I just say that I LOVE the way the two of you laugh, giggle and lean on each other while doing so. It reminds me of that young, teenage puppy love except it's the mature, grown version, which has stood the test of fire and come out stronger on the other side.
    I like that you're honest about your trials and how you almost didn't make it. It gives hope to those of us who are in the fire right now and wonder if we're going to make it.
    Not all relationships can survive, especially when there is abuse and cheating, etc.. However, there are some relationships that are worth fighting for but sometimes we don't have the tools and the patience.
    Keep on loving each other and laught together until you cry 😂🤣. I won't call you 'couple goals' but I will say that you are inspiring.
    Blessings ❤

    • @AlieshiaTV
      @AlieshiaTV Před rokem +6

      I swear they be weak 😂😂

    • @BrandNameVegan
      @BrandNameVegan Před rokem +2

      Well said ❤

    • @tamlynn786
      @tamlynn786 Před rokem +1

      Perfectly stated.

    • @ibiminaabiye257
      @ibiminaabiye257 Před rokem +1

      Why won't you call them couple goals? Just asking.

    • @maxinesaltking7188
      @maxinesaltking7188 Před 11 měsíci

      ​@@ibiminaabiye257 I don't call any couple "goals" because I do not get to truly, fully witness any couple.

  • @profreid4592
    @profreid4592 Před rokem +34

    I'd love for you all to discuss how you adapt to changes in your relationship. If one person evolves, how does your spouse receive the "new and improved" you although they haven't changed? For instance, if you were typically more passive and become outspoken. Also, how can you encourage your partner to hear you instead of just listening? Love these discussions ❤.

  • @gerovani38
    @gerovani38 Před rokem +5

    “Stop thinking about what you can get! Focus on what you have and what you want to keep” Come on Chance!! Boy, you better say that again🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @tamarawhite5527
    @tamarawhite5527 Před rokem +4

    When a couple is content with one another they can be this vulnerable...
    Beautiful

  • @jacquih8804
    @jacquih8804 Před rokem +44

    When she swung that hair, and Chance just moved it outta her way...I lost it!!😂😅 I KNEW, this gonna be a GREAT segment!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👌🏾👍🏾🤗

  • @alexishunt4336
    @alexishunt4336 Před rokem +48

    Tab and Chance Fridays Topics are Vital to our Community bc sometimes we don't have people in our lives, who can have these types of honest conversations. Thank you❤

  • @bamarealist
    @bamarealist Před rokem +32

    I like how you both admitted to some very rocky past years together. It speaks a lot to resilience, commitment, and sometimes sacrifice all playing a crucial role in a successful marriage. I’m glad you arrived at a place of continual love and happiness. 🥂🎊🍀 And ya’ll are hilarious, btw.😁

  • @jenniferjennifer8844
    @jenniferjennifer8844 Před rokem +54

    This right here was Everything!!! As a married woman in her late 30's, with children, this issue has come up, and your experiences showed me I'm not alone. Thank the Lord Jesus for your transparency Tabitha and Chance. Thank you. You have no idea how your honesty and transparency helps others understand how to fix issues people tend to be embarrassed about, or if not, simply don't want to discuss because it is uncomfortable. But its it's Real and Raw in what we call Marriage. Because of how you both let God use you, I have learned what I needed to learn. My spouse and I will sit down and watch this together. This was needed. 👍🏽
    By the way I laughed so hard along with both of y'all in this episode, especially with Tab because I was like girl yes me too 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂! And Chance helped me to understand my husband better then I thought I did when it comes to this. Yep overall great show👍🏽

  • @denisestephens3062
    @denisestephens3062 Před rokem +23

    So glad y'all made it through the tough years, because y'all are beautiful now!

  • @stacyt8348
    @stacyt8348 Před rokem +21

    This conversation and transparency is a much needed one! I feel like if my husband and I had someone speak so open early on in our relationship, this would have helped us tremendously in avoiding some arguments and very heated moments❣ Normalizing men to be vulnerable and don't cut them down or call them weak, as it may be a scar you may never be able to repair!!❤🥰

  • @Willzgirl73
    @Willzgirl73 Před rokem +5

    It's the "add the n't" for me!😂❤ Gotta be honest... I haven't seen many couples like Hubby and I. You two are an incredible voice for not love... but Black love, 20+ year marriage, compromise, and joy! Keep being beautiful!!!! May Lord continue to bring success, great health, and good wealth!❤

  • @keziataylor
    @keziataylor Před rokem +27

    You guys are a blessing. Your vulnerability will be a breakthrough for others.

  • @sinytrashakur1990
    @sinytrashakur1990 Před rokem +60

    I don't think you understand how awesome it is that you bring these conversation topics to the forefront because when you stand for God sometimes people don't want to actually get into specific topics but with your courage confidence it helps me along my journey in the spirit world 🎉❤ he helps me to not feel guilty for having desires and it helps me to understand that just because you are for God does not mean that you don't deserve satisfaction🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @eldersherryhanchett8141
    @eldersherryhanchett8141 Před rokem +44

    This is very familiar. I told my husband, we need to start with fourplay, setting the move. My husband said he doesn’t always have to be the one to initiate. I said ok! I always have initiate so, It’s good to have theses conversations with our spouses amen! I’m going to push fourths through the layers of my life amen. Earth 😇😇💜✝️💜🔥🔥🔥

  • @nursekeyonda
    @nursekeyonda Před rokem +2

    He said ENOUGH....company time over😂😂😂😂😂 love EVERY bit of yall
    Thanks for being YOU!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @reminnovations3941
    @reminnovations3941 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I love the authenticity of this conversation. This is what maturity looks like. This type of discussion with your spouse is also a part of the intimacy between partners. ❤

  • @yolandaakers4252
    @yolandaakers4252 Před rokem +20

    This hit home in a lot of areas of my marriage. I’ve learned ALOT and hope to have this conversation with my husband. Got me in tears. 😭😭. Thank you Tab and Chance for being transparent. Love you both ❤

  • @kimberlymiller655
    @kimberlymiller655 Před rokem +37

    Makes perfect sense. Time changes things and then things can change back. As women Theres health, chores? Tiredness and then surgery and kids get grown. We totally ready again.

  • @rashedagoins4810
    @rashedagoins4810 Před rokem +4

    In marriage it does get challenging, especially when your parents are aging and have health problems needing care it's very difficult I really appreciate you all honesty!!

  • @2buscuits
    @2buscuits Před rokem +3

    Constant communication relieves the pressure.

  • @allidareed3963
    @allidareed3963 Před rokem +14

    I'm over here 😂😂😂😂 sooooo hard my stomach hurts... I love the way yall keep it real... Folks need to hear it straight. It's not TMI cause some folks just don't know what to do or say when faced with these types of situations...

  • @robinthompson3463
    @robinthompson3463 Před rokem +52

    I always let my husband make the first move, until he stopped,and acted like I didn’t exist anymore , so now things have turned around, so now I dress up , make up, and make 1st 2nd and third move. Trust me it works 🎉

  • @keishajohnson5335
    @keishajohnson5335 Před rokem +7

    I have so much respect for this episode. When I was married to my husband, he had to initiate the sex because one time I initiated it and he rejected me. I was devastated. I love you boths' transparency and years of going through your trials and tribulations; now at the point of sharing. That is so awesome. I was married for 13 years, divorced and have been single for 12 years. At this point in time, you can help a lot of couples because you have years and moments under your belt. Some people are married for 2 days, and now they want to write books and have seminars. No. Get some experience, have about 100 fights, then come talk to the people, AMEN!

  • @TRACYR-f9c
    @TRACYR-f9c Před 23 dny +1

    I LOVE THIS WHOLE THING. The discussions, the fun, the teasing, jokes, you lovely black ppl...the whole thing. Thank you for making this channel!

  • @natashahale7269
    @natashahale7269 Před rokem +51

    Both should initiate it. Everyone wants to feel desired, that isn’t exclusive to a particular sex. And if you’re too awkward to intiate it either that’s not your person or you may need to grow and or heal in some areas of intimacy.

  • @TtT-pq9ps
    @TtT-pq9ps Před rokem +24

    Tabitha you guys crack me up. I enjoy your conversations. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH

  • @lynnjgandy560
    @lynnjgandy560 Před rokem +11

    This conversation was necessary and a blessing. During my marriage we had horrible arguments regarding intimacy. The Female and Male perspectives are imperative. Friday’s with Tab & Chance .. Continue to Bless us..
    Reveal:Teach:Heal❤

  • @2buscuits
    @2buscuits Před rokem +19

    Chance is like, “Oh lord she putting all my business in the streets”

  • @queenlex4138
    @queenlex4138 Před rokem +27

    I needed this episode SO BAD!!!!! Thank you for making this.

  • @whitney9232
    @whitney9232 Před rokem +49

    I appreciate the transparency! Real conversations that partners need to be having!

  • @yolandadriver1793
    @yolandadriver1793 Před rokem +3

    My husband just passed away suddenly May 11, 2023 at the age of 51 - we had only been married 7 years. I so wish we could've seen this before he passed, because we still had unresolved issues over this very topic. It is the hardest grief to bare knowing that we couldn't resolve what was actually just a normal season of marriage that just needed better communication and more patience with each other. I pray you continue sharing these REAL marriage discussions. There are truly needed, valued and often not discussed in the "real" way that you share. Many continued blessings, much success and a million years of marriage to you.

  • @allthingzjazzy
    @allthingzjazzy Před rokem +3

    Saturday afternoons are always spent with Tab & Chance. Always so much wisdom here.
    Thanks for letting us learn through you guys

  • @michelleyvonne9449
    @michelleyvonne9449 Před rokem +8

    I loved this conversation with my whole heart! I wished I would've allowed myself to get to know me when I was younger but then again we are ever evolving. Now, that all my kids are technically adults, I'm getting to know me in this new chapter/space of life. Oh, GOD we thank you! 🙌🏽

  • @frankeyaatkinson4891
    @frankeyaatkinson4891 Před rokem +8

    Watching you navigate these conversations with respect and honesty and compassion for one another is beautiful. Thank you for sharing! ❤

  • @aprilcastellon7087
    @aprilcastellon7087 Před rokem +2

    Great subject, it’s a sensitive subject.
    The rejection can go both ways. Men can also reject their partners. Seems everyone thinks only women say no. I see Chance’s side. I cringed a little when Tabitha called it an excuse that he fear rejection. It’s real and it was a painful time. It’s human nature to avoid what hurts. I agree with Tab when she says women feel automatically it must be them when their partners don’t initiate or reject. It is a huge ego blow to women. Because I assure men there is more than one man who wants your woman.
    The key is mutual honoring. Tab & Chance thanks for being so open & vulnerable. Your relationship is beautiful. The years of struggle have put a lovely shade of love on you too! ❤

  • @KimontheWeb
    @KimontheWeb Před rokem +8

    Their transparency is amazing and I love to see couples laughing. So inspiring ❤🙂

  • @Bplays2u
    @Bplays2u Před rokem +3

    Great episode. This generation is lucky to have a platform such as yours. I married at 19.. it would have been most helpful to have something like this to hear/listen too

  • @bostonbaby6894
    @bostonbaby6894 Před rokem +13

    Chance said don't say that😂I don't want these old ladies in my dms! Great conversation👏🏽 Love y'all❤

  • @beautifuldancer4GOD
    @beautifuldancer4GOD Před rokem

    Thank you so much for doing this video! Your lessons have become our blessings. Y'all are changing lives please keep these coming. Not everyone has people they can seek wisdom from and I thank God we have y'all.

  • @taken10154ever
    @taken10154ever Před rokem +1

    I truly appreciate you both for being so vulnerable and sharing this important topic. I will definitely be watching it again with my husband as it’s so necessary to have that understanding and both be on the same page.

  • @sexydiva280
    @sexydiva280 Před rokem +5

    I love that you guys stuck it out and now living your best life.People don't stay together like that anymore through the good and bad.The slightest pressure and they call it quits.😊

  • @tonyamadlock4777
    @tonyamadlock4777 Před rokem +4

    I love how the two of you lean into each other. Like a human mountain. The body language is so powerful. Thank you both for sharing ❤️

  • @emc3555
    @emc3555 Před rokem

    Thank yall for addressing this very real topic. This is so helpful🙏🏽 Yall are hilarious and have a beautiful union. 💕

  • @Heartcoachtalk
    @Heartcoachtalk Před rokem +6

    I absolutely love Tab & Chance ❤❤. It’s been a joy to watch Chance open up over the years and now he’s encouraging Tab when she’s not feeling it. My husband and I have been admiring this show for a while and love what y’all are doing. From The Brown’s to The Brown’s, I salute You 🫡💓💓🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @patriciasmith5778
    @patriciasmith5778 Před rokem +11

    Very mature and much needed conversation... This is probably one of the most profound podcast or CZcams on social media. I love y'all. Tab I understand exactly what you saying. Delilah is overly sensitive 🥺 😂

  • @Nailmomma219
    @Nailmomma219 Před rokem +6

    Great topic and we needed this conversation, explanation and in depth talk about this. We don't talk about this enough in relationships and we need this discussion. Things, people, places and things all change and with change we have to take a minute stop and have this line of communication so that things don't stay where we don't need them to.

  • @kimmied546
    @kimmied546 Před rokem +1

    Wow!! Great conversation that soooo many couples need to have. You think that your relationship is the only relationship going through things only to find out it’s so many more and that you’re not alone. Thank you so much for sharing with us! 💕💕🦋

  • @itsmerandome
    @itsmerandome Před rokem +1

    Can’t believe watching them is free I love Tab !!! 😍

  • @61E199
    @61E199 Před rokem +21

    As always another excellent Fridays with Tab and Chance 😊😊❤❤

  • @dineattawilliams8506
    @dineattawilliams8506 Před rokem +4

    I just love y'all. You give us just enough. It's amazing how so many give up in what seem to be the really hard times before really enjoying the level of love, intimacy, friendship and partnership you guys seem to have... I feel like I'm y'all family for real! Keep up the great work Tab and Chance!!! 💕

  • @natashaweems5296
    @natashaweems5296 Před rokem

    Thank you for bringing this topic to your platform. It was extremely helpful and will bless so many couples! I love y’all! ❤

  • @drnaethompson
    @drnaethompson Před rokem +1

    I appreciate the sincerity of both perspectives, kudos for keeping it real!

  • @mt5472
    @mt5472 Před rokem +5

    Beautiful couple! I love your relationship!! Good conversation!! Thank you for letting us in!!

  • @coralandkidsrepats6004
    @coralandkidsrepats6004 Před rokem +12

    This episode was soooooooo good. Thanks Tab & Chance for your transparency because it definitely helps other couples have perspectives on this topic that they previously hadn’t considered. Your love for each other is evident and inspiring to others. Keep up the great work And keep the lines of communication open on being sensitive to your partners feelings as you’ve said, bc it’s workin! ❤❤❤

  • @trevamillerlovesinspiration

    Love the raw, real and authentic conversations that can be very difficult to work through❤ Thank you for sharing your personal journey and the resolutions that you discovered along the way.

  • @lisamundy5344
    @lisamundy5344 Před rokem

    I love you all’s transparency! ❤ Keep sharing and teaching!! God bless you! 🙏🏾❤️