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Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between dating anxiety and your needs not being met.
If you know your insecurity can lead your thoughts down irrational pathways, how can you figure out if something you’re stressing about is a real concern? For instance, if you had the most amazing date last weekend but they haven’t texted you for a few days, should you be worried?
And most importantly of all, how do you get more investment from someone if you’re feeling this way?
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0:00 - 1:07 - When They Don’t Text as Often as You’d Like
1:07 - 2:53 - The Difference Between Anxiety and Needs
2:53 - 3:34 - “Know Thyself”
3:34 - 4:43 - Is This Enough for Me?
4:43 - 5:35 - The Culture You Create
5:35 - 6:05 - Anxious Communication
6:05 - 7:33 - Getting the Momentum You Want
My rule: I dont double text. When I text you , you left me on "Read." I go away for a LONG TIME. I'll miss you, but I can manage. 😂
texting takes 2 seconds of your time, no exuses
People have lives. They get busy. They don't always monitor their phones. There are a lot of REASONS which are not excuses.
Agree 💯
Anxiety is a manifestation of an unmet need or triggered by a core wound.
I am experiencing this in my current relationship and my body is continuously alarming me because of very a bad past experience....my heart's keeps pounding and my chest tightens.
Exactly
Its all about boundaries and respect. If you tell your partner they dont message enough and you want more communication with them and they STILL dont bother after you have spoken to them about it. They are breaking your boundaries. Respect is important ❤
I had the conversation and he started to! It is amazing when you have someone that comprises and listens. It really is a game changer.
Indeed.
Agree
i told my ex gf this. she broke up 😂 i tried again with friends. i was always the one texting first. long story short: i dont have friends either anymore 😢
@@charli4815 hey man , there behaviour was a clear indication they were just stringing you along. You deserve better if you communicated your needs and they still didn't work on that without a reason it clearly shows they had no respect for you. As hurtful as this is people are just crap and they just can't see how good of a person you are and what you bring to the table...don't worry you will find someone better who will treat you right and have the same energy and perspective as you ....okaaaay.
As an adult person I can take care of my own needs, I don´t need another person for this. I don´t like texting but if I care about someone I WANT to stay connected and then my aversion towards texting disappears.
Relationships are extra bonus in life and they are VOLUNTARY, if they make me question my mental health by such a simply thing as staying in touch then they are an unnecessary burden in my life, not something beneficial. This situation is another ``they-don´t-feel-the-same-case``
I wrapped my arms around my boyfriends neck and whispered in his ear, “Your texts make me so happy and I look forward to seeing you when there’s good communication.” Well the x-rated version of that. 😂 And since then he’s texted daily. Sometimes it’s just a picture of his lunch. In my mind it’s about a man meeting your needs and wanting to make you happy. He can’t read my mind and know that I enjoy texts when many people don’t.
👏 I tried this myself a couple years back, but I don't think he got the hint. 😂
My boyfriend hasn't texted me in over a week and I haven't texted him either. When I did text him, he said "Yup" which to me sounded like can I help you. So I just replied "nevermind" and haven't spoken to him since. I just have had enough of his misogynistic attitude expecting me to cancel my plans at the last minute to meet him.
Sounds like you deserve better ❤
Time to dump his ass
I frucken hate one word texts!!! Really pisses me off lol...I mean they could do "hey, how's things?"
I went through that, again and again, and same thing... Jump and run last minute, if I ever wanted to see him. Sometimes, text me all night long, but mostly, leave huge blank spaces. And the periodic temporary ghosting was always a ploy to get me to chase him.... THEN!! I started studying up on narcissists... Unbelievable..yes, RUN !! RUN LIKE HECK... Unaccountable in every way, run before he actively seeks to hurt you even worse..because he will attempt to slay you for the truths of the situation. Messed up, and NOT YOUR FAULT !!!!! ❤
Sounds like it may be time to put "ex" in front of "boyfriend "...
I ended a relationship recently because he didn't meet my needs. My needs were to be heard and listened to and for him to apologize when he crossed a line or hurt my feelings. That was it. We had an argument, and this wasn't the first time this happened. He refused to hear me and refused to acknowledge his part in the argument. I told him before that I want what he wants when we disagree, no more and no less, but he still refused to meet these two very basic needs. Finally, I ended it. I realized I had to accept that he'd always approach arguments with the "I am right, you're wrong, and that's that' attitude, or option two, never argue with the guy again. I chose option three- moving on.
I totally get what you mean. A big part of arguing (we all do it), is how you deal with it. I can have an argument and move on. My ex, would punish me by ignoring me like a child! I ended a 7yr relationship because he didn’tmeet my needs either.
Good for you. My ex was like that too and I moved on as well. A rel can’t be one sided where you’re the only one doing the mature self reflection and the other person just sits back and takes. No thanks
Absolutely agree! Emotional safety is the core. If they can't meet that need then cut all emotional ties and move on❤
Or maybe ask at the beginning of the relationship about values and preferences. But say it from a place of humor and calmness as you would talk about some movie.
Then you will find out his personality. or he will find out what your feelings are and he would slowly set his priorities too.
Because it's not like people dont want to change, but change often takes 3 months or more to reprogram the subconscious programs in mind.
You may watch Dr. Bruce LIpton explaining subconscious programming that often comes from childhood because in childhood the brain installed a lot of programs and values,
but at such age, the brain doesn't analyze the information therefore it runs in the mind as an automatic program till adulthood.
@@alaalfa8839 True, but for that to work, the person has to admit that they need to change their behavior. My SO said he had nothing to change, that he was always right and I was always wrong, and even that I should apologize to him for making him feel terrible for hurting ME. Sometimes it truly is the other person's behavior and unwillingness to change it that torpedoes a relationship.
I remember back when I was using a dating app there was this one guy who NEVER wanted to initiate conversations. When I said to him, "Hey, I'd like it if you would seek me out sometimes, too? It would make me feel wanted and needed," and he pretty much just said no, no, I'd rather you initiate everything. So he wanted me to put in all the effort and not reciprocate. I stopped sending messages, and sure enough, that was the last time I ever spoke to them. The guy I'm courting now is a lot better though. Been four years now with this guy. 😌
5:14 is super important. Don't just expect someone to know what you want. Demonstrate it.
It feels like approaching it that way puts me in a vulnerable place sometimes. Still I agree. Leading by example is a valid option.
I thought also phone call is less virtual and more authentic than texting.
texting is ok but not on a daily basis.
@@XalthronWell-known people say vulnerability is the most important value to being a good leader. It takes courage to be vulnerable. which means vulnerability makes you strong...
Empathy also makes you strong. because it brings peace and trust long-term.
Vulnerability also makes your mind to be opened to new ideas people say, to you as a leader.
but also they say vulnerability is an important value to find a new relationship. it makes you an open-minded and open-hearted person,
willing to do something and be inspired by something.
If you do a new sport you dont want to analyze it too much, so if you stop analyzing too much you focus more and you feel more energy at the moment.
You feel anxiety because your subconscious mind was trained to be a certain way, and now has to follow a different direction, but if you learn it you become more confident.
My boyfriend is out of town last 2 months we text every day to reinforce our relationship.
@@alaalfa8839 Thank you very much for this inspiring reply. It's lovely to talk to like-minded people. Keep on being awesome!
a style not compatible with yours... so you end up feeling anxious your whole life... brilliant, this applies to any relationship, not only romantic ones
In this day and age there's NO excuse for someone to not be in regular contact especially when everyone has a smart phone in their hand 15 hours a day. If someone isn't interested u will question contact don't be fooled. Real effort for someone u genuinely care for doesn't take much work u deserve a bloody text
You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.
Exactly!!! You know they have their phone on them or, near by at least! They should respond in a decent amount of time. Not hours and hours and, days at end. You deserve at text back or phone call!
🔥🔥🔥 This video is perfection. The key is to ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED. And don’t minimise, settle, or live life in a permanently anxious state, trying to make yourself small enough to fit into someone else’s life.
In the first 2-3 months of my now dead relationship, I got texts from him every day and quite a few video calls a week. He didn't speak much English, but he clearly wanted me and spent quite a bit of time on me in the beginning. I am grateful to have had that while I did. 😥
Omg I’m on the same boat as you haha we’ll get over this. Focus on yourself, your well being, watch funny movies, detach and distract yourself(THESE THINGS DO WORK). He’s attractive but he’s not good for you. The right one will come one day! Best of luck you’re a strong person
Forget another foreign dudes unless their English is very good.
Excellent Matthew! This is what many women need to know. A lot of men would allow themselves wrong behavior these days because it"s so fashionable to have to deal with our own "problems". They say "you should abandon all expectations and just live your own life to be more exciting to someone if someone is not making us a priority." What I get from your video today is that we have all the right to have an expectation from any relationship. And if I need something, I am absolutely ready to offer. This is where My standard is, and I am not ready to have concessions on that. Because at the end of the day, if I am willing to offer more, I will always be dissatisfied with getting less.
Started watching you yearssssss ago and even picked up your book“how to get the guy” some years back. I’d say you’re a major part of relationship education for me. My mindset has changed since I started listening to you from one of anxiety to one of confidence. You have great advice, it just take someone to hear it and make that growth in order to fully take advantage of your knowledge. It’s a slow thing (at least it was for me) but with you one our side, it’s possible to get to a healthy place when it comes to relationships.
You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.
Did u get the momentum text. Does itt work
Yass great reminder that we are not always the problem, we just have certain requirements
MATTHEW, this is an EXTREMELY IMPORTANT DISTINCTION, and especially even moreso, for anyone who got roped in, and is unknowingly dealing with a narcissist. GREAT POST !!
Omg Mat!!! You’re amazing I really needed to hear this today because I broke up with my boyfriend 5 months ago because he would not text me for 48 to 72 hours and I set down with him time & time again about him going days without text or calling me. I’ve been battling if I made the right decision by having standards and wanting a relationship with better communication and now I’m depressed because I haven’t found the right person for me yet
I broke up with a girl for the same reason! slowly accepting that I made the right decision
You're one big step closer to finding the right person AND you looked after you ❤ you're stronger than I've been, well done!
@@emilyb5557 awww thanks my friend I appreciate you
Girl, you should be happy because you have eliminated the wrong one, and save yourself from years of unsatisfactory relationship, self doubt and the ultimate disappointment.
@@peonylee4773 yeah you’re right thank you 😊
2-3 days of no communication at all is ridiculous. This definitely does not mean you are needy if you are questioning this. Move on and do not settle, ladies!!
And men as well.
Mathew this is actually what I need to listen at this moment, thank you so much.
This is a very good message. One of my best friends just broke up with her partner because of a similar theme -- not about texting, but about not getting her needs met.
Amazing concept! I wonder how other people feel about meeting their own needs. & I think what I’m referring to relates to core confidence. How can you firmly affirm to yourself you are worthy, regardless of how others treat you. I also find that accepting yourself can be difficult when you compare your life to others and even feel less valuable because you don’t have the same experiences or things you see others have that you wish you also experienced regardless of whether they are really happy or if the grass seems greener on the other side. I am aware of the concept of cooking with the ingredients you were given in life and making the best of it.
I am a big fan for all your speech and videos and it had a great effect on me pulling away from bad people and I have become stronger , I don’t feel week again and I move on fast cause the problem isn’t is me am sure about this .
But even if with all the strength , confidence and experience now that I have there are still men will try harder with you and harder till you believe they are into you and they want serious relationship till u start be in love and then they leave all of sudden!
I wish you speak more with those ppl men or women who like to hurt people and give ppl pain , I mean specially the one who has high standards , why would they try harder even if they are a lot of ppl out there just looking for fun tbh! Why they keep coming to the hood ppl who want stability and family and so on :
I mean we need more of ur videos to speak to those ppl ❤
I started talking to a guy who was rapidly replying and texting. We went out had a great time. He was so into me, he said so multiple times - and three days later he's disengaged ... wtf
Block him and keep living your life
I definitely have an anxiety mindset. But here’s my thoughts:
My anxiety mindset always proves right. Am I wrong for saying that? Let me explain.
Every time I get into a guy (from a dating app since that’s the way I like to meet people) it never works out. They’re either disappointed after meeting me, pretend they’re interested and then slowly ghost after awhile or tell me I’m not for them. My anxiety mindset always proves true, so I keep having it.
I wish I could be the girl to say I don’t need anyone in my life, I’m happy alone, I’m fine if I never find someone, blah blah blah. I mean, I HAVE been single for 5 years. But… my dream is to be married to my person one day, but the way our generation is makes me extremely bitter and negative because the output is always shit.
I don’t know how to get out of this mindset. I want to share life with someone, but my hope and thoughts are very bleak. I love watching Matthew’s videos because it reminds me there’s a lot of people that have anxious thoughts too. How do we stop getting anxious over someone when we have very bad self esteem? I dont know how to like myself.
Generally meeting People over dating apps is the wrong thing to do. 70-80% of the users are guys, and only 20-30% girls. To make it worse, only 3-7% of the guys gets all the attention, because dating apps forces you to chose based on the first impressison only. By nature girls are more picky than men (and so they should be).
This means the guys that you choose, normally have several/many other girls to chose from. A lot of these guys knows this, and so seeks out the easy route to get sex, following by dumping/ghosting you later. The so called players. They know which buttons to klick, in order to make you feel at ease, because they have all the experience in the world, and are not afraid to initiate. So they make you feel all nice and giggly about yourself until they have had what they wanted - sex, most often.
Now this text tip is a very general one and may not be acccurate for you. But if you want to meet someone you can genuinely connect to, you need to lower your initial standards on who to give a chance to. That is, if you want to keep trying via dating apps. Other than that, seek out potential partners doing activities you have a passion for/seek out new experiences in safe social settings.
I for one love to dance swing/partner dances, and would love to find myself a girlfriend with the same passion. So from time to time I seek out dancing events.
Now a answer specifically go you, based on my own impressions from your post.
It sounds to me that social anxiety is keeping you down, and by this point when you meet a new guy (after years of failing), you already expect them to bail on you. So you act accordingly and end up with "proving" yourself.
You are not wrong for saying that, but you are most likely looking for hidden ways to make your assumption be correct, so that you can lay the blame on your anxiety or something else outside of yourself, to avoid doing the necessary inner work.
If this happen every time you meet someone (the guy being dissapointed), you are either fishing for someone way above your attraction levels, being a different person in person (makes sense if you have anxiety), pretending to be someone you are not, or something else im to incompetent to grasp.
Either way, doing the uncomfortable action of working on your anxiety seems to be a good start going forward. Best of luck to you.
I think a lot of the time, anxiety is indeed self-feeding and self-reinforced, so I think you're correctly identifying that part. I'm prone to anxiety too, and it's a hard beast to keep leashed. I don't think there's an easy answer or solution.
As a gay man, I'm pretty much forced to use dating apps, because it's difficult for us to find people, especially in small towns. I've had a lot of bad experiences. Lots of people who just... don't seem like they know what they're doing, don't think about what they're saying, and don't have insight into their behavior. I was kind of losing hope, since there weren't many matches near me, and I was pretty much going through everyone near me and crossing them off as duds.
I kept trying and kept trying, and finally found someone sweet, who I think is really good for me. He was literally the last person on the list of nearby matches (and as a consequence, is a little bit on the far away side). Been 4 years so far, fingers crossed.
Anyway, my point is, I say keep trying, and even though you've been getting duds a lot, maybe that one last person might make you feel at ease and be good for you.
I live with my boyfriend and I’m still texting him if he’s out all day. Sometimes it’s just for running errands but sometimes it’s just to check in and see how we’re doing. If you’re dating someone, it’s nice to stay connected in a way that meets both of your needs.
There's no need for that. Pointless chit chat and check ins are not good. It would annoy me if my partner did this when she knew I was busy. Screams insecurity. We couldn't do that before mobile phones and we did fine.
I'm a dude. Don't text him to see how he's doing. He's a man. Stop mate guarding.
@@GUITARTIME2024what do men like to be texted about?
@asenat79 not much. We like you to check in sometimes, drop a compliment here or there, and be available (within reason) for whatever dating idea we suggest. Most talk should happen in person.
@@GUITARTIME2024 thanks for replying 😊
The difference is when is a long distance relationship. We met online. He's in a freaking far away country. We've been talking -chatting for only about two months. There are many challenges and 13800 km in between, 16 hrs time difference but... We'll see. No promises yet but we really like talking to each other.
There should be an "online dating special" 🤣
Thanks for your answer anyway. Blessings
I feel like your advice helps both men and women, I am a man who had only 2 serious long term relationships and they were very straightforward, I didn't feel like I needed to play games or hold back affection, life got in the way and they ended in good terms.
Now I feel like I am always playing cat and mouse with women, like I can't be vulnerable or show too much interest or they pull back.
I'm not talking about shit like "I need you" or "I miss you" that feels too much in early dating I'm talking about being honest of how you appreciate their company, I just feel most of the time Im dating self absorbed people who just want me so they can say they are dating someone
I feel the same
@@lauraortegarodriguez2071 Good luck Laura, the best advice I can give is to respect your time like it's gold. People nowadays take others for granted, don't give up time and love when they aren't committed
Sad truth
Very sane and logical! GREAT points about what do WE need out of someone else!
You’ve got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.
I always feel like Matthew is directly talking to me!
Always speak on point. Love the advice and wisdom you gives out in valuable words
Learning so much. I’ll be 46 in August and I’m still single. I’m trying to figure out why and I’m learning ❤
Being single is not an insult. Live the the life you love. He will find you shining! ✨✨
I hear you! I’ve just turned 45 and have the same issue 😢
Sometimes it’s not you. Sometimes they aren’t bringing what you need so staying single is the best option. I’m in the same boat and, honestly, I’ve learned being single is better than feeling alone in a rel. It sucks sometimes but I would rather wait
I am 47 , but rather be happy single ❤than being in meaningless relationship with some random guy. No thanks
@@Monica-hp9jd You would do well to be more respectful of men in general. This is probably one of the reasons that is keeping you single.
Such an important topic, thank you, Matthew! I am getting so anxious when someone doesn’t reply or give me the same attention that it leads to me wanting to immediately give up on the connection to the other person so I don’t have to feel so anxious all the time. This mindset change seems like a good way around that, I will try it out!
I feel the same. Did this work for you?
Same thought here! My partner hasn't responded to my text since Sunday night and I'm not about to chase him again by reaching out again, and bothering him. I get discouraged at times because of his inconsistency. Matthew said to reach out and create the culture I want. However, if that's exactly what I'm doing and he doesn't want to follow that culture than I don't understand the whole point of doing this to him and force him. Please correct me if I'm wrong! Thank you!
Imagine if you lived a 100/200y ago and the other person was on duty for days every time. Gawd the horror spending all that time without getting complete loveletters each and every hour right? He has to drop everything he does to cater to you. How would you go on about your day? Can you still live?
@@R.James.Thank you🙂 This made me smile I know he's stressing as usual at the end of the month rn unusually he said I'm suffocating him so I've barely tx him since his last to me 2days ago. I'm going to tx him that he's much loved and I'm here when he's ready. I really want to call him to ask if he's ok but he doesn't answer calls n that raises my anxiety🤦🏽♀️
To me, different factors have to be taken in account for matter. Is your partner a talkative person or not? Or is he crossing some hard times at the moment? Was he texting you in the beginning and not anymore? In general terms, if he has always been like that and you wish him to do more, tell him. Stop listening to relationship experts saying "act like you don't care" etc. Say it right away. One day, my bf told me "tell me when you see lacks i have so i can work on them. And what i like in you, is you telling me what i lack in". Do not be afraid of expressing your needs, otherwise, these needs will turn into frustration and resentment.
My bf used to disappear only on Saturdays,,, at first I thought that’s my insecurity caving in, but I just decided to respect myself more and move on
wow, wow, wow, as always. so much value, thank you matthew!!!
This video is so informative and right for me. Thank you!
I fken hate what mobile phones have reduced us to.
You and me both. Wise words. Still... this is the world we live in now, and we must do our best to adapt to it. Peace be with you, my brother.
Thank you Matthew ❤
That why it get me every time because I always blame myself and my anxiety when I just ask for the bare human interaction minimum. And I end up take the person back
Thank you this was so much helpful
Thanks Matthew ❤ very good advice 😊
Beautiful. Just what I needed to hear ❤
It's an interesting topic as I have always become caught up in my own worry about whether I should text less or more. I can see that a lack of communication has caused a lack of connection, even though I thought a connection was there. My current situation feels different, we communicate each day and we are both happy about it. It sets up our weekly get-together nicely.
I love your videos a lot and they are extremely relatable to the current place im at in life but your DLCs are all locked behind a paywall and i'm currently not in a place where i can afford to purchase those things like your 3 day course and the momentumtexts :/ but i still love your content and thank you for helping me to better understand myself and build up the confidence i need , and i hope my relationship will be better once i become better!
Your videos are so helpful!
Matthew, you are such an authentic, intelligent, clever and charismatic man! I like your hair, too. 😊
Thank you dear.
I am curious how many of us think like this "am I good enough"vs "this person is not good for me"..
I cannot belive how much we normalized texting. What happend to calling someone? For me texting is a poor form of comunication. But we are where we are 😔
Hello Matthew, I always found your relationship advice videos useful. 😊 Your advice gives me more clarity. Guys are just not effective at communicating.
Thank you for that I feel so understood
Thanks Matthew, was helpful for me :)
That’s all I want is connection from another person and be for me for who I am.
I do not believe that in any relationship THAT IS WORTH HAVING one can go for days without communication with someone they love. No one should be in a relationship that is not worth having. A harsh reality is that certain people want to be in a relationship where they get all the benefits of being in a relationship but are not willing to invest as much and in that case one needs to be bold enough to walk away.
When we are together it's great
THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO I'VE EVER SEEN - THANK YOU!
Thanks a lot. Got so much clarity in life. Love from India😊
New here I love how you explain
Very informative video . I'm so excited to see my man soon
Well from my experience from going to ask for text everyday when i was dating my ex 5 yeara ago, to now just having a female friend that answers me, when she feels like it, which is like maybe 1 time a week, it is like heaven and earth changes, the only difference is that she is constant and that she is always growing and being more trustful, its a slow process and she told me several times that she is slow to respond and am ok with that, am enjoying this slow pace... it will evolve once thing changes or dry and wither is just that if I place trust, love and balance freedom. The space is being made for something special and it takes time and patience and am willing to invest out of love and happiness because i love myself and invest in my dreams and goals, so she is second on my prioritiea, so I do not codepent on her and find it relaxing and hapoy when it happens.
I think speaking to them in person is important. Maybe they have things they’re doing. I’m someone who doesn’t over text because I’m out and about or studying ect however I wouldn’t mind telling someone I still like you but I also like my own time and find that important
Very wise and logical :) 👏
Hmm this works to an extent unless you express your needs in a polite adult manner and you get ghosted :)))) its the new modern trend in dating. I’ve been seing someone for a few weeks the communication was amazing and then suddenly … silence for no apparent reason. So i reached out one last time saying ‘hey, i think i may have misjudged the situation. And i understand if we both may be looking for different things at this stagein our lives. I would have hoped for a bit more open and transparent communication since we’re both in this voluntarily. I wish you all the best, thank you for your time i truly enjoyed it..’ and then just left it there because you cant really pressure anyone into anything. (I should have seen some red flags with her being 28 having kids with 2 different men and speaking constantly about herself only hahaha)
Excellent move. I salute you!
That is exactly me..Anxious and now my man Has brokenup with me......because I was pulling away too much when ever I'm anxious
I was just looking for similar topic on quora bcs of the situation that i'm in rn! I just want to say, i used to watch you all the time and you really helped me get through a nasty breakup 3 years ago. Thank you for that❤ and now i'm here again for another relationship that i have...😂
Omg same here, used to watch Matthew then here I am going through something and his videos were the first to pop into my mind! 🙈
Back at it again 😂
@@Emma-rg4ke nooo girlie... hang in there🥲 hopefully you find what you're looking for!
I am totally OK with not being talking all day everyday 😊...
This happened to me today. I texted her saying I have standards and needs. Doesn’t make you a bad person but if you can offer the basic minimum needs I’m requesting then there’s a problem and maybe you’re not right for me. Especially when I’m returning more. This hurts buts it’s a good mindset cus often I find myself in the past questioning whether I’m good enough or not. Now it’s just a matter of finding the right person for you because if your current partner isn’t willing to change and meet requirements (wishing realistic parameters). End it.
yes
thank you for the vid :)
Game changer: Is this enough for me rather than am I enough for him? Same goes with he's not a bad guy, he isn't just the right guy for me.
Yea i need everyday commication as like how was your day, how was work or things like that. Or maybe just wanna send my food pic
Man each man is so different when it comes to texting
I have been run over so many times. That I am mature and hot, confidence high rocket and if you are not on path. Next please!
You've got many great videos about getting over rejection 👍 I'd love to see something about how to reject a guy when you don't wanna do it. I tend to flirt with guys, I love it, but honestly I shouldn't be doing this, in the end I end up in a weird situation when there's a connection and suddenly I reject him and I look like an idiot, it hunts me over and over again. I'd love to know what you think about it 🙏 As you can see the perspective of looking like an idiot doesn't stop me 😅
Sounds like you either flirt with guys you find unattractive and/or you are afraid of intimacy. Or something else. Maybe ask yourself why you might be doing this and listen compassionatley to yourself.
True! / tks / 🤞🇧🇷🙏
It's hard trying to get to know a guy when you both like each other and he's asked for your number. He texts Me that same day after I gave him my number so, that is a good sign! We text for a little while and then, my last text message goes unanswered and, I dont hear from him the rest of the night. Next day, I send him a "good morning" message and get no response there after or for the whole day. What is up with that? I know He works 6 days a week but, has the nights off. I love to text and I love to talk. How can I get to know a cute guy more if I have his number? Could he be nervous? Should I let him reach out to Me? Should I just be patient? He told Me he is single and So am I. We are in the texting stage. I dont like to be ghosted or, not answered or, ignored. I really enjoy healthy, consistent communication. At least answer me back!
Remember the good ole days when there were no texts? 😁
I wonder how many millions views this video will get thanks to its tittle 😄.
Luckily I’m not waiting for anyone to text me anymore I’m comfortable in silence.
Good girl. I applaud your maturity and comfort with yourself. The right one is on the way to you and is likely to arrive soon I'm sure.
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Do you have programs for men aswell? I could only find the one's for women to men.
I'm in the same situation my bf doesn't text me for 2days and the relationship is so could that's makes me so anxious,we talked about it and he said it doesn't mean i don't love you when i didn't text you and he keeps sending the same message without changing his style of communication ,the problem is that i don't know am i being to anxious or he doesn't take this relationship seriously,so i will give him some space and time before i will do something
I told my new partner not to text me every day. He took it to mean he didn’t need to call me for 4 days. We revisited this bounday recently. Once rvery 48 hours is optimal.
Buy how do we know when it's the right time to give up?
Pray. Meditate. Go within. Listen to your heart. The heart knows things that the mind cannot conceive of.
I wish there were more #1 momentum texts because I never get the relationship to grow enough to even use most of them. They only seem to keep the convo going for another few messages and then nothing again
I am struggling with the same problem, but in the opposite direction (guy texting girl and being ghosted). I would love for us to exchange thoughts on this. Are you interested?
I am dealing with that too. Almost like, they ghost after a few text messages, sometimes leaving me hanging or, messages unanswered! Like, what just happened? How am I suppose to get to know them?
@3:47 I don't know why this person is communicating to you about this and not the person they are in relationship with. Communication is interactive and relationshiips are meant to be also, and its not just about this person, the other one has needs too. A lot of the time its the differences that people can have problems with because they don't know what to do or how to deal with this and that is why we have learning. Where I come from people can go through weeks without hearing from the other person. Sometimes people go through stuff they need to withdraw. Men normally need to withdraw, and sometimes it about having time out, other times there is something else going on. People need to learn how to communicate so they can have a discussion about what they need to and they don't have to go and ask people on youtube about these sorts of things, because they are quite cabable of doing it for themselves.
Please help me with this. I desperately need your advice! It's been months since I started dating a girl. At first, everything looked normal; we texted and called each other daily, saw each other, and were connected in a sense. Yet, lately, she's been acting aloof; texting back hours after I texted her, she's not texting or calling for even days and I'm not aware of where she is and what she does; I mean I don't feel connected to her as her absence is so clear in my life. Every time I invite her over to see her in person, she hesitates or cancels in the end, and even she does not talk about seeing each other at all except when I insist. I've told her this issue that I need her to be more connected, present, and text or call more frequently. She accepts but acts differently and keeps the pattern of not calling or texting except if I initiate. I'm baffled and do not know what to do, or how to react. I need your advice on this!
even if we ask our selves are they enough for me what can i do its not easy to move on all the time its not easy to meet someone we want just like that after investing so much time and energy with someone you care i am 64 my person is 72 he likes to talk to woman to much he looks for attention from everyone it tires me out he seems to want together with me only on his terms i do not know what to do
All my relationships have involved a lot of texting and communication. Never had an issue with days worth of no contact. Weird lol. If someone cannot take 10 seconds to say hi or reply, what's the point imo, especially when you're in a relationship...!?!?
How can i talk to Matthew?
when my boyfriend does not reach out i feel very anxious i think the worst things i do not know how to handle the situation i stop calling i stop messaging but i still feel very anxious i do not know what to do
Well I have Matthew but you don't text back😭😭😭😭
I have just spent 6 days with my b/f until Fridat.He phoned me on Sat. (late). Not Sunday. He phoned today (Mon), but I didn't hear the phone. So I called back, but his answerphone was on. I am distraught/
What about when u get a good morning text but dont hear from them the rest of the day? I feel bothered but maybe i should im not being grateful
Wait- is this video confirming that the men’s pulling away phase is a complete fallacy?
The points in the video are very much recognized by me, and I know a wonderful advisor with whom I often hear similar words in my interactions. Even he is often on the news and expresses similar views in some interviews. You can find him by his name.
Dan Price CFA.
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@@HiramLarson Sorry for the interruption, can you share it with me, I need help very badly right now too.
Hi mat im 54 think im to old for dating. I always put any man in freind zone .how can i tell if a man fancies me ? Cheers matt 👍
We are the same age. I was born in February of '68 and im still single too. However, I believe the right woman just appeared into my life. I'm working on making myself fully ready for her arrival in my life as my partner by brushing up in areas in which I'm still wea, but I feel ready for a long term relationship now..
My advice to you is stop putting men in the friend zone immediately. Do you have women friends? Hang out with them Cultivate your female friendships and start ridding yourself of the men who are clearly not potential long-term partners for you. You must truly love yourself before you can truly love another. Love is all about giving. You should both be always trying to give more love, respect, comfort and caring to the other.
If there are any men who you know have the capacity to do this, take them out of the friend zone by expressing how you feel about them. Communicate openly and honestly. That's all any of us really want. No one wants to play these silly relationship games. But our society talks us into it as being the way to go. Love is the answer.
Listen to your heart and disregard much of what your head is telling you. The heart know things of which the mind cannot conceive. I wish you all the best, my sister. Remember that according to the Law of Attraction, "We will ALWAYS ATTRACT WHAT WE ARE, AND NOT WHAT WE DESIRE.So I recommend you do as I am doing and be the love you wish to see in the world, and you will not be able to help but attract it back to yourself.
Also remember that "God is love." Follow Christ's highest commandment and all the other ten. This is what I'm doing... and it's working beautifully. I may keep aging, but get more beautiful inside with each passing day.
God bless you, my sister.. Be well.
I feel like if I don't text him he takes anywhere from 5 to 7 days
Can you please talk about hire standers in the later stages, not about early stages only and not only about texting.
I feel the bar is really low if we are talking about how people don’t text us… definitely something is wrong…
I have been always a subscriber but now after being in a relationship I would like to hear more about later stages 😁
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