Should I Divorce My Cheating Husband? We Have a Kid. | THE DILEMMA
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So he constantly cheated for a WEEK? Did you guys miss that? Over and over he made the choice to do what he knows would break her. That's not cheating anymore, its betrayal.
She cheated too with multiple people. They both betrayed each other
@@wittyusername9544 she mentioned she did that after it all happened.. when she was already over it. Not the same at all.
It’s a blatant bastardization of her character, of their relationship and everything that they did/said/done
literally!! its so selfish
@@wittyusername9544 ??? that was after they separated??
"Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated" those are some beautiful and wise words to live by!!
its not as easy at sounds! otherwise you wouldn't find so many bitter divorced women
@@jomangeee9180 and men.
Yes it brought tears to my eyes when she said that!
@@Hellsing7747 and men! but considering women take the kids and the half the money, I am not surprised they are bitter, why are women bitter? a failed relationship! move on!
celebrating something is out of fun, a result of something joyful,
tolerating someone is sacrafice, something that u do for ppl u love.
It's sad how one person cheating destroys the lives of so many people.
Only really her that's one person
@@S_J_banana her? Why do you assume it’s the woman the person getting cheated on?
@anherb I know, but the commenter didn’t say anything about the subject being the protagonists of the video. Instead, they commented in a rather general way (including males too)
@anherbkid's in denial lmaoo
@@user-ng8gm9pb4v because she's in the funking video saying it
So many people say to stay for the kids, but as someone who's parents "stayed for the kids" I can say it's a terrible idea. Kids learn from their parents and their parents' relationships. Even if no one tells the kid he cheated, they'll usually find out eventually. Even if they don't, the dysfunction can build up and kids will think that's normal and acceptable.
And when you find out, it’s really horrible. I remember feeling so weird afterwards. Every memory from my childhood was tainted :(
This was my life honestly. My dad had a whole girlfriend when I was 8. No one told me and I found out when I was 22. Love my dad but he caused a lot of trauma.
My dad cheated on my mom and I haven’t been able to form a healthy relationship since.
Yes!! Same. I wish so bad my parents divorced when I was younger instead of staying for me and my siblings but yet causing us massive trauma
It could be the woman that cheated too 💀💀
I think she knew she wanted to leave but needed that reassurance from outsiders. This was amazing and I hope better things are in store for her soon
Nah I hope she learns her lesson before it’s to late
@@marquisreed1797ok👍
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@@marquisreed1797 It was too late when he cheated and didn't tell her about it...
There are less options in the streets lol.
Cheating is a non negotiable. Cheat once, I'm out. Wont let religion or kids manipulate me to stay. Bye to struggle love.
In christianity you’re allowed to leave your spouse if they cheated on you.
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@@raisaburdak yeah
Goodbye to struggle love!! Cheating is the greatest betrayal. If I can’t trust you we literally have nothing.
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Yes. I was 5 when it came to light my dad cheated (emotional and physical affair) on my mom. My youngest brother was just born, and my sister (3) didn’t understand what was going on. My mom stayed and the cheating never stopped; it’s been almost 20 years. My relationship to my father is tumultuous and I have no respect for him (and my mom for a long time too for not leaving him). As the oldest, my mom would tell me all about their struggling relationship and when I asked her why she didn’t leave, she’d always say it’s because of us. We kids grew up feeling like a burden to her. If the parents relationship isn’t healthy, don’t stay. It fucks up your kids worse than getting a divorce.
This is so true. My parents divorce when I was 13 didn’t really bother me at all - I knew they were unhappy and it was for the better. I now have decent relationships with them as individuals
Couldn’t agree more !!
Very similar situation with my parents and us kids. Very similar... And I agree fully.
It makes me so mad when parents use their kids as an excuse to not do the hard things.
It would be better for the kids to have two happy, single-parent homes than one unhappy, two-parent home.
It's crazy how so many of us live the same life.
Her kid will grow up to learn why and understand she definitely needed to leave him
No they won’t. Just because he was a bad husband doesn’t automatically make him a bad father. Moving across the country and taking away the chance for the kid to have his father in his life is horrible.
@@BlackCelticsFan of course the father is going to be in there life still the principle of it is that the child is gonna grow up and understand what their mother was going through no one would want there own parents to stay with each other if it was toxic and just constantly cheating either that would make the child’s life way worse
@@BlackCelticsFan And instead of putting I child through a lie of a family it’s better off she go and find her soulmate which can also be the child’s step dad who can for sure love the child as if it was their own
@@BlackCelticsFan And if that was the case the husband definitely didn’t put his child or wife first when he decided to cheat knowing that it would ruin the lives of others.
@Louis Kingsta they are BOTH in the wrong .
He cheated for a week. For a whole fcking week. Now, what part of this is a *mistake* ?
Girl, you deserve someone better.
This comment gets to me in the core because my ex wanted to bring a girl for a whole week to stay at our apt while I was away at my parents house with our toddler and me being 9 mo pregnant at the time. Didn’t happen because she didn’t want to so instead she stayed for the weekend. 2 times. 3rd time didn’t happen because she told me about it.
That’s where my No came in. A week….yeah thats crazy. Nope leave that marriage.
she also cheated; they're both in the wrong. I wouldn't say she deserves someone better, but they both deserve to be with different people (unless the guy is actually putting in the work in therapy to better himself)
I like the “go where your celebrated not where your tolerated” YOU GO GIRL!!
*you're/you are
IT REMINDS me of taylor swifts "tolerate it" i wonder if thats where she got it from to since it sounds like a rearranged version of the lyric plus the song is about a woman who gets tolerated and doesnt recive love from her husband like she should be so
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Slogans don't solve much.
@@agathachris9722 she ended up leaving her husband so i guess it helped a bit
Here's an ugly truth. Most people don't stay for the kids, they just tell themselves that to feel better. People stay out of fear of losing money, social circles, a support system. Saying you're "staying for the kids" is just selfish cognitive dissonance because youre putting yourself before your kids.
ding ding
The money aspect especially. Like if you're a stay at home mom and have next to no savings and less job experience
@@kelseysmith3818me rn
@@jennygarcia7101 you'll make it through! Keep your head up. ❤️
My mom stayed for me and my brother. It took us saying she didn't have to, for her to actually leave.
As a person who’s parents “stayed for the kids” please don’t. Divorce and go your separate ways.
it hurts. but it will give both parties a better life.
What was your family situation like?
@@kokichikomaeda7274 none of your damn business. What a question to ask
agree
Same situation. Cannot agree more
One of my favourite quotes that I think fits here is “it’s better for a child to come from a broken home than to live in one”.
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That quote a bit redundant
@@flightboi9 how so?
finding out my dad cheated on my mom absolutely destroyed my mental health, more than it already was. she didn't leave him until two years later, but by then i already moved across the country to get away from the abuse, neglect, & lies. i promise you, your kids will most likely thank you in the end. set the example & show your kids you refuse to tolerate being treated less than you deserve.
How it’s not about you
Who decides who deserves what? Also finding out your dad cheated didn’t ruin you. Being indoctrinated to believe him placing his pp in another women meant anything is what did.
@@marquisreed1797 everyone’s experience is different so for you to tell this person and basically try to talk down on her is a prime example of how cruel and demeaning some people can be in this world.
@jayl I don’t have to know him specifically the info he gave was more than enough. Give me another reason why a child would think something that has happened to nearly every women from the begging of time as wrong?
This wasy boyfriend's parents they ended up staying together but he never did it again and they are stronger than ever.
I hate how some people think it’s acceptable to stay with someone who cheated on them just for something purely physical. It really shows that your partner has no respect for you if they will sleep with someone they don’t really care about.
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Some people don't care that much about the physical. I know I don't. And I also believe in forgiveness in some situations.
I think most of them stay for the idea of how they will raise children in a safe environment and how would they feed their kids and have food on the table and a safe place to sleep with a roof above their head tbh
@@imarockstarification cheating is unforgivable and basically letting in someone who disrespected u… but do u! We all have different opinions
Agreed! I think it's bc some guys use "testosterone" as an excuse for cheating and some girls believe men can't help themselves lol if it was emotional + physical, they see it as more deliberate. Both r terrible imo
A key detail that I wish they focused on was that she said she started sleeping with people outside the marriage after her husband cheated. As soon as she said that I made up my mind!
Because regardless of whether he knows or not, that decision isn't coming from a mutual desire to have a relationship. It sounds like "Well you cheated, so you can't be mad if I slept with someone else." And that's an unhealthy position to put herself in. It sounds like they're out of it and are fighting for the marriage because of principle.
Finally found a comment highlighting that point. She cheated too, and she openly admitted it.
That is exactly what I was thinking!!!
exactly, i guess that is something we call double standards
EXACTLY THANK YOU
Only comment that stated that and it's absolutely true. She cheated also and I think the only reason she came on the show was for sympathy and acceptance. Of course most people would advise someone to divorce, so she looked for that step to use it in her favor. It's quite obvious that she had no feelings for him as well and that relationship was long done. At least the kids won't have to face the hypocrisy of two people.
It angers me how many of our parents are only together because of us! No love, no soul, no boundaries, just because we're their children but it can also teach us the wrong kind of "love". For my perspective, it just showed me relationships are a trap. This really plays part to anyone who had commitment issues too! You saw how your parents relationship are and you built a barrier around yourself to not be in their position
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Can't agree more
Love is subjective so it depends on what you define
I could say I feel love when I’m with multiple people
You could say you feel love when you with one partner
So it depends
@@worldyglobal2533 Sure, people love in different ways, but this doesn't apply here. Every kind of love is build on a basis of respect and caring for someone else. You parents are supposed to show you how you're supposed to interact with other people. If they are happily married in a monogamous relationship, great. If they are happy in some kind of polyamorous relationship, also great. As long as you are in a healthy relationship, your child will learn how to communicate, how to trust, etc.
Cheating is breaking the trust of your partner(s). For some, a kiss can be cheating. For others, sex might not be cheating, but having an emotional connection with someone else is. Cheating, in whatever form, has no place in a loving relationship. If you hurt your partner by doing something they explicitly told you would hurt them, then you're a bad partner, and will possibly teach your child how to be a bad partner.
Leave them. The kid seeing this would potentially lead them to the view of settling for less than you deserve is okay. You get what you allow and most times.. if someone cheats once, they'll cheat again from my experience.
No she shouldnt leave him. divorce is a bad thing, the only reason someone should get a divorce is if they are abusing u or not trying to stop cheating.
@@emxlyy8092 divorce is not a bad thing. Lying in your vows is! He is trying to get better but women usually take a lot before they break. It didn’t just happen once he did it for a whole week (but could be longer), went to work and probably flirted with her for weeks, and probably would’ve never admitted to it if she did get a gut feeling
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
straight up. period. the end.
Does that mean she will cheat again too?
Destroying your whole family for one person is crazy.
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Crazy asf tho
@@ItzMalick no.
Cuz of coochie smh 🤦🏾♂️
@まこと 佐々木 yes
If someone cheats, leave. I don't care about the circumstances.
She admitted she is cheating too...
@@leboucfou5834 because he cheated on her.
@@Solip_i So that makes it an excuse? She’s just as bad if not worse because she knows how horrible his unfaithfulness made her and she went around sleeping with SEVERAL other men out of sheer spite and vindictiveness.
@@3nglandWarrior1 it’s not an « excuse » but he ruined their relation and their trust so why would she shouldn’t ?!
Not saying I would do that, I would simply leave but he doesn’t deserve better than being treat the same way.
@@Solip_i how do you know she did that after he cheated ?
Never understood why people think the cheater deserves a second chance just cause the cheater is doing all they can do to make the relationship better when they're only doing it just cause they got caught cheating
Exactly, why were you not getting yourself better before you were caught 🤔
not every situation is the same. People do genuinely make poor choices and try to fix things.
@@Ray03595 Majority of commenters here have never been in a relationship. Their way of thinking is incredibly black and white without room for nuance. Cheating can happen for a million different reasons, and usually indicates a serious issue in the relationship. I am not in any way making an excuse for cheating, but its alot more complicated than "he cheated, hes evil".
@@Ray03595 but they aren't fixing anything. all they're doing is basically being on their best behaviors trying not to get kicked to the curb. Idk about you but if I was to get cheated on I'd definitely rather split because, I don't want to live a life where there are thoughts about if this person has cheated more than what I know or will they cheat again if things aren't going so great.
@@Sai_92 in this situation i agree they are better off apart they both aren't committed to doing the work and repairing things. I just don't think that is always the case.
This series is literally just in-person “am I the a-hole” posts 😂
It reminded me of reddit too! but its more like r/relationshipadvice and not AITA
@@annakeshish Yes! I was wondering why this format felt so familiar lmao
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@@ItzMalick
You actually cannot guarantee that, and no one cares! 😘 I respect the effort, but maybe just... put that effort into your CONTENT instead of COMMENTS! 😉
Find your niche.
Having ✨everything✨ means absolutely nothing.
Have some dignity.
You are blocked for the lack of it.
Or "would I be the a-hole if..." or "how do I avoid becoming the a-hole..."
"Love is work" this mentality is the reason why so many woman stay and end up in abusive relationships. it will become a never ending cycle where the child will have a wrong idea of what love is
It just sucks yk 😕
Love is work though thats the truth, the difference is what things youre willing to work on
@@bladerisq3352 Love isn't effortless, but it shouldn't be a struggle.
Marriage is work
Love is conditional
After hearing everyone’s opinion & things like that. I’m glad she was able to take those voices/ opinions from strangers, and use it to form her decision on the unfortunate matter that broke the two apart.
Hate to say it but she had already decided before she sat down and just wanted confirmation. She was sleeping with other ppl already there wasn’t much to think about.
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@@1stbornsecond823Yeah I think that along with not trusting him and other things conformed that she doesn’t love him anymore. She’s over it and when someone looses their love it’s not going to come back.
I knew to myself it was over the second she said she’s had sex with other people and still having sex with him. That emotional connection is completely cut off and done for
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@@ItzMalick read the room omg
she meant after he cheated
If a person really loved you, the thought of cheating would never cross their minds, let alone happen. I don’t care what the circumstances were, there’s no justification for that. She needs to leave, and find herself a partner who will cherish her
FACTS!!!!!
Thank you!!
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Immature highschooler #55
Tbh cheating seems inevitable these days, even if the person puts a ring on it and has a family with you and was with you for 10+ years, it seems like people always want more,
Being cheated on is such a traumatic thing to experience. You will never ever trust that person the same ever again, to me it’s just not worth staying
Bro the way cheating is normalized today is really sad.
I hate when people bring up “staying for the kids” like absolutely not. Yes how they’re impacted is greatly important but not a reason to stay. I want to teach my kids that yes people can make mistakes but some mistakes are unforgivable. I want them to know that choosing yourself and your happiness is important as well. I want them to know that you shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t put you first and doesn’t show you the respect and love you deserve.
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-“Tiffany”
Ummm why is this comment not the top one?? How long ago was this filmed?
thank u for sharing ur story ❤️❤️
We love you!
Best of luck, I hope you’re alright
You said that when you first learned he was talking to this other woman there was a "tussle" and he ended up leaving the house. What did you mean by "tussle?" Did you get violent with him?
i would be in the "yes" box for the whole video
"Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated" love this line!
cheating has no excuse
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Instantly yes
Your the first person who commented
@@iqramohamed. ik🤭🤭
Instantly, watch the video before commenting.
@@Konnordawg u mad for what
@@Konnordawg nope seen cheating and it was leave him🫶🏾😂 if he loved her in the first place he would have never cheated on his wife
I really feel for Tiffany. Idk her but from what was shown I like her as a person. GO WHERE YOURE CELEBRATED NOT WHERE YOURE TOLERATED
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What does that men. Most people cheat
She sounds so much happier after leaving. I'm so happy she chose to do what makes her happy, instead of staying in an environment where you have to look over your shoulder, question everything, and know that if he did it once, he could just as easily do it again. That kind of thing stays with you. So I'm incredibly proud of her
she did the worst thing for her son
@@Light-gu3no oh please, coming from someone with “do it for the kids” parents, i can tell you she chose the best decision for her child. Continuing with a toxic relationship like that gets worse and worse. And the situation im going through distorted my perspectives in future relationships. So what she did, was also best for her and her child
Personally, cheating is an absolute dealbreaker for me. I know that there are some relationships that can be repaired through therapy and communication, but for me, once the cheating has been discovered, I’ve lost all trust and would never be able to trust them again. No if, ands, or buts.
I believe broken pieces can stick back together stronger, but definitely not in this case. When trust is broken, it's broken. You'd always worry if they'll cheat on you again and you'll just have to keep ignoring those little voices in order to "build a happy relationship", even though deep down inside you know it's impossible.
Exactly
THIS!!
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I would rather not be in an open relationship, but I get it when they say it's not cheating if it's consensual: its not even about the sex, it's about mutual trust.
"Effort" does NOT make up for mistreatment! Sometimes people's best is not enough!
no also this will ruin her son
@@Light-gu3no no this will help her son,,,as a child that parents divorced because of cheating,we don't want to be a reason for our parent who got mistreated to stay in that relationship.we will end up blaming ourselves and settle for less when we get into relationship because we learned from our parents.
The fact that you can be with someone for 10 years and they still don’t care about you enough to not cheat on you is why I’m scared to be fully vulnerable with people 😣 Especially because I make sure there is very clear rules about what is a dealbreaker, so if you cheat, you were willing to lose our relationship.
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I agree with this
That happened to me. 😢
@@jlt001928 I’m so sorry 😣
@@chelsea5595 Thanks. 10 years and 3 toddlers. With several girls and hundreds online. He’ll move out of state next month and I’m glad I got away. It’s a deep betrayal and I can’t help but replay their time together in my head. It really is scary I hope it never happens to you. 😣
“In another lifetime” SENTT im sorry 😭 but I wish the best for them!
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To be honest it ain't a tough decision for me. Staying together just because you have a kid is no recipe for a healthy time together. I have been the kid in such a situation and I wish they would have broken up so much earlier.
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@@adalinaramirez She didn't cheat, it was after she found out and kicked him out, they are kinda broke up but not divorce. He's trying to win her back.
“in another lifetime” had me feeling so much relief 😭
I think financial stability is also something that should be considered when making this decision. Surprised it didn’t come up in this discussion.
Glad she made this decision.
@@user-kq2we1ex3h id suggest u read some of the many comments from ppl whose parents divorced because of cheating to see how choosing to stay can be very damaging for the children growing up.
@@julianaoliveira6903 also damaging to live in poverty if she couldn't afford to be a single parent. Sounds like she had a place to stay at her parents fortunately. Finances for sure matter.
@@Ray03595 ye definitely but that wasn’t the case, if she needs a place to stay she had to try and get some support, get a job etc so she can leave, doesn’t mean she has to accept the situation and stay forever
@@julianaoliveira6903 we didn;t know till the end of the vid tho. Someone should've asked during the q&a. Also, it couldve been asked and just edited out so who knows really.
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“Love is work, a lot of work” I don’t believe that, love shouldn’t be hard if you both love each other, and wouldn’t think about cheating on each other, or hurting one another love should not be hard work, and if it is the connection isn’t there and it’s time to let go.
If he cheated and she’s currently cheating, then none of y’all are actually interested in staying together. Divorce and move on if your child is “only” a minute factor in her relationship with her husband. Otherwise, that’s a really messy dynamic.
That's what confused me for a second; she's cheating too? Why is the focus on only the husband here when both are cheating on each other? This seems like a super messy relationship
@@annaairahala9462 She only “cheated” after already finding he had cheated for a week.
@@oceanrocks Where was that said?
@@annaairahala9462 Try watching the video.
@@oceanrocks ok don't defend your claim lmao, your loss
For me, cheating is unforgiveable and does irrevocable damages to a relationship. It will make your partner lose trust in you, become paranoid on whether or not you will cheat again and affect their self esteem. Who does that to someone they love? Cheating only occurs when that person does not love the other person enough.
Cheaters deserve no mercy.
Cheaters are still human beings and human beings deserve mercy.
@@kathrinw.2035 Found the cheater.
@@TA12002 tf
Both of them are cheaters
@@TA12002 💀💀💀
my parents didn’t stay together for me and my sibling bc they did end up getting divorced, but i used to fight with both of my parents CONSTANTLY when they were still married, and now that they’re divorced i get along with both of them all the time. staying together for your kids never actually works and it’s just better off if you get divorced
That's what happened to one of my cousins. Her ex-husband had multiple affairs with older women because he had abandonment issues with his mom. He only saw her as baby machine.
Once is too many times. Cheating is never a mistake, you don’t cheat by accident. In order to cheat you take a decision and that decision means that you don’t respect your partner and that you broke the trust of the relationship.
Leave him. Staying with a cheater gives them all the power and they will likely just do it again.
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my friends fiancé cheated on her, she was pregnant with his kid while he was hoeing around but she stayed because of the baby. A lot of people make the choice to stay for the kids and i understand that but also in the end you have to think about your mental health and your life too. You guys might be even more toxic staying together and damaging the child more than separating.
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might as well put the kid up for adoption if u wanna go party this weekend that badly.....
I couldn't live my entire life in the constant uncertainty that my parter might cheat on me again
@@Random-sk6hm that is what therapy is for not divorce lol
@@burntemail3950 there is no way someone with self respect, integrity and a great morale and value system, will engage in something like this. Someone who lack those qualities are not worth fighting & staying for.
Her finally decision had me teary eyed. Its hard to know your worth when down, but Im glad she found it.
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lmao dont normalize wrecking the halfbaked families yall just made thats crazy
yes, do it!!! your child will grow up understanding your choice was the best thing to do at the time.
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@@ItzMalick
no one cares.
As a student who will eventually be a marriage and family therapist, I would suggest couples therapy because it is not just for couples who stay together. It is also for couples who wish to separate or divorce amicably and learn to peacefully coparent. It can also help people who are still deciding if they want to stay together or separate. Very helpful for her at any stage.
Kinda beautiful that when they all hugged, the 'no' side moved to the 'yes' side, ultimately agreeing with what she has decided for herself.
It’s unfair for her to feel as though she has to stay for her kid when he willingly went out and chose someone else over his wife and child. Get out of there!
The way I relate to Deyana. Cause “what happens when you’re not enough again” WHEW.
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It seems like she came in basically already wanting a divorce, and she just needed to hear someone say that it was ok.
I think i found the only person in the comment section over the age of 17.....thank you for being OBJECTIVE and not emotional
@@burntemail3950 burnt email u r the one who act immature here,,, I've read ur comments and I feel embarrassed for u,please delete it to save ur face
My parents fought a-lot when I was growing up. When I was 10 they were totally ready to get a divorce but because they were worried about the influence it might have had on me they decided to keep living together. I’m 18 now and even though they don’t fight as much as they used to things don’t really go well between them and their lives and mine would have been much better if they had just gotten it. I feel so guilty every day seeing my mom suffering in the relationship thinking I’m the reason her life is what it is rn.
Although growing up with divorced parents sucks I’m sure it’s much better than kids growing up by parents who don’t love and trust each other.
As a parent, I appreciate each and every one of you sharing your perspective as the former children in this situation. Thank you. I hope you’re well.
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I appreciate the many emotions you feel for your parents but understand that men who want to be fathers understand if they don't maintain a healthy relationship with their sons they will end up like Justin K who seems to have a much stronger relationship with his mother. Sadly mothers don't value/understand the importance of a father-son relationship and instead seem to want to replace the father's role in providing for and raising the child. Lastly, the decision to split up sounds nice but rarely does it ever work as 90% of divorces are handled by states, and most states have made it so women are incentivized to get divorced by allowing them ownership of kids and property while monetizing the entire family court system and it brings in a lot of money for the states. (This is information for straight men as the child in the said video is a boy)
I went through something similar and we’re the same age as well! My mom had said she wanted to divorce my dad, but when i told her she should, she said she couldn’t for me. It felt more miserable to listen to them argue often and know that they weren’t compatible together than to live in separate homes. They were probably scared that divorcing would make their culture look down on them or something.
Always leave them. No exceptions. No excuses. My ego is too big to be cheated on and just be cool with it.
Ego 💀
@@1.b.36 shutup
@@samantha489 daddy issues
@@1.b.36 daddy issues for not wanting to stay with someone who cheated on you?
@@jillann2143 they got a kid bro that’s a broken home
I believe cheaters do not deserve second chances especially if it’s over a period of time. Now your partner is stuck with the burden of having to either stay with you unhappy because they love you or move on and still feel the pain of what you did. While it was so easy for you to NOT cheat you still chose to.
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Same, I do not believe in second chances for cheaters
@@lawtraf8008 but she cheated
@@ghxstly7647 Only after he'd done so for a full week.
“Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.” Girl, FACTS.
I think she knows her answer she's just playing with y'all and just want to participate in this show. 😭
They in the same house and she said they sleep with each other and sometimes with other ppl. The marriage is cooked 😂😭
@@randyrosarion7231 Exactly. Vid became way less interesting once she revealed that. She already moved on, wtf?
Yea
When she said she sleeps with other people already it was a sure thing. She just wanted to know that her decision would be accepted.
Yup, her ability to so easily jump in bed with someone else is telling. It's like she was looking for an excuse to cheat.
@@ewoma8234 I don't know how to define their relationship since she's still sleeping with her husband too. I feel like she's sending him mixed signals. That's besides the point though. What gets me is how someone can claim to have such a close bond with someone and then just go around sleeping with multiple people. I would think it would take time to get over the relationship and then even more time to bond with someone new. She may be one for the streets.
@@ewoma8234 Well, she was in a relationship. She literally came to the show to ask/decide if she should end the relationship or give it another chance. But it was messy. I have no idea how I would react in her situation. I condemn cheating greatly. It creates wounds and a lot of confusion.
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Who else got recommended this after seeing content about Ned Fulmer and the try guys
“What happens when you’re not enough again” that line was so real and so deeply important.
So who got this recommended after the Try Guys scandal?
the two saying no would be okay with being cheated on?? there should be no second chances when it comes to cheating.
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I feel like her husband may want solo therapy so that he can be completely honest, without having to reveal anything that will jeopardise their marriage further. I’d leave.
Also, Miss Alicia hun, she isn’t angry... I’m happy with the outcome. She seemed so hurt and disappointed, but strong nonetheless. Wish her and her child the best
these video surfaced to my homepage as the news of ned fulmer-alexandria herring infedelity came to light
My parents got divorced when I was four. My mom met my stepdad who raised me and I consider my dad and if she hadn’t divorced my bio dad, I would have never had the amazing dad that I have. Get the divorce girl!!
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check yourself you know nothing about how important a father son bond is especially because you are a girl and had your mother and daughter relationship u have no clue what ur missing brat
10:30 "in another lifetime" That got me there for a sec. Great decision!
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No matter the situation I will never stay with someone who cheats.
Cheating is like breaking a mirror. You can put the pieces back together but no matter how hard he tries you will NEVER trust him the same way again. Cheating is never an accident.
Broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago for cheating & other things... It was the hardest decision ever bc I still very much love him. I wanted to try to mend the relationship over these past few months but I just couldn’t fully trust him. I just recently decided to cut all ties with him. No more communication or seeing each other. I’m still healing from it. It’s still very hard but i can’t wait to gain my confidence back & fall in love with someone who deserves my love.
Same thing over here a couple of years ago. We were together for 3 years and were highschool sweethearts and all of that stuff. It really hurts, but its important to love yourself more than you love him. I hope you can heal and love fully again
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I don’t see why it matters if it was “just sex” or not. Don’t cheat on your lover. There shouldn’t be a second chance after he/she disrespects the relationship along with the things you’ve built and history you both have together. It’s an unforgivable act in my opinion and there’s really no way you can forgive someone for cheating without feeling a bit embarrassed. Noone deserves to feel this way about their partner when there is someone out there that wouldn’t even think to put you through those emotions to begin with.
I found like 3 days ago my father cheated on my mother for the third time with a girl younger than his daughter. I went through their text msgs, voice msgs, sexting etc. I have no respect for him now. My older brother doesn't see eye to eye with him. I have never seen my mother truly happy since the cheating started. Also she lost her sleep as well. Me and my brother don't talk or associate with him anymore. I have trust issues with people now. I would say if you are able to support your family, get divorce and be happy. Honestly, once a cheater always a cheater. And all the chase and arguments are not worth it cuz they are not worth it.
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Damn, she had me in the first half😅. Cheating is a series of decisions it’s never just one “mistake”…you consciously make small decisions that lead to cheating and at any one point, he could have stopped
I am glad in this series we have a follow up post decision and post discussion.
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I was cheated on once, I chose to forgive and rebuild trust, then 2 years later he cheated again. Those 2 years reaffirmed that I am a loving, understanding, and supportive spouse and that his selfish character was never going to change. Lessoned learned: don't waste your time; find someone that actually gives a damn about your (and your childrens') wellbeing - because that person would never cheat.
I love jubilee and this series. I know there are really really tough situations like this person is in. I just hope she finds her way. Lots of love 🤎
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"The best support sometimes comes from strangers" is soooo true. That's why before I use random online chat just to hear people's opinion and advice regarding my situation. They don't know me so they can straight up tell the truth even if it hurts. Sometimes when you come at someone who knows you very well to get advice, they sugar coat things and that is not enough. All we need is to be slapped by reality.
I honestly feel like she resented the whole relationship when she openly admitted she cheated and just wanted to do her own thing with no care towards her spouse even though yes he did cheat. She clearly made her mind up long ago and just wanted reassurance. She wanted to live that single life after being tied up for so long
People who don’t have kids will never understand these type of situations, (coming from someone who doesn’t have any) But coming from parents who stayed together for the kids, by my preteens I knew that they weren’t together. The hatred and the coldness that I felt from both it was horrible, being in a house were no affection was being shown. Either way divorced or “together” it does some damage, I would even go out of my way to say that it’s impossible not to traumatize a kid.
Only cheaters will say someone deserves second chance .
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I honestly really love this series, keep up the great work and hope you have many more!
"Go where you're CELEBRATED, not where you're TOLERATED" ugh this is so real I hope this message reached the people who needed it most ♥
I know other comments have already quoted her but it's worth quoting a hundred times, "Go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated." This is pure gold. Scripture. I think she made the best decision in this difficult situation and knows her self worth. You go girl!
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I would.
But should you ? In this specific case idk… some ppl can forgive and still live with a cheater but I honestly I wouldn’t.
It’s not about love tho, it’s about respect, and when respect is gone.. there’s no point.
Period. Love is not enough
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Watched both videos in the series (the dilemma), and i'm literally amazed at how much it parallels my life. My father found out he was gay (he doesn't know that we know) when I turned 6 and my mother cheated on him (she doesn't know that I know) during this time as well. My mom was the one that told me about my dad being gay (which she denies doing so) and has told me countless times that she stayed for us, her kids. I felt bad for that, but at the same time, I hated that she used that as an excuse to scold us or use the typical line of "because I suffered, you should do what I say." When I responded once saying that they should just separate bc it would just be better for both of them, she told me I was ungrateful for her suffering and love for us. Personally, I wouldn't know if I'd take my own advice, but being the child, it feels more messed up now that I look back at childhood memories of my parents that weren't real.
“IN ANOTHER LIFE TIME” BROKE ME HARD
I feel like the two people that were adamant on the no have cheated bc there’s no way you defending a cheater that hard 💀
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The thing I most like about the Dilemma since it started is that you brought people that really can understand and opine on this subject.
Love THE DILEMMA series. Please keep it going!!!
My mum and dad split when I was about 4, can't even remember the guy and so happy they split. My brother who's a bit older said that it was tense all the time and it was just a house of screaming, I'm so glad I didnt have to go through all that. It also gave me a lot of respect for my mum to see her take that value in herself and us as his kids that he turned his back on
My dad cheated on my mom when I was eleven and my sister was seven. My mom stayed with him because she was scared that my dad would take us away from her. My parents continued to fight for years and finally got a divorce in 2020. I get that this woman wants to protect her child, but I think it would be better if they got a divorce because her son won't have to grow up around a lot of fighting like I did. Also, because they seem to be more civil than my parents, I could see them working out a deal on how much their son gets to see each parent. I just think it would be a happier outcome overall. However, that's my personal take on this.
Watching this after Ned’s out from the tryguys
SAME
I really love this series!! You guys always have such great ideas