Yes. I see so many people trying to "fix" their partners, "mould" them into what they want them to be or try to change them into their type, which will never work out in any relationship, NEVER go into a relationship with baggage and don't be in relationship that brings in baggage, because neither of them will *ever* be able to fix each other's baggages. Try to fix it on your own and then go into a relationship. So yes, you can never change someone to fit the mould you want them to be.
@@roshnikhader5661 I also think that changing the partner into something that fills up the own emptiness or own insecurities won't work because you get dependent in an unhealthy way that won't help yourself or do good to the partner in the long term. But I think the thought or the rule that says that no one should be going into a relationship with baggage can kind of result in a relationship anxiety. I think if someone finds a partner that he/she loves it is brave to still go into the relationship even when having baggages - even sometimes big ones (if it's even possible for someone not to have baggages at all). It's just all about communication. When there is the right partner he/she will understand. I think it's kind of wrong to say no one should ever go into a relationship with baggages because i think that baggages even a lot of times firstly resolve when in a relationship because they then become very clear. Relationships are so awesome and difficult at the same time because they make someone more conscious about oneself. Staying alone is easy. Relationship is the difficult stuff. And relationships get so much more intimate when your resolving the baggage together, with the help of the partner, with talking and empathy. Not BECAUSE of the partner.
So yeah I kind of agree but I think it's just about openness and no one should be scared or too cautious of getting into relationship stuff. Because the problem is that many close up for years and they never will get into a serious one ever because they fear it too much. No one is perfect.
Notice how “Intentional” all three couples LISTENED to their spouses while they spoke and gave good eye contact… critical in marriage communication along with close physical touch.
@@d.h.geetha7678 it means having time for yourself. For example, fyou want to go on a trip for couple of days alone, your partnet should be okay with that. It means not be together all the time, having time separated makes everything more light. ♡
@@itsnerdbehaviour21 Actually I got it from our pastor who held a wedding seminar in our church and the Bible. He taught us how to make things simple in a marriage, because out there it is too complex, so try to really make your family a place for all family members to share, fun, help each other, full of love, joy, understanding, and being aware of their respective responsibilities. -Each. "The perfect family consists of family members who have imperfections and work hand in hand to create a heavenly atmosphere and environment before we are in heaven." 🙏
I especially agree with point 5, but point 2 is confusing. I don't think you should ever minimize your or your partner's feelings if there is a big problem. You should work through it with open, honest dialogue coming from a place of kindness. It isn't a competition of "I'm right, you're wrong" it's about taking challenges and learning/growing from them while being respectful and kind so you can build a stable future together. We got married at 18 and 19, which we received a lot of stigma and judgement for. Yet we've traveled the world together, worked as self-supporting uni students and and continue to build our life together. A few more years and I'll finish my qualifications to be a psychologist and he'll be an epidemiologist :)
When the sweet woman in pink sweater told her husband that he's the love of her life, I think his face just got redder. After 50+ years of marriage, the spark is still there. Amazing!
My tips after being together for 9 years about to be married: 1. Talk about the hard stuff (money, kids, responsibilities with the house etc.) 2. Be sure you're on the same page when it come to each others families (like respect and boundaries) 3. Compromise, you can either be right, or get what you want you can't have both! 4. Always date each other, go out together, plan new adventures 5. It's good to have a life outside of each other 6. Actions speak louder than words
@Thawne1338assuming they mean you both have to be very forgiving and quick to apologize to one another instead of letting your person sleep unhappy with you
“Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time” Excerpt From All Your Perfects Colleen Hoover
Best marriage advice I’ve ever heard: “only you and your spouse are in your relationship. So actually it won’t/can’t be like anybody else’s. You two will have to figure that out.” The no-advice advice. 😂
I remember this one night when I was still in elementary school, my parents went to their bed room and talked. I overheard their conversations, which is basically both my parents agreed not to let any of their parents interfere with their marriage. And now...they've been married 39 years.
Together for 13 years, married for 7. My advice is to 1) Understand and accept that you are with an imperfect person, as you yourself are imperfect. 2) Be the kind of partner that you want for yourself and don't keep score. 3) You cannot change a person, so accept them as they are. Obviously, this doesn't mean to accept abuse or infidelity. Just to accept that they will never be the perfect man or woman and neither will you. 4) Agree that you will both do the best you can to care for each other and hold up your own ends of the partnership and discuss what that means to you before marriage. 5) Real love is not a Disney movie! There will be hard times when you're both stressed and aggravated, hot times when things are sexy and happy go lucky, and bland times when every day is the same, and these times come and go in cycles. 6) Commit to date and court your partner for life. The work isn't done just because you've got them. That's all I got. I believe in marriage and partnership, we're better together. Good luck, everyone.
She looks like she comes from money. Rich ppl have social circles they are in and have to maintain themselves to impress each other or just avoid being gossiped about
Advice: Even if you're mad at each other, try to go to bed with each other. Whenever my husband and I argue to the point where I don't even want to talk to him, I still want to go to sleep next to him. In the end we always come back together and we'll talk through our problems and work it out. Also find someone who is willing to fight through the tough battles with you.
My parents have been married for 42 years and ive never seen them hug, kiss, or say i love you to each other. Its refreshing to see older couples still expressing love
I’ve found laughing together goes a long way. I started my marriage with “helpful criticism” like reminding him to use a cloth towel to wipe the sink instead of a paper towel. And “turning the light off when he left the room” and other habits I found annoying. He said oh yeah thanks but would still forget, and if either of us were tired or irritated, it was a sharp conversation. A few yrs into marriage I found I could express these same thoughts with humor and love. So now, when he’s finishing at the sink, I’ll say something silly like “oooh boy cloth towels are just such a cool invention, they are so superior to absorbing water than tree-paper!” And we’ll laugh and he’ll go grab a cloth. Or I’ll grab a cloth and do a silly dance as I sneakily tuck it behind the sink for him to use. After all these years he still forgets or maybe it’s just not his priority, but I get better results when I make it fun or silly, it helps me not get annoyed or exasperated too.
Thank you for sharing, I'm at the beginning of my relationship but we see ourselves going far and I think I have exactly the same problem as you. He don't have a logical mind so sometimes he do things and I can't hold my commentary "do like that it will be better" "faster baby im waiting" "baaabyy you can't do like this omg 😩". And it exhaust me, and him I'm sure. When this happens I feel like I'm against him and I see only the difference. To change the mood I need to be alone or come back to my family, do things to resource me. Do you have any other advice?
@@AnnaIsHere we live in a really humid area, so the stuff between the tiles mold if we don’t wipe the water off. We actually wipe the whole counter too, for spills and food bits so if someone puts a paper or mail on the counter, it doesn’t get ruined.
Been dating my sweetheart for the last 2 years. From our first date, I told my friends that she’s the one. They looked at me crazy, “wow you went to one date together and she’s all suddenly the one?” they would say. Here we are 2 years later, I gave her a promise ring on our first year as a couple, and I’m saving my scraps to buy her an engagement ring. I never thought I would experience the whole ‘when you know, you know’ moment. But it’s so subtly loud. It doesn’t feel crazy, it feels like.. love. There’s no jealousy, no competition, no silent treatments etc. Don’t get me wrong, every relationship has arguments but our arguments only made us stronger in transparency and communication. I always told her “people always say forever but forever is an idea, forever isn’t something that you reach and it’s smooth sailing from there. Forever is now, forever is every single day, one day at a time. I loved you yesterday, I love you today and I’ll love you tomorrow”
“Really the only reason it worked in those early years is because we both loved the Lord. And we taught our children to love the Lord.” 🥺 omg thank you for this. So encouraging.❤️
I have been married to my sweetheart for 51 years this past Valentine’s Day. What makes it last? We try to see out of the others eyes. We respect the other persons differences. We don’t compete. And we pray and love God. This makes the difference. Prayer solves a world of troubles.
here's several things for making improvements in your marriage Try to discuss more Help each other out more Try to give and take more (I read these and the reasons they work from Pavs Partner Pundit website )
Who you marry is important...I was married to a narcissist for 12 years. Accept, get to know each other well, communicate, respect each other boundaries, make time for each other, appreciate each other, have each others back, be reliable, be emotionally supportive, care for one another, forgive each other, be loyal, be faithful to each other, never take each other for granted. After 16 years unmarried I'm still looking for the one who matches these qualities. Love the one you are with.
@@madelynnazario8361 its terrible experiencing a narcissist but a man with all the qualities you mentioned does not exist. You need to settle for someone who makes you comfortable understands you and does not have any of your deal breakers. No one is perfect and very few ppl are blessed enough to find their soulmate
@@Katarina23 I have to disagree with your statement. There are a lot of people who have all those qualities and more! No one has them 100% of the time, you’ll be doing good to get 60%! That’s where pulling your share of the weight comes in, with patience, understanding and most of all forgiveness. You’re right that no one is perfect. My husband is not perfect and neither am I but I will tell anyone who will listen that forever and always he is the perfect one for me.
This made me cry, my husband and I are celebrating our first wedding anniversary this year, February 13th. And I can't wait to be like these couples and spend the rest of my life with him.
I am now 29 and I met my boyfriend at 26 before I met him I truly thought 8 I was going to die alone and then he found me 😊. He is out there don't ever give up hope!!
I've always had this tiny fear that after years of marriage, my future spouse and I would basically fall into roommate mode and we'd stop being as affectionate. This gives me so much hope.
This is where I'm at right now, it's very frustrating and discouraging feeling like your hope is fading and you're talking to a brick wall. All I can do right now is pray and try to focus on my own growth. This video helped me, especially when that one couple said "sometimes the tunnel is long, and dark".
My best piece of advice is, marry your best friend. I’ve heard it a few times before and it’s the truth. God lead me to my now husband and he truly is my best friend. Even when the years that people say the honeymoon phase would be over... it was never over. Learn to love God first, and you’ll learn how to love your spouse and others better. And when you do that, and they do it, It’s a lot easier. You’ll have arguments, you’ll have fights but try to minimize it. You’re human, ask for forgiveness. Ask God to be the best partner you can be to your partner. Laugh , love , forgive and pray often.
1) Stay intentional with your spouse (don't go dormant or passive with communication or time together) 2) Don't be critical or judgmental (your way is not the only way) 3) People continue to change throughout their lives. Instead of being fearful of your spouse changing, celebrate each others growth. 4) Be open & honest! Hiding things from your spouse (including your thoughts or feelings) is only going to cause more harm than good. 5) Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. No one is perfect. Practice empathy and patience daily. (Unless it's abusive in any way! Then seek help.) 6) Laugh a lot! You're never too old to be goofy together. 7) Be grateful for your spouse. "The grass is greener where you water it." Remember why you chose that person, show your appreciation for him or her, and never stop flirting.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
All of these are good advice, but #6 seems iffy -- like, for example, what if both spouses are quiet, sad introverts and don't like to laugh or be goofy???
Married 11 years now and I know I am blessed because it feels like I won the husband lottery. I have the best man in the world! To God be all the glory💝
Two things I've learned in my marriage to my husband are to be stubborn. Not to be stubborn against each other, but to be stubborn with each other by walking together, no matter what trial or hardship comes our way we are determined to get through it together. (We've lost four embryo babies in one year and we are currently paying off debt like crazy people. 42K in 18 months so far and counting!) The second thing I've learned is to laugh a lot and about silly things. For example, I love tickling his feet even though he hates it! :)
Ah the little things. Whenver my fiance yawns I stick my finger in his mouth/cheek I fish-hook him. He hates it. But we always end up laughing. Thanks for your pearl of wisdom
We’ve been married for 13 years and I’d say actively choosing to meet each other in the middle, talking to each other with respect even when angry, and continuing to have fun with each other has made our relationship very strong.
I was given the advice that marriage should be 50/50, but I've learned that it can also be 10/90, 70/30, 40/60, 80/20 and everything in between, but we strive for 100/100.
In the same way marriage is not about you its about your partner and the other way around. Outdo eachother it works. Dont take my word for it go ahead and try it
@@IntheMOMENT22173 then that’s not a healthy relationship but codependent relationship a healthy relationship is 50/50, anything else is codependent and being with a wrong partner
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Ain’t that the truth. You can be a Godly person or an atheist but if you marry a narc, your marriage is dead in the water because you’re all alone except to be abused. The narc is God (in their own mind).
I don't know about that, but rather so many people don't understand what it means to have a relationship, or to care for the other person's heart and their needs, or to have good boundaries in times of difficulty. Also, it seems to me that too few people are willing to reach out and speak about their challenges, hurt feelings, or problems that they have in a marriage with their church members or their family or their dear friends because they feel isolated, or afraid or even ashamed. But the truth is, having a broken place in the marriage is no different than having a broken leg. In both cases they need attention, loving kindness and help to get back in alignment and heal. It's so important to speak up and get help when we're in a tough spot, but not in the blaming way, but rather in a compassionate and hopeful way so that the marriage can be healed and a couple can move back into that beautiful space together that we see these three couple all share.
I honestly have felt this way for most of my life bc my parent's marriage was completely awful. Toxic. The way they split up was even more difficult so i grew up and said, i don't wanna commit and end up like them. I'm now 30 going on 31 with a fear of getting too close to someone bc I'm afraid it'll be a toxic mess.
Probably it’s people who didn’t do the work up front within themselves and basically we end up choosing the wrong person or are the wrong person... not saying either is a bad person, but it’s not the right person for each person. We don’t really pay attention to certain qualities needed for successful marriages or qualities that blend well with your qualities..
Waiting is not wasting, it's preparation for you to become a healthy person. Healthy relationship consist healthy individuals, and it always worth the wait! 💚
The key to sticking it out all those years is found in how those generations were raised. They had a different mentality back then: when something broke, they found a way to fix it. They didn’t just toss it out only to go out looking for a new one! Back then, things lasted longer. Today when we buy something, we do so with the mentality of it can always be replaced or returned if we don’t like it so we don’t have to get too attached if we don’t want to and if that shiny new thing rolls around, we can always upgrade. The new wears off and we get bored and it’s just easier to go out and replace it than to just fix it. Today, things aren’t built to last, they’re built to be replaced and we’re raised on a disposal mentality because it’s easier and more convenient. We’ve lost the ways of even wanting to learn how to fix stuff because we have such a short attention span and too busy to want to care to learn how to do so.
I'm turning 20 this year and I prayed to God to help me prepare for marriage and to give me info about love. This is what I get within the next few hours. 🥺💕
You asked, He will show you. That’s how God is. Many people think God doesn’t show them anything but... the truth is they really just haven’t truly asked Him. You’ll do well. God will give you the perfect spouse for you just be patient and focus on Him. When you learn to love God you’ll learn to love your future spouse and others. ❤️
Don’t rush, sweet love! Divine timing, you will know. Although I gotta say, I had a few failures first. My greatest advice to finding the right partner (at this stage of life) is only to put yourself first, you must first find peace in your self and your direction and heal any past wounds. Then the right one will basically waltz in your life and compliment the ride. I always thought “when you know, you know” was a little ambitious.. but on our first date I thought “I’m going to marry this man.” And I wasn’t wrong!
Been married 13 together 21. What made my marriage last so long so far? We met at 25. Decided to date a long time so there were no surprises. We worked hard and saved up for a house first. Then we traveled a lot and work on our careers. Then we got married at 32 and kids by 38. This prepared us for our difficult time in our marriage when the kids were toddlers. Not having money stress or marital stress is the key. My kids are 8 and are very happy. It’s crazy how many friends of theirs are living in divorced single parent homes. Many are poor and struggling and you see it though the kids
*+1 :( 2 : 1: 3:) 4: 4 : 1: 1: 2: 1: 3 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here🥺🥺
I just left a toxic relationship that left me with trauma so I decided to look for videos for clarity and I found this. I am proud of myself for leaving even though I had emotional attachment. I know dating nowadays is difficult but I will not settle for anyone that doesn't treat me like the queen I am. I will carry on working on myself and leveling myself up.
For those of you who are single and wondering where their soul mate is, I advise you to stop wondering. They are out there somewhere preparing to be your person even without you there. Patience is key to love, when it comes to; finding the one, dating the one, enduring the one and living a full life with one.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
May I suggest something? Learn to love God the way He loves you. You’ll learn how to love your spouse greatly, and in return you may get a spouse who loves and respects you the way Jesus loves the church. A man who loves God can be a gentleman, who treats and cares for his wife with respect. As long as you put God first, God will supply all your needs according to His will. You’ll be very blessed with love ❤️
Attraction alone is not enough. Just because you feel good with someone, doesn't mean you can build a healthy long-term relationship. You need to align on values, respect one another, and have good communication. I play couple question games like Lovify. And, it actually does help in sharing expectations and build understanding. But, actively listening to your partner and putting efforts into understanding can take your relationship to a whole new level 💗
Marriage is the hardest, most excruciating, exciting, fulfilling experience I could ever ask for. All the lessons I’ve learned, the mistakes I’ve made and repented for, the things I’ve learned about myself and my spouse, I wouldn’t take any of it back. All in all, even the worst times, built me into the man I am and I am continuing to grow. Marriage is taking two stones and polishing them together into a more perfect fit. There’s no such thing as true love. Not like how the stories tell you. Nobody is created perfect for another. We achieve perfection by compromising and by growing to better suit each other‘s needs. By sacrificing and building together until the world you’ve made for yourself is a heaven on earth with you two functioning as the guardians of its garden. Live, laugh, love, and don’t forget to forgive.
My parents were atheists. However, their marriage of 50 years was as good as any. They were completely devoted to each other and they ceased being together only by death. So, if religion is what you need that's fine, but for some folks that apparently isn't what holds them together and happy.
My ex's parents were atheists...and they've managed to stay together for more than 50 years. To me, they looked as happy to be with each other in old age as those couples in the video. Personally (I'm a Catholic), I think I need more than faith in God to last with anyone. I need to make respectful-of-the-other choices, for one...and he has to do the same.
It's always atheists that have to point out that religion wasn't the source for them in any aspect when religion is mention by others. Why? Couldn't you just say WHAT DID keep them together, what was the marital advice? There were other two couples that didn't mentioned religion but you just zoomed on to that specific comment out of everyone. Y'all are like vegans for real always have to scream it at the top of the roof to be validated. No one cares that you don't believe, it's your choice. 🙄
(15 yrs this Nov. 2021) 1. Do your laundry separately. Trust me. 2. Have times where you do your thing and your spouse does his thing. It’s okay not to do everything together. 3. Pray together. 4. Find something you enjoy doing together and do it! 5. You can go on dates at home. Put the kids to bed or put on their favorite movie, and then you two have dinner in the kitchen or drinks out on the porch (or wherever).
I love this! So inspirational ♥️ my husband and I have been together since we were 13/14 years old and we’ve been together for 10 years, married for 4. I’m confident we will last forever because we have already been through 10x more than the average couple and we made it! I love him so so much! We just decided to start our family and I’m just so excited to start this journey and grow old with him! 🥰
Married 7 years, happier than ever and our relationship is even better than when we first started dating. The secret is to FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT...fight it out until there is nothing to left to fight about. The key is to never give up and always fight fair and reasonable. Now we hadly ever fight because aint nothing left to fight about. I love him more every day.
And people these days say romantic love is just a social construct, what a joke. This generation just doesn't have the patience or lacks communication.
Married for 6 years. My advice would be to always show appreciation in the hard times. It's easy to get lost in the world and trying to find your way out of difficult life challenges. When life gets hard make sure you still verbally and physically show your appreciation for your partner. There is nothing worse than feeling like things are hard an no one appreciate the work you put in.
I want to marry my best friend. I don't have a best friend yet but i want a love where, when we're 80 we can still laugh at that joke from when we were 40.
I married my best friend. Truth is we can laugh even if we're miserable with one another...I think everyone has to be their spouse's best friend otherwise I don't see how it'd work on long term.. The problem is, if you don't make it you lose both your best friend and your lover...High risk - high reward
I just loved this. My fiance and I have been together for 11 years (I'm 29, we fell in love as teenagers and I'm always grateful). It's hard to become adults together. I think the most important lesson I've learned is to be okay with growing and maturing differently with different priorities. And appreciate differences! Dating yourself would be horrible. And to learn to not overreact when those differences cause problems. It's hard but getting through hard times strengthens the relationship!!
The best advice I can think of is become best friends before marriage. I have been married to my best friend for 11 years. We've had our ups and downs. Even had people say I was crazy for getting married 19 but I am very happy where I ended up at and have plans to grow old with my best friend.
Me and my wife have had Our fair share of struggles, but what my wife and I have learned is... As long as we are all in, everything will work out. All in with the Lord. All in with our marriage. Miracles will always happen. Sometimes God just needs to work a few thing out.
I'm divorced after 20 yrs. Seeing this gives me hope I can be married again someday. Congratulations to all the couples still choosing each other everyday. It's a beautiful thing 💕💕💕
I’ve been married for 8 years now, (not long in the grand scheme of things) I would agree with all those lovely couples - take time with each other, put effort into everyday with your loved one. We have never argued with each other, yes we get annoyed with each other but we talk about it and usually end up laughing afterwards. Also be best friends as well and husband and wife... it really does help. Talk about your day, listen to them - understand them and there passions. Enjoy every moment, good and bad 💛
honestly, no material value could hold a candle to this... THIS is the biggest flex, I hope everyone in the future can find love and a partner like these folks.
We both love God, 4 months boyfriends and 2 months engage, married after 6 months, now we celebrated our 26 years. no need to waste time of grudges and anger but apologize and forgive = LOVE
Always try to work as a team, never see the other as an enemy or an obstacle you need to overcome. Useful especially during disagreements and fights. If you trust each other to be on each other's sides, a disagreement turns from battle into working together towards a sollution or understanding each other better.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Something that is really important is wanting your partner to succeed with or without you, being interested in things that aren't just common or shared interests but in whatever they are excited about at that particular time. Learning new things as a method of bonding, if she is into a new hobby the (even if you think initially it is boring) learn how to share that joy and enthusiasm, especially early on in the little things. Listening, empathy, just attentiveness in general... treat your partner like they are the most important person in your world and that you always want their opinion or that it is safe for them to share their feelings. A relationship isn't a competition, you are a team and ultimately it should be about lifting each other up. Too many couples I see that have jealousy between one another.
Listen, communicate your feelings, don’t yell, be patient , forgive and apologize, it’s both of you against the problem, not against each other. Always have hope, always pray for each other, be grateful and be kind, love is the only thing you should not save up, don’t hide what you feel and always know that both of you are humans who don’t have all the answers and can make mistakes.
For me love, patience and respect. I had learned that perspective from parents. My parents have been married for 50 years. And I had been married my husband for almost 16 years. Everyday is a learning process. It was not a box of chocolate and bed of roses. And you gotta to love the Lord. Prayers are only way to make the marriage more stronger. Goodluck to you all.
Society has to return to marriage, to family. We need to return to the father. Kids need their father at home. Men need to forgive their mommas. Drop the anger, the resentment, and love the father.
Yeah such a bad thing that people in the past weren't allowed to leave a bad relationship.... It's good that we now are able to habe many partners but you are right, some people need to relearn to fight for their love
@@leonie7356 The desire to have many "partners" is a reflection of the void in the heart looking for fatherly love. That's why we need to forgive our fathers, love him, and return to him. I wish you the best, bruh.
Whoa, this video on love lessons in just 3 minutes blew my mind! 125+ years of marriage advice packed into such a short time? Impressive! I soaked up every bit of wisdom you shared. Thanks for condensing a lifetime of experience into a bite-sized video. You rock
Excellent video! A BIG thank you to all the couples who provided very good advice on staying married to your spouse. It's wonderful to hear how they adapted to their spouses, made wise choices and decided to stay with their mates, through endurance and peseverance - one can clearly see the selflessness. What a blessing to see this today in a world when marriage relationships are so fragile, volatile and temporary. It's been very emcouraging for me because at 54 I am still single, never married and no kids but I remain hopeful that one day soon I will be connected to a wonderful man with whom I can enjoy a happy and blessed marriage - I wish to congratulate these couples on staying married for many years, may they continue to enjoy a good married life, with lots of love, joy and peace.
Thank you for sharing that beautiful video with all those wonderful people and there their love stories. I've been divorced for 27 years and I am looking for my eternal companion and it brings tears to my eyes
Marriage comes with an empty box. Its what each partner puts in the box every moment of their married lives. Tp fill up the empty box with love ...sacrifices along the way...their struggles...etc etc etc. And when old age comes knocking at the door...its time to open up the filled 'box' of everything they have put in and be grateful and thankful to God . AMEN.
As long as you stick it out & choose to look past the flaws. So many times I thought divorce was the answer, but it was forgiveness. There will never be a perfect spouse. A good marriage isn’t about being perfect. It’s about overcoming imperfections through love.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
"You cannot change someone to fit the mold you want them to be."
commenting this just for a reminder to myself
Yes. I see so many people trying to "fix" their partners, "mould" them into what they want them to be or try to change them into their type, which will never work out in any relationship, NEVER go into a relationship with baggage and don't be in relationship that brings in baggage, because neither of them will *ever* be able to fix each other's baggages. Try to fix it on your own and then go into a relationship. So yes, you can never change someone to fit the mould you want them to be.
@@roshnikhader5661 I also think that changing the partner into something that fills up the own emptiness or own insecurities won't work because you get dependent in an unhealthy way that won't help yourself or do good to the partner in the long term. But I think the thought or the rule that says that no one should be going into a relationship with baggage can kind of result in a relationship anxiety. I think if someone finds a partner that he/she loves it is brave to still go into the relationship even when having baggages - even sometimes big ones (if it's even possible for someone not to have baggages at all). It's just all about communication. When there is the right partner he/she will understand. I think it's kind of wrong to say no one should ever go into a relationship with baggages because i think that baggages even a lot of times firstly resolve when in a relationship because they then become very clear. Relationships are so awesome and difficult at the same time because they make someone more conscious about oneself. Staying alone is easy. Relationship is the difficult stuff.
And relationships get so much more intimate when your resolving the baggage together, with the help of the partner, with talking and empathy. Not BECAUSE of the partner.
So yeah I kind of agree but I think it's just about openness and no one should be scared or too cautious of getting into relationship stuff. Because the problem is that many close up for years and they never will get into a serious one ever because they fear it too much. No one is perfect.
@@sonjazeh2975 you have opened my eyes to a new perception. Thanks for sharing your insight
Yes. This was just wow. the lady had my respect!
Notice the physical touch they all still have with each other
Absolutely. The men still protect them. Love it.
Of course. They are in front of a camera.
@@HG-qo9cx Disagree. Their affection is real.
Critical observation. It shows they truly still care about each other. I think their affection looks very natural.
The director asks them to.
'she is the epitome of serenity' i aspire to be that kind of woman 🥺
i would love to be the kind of woman that everyone feels safe around and when people think of my home, they think of positive experiences ✨🦋
I want to marry that kind of women
Notice how “Intentional” all three couples LISTENED to their spouses while they spoke and gave good eye contact… critical in marriage communication along with close physical touch.
YESSSS
This
I clicked expecting to see a couple that have been married for the past 125 years
Literally 😂😂
How ?! Lol
When you can see clearly 3 couples in the picture before clicking on it lol
Saame and THEN it hit me 😅
Thats the kind of dumb I am too 😂
i was so confused aff
1. Eliminate small problems, minimize big problems. 2.Forgive, forgive and forgive
3. Laughs
4. Space
5. Gratitude
Thanks for this list...its gold
What do they mean by space... i didnt get that😔
@@d.h.geetha7678 it means having time for yourself.
For example, fyou want to go on a trip for couple of days alone, your partnet should be okay with that. It means not be together all the time, having time separated makes everything more light. ♡
@@itsnerdbehaviour21 Actually I got it from our pastor who held a wedding seminar in our church and the Bible. He taught us how to make things simple in a marriage, because out there it is too complex, so try to really make your family a place for all family members to share, fun, help each other, full of love, joy, understanding, and being aware of their respective responsibilities. -Each. "The perfect family consists of family members who have imperfections and work hand in hand to create a heavenly atmosphere and environment before we are in heaven." 🙏
I especially agree with point 5, but point 2 is confusing.
I don't think you should ever minimize your or your partner's feelings if there is a big problem. You should work through it with open, honest dialogue coming from a place of kindness. It isn't a competition of "I'm right, you're wrong" it's about taking challenges and learning/growing from them while being respectful and kind so you can build a stable future together.
We got married at 18 and 19, which we received a lot of stigma and judgement for. Yet we've traveled the world together, worked as self-supporting uni students and and continue to build our life together. A few more years and I'll finish my qualifications to be a psychologist and he'll be an epidemiologist :)
When the sweet woman in pink sweater told her husband that he's the love of her life, I think his face just got redder. After 50+ years of marriage, the spark is still there. Amazing!
She seems like the serious type and somehow I believe her more when she smiles only once during this interview and says it.
My tips after being together for 9 years about to be married:
1. Talk about the hard stuff (money, kids, responsibilities with the house etc.)
2. Be sure you're on the same page when it come to each others families (like respect and boundaries)
3. Compromise, you can either be right, or get what you want you can't have both!
4. Always date each other, go out together, plan new adventures
5. It's good to have a life outside of each other
6. Actions speak louder than words
Great advice
What if the big thing is alcohol addiction ?
@@nosiphodywili35Treat it or get out! Raised in abusive alcoholic home…
@@nosiphodywili35 I think you should love them but not marry them until they get better. If they don’t then they don’t really love you
Thanks 😊
I’ve only been married 36 years but I think what makes a lasting happy marriage is being good forgivers
Only😱
Yes that definitely is !! You literally have to look past all of their mistakes and flaws!
Have you ever had to deal with like cheating?
Yh you sacrifice the truth ;)
You have to! My husband is an excellent forgiver. Im trying to be more like him in that way.
Marriage takes two good apologizers & two good forgivers. Coupled with love.
I have heard this same concept from Dr. Billy Graham. :)
thats is so true
You said a mouthful!!!!!!
And whole Lotta God in the middle! 🙏
@Thawne1338assuming they mean you both have to be very forgiving and quick to apologize to one another instead of letting your person sleep unhappy with you
“You cannot change someone to fit the mold you want them to be.”
The most powerful thing I’ve heard.
Same here
Hello maddy
can we get to know each other iam young man 25 years old
“Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time”
Excerpt From
All Your Perfects
Colleen Hoover
i love this
So true
Excellent words!
powerful
Nowadays I feel people are looking so badly for that movie romance that they really don’t try in a relationship and think when it’s hard it’s wrong.
agreed. should there be fights, it's a no go.
@@porschenator so true. It’s so sad.
@@wintersolstice4793 that's so sweet of u ma'am ❣️
Wishing u both a happy life ahead 🤗
Exactly! Give up easily!
this!!!
Best marriage advice I’ve ever heard: “only you and your spouse are in your relationship. So actually it won’t/can’t be like anybody else’s. You two will have to figure that out.”
The no-advice advice. 😂
I remember this one night when I was still in elementary school, my parents went to their bed room and talked. I overheard their conversations, which is basically both my parents agreed not to let any of their parents interfere with their marriage. And now...they've been married 39 years.
That’s kind of brilliant I think
@@otiliadragan7963 it was a game changer for me actually.
I’m just here to let you know I turned the 999 to 1k and it was satisfying 😂
😂😂😂😂
“She is truly the person I always wanted to be”
IM NOT CRYING YOU’RE CRYING
🥺🥺🥺
Together for 13 years, married for 7. My advice is to 1) Understand and accept that you are with an imperfect person, as you yourself are imperfect. 2) Be the kind of partner that you want for yourself and don't keep score. 3) You cannot change a person, so accept them as they are. Obviously, this doesn't mean to accept abuse or infidelity. Just to accept that they will never be the perfect man or woman and neither will you. 4) Agree that you will both do the best you can to care for each other and hold up your own ends of the partnership and discuss what that means to you before marriage. 5) Real love is not a Disney movie! There will be hard times when you're both stressed and aggravated, hot times when things are sexy and happy go lucky, and bland times when every day is the same, and these times come and go in cycles. 6) Commit to date and court your partner for life. The work isn't done just because you've got them. That's all I got. I believe in marriage and partnership, we're better together. Good luck, everyone.
Thank you, I have saved this.
“She is the person I always wanted to be” *chefs kiss ❤️
Really
Omg 😲
Loll 💛
😭🥺🛑🖐️
The woman in peach or salmon has aged so beautifully. I love what the other couple said about holding onto the Lord 😻
She looks like she comes from money. Rich ppl have social circles they are in and have to maintain themselves to impress each other or just avoid being gossiped about
I thought the same, she's gorgeous!
@@Katarina23 stop being bitter! she's beautiful, who cares about how or why, you don't know her.. 💛🙏🏻
I thought she was talking about holding on to the ROD
@@globyzeroivy it’s not bitterness...it’s a simple observation...You’re the one being bitter about the comment. Wth lol
Advice: Even if you're mad at each other, try to go to bed with each other. Whenever my husband and I argue to the point where I don't even want to talk to him, I still want to go to sleep next to him. In the end we always come back together and we'll talk through our problems and work it out. Also find someone who is willing to fight through the tough battles with you.
My parents have been married for 42 years and ive never seen them hug, kiss, or say i love you to each other. Its refreshing to see older couples still expressing love
Oh wow that’s crazy. My mom and dad stays kissing.
Don't give up during the bad times and don't expect your spouse to be perfect.
Hello Karen
Someone said “the perfect relationship isn’t perfect, it’s two people who don’t give up”.
I’ve found laughing together goes a long way. I started my marriage with “helpful criticism” like reminding him to use a cloth towel to wipe the sink instead of a paper towel. And “turning the light off when he left the room” and other habits I found annoying. He said oh yeah thanks but would still forget, and if either of us were tired or irritated, it was a sharp conversation.
A few yrs into marriage I found I could express these same thoughts with humor and love. So now, when he’s finishing at the sink, I’ll say something silly like “oooh boy cloth towels are just such a cool invention, they are so superior to absorbing water than tree-paper!” And we’ll laugh and he’ll go grab a cloth. Or I’ll grab a cloth and do a silly dance as I sneakily tuck it behind the sink for him to use. After all these years he still forgets or maybe it’s just not his priority, but I get better results when I make it fun or silly, it helps me not get annoyed or exasperated too.
Thank you for sharing, I'm at the beginning of my relationship but we see ourselves going far and I think I have exactly the same problem as you. He don't have a logical mind so sometimes he do things and I can't hold my commentary "do like that it will be better" "faster baby im waiting" "baaabyy you can't do like this omg 😩". And it exhaust me, and him I'm sure. When this happens I feel like I'm against him and I see only the difference. To change the mood I need to be alone or come back to my family, do things to resource me. Do you have any other advice?
Love that!
Why drops of water are so important to wipe off?
@@AnnaIsHere we live in a really humid area, so the stuff between the tiles mold if we don’t wipe the water off. We actually wipe the whole counter too, for spills and food bits so if someone puts a paper or mail on the counter, it doesn’t get ruined.
@@massages_for_world_peace8909 I can't believe you had to explain this
Been dating my sweetheart for the last 2 years. From our first date, I told my friends that she’s the one. They looked at me crazy, “wow you went to one date together and she’s all suddenly the one?” they would say. Here we are 2 years later, I gave her a promise ring on our first year as a couple, and I’m saving my scraps to buy her an engagement ring. I never thought I would experience the whole ‘when you know, you know’ moment. But it’s so subtly loud. It doesn’t feel crazy, it feels like.. love. There’s no jealousy, no competition, no silent treatments etc. Don’t get me wrong, every relationship has arguments but our arguments only made us stronger in transparency and communication. I always told her “people always say forever but forever is an idea, forever isn’t something that you reach and it’s smooth sailing from there. Forever is now, forever is every single day, one day at a time. I loved you yesterday, I love you today and I’ll love you tomorrow”
Are u guys engaged now ? 💍 😇
Please update!! How's it going now?
Well no doubt she's lucky to have you, you are very in touch with your emotions. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Update?😆
Are you still together now?
“Really the only reason it worked in those early years is because we both loved the Lord. And we taught our children to love the Lord.” 🥺 omg thank you for this. So encouraging.❤️
I have been married to my sweetheart for 51 years this past Valentine’s Day. What makes it last? We try to see out of the others eyes. We respect the other persons differences. We don’t compete. And we pray and love God. This makes the difference. Prayer solves a world of troubles.
Amen!!!
Amen ❤😊
Aww, yes! Amen.
Amen!!
Amen!
Who you marry is the most important decision of your life time. "Choose your love love your choice." Great video! Thank you
Not if they choose to leave us😒
here's several things for making improvements in your marriage
Try to discuss more
Help each other out more
Try to give and take more
(I read these and the reasons they work from Pavs Partner Pundit website )
Who you marry is important...I was married to a narcissist for 12 years. Accept, get to know each other well, communicate, respect each other boundaries, make time for each other, appreciate each other, have each others back, be reliable, be emotionally supportive, care for one another, forgive each other, be loyal, be faithful to each other, never take each other for granted. After 16 years unmarried I'm still looking for the one who matches these qualities. Love the one you are with.
@@madelynnazario8361 its terrible experiencing a narcissist but a man with all the qualities you mentioned does not exist. You need to settle for someone who makes you comfortable understands you and does not have any of your deal breakers. No one is perfect and very few ppl are blessed enough to find their soulmate
@@Katarina23 I have to disagree with your statement. There are a lot of people who have all those qualities and more! No one has them 100% of the time, you’ll be doing good to get 60%! That’s where pulling your share of the weight comes in, with patience, understanding and most of all forgiveness. You’re right that no one is perfect. My husband is not perfect and neither am I but I will tell anyone who will listen that forever and always he is the perfect one for me.
This made me cry, my husband and I are celebrating our first wedding anniversary this year, February 13th. And I can't wait to be like these couples and spend the rest of my life with him.
Hello Marie, I must say you are pretty
can we get to know eache other iam young man 30 years old
This is what I want, and it’s worth the wait. It’s going to be worth the wait.
- 26 years of being single and still waiting
Same, i'm 25, no boyfriend since birth. Sometimes I would think i'm gonna be an old single lady
Nah, the wait is worth it!
Me too! Yay!
I'm 35. Still waiting. It will come. Have faith, y'all!
I am now 29 and I met my boyfriend at 26 before I met him I truly thought 8 I was going to die alone and then he found me 😊. He is out there don't ever give up hope!!
I've always had this tiny fear that after years of marriage, my future spouse and I would basically fall into roommate mode and we'd stop being as affectionate. This gives me so much hope.
This is where I'm at right now, it's very frustrating and discouraging feeling like your hope is fading and you're talking to a brick wall. All I can do right now is pray and try to focus on my own growth. This video helped me, especially when that one couple said "sometimes the tunnel is long, and dark".
@@Lilacs4 I'm at that stage too. Have been here a while. I know exactly how u r feeling right now. Best of luck x
@@samira201010 Thanks so much, same to you, I'll pray it works out 🙏 let's give it out best!
My best piece of advice is, marry your best friend. I’ve heard it a few times before and it’s the truth. God lead me to my now husband and he truly is my best friend. Even when the years that people say the honeymoon phase would be over... it was never over. Learn to love God first, and you’ll learn how to love your spouse and others better. And when you do that, and they do it, It’s a lot easier. You’ll have arguments, you’ll have fights but try to minimize it. You’re human, ask for forgiveness. Ask God to be the best partner you can be to your partner. Laugh , love , forgive and pray often.
Keep dating one another! Like anything worthwhile it takes work.
“We both loved the Lord and be taught our children to love the Lord”.........Got that one🙌
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Yesssss, amen
Amen to that!!
Amen 🙏
Yessssssss
1) Stay intentional with your spouse (don't go dormant or passive with communication or time together)
2) Don't be critical or judgmental (your way is not the only way)
3) People continue to change throughout their lives. Instead of being fearful of your spouse changing, celebrate each others growth.
4) Be open & honest! Hiding things from your spouse (including your thoughts or feelings) is only going to cause more harm than good.
5) Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. No one is perfect. Practice empathy and patience daily. (Unless it's abusive in any way! Then seek help.)
6) Laugh a lot! You're never too old to be goofy together.
7) Be grateful for your spouse. "The grass is greener where you water it." Remember why you chose that person, show your appreciation for him or her, and never stop flirting.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Helpful👍
All of these are good advice, but #6 seems iffy -- like, for example, what if both spouses are quiet, sad introverts and don't like to laugh or be goofy???
Married 11 years now and I know I am blessed because it feels like I won the husband lottery. I have the best man in the world! To God be all the glory💝
Two things I've learned in my marriage to my husband are to be stubborn. Not to be stubborn against each other, but to be stubborn with each other by walking together, no matter what trial or hardship comes our way we are determined to get through it together. (We've lost four embryo babies in one year and we are currently paying off debt like crazy people. 42K in 18 months so far and counting!) The second thing I've learned is to laugh a lot and about silly things. For example, I love tickling his feet even though he hates it! :)
It will end in praise.
Bless you both.
I do the same tickle to my man hahaha he feels the same way too!
Solid advice! Good luck in your journey 🙏
Ah the little things.
Whenver my fiance yawns
I stick my finger in his mouth/cheek
I fish-hook him.
He hates it.
But we always end up laughing.
Thanks for your pearl of wisdom
- love the Lord
- hold on no matter how hard. Hebrews: things get better
- respect each other’s space
Definitely, you gotta to love the Lord. He is the only one knows our life.
Yes. Amen!! 🙏🏾
Yeah. I like this pair. Someday, I wish someone will tell and utter the word " serene" to me too.
@@8box12israel9 I think the "Hebrews" part was a quote from Hebrews in the Bible.
@@8box12israel9 I believe it may be Hebrews 4:16.
We’ve been married for 13 years and I’d say actively choosing to meet each other in the middle, talking to each other with respect even when angry, and continuing to have fun with each other has made our relationship very strong.
I'm on year 1 and I'm dealing with his addiction to alcohol.. There are people who stay with addicts for years but I don't know if I can.
Such a good advice❤
@nosiphodywili35 Dang that sucks, did you know about this going into the marriage?
"How could you not kiss"
So that's what love looks like.
I was given the advice that marriage should be 50/50, but I've learned that it can also be 10/90, 70/30, 40/60, 80/20 and everything in between, but we strive for 100/100.
Never thought of it that way, thank you!
Tell it! It changes all the time. Sometimes, one has to pick up a little more weight than the other to make it work.
In the same way marriage is not about you its about your partner and the other way around. Outdo eachother it works. Dont take my word for it go ahead and try it
@@IntheMOMENT22173 then that’s not a healthy relationship but codependent relationship
a healthy relationship is 50/50, anything else is codependent and being with a wrong partner
@@FruityHachi no. No it’s not
i always get teary-eyed when i see old couples holding each other's hands and still in love
Me too 🥰
Here’s all you need to know about having a successful marriage: Be a respectful caring human and don’t marry a narcissist.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Ain’t that the truth. You can be a Godly person or an atheist but if you marry a narc, your marriage is dead in the water because you’re all alone except to be abused. The narc is God (in their own mind).
But the narcissist is so charming.
Not marrying a narcissist is the greatest piece of advice ever! 🥺❣
@@benfine2328 are u ok?
Even when it feels like love is waning, treat each other with utmost respect. Respect is the nourishment that love needs and thrives on.
I don't see why people say marriage is bad perhaps it's the people in the marriage that are bad
I don't know about that, but rather so many people don't understand what it means to have a relationship, or to care for the other person's heart and their needs, or to have good boundaries in times of difficulty.
Also, it seems to me that too few people are willing to reach out and speak about their challenges, hurt feelings, or problems that they have in a marriage with their church members or their family or their dear friends because they feel isolated, or afraid or even ashamed. But the truth is, having a broken place in the marriage is no different than having a broken leg. In both cases they need attention, loving kindness and help to get back in alignment and heal.
It's so important to speak up and get help when we're in a tough spot, but not in the blaming way, but rather in a compassionate and hopeful way so that the marriage can be healed and a couple can move back into that beautiful space together that we see these three couple all share.
I honestly have felt this way for most of my life bc my parent's marriage was completely awful. Toxic. The way they split up was even more difficult so i grew up and said, i don't wanna commit and end up like them.
I'm now 30 going on 31 with a fear of getting too close to someone bc I'm afraid it'll be a toxic mess.
Bad people?....based on what evidence?
Probably it’s people who didn’t do the work up front within themselves and basically we end up choosing the wrong person or are the wrong person... not saying either is a bad person, but it’s not the right person for each person. We don’t really pay attention to certain qualities needed for successful marriages or qualities that blend well with your qualities..
Maturation is key I think
Amen to everything they said. My late husband and I were married for 56 years 8 months and two weeks and we're looking forward to eternity together
This is so sweet 😍♥️
I love this way of thinking
RIP
💝
Waiting is not wasting, it's preparation for you to become a healthy person. Healthy relationship consist healthy individuals, and it always worth the wait! 💚
The key to sticking it out all those years is found in how those generations were raised. They had a different mentality back then: when something broke, they found a way to fix it. They didn’t just toss it out only to go out looking for a new one! Back then, things lasted longer. Today when we buy something, we do so with the mentality of it can always be replaced or returned if we don’t like it so we don’t have to get too attached if we don’t want to and if that shiny new thing rolls around, we can always upgrade. The new wears off and we get bored and it’s just easier to go out and replace it than to just fix it. Today, things aren’t built to last, they’re built to be replaced and we’re raised on a disposal mentality because it’s easier and more convenient. We’ve lost the ways of even wanting to learn how to fix stuff because we have such a short attention span and too busy to want to care to learn how to do so.
I'm turning 20 this year and I prayed to God to help me prepare for marriage and to give me info about love. This is what I get within the next few hours. 🥺💕
You asked, He will show you. That’s how God is. Many people think God doesn’t show them anything but... the truth is they really just haven’t truly asked Him. You’ll do well. God will give you the perfect spouse for you just be patient and focus on Him. When you learn to love God you’ll learn to love your future spouse and others. ❤️
@@shell7142 Thank you, God bless you. 💛
Amen 🙏🏼
@End times true lol
Don’t rush, sweet love! Divine timing, you will know. Although I gotta say, I had a few failures first. My greatest advice to finding the right partner (at this stage of life) is only to put yourself first, you must first find peace in your self and your direction and heal any past wounds. Then the right one will basically waltz in your life and compliment the ride.
I always thought “when you know, you know” was a little ambitious.. but on our first date I thought “I’m going to marry this man.” And I wasn’t wrong!
I'm not married but I want this with my current partner. Forever, kind of thing.
Been married 13 together 21. What made my marriage last so long so far? We met at 25. Decided to date a long time so there were no surprises. We worked hard and saved up for a house first. Then we traveled a lot and work on our careers. Then we got married at 32 and kids by 38. This prepared us for our difficult time in our marriage when the kids were toddlers. Not having money stress or marital stress is the key. My kids are 8 and are very happy. It’s crazy how many friends of theirs are living in divorced single parent homes. Many are poor and struggling and you see it though the kids
*+1 :( 2 : 1: 3:) 4: 4 : 1: 1: 2: 1: 3 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here🥺🥺
I just left a toxic relationship that left me with trauma so I decided to look for videos for clarity and I found this. I am proud of myself for leaving even though I had emotional attachment. I know dating nowadays is difficult but I will not settle for anyone that doesn't treat me like the queen I am. I will carry on working on myself and leveling myself up.
If you respect him like a King he will treat you like a Queen
@@biggerbitcoin5126 Not always. You also should know when to leave.
The way they hold and look at each other
It's the look for me!
Every person is capable of being great. Hang onto your person & make them believe they are great, especially when they fail.
"You cannot change someone to fit the mold you want"
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I like this
I would LOVE for Netflix to have older couples retelling their love story of how they met. With each episode a new story.
For those of you who are single and wondering where their soul mate is, I advise you to stop wondering. They are out there somewhere preparing to be your person even without you there. Patience is key to love, when it comes to; finding the one, dating the one, enduring the one and living a full life with one.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
@@benfine2328 😂😂😂🤣 wow never seen this kind of purpose . Good luck guys hope she replies you soon .👍🏻🤞
Thank you for the advice. I will continue preparing myself, while she's out there too, preparing. Hopefully the stars will align this lifetime.
Thank you for this! I really adore and appreciate this comment 😌
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Watching this (21) really just shows there’s hope, for anything. Things just take time, and in the mean time, self care is always the best :)
Right on ! 😸
True!
May I suggest something? Learn to love God the way He loves you. You’ll learn how to love your spouse greatly, and in return you may get a spouse who loves and respects you the way Jesus loves the church. A man who loves God can be a gentleman, who treats and cares for his wife with respect. As long as you put God first, God will supply all your needs according to His will. You’ll be very blessed with love ❤️
@@shell7142 how do I learn that? I was never taught anything about God
Yess, self-care!
Attraction alone is not enough. Just because you feel good with someone, doesn't mean you can build a healthy long-term relationship.
You need to align on values, respect one another, and have good communication. I play couple question games like Lovify. And, it actually does help in sharing expectations and build understanding. But, actively listening to your partner and putting efforts into understanding can take your relationship to a whole new level 💗
Marriage is the hardest, most excruciating, exciting, fulfilling experience I could ever ask for. All the lessons I’ve learned, the mistakes I’ve made and repented for, the things I’ve learned about myself and my spouse, I wouldn’t take any of it back. All in all, even the worst times, built me into the man I am and I am continuing to grow. Marriage is taking two stones and polishing them together into a more perfect fit. There’s no such thing as true love. Not like how the stories tell you. Nobody is created perfect for another. We achieve perfection by compromising and by growing to better suit each other‘s needs. By sacrificing and building together until the world you’ve made for yourself is a heaven on earth with you two functioning as the guardians of its garden. Live, laugh, love, and don’t forget to forgive.
“be sure to buy 2 tubes of toothpaste”
can it get any cuter than that!?
My parents were atheists. However, their marriage of 50 years was as good as any. They were completely devoted to each other and they ceased being together only by death. So, if religion is what you need that's fine, but for some folks that apparently isn't what holds them together and happy.
Father God blessed you with a stable home. Amen, bruh.
My parents still are atheists. Been married for 30 years :)
My ex's parents were atheists...and they've managed to stay together for more than 50 years. To me, they looked as happy to be with each other in old age as those couples in the video.
Personally (I'm a Catholic), I think I need more than faith in God to last with anyone. I need to make respectful-of-the-other choices, for one...and he has to do the same.
What kept them together was the fact that they believed in the same thing.
It's always atheists that have to point out that religion wasn't the source for them in any aspect when religion is mention by others. Why? Couldn't you just say WHAT DID keep them together, what was the marital advice? There were other two couples that didn't mentioned religion but you just zoomed on to that specific comment out of everyone. Y'all are like vegans for real always have to scream it at the top of the roof to be validated. No one cares that you don't believe, it's your choice. 🙄
(15 yrs this Nov. 2021) 1. Do your laundry separately. Trust me. 2. Have times where you do your thing and your spouse does his thing. It’s okay not to do everything together. 3. Pray together. 4. Find something you enjoy doing together and do it! 5. You can go on dates at home. Put the kids to bed or put on their favorite movie, and then you two have dinner in the kitchen or drinks out on the porch (or wherever).
Good advice for the most part, but #3 is not necessarily true -- like, for example, what if one or both spouses are atheists???
I love this! So inspirational ♥️ my husband and I have been together since we were 13/14 years old and we’ve been together for 10 years, married for 4. I’m confident we will last forever because we have already been through 10x more than the average couple and we made it! I love him so so much! We just decided to start our family and I’m just so excited to start this journey and grow old with him! 🥰
Blessings to you and your husband ❤️
beautiful! Wish you both nothing but the best!
Beautiful
Stay out of the fighting as much as possible... talk, but don't yell
Talk to the husband, but without anger. Amen, sister.
Communicate with respect and love.
@@CrystalDatingCoach Amén.
Married 7 years, happier than ever and our relationship is even better than when we first started dating. The secret is to FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT...fight it out until there is nothing to left to fight about. The key is to never give up and always fight fair and reasonable. Now we hadly ever fight because aint nothing left to fight about. I love him more every day.
@@OpiumBride Yes. Just make sure your in TWO that's fighting. 😉
And people these days say romantic love is just a social construct, what a joke.
This generation just doesn't have the patience or lacks communication.
agreed.
Yes, very much lacks communication and patience!
Yes. Too entitled
It is a social contract? How is it not.
@@katielivingston4106 I wrote construct, not contract.
Not me sitting here crying 😭❤️ I want a love like this one day
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Married for 6 years. My advice would be to always show appreciation in the hard times. It's easy to get lost in the world and trying to find your way out of difficult life challenges. When life gets hard make sure you still verbally and physically show your appreciation for your partner. There is nothing worse than feeling like things are hard an no one appreciate the work you put in.
I want to marry my best friend. I don't have a best friend yet but i want a love where, when we're 80 we can still laugh at that joke from when we were 40.
I married my best friend. Truth is we can laugh even if we're miserable with one another...I think everyone has to be their spouse's best friend otherwise I don't see how it'd work on long term.. The problem is, if you don't make it you lose both your best friend and your lover...High risk - high reward
50 years and "how could you not kiss"... Not anything we see today
Hello Joan
I just loved this. My fiance and I have been together for 11 years (I'm 29, we fell in love as teenagers and I'm always grateful). It's hard to become adults together. I think the most important lesson I've learned is to be okay with growing and maturing differently with different priorities. And appreciate differences! Dating yourself would be horrible. And to learn to not overreact when those differences cause problems. It's hard but getting through hard times strengthens the relationship!!
The best advice I can think of is become best friends before marriage. I have been married to my best friend for 11 years. We've had our ups and downs. Even had people say I was crazy for getting married 19 but I am very happy where I ended up at and have plans to grow old with my best friend.
Me and my wife have had Our fair share of struggles, but what my wife and I have learned is... As long as we are all in, everything will work out. All in with the Lord. All in with our marriage. Miracles will always happen. Sometimes God just needs to work a few thing out.
I'm really praying for someone I can spend the rest of my life with just like my parents.
You will found him/her. Just believe.
You will find that special someone. God answers all prayers. Stay faithful in his word and you will be blessed.
Love the way they talk, it’s calm, respectful, a lot of maturity, would love to be like them in my 20s really
I'm divorced after 20 yrs. Seeing this gives me hope I can be married again someday. Congratulations to all the couples still choosing each other everyday. It's a beautiful thing 💕💕💕
Im sorry, How did you get over your divorce? I hope you find ur love soon
Wow. These kind of love is so hard to find nowdays. Love, relationships everything has changed. Bless these wonderful lovely couples
Love isn’t something that is found. It is something you create.
@@JC-li8kk But first, you need to find the right person
I’ve been married for 8 years now, (not long in the grand scheme of things) I would agree with all those lovely couples - take time with each other, put effort into everyday with your loved one. We have never argued with each other, yes we get annoyed with each other but we talk about it and usually end up laughing afterwards. Also be best friends as well and husband and wife... it really does help. Talk about your day, listen to them - understand them and there passions. Enjoy every moment, good and bad 💛
True but some people they don’t want to put effort! Or spend time with your spouse!
I love this. Have you ever had to deal with cheating?
No, never dealt with cheating - being honest and truthful is one of the most important parts of any relationship
honestly, no material value could hold a candle to this... THIS is the biggest flex, I hope everyone in the future can find love and a partner like these folks.
I love this so much! My husband and I are coming up on 10 years and we feel so blessed. If you put God first in everything, you can’t fail 🙏❤️
"The epitome of serenity" 😭😭😭
Hello
The Lord is the core of our existence... grate advice
Artist First Amen!
Amen
Amen
God doesn't exist
Amen.
This just put the biggest, goofiest, smile on my face. Blessings on all of you!
We both love God, 4 months boyfriends and 2 months engage, married after 6 months, now we celebrated our 26 years. no need to waste time of grudges and anger but apologize and forgive = LOVE
Always try to work as a team, never see the other as an enemy or an obstacle you need to overcome. Useful especially during disagreements and fights. If you trust each other to be on each other's sides, a disagreement turns from battle into working together towards a sollution or understanding each other better.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
your smile is beautifil l really like your character can we get to know eache other ?
Good communication, how things are said or things left unsaid can bring a relationship down.
Something that is really important is wanting your partner to succeed with or without you, being interested in things that aren't just common or shared interests but in whatever they are excited about at that particular time. Learning new things as a method of bonding, if she is into a new hobby the (even if you think initially it is boring) learn how to share that joy and enthusiasm, especially early on in the little things. Listening, empathy, just attentiveness in general... treat your partner like they are the most important person in your world and that you always want their opinion or that it is safe for them to share their feelings. A relationship isn't a competition, you are a team and ultimately it should be about lifting each other up. Too many couples I see that have jealousy between one another.
Listen, communicate your feelings, don’t yell, be patient , forgive and apologize, it’s both of you against the problem, not against each other. Always have hope, always pray for each other, be grateful and be kind, love is the only thing you should not save up, don’t hide what you feel and always know that both of you are humans who don’t have all the answers and can make mistakes.
For me love, patience and respect. I had learned that perspective from parents. My parents have been married for 50 years. And I had been married my husband for almost 16 years. Everyday is a learning process. It was not a box of chocolate and bed of roses. And you gotta to love the Lord. Prayers are only way to make the marriage more stronger. Goodluck to you all.
My bf thought the title meant they were married for 125+ years 😂😂
He’s a keeper
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"We both love the Lord and we taught our childer to love the Lord" Thank you Jesus for this type of commitments.
The way each of the couples looks ar each other explains everythig🥺🥺😭😭may God bless you with long n happier life💜💜
Society has to return to marriage, to family. We need to return to the father. Kids need their father at home. Men need to forgive their mommas. Drop the anger, the resentment, and love the father.
Yeah such a bad thing that people in the past weren't allowed to leave a bad relationship....
It's good that we now are able to habe many partners but you are right, some people need to relearn to fight for their love
@@8box12israel9 Is yo momma perfect?
@@leonie7356 The desire to have many "partners" is a reflection of the void in the heart looking for fatherly love. That's why we need to forgive our fathers, love him, and return to him. I wish you the best, bruh.
@@8box12israel9 Did you go to yo momma to forgive her for being abusive?
Lol u sound like a simp.
God bless them. Just a lovely example of what a blessing. Marriage is, family etc.. Love the honesty about them. Put God in your life.
Whoa, this video on love lessons in just 3 minutes blew my mind! 125+ years of marriage advice packed into such a short time? Impressive! I soaked up every bit of wisdom you shared. Thanks for condensing a lifetime of experience into a bite-sized video. You rock
Excellent video! A BIG thank you to all the couples who provided very good advice on staying married to your spouse. It's wonderful to hear how they adapted to their spouses, made wise choices and decided to stay with their mates, through endurance and peseverance - one can clearly see the selflessness. What a blessing to see this today in a world when marriage relationships are so fragile, volatile and temporary. It's been very emcouraging for me because at 54 I am still single, never married and no kids but I remain hopeful that one day soon I will be connected to a wonderful man with whom I can enjoy a happy and blessed marriage - I wish to congratulate these couples on staying married for many years, may they continue to enjoy a good married life, with lots of love, joy and peace.
Thank you for sharing that beautiful video with all those wonderful people and there their love stories. I've been divorced for 27 years and I am looking for my eternal companion and it brings tears to my eyes
Marriage comes with an empty box. Its what each partner puts in the box every moment of their married lives. Tp fill up the empty box with love ...sacrifices along the way...their struggles...etc etc etc. And when old age comes knocking at the door...its time to open up the filled 'box' of everything they have put in and be grateful and thankful to God . AMEN.
It only gets better with time.
Tell that to cheaters
I've been in a relationship for two years and I could not agree more!
As long as you stick it out & choose to look past the flaws. So many times I thought divorce was the answer, but it was forgiveness. There will never be a perfect spouse. A good marriage isn’t about being perfect. It’s about overcoming imperfections through love.
Like a fine wine!
💪 Be all that you want to attract.
"Be sure to by two tubes of toothpaste"
That is the best advice I have ever been given😂😂😂!
This is beautiful! Couples who can compromise and see each other through darks times.
Word! The Lord has to be First and Foremost always 💖
He always should come first. Without Him I know a relationship will fail.
Amen
Indeed! Put God first in everything will just follow, and unlimited forgiveness ❤ .
Except he doesn't exist 😂
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Two tubes of toothpaste👏👏. Find solutions and easy fixes to the little arguments that take away joy.
Do you notice how they are attentive to each other when the other is speaking
The way they look at each other as if they just got married 🥺🥰