Autism + ADHD : Why Autistic ADHDers are Awesome
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- čas přidán 10. 06. 2024
- What are the best parts of spending time with someone who is autistic and has ADHD (AuDHD)? A lot of videos will focus on the challenges of autism, but there are so many positives to knowing autistic individuals well. This video will show some of the best parts of AuDHD, based on my experiences with Chris, who was late diagnosed as an autistic, at the age of 41, after being previously diagnosed with ADHD.
❗️ This list (and honestly, any list) can't possibly cover all of the awesomeness of autism - what do you think should be added? Drop your thoughts in the comments! We'd love to hear the positive side of AuDHD from your perspective too.
*NOTE: This video is NOT intended for diagnostic purposes. I'm just sharing my observations of someone AuDHD (Chris), with the hopes of helping non-autistics better understand how the behaviors of someone autistic may connect to neurological differences. For more on the inner workings of the autistic brain, check out some of Chris's videos!
Whether you have an autistic friend, family member, or loved one, work with people on the autism spectrum, are autistic and struggle to explain how you feel to other people, or are simply interested in learning more, this video has something for you. I'm here to provide the unique perspective of someone who works with some autistic students in education and is very close to an autistic individual - Chris! Our goal is to help people better understand autism and ADHD to live and work better together in a neurodiverse world.
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📌 Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
00:32 The Sensory Magic of Autism
01:58 Fun Sense of Humor
04:37 Unique Love Languages
07:23 Value of time to relax at home
09:42 Honest and Loyal
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⭐️ ABOUT US:
I'm Chris and alongside Debby, my brilliant partner, we've traveled, founded companies, and navigated the world as a neurodiverse duo.
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We’ve been married 14 years now. I’ve just realized recently that my husband is probably autistic. We talked about it, and he agrees that it’s a very good possibility. Many of the reasons I fell in love with him are due to most of the things you mentioned. He’s quirky. He thinks outside the box. He is fun. He has a great sense of humor. He’s very creative. He’s very accepting. I wouldn’t change any of these things!
Love all of this!! It took us even longer than that 😂 sounds like your husband is a very special guy!!! And lucky to have someone who appreciates all these aspects of him 🥰
I bought the cube. I enjoy the cube. The cube is love. The cube is life.
Cube.
Love this ode to The Cube ❤️
I just tried to explain all I deal with being Adhd/Autism on my FB page. One of the experiences I spoke about was how the only place I feel whole is hiking through the woods and the reason why it feels so good. All of the stimulaion all at the same time!! It is so serene and honestly feels euphoric, I can stand there and feel, hear, smell and see. My thoughts can be empty while sensing everything all at one time. Only 6 months unmasked fully and it's a struggle every day but the masking was hardwired in my brain so the transformation was intense for 7 days. So that being said I can no longer mask my autism because honestly I have no clue how🤔🤪🤣 although if i get angry my protector does come out front and center, that's my ADHD!! BEWARE!! He's seroius!!😳🤭 My autism stutters and stammers is smart as a whip and will rock back and forth while speaking to people. Honestly people close to me have said I'm like a totally different person. I present so different than a year ago. My ticking can be minimized just by thinking, writing or listening to music but as soon as my mind disengages it's back to ticking. As i get more comfortable with myself it's becoming easier to be myself. My girlfriends daughter is on the spectrum but she masks and told me i need to mask. I said, you don't understand what i went through it's not possible for me to mask anymore i don't know how but also i said I'm 58 and i have no reason to hide who i am. My 4 year old granddaughter was diagnosed with autism as a baby, she is pretty deep in her world and i have been there it's a beautiful place but i can't stay long because i could get lost. Anyway before i get lost in writing forever, thank you for giving your perspective, it really shows who you are. I am also an empath and genuine people shine through, it's not always easy but you can see the good and its nice to see that. Thank you!!👍😎👻🌶
This makes me feel so much better about myself. Thank you!!!!!!!!
Thanks for this comment! And you deserve to feel great about yourself! 😁
Thank you so much for this! As an AudHDer, this is a much needed ego boost!
Thank you for this! It feels refreshing to hear a complimentary perspective about autism.
So glad you enjoyed it!! And yes - lots of other great things to acknowledge too. 🥰 Any you’d add to this list?
Thank you! I have a ton of strengths and am generally a happy, grounded, kind, caring person but it's so hard for people to get past the uncanny valley and see that about me. It's always encouraging to see NTs who can see our strengths!
Really hoping that more people can understand this!! It can take time to find those people but they are out there 😊
The subject just happened to come up at a family dinner and everybody got a big laugh because I started explaining the difference between a purse and a handbag. It was a very proud moment for my Mom. Then I got a kick out of the fact that they got a kick out my interest in fashion.
Me and my friend are living together since 20 years and we own a house together. He is gay, I am not. Many see our living together as a queer statement, and of course it could be. But in reality, we both are on the spectrum and we just have so much fun. The loyalty you talk about is absolutely true for both him and me. I cannot picture myself living with anyone else. My friend hates noise, and so do I. We don’t have a lot of household machines. Most of the time we don’t listen to music or have the tv on. We love a good wordgame and make-up nonsens songs about our cat. We are creative and always value being creative as more important than cleaning the house. So we have the same level of need to clean. We tend not to make such a fuzz about birthdays or festive hollidays. We rather stay at home than making great social efforts. We have wonderful friends and love us the way we are. We sing a LOT together. And play instruments, paint, draw, chrochet. He is into making miniature furnitures for his dollhouse, and his embroideries are to die for. When we sit down and talk it is amazing. We share our knowledge about all kinds of special interests. We talk about love, life and the importance of having fun. Life is too short not to live it to the fullest and in a way that makes us happy. We don’t follow trends, we don’t need to have all the stuff many people are craving, we are absolutely ignorant to any social status stuff, we care about children, but never ever wanted any of our own. We have a teenage kid that found us and comes to be with us since he is on the spectrum and he feels that with us he can be himself without any preasure or masking. I love my life to the fullest. And of course sometimes we are upset with eachother. Living together with someone on the spectrum can be a challenge, but for me there is nowwhere else I’d rather be than right here laughing with my friend. The loyalty, the honesty, the twisten sense of humor, the constant emotional support when facing every day struggles… it’s all there. And I love every minute of it!❤
This is such an amazing story. I loved it so much I read it twice and then read it out loud to my wife. It’s such a joy to hear about two autistics living a wonderful and happy life. I share so many of the values and lifestyle choices you mentioned and I wish more people were able to figure out what you have.
What country do you and your best buddy live in?
Thank you so much for sharing this. It brought a huge smile to my face and filled up my heart!
So nice to get the positive feedback! Me and my bestie are both AuDHDers and all of this is true!
You describe us veryyyy accurately ❤ , and I think you are a very good person and life partner for taking the time to notice and appreciate all those good things, thank you for what you both do, I truly appreciate you both, you guys awesome blossom 🌸
I love the balance ya'll offer on your channel! I've found myself regularly sharing your videos with people I'm close with (or even those who don't really understand Autism). I have a lot of fun watching you both and I appreciate your contribution to this space!
Thanks so much for the encouragement - so glad it’s connecting with you!! ❤️
Also if you have ideas or suggestions on things you’d love others to understand about autism, feel free to send them our way! Thanks for being here and for all the support 😁
Thank you so much for your video and for the great job you both are doing in sharing your experiences.
Very very very helpful to get a wider view on relationships with neuro-diverse beloved ones.
I love y’all. Thank you for putting out this content.
Thanks girl!! Wonderful insight! Great teamwork!!
Brilliant 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Weird question I would ask on a non autistic channel, but could we have more of the little cartoons beside you or Debbie and less stock B roll? It drives me crazy that the things in the b roll aren't really what is being talked about. It seems... Not honest. Not that you are not, just that the picture isn't.
I have a hairstyle that belongs in the white jackets. I have a really hard time keeping up with it because I seldom think about it. I can catch my reflection in public and be like "omg! when did the jet engine hit me?!"😂😂😂
This made me laugh out loud! Chris is the same - I think it’s a very endearing quality and also helps me realize that if I go out with wild hair or something similar, it’s not that big of a deal 😂 plus it makes our morning routines pretty fast!
@@ChrisandDebby 😂😂😂 a speedy exit, and life goes on! 😂😅
😲😮😮😮😮wait... I'm not the only one... That makes it a little more funnier. Took me a minute to realize...
I really like this video. One small thing grates a bit for me, an AuDHD person - the clips of actors that are interspersed as examples. These all seem to show people acting neurotypical, eg with lots of eye contact, body language flowing freely. If I were you I'd just say your stuff (which is really helpful) and skip the stock video clips. Others may disagree though.
those stock clips are always so weird. i get taken out of the narration wondering about the jobbing actors involved in the scenrios.
my inner world is a anime world 😂
you don´t smell nature? That´s a thing I love about nature 👃🌳
Oh..the smells. So wonderful. Those and the gentle sounds of the breeze through the grasses.
@@faeriesmak yeah 🥰
I don’t generally notice smells that often, especially out in nature where it’s subtle and sometimes I’m not paying attention to it. But for Chris, it seems so powerful that it’s amazing when my attention is drawn to it. Like the devilwood he has described - it’s faint enough and I’m usually walking fast enough or thinking of other things that I might have never even noticed it without him literally stopping in his tracks to breathe it all in 🥰
Also would be interested in hearing more about this anime world in your brain! Sounds like a fun spot 🤩
@@ChrisandDebby don´t know how to explain it xD
My boyfriend who is 61, I’m almost positive has autism but he doesn’t really want to talk about out it much like your husband did. There are some very “anesthesia” qualities he has, also, the child like wonder of things and the sensory thing smells and of course he has intense hearing. Can’t stand a potato chip bag wadded up. The thing I have so much trouble with is the brutal honesty. Telling me I need to put on some make up , that I can;t play keyboard as good as he does guitar because I don;t practice. I feel he puts me down and disrespects me. But when I try to explain it to him, he doesn’t “agent it” of why I get my feelings hurt. Do you have these issues to deal with? And if so how do you keep from getting your feelings hurt?
Chris here - I am also brutally honest at times with Debby. Most of my honesty comes out when Debby is asking me a question, so her perspective is 'if I'm going to ask, better be prepared for the answer.' Sometimes though, I am honest with her about things that I notice or bother me, and I can tell my words hurt her. When this happens, it hurts my insides because Debby is my best buddy and I never want to hurt her feelings. It happens a lot less now, because she's pretty good at telling me when I'm being a bit of a jerk and I try to make changes. It takes work on both of our parts because we have such different ways of communicating, but it's definitely worth it. Nobody is perfect, but you can always get better!
Single men take a note, level up your humor game
These videos are good. But if you had more insight into the aulistic p.o.v. that would be great. Because I'm like... Yea... Of course he doesn't agree with something if he doesn't agree with it wth else are you supposed to do? What do you do if someone says something you don't agree with?
Oh, please tone down the vocal fry! I'd really like to hear your ideas!!