Therapist Reacts to: Forever Winter (Taylor's Version) by Taylor Swift! *EMOTIONAL*

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Komentáře • 177

  • @AcornFrog
    @AcornFrog Před rokem +437

    The line about “disarming the bomb” for me conveys the urgency of suicidal thoughts. A ticking bomb can go off at any moment, unless it is disarmed by someone. In the same way, a person alone in their apartment is at greater risk for suicide, but if there was a person physical with them, that person has a greater chance to “disarm the bomb” so to speak.

  • @ismalaz9448
    @ismalaz9448 Před rokem +814

    It is a real story, actually. Taylor wrote this about a close friend of hers, Jeff Lang, who overdosed and died at age 21. Very sad.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +326

      Oh my God. Wow. Thank you for letting me know and I may do a video about this.

    • @Mravenrocks
      @Mravenrocks Před rokem +91

      This is a very emotional video during the release of Speak Now, of Taylor accepting the BMI country songwriter of the year where she mentions that she played at his funeral.
      czcams.com/video/zp1peBYUT00/video.html it's sad but powerful.
      PS: I really feel you, this song has made me cry a lot but it also has made me feel understood, it's a really beautiful song even though it's sad.

    • @mamab4720
      @mamab4720 Před rokem +12

      Thank you for this information. I didn't know this.

    • @oliviagrace6914
      @oliviagrace6914 Před rokem +3

      @@mendwithmere thank you for capitalizing God’s Name to show Him respect but I genuinely feel so safe around you and this is the first video I’ve ever watched of you. you are so comfortable. God bless and Jesus loves y’all

    • @CorytheEasterBunny
      @CorytheEasterBunny Před rokem +22

      @@BellaKat7 This song is about the process and looking back on what happened. Of course she can beg for him not to hurt himself after what happened.

  • @TheNraveles
    @TheNraveles Před rokem +444

    That “please don’t go” line seriously hurts knowing the story behind the song. To know she cared for someone so much just to see them taken from mental illness and addiction is just..man.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +77

      it's f-ing horrible. rips me apart inside.

  • @patrickkelley2735
    @patrickkelley2735 Před rokem +94

    This song saved my life last year. Taylor has no idea the impact she has and the help she provides.

  • @tobysneed8514
    @tobysneed8514 Před rokem +247

    The vulnerability you show in this reaction is the vulnerability we all felt. It is a heavy song that she tries to make hopeful. Thank you for reacting to it. Have a Swift day.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +19

      Thank you for watching!! Swift day to you :)

    • @spiritwarriors9974
      @spiritwarriors9974 Před rokem +5

      🌹 it's OK but feeling vulnerable and on your own is scarer ... which I done for to long ... I had to do this because it made me think why ??? They a whole world and ... others need helping.....

    • @tobysneed8514
      @tobysneed8514 Před rokem +5

      @@spiritwarriors9974 Thank you for sharing. It is quite a brave thing to do. I love you exactly like you are. Have a Swift day.

  • @martas277
    @martas277 Před rokem +431

    I'm a very suicidal person, these thoughts occupy my mind even when I'm laughing and this song has quite literally saved me with the line "too young to know it gets better". I'm only 19 so that line gives me hope that it'll get better and maybe someday, I'll feel worthy of living.
    Crazy how this blonde lady's insane writing skills have sort of saved me.
    Thank you for the reaction and for getting vulnerable with us

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +185

      You are worthy of living because you are alive. Life is your birthright. You are truly SO young. It WILL get better. Give yourself the chance to see what could happen. Many parts of life truly suck but trust the blonde lady :) And as a 37 year old, I always say that you could not pay me to relive my teens and 20s. it's such a confusing time where you are trying to figure yourself out and I just now feel good in my skin. Even though life has thrown me a ton of shit recently, I still feel firm in my foundation and nobody made it better for myself but me. Trust me, keep on living.

    • @straight_up_geek_
      @straight_up_geek_ Před rokem +27

      This song is special to me because I was suicidal when I was 20-21. I’m 22 now, and when this song came out, I was just a month out of my major depression, so this made me cry. I’m so glad this song saved you♥️

    • @lynnetrathen4587
      @lynnetrathen4587 Před rokem +9

      Wow yes you are way to young to know it gets better, trust me I know. You my sweet have a lot of living left to do. So hang in there as life is worth it, you have the right to live it 💙❤️💙❤️

    • @alejandrapinto7391
      @alejandrapinto7391 Před rokem +2

      you are so young and its true its gets better, I'm 39 and i love life with its ups and downs,u are stronger than a f***ing bad voice in your head,go to a therapist!u are important and matter!big hugs!

    • @alejandrapinto7391
      @alejandrapinto7391 Před rokem

      @@straight_up_geek_ u saved yourself!there are bad and good voices in our heads,your pain and life matter!big hugs!

  • @mollylucittrees
    @mollylucittrees Před 6 měsíci +10

    The part that always gets me is… she says “i”ll be summer sun for you forever …forever winter if you go…” and she names the song “forever winter” because he ended up passing. 😭 Beautiful song and I cry every time. I love your reaction 🩷

  • @beckypeiffer9467
    @beckypeiffer9467 Před rokem +60

    I lost a dear friend of mine to suicide a few years ago. When RED TV was released I bought the cd immediately to listen in my car. I heard this song and had to pull over because I couldn't stop sobbing.

  • @Maikkey
    @Maikkey Před 4 měsíci +5

    My theory for forever winter is that has a happy sound because a lot of depressed people seem happy most of the time she even address it in the song

  • @Akkaylyn
    @Akkaylyn Před rokem +72

    The lyric “He spends most of his flights getting pulled down by gravity” some fans interrupted as when he did drugs and got high he would feel down and even worse about what’s going on, others interpret it as when he’s “soaring” and doing well, things are good but he still feels depressed

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +10

      how did I miss this?! thank you for this!

  • @michelle6337
    @michelle6337 Před rokem +120

    I still remember the first time I heard this song because for the first half I thought it was about a failed relationship and Taylor talking about that pain with a friend and trying to help them over the break up. Then the bridge hit and the lightbulb went on and I realized what it was about. The upbeat production really had me fooled, and it's still probably the most uptempo song to make me cry. I really like that she uses the second person in the chorus and bridge because it almost sounds like she's reaching out to her listeners trying to comfort them. A beautiful song.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +17

      It really is beautiful. It being upbeat threw me too. Thank you for sharing!

    • @jc_80
      @jc_80 Před rokem +6

      To be able to use your lyrics to convey and Illustrate the pain and raw emotions caused in such an eloquent and poetic manner shows just how exceptionally creative Taylor is, her songwriting is a gift and I’d always admire Taylor for her craft

  • @aidenrushing9841
    @aidenrushing9841 Před 7 měsíci +8

    I'm a survivor of a couple of attempts on my own life (this Christmas will be 9 years since my last attempt). And even though I've fought like heck to get to a much better place, there's always that whisper of something in my head when things get really bad. This song hits really hard.
    But, I'm still fighting! Still surviving! Still growing and healing and battling my demons!
    I hope all of you keep fighting, too! Things truly do get better!

  • @jaylynn8630
    @jaylynn8630 Před rokem +62

    I have a special place in my heart for the Taylor Swift songs which aren't about romantic relationships. Romantic relationships are her main interest, but she writes beautifully about all different kinds of relationships, and we don't get all that many mainstream songs about familial relationships or friendships, compared to the avalanche of songs about romance and breakups and whatnot. What I love about this song in particular is how well it conveys not just the suffering of the mentally ill person, which is rare enough in pop music, but also the suffering of the person trying to be a supportive friend, which I don't think I've ever heard a song about. You can hear the stress and pain and desperation of the narrator all throughout.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +9

      Absolutely. I have felt that stress, pain, and desperation myself. It was powerful to hear it reflected.

    • @Superhero-Motivation
      @Superhero-Motivation Před rokem +1

      Fam how to save a life is literally one of the most popular songs and about his pain of not preventing his friend’s suicide! But I def agree with what you said :)

    • @jaylynn8630
      @jaylynn8630 Před rokem +2

      @@Superhero-Motivation It's been so long since I've heard it I forgot that it existed lol. Okay, it's one of 2 pop songs I've ever heard about it.

    • @Superhero-Motivation
      @Superhero-Motivation Před rokem

      @@jaylynn8630 :P

    • @jelly_ellipsis
      @jelly_ellipsis Před 10 měsíci

      @@jaylynn8630I think you would really, really like the song Walk Like Thunder by Kimya Dawson

  • @theohampshire6027
    @theohampshire6027 Před rokem +16

    When you said ‘oh I actually haven’t heard this one before’ I was like oh damn this is going to be heavy

  • @wgrodrig5651
    @wgrodrig5651 Před rokem +72

    I cried alongside with you. I’ve know childhood friends who’ve ended their lives and it’s heartbreaking now that I’m in my 30’s and you realize all the life they had left to live.
    Thank you for the vulnerability, it’s needed in today’s world.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +7

      You are welcome! Thank you for the support and yes, it's so hard when they don't realize that there is so much more and that it can get better.

    • @oliviagrace6914
      @oliviagrace6914 Před rokem +2

      that must be one of the worst feelings. thank you so much for sharing and you are so so strong. can I pray for yall? God bless and Jesus loves y’all

  • @kalen1702
    @kalen1702 Před rokem +44

    As a dude who has many friends but has been in a dark place a long time, i'm glad you understood the gravity and importance of this song. It's one of my favorites and it prompted me to reach out and seek real help for fear of harming people who love me. The first time that I heard it, I knew I didn't want anyone to feel this way about me. I had just never heard it put like this before.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +8

      I’m so glad this song led you to reaching out for help bc losing someone to suicide is one of the most painful experiences and you don’t realize the ripple effects. Your life matters and even when you can’t love yourself, you have to let others love you bc they do. No matter what your thoughts may say otherwise ♥️

    • @oliviagrace6914
      @oliviagrace6914 Před rokem +3

      thank you so much for reaching out. as someone who is so so afraid that my loved ones will end their lives I am so proud of you. you are beyond strong. can I pray for you?? God bless and Jesus loves y’all

    • @kalen1702
      @kalen1702 Před rokem +1

      @@oliviagrace6914 I had a very good friend end his life my junior year of high school and it’s hard. I wasn’t quite that far, but I was trending. Funnily enough, an ex-girlfriend of mine (broke up around 4 years before) helped me through a lot of it since we were so close years ago. Hadn’t spoken to her in years, but reached out as a last-ditch kind of effort and she was amazing. We’re now friends again and I just attended her wedding, funny life we live lol

    • @kalen1702
      @kalen1702 Před rokem +1

      @@oliviagrace6914 and yes, of course you can pray for me! I’m past that point in my life now and very happy. I’m also not religious myself, but I appreciate it nonetheless :)

  • @tamibb22
    @tamibb22 Před rokem +95

    Crying along with you like it was the first time listening. I don’t know how she gets the lyrics so right

    • @tamibb22
      @tamibb22 Před rokem +3

      Also I would mind a video about living with someone who has suicidal thoughts. How we can support them and how to handle episodes- for lack of a better word

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +8

      She’s so good! Thank you for sharing and yes, I’ll get to work on a video about supporting someone with suicidal ideation.

  • @THEREALMARYY13
    @THEREALMARYY13 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I literally cried with you.
    I mean, i had a aunt n i lost her to suicide. I was a little kid, but i already knew what happened and this marked me 4ever. Seriously.
    I remember someone telling my parents what happened, and I didn't understand very well, but then I managed to understand that she wouldn't come back to play with me.
    She had depression, and due to medical errors she ended up doing this, that is, they medicated her with the wrong medicines for her and it ended up like this.
    This was the first grief I experienced, like, it's really hard.
    I only recovered 100% years later, like, 2 years ago...
    Yesterday was the first time I painted my hand with nail polish and didn't take it off, and that was because the last person who painted my hand with nail polish was her, and she's not here anymore, and... Every time someone wanted to put some nail polish on my hand, I always took it off in the shower, because the only person I agreed to paint my hand with was my aunt. You know... It's difficult even if it's small details. It's difficult to say that I lost a family member because of this, because it's difficult to deal with the phrase like "I lost that person to suicide", and the worst thing is having to really remember the memories and trying to remember the voice and the laugh and not being able to. Is cruel. But it's part of life, unfortunately.
    I'm a teenager girl now, and i have probs to deal with, but, I feel like Taylor's friend sometimes, and my friends help me deal with it and it's okay now.

  • @kateg4623
    @kateg4623 Před rokem +3

    I was someone’s last call after they tried to OD, someone over 10yrs younger than me and i spent HOURS in a completely opposite timezone(USA & AUSTRALIA) convincing them to to purge the meds, while knowing they had an eating disorder, and then convincing them to tell their parents and get help.
    They are still alive because I was lucky enough that they trusted and listened to me that night over 5 years ago, and I cannot hear this song without thinking about my other friends who have tried to suicide…
    This song destroys me and hearing a counsellor/psychologist react to this means so much.
    So far, despite the amount of unhealthy friends I have of all ages, i’ve been SO LUCKY to not lose any from suicide.
    Thank you.

  • @heatherstauf2210
    @heatherstauf2210 Před rokem +28

    This song is super emotional for me because I was severely suicidal at a young age for years. I’ve looked into my loved ones eyes and seen that desperation for me to see the light but I didn’t know how to give it to them. Thankfully I’m still here almost 10 years later thanks to those people fighting for me.

    • @casie6609
      @casie6609 Před rokem +4

      I'm glad you're here and I hope you're doing well 💙

  • @amandam.4841
    @amandam.4841 Před rokem +29

    Thanks for being so vulnerable. You're right, being vulnerable is contagious, thanks for helping it catch.

  • @FloN.
    @FloN. Před 4 měsíci +3

    Well, I bawled my way through this. I'd like to add that, as a queer person, I personally read lines "It's not just a phase I'm in" and "Too young to know it gets better" through a queer lens (which would also make sense considering the high rates of mental illness and suicides in the lgbtq community).

  • @catacostinn13
    @catacostinn13 Před rokem +47

    I am so glad you reacted to Forever Winter, this song is so special to me and the way she expresses her feelings and the story truly amazes me. And the way she converted one of her saddest songs to be more upbeat and still have the same if not even more impact, truly blows my mind. Thank you for the reaction❤

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +2

      Thank you for watching! It really is an amazing song and I thought the same about it being upbeat. She’s amazing.

    • @ellaconneff291
      @ellaconneff291 Před rokem +5

      i think it being upbeat kind of symbolises her attempts to portray happiness, and be the ‘summer sun forever’

  • @friendlyneigborhoodbean
    @friendlyneigborhoodbean Před rokem +30

    This song just helped me in ways I could never explain

  • @erin2453
    @erin2453 Před rokem +46

    Thank you for letting us see your vulnerability as you realized the impact of the song. I appreciate it and cried with you. 💜

  • @elliesalb9183
    @elliesalb9183 Před rokem +7

    I love it every time you say that "Crying is okay." Thank you for this reaction. Sending you lots of love and virtual power hugs!! 🥺❤️💕

  • @camilaromero2557
    @camilaromero2557 Před 4 měsíci +1

    i lost my best friend to suicide 4 months ago and this song perfectly describes how everything felt before he went away and how it feels after he left

  • @brucebrown3837
    @brucebrown3837 Před rokem +18

    I was really worried when I saw you were reacting to this song. I said to myself..."no, no, no, this is not going to end well, wait till she finds out what this song is about"

  • @jevonchan2297
    @jevonchan2297 Před rokem +8

    Love seeing a therapist getting melt down by Taylor Swift song 😭🤚🏻

  • @leowingemilo1818
    @leowingemilo1818 Před 11 měsíci +2

    one of my ult ts songs and my favourite from red (tv), and hearing it from a therapist's perspective just makes me so emotional. 🥺

  • @kristinbowles6208
    @kristinbowles6208 Před rokem +7

    I'm so glad someone else gets as emotional over this song as I do, even though I am sorry to see the pain. I lost one of my best friends less than two months ago to an overdose. We'd been best friends since I was 10, he was 8. I'm 30 now. This song hits me hard now because I didn't realize it was so bad for him until it was too late and I woke up to that phone call. His mental demons finally claimed him. It wrecks me to know that he didn't make it to 30 to see that things get better and that he was stronger than he gave himself credit for. Taylor gets a lot of crap, but she is an amazing artist.

  • @sophiemannix4944
    @sophiemannix4944 Před rokem +23

    Thank you for this reaction and your vulnerability. This song is so heartbreaking.
    I would be interested in your reaction to Tied Together With a Smile from her debut which she wrote as a young teenager (16 or younger) when she found out her friend had an eating disorder.
    It’s a sad one, though, so maybe something like Afterglow or even Long Story Short which are about maturing emotionally and navigating healthy relationships after a history of struggling might be good to break things up, too!

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      Ooo thank you for these suggestions! I’ve created a list and I have these on it! Thank you for sharing too ❤️

  • @isabelamartins3657
    @isabelamartins3657 Před rokem +20

    You should react to The Archer or Afterglow by TS!! And I feel like you'd love Phoebe Bridgers and her lyricism

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +5

      oooo I'll check those out. I've never really listened to Phoebe but I've heard good things

  • @albertobuenoduval4077
    @albertobuenoduval4077 Před rokem +14

    THANK U FOR SHARING YOUR REAL AND GENUINE REACTION

  • @s19aa294d
    @s19aa294d Před rokem +8

    loved that you cried on the video, i have so many walls that is really hard for me to cry even alone but seeing someone crying gives permission in my mind or something to cry myself, maybe like you said is contagious, so thank you so much for helping me feel things.
    loving your videos ♡ ♡ ♡

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +3

      Thank you for sharing! Crying is beautiful and a much needed release! I’m so glad you found this helpful and each time you find yourself holding it in, remember that someone out there (me) is encouraging you and giving you permission to release it ❤

  • @sandaskoro
    @sandaskoro Před rokem +20

    Taylor has so many amazing songs about all kinds of things in life. She has a way of putting complex emotions into songs and touching something really deep inside.
    A suggestion for future videos, since you are so moved by young people’s mental health: The Best Day. If’s about her relationship with her mom. I cried one time when I *really* listened to it. (They seem to have a beautiful relationship)

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +5

      I will absolutely check this out. I"m super close with my mom so I'm sure it'll be a tear jerker. Thank you for watching!

  • @kaymarie0520
    @kaymarie0520 Před rokem +3

    You saying “it’s important because people are important” hit me hard for some reason

  • @omnisc253
    @omnisc253 Před rokem +6

    I'd been playing this song in my car on repeat with the rest of the vault tracks and loved the melody and instrumentation without paying proper attention to the lyrics. Hits different once you realise the subject matter. I'm glad people like you exist to help others weather the storm that is life, thank you ❤

  • @PetCrazzy
    @PetCrazzy Před 22 dny

    I see the summer sun lyric as a double reference to depression’s dark seasons and the “light” that gets you out of that dark. I have MDD and don’t vary much in the winter, but my mom has seasonal and she gets so much worse in the dark winters to the point of being prescribed a sun lamp and recommended to leave the state entirely(in winter). I see Taylor offering herself to be his sun as a reference to both the physical sun’s effects on depression as well as the metaphorical sunlight that our loved ones can represent. Funnily enough I’ve often referred to my partner and my cat as the sunshine to my darkness because they are what keep me living. I also love how she turns it around with referring to it being forever winter for Her too if he left.

  • @cruisingwithlacruz1803
    @cruisingwithlacruz1803 Před rokem +19

    I love this video. I know it's hard to not hide emotions (especially on video, on the internet) but being your true self in this captured my attention so much. I'm not crying you are 😭

  • @melandloloveholo2519
    @melandloloveholo2519 Před rokem +3

    Vulnerability is contagious! At least for me it is as an empath that wanted to be a therapist

  • @pastramicheesemonster4873

    I'm glad you mentioned that Taylor writes about more than breakups - Tied Together with a Smile was released all the way back on her debut album!

  • @itsmeeverest8148
    @itsmeeverest8148 Před 11 měsíci +1

    is it bad that i recognize what this song is about but still feel like the song has notes of happiness to it? because of course we know what happened in real life, but in the song, it ends with her saying that she wouldn’t go away, and that she’ll stay forever. when i first listened to this song, i thought it was about helping someone through their troubles because of that part. i’ve never been one to listen that much to music and it’s my favorite song on the album for the tune and melodie’s, but i feel bad that knowing what it means for people

  • @bawin384
    @bawin384 Před rokem +7

    I could relate to your reaction. That's how I reacted the first time. I'd love to hear your takes on some of Taylor's mindful songs. Such as The Archer, Afterglow, Evermore, Mirrorball, This is Me Trying!

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      Check out my reaction to This is me trying! Also, I filmed some of your other suggestions and they will be up soon!

  • @MoyaoftheMist
    @MoyaoftheMist Před 24 dny

    I was going back through your reactions and found this one… It’s actually my favorite song ever. Having been on both sides of this, that bridge makes me feel like she’s cracked open my ribs to expose my beating heart…and then instead of crushing it, she gently cradles it in her hands. Seeing what feels like the worst of me and asking me to stay. I’ve never felt like someone saw straight through me without even meeting me before I heard this song.
    I find it really healing? I mean… When I’m struggling, I can listen to this, and it feels like she IS ‘standing there in [my] apartment’ taking ‘the bomb in [my] head and disarm[ing] it’. Somehow. Just such an incredible song.

  • @g.noeliasilva2407
    @g.noeliasilva2407 Před rokem +7

    I love this video so much, cried with you too!! I'm studying psychology and also going to a lot of suicide prevention and postvention seminars, because people around me and myself suffered and are suffering for it, and I understood every tear you shed and every word you said as well as the thought of the importance of mental health. Thank u so much!! Is heartwarming to see therapists out there who like Taylor Swift too

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem

      Thank you so much for the kind words and sharing! So glad you are studying to be in this field and even though what you’ve gone through is painful, your life experiences will make you a better therapist. You can connect on a much deeper level bc you understand what it is like to suffer on many levels. Thank you again for watching!❤

  • @legend9646
    @legend9646 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thanks
    I needed it💜💗

  • @HelloIIIVIII
    @HelloIIIVIII Před 18 dny

    This song and Castle Crumblings, have been my solace, just hearing someone say that they are willing to stay... just because they love me...reminded me that I have worth during times where thats a struggle to believe.

  • @colleenanne360
    @colleenanne360 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This song really is a masterpiece and is criminally underrated. Wish more people knew this side of Taylor Swift. She doesn't just write songs about her exes.

  • @Elda_Reid
    @Elda_Reid Před 2 měsíci

    It is amazing when for normal people sounds like a love song, but for people with suicidal thoughts like me or for ppl who lived with suicidal people instantly get what this song truly meant. It sucks that I have suicidal thought after i get older tho instead of when I Was younger

  • @mikayrebato
    @mikayrebato Před rokem

    I cried too. Thank you Mere for this video. I really appreciate your Taylor reaction videos. ♥️

  • @Daydreamingmoments
    @Daydreamingmoments Před rokem +1

    This song is so beautiful.. I used to have these thoughts daily when I was young (now 36 and happy!) I was harming myself and not near happy. I had a friend back then who went through the same. This song reminds me of her.. how I got the help I needed and it worked and she got help. Period. It didn’t help her as it helped me and she couldn’t live on anymore.. 😢 we hadn’t been in contact for many years, but when I heard the news through a mutual friend I broke.. 😢

  • @kxue
    @kxue Před rokem +1

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. I came across your channel today, and I'm crying with you. Sending hugs your way ❤️

  • @legend9646
    @legend9646 Před rokem +3

    Your reaction is so good and vulnerable

  • @gretafaith5237
    @gretafaith5237 Před rokem +4

    a little late on this comment, but please never be hesitant to take a moment or stop a song if it's triggering or you need to feel your emotions. as much as vulnerability is important, boundaries are important too!!! love your videos and sending you love

  • @marrymetaylor
    @marrymetaylor Před 8 měsíci +1

    People are so important, I see alot of things in my friends and I start to get worried😢

  • @kellye.5678
    @kellye.5678 Před rokem +1

    I’ve been bingeing your videos and I love how in depth you go with your reactions. Forever winter is one of my favorite songs. beautiful upbeat melody with such a sad story. I just love this song

  • @lynoir1204
    @lynoir1204 Před rokem +10

    Hey, don't worry about crying and being vulnerable at this level on video! It's just like you said, it is important to talk about and also be a real human with feelings talking about it, its totally understandable
    P.s. btw, I've watched ur three reactions and I loved it, so keep going!

  • @RedHeadThriller10
    @RedHeadThriller10 Před rokem +2

    I couldn't help but cry with you. It's been a minute since I cried and this song really hurts because I had so many friends and loved ones lost their lives...
    You're such a beautiful soul and also bittersweet symphony is on my top five

  • @user-js1wy6kf4k
    @user-js1wy6kf4k Před rokem +1

    Your cry is so beautiful and crying is literally the POINT of healing.

  • @angelrejected
    @angelrejected Před rokem +1

    This is my "prequel" to "Bigger Than The Whole Sky," both about a dear friend who took his life at only 20 in his apartment.
    The hardest lyrics for me, as a friend who forever wonders if I could have helped even a little if I'd recognized what a cry for help felt like so young:
    "Too young to know it gets better. I'll be summer sun for you forever. Forever winter if you go," and, "I've got a lot to pine about, I've got a lot to live without: I'm never gonna meet what would've been, could've been, what should've been you."

  • @kolinacicero4820
    @kolinacicero4820 Před rokem +2

    LOVE YOU, thank you for this. You're amazing.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      I love YOU!!! thank you for being such a huge support for me ♥️♥️♥️

  • @ryanthomason4379
    @ryanthomason4379 Před rokem +2

    I really thought this was about someone coming out and ultimately dying by suicide afterwards. "Not just a phase I'm in" gave me the impression that he was coming out or had came out recently. I can't tell you how many people told me that I was "just in a phase" after I came out. Especially when the substance came into the picture - it was a break from the reality and wishing things could go back to the way it was. "Why fall in love just so it can go away" gave me references to coming out, too, as a way of seeing friends/family leave you after you tell them your truth.

  • @dethebare3865
    @dethebare3865 Před rokem +5

    Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem

      Aww thank you! Thank you for watching and subscribing 🤍

  • @marianajera9526
    @marianajera9526 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I lost two sisters to suicide and most recently my brother to alcoholism. He was 34. We tried so hard to help him. One of my other brothers is on the same path and God it breaks my heart. I do have chronic SI so I get that those thoughts can be there constantly. Crying so hard for all of us who have been through this kind of loss and those of us who struggle with these thoughts.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před 8 měsíci +2

      Sending you so much love bc it’s incredibly hard to handle this loss on so many levels. My heart aches for everyone that has to experience this. Would you consider buying my book? I think it would help you about the alcoholism part at least. No pressure, just a thought. Sending you ♥️

    • @marianajera9526
      @marianajera9526 Před 8 měsíci

      I’m definitely going to get your book. Alcoholism and other substance use is rampant in my family and with many of my clients. I know it’ll be helpful 💖 thank you 💕

  • @ianmcelwee2910
    @ianmcelwee2910 Před 2 měsíci

    I could barely catch my breath when I realized she said “his laugh is a symphony.” My dear friend was a fellow violinist who I met and invited to play in our local orchestra with me. He was super joyful and inspiring, always giving us his best. He even became Concert Master. I pulled back from the Orchestra and went to practice sporadically but we kept in contact over text. However, when my family and I were on a trip in Texas for Thanksgiving I received a text from someone at work asking for prayers for a friend of hers who just discovered her fiancée had died the night before. It was him. I later found out that it was suicide, at the young age of 25. I then had to notify the other members of the Orchestra and process all of this at the age of seventeen. Thank God I have the family and friends that I do. This was one of the hardest experiences I have ever been through. Forever Winter is beautiful because she had a chance to help him. However, sometimes they hide behind their walls so well that no one knows till they are gone.
    If you are struggling with these thought and darknesses of depression please know that even though you may not believe it, taking your life will not end your sadness, but shatter it into a million shards of glass which penetrate those who you didn’t know loved you. You are loved. I promise.

  • @kathytr616
    @kathytr616 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this video 🥺 this song expresses alot of my anxiety in life. I'm 25. Lost my dad due to a drug overdose- it caused him to have a stroke which paralysed him head to toe before passing. My older brother struggled with a methamphetamine addiction, it went to the point where it wasn't safe for us to live with him. And now his 18yr old son who is my nephew, is living with me. so scared of losing him. Worried about him and my younger brother. Pray all the time they don't follow the wrong path, trying my best to be like Taylor says, a summer sun- to just be present, a light and source of love for them.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      Oh Kathy, you’ve been through so much. I’ve dealt with so much pain around addiction and it’s so hard. I’m so sorry about your Dad and that you know this experience all too well. Please take care of yourself. Please watch my videos on loving an addict and know that we ultimately have no control in life and they are responsible for the choices they make. It is seriously the hardest thing to watch and the fears around the future can consume you but you are doing what you need to do. Keep it simple - give love and be present but know that you must show love to yourself too bc you have also been impacted and are living in the shadows of addiction, being collateral damage. It isn’t fair. You must have firm boundaries and staying away and letting your brother feel the consequences of his actions is an act of love. It doesn’t always feel that way but it is. Im sending you so much love!!!!!!!

    • @kathytr616
      @kathytr616 Před rokem

      @@mendwithmerewow! thank you Mere for the kind words and all the work you do! It means so much!!! ♥️

  • @C-Iris
    @C-Iris Před rokem +2

    Thanks for this reaction! 'Vulnerability' is a word and trait with which I have had a rocky relationship hehe but since going to therapy and now also watch this video, I do really appreciate you decided to share it with us because it made me fully realize that vulnerability allows empathy too.
    In another note, the upbeat music for this song has definitely distracted me from understanding the lyrics before, so thank you also for that :)

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      So glad you found this helpful. The more we are our authentic selves, the better. ♥️

  • @oliviagrace6914
    @oliviagrace6914 Před rokem +3

    I genuinely feel so safe around you and this is the first video I’ve ever watched of you. you are so comfortable. God bless and Jesus loves y’all

  • @user-ui5zr7mi1d
    @user-ui5zr7mi1d Před 10 měsíci +1

    It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship you can be hurt by losing a friend or a family member

  • @casie6609
    @casie6609 Před rokem +2

    I just listened to this song for the first time today. I didn't even know it was about suicide. I was preoccupied and wasn't paying attention to some of the lyrics, but I just assumed it was a love song. Him going, being him leaving her, not him committing suicide. So sad. It's obvious now listening to it again. For anyone feeling this way, even if you are alone, I hope you can find some meaning to live for yourself because you matter so much. Things won't always be the way that they are now. 🖤

  • @lynnetrathen4587
    @lynnetrathen4587 Před rokem +1

    One of the things we find very hard in life, is to realise you can’t fix what you didn’t break 🤷🏻‍♀️ being there as his friend was all you could do. Obviously he was living his own horror and couldn’t get past it. My best friends son committed suicide at age 25 we were devastated, the week before we had caught up with him and was telling him how good he was looking and was returning to the same guy we loved 🤦🏻‍♀️😢 you can’t stop them 😭😭 it took a long time to forgive ourselves for not seeing the truth and move on BUT we eventually did 🙂 this song is awesome

  • @DiannaDoyleFNP
    @DiannaDoyleFNP Před 7 dny

    She was only 21 or 22 when she wrote this. My God! Red was released in 2012. So very sad.

  • @rturney6376
    @rturney6376 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Mere - you are such a hero 🦸‍♀️ for being ing human in this video. Xoxo 😘 😓😓😓😓😓❤️❤️❤️🙌🙏😘😘😘😘

  • @diannakaplan8853
    @diannakaplan8853 Před 7 měsíci

    I've always suffered from depression and anxiety and can relate to feeling like those you love will be better if you were no longer alive to burden them. It was when I was much younger and with each day that passes and I have grown closer to those I love in my life I realize just how wrong my feelings were back then. Having been in that position I can relate to both individuals points of view in the song.

  • @bchris7350
    @bchris7350 Před rokem +1

    I was not prepared for this at all

  • @jordanleigh6058
    @jordanleigh6058 Před 6 měsíci

    This song really hits hard. My dad passed April 9, 2021 of a drug overdose as well. They said it was a suicide but there was no note or anything and it was very sudden. But they had found fentanyl in my dads system the night that he died. And knowing this song came out later in 2021 in November, I really just felt super connected to this song immediately, and with having those mental health struggles with suicidal thoughts and ideation, it just really hit my bones. She is such an amazing songwriter and as hard as this so g is to listen to, its also the song that really helped me to cope with my dads death.

  • @karlasilva1751
    @karlasilva1751 Před rokem +5

    this song makes me SO sad in so many ways

  • @Fionabejeweled2001
    @Fionabejeweled2001 Před rokem

    I moved to the US from Ireland in 2016 and started school there April 13th 2019 my friend in Ireland hung himself he was only 17 when he took his own life nobody knows why he did it everyone saw him as happy nobody knew he was breaking down until the day he took his own life. This song does relate because of what happened to my friend i couldn't go to his funeral in person because i was in the U.S and the flight would be expensive and my passport expired i live streamed it from the church the song is relatable because if I could go back in time and be summer sun for him i would

  • @heidiclement4923
    @heidiclement4923 Před rokem +1

    @mend with mere You should do Tied Together With a Smile

  • @devon6152
    @devon6152 Před měsícem

    Don't mess with Taylor. She won't start it but she'll ride the road that takes her to the end.

  • @feelingReckless13
    @feelingReckless13 Před rokem

    When this album/song came out it was only a few weeks after a shocking and violent s*ic*de in my community. They were the first person I knew from my peer group to die in that way and it absolutely wrecked me (I had the misfortune of being one of the few who was exposed to some of the horrific details which definitely made it worse for me) It's been nearly a year and I've only just allowed myself to think about this song in the context of that person, at the time it was simply too painful. He was a wonderful person - probably the best person I knew - it still doesn't make sense. Taylor expressed a lot of the things I wish I could've said to him in this song - and I know I'm not the only one.

  • @bchris7350
    @bchris7350 Před rokem

    I don’t want to talk about them because then they might come true 🥺

  • @crownguardsfandom959
    @crownguardsfandom959 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Really hoping youd do LAST KISS by Mother Taylor

  • @tiff5756
    @tiff5756 Před rokem

    I reached out to a friend one night asking to hang out and the next morning got a call from my sister crying, telling me he took his life. He was a mutual friend of ours. Only 18. I had no idea he was feeling that way and wished I had reached out sooner. So many songs of hers resonate with me, but this one is so devastating and made me an emotional mess.

  • @jhariette
    @jhariette Před rokem +1

    Taylor wrote that song for a friend that took his life sadly.....

  • @ianmaomay1588
    @ianmaomay1588 Před rokem +2

    Taylor has this habit of making bop music with dark meaning. You will be confused whether you’re about to cry or what.

  • @catsinni
    @catsinni Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you for listening to this song, this song means a lot to me ):

  • @maxbaxter2003
    @maxbaxter2003 Před 7 měsíci

    4:48 when I'm sad, I try to make a joke or something but at this moment In the video is definitely meme material

  • @alexandercossio8915
    @alexandercossio8915 Před 5 měsíci +1

    React the song called "Soon you'll get better" from the album lover, i really hope that you react to that, cause i really love the song and the meaning, and i really love your video ❤

  • @girlasf
    @girlasf Před rokem +5

    omg please react to funeral by phoebe bridgers

  • @tzking7640
    @tzking7640 Před rokem

    I'm 26. Not really young and I don't really have hope for things to get better 😕

  • @delacruzgarcia186
    @delacruzgarcia186 Před rokem

    React to long live please. It's a very emotional song too.

  • @taytaywinchester8214
    @taytaywinchester8214 Před rokem

    You should react to Villain In Me by Tenille Townes!

  • @tinformentos1272
    @tinformentos1272 Před rokem +7

    can you react to Ronan by Taylor Swift?

    • @aljayfeverdeflor1743
      @aljayfeverdeflor1743 Před rokem

      this is so emotional, losing someone as pure as an innocent child. i can't fathom the thought of his parents during the time

    • @lisafriedrichs4123
      @lisafriedrichs4123 Před rokem

      OMW I listened to this song while at work one day ... I just cried and cried

  • @jeannovamusic
    @jeannovamusic Před 10 měsíci

    This song reminds me of me and my best friend. She always says "oh god we're literally forever winter" and tbh she's right. Fuck.

  • @DolceAnz
    @DolceAnz Před 11 měsíci

    Who is this song about?

  • @Scivolemulo
    @Scivolemulo Před rokem

    I can't even listen to this song. 💔

  • @WaysToHeal
    @WaysToHeal Před 11 měsíci

    Hi. Can you do a reaction for Sara Bareilles song? specially the "She Used to be Mine" "Gravity" and "Someone Who Loves Me"

  • @rociio0355
    @rociio0355 Před rokem +7

    I just discovered your channel, you seem like a very good person, this song is beautiful and painful, you should react to everything I wanted videoclip by billie eilish is a song dedicated to her brother very beautiful.🤍💗🦋

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  Před rokem +1

      I definitely will! Thank you for the kind words :)