Therapist Reacts To: Clean by Taylor Swift!
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- čas přidán 16. 09. 2022
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Taylor explains the song like “When you get your heart broken or you loose someone from your life or when you’re trying to recover from a breakup it’s almost like the same kind of struggle that someone goes through trying to beat addiction. It’s not one habit you’re breaking, it is every single minute of the day you’re breaking a habit and it’s exhausting. I had this metaphor in my head about like being in this house and there has been a drought and you feel like there’s a storm coming and instead of trying to block out the storm, you punch a hole in the roof and you let all the rain come in and when you wake up in the morning it has washed away everything that used to hurt you. And you’re clean.”
Yes! I wish I would have talked about the family disease of addiction which discusses how the people around them can be pulled in and have similar addictive behaviors, only it’s toward the addict, not a substance. It’s so much about breaking a habit. Thank you for watching and adding this!
This is probably the song I am most excited to hear as (Taylors Version)!
Me too! I can’t wait to hear it. Thank you for watching!
Me too. Can’t wait to hear it as Taylor’s Version
this and "you are in love" for me
12 days
It’s sooo goood!
I totally think it’s about addiction. She just created a scenario where the “drug” is person who she’s trying to get over
Love your assessment and honesty. Would like to hear your take on Champagne Problems and Coney Island by Taylor.
Ooo these are good suggestions! I’ll add to the list, thank you!
Woke up to all your comments and it made me so excited to make more content! Trying to decide what to put out next. Do you all prefer the reactions or are you down for me to give info on other topics and if so, what would you like to hear?
What do you class as an addict..... what if that person smokes.a little to give convenience.. because they have asparagus
Another one ... why you have me stock in the middle ... I have trust issues about opening up... but I have tried to keep my circle of friends to a really settled few... but need to start talking about thing
I perceive the addiction in this song is her love for the man who doesn’t want her. Not an addict who she’s in a relationship with
Hi! So yes, I believe she was addicted to his love but if you watch other videos of mine, you’ll know that I am shedding light on the loved ones of addicts since they are often overlooked but still living in the shadow of its harm; therefore, I want to analyze from that perspective…also, bc it’s one I can relate to. Just trying to give different views on these songs that are so layered. Hope you still enjoyed it!
When Taylor says just because you're 10 months clean don't mean you don't miss it is very true like I remember when my mom broke her ankle a couple years after I got clean maybe 2 years or almost a year and a half and she had to have Norco which was my drug of choice and since she couldn't drive I had to go pick it up at the pharmacy and my heart was just beating out of my chest I must have been sweating I felt like my eyes were Shifty like I just felt all kinds of wrong going in there and like the pharmacist was going to deny me picking it up and that I was going to be this huge scene and I was going to start crying and none of that happened. And I was terrified that I would like sneak a pill in the car so I told my mom you have to count these in front of me as soon as I get home and I have to text you every step of the way and tell you yes I'm in the pharmacy yes I have your meds yes I put them in the trunk and then I need to be able to tell you here's your pills and watch you count them in front of me so that you keep me honest. And it wasn't that I wanted the pills I didn't want them at all that was the whole point of doing all the stuff I did for the setup so that I wouldn't do that. And when she says I'm 10 months older I'm not going to risk it that reminds me of when I had to have a bunch of root canals probably like four or five back to back and my doctor for my rehab wanted me to like slow down on the mat that I was getting and start taking Norco for the pain and I outright refused. I told her I know myself better than you do and while at the beginning I might be able to keep my head straight and my actions straight and only take it when I'm really pain and when I need it but there will be a point when I realize that I could take another one and another one and another one and nobody would be any the wiser as to why I was taking it whether I was actually in pain or whether I just wanted to get high. So I told my doctor that I was only comfortable raising the medication I was taking for my addiction and hoping that that took away the pain that that scared me far less than having those pills in my hand so my doctor agreed with my decision raise my medication and that was it and then once I was done with all my dental work I went back down to my regular dose and I was fine. But in that moment was when I realized that my recovery was so much more important to me than I had let myself see before and it was still in the beginning first couple of years of my recovery that this all happened and I know for a fact that had I decided to take the Norco like my doctor told me to do that I would not be clean and sober today. Obviously I don't know it for a fact but I feel that. And I am thankful everyday that I stood my ground and told my doctor what I would and would not accept and I'm also very thankful that she was inclined to agree with me. It would have been a whole other battle had I needed to go to a different doctor or like had to really plead my case in any type of way I think once my doctor heard me say I know myself better than you and I know that this will happen that that's when she decided that it was better to just listen to me than do things her way and I will always be appreciative of her for that she always told us that you have to be your own advocate and sometimes that means raising your voice and using words that aren't so nice to get your point across so she basically gave all of her patients permission to yell at her if we felt like we were not being heard and it made for a much more comfortable situation those people who were helping us wanted to give us our power back.
Congratulations on being in recovery. I know the journey is difficult. ❤️🙏🏻
Love this and you for sharing this. This is powerful and so in awe of your strength.
It’s always made me feel emotional and empowered bc I have always related it to the time in my life that I decided to recover from my ed and addiction and decided I had to love myself and take care of myself bc no one or nothing else could save me but me and how I escaped my hometown and abusive family and changed my life. I miss parts of all I left behind but I’d never want to go through any of that ever again...sadly at times I have though... but this song is still so important to me. I barely let myself listen to it bc it means so much to me, I don’t want it to lose its power.
This is beautiful
I had to grieve my marriage while I was still in it, I had many conversations w/him expressing how I felt unloved, unwanted, and alone.
once I saw that, he was not going to change , that he was emotionally incapable of being a friend/teammate--I was "his wife, not his friend".. that's what he told me, I had to give up any hope that he would go back to who he was before we got married.
This is my favorite song like ever, helped through A LOT
It’s so good
The clean speech saved me❤️🩹
LOVE your sweater! You look stunning!!
You should watch her doing this song on the 1989 tour, including her pre-song speech, which made me cry when I saw her play it live
Love love love. Swiftie here and will support your channel!
Thank you♥️♥️♥️
I relate to this as comparing your need for a loved one to an addiction. Especially a partner who is not good for you. Once you are "clean", even though you love them, and they reach out, you can't risk it because you know they will damage you again - summed up so perfectly in her song "I almost do".
"And I just wanna tell you, It takes everything in me not to call you, and I wish I could run to you, and I hope you know that every time I don't - I almost do". Just that you want to, but you can't do it again.
So good! So painfully true
Love this! I love your interpretations!! Also you are so funny but so in tune with the lyrics as well! ❤
❤ thank you!!
I’m so glad I found your channel. It seems like you are familiar with the kind of thing I went through (an addict spouse who also was a liar/gaslighter/manipulator/controlling. I’m free from it but I still look back and wonder how on earth I put up with it for eight years. I have always loved this song so much and now I realize why.
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I’m very familiar. Going through a divorce right now bc of addiction issues. It feels good to know other people relate.
I relate to this song so much, but my ex-husband was not an addict, he was emotionally neglectful. I lived alone, he never came out of his room for nine years, except to eat and go to work. He didn't want me to speak to him, and he would ignore me.
So for me, that was my drought.
I’m going through a breakup from someone with BPD. It truly parallels the things you’re saying about loving someone with an addiction. Fighting their battles for them and never getting anything in return simply because they have nothing to give. It is so hard.
I’ve been watching your videos when I need someone to tell me what I need to hear. It’s been really helpful. Thank you
I’m really glad I found new channel again Mer, my mom is an attic. I was having an interesting day to say the least.
i’ve always viewed this song to be about the SA case she won around the time it was written, especially lines like “you’re still all over me like a wine-stained dress i can’t wear any more” talking about it feeling like his hands and effect were still all over her or “months and months of back and forth” because of him trying to sue her for him being fired due to her informing his job about his actions along with the fact he argued it never happened when there was a picture of it happening from the line “let the flood carry away all my pictures of you” plus a lot of other lines, i think the point of this song was to write it in a way that so many people could relate to and look at it in different ways
I LOVE this song, it’s so so amazing .
One of my favourite songs! Fave on 1989 🎉
So good
The archer is definitely a song you should react to. Also one thing that is constantly said about it and personally I feel is so true is that the archer feels like a panic attack.
Ah, I reacted to it but can’t find the video anywhere 🙃
@@mendwithmereyou should re-record if you want to. i love this song and i relate to it so much!
Next reaction has to be 'Better Man'. 💚
Ahhhhh no, not a tear jerker!!! 😅 I will add to the list. Thank you for the suggestion. ❤
Please react to the Archer!
Coming soon!!
omg you heard me! thank you!!!
Yes!!! Thank you for watching and your suggestion ❤ there was so much here for me
I think I saw something about Taylor relating this song with the situation with Scooter Braun (?)
Please react to Nothing New ft. Phoebe Bridgers by Taylor Swift
Will do!!❤
I don't know if you'd like to listen to Ronan (Taylor's Version). I unfortunately can't, it breaks me every time
I know of that song and I’m not sure I can. I have a 4 year old little boy so it may be too much but I’ll likely push through bc it’s such an important song and I’d want someone to honor my child if they went through that. Thank you for watching!❤
React to all too well (ten minute version) 👀
And then react to "All too well: the short film"
Oooo good idea!
When I heard this song it made me think of the guy who she sued for a dollar because of what he did to her. Now that its over with she finally feels clean again. When someone has been thru sexual abuse it makes you feel dirty and like you did somethung wrong even though you didnt.
okay this is not about the song, but you're gorgeous!!!
Haha thank you 😊
unrelated but can u do consultations for french people.?
Reminds me of what Jessica Kent is going through at the moment 😢
hey! will you please react to dear john 🥰
I haven’t listened to that in forever! Such a good burn to Mr. Mayer 😂 thanks for the suggestion and I’ll add to the list.
I know you are going with addict point of view but it also works with cheating in a relationship. I know this song for be helped me work through having to leave a relationship due to being cheated on and the dreams we once had.
I can totally see this too!
Have you reacted to Champagne Problems??? I wanna see you cry
Haha not yet but plan to!
react to peace, please!!!
Ahhh yes! I keep forgetting that one
Also would anybody else like their own intrusive thoughts to just fling themselves off a bridge and see if anybody notices? Just me?
So I'm an addict in recovery and I'm a dumbass because I forgot my fifth clean and sober anniversary was yesterday LMFAO. I spent so much time the first like year of my recovery thinking like okay I'll be lucky to make it to 30 days and when I hit 30 days I was like waiting for the relapse to happen and it just didn't! And then I said okay maybe it's 60 days it'll happen. 60 days came and went so then I thought surely it's the 90 day mark that's the day I'll f*** it all up I have to start over. And I realized that in my classes that I was taking in my rehab we had like processing groups a group of men in a group of women so that we could like kind of talk more freely I guess and I remember like they would always ask us every day when we started to be like hi my name is Allison I'm an addict I have 23 days clean and sober for example and I always noticed that keeping track of the days made me more afraid that I was going to slip up so I realize that one woman in class just kept saying I don't know how many days I have because I don't keep track but I'm sober today and that's what I started doing. And when I graduated the first level of class to go to the second level I remember it had been a few months at that point maybe four or five that I had been in the second class and I always gave the same answer but I'm sober for today I don't know how many days I have because I don't keep track. And then the group facilitator asked me to calculate exactly how many days I had clean and sober from the last time I took a pain pill and I was really scared and she said just do it I just want to know the number it doesn't really matter I just want to know I'm just curious so I said fine I'll figure it out and I sat there for about 15 minutes but I found a website that you could put any date into and it would tell you how many days hours minutes seconds until the present time so I put in my my date of November 28th 2017 and it said that I had hundreds of days and I was shocked and it was at that point did I started thinking to myself like okay I'll keep in mind how far away I am from each anniversary and on my anniversary I'll like go out to dinner or something or you know have a self-care night just a reward just for me and other than the first year I have missed every single anniversary lol because I forget. Not that I'm an addict and always will be but I don't have to try to stay sober anymore so it feels really good to be able to forget about it and not be counting down the days of the seconds hoping that I'll get there it feels really really you know like okay my anniversary is in 5 days I'll probably miss it again and still be clean and still be sober. And I'm so thankful that I don't have to think about it everyday because I don't think I would be as successful as I have been if I didn't devote so much time to at the beginning and then naturally let my brain let go of some of the things that I've done that I'm not proud of and realizing that yeah I hurt people I did things I shouldn't have done but I've been much better thought in my life now and will always be thankful that I had to go through what I did in my addiction. I have asthma I have my whole life and I try to remind people that for somebody inactive addiction needing that fix isn't just like oh this feels nice where you know going to do this cuz we have nothing else better to do and it feels good when we do it so we're just going to keep doing it there comes to a point in every single person's addiction where you're not chasing a high anymore you're trying to survive you feel like you're dying when you go through withdrawals from opiates and although it's not typically a physically dangerous process to go through like alcohol or benzo withdrawal it feels very much like you're going to die and you can't function when you feel like that you can't go to the store I can't take care of kids you can't pick up your house you can't even cook breakfast for yourself because you're stuck on a toilet s******* your brains out throwing up into a bucket on the other end sweating to death and having to selectively turn a fan toward you and away from you but never off because that's too warm so I try to remind people that in addiction when you get to a certain point it's not that you're doing this to have a good time it's like an asthmatic having an attack you have to get the thing that's going to save you and that is all the matters and I can tell you as someone who has nearly died twice from horrific asthma attacks when you can't breathe and you know that all you have to do is in just a substance or inhale a substance and it is going to save your life. That's what active addiction feels like feel like your gasping for air the walls just keep closing in further and further and further and you're sure that you're going to be suffocated even though you don't realize that those walls closing in are coming in for you to support you and to help you succeed think of it as like the ninja wall climb from Ninja Warrior may not have much to hold on to but you'll get there if you really try. And then once you get to a certain point when you're coming out of your addiction and your brain changes chemistry again and starts to go back to what it used to be before it can be quite the shock. And I always like to remind people that addicts are not bad people trying to behave they are sick people trying to get well. When I saw that quote in a picture on my doctor's office wall I knew that I had made the right decision and that I was in the right place to get the help I needed because what had stopped me for so long was the fear of judgment and I felt that just melts away and I could be honest with the people who are trying to help me and therefore I could be honest with myself which is one of the hardest things to do but once you do it you'll never be the same then I mean that in the best way possible.
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I love this dong and the speech before performing it live on the 1989 tour is so empowering and the speech before performing it as a surprise song on the rep tour re-contextualized the song to me... this song is so powerful and Taylor's speeches are like therapy 🥹❤️
Here are some of the speeches from 1989 tour
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And rep tour (re-contextualized clean for me even tho it was not the original meaning upon writing it works)
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Saw other mention this already but don't know if anyone linked a video of it
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Hi! Can you please react to Taylor Swift's Better Man?
Yes! Just listened to it the other day
When does it become borderline egotistical to do so? because I believe in not giving up on people but taking steps back from them.
Egotistical to keep protecting the addict? Or not to? I believe that anything can happen but taking space and coming to terms with the illusion (delusion) of omnipotence bc that’s def egotistical. Let me know your thoughts!
Hi, if you have a moment listen to Heaven by Amy Allen, I think it might interest you. I listened to it today and thought of your chanel and what you would think about it
Yes!! I will
Can you react to Hold On Til May by Pierce the Veil????
Yes! It’s on the list ❤
Surrender your life to God. I've never wanted to push religion, but God had a plan to help others love themselves and eachother than understand it as a door to open our relationship with our Heavenly Father
grifting off of taylor like many do
This song, having nothing to do with addiction
"This song, is all about addiction" goes on to explain addiction
Uh.... still not a song about addiction.. but okay
I thought so too. I thought this was a song getting over her SA. But I appreciate that there maybe other meanings too.
It’s okay that we don’t see it the same way. I’m strictly coming from my loved experience and how I relate to it.