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Crying! 😂🤣😂

The trickle down happened to my grandsons at their schools and we are white as snow my friend. It’s not about race where I live it’s about who they think are rich or poor. We aren’t poor by no means but my grandsons don’t hangout with the richest kids in their schools so they get targeted. The teachers treat them like they are garbage.

I read your title as “The rapist reacts”

Believe me I have an abundance of empathy and got stuck in very unhealthy situations because of it. But as I have got older I have been fortunate enough to work out when it was taking me somewhere unhealthy. I had to do a lot of work on myself but it was worth it

The thumbnail i thought it meant something else lol

I’m so glad I found your content. I’m an esthetician finishing up school to be a marriage and family therapist. I just started my internships and boy it’s a journey! Love your content keep it up.

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Well. The Scottish lady who the movie is based upon is NOT happy, In fact I think it's absurd of Mr. Gadd to make a movie about living people.

I love the way you tell your story and the eccentric body language!

So are we rolling up on Agnes and her Momma or what😂😅😂 you have me laughing over here with yo funny self. Love the way u tell your stories. By the way, I actually saw you on the Charlotte Dobre CZcams channel and she posted your videos up a while back, but I'm just seeing it and had to subscribe immediately to your channel. Thanks for the laughs. I come in peace Agnes😁❤

I'm so enthralled! I need more! What's happening with Agnes and the headbands? I neeeeed to knoooooow! 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

Yea i had to take several breaks from watching this series. I started on friday evening and finished on sunday evening. Im between episodes i couldn't stop talking about it. When i finished the series i couldnt stop thinking about it. Richard is a great story teller.

I think your take on the final episode - final scene, is off from the message that it was sending and I'm shocked to see you have missed that mark. You suggest it's empathy, that the message of the final episode is empathy. I don't think so at all. The final scene is portraying what trauma survivors do. We replay the trauma over and over. We relive it intentionally and unintentionally without even understanding why we do it. Our whole identity is now revolving around the trauma and the one thing we want to escape from is the one thing that brings us meaning. That was the whole point of that final scene. He was listening to those voicemails on the way to the bar, again, demonstrating how survivors relive their trauma and wound up at a pub with no wallet asking for a diet drink. Subconsciously, this was intentional because again, at the core of this scene is not empathy, it's someone reliving trauma. Given the timeline of everything leading up to that scene there is in no way shape or form that Donny's level of healing is at empathy yet. I'd argue he's reliving his trauma. Empathy will come at a much later time. This also points to one more MAJOR message. The show, we can all acknowledge that Martha is mentally unwell. Yes, but so is Donny. The broken attract broken. That scene reversed with him as "Martha" shows you this.

This is one of the best real-life-survivor stories I’ve ever seen portrayed on screen-kudos to Richard Gadd for not only getting through it all, but then engaging in the narrative therapy of writing and acting out a one-man play about it, and THEN committing it to film through Netflix. He has a ton of insight and intelligence on describing and exploring the confusion that is the aftermath of SA, and this is groundbreaking filmmaking (and I say that a survivor - and yes, fellow ADHDer, HSP, and bi person). I’m glad there’s a handful of therapists like yourself explaining some of what’s going on in the series, because all of his reactions make total sense to me, though many gen-pop reactors seem stuck on how he “should have” reacted differently. We don’t react in rational ways when we’re in danger when we’ve been groomed, trauma-bonded, and our boundaries annihilated. We switch to flight/fight/FREEZE/FAWN responses-the latter emphasized due to a difference in power imbalance at play. Appreciated this commentary, thank you.

I dont see the serie, becouse is very difficult to me see this tipe of movie… but I thank you I allways offer a hug to people, becouse I need one sometimes, it warm my heart❤❤❤❤❤

Love from London ❤❤

Baby Reindeer spoke to my soul. It bounced around in my head for days. I also watched 'A Friend of the Family' right after Baby Reindeer. My brain was processing and processing. So many dots connected. My monster groomed me as a teen and was in and out of my life until I was 50. I don't share my story where it isn't safe, but I have seen so many people make ignorant comments about similar stories. I am overly empathic and sensitive so it cuts deep when I hear people say 'that person was an idiot. there is no excuse for them. they deserved the abuse. they must have wanted it.' Anyway, watching Baby Reindeer was rough but I am many years removed from my worst trauma and ready to confront it. Shani's video is 10 minutes and 23 seconds of gold! Every sentence felt like Shani was looking right through me. I am going to talk to my psychiatrist about HSP, but he isn't a therapist. I wish Shani was in Colorado cuz I need someone like her! Shani, you may like the movie "Blackberry". It is fun. Thank you so much.

Omg, I honestly don't know what I'd do in this situation lol. I'd probably try to explain that sometimes we use "white lies" so we don't hurt people's feelings, cuz there is no way in heck I'd call my mom back and tell her the truth lmao, mostly because I would be afraid of hurting her feelings 😭

TLDR; I love your videos and can totally relate to this! Also you are awesome and obviously a fantastic momma! 😄 I saw the first four parts of the story in a react video and I just HAD to find out if there was an update, I just feel like I can relate to this so much. When my son was in elementary school he had undiagnosed ADHD and was really easily influenced by others and he ended up 'trading' his pokemon cards with his 'friends' but somehow these trades kept resulting in him not having any pokemon cards which seems a lot more like stealing than trading. I had a really hard time explaining to him that sometimes people just pretend to be your friend because they want your stuff or to use you. He's now an 8th grader and has finally found his true friends and he's super happy but man it was rough going for a while.

I love this series. CZcams just took a long time to recommend this latest instalment! I look forward to more! Thank you! ☺️🙏🏼🌸

She is still little, she doesn’t understand that trad is meant to work with items of equal value

I had to know if a 5 year old has gone missing

Lmao, your “Doing the right thing” doesn’t equal up this go round!

As another man that mug is the coolest thing I've ever witnessed.

This made me ugly laugh lol. The way you tell these stories takes me out, keep it up!

That's the way it is for EVERYBODY... BLACK... WHITE. I worked in daycare and straight up told shitty parents (you and I would have gotten along because you actually give a shit about yer kid) to stop being disrespectful to me, that I'm patient and respectful to teachers because I don't want people dealing with my kids to have a shitty day, know I can be worked with, and not to take it out on my kids. Teachers have a lot of their mental capacity stretched, they have to divide themselves up in every direction for these little kids who need help with the littlest things- putting on their coats, back packs, just keeping them grouped to do this or that is exhausting. Then, after they have all left, there's clean-up, preparation for the next day, and JUST breathing for a second. Everybody SHOULD be calm, reasonable, and understanding to those also raising our kids because that's how they have to be surrounded by these little people all day. It's NOT a race thing. Never has been for me or the people I've worked with- EVER. We will appreciate ANYONE more for working with us

Oh I’m black brasilian woman my oldest daughter is 25 now, but until 8 I have the same problems as you… With the mini karen the white teachers and white moms… thanks for your vídeos ❤❤❤❤❤

After the tea’ im here😂😅

So true, minority mothers are always judged so harshly when trying to advocate for their children or else we come off as looking crazy and not frustrated and upset while advocating for our children.

I NEED to know if Agnes brought the sucker or the headband back!!

Trickle down happens to everyone. We all have to be careful of exactly what we say and do to whom, regardless of race, because people can be awful and petty and make life difficult for others just simply because they have the power to. It's truly not a race thing. It can even be simply a financial status thing.

Get you a new husband that actually listens

Dog: "why do you insist on doing this to me, this is the THIRD TIME YOU'VE SPOOKED ME MOM" 😭😭😂😂

The DOG 😭😭😂😂

Brilliant!

Ive been waiting for this. Also i love the wings 🥰

I havent seen this trend laugh out loud so thank you for sharing love your videos 😊

That was amazing that tells me you are a great person x

Me to 😊😊

Okay, so, I commented on Charlotte Dobre's reaction video highlighting your story and I had to come over to your channel to 1. Subscribe because I think you are amazing and 2. hear more of the story. You are a great mother and handled this situation so responsibly. It's so sad that black people have to tiptoe where white people run.

Dog was trying to stay out of the way this time and still got disturbed. 😂❤

This is not a black white issue, it is universal. It happens to me all the time and I’m white.

I‘m not black, i‘m white. But my parents had to be careful with what they did and said, back in the 90‘s to my primary school teacher. She was white too. But why did i have a hard time and why had my parents have to be careful? Because of my cousins, two of them (boy worse than the girl) were the towns spawns of hell. And because they were my cousins, i got put in the same bucket with them, although i never did anything, i was bullied by classmates and teachers alike… So this stuff doesn‘t only happen to ppl of color, but i do believe that what some/most of them have to experience can ve way worse and its not fair. Skin color doesn‘t matter when it comes to something beeing unjust.

It's a fun time for women strangers, not for men

The life mastery is is their skills knowledge etc

It's not pyramid it's instincts of their generations and culture races, topics etc.

They're emotionally whole, and their instincts one is to protect me, the other is to take out a threat that effects and affects me. Their primal instincts is their parents life mastery and I trust them

Life mastery instincts trust

This is bullshit, don't have time to even see the whole thing

Why are they always getting us into trouble ??? You know after dinner its time to chill for a bit before the bath stories and goodnight my lids think its funny