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What happened when I had a meltdown at work?
Recent changes at work have affected me more than I had initially anticipated. After some significant restructure at work, I moved into a new team, got a new leader, new colleagues and the way I was used to doing things also changed. Changes are hard for people with Autism and these changes were, and still are, a lot.
What happened to cause my meltdown? Follow along as I reveal what happened and what I'm doing to help navigate all the changes at work and advocate for what I need as a neurodiverse individual.
I am learning what I need, what helps me, why I need certain accommodations at work and
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What's my biggest trigger? Triggers are inevitable when you're neurodiverse.
zhlédnutí 54Před dnem
Today's topic I discuss my greatest trigger - being misunderstood. As a newly diagnosed AuDHD woman navigating what it takes to unmask, I am discovering that some things remain extremely difficult for me. Misdiagnosed with anxiety and depression at different points in my life, I found that actually the reasons I felt depressed or anxious were because I was trying to fit myself into a world wher...
What were my ADHD symptoms?
zhlédnutí 780Před 14 dny
Getting diagnosed later in life answers lots of long term questions but it also means that it's harder to unravel all of the negativity that has been created in your own mind for feeling like a failure when you've compared yourself to the neurotypical world. Come with me as I explore some of the reasons that brought me to being diagnosed later in life, and follow me as I realise that my value i...
What is masking?
zhlédnutí 717Před 21 dnem
Just what is masking? As someone who is still discovering what this means for me, today I explore a few different ways that those who are neurodivergent, mask themselves in the neurotypical world. Masking is the process of appearing neurotypical so as not to draw attention to yourself - in effect, to hide who you really are because you find out, through the process of your life, that who you ar...
The challenges of getting a Late Diagnosis
zhlédnutí 113Před měsícem
My Doctor was hesitant at first when I asked to be referred for ADHD testing. He didn't appear to understand how ADHD presents in older women who are going through menopause or who have a history of 'mental health' issues. What I know now, is that my history was actually undiagnosed Autism, not just ADHD and now that I know, I'm learning how to navigate life on the spectrum. Come with me as I l...
How to support your Autistic loved one
zhlédnutí 166Před měsícem
Do you have a loved one who is Autistic? Do you wonder how you can help them? Today I discuss a few ways you can provide support to your Autistic loved one - especially if they are like me and are recently diagnosed and are still learning how to unmask. Welcome to Late Diagnosed, the channel where I explore my recent diagnosis of ADHD and Autism and how I am navigating life on the spectrum.
When I realised it was just ADHD and I wasn't broken
zhlédnutí 465Před měsícem
All my life I felt like a failure, like I didn't fit in. Finally, all it took was watching a video at work and I realised why I felt like I had never fit in all this time. Follow my journey of how I realised that what I thought was a character flaw was actually only ADHD and Autism. My brain was just working on a different operating system. I wasn't actually broken after all.
The REALITY of Neurodivergence in the workplace. Fitting In Isn't Easy.
zhlédnutí 90Před měsícem
Have you experienced burnout at work? Has your workload become overwhelming? This is my story of being late diagnosed with ADHD and Autism and how I am navigating life on the spectrum. Follow along to see how I am working it out. Today I discuss how fitting in isn't easy and the cost to masking vs unmasking at work.
Autism. Just what was I like as a child? Questions and Answers.
zhlédnutí 113Před měsícem
Today I will ask some questions about my early years and give you a little insight into this woman who is working out how to unmask. Welcome to Late Diagnosed where I explore what life is like for a woman who was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at age 54. Let's explore together how I'm finding life on the spectrum. If you can relate to my content, feel free to hit the subscribe button. I'll be u...
I'm not a failure. I'm learning how to unmask.
zhlédnutí 167Před měsícem
Welcome to Late Diagnosed. A channel where I share my experience in being diagnosed with ADHD and Autism at age 54 and how I am navigating life on the spectrum. Join me as I reveal my struggles, my triumphs and the ways that I am learning to understand how unique and wonderful we all truly are.
I'm Autistic? When did that happen?
zhlédnutí 383Před 2 měsíci
I've been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. What now? Welcome to Late Diagnosed. A channel where I will explore what it means to be diagnosed at age 54 and discover life on the spectrum.

Komentáře

  • @kathryncollins8708
    @kathryncollins8708 Před 8 dny

    What do you say after the word "hi"? Listened several times on various speeds and can't tell. 🙂 Neurospicy?

  • @kathysmith1843
    @kathysmith1843 Před 8 dny

    I’m 59 post menopausal woman diagnosed this yr started meds and hrt. Finally I feel peace and joy and the guilt and shame r starting to ease. Yes I have grief and anger but at least my golden yrs will b golden

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 8 dny

      Kathy! I love everything about this! Yes!!Your golden years will be absolutely golden! Thanks for being here. :)

    • @kathysmith1843
      @kathysmith1843 Před 8 dny

      THANKU for documenting your journey it helps others like myself recognise and get the help we were denied. I look back on my life and consider myself a walking miracle in what I have achieved. The more I understand about being neuro divergent the kinder I can b to myself and the more I’m able to extinguish and even laugh at the cruel inner critic that grew and blossomed in undiagnosed adhd.

  • @CarlosBenjamin
    @CarlosBenjamin Před 9 dny

    I use a cup analogy to explain my cognitive deficit to others.

  • @LisabettaMedaglia
    @LisabettaMedaglia Před 10 dny

    I'm 48 years old now, and I was diagnosed back in January of this year...I strongly suspected for a long time that I might have it, because I had all the symptoms of inattentive ADHD, or people posting the memes on FB, and I'm like "....I'm in that picture, WTF??" One of the biggest irks for me, is whenever my husband (or anyone, really) is talking to me, I'm looking right at them, I'm nodding my head and looking like I'm following along...but I'm not. Instead, I'm thinking of 20-30 other things going on in my head, all the while the someone in the back of my brain is singing The Farmer In The Dell! XD I'm on medication for it now, and while it helps with some things, it doesn't seem to help with others, but...then again, I'm fairly new on these things, and maybe I'll need a change of dosage. What I *have* noticed, is that before the medication, I would look at my art space and how cluttered is - I knew I had to tidy it, put things into their proper homes, etc etc., but...just looking at the amount of work I would have to do, was completely over-whelming, and I would just tell myself "maybe tomorrow", but "tomorrow" never came. Since being on the medication though, I've got a little under half of the room tidied up, I've not only bought shelves, but assembled them myself! I still have a lot more to go on my art room, but since cleaning and tidying up as much as I have, it's been making me want to go up there and actually DO art! Which is a good thing because before, my art desk was just cluttered with stuff, and I just couldn't do anything on there unless I moved things temporarily to one place...which didn't help with the situation.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 10 dny

      I laughed at your comment '20-30 other things all the while brain singing the farmer in the dell'. I relate so much! I have found the same with medication - being able to get some things done that have been laying dormant since forever. It's a great feeling to finally be able to get some momentum happening. Thank you so much for your comment. I'm so glad you're here!

  • @BetterNDTravel
    @BetterNDTravel Před 11 dny

    Your story really resonates with me too. I wasn't diagnosed until the perimenopause. I found I was overstimulated all the time, couldn't sleep, zero focus etc. And the big one was that I get bored SO easily, which is how I found myself moving house all the time. HRT helped a bit but from my own research, the struggles I had were life-long. I haven't tried ADHD meds because I'm worried my autistic struggles will get a chance to shine hahaha

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 11 dny

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I've moved heaps too! The longest I've lived anywhere as an adult is where I live now. I only went for adhd meds to cope better at work. I rarely take on days off work. Lovely to have you here, thank you for following along 😊

  • @erinb2887
    @erinb2887 Před 12 dny

    Thank you so much for sharing your story & synthesizing an overwhelming amount of research that my unmedicated, menopausal brain has resisted. You've given me hope. 🙏🏼🤯❤

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 12 dny

      I'm so glad I can help. Menopause has made my own symptoms much worse and I'm looking more into that now and will be posting future videos on that subject. Thank you for following along. 😊

  • @jatorresrv
    @jatorresrv Před 12 dny

    Well explained. Thanks for sharing.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 12 dny

      Glad it was helpful!

    • @jatorresrv
      @jatorresrv Před 12 dny

      @@LateDiagnosed@LateDiagnosed Afterward, I thought that, while serendipitous, your discovery was through a work-related training video. This is mentioned, as work is so tricky for ASD folks. While unfamiliar with your employer on that action alone, it is an employer worth keeping if that makes sense to you. Again, thanks for sharing.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 12 dny

      @@jatorresrv most definitely worth keeping. A lot of work has gone into getting a flexible work arrangement.

  • @naamnei
    @naamnei Před 16 dny

    Good pointers to start with. Subscribed to your channel Have been diagnosed very late in life, a year back What meds are you on? And how do you deal with side effects? Some meds have adverse, long term impact unfortunately

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 16 dny

      @naamnei Thank you! I'm on concerta slow release and surprisingly to me, no side effects (probably one of the only meds in my life I haven't had side effects from). We can be very sensitive to all kinds of chemicals/additives. I'm also coeliac. My psychiatrist is monitoring the effects on my heart in particular. We have a baseline and will keep monitoring.

  • @annamaria1929
    @annamaria1929 Před 16 dny

    I am 62 years old. I have had these symptoms and many, many others my entire life. My childhood was hell and this has lead me to compensate for not thinking like others throughout life. I am going for an official diagnosis next week but for me this is simply for confirmation. two of my adult sons have been diagnosed.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 16 dny

      I'm glad you will have answers. I hope this realisation, like my own, will lead you to being kinder to yourself. My therapist has always taught me to be as kind to myself as I have always been to my sons. You deserve the kindness. I'm so glad you're here. 🥰

  • @BipolarCourage
    @BipolarCourage Před 17 dny

    Can you work fulltime?

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 17 dny

      Hi, yes I can but I choose not to. I work 2.5hrs shy of full time currently. I work condensed hours so I have a day off during the week. It works really well for me and gives me a break during the work week.

  • @kthornley1976
    @kthornley1976 Před 21 dnem

    so good and helpful! thank you :)

  • @tracywilliams9956
    @tracywilliams9956 Před 21 dnem

    I just assumed masking was something everyone did. I’m now realising that’s not the case. Thank you for sharing. I love your honesty (and the yellow brightness in your videos)!

  • @robertalibermann4747
    @robertalibermann4747 Před 23 dny

    I’m not diagnosed but I’ve been masking for 56 years sense kindergarten, and I’ve never felt included even though I have “friends “ in still feel like I don’t belong,my adult grandson is on the spectrum and he can’t mask he’s just him and that’s hard on everyone because he has anger issues and he doesn’t understand why he does,he’s verbal and physical abled he’s 21 but not 😢

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 22 dny

      Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like your grandson has a wonderful advocate in you. I read somewhere that having to fit in to a neurotypical world is traumatic and you are both likely feeling that. I know I do.

  • @passaggioalivello
    @passaggioalivello Před 25 dny

    I have always had to mask because, since early childhood, I was denied as a human being. Even today, despite the masking, I'm still considered as trash. I ran out of spoons.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 25 dny

      I'm sorry your experience has been so painful. Hopefully now that the awareness of what masking is, is becoming more known, people will be kinder to those of us who have had no choice in masking. I'm glad you're here and thank you so much for being open.

  • @passaggioalivello
    @passaggioalivello Před měsícem

    I think an earlier diagnosis could have made my life easier. The neurotypical world is so cruel.

  • @tracywilliams9956
    @tracywilliams9956 Před měsícem

    You made me laugh out loud when you started talking about clinicians being aware of masking during diagnosis. Loved your reaction ❤

  • @passaggioalivello
    @passaggioalivello Před měsícem

    As a level 2 autistic, undiagnosed during childhood, I have never had friends or acquaintances, so no one has ever supported me, but, instead, people threatened me.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před měsícem

      I'm so sorry that has been your experience. Your value is not in the people around you who don't understand you, you are unique and wonderful just as you are.

    • @passaggioalivello
      @passaggioalivello Před měsícem

      @@LateDiagnosed Thank you.

  • @kindbunch
    @kindbunch Před měsícem

    The more of us talking, the better. Huge support to you for speaking out. You got a new follower.

  • @passaggioalivello
    @passaggioalivello Před 2 měsíci

    I totally agree. We're keeping learning because the neurotypical world didn't allow us to be us. And the world still makes it harder anyway.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      The good news is that we are great at learning!

  • @passaggioalivello
    @passaggioalivello Před 2 měsíci

    Hi, glad to meet you. I'm level 2 autistic, undiagnosed during childhood, and I'm still struggling for my legal recognition. Challenges are harder for us.

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      Glad to meet you too! I'm sorry you're struggling. Yes they are harder in a neurotypical world but awareness is growing slowly and you are perfect just as you are!

    • @passaggioalivello
      @passaggioalivello Před 2 měsíci

      @@LateDiagnosed Thank you.

  • @BipolarCourage
    @BipolarCourage Před 2 měsíci

    Did a clinician diagnose you?

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      Hi, thanks for your comment. Yes, I was diagnosed last year. The report is very comprehensive.

    • @BipolarCourage
      @BipolarCourage Před 2 měsíci

      @@LateDiagnosed by a psychiatrist?

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      Yes

  • @DefeatedMelon
    @DefeatedMelon Před 2 měsíci

    1st question: Have you suspected that you might have autism or did another person like a psychiatrist suspect the possibility of you being on the spectrum? 2nd leading question: If you suspected it yourself, why, when, and how did you start looking into the possibility?

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      Hi there, actually I had no clue I had autism. I suspected I had adhd after watching someone at work share about their adhd diagnosis and finding I related to so much of what they said. After discussing with my psychologist, she did some preliminary testing and then my GP referred me to a specialist to be tested. When I had my testing done, I was surprised when they said they'd be testing for ASD also.

  • @TheMsPetal
    @TheMsPetal Před 2 měsíci

    Glad to have found your channel. I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD at age 59. This explains so many experiences throughout my life. Trying to work out how to better manage life. Thanks for this!

    • @LateDiagnosed
      @LateDiagnosed Před 2 měsíci

      Thanks Deb, I hope to help you and many like you & me navigate life after diagnosis.