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Hi. Your videos are very useful. My story is very odd. I was not expected in my family. My mother left my brother and I with my grandmother and my father (her son). My grandmother used to say that I was my mother's leftovers, she hated me because she hated my mother, she loved my brother though. My brother, aunts and uncles mistreated me physically and psychologically, I would say tortured me. My father never helped me from my bother. One time my brother cut my thigh with a knife and tried to throw me off a balcony. I left my home a couple of times, but I needed to come back. My brother is what is called a integrated psychopath for his narcissistic attitudes and more. I needed to take him to court, so he stops abusing me. I gave my father money and my brother took it from him and yelled at our father if he didn't give him money or pay for his bills. He is a monsters with us, but a good person for the rest of people. A few days ago I texted one of these abusive uncles about the abuse they did to me when I was little, since I remember I was 4 years old, and this uncle said: "You would have to prove it", I am 52 years old, too late for anything. My father's favorite is my brother, regardless of his mistreatment. My family live in Central America and I live now in the US. What would be the best thing to do that doesn't interfere with my Christian life? When I have visited them, there is nothing for me, but sadness and bad memories. Thank you. God bless you.

Praise God Amen🙏

✔️All 9. I really thought I was going to end up in a straitjacket. He makes excuses for his physical, emotional, and mental abuse. My children and I have permanent scars from trauma. He strongly opposes divorce, yet he cannot overcome his narcissism and alcoholism. I went through pastors, and elders who didn’t take the time to invest in our marital conflict. I don’t always know how to deal with his sinful behavior, so I don’t handle every situation biblically. I separated a couple of times but he would drink to cope and blame me for his drinking. Eventually, we reconcile but his sinful behaviors returned. After 20 years, I am divorcing him. But my church does not believe or support emotional or mental abuse, so they will not allow my divorce and I will be church disciplined. My husband will remain in the church because they will support him, but I will need to leave the church I love. ❤️

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I recently had to block my daughter from my life. After nearly 19 years of abuse and withholding the grandchildren from me for perceived “infractions” from me my heart is broken. I’m praying for her to remember her sweetness when she was younger.

Praying for them to turn from Their wicked ways and turn to God in full repentance.🧎‍♀️🙏

They truly believe they are god and can do no wrong. They use the word like a knife

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PROFOUND!

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Loved this video. God is just indeed and He is our great defender. 😊

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It's kinda sad that 99% of you believe the only way is to abandon a narcissist. Listen to Kris. It won't be easy. But God is bigger than narcissism.

Please stop using the word toxic out of bitternes in every single relationship dynamic. each and everyone of you does mistakes or has some behaviour that is maybe not ok. What this "toxic here and toxic there" does is everyone flings this one word at each other with a secondary meaning that someone is acting from strict evilness that cant be addressed because a person is allegedly poisoned, deceitful, fraudulent or cattish. Which is not true. People may behave wrong in certain situations sometimes but not everyone is a poisoned villain when you're having an argument or an issue. This word "toxic" is being used way too much for people to think they have to abruptly end the relationship now.

Dear Lord, Jesus please help me heal by making me completely forget my ex, the pain she caused still lingers in me. Jesus I believe you died on the cross to wash away my sins. I want to thank you for everything you have done for me. Jesus please help all those who are suffering. I always do my best to help people Jesus. I love my girlfriend Jesus I need to do this for our relationship. My prayer today 🥹 my ex is a narcissist 🥹

Ask the Holy Spirit to help us read, understand, comprehend and discern t The Bible. Ask Jesus and The Holy Spirit to pray for us. Repent and have access to Father God. Then ask, knock, seek continually

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I saw the title and I KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO TALK ABOUT MANIFESTING!!! THIS IS WITCHCRAFT!!!!!!! This was the beginning of the end of my NARCISSIST, fake best friendship! She is still married to her husband, but has been in a 5 year relationship with a man she calls her fiance. I did not know she was still married… I was blamed when she asked me to have trust and faith in Jesus, when her MANIFESTING THIS MAN back into her life wasn’t working! She said my negativity was blocking the manifestation to take place! I’ve ended the fake friendship. She was spiritually, physically, financially, verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive! Jesus got my attention when she began MANIFESTING! The big RED FLAG, literally, slapped me in the face!

It did for me and years have passed and wasted years. Wish I had found you 20 years ago

Please pray for me I love my girlfriend lamecia and it's hard that she broke up with me and she was always taking shots at me and I never wanted to talk down on her and I've been feeling lately like she's been cheating on me

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Due to my mom being a covert narcissist I’ve been crying every week up until now 2 days before my wedding. All because me and my fiancé expressed a want to move out. And she is upset we made a decision without her when it was up for discussion until she sent mean rude and nasty text messages and still expects us to wait on her for discussion….. but gets triggered because my fiance and i had the audacity to even think about moving which she was informed of the very next day after we thought of it as a possibility and we came to her wanting to get her input. Only to be met with silent treatment and when asked whats wrong through text being met with drunken insults and words and cursing then on the other hand using god and christianity as a crutch as well as saying we won’t be blessed and we’ll reap what we sowed…. The lease is up in 6 months which we thought was more than enough time to tell her…

I was in a relationship with this guy from my church. During our relationship as he got to know me more he realized that I wasn't his ideal of a perfect christian woman. He would often make comments about how he thought that I wasn't trying hard enough following God or to fit his type. It made me feel like I wasn't good enough when I really was trying. He would often say "what if it's god's will" but it often felt like it was because he wanted to and not actually god's will.

Your prayer was so powerful for me! The Holy Spirit prayed through you in English words that so eloquently and aptly spoke to my soul and Spirit! You hear our Heavenly Father, our Savior Jesus Christ and our Holy Spirit, so well! May He, continually, bless you for speaking the TRUTH in a way we can understand, with examples, and be SET FREE!!!!!!! I was sobbing! You read my mind and my heart. He gave you those words to pray… thank you, so much!!!

I was spiritually, physically, verbally, financially, emotionally and mentally abused by my fake best friend for years! I asked Jesus to reveal the TRUTH to me about her on Resurrection Sunday. 3 days later, I ended it. The 7 demons she has are lying, envy/jealousy, chaos/confusion, condemnation, fear, cruelty/pain, and pride! I commanded all of these demons to leave me in the name of Jesus Christ and by His shed blood! I ended the fake friendship on April 3rd! I’ve been healing, ever since. I was living in HELL. SHE WAS SLOWLY DRAINING THE LIFE OUT OF ME! I have my relationship with Jesus, again! I’m praying for real friends and a true group of believers for a church!

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Does anyone here find that after years spent with a narcissist partner and/or parent who constantly blamed and shamed you, you find it difficult to accept accountability yourself and even become defensive when confronted or challenged? I found that when certain people confronted me in an unhealthy way I would become defensive and in some cases denied accountability. These people were my mother, oldest friend and ex girlfriend who I discovered to be heavily narcissistic when I was in my early forties. I never knew what narcissism was but I have always been hyperaware and good at spotting patterns, and I had noticed numerous traits and patterns with them over the years, especially my old friend and mother’s traits that the were most definable and infuriating behaviours. My mother would regularly deny having previously said or done something as recently as the day before. I was regularly told how I’d got it wrong and I was so frustrated that at age 11 I was saving up to buy a dictaphone. What kind of 11 year old saves for a dictaphone?! My friend had a knack of doing things on your behalf without authorisation and even after you refused. This was his controlling side that upset people quite often who would go to confront him and he would instinctively flip the criticism or calling out back onto the person he’d upset, or he’d try to distract them by throwing in a random observation about the person calling him out. He could do this with lightening speed and it was clear that it was so well tried and tested that he could turn it around and deflect blame as fast as a tennis player returning their opponent’s serve. After I became wise to what he was doing I became better at spotting it and returning his ball, and before long got to the point where I could return 50 or 100 of his return serves and he recently started to go into rage and victim mode and would accuse me of trying to attack him, humiliate or embarrass him and he would act so outraged and insist on leaving the room to calm down. This actually worked for the first couple of times until I realised that not only was my original complaint ignored and denied, but I couldn’t even remember what it was, and no one who was present during this argument had any idea what exactly he was accusing me of because he was vague and used no examples. He achieved his goal and sidestepped accountability. Now when it was him confronting me for something I noticed that it always came out of left field and was totally unexpected and he would act like it was massively urgent and disastrous and this would create instant anxiety in me and a sense of panic. This would trigger my fight flight mode before I’d even had a chance to process anything he’d said, but so often he was making an issue out of something completely banal like being a few minutes late. I can admit to being a poor timekeeper with poor time perception, but when he would ambush me like that he would also exaggerate the times and I’d become even more confused about how late I may have been. I later learnt that it was his form of gaslighting and it forced me to set a timer when I was around him and set my mobile phone to track where I’d been so that I had proof, and often he’d get around my evidence by changing the narrative and saying we’d agreed a different time to meet etc and I’d got my timer set to the wrong time or duration, it was a downgrade from his initial accusation that I purposely made him wait for something to my not understanding him and being very mistaken. This downgrade from deliberate act to human error was a clever was of drawing attention away from his initial false accusation. I’m kind of sick of it and have recently decided to distance myself away from him. I’d been doing something similar with my mother for at least 20 years, but she would still sometimes overreact loudly and frantically in response to small things and I would feel myself being guided towards defensiveness and if I was quick enough to catch it in time I would close my eyes and take long breaths to ensure I responded calmly. If I called her out for catastrophising she would hit back by saying “It’s only because you always do……..” or “you never……”. It’s taken me 20+ years to get to the stage where I can see the manipulation in realtime and now 10 hours later when the moment is gone. When I react calmly she seems to wind it down and resolve the dispute very quickly as if nothing happened. Or she would change tactic and start saying “I’m really worried about you……” I didn’t plan to write an essay but since I often see videos like this which discuss some trait that narcissists use to control and manipulate others and realise that I’ve acted out one of the traits listed, not to distort or manipulate but to defend some type of aggressive or devaluing behaviour, and it makes me stop and question if I’m a narcissist or if I have inherited a couple of traits from my mother after being around it for half my life. I notice that other people I know and work with don’t react the way mum and my friend did and I don’t feel anxious or defensive and can be calm and objective and take responsibility for my wrong doing if necessary. For years I felt that any complaint I received was a form of rejection and this could also make me anxious and defensive and attempt to shift blame but it also meant that I was a people pleaser and suffered greatly with a guilt complex and perfectionism, but as I got older I could see the difference in behavioural style and I became less in need of their validation but the ones who could still have such an effect on me were the ones who’d been around most if not all of my life and I naturally looked up to and trusted. Is any of this familiar?

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I jumped out of my chair when you said go to counseling with her. 6 months of no contact is all the counseling I need. Funny when you said that. I got a run instinct😂. I know what you meant. I took it as an emergency evacuation drill😂

Thank You Sister

In my case it’s my son. This video sounds exactly like him. I’m sorry to say I had to go no contact with him. He has done everything in the book to try and win at life against me when there’s no contest. I pray that he will take the necessary steps to get counseling but you know he will never admit to doing anything wrong.

Yes, I need help with this! 2 years ago I got hit so badly. I need help

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Mine has dug in her heels (flats, actually)…never, no, never apologize.

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I need to listen to your podcast

I call them conniving jerks.

I'd rather be alone than with have a roommate

Ok, so how does one do this when they are physically dependent on a substance? Just slowly? Such as vaping?

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Amen! Amen & Amen!!

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It's my mother. Over the last 8 months I was led to learn that she's a narcissist and I'm her only victim. I've felt it in my soul for 25 years. Even though she's elderly, I finally went no contact a few weeks ago. I had a shift in my feelings. I'm just not going to subject myself to her emotional abuse any more. Additionally, since my daughter moved away 12 years ago, I've wanted to move to where she is. My aging parents kept me here. But no more. I feel like God has given me the freedom to move. But I always feel so insecure. There are so many obstacles. But looking back, I can see how God brought me here step by step. I really think God is guiding me to move. I keep moving forward with my plans to move. I have faith that God will clear the way and make it possible. But I need reassurance I'm doing what God has planned for me. I still have a sliver of doubt. And I hate that. Does anyone have words of wisdom?