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Or you could just be normal and not do this weird crap ..

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The biggest problem is that religious people tend to have more kids. Atheists need to step up.

Speak on something you are ignorant on. Good job. God doesn’t shame us. If you’re going to speak on something how about you be well informed. Read the Bible through and through with full context not cherry picking single verses and then you can speak on this otherwise you just look bad when confronted by someone that actually knows the Bible. If you don’t believe that’s fine, you’ve heard of Jesus and he died for your sins, repent and believe in him and you will have eternal salvation. If you still decide to not believe that’s on you but you don’t have to go crapping on those of us that do. Be a better person.

@@Droidman1231 Where is the shame? 👀 I don’t see her

@@smallfeet1345 I think it is ignorant to dismiss the situation at hand that many christians do believe sexuality to be sinful or as something to be ashamed about. And frankly, I find it to be unemphatic. Clearly, a lot of people are suffering because of this and a lot have left their church because of it. I have seen such people, both the former and the latter. There is actually a Joe Rogan podcast where Matt Walsh talks about the sinful nature of sexual proclivities, especially in regards to homosexuality. So don't give people shit when they are actually calling it out; it is a form of speaking the truth, while your hurt ego is looking for self-delusion. To have faith, to believe, means to act according to these beliefs, no matter whether they are true or not. Therefore, I cannot understand the mental disconnect in "oh that's just people who think so, but this is actually not god".

@@grace_and_purity Never have seen religious folks and preachers shaming sexuality? Really? Thou shallst not lie.

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@@blizbiggy User discretion is key, some couples do it differently and some couples feel like they need to be super careful. We tend to air on the side of caution.

@@cardboardcapeii4286 I got married last year at the age of 21, Engaged at 20 💕

@@grace_and_purity congratulations! When did you start dating?

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@@myshxt blessings 💕

There is a reason that the majority of affairs happen with someone the betrayed spouse knows. Unless it’s coworkers ( because you spend 8 hours a day with them and then go home and have dinner with your husband. ) 🤷‍♀️ Biologically we are wired to become more and more intimate with the person we spend the most time with so make sure that’s your husband babes

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Part of the reason this video is not sitting at 200 views is because of the title and thumbnail. All part of my plan to get monetized (hopefully) 😂

This was wonderful to read ❤❤❤❤😂

@@grace_and_purity lol I'm glad you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed venting about it. And thanks for what you're doing on CZcams, keep up the great work!

Engaged at 20 and married at 21 🎉 Ethan is only six months older than me. I said 19 but actually I had turned 20 by our engagement. We started dating right after I turned 19. Regarding point #9 on sexual stuff, we both hold ourselves to a high standard there.

Imagine being this close minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Like oh no, a committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't still communicate with her exes?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

Should the man make big purchases without his wife's permission, or get fit and show off his body to random women online or hang out with his female friends without his wife there? all it takes is a minute of critical thinking and you would have realized that these boundaries are extremely reasonable if you flipped the script, and therefore reasonable for her too. You might need to visit a psychologist though if you are afraid of this. Do you hear voices and are the voices here in the room with you now? lol

@@SG-qm7to Drivel. Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

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This is exactly what marriage is about. The coming together of two people and the man being the protector. Realize women need protection from themselves too.

@@ThePestilentDefiler oh please, that’s not what protecting means. Controlling a woman and telling her what to wear is not protecting a woman!! That’s ridiculous. Men are supposed to be protectors and providers not control a woman’s every move. This girl is clearly a puppet on a string and people love to hide behind religion to abuse woman!

Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

He is not controlling whatsoever. You have clearly never been held accountable in your life. You will have a harsh wake-up call later in life. If you want to confirm if he is controlling or not, let's flip the script and see if they hold. Example, your man should not be hanging out with female friends alone, getting in shape and showing off his body to random women online, forcing you to sleep on the couch when he's mad at you, and definitely not ghosting you for weeks until you break the silence. See how quickly these standards make perfect sense?

@@AlexPerazaTV hey woah hold up. How dare you flip the script? How dare you point out hypocrisy? Double standards only work if we don't point them out and get to keep benefitting from them!

I encourage you to view my video prior to this! 🥰

Imagine being this close minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Like oh no, a committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't still communicate with her exes?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

These are all very reasonable boundaries. Just pretend it was the other way around. A man shouldn't talk with his female friends alone, make big purchases without his wife knowledge and give his wife the silent treatment for weeks if he doesn't get what he wants. Suddenly, these rules seem very reasonable and intelligent right? They work both ways.

@@Kellyannejones Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@@TheSpaniard​​⁠I know this might be hard for you to hear but believe it or not. I struck a nerve for you. There’s a fine line between boundaries and controlling. If she didn’t conform what do you think he would do? Divorce or invoke mental and emotional abuse……and most dangerous relationships are diluted which is why women have so many excuses and defend his terrible behavior because his mommy did a bad job raising him.

You do you 💓

you should definitely stop. it's extremely toxic and degrading for your partner because you are quite literally shutting them down entirely and saying that their entire being is worthless to you unless they agree with you and break the silence first in total submission.

"Doesnt let me" means that if you dont willingly abide to the boundaries you arent welcome in the relationship any longer. If more relationships had ground rules or at least adaptive rules that surface at the face of an issue (especially for new couples learning eachother) then there would be a lot less divorces. The man is the protector, and to remove senses of danger from his girlfriend or wife's life is his duty.

I dont think there was team workshop and brainstorming for all of these. He sets his rule, she abides or leaves. He should keep it consistent and not blindside with new rules however then it may feel entrapping, unless there is a new big problem that surfaces that was unforseen.

@@rockyboimedia right because the term “he doesn’t let me” sometimes leads to the partner being isolated and having no contact with friends or family. But she’s got a good head on her shoulders. I’m sure she would leave if she really needed to

You grew up with a weak father figure then. These are all very reasonable boundaries. Just pretend it was the other way around. A man shouldn't talk with his female friends alone, make big purchases without his wife knowledge and give his wife the silent treatment for weeks if he doesn't get what he wants. Suddenly, these rules seem very reasonable and intelligent right? They work both ways.

@@AlexPerazaTV No they don’t suddenly sound reasonable (with the exception of the silent treatment one - that’s obvious). It’s 2024 not 1850. People have their own agency whether in or outside of a relationship. Relationships are about trust not rules. You should be able to trust your significant other to have friends of another gender. You also shouldn’t care how it makes you look. You should be able to trust your significant other to make purchases, and likewise they should also be free to have their own interests, enjoyments, and hobbies without needing permission to do so!

@@JoelWende you should be able to trust your husband going out with his hot young female friends without you there. nothing is going to happen if he has a few drinks with single ladies without his wife right? You shouldn't care how it makes you look. That would be "controlling" of course. You should be able to trust your husband to buy all sorts of things without telling you anything, like a new dinner table his friend was selling (the example she used in the video) for $300, a great deal, that you actually don't need. He should be able to have his own interests such as going drinking with his single friends on Saturday night, exploring different cities without you, having trips to vegas to gamble thousands on his own, visiting the museum with a cute female friend, attending tantric yoga classes all alone, and buying an upgraded convertible mustang, because why not right? Theres no such thing as "simple boundaries", anything that impedes his freedom is "abusive" of course!

@@AlexPerazaTV The answer to all of that is, yes, you should. You can try and flip this around on me or on other genders all you like mate, but yes…you should be able to trust your significant other to do all of those things. And with that trust comes the ability to communicate why and how you are doing those things. Right now you’re a walking red flag dude!

@@JoelWende you are a man. now it makes sense. ask any WOMEN if she is ok with a man doing the above, i dare you. She will laugh in your face.

Balance is key for relationships! ❤